Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

By Katie Kurtz and Allie West

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Episodes: 71

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If you’re done living for approval and everyone else’s needs, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Self Centered is about reclaiming your relationship with yourself as your home base, so your thoughts, choices, and relationships flow from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead of guilt, fear, or external validation.

Our mission is simple: to help you return to yourself and challenge the culture that taught you to abandon who you are. Together, we uncover what pulls you away from your center, so you can live in alignment with your values and co-create a world where being well and centered isn’t seen as selfish.

Hosts Allie and Katie have lived the burnout, the guilt, and the people-pleasing. Now, they share real stories and practical insights to model how to come home to yourself, reclaim your power, and build relationships rooted in interdependence, not codependence.

This isn’t therapy. It’s real conversation and lived experience that reveal the patterns shaping how you show up, set boundaries, and connect, both with yourself and with others.

Welcome to the movement! Let’s find your center and stay there, together.

© 2024–2026 Self Centered™. All rights reserved.


Episode Date
71. Why We're Taking a Break from the Pod (Building a Life We Can Hold)
Jun 09, 2026
70. Love is Blind Part 7 (Final Episode): Why Chemistry isn't Enough for a Healthy Relationship
May 26, 2026
69. Love is Blind Part 6: Avoidant Attachment, “Fixing” Partners, and When Love Isn’t Enough
May 12, 2026
68. Love is Blind Part 5: Confused, Avoidant, and Still Engaged
Apr 28, 2026
67. Love is Blind Part 4: Couples Retreat Chaos
Apr 14, 2026
66. Love is Blind Part 3: Coupling Up and Closing the Pods
Mar 31, 2026
65. Love Is Blind Part 2: A Codependency Triangle
Mar 17, 2026
64. Love is Blind - The Self Centered Way Part 1
Mar 03, 2026
63. Tools to Cope, Part 2: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti
Feb 17, 2026
62. Naming What We're Feeling Part 1: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti
Feb 03, 2026
61. Centered or Not: Before He Cheats vs Flowers - What Breakup Anthems Teach Us About Reclaiming Power
Jan 27, 2026
60. You Are Not Your Mistakes: How to Let Go of the Guilt and Move On
Jan 20, 2026
59. "Why do I feel guilty when I’m not productive?": The Belief Shifts That Offered Me Peace
Jan 13, 2026
58. Why Estrangement Reconciliation Fails Without Emotional Maturity
Jan 06, 2026
57. Why Adult Children Go No Contact: They Do Care, They Just Can’t Keep Getting Hurt
Dec 30, 2025
56. A Trauma-Informed Response to the NYT and Mel Robbins on Family Estrangement and No Contact
Dec 23, 2025
55. Oprah’s “Rising Trend of Going No Contact”: Why It’s Not a Trend, It’s a Cultural Shift
Dec 16, 2025
54. Centering Myself Brought Me the Right People: Healing Self-Abandonment and Finding Belonging
Dec 09, 2025
53. One Year In: Our Mission is Bigger than Mental Health
Dec 02, 2025
52. What My First Date in Months Showed Me About Beliefs I Didn’t Know I Still Had
Nov 25, 2025
51. It’s Not Just You; The World Around You is Codependent, Too
Nov 18, 2025
50. The Subconscious Codependent Habits That Keep You From Real Connection
Nov 11, 2025
49. How to Break Codependent Patterns and Come Home to Yourself
Nov 04, 2025
48. Codependence 101: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships
Oct 28, 2025
47. Outgrowing the Grind: How I Learned to Choose Alignment Over Hustle Culture
Oct 21, 2025
46. Discovering My Sexuality: What I Learned When I Finally Stopped Assuming I Was Straight
Oct 14, 2025
45. Feeling Good Isn’t a Reward, It’s the Fuel for a Centered Life
Oct 07, 2025
44. The Loop of Avoidance: Why You Can’t Live a Centered Life While Running from Discomfort
Sep 30, 2025
43. Paul Johnson, Simone Biles, and the Spectrum of Self Centered Fitness
Sep 23, 2025
42. The Drama Triangle Explained: Stop Doubting Yourself and Start Standing in Your Power
Sep 16, 2025
41. How Cancel Culture Keeps People Who Cause Harm from Changing Their Ways, and What ACTUALLY Helps
Sep 09, 2025
40. How Society Shapes Your Boundaries
Sep 02, 2025
39. Exercise and Mental Health: How Fitness Can Heal or Harm Your Mind
Aug 26, 2025
38. Are Your Boundaries Too Strong for Your Own Good?
Aug 19, 2025
37. The Real Story of Staying Centered Through Change, Setbacks, and Growth
Aug 12, 2025
36. Reclaiming Your Wellness in Every Dimension of Your Life
Aug 05, 2025
35. How to Know Who You Can Trust (and Who You Can’t)
Jul 29, 2025
34. Overcoming Tech Addiction to Come Back to Your Center
Jul 22, 2025
33. Speak Up or Let It Go? How to Know When It’s Worth Your Energy
Jul 15, 2025
32. Communication Styles 101: Stop Beating Around the Bush!
Jul 08, 2025
31. Life Got Better, But You’re Still in Survival Mode? Here’s How to Own Your Next Chapter.
Jul 01, 2025
30. The CENTERED Framework: 8 Self-Leadership Abilities You Need to Reconnect with Who You Truly Are
Jun 24, 2025
29. Gaslighting 101: When Reality Feels Twisted (and What to Do About It)
Jun 17, 2025
28. How Defense Mechanisms Show Up in Relationships (and Leave Everyone Feeling Misunderstood)
Jun 10, 2025
27. “Wait, Is It Me or Their Ego?”
Jun 03, 2025
26. Life After the Breakup: Rebuilding When You’re Still Not Okay
May 27, 2025
25. "Unlovable": The Hidden Belief Driving Perfectionism & People Pleasing
May 20, 2025
24. Are Your Priorities Actually Yours? How to Align with Your True Values
May 13, 2025
23. How to Make Friends as a Grown Ass Adult (Without Feeling Weird About It)
May 06, 2025
22. The Traits and Skills you Need to Build Authentic, Lasting Relationships
Apr 29, 2025
21. Confidence is Built, Not Born: How to Take Action Even When You're Scared
Apr 22, 2025
20. Real Self-Esteem vs. ‘Other-Esteem’: How to Build Unshakable Self-Worth
Apr 15, 2025
19. Feeling Defensive? Tame the Shame Around Feedback
Apr 08, 2025
18. Speaking Your Truth vs Shaming Others
Apr 01, 2025
17. You’re Not Crazy: Dismantling the Stigma Around Emotions and "Mental Illness"
Mar 25, 2025
16: Do You Need a Therapist or a Coach? Understanding the Key Differences
Mar 18, 2025
15: Beyond the Couch: What Therapy Is (and Isn’t) and Debunking the Myths
Mar 11, 2025
14. When They Say, "You've Changed": Standing Your Ground in Relationships
Mar 04, 2025
13. The Difference Between Guilt and Shame, and How to Handle Both
Feb 25, 2025
12. How to Keep Yourself from Spiraling When Everything Feels Out of Control
Feb 18, 2025
11. "If It Isn't Love, It Isn't For You" - How VERB LOVE Can Transform Your Relationships and Help You Distinguish Between Love as a "Signal" vs Love as "Noise"
Feb 11, 2025
10. Anger: How to Feel, Communicate, and Respond to it
Feb 04, 2025
9. Instagram vs Reality; How Does the Journey to Becoming Self Centered ACTUALLY Look in Practice?
Jan 28, 2025
8. Surviving a Smear Campaign: How to Have Positive Self-Esteem, Even When People Judge You
Jan 21, 2025
7. Deathbed Regrets: How Living an Authentic and Aligned Life Helps You Reclaim Your Power and Maximize Happiness.
Jan 14, 2025
6. How to Set and Keep BOUNDARIES, Especially with People Who Don't Respect Them
Jan 07, 2025
5. New Year Resolutions That Stick: How to create meaningful goals that last beyond January
Dec 30, 2024
4. From Surviving to Thriving: How to Create an Authentic Life that Centers You
Dec 23, 2024
3. Limiting Beliefs to Being Self-Centered
Dec 17, 2024
2. How to Stop Overextending Yourself by "Staying in Your Seat"
Dec 10, 2024
1. Getting to Know "Self Centered"
Dec 03, 2024