The Richard Nicholls Podcast

By Richard Nicholls

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 Oct 20, 2020

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 Jun 28, 2019
I love this podcast series. Richard makes sense of a complicated and crazy world in such a way that is entertaining and educational. 10 out of 10

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To inspire, educate and motivate you to be the best you can be. Learn about tackling mental health problems like Anxiety and Depression as well as simple tips to understand the world better, in a down to earth and genuine way with the Best Selling Author and Psychotherapist Richard Nicholls.

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Bonus Episode. Interview With Andrea McLean
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Hello listeners I have a special bonus episode for you today!
I was recently contacted by TV legend Andrea Mclean. Andrea has been working in the media for years but recently made the decision to take her life in a different direction and  created an online community called This Girl Is On Fire all about personal growth.
This week is the launch of an App that accompanies it and so I thought it would be nice to get her on the podcast to talk a little bit about it.
I hope you find what we say useful!

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Aug 04, 2022
Can We Not Care What Others Think?
971

Worrying about what people think is a common issue.

Almost everyone comes into therapy with some aspect of this. It's worth drilling down on who we actually mean though, when we say to ourselves that we worry what "other people" think.

Who are these anonymous other people?


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Aug 01, 2022
Sensitivity
1179

Because of what's called neurodiversity everyone's brain responds differently to stimulation.
Whether that's environmental or chemical stimulation.
Today's episode is about thriving in a stimulating world when our brain is sensitive to it.

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Jul 01, 2022
Taking Things Personally
195

Following up on the recent Therapy Natters episode about self-esteem I thought I'd scratch the surface on taking things personally this week.

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Jun 12, 2022
Mental Focus
972

Today is all about losing concentration, procrastinating and the reason why to be at your best you need to rest makes so much sense.

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Jun 01, 2022
Situational Anxiety
848

Situational anxiety is different to a generalised anxiety and needs working with in a slightly more "cognitive" way.

Today I talk about how to deal with some specific events that may be coming up in your life.


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May 01, 2022
The Negativity Bias
977

Did you know that after experiencing a negative stimulus in order to get your emotional state back to where it was before hand you need at least 4 experiences of something positive to erase the effects of that one experience of something negative?

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Apr 01, 2022
Control
1010

When it feels as if the world is falling apart, our instincts can kick in to try and protect us by creating an urge to control as much as we can.

The thing is many of life's challenges are outside of our control anyway. Today we explore how to handle things when life feels out of control.


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Mar 01, 2022
Overwhelming Emotions
913

Emotions can overwhelm is to such a degree sometimes that we feel completely out of control. Complete rage or total panic.
How we handle those sorts of situations is going to be different for everyone, but maybe there are a few ways that you can learn about today.

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Feb 01, 2022
Life Changes
869

Plato, the ancient Greek philosopher is quoted as once saying "Everything changes and nothing remains still. You cannot step twice into the same stream" I think he probably got the idea from Heraclitus who said “The only constant in life is change”
So even 2 and a half thousand years ago we knew what we were up against. That change is normal and needs to be accepted.
But that doesn't make it any easier when big things happen does it?



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Jan 01, 2022
Dealing With Toxic People
909

Love it or hate it, it's beginning to look a lot like Christmas isn't it?
Unfortunately for a lot of folk, the people we might be expected to spend time with are not always the people whose company we enjoy.



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Dec 01, 2021
Jealousy
956

Although we often use it to also mean envious, jealousy is the feeling of losing something to someone else. Particularly when it comes to partners or close friends.
Today's episode is all about exploring what's really going on when we feel jealous.

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Nov 01, 2021
Belonging.
970

What does a hypno-psychotherapy conference, The Rocky Horror Show and football shirts all have in common?
These are all areas where we can feel a sense of belonging.

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Oct 01, 2021
Do You Need To Make A Change?
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If you're not at your best or you think you have room for improvement, then this episode is about helping you to figure out what's stopping you.
Maybe it's down to expectations, your beliefs, your self esteem, maybe fear.
Whatever it is look into it, figure it out, work out what makes you tick so that you can see what's holding you back. 


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Sep 01, 2021
Affirmations And The Law Of Attraction
969

A lot of people think of affirmations as the key to their success. Either because they're tapping in to some collective unconscious or simply inspiring their own unconscious.
Today we'll explore that a little.

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Aug 15, 2021
Emotional Intelligence
875

Do emotions actually exist? Or are they just a psychological construct based on past experiences?

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Aug 01, 2021
Loneliness
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It's been a lonely 18 months for a lot of us. But even before Covid there were plenty of people saying that they were lonely and didn't have many opportunities to connect with people.
Recent research suggests that as many as a third of us have literally nobody that we would class as a close friend.
It would be nice to do something about that!

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Jul 15, 2021
Resolutions
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It's July!

We're exactly half way through the year and how are your New Years resolutions going?

I ask because enough time has gone by for any resolutions you might have made in January to have fallen by the wayside.


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Jul 01, 2021
To Diet or Not To Diet
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When living in a society that's full of body shaming the pressure to lose weight can encourage some very bad habits and ideas.
Let's explore them.

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Jun 15, 2021
Burnout
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In 1974 Herbert Freudenberger came up with a term that he defined as “the extinction of motivation or incentive, especially where one's devotion to a cause or relationship fails to produce the desired results.”
He called it "Burnout" and is a different sort of stress to what we might normally think of.


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Jun 01, 2021
Nature
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Imagine a therapy that had no known side effects, was readily available, and could improve your cognitive functioning at zero cost. Such a therapy has been known to philosophers, writers, and lay people alike: interacting with nature.

Nick Ray

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May 14, 2021
Worrying & Acceptance
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I've talked a lot in the past about the need to control thoughts using distractions and deliberate, forced thinking in order to create a more positive mindset. But I think it's crucial to recognise the importance of accepting our thoughts too. 

Humans tend to gravitate towards the things we fear and if we fear our own thoughts then a part of us deep inside might even feel the need to focus more on them. It's as if the more we think about something the more we understand it. And the more we understand it the more control we have over it. Which is probably true if it's a tiger in the jungle but not when the thing we fear is internal, our own anxiety for example.

Worrying about what makes us anxious rarely gives us any extra understanding of it. So sometimes we do need to accept our thoughts, just with a better perspective.


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May 01, 2021
Daydreaming
971

People often frown upon daydreaming as being unproductive yet at the same time many others suggest that it improves creativity. Why the dichotomy?

Let's have dive into daydreaming and see what we can find!


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Apr 01, 2021
It's OK To Be Selfish
945

I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" but I wonder if there needs to be a bit more to that. 

Well, that's what I want to talk about today.


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Mar 01, 2021
Bonus Episode: Michelle Thomas
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Michelle Thomas is an author and podcaster. She's written for The Guardian, The Independent, Stylist, Standard Issue the list goes on.

And on top of that she also wrote a book inspired by her experiences of depression called My Shit Therapist: & Other Mental Health Stories.

I'm sure you'll both enjoy and appreciate what she has to share with you.



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Feb 15, 2021
Taking Action Today
1152

Whatever your goals are it's fair to say that reaching them won't happen by accident or through luck.

Luck might have a small part to play. But what are the chances that it's the only part when compared to the effects of the deliberate action that you take yourself?

Deliberate action wins any day I'd say.

So to do that there are some basic principles that you might need to follow so as to help you on your way and they don't involve starting tomorrow. They involve the present moment, right now. 



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Feb 01, 2021
Bonus Episode: Matt Elswood
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Matt Elswood is a Chief Pharmacist specialising in mental health pharmaceuticals at Nottinghamshire Healthcare Trust.

As well as being an Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham he's also a really nice guy with a lot of interesting things to share with us.

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Jan 15, 2021
Gratitude
1138

Many self help and personal development books (my own included) will talk about the importance of gratitude as a way of boosting happiness and wellbeing.

Today we explore it in a little more detail.

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Jan 01, 2021
The Lost Letter - A Christmas Story By Richard Nicholls
627

Seeing as it's Christmas Day I thought I'd share this with you.
This is a story I wrote in 2015 but you maybe missed it the first time round.

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Dec 25, 2020
Grandad's Gift - A Christmas Story By Richard Nicholls
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I wrote this story back in 2014 but as my listeners have doubled since then it's likely that you missed this the first time round. 

So I thought I'd republish it.

I hope you enjoy it.

Merry Christmas folks!

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Dec 24, 2020
Bonus Episode: Robin Ince
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It's another bonus guest episode and this time it's the turn of stand up comedian and author Robin Ince.

We talk about intrusive thoughts, stage fright and why we all need therapy. 

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Dec 20, 2020
Bonus Episode: Dr Dean Burnett
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Today's bonus episode is with neuroscientist, stand up comedian and author Dean Burnett.

We chat about toxic positivity, emotional processing, addiction and many other things besides.

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Dec 10, 2020
Supporting Others With Depression
885

Everyone needs something different when they're going through mental health difficulties. But there are definitely a few Do's and Don'ts.


Samaritans UK
116 123
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Sane UK
0300 304 7000
www.sane.org.uk

Mind
0300 123 3393
86463
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Shout
Text: 85258
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Dec 01, 2020
Bonus Episode: Matt Rudd
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Matt Rudd is a senior writer at the Sunday Times, he's a published author of both fiction and non fiction. 

His latest book Man Down: Why Men Are Unhappy and What We Can Do About It, is out now. I read it the day it came out and thought he had some great things to share with you and so I invited him onto the show for a chat.

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Nov 15, 2020
Goal Blocks
1148

There can be many reasons why we get blocked from achieving our goals. Today I'm going to explore a few of them.

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Nov 01, 2020
Bonus Episode: Professor Sophie Scott
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Continuing the trend of a bonus episode in the middle of the month. This month I chatted with Professor Sophie Scott CBE.
Sophie is a neuroscientist working at University College London. She's a Fellow of the Academy of Medical Sciences, has presented the Royal Institutions Christmas Lectures and has been on multiple TV and Radio programs over the years talking about the neuroscience of laughter.
I hope you enjoy what she has to say.

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Oct 15, 2020
Conflict Avoidance
912

Avoiding conflict can influence the big things in life as well as the small things. It's why people split up over text rather than actually deal with a relationship problem face to face. And if you've ever had a huge sense of relief if you ring someone about a problem and their phone goes to voicemail, you'll know what I mean.


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Oct 01, 2020
Bonus Episode: Dr Radha Modgil
1924

Recently I had the pleasure of chatting with the broadcaster and author Radha Modgil.

As well as being a familiar face and voice on various BBC TV and radio shows Radha is also a practising GP with a very special interest in emotional wellbeing.


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Sep 15, 2020
Energy Levels
995

With some enthusiasm we can go from dragging our feet and saying how tired we are to suddenly being alert and awake. But whether it's about scripting a podcast episode or going for a run, it's really easy to say to ourselves "I don't feel like it" and if your energy levels have dropped it's definitely worth looking into why. 


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Sep 01, 2020
Impulse Control
1108

Whether it's because of tempting treats in your cupboard, the opportunity to play at online roulette or trying to push away thoughts that we don't like. Sometimes our brain works against us rather than for us and leads us down paths we were deliberately trying to avoid. 

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Aug 01, 2020
Pride & Prejudice
1911

Today's episode is a bit of a deep dive into racism, in response to the recent Black Lives Matter movement that has been gaining greater traction throughout the world this month.

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Jul 01, 2020
Words & Language
1012

Part 4 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. 
All about our inner dialogue. 


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Jun 25, 2020
Talking To Yourself
812

Part 3 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. 

All about our inner dialogue.

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Jun 17, 2020
Mental Narratives
887

Part 2 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June.
All about our inner dialogue.

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Jun 09, 2020
The Meaning Behind The Thinking
1352

Part 1 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June.
All about our inner dialogue.

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Jun 01, 2020
Conspiracy Theories
1498

Why can seemingly intelligent people believe myths that have no evidence to support them?
Put on your tin foil hat and let's find out shall we.

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May 01, 2020
The Foundations of Confidence
827

Confidence can be a tricky subject to talk about because its so big and ambiguous. What is confidence to one person is arrogance to someone else. Also, someone can be confident but still be anxious in certain situations, so it's even hard to define it really.

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Apr 01, 2020
Dealing With The Coronavirus
913

I've had a lot of messages from listeners asking for mental health advice during all this Coronavirus craziness. 
It's on every website, every news channel. Every conversation you overhear in a shop. It's on everyones minds and so it should be...to a degree.

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Mar 16, 2020
Eagles, Chickens & Rescue Dogs
959

Question: When is an Eagle not an Eagle? 
Answer: When it thinks it's a Chicken.

Despite being an Eagle, if you think you're a Chicken can you really fly above everyone?

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Mar 01, 2020
How To Feel Alive
1315

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. 
Or as Albert Einstein once said "He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed."

Today is all about my 5 tips on a more enthusiastic life! That and a massive rant at the end about mental health priorities in government policy making, sorry!

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Feb 01, 2020
Accept Yourself
868

Despite New Year being a time associated with making changes, today I want to talk about what seems at first like the opposite of change. 
Although it might still be a change, and might even be the best one you could ever make. Because there are surprising benefits that come from accepting yourself as you are, in making the decision to not changing and instead enjoying being you in the first place. 

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Jan 01, 2020
The Meaning of Life
1322


Today is all about having meaning and purpose to your life, something that crops up a lot in emails from listeners and definitely comes up in the therapy room. 


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Dec 01, 2019
Anxiety Of The Unknown
822

Over the last couple of years I've had a few messages from listeners about their fear of an uncertain future, and it's cropped up in the consulting room quite a lot too. 
One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful. 
We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that. 


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Nov 01, 2019
Suicide Prevention
1253

October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and this years focus is on suicide prevention. 
Suicide is twice as common as Homicide and is the second biggest cause of death in people under 30. 
In todays episode I hope to provide some insight into how to spot suicidal ideation in friends and family, and hopefully open up some conversations so as to prevent the worst happening.

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Oct 01, 2019
Fears & Phobias
1151

One question that I get asked quite often is "What's the difference between a fear and a phobia?" 
In short, a fear of something is fairly rational, even if we might think that there's no need for us to fear it, the fear still makes some sense. If someone has a fear of public speaking that makes sense, although what there probably fearing is rejection from their peers but it still makes sense. 
Whereas a phobia...

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Sep 01, 2019
External Validation
920

Ever heard of The looking-glass self? 
The looking-glass self is a concept created by sociologist Charles Horton Cooley back in 1902. It states that rather than a person's sense of self growing out of their own internal perceptions it instead grows out of the interactions with and the perceptions of other people. 
In a nutshell it can be summed up with the following phrase “I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”

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Aug 01, 2019
Nudge Nudge
901

Nudging and avoiding a nudge is quite important. If you've never heard that phrase outside of a Monty Python sketch you will do now. Because to nudge, in psychology, means to subtly influence someones behaviour, often without them being aware of it, by altering the environment slightly and is surprisingly successful. 

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Jul 01, 2019
Introversion
976

Introversion has been on my mind a lot lately as I've had quite a few clients who are introverts but don't fully understand it and think that there's something wrong with them. 
So today I want to go into a bit of detail about introversion to help you understand yourself better if you are one, and help you to understand others better if you're not.

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Jun 01, 2019
Bonus Episode: Interview With Bobby Temps
2805

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and because of that I have an extra episode this month for you! 
I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health. 
He's a great guy, have a listen.

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May 13, 2019
It's The Thought That Counts
1034

I've been thinking about this topic for a long time and I've been a bit wary of talking about it because what I mean by "it's the thought that counts" is that it's our own thinking that counts towards whether an experience is a good one a bad one or simply just is. 
And with some really quite extreme situations too. But I don't want it to come across as if it's our own fault if we feel bad because something happened to us. It belittles someones experiences to say "Oh you're traumatised are you? Try thinking differently about it!" Because that's not quite how the brain works. 

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May 01, 2019
Dealing With Crazy Thoughts
933

Regularly clients will tell me that they've had frightening bizarre thoughts, sometimes about hurting, or even killing, someone that they care about. 
Odd as it may seem this is something that everyone experiences, but it doesn't really get talked about for fear of other people thinking we're strange or even dangerous. So I want to put your mind at rest that if you have thoughts like this, you need to remember that they're just thoughts, they're not reality. 

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Apr 01, 2019
How To Get More Done
1017

If you Google the words "how to be more productive" you get 187 million results. Interestingly that's the same number of results as "how to learn Romanian." And although everyone learns in different ways we all know the answer to both of those questions. 
If you want to learn a new language, you need to read it, listen to it and absorb it until you understand it. And the key to that is simply to practise. 
And the answer to how to get more things done is simply to "do more things."

But is everything really that easy? 
Can it be so black and white? 

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Mar 01, 2019
Disappointment & Low Expectations
882

It's often said that optimism isn't all it's cracked up to be. That expecting the best only leads to disappointment, and I can understand why but I think it's important to see the difference between expectations and goals.

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Feb 01, 2019
Practise Doesn't Make Perfect
1069

It's a new year! 
And for a hypnotherapist who specialises in helping people to make changes in their life people will often say to me things like "I bet you'll be busy at work in January then, all the New Years resolutions." 
Yet, it's nothing like February, when all those that have tried to make some changes are a month in and can feel themselves giving up and need help. 
Which raises questions doesn't it? Because if the changes you make are something you actually want, then why would we feel like giving up?


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Jan 01, 2019
Wooden Legs & Excuses
986

Have you ever met someone with a wooden leg? Not a real wooden leg, but a metaphorical one? 
In the 60’s, a psychiatrist called Eric Berne, turned some common problematic psychological processes into what he called “Games People Play” One of which he called the wooden leg game.

Imagine a man with a wooden leg who has used it as an explanation for why his life is unfulfilled all of his life, he would often say “If it wasn’t for this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete.” Or when he complains that he’s unemployed he says “What do you expect from a guy with one leg?”

The wooden leg game can hold us back from enjoying life and feeling fulfilled, and there are many things that can be your wooden leg. People will say...

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Dec 01, 2018
Dealing With Depression
1490

Depression is a huge topic. It’s a big problem in the 21st Century and to try and understand it by listening to a single podcast episode probably isn’t going to be enough. 
Even 4 years at medical school wouldn’t do that. 
But I hope that with today’s episode I can help you to gain a bit of extra insight into it and I encourage you to read up on it if it’s something that you feel you need to understand more about.

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Nov 01, 2018
Don’t Let Your Career Define You
841

Imagine you're invited to a friend’s house for a party and you find yourself chatting to a total stranger. If they were to say to you "So, what do you do?" What's the first thing that pops into your mind? 
Go on, what do you do? Do you swim? do you play cricket? Do you party? 
Of course, we all know that what they really mean is "What do you do for a living?" It may well be simply small talk just to get a conversation going but what someone does for a living is the usually the first place people tend to go when learning about someone else. And I think it's worth questioning whether that’s appropriate, because there's more to us than our job.

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Oct 01, 2018
The Need To Belong
974

Many people feel a need to be unique, to be different from everyone else but that shouldn’t be at the expense of our sense of belonging. If we’re missing belongingness in our life then we can often feel as if we’re insignificant, unimportant and may as well crawl under a rock to die. Sure, be different, your life is your own, and any self esteem boost you get from your uniqueness can be used to help you recognise that actually, we’re all different, we’re all unique.

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Sep 01, 2018
Anything Is Better Than Nothing
867

Is there something you want to achieve that you know is going to take a while? Maybe something that has many steps, such as getting fitter or writing a dissertation? 
If so then you need to be aware that doing anything that brings you closer to the end result is better than doing nothing at all. That might seem obvious, but it’s not uncommon for people to be really hard on ourselves for not putting in maximum effort.


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Aug 01, 2018
Resilience
1163

Despite their setbacks and failures some people seem to have the ability to brush things off and bounce back almost stronger than before, they seem to have a grit and determination not to let bad experiences affect them. Is this something than can be learned?

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Jul 01, 2018
Guilt And Shame
911

If we’ve hurt someone then I think it’s probably healthy to feel bad about it, to wish that we’d behaved differently and to want to make amends. 
But what isn’t healthy is continually beating yourself up over it or to think of yourself as a bad person because of what happened. Feeling bad because you hurt someone is guilt. But feeling as if you’re a bad person is shame, and they’re a bit different. 
Guilt you can do something with, you can learn from it. You can apologise, make amends and move on. But shame? There’s not really anywhere to go with that, and I think it’s important that we recognise that good people can do bad things, just like bad people can do good things.

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Jun 01, 2018
Self-Worth and Anxiety
868

Did you know that if you're physically tired then you will estimate hills as steeper than they actually are? And that a place in the distance is further away? But did you also know that it's not just our physical resources that influence our perception of the world?

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May 01, 2018
What We Fight, We Invite
882

There’s an annoying quirk to our psychology that means we can easily be drawn towards the exact thing that we’re trying to avoid, as the old saying goes 'be careful what you look for, because you just might find it.' Because the alternative means that you might have made yourself part of the problem, rather than the solution.

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Apr 01, 2018
Options & Decisions
878

Making decisions can be hard, and not just with the big things in life.
Sometimes even things that should be insignificant in the grand scheme of things can paralyse us. So how do we get around it?
Todays episode is about just that. Getting a better perspective on these things and even the bigger ones too.

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Mar 01, 2018
What Makes A Good Relationship?
911

Although I’m not a relationship coach or a couple therapist a lot of clients will come to one to one therapy and discuss their relationships, with many of them saying things such as “I don’t know what a real relationship is supposed to feel like!”
I think that in a society that looks at so many things in life as disposable it can be very hard to think of something in your life as permanent, and may even be a bit scary for a lot of people. Which is why so many clients say to me that they feel trapped when they’re in a relationship yet they feel lonely and insignificant when they’re not.

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Feb 01, 2018
The Gratitude Attitude
931

I was asked in an interview recently that if I had to choose one thing, what would I say is the most effective way of boosting happiness?
In order to answer it I needed to think about all the concepts and exercises that I wrote about in my book to see if there was a common ingredient or theme. What I found is that pretty much everything I wrote about needed a foundation of appreciation, of gratitude in order for them to be of any help.
So what do I mean exactly by gratitude? 

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Jan 15, 2018
15 Minutes To Happiness
911

Have a think about the following question for a moment.

“Please imagine a ladder with steps numbered from zero at the bottom to 10 at the top. Suppose we say that the top of the ladder represents the best possible life for you, and the bottom of the ladder represents the worst possible life for you. On which step of the ladder would you say you personally feel you stand at this time, assuming that the higher the step the better you feel about your life, and the lower the step the worse you feel about it? Which step comes closest to the way you feel?”

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Jan 01, 2018
The Dangers Of Manning Up
812

When someone says Be a man, what do you think of?
Act tough?
Don't cry?
Or do you think manning up means to take responsibility for your emotions or accept mistakes and move on?

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Dec 01, 2017
Beating The Winter Blues
821

It might sound daft to some people but gloomy weather does have an impact on our mental health. If its grey on the outside we can easily slip into a grey on the inside feeling, which leads to behaviour that might makes things worse, hiding away from everyone and refusing to leave the so called comforts of home…

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Nov 01, 2017
Grief & Loss
760

The one thing everyone has in common is that we will all in some way be touched by death, whether it’s thoughts about our own demise, or having to deal with someone else’s.
And what’s really important to understand, whether you’re trying to be a supporting friend or you’re a grieving widow, it’s important to understand the rules of grieving, of which there is only one…

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Oct 01, 2017
Fear of Missing Out
1031

Last week I noticed that my Sky TV hard drive box was getting full. There were a lot of satirical news programmes that I hadn’t watched and they were probably out of date. There were documentaries about topics that if I was really that interested in I’d have watched them by now. And it made me question why I’d set them to record in the first place.
The conclusion I came to was that it was FOMO.

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Sep 01, 2017
The Psychology Of Stuff
870

Clients will often tell me that they feel overwhelmed with even the simple things in life, their house is a mess and they just don’t know where to start putting it right.
They feel that there’s so much to do that it’s easier to just do nothing and watch everything gather dust, further contributing to their depression and self esteem issues.

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Aug 01, 2017