The Regulated Life
By Erica Carter-Folk
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Your body has been running a relationship pattern since before you could name it. This is where you finally learn what it is — and what to do about it.
Welcome to The Regulated Life, hosted by Dr. Erica Carter-Folk — transformational coach, NLP Master Trainer, and nervous system educator. This is the podcast for high-functioning adults who are done letting old survival patterns run their closest relationships.
This is where Relational Nervous System Science™ meets real-life healing.
Method Mondays (25–28 min): Deep-dive science on why your body reacts before your mind can choose something different — nervous system regulation, Sentry Archetypes™, attachment patterns, and what regulation actually looks like in real relationships.
RAW Regulation (8–10 min, Tues–Fri): Daily somatic tools you can use in real time. Not someday. Right now.
Season 2 starts now. Welcome to The Regulation Era™.
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S2E30: Why You Go Numb and Can't Remember What Was Said | Nervous System Shutdown Explained
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Jul 31, 2026 |
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S2E29: Why Silence From Someone You Love Feels Like an Emergency | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 30, 2026 |
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S2E28: Why You Say Yes While Your Body Screams No | Somatic Healing for People-Pleasing
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Jul 29, 2026 |
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S2E27: Why Your Jaw Clenches Before You Even Decide to Fight | Nervous System Regulation
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Jul 28, 2026 |
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S2E26: Why You Become a Different Person the Moment Safety Disappears | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 27, 2026 |
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S2E25: Why Distance Feels Like Danger | The Distancing Re-Alignment | RAW Regulation
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Jul 17, 2026 |
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S2E24: Why Silence Feels Like Abandonment | The Silent Gap Interception | RAW Regulation
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Jul 16, 2026 |
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S2E23: Why Feedback Feels Like an Attack | The Feedback Activation Recalibration | RAW Regulation
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Jul 15, 2026 |
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S2E22: Why You Spiral Over One Piece of Feedback | The Overreaction Override | RAW Regulation
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Jul 14, 2026 |
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S2E21: Why This Fight Feels Bigger Than It Should | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 13, 2026 |
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S2E20: Why Distance Sends You Into a Thought Spiral | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 10, 2026 |
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S2E19: Why Silence Feels Like an Emergency | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 09, 2026 |
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S2E18: Why Feedback Feels Like a Threat to Your Whole Identity | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 08, 2026 |
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S2E17:Why Tone Shifts Shut Down Your Logic | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jul 07, 2026 |
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S2E16: Why You Can't Think Clearly When Someone's Tone Changes | Nervous System
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Jul 06, 2026 |
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S2E15: Why You Can't Calm Down After a Hard Conversation | What Trauma and Relationships Have in Common
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Jul 03, 2026 |
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S2E14: Why You Go Quiet and Disappear From the People You Love | A Vagus Nerve Reset for Connection
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Jul 02, 2026 |
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S2E13: Why You Over-Explain the Moment Things Get Tense | Nervous System Regulation for Burnout and High Achievers
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Jul 01, 2026 |
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S2E12: Why You Can't Look Away Mid-Conflict | A Somatic Healing Reset for Your Eyes and Jaw
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Jun 30, 2026 |
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S2E11: Why You React Before You Even Know What Happened | The Nervous System Regulation Science of the First 3 Seconds
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Jun 29, 2026 |
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S2E10:Why Vagus Nerve Activation Matters More Than Strategy When Conflict Repeats | The Somatic Rupture and Recovery Matrix
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Jun 26, 2026 |
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S2E9:Why Trauma and Relationships Make Friendship Feel Riskier Than Staying Alone | The Cranial Nerve Social Engagement Sequence
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Jun 25, 2026 |
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S2E8:Why High Achiever Burnout Follows You Through Your Front Door | The Autonomic Transition Protocol
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Jun 24, 2026 |
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S2E7:Why Your Nervous System Regulation Breaks Down at Home After a Stressful Day | The Boardroom-to-Bedroom Mirror Audit
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Jun 23, 2026 |
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S2E6:Why Burnout at Work Turns Into Shutdown at Home | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jun 22, 2026 |
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S2E5: The Ventral Reset | How to Come Back Into Connection After Protection Mode
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Jun 19, 2026 |
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S2E4: The Static Melt | Coming Back Into Your Body When You've Gone Numb
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Jun 18, 2026 |
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S2E2: The Jaw Release | A Somatic Reset for The Armored and The Appeaser
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Jun 16, 2026 |
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S2E1: Why Your Body Keeps Repeating the Same Relationship Pattern | Relational Nervous System Science
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Jun 15, 2026 |
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Episode 74: RAW Regulation | The Repair After a 'No': How to Hold a Boundary Without Losing the Connection
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May 01, 2026 |
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Episode 73: RAW Regulation | The Throat Clearing: A Somatic Practice for When You Feel the 'No' Stuck in Your Chest
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Apr 30, 2026 |
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Episode 72: RAW Regulation|The 'Wait' Script: How to Pause a Request to Check Your Somatic Capacity
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Apr 29, 2026 |
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Episode 71: RAW Regulation|The Gut-Check: A 60-Second Somatic Tool to Tell the Difference Between Compliance and Consent
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Apr 28, 2026 |
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Episode 69: RAW Regulation|Here are the Friday RAW Regulation show notes: FRIDAY RAW REGULATION Episode Title: The Final Reset: A 60-Second Celebration of 12 Weeks of Work
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Apr 24, 2026 |
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Episode 68: RAW Regulation | The Legacy Breath: Anchoring Safety in Your Body and Your Relationships
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Apr 23, 2026 |
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Episode 67: RAW Regulation| The Cost of the Armor: What Protection Is Actually Costing You
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Apr 22, 2026 |
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Episode 66: RAW Regulation|The 10-Year Vision: What Does Regulated Actually Feel Like?
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Apr 21, 2026 |
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Episode 70: Deep Dive | Is 'No' a Wall or a Safety Signal? The Neuroscience of Boundaries as Biological Protection
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Apr 20, 2026 |
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Episode 65: The ROI of a Regulated Life: What Wealth, Health, and Loneliness Have in Common
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Apr 20, 2026 |
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Episode 64: RAW Regulation|Somatic Ownership: A 60-Second Tool to Pull the Projection Back
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Apr 17, 2026 |
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Episode 63: RAW Regulation|Shadow Management: Why the Unpredictable Is the Master of Projection
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Apr 16, 2026 |
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Episode 62: RAW Regulation|The Lazy Label: Are You Projecting Your Fear of Rest Onto the People You Love?
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Apr 15, 2026 |
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Episode 61: RAW Regulation|The Annoyance Audit: If It's Hysterical, It's Historical
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Apr 14, 2026 |
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Episode 60: Deep Dive|The Relational Mirror: Shadow Work and the Nervous System
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Apr 13, 2026 |
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Episode 56: RAW Regulation | Why Your "Executive Presence" Reads as Danger to the People You Love
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Apr 07, 2026 |
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Episode 55: Deep Dive | The Armor Paradox: Why the Habits That Built Your Career Are Dismantling Your Relationships
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Apr 06, 2026 |
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Episode 54: RAW Regulation | The Pattern Stops Here — Your Weekend Reset
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Apr 03, 2026 |
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Episode 53: RAW Regulation | Are You Teaching the People You Love to Fawn Just to Keep You Happy?
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Apr 02, 2026 |
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Episode 52: RAW Regulation | Being "Checked Out" Is Just as Loud as Yelling
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Apr 01, 2026 |
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Episode 51: RAW Regulation | Your Kids Don't Hear Your Words — They Download Your State
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Mar 31, 2026 |
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Episode 50: Deep Dive | Generational Regulation: How to Break the Red Zone Cycle Before It Becomes Their Blueprint
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Mar 30, 2026 |
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Episode 49: RAW Regulation | The Spiral Reset Audio: Your Re-Coding Tool
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Mar 27, 2026 |
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Episode 48: RAW Regulation | Temperature Shock: Breaking the Trauma Loop Instantly
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Mar 26, 2026 |
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Episode 47: RAW Regulation | The Wait 90 Seconds Protocol: Letting the Chemical Wave Pass
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Mar 25, 2026 |
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Episode 46: RAW Regulation | The Check-In Tool: Are You Seeking a Fight to Feel Something?
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Mar 24, 2026 |
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Episode 45: Regulated Life Deep Dive | Breaking the Addiction to Adrenaline
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Mar 23, 2026 |
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Episode 44: RAW Regulation | Co-Regulation: Why the Best Thing You Can Do Tonight Is Stop Trying
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Mar 20, 2026 |
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Episode 43: RAW Regulation | The 5-Minute Buffer Zone: The Most Important Transition of Your Day
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Mar 19, 2026 |
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Episode 42: RAW Regulation | Why What You Carry In Your Face Is Blocking Your Intimacy
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Mar 18, 2026 |
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Episode 41: RAW Regulation | The 30-Second Cortisol Brake You Already Own
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Mar 17, 2026 |
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Episode 39: Regulated Life Deep Dive |The Biology of the Brake: Why Your Body Says No When Your Brain Won't Quit
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Mar 16, 2026 |
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Episode 38 - RAW Regulation | The Spiral Reset Audio: Your 5-Minute Somatic First Aid Kit
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Mar 13, 2026 |
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Episode 37: RAW Regulation | The 5-4-3-2-1 Sensory Reset: Tell Your Immune System the Predator is Gone
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Mar 12, 2026 |
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Episode 36: RAW Regulation | The Butterfly Hug: Interrupt the Spiral Before It Speaks
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Mar 11, 2026 |
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Episode 35: RAW Regulation | The Voo Sound: Your Vagus Nerve's Reset Button
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Mar 10, 2026 |
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Episode 34: Why 'I'm Fine' is Killing Your Immune System
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Mar 09, 2026 |
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Episode 33: RAW Regulation | How to Use the Spiral Reset in Real Time
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Mar 06, 2026 |
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Episode 32: RAW Regulation | The Space Protocol
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Mar 05, 2026 |
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Episode 31: RAW Regulation | The "I'm Still Here" Signal"
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Mar 04, 2026 |
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Episode 30: RAW Regulation | The Self-Soothe 60 Seconds
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Mar 03, 2026 |
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Episode 29: The Regulated Life | Bunkers, Seekers, and the War for Safety
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Mar 02, 2026 |
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Episode 28: RAW Regulation | The Solo Reset: How to Come Down From a Red Zone Workday Before It Leaks Onto Your Evening
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Feb 27, 2026 |
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Episode 27: RAW Regulation | The "I Need 90 Seconds" Script
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Feb 26, 2026 |
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Episode 26: RAW Regulation | The 20-Minute Rule: The Science of Cortisol Clearance — and Why Most People Do Their Cooldown Wrong
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Feb 25, 2026 |
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Episode 25 - The Pulse Check: How to Identify Your Red Zone Before You Say Something You Can't Take Back | RAW Regulation
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Feb 24, 2026 |
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Episode 24: The Death of Logic: The Success Tax & The Red Zone
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Feb 23, 2026 |
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Episode 23: The Success Tax Audit
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Feb 20, 2026 |
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Episode 22: The Silent Treatment Isn't Quiet
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Feb 19, 2026 |
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Episode 21: Why "I Statements" Fail: The Biological Reason You Can't Talk Your Way Out of a Fight
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Feb 18, 2026 |
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Episode 20: The 10-Minute Car Buffer: Why You’re Bracing for Your Own Front Door
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Feb 17, 2026 |
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Episode 19: The Success Tax: Why High Achievers Struggle at Home
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Feb 16, 2026 |
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Episode 18: The 10-Second Pause Challenge: Break the Pattern This Weekend | RAW Regulation
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Feb 13, 2026 |
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Episode 17: The Biological Handshake: How to Stay Calm When They're Losing It | RAW Regulation
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Feb 12, 2026 |
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Episode 16: Externalizing the System: How to Change Your Language to Dissolve Conflict | RAW Regulation
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Feb 11, 2026 |
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Episode 15: The Mirror Check | RAW Regulation
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Feb 10, 2026 |
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Episode 14: The Myth of the Toxic Partner: Understanding Interpersonal Resonance
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Feb 09, 2026 |
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Episode 13: Biological Consent: The Prerequisite for Connection
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Feb 02, 2026 |
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Episode12:RawRegulation-"What If You Let Yourself Cry?"
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Nov 18, 2025 |
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Episode 11: Method Monday-"The Bathroom - Permission to Release What You've Been Holding"
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Nov 17, 2025 |
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Episode10:RAW Regulation: "Rest Without Guilt"
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Nov 14, 2025 |
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Episode9:RAW Regulation: "The Pause That Changes Everything"
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Nov 13, 2025 |
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Episode8: RAW Regulation: "Your Nervous System Doesn't Need Permission"
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Nov 12, 2025 |
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Episode7:RAW Regulation: "Saying No Is Self-Preservation"
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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Episode6 :Method Monday - The Living Room Boundaries and the End of People Pleasing
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Nov 10, 2025 |
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Episode5: Micro-Moments of Peace
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Nov 07, 2025 |
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Episode4: RAW Regulation: "What Your Body Already Knows"
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Nov 06, 2025 |
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Episode3: RAW Regulation: "The Safety You're Searching For Lives Inside You"
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Nov 05, 2025 |
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Episode 2: RAW Regulation: "Permission to Begin Again"
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Nov 04, 2025 |
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Episode1: Welcome to The Regulated Life: The Inner Sanctuary Method
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Nov 03, 2025 |
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Welcome to The Regulated Life
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Oct 23, 2025 |