Thrive Beyond Pornography (Formerly The Self Mastery Podcast)

By Zach Spafford

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Learning to Thrive Beyond Pornography use was the greatest challenge of our life and marriage. It had rocked my self confidence, tainted all of the most important experiences of my life and become the most impossible challenge I had as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. With this podcast or at https://www.zachspafford.com you'll learn about the struggle, how to overcome pornography use, and where to find additional resources to begin to thrive beyond pornography with your spouse. At some point I took a step away from all the 12 step meetings and councilors and started to figure out my own brain, to look at my issue as something that I had the answer to and I was going to figure it out. Here I share those lessons and give you the power to start your own journey free. Whether you struggle with unwanted pornography use or are the spouse or partner, whether you feel stuck or just don't know where to start, here I will teach you principles, tools and skills that you can use today to change how you think and, in the end, what you do. You'll hear interviews with my spouse, with experts on human sexuality and with former and current pornography users on how you can overcome your own struggle with addictive behavior. The Thrive Beyond Pornography podcast will bring new perspective to your struggle and keep you coming back to improve all aspects of your life. (formerly, The Self Mastery Podcast: Overcome Pornography Forever)

Episode Date
The Marshmallow Problem: Why You’re Not Changing Today
Oct 27, 2025
Sex is not a need to overcome pornography
Oct 20, 2025
Understanding the Detour Cycle: Why You Turn to Porn and How to Return to Your Values
Oct 13, 2025
From Abdication to Delegation: Staying in the Driver’s Seat
Sep 29, 2025
The 5 Things You Actually Need to Do to Solve Your Porn Problem
Sep 15, 2025
Rebuilding Safe, Connected Intimacy After Pornography Use
Sep 08, 2025
No More Starting Over — Why You’re Already on the Path
Sep 01, 2025
One Moment at a Time: How to Break Free from Pornography Without Being Perfect
Aug 25, 2025
5 Non-Religious Reasons to Quit Porn — For Good
Aug 18, 2025
What an Atheist Can Teach Us About Quitting Porn
Aug 11, 2025
Stop Counting Days: Start Living with Emotional Integrity
Aug 04, 2025
Porn Use as a Nervous System Response: Understanding Polyvagal Theory
Jul 28, 2025
The Problem Isn’t the Struggle—It’s the Story You’ve Been Told
Jul 21, 2025
Why we stay stuck and how to unstick our porn struggle
Jul 14, 2025
How to Reclaim Your Personal Power and Live With Agency
Jul 07, 2025
“I’m Broken”: Debunking the Most Common Lie
Jun 30, 2025
Episode 302: Choosing Your Values When Motivation Is Low
Jun 23, 2025
Episode 301: Real Empowerment Isn’t About Feeling Good—It’s About Choosing What Matters
Jun 16, 2025
Episode 300: Living ACT—How to Apply Acceptance and Commitment Training in Real Life
Jun 09, 2025
Why Your “Why” Matters More Than Your Behavior
Jun 02, 2025
How to Help Your Kids Navigate Pornography Exposure with Confidence and Compassion
May 26, 2025
From Control to Choice: A New Approach to Overcoming Porn Habits for Good
May 19, 2025
Why Goals Fail—and What Lasting Change Really Takes
May 05, 2025
Why Motivation and Willpower Fail (and Why That’s Normal)
Apr 28, 2025
Why Your Brain Offers Porn When You’re Bored (and What to Do Instead)
Apr 21, 2025
How to Stay Grounded When Your Spouse is Away
Apr 14, 2025
The Drift: What to Do When You Feel Pulled Toward Porn
Apr 07, 2025
The Pause That Changes Everything: How to Interrupt the Detour Cycle Before It Hijacks Your Peace
Mar 31, 2025
From Powerless to Empowered: Shifting the Beliefs Behind Porn Struggles
Mar 24, 2025
Redefining Integrity: How to Stay True to Your Values Amid Struggle
Mar 17, 2025
Seeing Clearly: How Radical Self-Honesty Sets You Free
Mar 10, 2025
The Observer Effect: Transforming Habits Through Mindful Awareness
Mar 03, 2025
Breaking Free: How Jonathan Layton Overcame Pornography for Good
Feb 24, 2025
Beyond the Finish Line: How Values Drive Lasting Change
Feb 17, 2025
Marriage, Intimacy & Overcoming Porn: Brent & Becky’s Journey
Feb 10, 2025
Unplugging from Perfection: A Coaching Session on Authenticity in Relationships
Feb 03, 2025
The Why Behind Every Action In Overcoming Pornography for Good
Jan 27, 2025
Mastering Your Emotions to Break Free from Pornography
Jan 20, 2025
How to Feel Your Feelings: A Guide to Emotional Resilience
Jan 13, 2025
How to Manage Urges and Reclaim Your Power
Jan 06, 2025
Reflect, Celebrate, and Build Momentum for the New Year
Dec 30, 2024
Breaking the Cycle – How to Challenge Justifications and Build Empowering Habits
Dec 23, 2024
Can Commitment and Honesty Coexist in the Struggle Against Pornography? - Rebroadcast
Dec 16, 2024
Choosing Honesty: Building Trust and Intimacy Beyond Fear
Dec 09, 2024
Tiny Habits, Big Changes: How Small Choices Build a Porn-Free Future
Dec 02, 2024
Breaking Free: How to Live in the Present and Overcome Worry
Nov 25, 2024
Unlocking Long-Term Success: Building Psychological Flexibility to Overcome Challenges
Nov 18, 2024
Dopamine Over Distraction: Building Resilience Without Relying on Porn
Nov 11, 2024
The Cost of the Label “Addict” – Rethinking How We Frame Struggles with Pornography
Nov 04, 2024
Six Key Shifts to Strengthen Your Relationship Beyond Pornography - Rebroadcast
Oct 28, 2024
The Only Way Out is Through: Embracing Discomfort for Real Growth
Oct 21, 2024
How Your Feelings Hold the Key to Breaking Free from Pornography
Oct 14, 2024
Turning Pornography Slips Into Growth Opportunities
Oct 07, 2024
Managing Porn Temptation When Apart: Emotional Resilience and Honest Conversations
Sep 30, 2024
Rebuilding Trust: How Tim and Mary Transformed Their Marriage Overcoming Pornography
Sep 23, 2024
Breaking the Isolation: Joey & Nicole's Journey Through Honesty, Communication, and Healing from Pornography
Sep 16, 2024
How to Reclaim Personal Agency in Marriage When Facing Pornography Addiction
Sep 09, 2024
Navigating Vulnerability: A Turning Point in Our Marriage and the Path to Healing
Sep 02, 2024
The Power of Choice: Abdication vs. Delegation in Habit Management
Aug 26, 2024
Moving Beyond Pornography: Overcoming Shame and Reclaiming Self-Worth
Aug 19, 2024
Overcoming Relapse and Reclaiming Control: Actionable Steps for a Porn-Free Life
Aug 12, 2024
Overcoming Pornography: A Missionary's Journey to Break Free
Aug 05, 2024
Understanding Your Husband: A Deep Dive into Pornography and Emotional Avoidance
Jul 29, 2024
Understanding Why People Like Porn: A Compassionate Approach to Overcoming Addiction
Jul 22, 2024
Breaking the Cycle of False Validation in Pornography
Jul 15, 2024
Commitment vs. Tools: Mastering the Path to Overcoming Pornography
Jul 08, 2024
Essential Habit Transformation: Replacing Pornography with Meaningful Change
Jul 01, 2024
Act, Don't React: Transforming Your Approach to Urges
Jun 24, 2024
Mastering Mindfulness to Overcome Pornography For Good
Jun 17, 2024
Overcoming Pornography: Regaining Agency and Managing Stress Effectively
Jun 10, 2024
The Art of Iteration: Unlocking Lasting Behavior Change To Overcome Pornography For Good
Jun 03, 2024
Improving Marital Intimacy: Interview with Dan on Sexual Connection and Overcoming Obstacles
May 27, 2024
Candid Conversations on Recovery - A Couples' Journey Through Pornography with Ariel Finlayson
May 22, 2024
What's Possible w/ Sam and Ronnie: How One Couple Thrived Beyond Pornography
May 13, 2024
Overcoming Resistance to Change: Strategies for Breaking Free from Pornography
May 06, 2024
Unlocking Intimacy: Insights from Group Coaching on Thriving Beyond Pornography
Apr 29, 2024
Breaking Taboos: A Candid Conversation on Pornography in Mixed Faith and Modern Families
Apr 22, 2024
Mastering Attraction and Rejection: Insights from Group Coaching on Personal Growth and Relationships
Apr 15, 2024
Embracing Values Over Goals: A New Perspective on Overcoming Pornography Addiction
Apr 08, 2024
Breaking Free from Resistance: Navigating Change in the Fight Against Pornography
Apr 01, 2024
The Detour Cycle: Navigating Beyond Pornography with Clarity and Values
Mar 25, 2024
Embracing Growth: Transforming Shame into Self-Love
Mar 18, 2024
Overcoming: Zach and Darcy's Journey Through Pornography Struggle- A Chat with Darcy
Mar 11, 2024
Empowerment and The Art of Reframing
Mar 04, 2024
How ADHD might be affecting your porn use
Feb 26, 2024
A Candid Conversation with Zach about Pornography Use
Feb 19, 2024
Loving Yourself
Feb 12, 2024
Overcoming pornography with an accountability partner.
Feb 05, 2024
What's Possible In Overcoming Porn: Nate and Carly
Jan 29, 2024
Navigating Beyond Boundaries: Thriving in the Face of Online Challenges
Jan 22, 2024
How hugging can help you!
Jan 15, 2024
Overcoming Porn in your marriage is like Tending a Garden
Jan 08, 2024
Setting Relationship Goals for the Year Ahead
Jan 01, 2024
Quitting Porn Changes Your Relationship With Yourself and Your Spouse
Dec 25, 2023
Dealing with the feeling that Porn is Inevitable
Dec 18, 2023
Challenge All Or Nothing Thinking To Overcome Porn
Dec 11, 2023
Overcoming Porn Isn't About Good or Bad
Dec 04, 2023
Sex Is Not A Need As You Work To Overcome Porn and Create A Thriving Marriage
Nov 27, 2023
Taking Greater Responsibility In Overcoming Porn In Your Marriage
Nov 20, 2023
Thriving Beyond Pornography With Zach And Darcy - An Interview with Mark Delany
Nov 13, 2023
Connection Through Hurt - Marriage Summit Audio
Nov 06, 2023
How ACT Helps You Overcome Porn
Oct 30, 2023
Self-Worth, Productivity, and Quitting Porn for Good
Oct 23, 2023
Quitting Porn for Good Means Learning the Art of Acquiescence
Oct 16, 2023
What About When My Spouse Treats Me Poorly Because of Porn Use
Oct 09, 2023
The Challenge In Overcoming Pornography with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Oct 02, 2023
Navigating the Path to Freedom: Challenges of Quitting Porn
Sep 25, 2023
How Can I Recognize If I Have a Porn Addiction? A Surprising Answer
Sep 18, 2023
Why Should I Quit Porn? 5 Reasons
Sep 11, 2023
The five keys to really committing to quitting porn
Sep 04, 2023
Quitting porn for good means not being an emotional debtor
Aug 28, 2023
Quitting Porn For Good Is A Lot Like Climbing a Mountain
Aug 21, 2023
Overcome Pornography through Fighting For Connection - Interview with Brett Nikola
Aug 14, 2023
Overcoming Porn Requires This One Skill You've Never Heard Of
Aug 07, 2023
Trust In Overcoming Pornography
Jul 31, 2023
Unleashing the Power Within: Thriving Beyond Pornography
Jul 24, 2023
The Art of Motivation: Sustainably Overcoming Pornography For Good
Jul 17, 2023
Pornography Doesn't Have Power Over You
Jul 10, 2023
Nurturing Support: Thriving Beyond the Challenges of Pornography
Jul 03, 2023
How to Deal with Shame Productively to Overcome Porn For Good
Jun 26, 2023
Quitting Porn is difficult - loss of coping mechanisms and discomfort
Jun 19, 2023
Breaking Free: Overcoming Emotional and Psychological Dependencies on Pornography
Jun 12, 2023
Overcoming Temptations and Creating Lasting Change
Jun 05, 2023
The Three Things You Need To Quit Porn
May 29, 2023
You View Porn Because of Dopamine
May 22, 2023
Overcoming Porn Means Changing Beliefs
May 15, 2023
Taking Control to Thrive Beyond Pornography – Mastering Responsibility and Letting Go
May 08, 2023
Questions to think about around Masturbation.
May 01, 2023
Client Success Story - Greg and Amy, Success together
Apr 24, 2023
Ready to overcome pornography for good
Apr 17, 2023
Pornography and Your Sense of Self
Apr 10, 2023
Avoiding Discomfort and Emotional Debt
Apr 03, 2023
Client Interview - Brent and Becky - Overcoming pornography success story
Mar 27, 2023
Never Fail Again Overcoming Pornography
Mar 20, 2023
How Do I Keep Being Successful at Not Choosing Porn?
Mar 13, 2023
Why Users Don't Know and What to do Instead
Mar 06, 2023
Principled Discipleship - The rules can damn us
Feb 27, 2023
Interview with Richard Ostler, Zach, and Darcy
Feb 20, 2023
You can't overcome Pornography tomorrow, but today will work.
Feb 13, 2023
Thought Management Will Not Solve Your Porn Problem
Feb 06, 2023
Pornography Addiction Isn't What You Think It Is
Jan 30, 2023
My wife wanted to control me with sex and I wanted her to: Replay
Jan 23, 2023
What Is Pornography?
Jan 16, 2023
Never Having an Urge Again vs Success Overcoming Pornography
Jan 09, 2023
Thrive beyond pornography with your spouse
Jan 02, 2023
Client Interview - Jon Succeeds at Thriving Beyond Pornography
Dec 26, 2022
3 Essential Ideas to Make This Christmas Amazing
Dec 19, 2022
Client Interview - What Success Looks Like with Andi Marks
Dec 12, 2022
6 Proven Shifts For Wives To Move Beyond Betrayal
Dec 05, 2022
How our mind keeps us stuck
Nov 28, 2022
What Quitting Porn and Dieting Have in Common
Nov 21, 2022
Modesty and The New For Strength of Youth with Amanda Louder
Nov 14, 2022
Part Three - Darcy and Zach's Story - Getting to Thrive Beyond Pornography
Nov 07, 2022
Part Two - Zach And Darcy Talk About the Struggle of Pornography in Their Marriage
Oct 31, 2022
Part One - The Spafford's Tell their Story
Oct 24, 2022
New podcast Direction
Oct 17, 2022
How we justify and it leads to porn
Oct 10, 2022
Principles and the New FSY Guide
Oct 03, 2022
Begin to Thrive Beyond Pornography
Sep 26, 2022
Why do People view porn before bed?
Sep 19, 2022
How to never fail again at overcoming pornography forever
Sep 12, 2022
Re-Focus, Re-Habit, Re-think to Overcome Porn Forever
Sep 05, 2022
Viewing Pornography is A Lot Like Getting A Participation Trophy
Aug 29, 2022
Will More Sex Solve My Porn Problem?
Aug 22, 2022
If you watch porn again, I'm divorcing you: Navigating Ultimatums in Relationships
Aug 15, 2022
How do I trust my spouse after pornography use
Aug 08, 2022
How to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship: 3 Actionable Steps
Aug 01, 2022
Becoming More Desirable
Jul 25, 2022
Overcoming Pornography Takes Time - Just like your yard
Jul 18, 2022
Overcome Pornography Client Interview - Josh and Amber
Jul 11, 2022
Overcoming Pornography Even When We Feel Shame
Jul 04, 2022
Overcoming Pornography is Possible-True Story
Jun 27, 2022
Overcome Porn - Focus on You
Jun 20, 2022
Avoiding Pornography
Jun 13, 2022
A Thank You Letter to Porn
Jun 06, 2022
What it takes to quit pornography
May 30, 2022
How To Ruin a Night Out: Three tips
May 23, 2022
3 secrets to managing emotions
May 16, 2022
How we talk about pornography matters, here is why.-Interview with Latter-Day Life Coaches -
May 11, 2022
Families are Being Torn Apart By Pornography Use
May 09, 2022
Thought Control - Overcoming Pornography
May 02, 2022
3 Keys to Using Prayer to Overcome Pornography
Apr 25, 2022
Being a Forever Porn Addict Is Exhausting
Apr 18, 2022
What it Takes To Overcome Pornography - 9 Items
Apr 11, 2022
What is Pornography Addiction?
Apr 04, 2022
The Power To Never View Pornography Again
Mar 28, 2022
Telling Your Partner About Your Pornography Struggle
Mar 21, 2022
Overcoming Pornography is not About Getting Rid of Everything
Mar 14, 2022
Why Motivation Isn't Enough: Building the Skills and Identity to Truly Quit Pornography
Mar 05, 2022
Overcoming Pornography through Differentiation - Series 5 of 5
Feb 28, 2022
Intimacy Requires Risk - The Secret to Intimacy Series: Chapter 4 of 5
Feb 21, 2022
Improving marital intimacy when overcoming pornography - The Secret to Intimacy Series: Chapter 3 of 5
Feb 14, 2022
Overcome Pornography Through Self Confrontation -The Secret to Intimacy Series: Chapter 2 of 5
Feb 07, 2022
Reorganize to Overcome Pornography - The Secret to Intimacy Series: Chapter 1 of 5
Jan 31, 2022
Couples overcoming pornography - Client Interview - Eric and Jackie
Jan 24, 2022
Will I Ever Be Enough - How my beliefs kept me from overcoming pornography sooner
Jan 17, 2022
Goals Can Be Traps
Jan 10, 2022
Betrayal Trauma, Overcoming Pornography, Infidelity, and Sex - with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Jan 03, 2022
Accountability Apps
Dec 27, 2021
Two Skills for a Merry Christmas
Dec 20, 2021