The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
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Episodes: 137
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Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected.
If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner…
If you’re attaching out of fear, not love…
Your relationship is running on survival mode. (I’ve been there - and it can change.) 🤍
I’m Jula: an anxious attachment coach + certified life coach.
In just 6 months, I became a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤
Now I help you stop overthinking every text and feel safe, even when your partner pulls away.
If you’re tired of the doubt, panic, and never feeling enough: this is for you.
Let’s get you into your Secure Era. 🖤
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135: Your avoidant partner doesn’t prioritise you…UNLESS you do THIS.
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May 26, 2026 |
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134: 5 signs you’re in a toxic cycle with a dismissive avoidant partner (and how to break it)
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May 19, 2026 |
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133: How to break the anxious avoidant cycle (without chasing HIM))
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May 12, 2026 |
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132: NEVER say this to an avoidant partner if you have anxious attachment (it will trigger him into shutdown))
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May 05, 2026 |
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131: Hills I will DIE on as someone who healed their anxious attachment…and become secure
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Apr 28, 2026 |
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130: you think your AVOIDANT is pulling away… but these 5 signs say he’s trying
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Apr 21, 2026 |
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129: *3 signs* your avoidant partner is becoming SECURE (even if they still pull away)
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Apr 14, 2026 |
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128: the UGLY truth why you attract avoidant people, men, friends (they mirror you!)
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Apr 07, 2026 |
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127: 4 STEPS: how to detach from a relationship, dismissive AVOIDANT partner from emotions, outcomes!
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Mar 31, 2026 |
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126: why do I keep being 🧲 🚩ATTRACTED to avoidant and EMOTIONALLY unavailable men
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Mar 24, 2026 |
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125: Why Am I Still Anxious in My Relationship? Old vs New Attachment Theory Explained
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Mar 17, 2026 |
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124: Are all secure men gone? "there are no secure, emotionally available men" proven WRONG
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Mar 10, 2026 |
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123: 3 ways you’re accidentally keeping the Anxious–Avoidant cycle alive (And How to Break It)
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Mar 03, 2026 |
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122: *5 Things* to stop your anxious attachment (WITHOUT changing him)
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Feb 24, 2026 |
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121: Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Trap (why he pulls away when you get close)
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Feb 17, 2026 |
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120: *7 ways* How to THRIVE with an avoidant man & make your partner OBSESSED with you
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Feb 10, 2026 |
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119: Avoidant attachment or 🚩Narcissist? 7 OBVIOUS signs how to tell them apart
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Feb 03, 2026 |
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118: Brooklyn Beckham & wife 🚩 Nicola Peltz EXPLAINED now (attachment styles, narcissism, cutting off Family)
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Jan 24, 2026 |
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117: *26 Practical things* to heal anxious attachment & become securely attached (in 2026)
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Jan 20, 2026 |
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116: *36 Life Lessons* Part 2 about becoming securely attached, love, relationships YOU'll need to know
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Jan 13, 2026 |
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115: *36 Life Lessons* about love, relationships Attachment
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Jan 08, 2026 |
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114: Why affirmations can make you MORE anxious or simply don't work (for love, relationships, secure attachment))
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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113: YOUR trust issues will make HIM break your trust (Anxious-Avoidant Trust Cycle)
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Jan 01, 2026 |
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112: Why isn't my partner saying 🗣️💖 I love you MORE (back or first) (7 truths you're missing)
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Dec 30, 2025 |
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111:*10 truths* about men I wish I KNEW SOONER when I was insecure (part 2)
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Dec 25, 2025 |
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110: 10 Crucial lessons👨🏻💼 I wish I Knew about men in my 20s about MEN (avoid my own mistakes)
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Dec 22, 2025 |
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109: *10 TRUTHS* That Make Someone Chase You (and stop obsessing over them)
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Dec 18, 2025 |
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108: Pep talk💓🫂 feeling too sensitive, too emotional or too anxious?
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Dec 16, 2025 |
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107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)
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Dec 11, 2025 |
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106: how to DETACH from someone you love, loved ⛓️💥🖤 (validation + outcomes) RE-MIX
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Dec 09, 2025 |
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105: MAIN character energy 👸🏻👀for anxious attachment: 12 steps to feeling secure in 2026
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Dec 04, 2025 |
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104: Put yourself FIRST this Christmas 🎄🎀 how DE-CENTERING your partner can actually bring you closer
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Dec 02, 2025 |
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103: 7 things i’d NEVER do again if i DATED now as a secure woman 🍷💐 (what to do instead)
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Nov 27, 2025 |
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102: the REAL cost of anxious attachment (listen before it’s too late) — what you don’t get back even if you become secure
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Nov 25, 2025 |
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101: What does a Secure person do 🧘🏼♀️ when an Avoidant Pulls away
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Nov 20, 2025 |
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100: Here are 5 WINNING skills my clients used to→ become securely attached FASTER than they thought possible.
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Nov 18, 2025 |
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99: *3 avoidant* core wounds you NEED to know why he shut downs (it's not personal)
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Nov 13, 2025 |
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98: *3 hidden* anxious attachment wounds ❤️🩹 WHY they keep YOU anxious
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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97: *5 surprising* things my 😯 Avoidant Partner taught me about love, life and anxiety
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Nov 06, 2025 |
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96: Q+A From anxious to SECURE: My attachment healing journey (before & after)
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Nov 04, 2025 |
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95: 6 feminine 🎀༘ MICRO habits to heal your Anxious Attachment style PART 02
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Oct 30, 2025 |
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94: 6 tiny feminine 🎀༘ MICRO habits to heal your Anxious Attachment style PART 01
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Oct 28, 2025 |
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93: 🔎 5 dating questions to spot the avoidant (or secure one) EARLY on
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Oct 23, 2025 |
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92: Too much ❤️🔥 masculine energy? how it triggers your ANXIOUS attachment and heal
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Oct 21, 2025 |
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91: Do avoidants come back after space + breakup?🥺 How to AVOID another Push-Pull Cycle
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Oct 16, 2025 |
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90: From inner CRITIC 😈 to Bestie: how to create REAL emotional Safety
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Oct 14, 2025 |
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89: How to date without anxiously ATTACHING too FAST (4 Stages of Dating)
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Oct 09, 2025 |
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88: What happens when the AVOIDANT realizes they’ve LOST you? Understanding Dismissive Avoidants
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Oct 07, 2025 |
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87: how to spot emotionally UNAVAILABLE men🕵🏻♀️🚩10 CLEAR Signs
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Oct 02, 2025 |
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86: dismissive AVOIDANT ❤️🩹 emotionally UNavailable, or just NOT that into you?
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Sep 30, 2025 |
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85: Do I Have an Anxious Attachment Style? Free Attachment Style QUIZ
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Sep 25, 2025 |
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84: Gilmore Girls Attachment Styles EXPLAINED *Part 02 (Rory, Dean, Jess, Tristan, Logan)
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Sep 23, 2025 |
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83: Gilmore Girls Attachment Styles REVEALED Part 01 (Lorelai, Luke, Emily, Richard..)
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Sep 19, 2025 |
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82: "Unknown Number" Netflix Doc EXPLAINED When a Parent Becomes a Predator - Narcissism, Abuse & Trauma
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Sep 16, 2025 |
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81: "It only takes 8 seconds" 📱 WHY isn't He replying? (THIS will soothe your relationship anxiety)
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Sep 11, 2025 |
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80: 5 things I would NEVER do as a SECURE Partner (lessons for healing anxious attachment)
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Sep 09, 2025 |
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79: VISUALISATION: From Anxious to Secure Attachment in Your Sleep (rewire your brain to overcome anxiety)
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Sep 04, 2025 |
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78: PRACTICE: The 3 Shift Anxious to Secure Attachment- Embodiment Practice
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Sep 02, 2025 |
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77: (5 hidden) LIES driving your relationship anxiety (Part 02) Cognitive Distortions
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Aug 28, 2025 |
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76: *5 Stages* How to Heal & Rewire After a BREAKUP (when you have an Anxious Attachment)
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Aug 26, 2025 |
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75: *6 LIES* your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing)
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Aug 21, 2025 |
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74: "Dear AVOIDANT Attachment" -If Anxious Attachment Could Speak - 5 Things They’d Say
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Aug 19, 2025 |
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73: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Avoidant Person (Even When You Swear You’re DONE)
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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72: Dejon and Megan: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap on Love Island - Explained by a Relationship Coach
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Aug 12, 2025 |
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71."Dear ANXIOUS Attachment" - If Avoidant Attachment Could Speak - Things They’d Say to you
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Aug 07, 2025 |
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70: How to Emotionally Detach from Your Ex (Girlfriend / Boyfriend / Partner) in 10 Steps to stop your world from collapsing
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Aug 05, 2025 |
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69: Why Breakups Hurt So Much When You Have an Anxious Attachment Style (and your Avoidant Partner left you)
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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68: How to Lose an Avoidant Guy in 7 Steps (Your Perfect Recipe for Breakup)
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Jul 29, 2025 |
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67: Anxious Attachment: “I never feel like a priority in my relationship” DO THIS
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Jul 24, 2025 |
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66: Why am I Anxious in my relationship + Dysregulated EVEN though I’ve Done the Work?
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Jul 22, 2025 |
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65: (5 sneaky) phrases I BANNED from my vocabulary while healing my anxious ATTACHMENT and becoming SECURELY attached
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Jul 17, 2025 |
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64: How to Process Emotions in a Healthy Way (In Just 90 Seconds) ✨ Stop Letting Anxiety Control Your Relationship
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Jul 15, 2025 |
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63: The Body Keeps the Score Summary + Anxious Attachment: Healing Your Nervous System
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Jul 10, 2025 |
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62: Q+A Series 3: Can anxious and avoidant relationships work? How to break the anxious avoidant cycle
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Jul 09, 2025 |
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61:Q+A Series: How I healed my Anxious attachment & Why its Easier than you think Part 02
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Jul 03, 2025 |
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60: Q+A Series: How attachment theory changed my relationship + life: From breakdown to Breakthrough Part 01
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Jul 01, 2025 |
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59: the ONE thing you're doing WRONG if you have an anxious attachment (and what works better with the avoidant partner)
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Jun 26, 2025 |
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58: Anxious Attachment Q+A: How to Stop Overthinking and Ruining a Good Relationship - 4 Steps
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Jun 24, 2025 |
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57: How to soothe your ANXIETY with 💛✨the 3 Course DOPAMINE Menu (30+ ideas))
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Jun 19, 2025 |
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56. (15 STEPS) How to Fix an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - the pyramid method
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Jun 17, 2025 |
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55: You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship...You want THIS:
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Jun 12, 2025 |
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54: Listen BEFORE you BREAK UP with Your Avoidant Partner - 5 Reasons You Can’t Find a Secure Partner
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Jun 10, 2025 |
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53: (10 Hidden) Signs of Anxious Attachment at WORK 👩🏻💻(and How to Be More Secure at Work)
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Jun 05, 2025 |
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52: Avoidants DON'T Need Space... Here's What They ACTUALLY Need (This Changes Your Relationship)
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Jun 03, 2025 |
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51: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide⚡How to Manifest FAST (it's not about the method) Part 2
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May 30, 2025 |
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50: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide:🔮How to *actually* MANIFEST healthy, secure LOVE & stop attracting emotionally unavailable partner
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May 28, 2025 |
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49: Why is my Avoidant Partner SO DEFENSIVE? 🛡 Gottman Warns: this can END Relationships
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May 22, 2025 |
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48: ✨ 10 Things I Wish I KNEW in My 20s about relationships, love, mindset, anxiety, dating (BEFORE healing my Anxious attachment)
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May 20, 2025 |
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47: How to use CHATGPT 🤖❤️🩹 as THERAPIST for healing your ANXIOUS attachment with prompts
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May 15, 2025 |
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46: How to HEAL Your 💗 Feminine Energy + Anxious Attachment in Your Relationships (5 STEPS)
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May 13, 2025 |
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45: Do THIS When he Doesn't REPLY to Your Text - Anxious to Secure Attachment GUIDE
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May 08, 2025 |
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44: 10 ways to DECENTER men in relationships in 2025 (to Stop Chasing Male Validation and Choose YOU)
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May 06, 2025 |
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43: 10 Things I would NOT Do Anymore as the Secure, Best Version of Myself (Signs of a Secure Attachment Style)
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Apr 24, 2025 |
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42: How to stop NEEDING constant reassurance (how to feel certain from within)
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Apr 22, 2025 |
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41: GUIDE How to feel CHOSEN seen and valued in your Anxious Avoidant Relationship
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Apr 17, 2025 |
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40: 4 STEPS: How to Break the Anxious-Avoidant Trap 🔄❤️🩹
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Apr 15, 2025 |
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39: 🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How do you know if an Avoidant likes You?
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Apr 10, 2025 |
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38: 5 ways to 👩🏻🍼 STOP MOTHERING Your MAN: Your Anxious Attachment kills attraction
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Apr 08, 2025 |
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37: How to feel 🤍 CONNECTED with your Avoidant Partner (Without Feeling Clingy) in Your Anxious Avoidant Relationship
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Apr 07, 2025 |
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36: 10 Micro Habits to DETACH from YOUR need for APPROVAL to stop the endless chase of validation
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Apr 01, 2025 |
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35: (7 Ways) How to make HIM realise your WORTH + VALUE YOU again
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Mar 27, 2025 |
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34: How to Stop ABANDONING Yourself in a Relationship in 4 Steps (& Heal Your Anxious Attachment)
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Mar 25, 2025 |
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33: Identifying Your 2 Unmet Needs: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage (PART 02)
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Mar 20, 2025 |
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32: Am I too needy? Healthy Needs vs. 🚩Unhealthy Needs: What's the Difference? (PART 01)
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Mar 18, 2025 |
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31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST
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Mar 13, 2025 |
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30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner
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Mar 10, 2025 |
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29: WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's VALIDATION: 7 Powerful Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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28: How to Stop Being JEALOUS & COMPARING Yourself (Social Media, His Ex, TV & More) Around Your AVOIDANT Partner
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Mar 05, 2025 |
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27: How to Heal your 🖤 Anxious Attachment style (FAST) - Part 2
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Feb 27, 2025 |
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26: Why Your Partner seems 'Too Busy' and doesn’t make time for YOU (What do to)
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Feb 25, 2025 |
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25: Is THERAPY really the best tool for Healing your Anxious Attachment Style?
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Feb 20, 2025 |
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24: Anxious Attachment and Long Distance Relationship Anxiety
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Feb 18, 2025 |
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23: How to Heal your 🖤 Anxious Attachment Style (FAST) Part 1
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Feb 13, 2025 |
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22: ❤️🔥 Valentines Day Anxiety? I've got you.
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Feb 11, 2025 |
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21: ONE tool that works for ALL Anxious Archetypes
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Feb 06, 2025 |
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20: 😳Anxious Attachment: Is it Love or Anxiety?
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Feb 04, 2025 |
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19: Anxious ARCHETYPE - Relationship Anxiety Tools 💕🛠 (Part 02)
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Jan 30, 2025 |
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18: Relationship Anxiety❤️🔥: The Problem with 'When You Know, You Know'
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Jan 28, 2025 |
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17. Which Anxious ARCHETYPE Are You? Your Relationship Survival Response (Part 01)
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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16: ⚖️ When Relationships with Your Avoidant Partner feels one sided 🥹
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Jan 21, 2025 |
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15: 👩🏻❤️👨🏻 Secure VS Insecure Attachment - How we React differently to triggers (Part 2)
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Jan 16, 2025 |
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14: Do My Parents REALLY Create My🤱Anxious Attachment Style?
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Jan 14, 2025 |
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13: Secure vs. Insecure Attachment–Your Attachment Guide (Part 1)
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Jan 09, 2025 |
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12: Does your Partner really "make you feel" anxious? 🧠✨
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Jan 04, 2025 |
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11: 10 Micro Relationship GOALS: How to Become 1% more Secure every day
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Jan 02, 2025 |
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10:🎙️"If I let go, I'll lose my partner" Relationship Myth
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Dec 31, 2024 |
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09: Why 90% Fail at Relationship Goals & How to Be the Top 10%
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Dec 27, 2024 |
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08:🎙🤍MYTH. Your partner is NOT Your parent. STOP thinking they are supposed to take care of your needs. ⛔️🥤
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Dec 24, 2024 |
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07:🎄🧘🏻♀️The ANXIOUS Relationship Guide You Need to THRIVE, Not Just Survive the Holidays
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Dec 19, 2024 |
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06:🎙️MYTH: "If My Partner REASSURE Me More, I’d Be Fine." 🚨 Why That’s Keeping You STUCK 💪🏽🧘🏽♀️
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Dec 17, 2024 |
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05-🫶🏻 When Your Partner INVALIDATES Your Feelings- My 4R Method to HEAL NOW 🥹
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Dec 12, 2024 |
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04-🎙️My Partner "SHOULD" Be My Emotional ROCK or Therapist (Relationship MYTH)
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Dec 10, 2024 |
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03- HELP! My Partner Is Pulling AWAY... Here’s EXACTLY What I did...to Re-CONNECT 🤍✨️
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Dec 05, 2024 |
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02-🎙🤍MYTH: Your ANXIETY has more to do with YOU than your partner; STOP blaming + Hyper focusing on them🕵♀️👀😨
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Dec 03, 2024 |
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01- 6 Signs You're ANXIOUS Attached (including FREE exercise)
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Dec 03, 2024 |
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00-The Anxious to Secure Podcast: ✨ Transforming My Anxious Attachment in 6 months ✨
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Nov 22, 2024 |
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