Just Listen To Me

By Julia Shay

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🎙️ New episodes every Tuesday and Thursday

Welcome to the place where love stops performing and starts telling the truth.

I’m a couples counsellor who works with the real moments of relationships — the disconnection, the misunderstandings, and the deep longing to feel safe and chosen. Using an emotionally focused couples therapy lens, I break down attachment patterns, communication breakdowns, and the cycles that keep couples stuck.

This podcast is for people who care deeply and want to understand what’s actually happening beneath the arguments, silence, or distance — without quick fixes or clichés.

Whether you’re healing your relationship, reconnecting, or breaking generational patterns around love and attachment, this is a space to slow down and grow.

Alongside relationship and attachment education, the podcast also explores narcissistic and coercive relational dynamics, emotional safety, emotionally unsafe systems, and the difference between genuine therapeutic support and dependency or emotional manipulation.

Just Listen to Me was created to support individuals and couples navigating relationship pain and attachment wounds, while also providing therapists, counsellors, and helping professionals with attachment-informed conversations that deepen clinical thinking, reflective practice, and emotionally focused work.

You’re welcome here. Let’s build relationships that feel safe, real, and alive.

The stories and relationship dynamics shared in this podcast are always de-identified and adapted to protect privacy and confidentiality. Many examples are composites based on common patterns seen across therapeutic work.

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Disclaimer:
This podcast is provided for educational and informational purposes only. The content is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide professional mental health care, counselling, or psychological support. The information shared should not be considered a substitute for individualised advice or support from a qualified mental health professional. If you are experiencing significant distress or have concerns about your mental health or safety, please seek appropriate professional support.


Episode Date
When You Stop Chasing and They Start Pursuing
Sep 22, 2026
Maeve & Otis — When Love Isn’t Enough: Attachment Lessons from Sex Education
Sep 17, 2026
Matched, Ghosted, Triggered: Dating Apps & Attachment
Sep 15, 2026
Are You Working Harder Than Your Client?
Sep 10, 2026
When the Pursuer Finally Gives Up: The Cycle of Shame
Sep 08, 2026
The Affair Without Sex: Understanding Emotional Infidelity
Sep 03, 2026
When One Partner Won't Engage: Now What?
Aug 27, 2026
Reactive Withdrawers: When Withdrawal Looks Like Anger
Aug 25, 2026
Are Piper & Alex A Trauma Bond? Attachment Lessons from Orange Is the New Black
Aug 13, 2026
Pornography: When Fantasy Becomes an Attachment Substitute
Aug 11, 2026
Beneath the Surface: Jungian Psychology and Attachment
Aug 06, 2026
When the Pursuer Gives Up: Understanding Pursuer Burnout
Aug 04, 2026
What Makes Us Human? Attachment Lessons from Resident Alien
Jul 30, 2026
Why We Stay In Situationships: The Attachment Perspective
Jul 28, 2026
The Biggest Mistake Couples Therapists Make: Treating Content Instead of Process
Jul 23, 2026
Weaponised Generational Trauma: When Pain Prevents Change
Jul 21, 2026
Texting Anxiety in Relationships: The Real Issue
Jul 18, 2026
It's Your Fault: Why We Blame Our Partner in Our Relationship
Jul 15, 2026
Generational Trauma: When the Past Lives in Our Relationships
Jul 11, 2026
When Couples Therapy Isn't Safe: Recognising Coercive Control in the Therapy Room
Jul 08, 2026
Coercive Control: The Abuse That Doesn't Leave Bruises
Jul 03, 2026
Autism in Relationships: When Love Speaks Different Languages
Jul 01, 2026
When Addiction Enters the Relationship: Trust, Betrayal and Attachment Wounds
May 29, 2026
Why Love Feels Hard When the Nervous System Is Struggling
May 27, 2026
What Safe Therapy Actually Feels Like
May 22, 2026
Not All Therapy That Feels Powerful Is Emotionally Safe
May 19, 2026
Why Trauma Bonds Happen: Attachment, Trauma & The Nervous System
May 15, 2026
Trauma Bonds: When Love and Fear Become Entangled
May 13, 2026
Not All Therapists Are Safe
May 07, 2026
When ADHD Affects Love: Understanding the Imbalance
May 05, 2026
How to Choose a Couples Counsellor (And What Most People Miss)
May 01, 2026
When He Chases: The Hidden Pain of Male Pursuers
Apr 29, 2026
When Women Withdraw: The Pattern Nobody Talks About
Apr 24, 2026
You’re Not Too Much: The Truth About Pursuers in Relationships
Apr 22, 2026
Why They Pull Away (It’s Not What You Think)
Apr 16, 2026
The Pattern You Keep Repeating? It's Trying to Heal You
Apr 13, 2026
The Relationship Pattern You Can't Escape
Apr 11, 2026
The Pattern Making You Both Feel Alone in Your Relationship
Apr 07, 2026
Your Family System Is Sabotaging Your Relationships - Here's Why
Mar 11, 2026
Time Doesn't Heal This Relationship Injury
Mar 09, 2026
Sexual Rejection Has Nothing to Do With Attraction
Mar 04, 2026
Trauma or Abuse? Why the Difference Saves Your Relationship
Mar 03, 2026
The Family Pattern Destroying Your Relationships
Feb 27, 2026
Hypervigilance After Infidelity: The Nervous System Trap You're Stuck In
Feb 24, 2026
Attachment Wounds: The Pattern Underneath Your Pain
Feb 20, 2026
The Real Enemy Isn't Your Partner — It's This Pattern
Feb 18, 2026
Breaking the Negative Cycle That Took Over Your Relationship
Feb 16, 2026