Sex With Emily
By Dr. Emily Morse
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Subscribers: 4235
Reviews: 6
Episodes: 1328
Bradley
Dec 27, 2019
love the podcast, I've been listening to it for years.
kevin
Oct 3, 2019
Emily is awesome. I appreciate the format change as well. It's more informative now yet still keeps the conversational feel. Past episodes devolved into just banter without the informative content. I listen for the content.
Sep 22, 2019
Usually informative & reliable, but as a licensed psychologist I'm stunned they gave the "astrological psychologist" a platform of credibility back in July and again in September. Give us truth, not nonsense from snake oil salespeople.
Jul 23, 2019
informative and helpful
May 8, 2019
I enjoy the discussion, answers, and guests. I have received great relationship advice
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Squirting Setbacks, Threesome Hangups & Other Sex Anxieties
31:27
We all have fears around sex, whether we’re aware of them or not. Maybe you’re worried someone’s not going to like your body, or that if you and your partner try something new, it’ll be awkward or weird. Maybe you’re worried you’ll never have sex with anyone ever again. I’m here to tell you this: your sexual anxieties are completely normal. Listen in as my callers and I work through theirs and develop actionable solutions to take the next step. When you’re a vulva owner, and something comes out when you orgasm, are you peeing or squirting? When preparing for a threesome, how can you get over the fear that your partner won't want sex with just you anymore? When the sex has fallen off entirely, how do you start initiating again? All this and more in today's sexual anxieties episode. Show Notes:
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May 26, 2023 |
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Slut-Shaming & Self-Blaming w/ Elise Loehnen
1:07:04
Author Elise Loehnen has thought a lot about women and desire. In her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, she breaks down the cultural forces that teach women to be desirable rather than desiring, and the shame attached to a woman wanting something: whether it’s sex, success, or a damn slice of pizza. Whether it’s lust, and the way we encourage women to police others' sexuality, or sloth, and the way women are encouraged to be their husbands' caregivers, these invisible expectations serve none of us. Instead, Elise talks about ways we can liberate ourselves in ways that improve our sex lives and beyond: how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, how to shed sexual shame, and so much more. As Elise says, “Our bodies are portals; lust is the invitation to enter.” Please note that this episode includes discussions of sexual trauma. If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through:
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May 23, 2023 |
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Love Bombing, Breadcrumbing & Modern Dating
34:46
It can be difficult to meet new people and cultivate relationships, especially when looking for romantic partners. But don’t let that hold you back from trying: you might just need a new strategy. On today’s show, I take your calls on modern dating and how to solve the problems you’re running into. Let’s say you want to date an older woman but don’t have confidence in your communication - how do you improve your conversation game? When you’ve been single for years and fear rejection, how do you break out of romantic stagnation? Or what about breadcrumbing: when someone gives you just enough to keep you interested without outright ghosting you. How can you directly communicate without coming off as pushy? Finally, what are the signs of love bombing? One caller asks me if that’s what’s happening to her. Spoiler: yep. Show Notes:
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May 19, 2023 |
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Bondage, Threesomes & Golden Showers
32:42
All sexual fantasies have one thing in common: they trigger an arousal response inside our bodies, laced with erotic flavor. But how do you actualize your fantasy with a partner who’s wary of it? Even turned off by it? On today’s show, I’m taking your calls on this exact predicament. First up: when your partner wants you to drastically change your appearance for their pleasure, should you do it? Or when your partner wants to watch you with a third, how do you find that person? Next, if you’re not naturally dominant in bed, but your partner’s begging for it, how do you step into your power? I also get into urine fetishes (yep, like golden showers), how to introduce them to an otherwise vanilla sex life, and how to explore same-sex adventures in a hetero marriage. Show Notes:
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May 16, 2023 |
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Best Of: Sex Positions Made Easy
38:08
You shouldn't have to be an Olympic gymnast to have sex. But let’s be honest – certain positions can be hard! So inspired by the Positions chapter in my new book Smart Sex, I’m bringing back this Best Of episode. You’ll hear quick tips to make ambitious moves easier and classic moves more exciting. First, I share the most-searched sex positions in the country: can you guess America’s favorite sex move? Next, we look at the much-hyped reverse cowgirl. I give suggestions to make it feel as good and sexy as it looks. As for oral: I talk you through the Kivin Method, which stimulates vulva owners' K-points, and how to make 69 more relaxing. Finally, don’t go to the emergency room from shower sex – just listen to my tips to keep it steamy AND stable. Show Notes:
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May 12, 2023 |
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Resentment, Gratitude & Sexual Intimacy
33:56
When resentment builds up in a relationship, it compromises our sexual connection. We feel taken for granted, unappreciated, and unseen. Most of all, we feel emotionally unsafe, which makes it impossible to let loose and feel free in bed. So on today’s show, I talk through a study that connects the dots between a quality sex life and regular expressions of gratitude. Next, I take your calls: when long standing issues with your partner inhibit your desire, how do you break through that impasse? When your partner says you’re not meeting their sexual standards, how much of that messaging do you take in? And when you crave words of affirmation, but they just can’t seem to give them, is it time for new therapy or to respectfully end the relationship? Show Notes:
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May 09, 2023 |
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Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life
29:36
We all need to mix it up sometimes. Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? With creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life – and I’m here to tell you how. First, we’ll talk about planning a "sex-cation" with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what’s left? I advise one caller on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine – even with new people! – is leaving you bored. Show Notes:
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May 05, 2023 |
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Bisexuality & Polyamory w/ Boyslut Zachary Zane
1:00:55
Ever wondered if there’s more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you’re used to? Men’s Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he’s radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it’s healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you’re in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they’re bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex. Show Notes:
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May 02, 2023 |
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Let’s Talk About Sex (w/ My Mom)
47:01
Yes, it’s true: I’m talking with my own mother today about sex. A ton of you have asked me how I got into the sex education business in the first place: now, you get to hear from the person who raised me! First, my mom and I talk about her sexual journey, coming up in a time when open communication around sex wasn’t normalized and female pleasure wasn’t valued. She also helps me your questions on sex and relationships, like how to give a partner feedback when they’re doing something that turns you off, what to do if menopause is tanking your sex drive, how to negotiate with your partner when you’ve got different definitions of cheating, and how to approach a partner who does NOT want to spice up your sex life – but you’re dying for some variety. Show Notes:
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Apr 28, 2023 |
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How to Initiate (If You Never Do)
35:42
There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation. Show Notes:
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Apr 25, 2023 |
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6 Roadblocks to Sex & How to Clear Them
33:27
What’s holding you back from having good sex? Is it self-confidence? A problem with your partner? Are you under so much stress that it’s impossible to feel erotic and turned on? In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the 6 most common roadblocks to sex and how to move past them. I’ll talk you through how to navigate each of them and also take your questions on personal sexual roadblocks. For example, if you’re coupled, is it cheating to get on OnlyFans? What do you do if you’re not always wet for sex? And finally, what's the best way to work with a partner who’s prone to jealousy? All this and more on our roadblocks show. Show Notes:
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Apr 21, 2023 |
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High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex
20:50
It’s a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you have asked me for this show! While wide scale research is still thin, there are many encouraging signs that cannabis can help you unlock more sexual pleasure, whether it's erotic arousal, help with erections, less anxiety, or less pain. But I get it: cannabis isn’t legal everywhere! And it’s also not right for everyone. So on today’s mini show, I’ll be discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods like edibles and drinkables, and vetted product recommendations for sexy times, both partnered and solo. Show Notes:
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Apr 20, 2023 |
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Want Better Sex? Stop Believing This Myth
27:30
What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want. Show Notes:
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Apr 18, 2023 |
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Life Is Short: Get a Sex Toy
26:48
There’s a lot to be said for sex toys. For one, they stimulate nerve endings much deeper than hands alone can reach – and that’s true no matter what genitals you’ve got. But how do you incorporate toys into partnered sex? And which ones are right for your body to give you mind-blowing orgasms? On today’s episode, we’re talking all things sex toys so you can play in new and different ways. First, is it alright to always bring a vibe to partnered sex? One penis owner says “absolutely.” Speaking of penis owners, which toys are best for this crowd? I also talk about squirting with toys, how to change up your solo sex routine, and if there’s anything wrong if you can ONLY orgasm with a toy. Spoiler alert: nope! Show Notes:
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Apr 14, 2023 |
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My #1 Tool to Spice Up Your Sex Life
34:40
Have you ever used a “Yes, No, Maybe” List for sex? It’s a menu of sex acts that prioritizes consent and communication among sexual partners. It’s one of my hands-down favorite tools to explore new ideas and spice up sex lives. But how do you actually use the list and turn your choices into realities? On today’s show, I reveal my NEW and IMPROVED "Yes, No, Maybe" List, and show you how to use it individually or with a partner. I share new ideas we added to the list, like orgasm denial, bondage, and electrostimulation, as well as success stories from folks who have filled it out. Plus, we’ll talk about what to do if your answers differ from your partner's, and how a real couple worked through that sticky situation together. Show Notes:
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Apr 11, 2023 |
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Bottoms Up: Anal Sex For All
28:10
When you think about anal sex, what comes to mind? Does it make you feel turned on? Nervous? Like something you want to try or do more of, but you’re not sure about the best way to approach it? On today’s show, I help you get more comfortable with anal play by answering your top questions. How can you use foreplay and communication to relax into the experience? If you’ve tried anal play before but didn’t love it, what are some toys and techniques you can use to feel more pleasure? What’s the safest way to train with an anal toy, and can you hurt yourself by having too much anal? Bottoms up, because your anal education starts now. Show Notes:
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Apr 07, 2023 |
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Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class
50:39
How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable. Show Notes:
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Apr 04, 2023 |
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The Key to Sexual Confidence
31:58
What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode. Show Notes:
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Mar 31, 2023 |
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Masturbation Parties & Solo Sex
33:01
In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation. Show Notes:
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Mar 28, 2023 |
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How Do I Tell My Partner…?
37:02
Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show. Show Notes:
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Mar 24, 2023 |
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Sex Party 101
36:59
Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear. Show Notes:
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Mar 21, 2023 |
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The Vagina Episode
39:45
The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode. Show Notes:
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Mar 17, 2023 |
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Best Of: Best Blowjob Ever
43:54
Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now. Show Notes:
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Mar 14, 2023 |
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Squirting, Spandex & Kinks
44:01
Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show! Show Notes:
This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 10, 2023 |
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Porn & Your Sex Life
28:53
Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show! Show Notes:
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Mar 07, 2023 |
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Are We All A Little Non-Monogamous?
44:09
I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode. Show Notes:
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Mar 03, 2023 |
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Moregasms For All
32:10
While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show. Show Notes:
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Feb 28, 2023 |
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Unblock Your Sex Life
37:29
What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve. Show Notes:
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Feb 24, 2023 |
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Secret Pleasure Points
42:08
Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show. Show Notes:
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Feb 21, 2023 |
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Does Size Matter? w/ Dr. Karpman
58:10
Insecurities around our bodies can make sex and pleasure more difficult to enjoy, especially when it comes to our more intimate parts. And one body part I always get asked about is the penis, from people with penises and those sleeping with them. That’s why I’m bringing in board-certified urologist, Sex With Emily regular, and my friend, Dr. Edward Karpman to answer all your questions about the penis. We’ll answer questions from delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, to yes, penis size. All this and more in today’s episode. Show Notes:
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Feb 17, 2023 |
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Why Don’t I Ever Want Sex?
33:04
Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more. Show Notes:
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Feb 14, 2023 |
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Make Every Day Valentine’s Day
33:23
It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades. Show Notes:
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Feb 10, 2023 |
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Best Of: Just a Little Kinky
37:26
Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep. Show Notes:
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Feb 07, 2023 |
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Sex Life Hacks You Won’t Regret
27:44
A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon. Show Notes:
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Feb 03, 2023 |
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Oral Sex Essentials
32:19
Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities. Show Notes:
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Jan 31, 2023 |
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I High-Key Fantasize About…
39:47
Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode. Show Notes:
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Jan 27, 2023 |
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Mental Health = Sexual Wealth
52:14
We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes:
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Jan 24, 2023 |
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Penis Problems? Not Anymore
38:15
Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode. Show Notes:
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Jan 20, 2023 |
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Porn, Orgasms & A Kink On the Rise
43:59
Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice. Show Notes:
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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Unlock Your Hidden Orgasms
40:36
Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure. Show Notes:
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Jan 13, 2023 |
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How Sexually Compatible Are You?
32:42
Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes:
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Jan 10, 2023 |
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More Orgasms & Spicier Sex in 2023
32:33
Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them. Show Notes:
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Jan 06, 2023 |
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Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell
39:07
When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. Show Notes:
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Jan 03, 2023 |
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The Hottest Episodes of 2022
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As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love. Show Notes:
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Dec 30, 2022 |
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Hotline Calls: The Do’s and Don'ts of Non-Monogamy
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Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show. Show Notes:
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Dec 27, 2022 |
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Better Dates, Better Sex
34:49
Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy. Show Notes:
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Dec 23, 2022 |
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What Makes Oral Sex Hot w/ Alex Cooper
44:31
Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode. Show Notes:
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Dec 20, 2022 |
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Mismatched Sex Drives: Here’s the Fix
37:59
Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger. Show Notes:
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Dec 16, 2022 |
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Like Your Body, Love Your Sex Life
41:17
We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else? Show Notes:
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Dec 13, 2022 |
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Your 2023 Sex Goals (& the Toys to Get There)
47:47
As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start. Show Notes:
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Dec 09, 2022 |
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Masculinity, Masturbation & Marriage w/ Larry Hagner
41:18
It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation. Show Notes:
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Dec 06, 2022 |
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Dating Smarter w/ Dr. Helen Fisher & Dr. Justin Garcia
45:39
Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match. Show Notes:
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Dec 02, 2022 |
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The Sex Lives of College Students
43:35
What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show. Show Notes:
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Nov 29, 2022 |
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Hotline Calls: Why Can’t I Orgasm?
45:25
How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers. Show Notes:
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Nov 25, 2022 |
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Ask and You Shall Receive (Oral)
34:23
Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive. Show Notes:
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Nov 22, 2022 |
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Love, Lust & Lexapro
39:23
Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health. Show Notes:
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Nov 18, 2022 |
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Someone Cheated. Now What?
44:19
Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want. Show Notes:
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Nov 15, 2022 |
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Hotline Calls: How to Squirt & Find a Third
37:33
We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from. Show Notes:
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Nov 11, 2022 |
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Oral Sex Secrets
23:47
Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it. Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure. Show Notes:
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Nov 08, 2022 |
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Sex Toys for Penis Owners
32:56
Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner. But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it. Show Notes:
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Nov 04, 2022 |
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Ask Emily: Oral, Orgasms & Anal
41:20
First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential. Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin? He wants his wife to experience sex with another woman, so they can have their first threesome. But is she truly into the idea or just going along with it to please him? And last but not least - she’s got a play partner who wants to try anal, but has her reservations regarding pain and hygeine. How do you avoid a messy situation? We will unravel all this and more. Show Notes:
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Nov 01, 2022 |
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Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed
38:25
Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all? On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic imagination. Show Notes:
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Oct 28, 2022 |
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How to Have Game: The Dating Show
34:11
So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless? On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants it to be more than casual – I help refine her approach. He’s super honest about being polyamorous, but they think he needs to grow up – I coach him on how to find the right partners, while still being open. Because when it comes to dating, your people are out there – you just have to learn how to look. Show Notes:
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Oct 25, 2022 |
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Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn
46:34
We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being. Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual consciousness for a radically happier, healthier life. She’ll help me answer your questions on masturbation, shame, BDSM, and how to rewire the way we think about pleasure. Show Notes:
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Oct 21, 2022 |
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I Love My Partner, But My Coworker Is Hot
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Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely. First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner’s bedroom style, can you teach them to be more dominant? All this and more on a particularly juicy Best Of show. Show Notes:
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Oct 18, 2022 |
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The Lube Show: The Wetter, the Better
32:48
If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more. Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the science behind lube’s benefits, and walking you through the best options for every type of sexual occasion. Show Notes:
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Oct 14, 2022 |
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Just the Tip(s): How to Please a Penis
33:38
When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate. We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of nearly a decade, what’s next? And when you’ve been masturbating for years, but discovered your entire family could hear you…how do you deal? We’ll cover all this and more. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 11, 2022 |
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Hotline Calls: Should You Break Up?
47:21
It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward. And if you want your questions answered on the next Hotline Call show, please reach out! You can leave messages online at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily or by calling 559-TALK-SEX (825-5739). Just leave your name, age, where you live and how you listen to the show! (You can always change your name or choose to remain anonymous.) Show Notes:
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Oct 07, 2022 |
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Squirting Is My Love Language (& Other Ways To Play)
30:55
So you want to try a new kink? Well, you’ve come to the right podcast. On today’s Best Of show, I answer your questions and help open your mind (and body) to all things kink and BDSM - from squirting to nipple-gasms. Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone can lead to enhanced intimacy and heightened pleasure. All you need are the right tools, compassionate communication, patience and plenty of lube. Show Notes:
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Oct 04, 2022 |
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Are You Quiet Quitting Your Relationship?
38:18
Quiet quitting: the act of leaving without leaving. At a job, it’s refusing to stay late, not seeking out extra projects, and only doing exactly what your role requires. Critics call it lack of inspiration or hustle – but proponents say it’s simply setting boundaries. But can quiet quitting apply to our relationships? I’ll explain the signs to look out for and how to initiate the hard conversations you may need to have with your partner. If we can put aside our inner people pleaser, we can avoid long term resentment and articulate our needs. Show Notes:
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Sep 30, 2022 |
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Real Men Do Kegels (And Other Tips for Edging)
35:51
Let’s train our orgasm muscle: the pelvic floor. We all have one. And like our other muscles, strengthening it can yield physical benefits. In this case, a more explosive orgasm. On today’s show I put the spotlight on edging – a sex technique for more intense orgasms – and give you a slew of additional tips for maximizing your pleasure. Penis owners, do you use toys yet? Because I’ve got killer recommendations for you. People in relationships, ever been cheated on? I help one caller move through the process. Stuck in the friendzone? Through direct communication, we can all escape platonic purgatory. Show Notes:
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Sep 27, 2022 |
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All Bi Myself: Jen Winston on Bisexuality
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How do you know if you’re bisexual? In honor of Bisexuality Visibility Day, author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there. Show Notes:
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Sep 23, 2022 |
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Manifest Your Partner (It Worked For Me)
28:24
Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that. Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can apply to your everyday dating and sex dilemmas. Show Notes:
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Sep 20, 2022 |
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My Orgasm Has Left The Building
27:12
Do you fake orgasms? Be honest. Whether we feel pressured to end the sexual experience, or simply don’t know how to orgasm with a partner, faking it is common for every gender and orientation. So on today’s episode, we discuss how to hold out for the real thing while also restoring your sex life. What do you do when it’s not just your orgasm that’s gone missing, but your entire sex life? Or how about when it's physical pain holding you back from having more pleasure? I’ll help callers with these questions and others as we embark on a mission to get you back to orgasming and back to a more pleasurable sex life. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 16, 2022 |
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Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed
36:37
What’s your sex language? We all have one. And once we’re fluent in the four types, we can expand our repertoire to more effectively please our partner – and advocate for what we want. In today’s episode, we will explore just that with psychologist and astrologer Jen Freed. Her forthcoming book “A Map to Your Soul: Using the Astrology of Fire, Earth, Air, and Water to Live Deeply and Fully” explains how these elements relate to the type of sex we want and how to create an erotic field with our partner. Dr. Freed offers a formula for alchemizing amazing sex by combining the principles of psychology and astrology, along with curious communication. Show Notes:
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Sep 13, 2022 |
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How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim & Vanessa Bennett
52:49
Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration. Show Notes:
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Sep 09, 2022 |
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Big Pegging Energy
27:01
To peg, or not to peg? That’s the question we’re going to push into today… and yes, pun intended. Pegging, which typically involves a penis owner being penetrated through the use of a strap-on dildo by a vulva owner, seems to be more popular than ever. But arguably more than other forms of pleasure, strap on sex challenges the way we think about masculinity, femininity and heteronormative pleasure. Role reversal and anal play require a great deal of trust, empathy and vulnerability. But if partners can work through these challenges, the payoff can be immense. And that’s why on today’s episode, I want to explore not just the steps partners should take to responsibly explore strap on intercourse, but also how the benefits can go way beyond the bedroom. Show Notes:
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Sep 06, 2022 |
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Bolder Self, Better Sex
31:27
How can you be bold in the bedroom? I’ve got the boldness queen herself, Jen Cohen of the “Habits & Hustle” podcast, to tell us how to design the life you actually want — including, of course, your sex life. Jen explains the 10% Target Mindset, the difference between what you want and what you need when it comes to sexual partners, how to build better intimacy habits, and how to normalize failure so that you take more risks. That’s where boldness comes in: to identify what you want, and be brave enough to work for it. Show Notes:
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Sep 02, 2022 |
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Alternative Relationships w/ Nico Tortorella + Jason Ellis
48:34
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a sexually fluid relationship? As in, you and your partner discuss bisexuality openly…either yours, theirs, or both? What about having multiple partners? Or trying a threesome together? Are these possibilities you’d consider, or are you like: NO THANK U, NEXT! Well on today’s best-of show, I’ve got two individuals who can tell you exactly what it’s like to be in a successful, alternative relationship. First you’ll hear from actor/model Nico Tortorella on navigating bisexuality, how sex changed once they got sober, and what it’s like for them to fall for someone outside of their primary partnership. Next, you’ll hear from MMA fighter, fellow podcaster and Aussie fan fave Jason Ellis on how he and his fiance (now wife) conduct a radically open relationship, why he’s thrilled for another man to give her sexual pleasure, and his best recommendations for your first threesome. Come for the open minds, stay for the sex tips. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 31, 2022 |
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Conscious, Casual Sex
33:33
Casual sex gets a bad rap. We associate it with hookup culture, with disposability, with mindless Tinder swipes. But it doesn’t have to be that way: when approached with an intentional, conscious mindset, casual sex can be exactly what you need to feel erotic and energized again. The key? Knowing yourself – and knowing precisely what you want to get out of your casual sex experience. On today’s show, I parse out all the different types of casual sex out there, and offer some research that may surprise you. Next, I discuss how you know if casual sex is right for you, and when it’s best to say, “no thank you.” Finally, I coach you on how to make your casual sex encounters fulfilling, with maturity, self-awareness, and of course – an orgasm or two. Or ten. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 26, 2022 |
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3 Ways to Boost Your Sexual Confidence
34:53
What’s holding you back in bed? We’ve all got our pain points: body image, not being able to tell your partner what you want, feeling embarrassed to make noise or express yourself. But I asked you how you overcame sexual insecurities, and you came back with SOLID advice. So on today’s show, along with my advice, we’re spreading the sexual confidence gospel using tips from the Sex With Emily community. First, we get into body image: how to hack your brain to feel more comfortable in your skin. Next, I talk about my favorite subject: communicating with your partner, to create a culture of sex positivity. Finally, I’ve got a particularly juicy tip to help you let go in bed and express yourself without inhibition — to hear it, just take a listen to this episode. Show Notes:
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Aug 23, 2022 |
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How to Build a Sex Room w/ Melanie Rose
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If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the new Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations. From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of these are client-approved sex innovations, but the show has a touching side too. You get to see all kinds of clients, from suburbanites to polycules, parents to long-distance couples, discuss their fantasies and sexual desires – some of them for the very first time. And you know I’m all about that. Show Notes:
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Aug 19, 2022 |
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Boss in the Streets, Sub in the Sheets
29:57
Let’s get sexually adventurous, people. On today’s hotline calls show, you’re bringing the novelty, and I am one hundred percent here for it. Jumping right in: can you use the same sex toy with multiple partners? Let’s find out. If you’re in your 20s and hooking up with a much older woman, is that ok? Or what if you’re all about female empowerment, except you ARE a female, and you DO want to be choked and spanked in bed? Finally: there’s a first time for everything, so should you tell a partner that you’ve never had penetration before? Or what if you’re married, and ready to experience your first open relationship – except your spouse isn’t on-board? All this and more on a particularly juicy hotline calls show. Show Notes:
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Aug 16, 2022 |
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Live, Laugh, Stop Being Codependent w/ Adam Ferrara
36:54
Gotta love relationship advice delivered in a thick New York accent. I’ve got Adam Ferrara on the show today, and we’re healing your emotional triggers so you can have thriving interpersonal connections. Capiche? Adam and I talk meditation and breathwork for anxiety, the difference between responding and reacting to your partner, how to cultivate a felt sense of your emotions, and the difference between worry and responsibility. As a self-described co-dependent, Catholic Italian, Adam is as real as it gets about getting vulnerable and doing self-work, so you can experience better love, sex, and communication. We also help a caller in her 20s get more selfish in the bedroom – because when it comes to sex, selfishness can be a real virtue. Show Notes: More Adam Ferrara: Youtube Comedy Special | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 12, 2022 |
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It’s Open (Relationship) Season w/ Dr. Wednesday Martin
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Let’s talk about non-monogamy! In the nearly two decades since I’ve been doing the show, I’ve never gotten so much interest in this topic as I am right now. Which is why I’m joined today by cultural anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin, who in addition to researching non-monogamy for her books and articles, has first-hand experience opening up her own marriage. On today’s episode, Wednesday reveals what modern sex research shows about female sexuality and long-term, monogamous relationships: a woman’s desire typically wanes between year 1 to 4. In addition, Wednesday and I discuss the difference between non-monogamy, swinging and polyamory, how to go about finding a partner outside of your primary relationship, how to set rules, and the surprising ways opening up improved her own partnership. Show Notes:
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Aug 09, 2022 |
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All About Anal
45:26
Have you ever tried anal play? Anal sex? Because if not, here’s my question to you…what’s holding you back? For most folks, the answer is fear. We’re scared it will hurt, scared that we don’t know what we’re doing, scared we’ll feel ashamed if we just so happen to love it. That’s why I’ve got two of the anal pleasure experts on the show today, to help demystify and destigmatize anal play, and help you open up yet another pathway to pleasure. Dr. Evan Goldstein and Alicia Sinclair talk to me about anal orgasms (not a myth), the importance of anal training, how to prepare hygienically, and how to strengthen the mind-booty connection for a successful, erotic anal experience. Show Notes:
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Aug 05, 2022 |
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Babe, Let’s Talk About Our Sex Life
22:42
If you’ve never talked about your sex life with your partner before, there’s a good chance they’ll push back. Why? Because most of us go into fight or flight mode when talking about sex: it’s not normalized in our culture, we get defensive, we feel like we’re being criticized. But never fear – you can create a culture of sex communication in your relationship, one talk at a time. Be the change, is what I’m saying. On today’s hotline show, I take your calls about having a sex talk. Like: telling your wife you want her to massage your prostate. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. How to relax into oral and give your partner tips to make you scream, and how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this episode, and see if your next sex talk isn’t a little bit easier. Show Notes:
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Aug 03, 2022 |
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Break Your Bad Dating Habits
41:09
Do you always have sex on the the first date? Do you always swipe right on people who aren’t good for you? What are your bad dating habits – and how can you break them? I asked you to tell me what negative dating patterns you’re trying to change, and you all delivered! On today’s show, I’m addressing your top dating problems so we can solve them together. Having sex too soon, trying to “fix” less-than-ideal partners, fear of asserting yourself, having misaligned expectations, the tendency to audition people for the role of life partner – we’re covering it all, so you can feel empowered with new partners and have an amazing time with existing partners. Show Notes:
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Jul 29, 2022 |
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Ejaculate Responsibly w/ Gabrielle Blair
57:38
When it comes to sex, why was the world set up so that vulva owners are the ones in charge of preventing a pregnancy? That’s the central question of a Twitter thread that went viral in 2018, and on today’s show I’ve got Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the author of that thread – and a forthcoming book, Ejaculate Responsibly – here to talk about it. I’m also joined by anthropologist, author, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin, to unpack this fascinating topic. In a post-Roe world, Gabrielle is calling for a wholesale shift in the way we think about pregnancy prevention: namely, by inviting penis owners and their bodies into the conversation. On today’s show, we talk condoms and sexual pleasure, how society pressures vulva owners to become mothers, how to talk to young men about ejaculating responsibly, why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies, and why Gabrielle – mother of six and a Mormon – is passionate about arguing that women’s lives matter, and so does their pleasure. One more thing: Can pre-ejaculate, or pre-cum, cause unwanted pregnancy? Pre-ejaculate actually does NOT contain sperm. However, any sperm remaining in the urethra from a previous ejaculation may be carried out with pre-cum which would have a chance of causing a pregnancy. The solution? Urinate before having sex to flush out any leftover sperm, and, as always, wear a condom! For more information, visit Teen Health Source. Show Notes:
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Jul 26, 2022 |
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Talkin’ Sex w/ My Therapist Dr Anadel Barbour
49:34
Anxiety, depression and low self-worth all block our sexual pleasure. But on a more fundamental level, they block us from showing up in the world the way we’d like: as confident, happy, sexy people. That’s why I invited my own therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour, to talk to us through healing those intrusive thoughts. If you’re ready, your internal work starts today. On this best-of episode, Dr. Barbour and I discuss EMDR therapy, the four foundations of mindfulness, how to physically move through trauma, healing shame, and how to know if you’re in constant fight or flight. We also touch on sex and pain, and mindfulness in and out of the bedroom. If you’ve ever considered therapy but are on the fence about it, I hope this episode gives you some encouragement – because healing emotional wounds can truly transform your sex life. Show Notes:
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Jul 22, 2022 |
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Honeymoon Sex 4ever
37:32
Ah, weddings. So ceremonial. So floral. After two years of postponements and cancellations, IRL weddings are back – but are all those newlyweds talking about their sex life? They probably should be! Married sex is full of tired, toxic cliches that I’m personally ready to bust. We don’t have to settle for absent or boring sex as we grow old together. So on today’s episode, I’m making the case for writing your sex vows before you walk down the aisle, helping you recreate honeymoon sex if you’ve been married for ages, and giving you a lay of the land culturally-speaking on how we’re thinking about sex and relationships now. Plus, I take your questions: how to navigate bisexuality in a straight marriage, what it means if you find yourself jealous at your friend’s weddings and how to bring back the spark…when the spark was a little dim in the first place. Show Notes:
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Jul 19, 2022 |
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Best of: No Shame, Just Sex w/ Erin Tillman
40:18
What cultural or religious programming do you have around sex? Even if you didn’t grow up in a church, sexual shame is – in so many ways – the air we breathe. But here’s the reality: you didn’t put those thoughts there. Someone else did. And on today’s show with guest Erin Tillman, we’re calling out those judgmental messages, and choosing the sex messaging that actually serves us. The result? A radically more authentic, more liberated sex life. As an inclusive dating coach, Erin is no stranger to shame – and she’s heard it all from her clients. Whether it was that one rude thing a partner said that haunted you for years, or a parent that told you masturbation was dirty, shame love to hide in the shadows…and hold you back in the bedroom. So on today’s show, Erin and I talk about how we healed our own sexual shame, dropped performative sex, and got comfortable with the word “no.” You’ll also learn the difference between “no” and “not yet” when it comes to dating, how to make good choices on dating apps, and how to flip your internal shame script. Show Notes:
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Jul 15, 2022 |
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Orgasms & Oral (No Penetration Required)
32:51
It’s a good time to expand our definition of sex. At the end of the day, sex is play for adults: it’s where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and eroticism with them. But so often, we assume that sex equals penetration, and here’s the problem with that: not everyone orgasms during penetration. Not everyone feels erotic during penetration! So let’s make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we? On today’s show, I’m talking up all the different types of non-penetrative sex – like mutual masturbation, sensual massage, toys, hand stuff – to help you break out of a conventional sex script, and have sex that’s more tailored to your personality and desires. Because you never have to take penetration off the table entirely…but what would happen if you took it off the table for a little while? (Hint: probably more orgasms.) Show Notes:
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Jul 12, 2022 |
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Best of: Curious Questions to Ask Your Partner w/ Jamye Waxman
34:52
How much do you know about your partner’s sexual language? Or your own sexual language? In this best of episode, sex educator, author and licensed therapist Jamye Waxman is here to talk about core erotic blueprints, sexual accelerators and brakes, and the sixth love language: space and freedom. Jamye and I talk through the communication skills you need to help your sexual connection thrive, because if resentment is the relationship killer…curiosity is the relationship healer. So in this show, you’ll learn how to turn your communication style from critical to curious, as you and your partner learn who you both are as erotic beings. Show Notes:
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Jul 08, 2022 |
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More Sex, Less Narcissism w/ Jenny Mollen
48:31
Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks? Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, host of the hilarious “Third Wheel with Jenny Mollen” podcast, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. On this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight. Show Notes:
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Jul 06, 2022 |
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Getting Over Your Sexual Fears
51:06
It’s my strong belief that pleasure is the antidote to fear, now and always. But when it comes to sex, we really can be our own worst enemies: what if my new partner sees me naked, and decides to jet? What if I try out some dirty talk, and my partner laughs at me? What if I approach someone cute…and they say ‘no thank you’? Fear can be crippling to our sex drive – but it can also be digested and processed. To do that, we can check the facts, we can remember that most things aren’t personal, and we can talk about our fears out loud. (Meditation helps too!) So on today’s best of episode, I’m talking to you all about YOUR sex fears: period sex, sharing a fetish with a new partner, old traumas, fear that you’ll never get over an ex, and much more to help you live YOUR most free, sexually healthy life. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 01, 2022 |
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Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T
55:25
Shaun T is host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but it was a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. On today’s show, Shaun T gives me his genius sex and arousal hacks, how he and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids, plus…his favorite kink. He also opens up about surviving childhood sexual assault, how he came to understand and accept his sexuality, and the trauma work he did to get to where he is today. Trust me: if you need an instant pick-me-up around your sex, sexuality, or your body, this is *the* conversation for you. Show Notes:
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Jun 28, 2022 |
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Best of: Orgasms & Hotline Calls
33:27
Despite their reputation as magical, mysterious events, orgasms are way more accessible than most of us realize, once we understand the science behind them. (And OK yeah, I admit – they’re pretty magical.) As everyone’s favorite muscle spasm, the orgasm is a series of contractions from your pelvic floor muscles, which all of us have, and all of us can strengthen. But what else sets you up for orgasmic success? What if you can experience one alone, but not with a partner? What if you can orgasm in your sleep, but not in waking life? And what if you want to experience different kinds of orgasm (like anal) or, want multiples? I say: be greedy with your orgasm and listen to this best of episode, where we answer all these O questions and more. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 24, 2022 |
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What’s Your Arousal Type?
34:38
What do you need to get in the mood for sex? Have a lively conversation? Be touched in a suggestive way? Put on something sexy…or, have your partner get dressed up for you? Today’s episode is all about arousal styles, and today, I’ll be looking at five. The science of sexual arousal is ever-evolving, but on this show I’m looking at some of the most common ways people get turned on (through conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure), helping you ID what your style is, and what behaviors you can do in the moment to get it going. Kind of like love languages, but for sex. I’m also talking about the difference between arousal and desire, and, taking your questions! How to have sex when you’re stressed, anti-depressants numbing out your vulva, and if it’s OK to be more excited for masturbation than partnered sex. Show Notes:
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Jun 22, 2022 |
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Best of: How to Initiate Sex
43:34
It’s one of the most common questions I get: how do I initiate sex the right way? Listen: there’s no one “right” way to initiate sex. But I’ll be honest, it might take a little warm up period to get everyone ready and on the same page. That’s because sex is just as much a head game as a body one, so in this episode, we’re helping you calm your nerves before initiation, recover from failed initiations, and walk into each sexual encounter with more confidence. At the end of the day, we all crave intimacy, and we all want to please our partners – and by the end of this episode, I think you’ll feel much more clear on how to arouse your partner.
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Jun 17, 2022 |
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You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 2
28:04
What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? It’s part 2 of our “You’re Kinkier Than You Think” series…and folks, we are getting a kinky education. On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions. Show Notes:
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Jun 15, 2022 |
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Summer Sex Vibes
33:58
What would the world be like if we didn’t have shame about sex? Can you imagine how different your life would be, if you were told that sexual pleasure was healthy? If you were given the memo early on that masturbation was legit self-care, and that sex itself was joyful and good for you, rather than a one-way ticket to STI’s and unwanted pregnancy? Today’s best-of show is all about being the change we want to see in the world: becoming people who are conversant and comfortable discussing sex, because this is how we evolve people. Plus, I take your calls! Why using toys during sex is the literal best, what the hell a “lube shooter” is, and how to lovingly - persuasively - ask your partner for more oral. Show Notes:
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Jun 10, 2022 |
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You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 1
31:08
When you hear the words “BDSM” and “kink,” what comes to mind? Leather? Whips? The truth is, all of us are a little kinky – you may just not have realized it yet. That’s why today’s episode is part 1 of a two-part BDSM and kink education series, where I help demystify this world and give you fun, safe options for exploring. Dungeons optional. First, we’re defining our terms and getting a grasp on kink and BDSM – including, what the hell “BDSM” actually means. Next, we’re taking a look at core desires to help you identify yours, and talking about the psychology of power and play. Finally, I’m giving you some entry-level ways to bring kink to the bedroom, whether you’re coupled or single…and, answering all of your kinky questions. Show Notes:
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Jun 07, 2022 |
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Penis Problems, Solved
45:40
Whether it’s erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or a slight penis curve, it’s common to have penis questions – especially when they’re affecting your sex life. But where do you go for answers? You come right here, to this informative convo between me and urologist Dr. Edward Karpman, as well as Jeff Abraham of Promescent.
On this best-of show, we’re talking to you all about penis shockwave therapy, what to do when you can get erect (but aren’t climaxing), what to do when you take ED meds (but aren’t getting hard), and much more. Plus, I take your intimacy questions! How to get out of your head during sex, how to reduce anxiety in the run-up to intercourse, and how to effectively work with your penis as you get older.
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Jun 03, 2022 |
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How to Talk To Teens About Sex
34:01
If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? Yes. You absolutely should, even if it’s awkward, even if your own parents didn’t talk about it with you. (And let’s be real: they probably didn’t.) But I get it – finding the words can be hard, especially for such a touchy subject. That’s why today’s episode is devoted entirely to giving you tools, scripts and resources to help you. First, I give you the big why: Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation? I’ll give you several science-backed reasons why it’s wise to do so. Next, we’ll do some masturbation myth-busting, to help alleviate any concerns, on their part or yours, that it’s harmful or unhealthy. Great news: it’s not! And finally, I’ll walk you through how to have this conversation, with specific verbiage you can use to help put yourself and your child at ease. Don’t worry caregivers: I got you, and in this episode I’ll also answer your questions about teens and sex. Should you talk to your teen about ethical porn? What should you do if a teen daughter starts asking about sex toys? All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes:
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May 31, 2022 |
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Become a Wordslut w/ Amanda Montell
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On any given day, how do you talk about sex? Do you bone? Screw? Make love? According to my guest Amanda Montell, author of Wordslut, Cultish, and host of the podcast “Sounds Like a Cult,” the words we use to discuss sex reveals our attitudes about sex as a whole – even shaping the way we show up in the bedroom. In this fascinating best of episode, Amanda and I talk about sex slang and body part euphemisms, like the fact that we frequently cute-ify female genitals to make them less threatening. But before you go, “oh this is thinky academic stuff,” know this: practically-speaking, your sex life WILL improve as your communication improves. Listen in, as Amanda and I play with language to get the sex we want. For More Amanda Montell:
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May 27, 2022 |
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Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 2)
32:33
How exactly does masturbation help a sexual partnership? Let me count the ways… It’s Part 2 of our Masturbation Pro Tips series, and in today’s episode, we’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and: “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 25, 2022 |
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Make Missionary Sex Hot
30:36
Missionary gets a bad rap. I’ve seen it called the “comfy sweater” of sex – and can we talk about the name? Not sexy. Almost…anti-sexy. But despite its label, I don’t think that’s why missionary is considered vanilla or boring. It’s simply the default position, the one a lot of us fall into automatically – making it easier for us to tune out, phone it in, and miss out on any potential eroticism. So on today’s episode, we’re going to make missionary more exploratory, as I address some of your common complaints. Such as: how do we make it more exciting? I’ll tell you all the reasons I love missionary, and give you technique tips to make it more surprising and fun. Next, vulva owners: are you having a hard time reaching orgasm in missionary? Of course you are: it’s not the prime position for clitoral stimulation, so I’ll offer position hacks that make it more pleasurable. Finally, is it possible to be kinky during missionary? Oh yeah: from bondage to dirty talk, we can leverage all that eye contact to turn it into the hot experience you crave. Show Notes: Missionary Sex Position - New and Improved The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr Evan Goldstein Position Breakdown: Doggy Style Vs Cat Position Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 20, 2022 |
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Radical Confidence is Sexy w/ Lisa Bilyeu
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Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today. In her new book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a longterm relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner. Show Notes:
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May 17, 2022 |
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The Truth about Sex Addiction w/ Marnie Breecker
34:46
So listen: is sex addiction real? We’ve all heard stories of infidelity followed by explanations of sex addiction as the reason for the behavior. But the truth is, just because someone cheats doesn’t mean they’re a sex addict. According to therapist Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing, sex addiction is indeed real: it’s an intimacy disorder with both emotional and physiological symptoms. On this best of show, Marnie and I talk about the common and compulsive behaviors of sex addiction, the deep human need for love and connection, affordable treatment options, love addiction, a how-to on IMAGO therapy (a great tool for communication) and healing steps for couples. Show Notes:
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May 13, 2022 |
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Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 1)
29:50
Did you know that masturbation helps you sleep better? Tones your pelvic floor? And – surprise – boosts your immunity? But let’s be honest: these aren’t exactly the main reasons people masturbate. You masturbate because it’s pleasurable, but as the OG form of self-care, masturbation delivers all kinds of benefits, physically and psychologically. That’s why today’s show kicks off a two-part masturbation series, and later in the month, we’ll look at how masturbation benefits a partnership. On today’s episode however, it’s all about YOU: common masturbation fantasies, how to mix up a stale masturbation routine, how to make your solo sex more erotic, and how to practice mindful masturbation. Plus, I take your questions! Can a vibrator desensitize your clitoris? All this and more on Part 1 of our Masturbation Pro Tips Series. Show Notes:
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May 10, 2022 |
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Sex Hacks for Moms w/ Dana Myers
48:32
There’s a misconception out there, that once women become moms, their sexiest years are OVER. But as my guest Dana Myers explains, that’s nonsense – and as a mom, she can prove it. Dana is the founder of sex and beauty brand Booty Parlor, but she’s also a wife and mother to two children. On today’s throwback show, she shares secrets from her book “The Mommy Mojo Makeover” to help women rediscover their sensual self-confidence, fall back in love with their bodies, and masturbate for self-care. We also talk about resentment in a relationship (and how to fix it), and why mothers deserve a sense of sexual entitlement. Yes moms: you deserve sexual pleasure! If you want more of it – or know a mom who might – this is a can’t miss conversation. For More Dana B Myers: Booty Parlor | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Try Dana’s pheromone fragrance & use code DANA15 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 06, 2022 |
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Sex Fantasies Turned Sex Realities
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If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: communication is a lubrication. But today I’ve got the receipts: previous callers who took my communication advice called back, to give us a status report! On today’s best of show, I’m letting you listen in on my callers’ sex lives after they took the brave but vulnerable step of talking to their partners. We’ve got a longtime married couple, with a husband who wants more kink in bed; a success story of treating vaginal pain; a newlywed who brought BACK the spark with his man after incorporating role play, and a mom who never had any sex guidance growing up…and is now doing things radically different with her teen daughter. All of them are living proof that better sex starts with communication, so listen now, get inspired, and let their sex-cess motivate you to have a sex talk of your own. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 03, 2022 |
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Best of: Audio Porn w/ Caroline Spiegel
28:23
Audio porn is one of the most brilliant sex tech innovations of the past few years. It’s immersive, discreet, and super intimate – you literally feel like you’re in the room with people who are having sex. Plus…it’s a great way to ratchet up your own dirty talk or your masturbation routine. So on today’s best of episode, I’m sharing my conversation with Caroline Spiegel, creator of Quinn: an audio erotica app that was one of the first to market. We talk about audio porn and solo sex, how to use audio erotica with a partner, and a special bonus! Caroline and I listen to some audio erotica together, including a guided masturbation clip. Plus, we take your questions like, enjoying porn as a blind individual, how to embrace a naturally sexy voice, and – wild card – can you really be allergic to semen? Find out on today’s show. More Try Quinn: Website | Apple App Store | Android App Store | Instagram | Twitter Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 29, 2022 |
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Therapy: The Relationship Game-Changer
35:48
Just like going to the gym improves your body, going to therapy improves your mind. And bonus: couple’s counseling can radically improve your relationship and your sex life. So why do some people absolutely refuse to go? On today’s show, I’m giving you the therapy low-down, so you can decide whether you should try it – or, if it’s the right call for you and your partner. I’m talking: signs it’s time to look for a therapist, pros and cons of solo therapy vs. couple’s counseling, whether sex therapy is right for you, what to expect from a typical therapy session, and how to find therapy that works for you – including budget-friendly options. Plus, I take your therapy-related questions on porn addiction, sexual trauma and what to do if you tried to improve your sex life with your partner…but they cheated anyway. Show Notes:
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Apr 27, 2022 |
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Hottest Hotline Calls
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When you’re desperate to fix your sex life with your partner, what do you do? (You call me, of course.) Maybe the sex started hot, but got real boring. Or maybe you and your crush are finally hooking up…but the sex is meh, and it’s a huge letdown. What now? On today’s Best Of hotline show, I’m sharing some of my favorite listener questions and letting you listen in as we talk through solutions. We’ve got sex-stonewalling partners. Compersion vs. cuckholding. A self-described “lazy lover.” Bisexuality, plus a squirting tutorial. Trust me, if you’ve got the right communication skills, you can talk through anything: and on this episode, I help you make those sex talks way less gnarly. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 22, 2022 |
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Sex and the Senses
43:00
When it comes to sex, a lot of us have a movie in our head about the way it “should” go down. I should look a certain way. They should kiss me a certain way. We should have epic orgasms. In other words, picture perfect... But here’s the real real: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you can get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your five senses. Together we can remove the mental blocks from orgasm. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, these are sensory tools you can use to seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O. Plus, I take your questions: how to talk dirty without swearing, how to bring back an MIA orgasm, how to stop disassociating during sex and much more. Show Notes:
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Apr 20, 2022 |
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Best Of: Boundaries Are Hot W/ Dr. Jennifer Freed
57:18
To create our hottest, most fulfilling sex life, there’s one critical thing we need – and no, it’s not flavored lube. We need boundaries, and the ability to express them to others. But what is a “boundary,” exactly? As a buzzword and an emerging concept, boundaries can improve every relationship, sexual or otherwise. So on today’s best-of show, sex therapist, author and my dear friend Dr. Jennifer Freed and I help you figure out what your boundaries are, how to set them with others (and follow through), and how to NOT let people steamroll over your values…especially when you’re a people pleaser. For more Dr Jennifer Freed: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 15, 2022 |
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Best of: Coming Together w/ Celeste and Danielle
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What do you actually want to feel during sex? On today’s best-of episode, my friends Celeste Hirshman & Danielle Harel, co-authors of Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility, help reveal your core desires – your personal, psychological motivation for having sex, and how to get that feeling in the moment. Celeste, Danielle and I talk about how sex can be a medicine for old wounds we felt growing up: whether you want to feel powerful, special, even degraded in bed – it all goes back to our personal history, and what we’re looking for when we have sex. We also talk about creating your hottest sexual movie, how to perform sexual breathing, and why – if you want sex to last in a long-term relationship – you really have to do this core desire work. It’s a can’t miss episode of sexual wisdom, whether you’re single, partnered, or simply want to know what gets you hot. For more Celeste, Danielle & Somatica Institute:
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Apr 13, 2022 |
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Intimacy & Infidelity
34:49
Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions on trust and infidelity: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity. Show Notes:
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Apr 09, 2022 |
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How to Date These Days
40:44
So you’re ready to date. Fantastic! But are you feeling a little rusty on flirting? Making the first move? And, real talk: how’s your dating app profile? Today’s show is your dating primer 101, so you can walk into every date knowing exactly what you want: whether it’s a long-term partner, or a just-for-the-night hookup. I’m talking how to meet people, how to make sexy conversations, how to take your best dating app pics, and what people are looking for when they’re on a date. Plus, I take your questions! How to feel more confident saying “yes” to dates, how to express your intentions around sex, when to bring sex toys into the bedroom and much more. Show Notes:
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Apr 06, 2022 |
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Best of: Network & Chill w/ Jordan Harbinger
43:30
When it comes to relationships across the board – from sex, to work, to friendships – do you actually know what impression you’re having on others? Especially when you first meet someone? In this best of show, I’m throwing it back to my conversation with fellow podcaster Jordan Harbinger, who gets real on social behaviors and the power of body language. Jordan and I talk about the difference between authenticity and hustling, confidence while dating, and the shocking power of nonverbal communication. He coaches us on developing open, positive body postures, and helps all of us walk into a room with charisma and curiosity. For More Jordan Harbinger Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 02, 2022 |
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A+ Oral Sex for Vulvas
48:36
Is there a vulva owner in your life you’d love to treat? By giving them the best oral sex of their life? You’ve come to the right place. Whether or not you’re with someone currently, or simply want to brush up on your oral skills for the future, it’s never a bad time to sharpen your pleasure techniques. After the blow job episode I did earlier this month I promised that you’d get an oral sex show specifically for vulvas – and it’s here. In today’s episode, I’m talking you through everything you need to know to deliver A+ oral sex, specifically for vulvas. I’m teaching how to tease, how to use your tongue, how to perform the Kivin method, and how to stimulate the famous G-spot. Plus, I take your questions! What to do if you desperately want oral but your partner isn’t too keen on giving. How to let go of potential insecurities and truly enjoy receiving. What to do when your hygiene concerns are getting in the way of pleasure, How to reduce discomfort while giving. Plus, how to give your partner pointers on what you like and tips for a squirting experience. Show Notes:
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Mar 30, 2022 |
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The Breakup Bounce Back
48:54
Breakups completely, fundamentally suck – full stop. Especially if you’re still connected to the person: you still live together, you share friends, or…you can’t stop fantasizing about them sexually. And that’s because breakups function exactly like withdrawal: this other person was a drug of sorts, and now, you can’t get your hit. But breakups also teach us a lot about ourselves, especially if that person was annoyingly awesome in bed. So in this episode, we’re looking at the psychology of breakups, empowering ways to cope and move on, and most importantly, how to keep nurturing your sexuality while you heal. Plus, I take your questions! How to move on from a hookup partner who’s not ready for a relationship, what it means when you’re sexting with an ex, how to do the friendship custody battle after a breakup, and how to break up when you know it’s the right thing to do…but you’re terrified to do it. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 25, 2022 |
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Best of: Big Mouths and Better Sex (Talks) w/ Gil Ozeri
47:33
If you are someone who had substandard sex ed as a young person (all of us?), you are going to love this throwback episode with Gil Ozeri, comedian, actor, and writer for the very popular show “Big Mouth”. Growing up with adults who avoided the sex talk like the plague, Gil discusses the shame that can result...shame a lot of us still carry. That’s why “Big Mouth” (now in Season 5 on Netflix) takes the awkward experience of adolescence, demystifies it, and helps all of us get the answers we wish we’d gotten back then — while being super funny. If you’ve got a young person in your life, this episode is a must-listen. Gil and I take a dive into our own hormonal teen years, how to make sex ed more relatable, and tips for post-baby sex…because why not? I also take your questions: how to give a better blowjob, how to make FaceTime sex hot, and how to get your sexual connection back after the spark has died. For More Gil Ozeri: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 23, 2022 |
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Daddy Issues w/ Violet Benson
41:29
I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the new podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice. In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! For More Violet:
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Mar 18, 2022 |
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Best Blow Job Ever
41:19
We’re talking about blow jobs. It’s an oral sex masterclass, and you’re invited.On today’s episode, I’m sharing everything you need to know about oral sex on a penis. Also, I take your blow job questions: where to start as a beginner, how to enjoy receiving, what to know when pleasuring an uncircumcised penis and what to do if you’re struggling to swallow. Don’t blow off this episode. Together, we can bring your oral sex game to the next level. Show Notes:
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Mar 16, 2022 |
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Your Guide to Sexting
27:46
A great sext is all about anticipation…kind of like foreplay: And as the 21st century way to talk dirty, sexting — when executed well — can be super hot. Sexting is an art form, and in this show, I give you pro tips for perfecting yours. Because let’s face it: randomly sending a bunch of squirting emojis might not be as sexy as it is confusing, for the person on the other side. As with everything in life, good sexting comes down to emotional intelligence, so let’s talk shop. This episode is designed to help you send your best sext, and excite the person receiving your message. Plus, I take your questions! How to start flirting online, how to manage your devices so your messages don’t accidentally end up in the wrong place and how to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship. Finally, the Sex With Emily community has delivered, and I’m sharing YOUR hottest sexts. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 11, 2022 |
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Orgasm with a Capital O
51:19
Let the pulsations begin, because today’s episode is a love letter to your orgasm – and all the ways we can dose your body with pleasure. First, we’re helping you understand, anatomically, just what the hell is going on with the big O. And for my never-had-an-orgasm friends we’re going to give you techniques to help you get there. Finally, we’re offering tricks to elevate your orgasm, with everything from easy hacks to long-term rituals, to achieve the deep pleasure you crave. Plus we take all your orgasm questions! What to do when you can’t orgasm with your partner, how to break the habit of faking orgasms, how to bring back an orgasm that’s suddenly disappeared, and how to achieve the holy grail of multiple O’s. Show Notes:
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Mar 09, 2022 |
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Friends With Benefits: A Guide
38:44
Are you cut out for friends with benefits? If you crave regular sex, but don’t have capacity for a full-on relationship, an FWB arrangement could be just what the doctor ordered. But there’s a lot you should know before diving in! For some, FWB’s can be a super satisfying way to get your needs met, without the commitment of a traditional partnership. However, just because it’s not “traditional” doesn’t mean there aren’t rules of engagement, boundaries, and lots of communication. In this episode, I help you self-assess to figure out if you’re a good candidate for FWB, explain how FWB’s are qualitatively different from casual sex and hook-ups, and hacks to live your best FWB life. Show Notes:
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Mar 04, 2022 |
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Best of: Sex Tips I Wish I Knew In My 20s
47:57
Sexual wisdom (like all wisdom) is self-awareness plus lived experience. But I hear from people in their 20s all the time who are shockingly self-aware – they just haven’t stacked enough life experience to know how to navigate sex as it applies to them. So maybe that’s you, or maybe you're not in your 20s…but feel like you missed out on some sexual basics. If that’s you, gather ‘round, because this best-of episode is devoted to all the killer advice I wish I’d been given in my 20s. Whether it’s figuring out what your turn-ons are, what to do when a partner constantly cheats, or how to try anal (one word: lube), I’m answering all of your ground zero sex questions today. We get into all of that, plus how to approach your first threesome, how to seek out couple’s therapy (yes: you can do it in your 20s!), and how to communicate your deepest desires in the bedroom. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 01, 2022 |
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The Secrets to Happier Sex w/ Dr. Amen
30:43
You’ve probably heard that the brain is the largest sex organ in your body. But can you really hack your brain for happiness? Or better sex? Psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen has amassed the world’s largest database of brain scans, and studies that information to reveal something fascinating: using neuroscience-based habits, we have the power to radically improve our mental health, our mood, and yes – our sex lives. Dr. Amen’s latest book is You, Happier, and on this episode, he reveals the lies of happiness, the stress hormones impeding your sex hormones, how to focus on micro-moments of happiness, and strategies for protecting yourself from the “noise” in your head. He also explains why happy people tend to live longer, have better relationships, be more successful in their careers…and, let’s face it, have way hotter sex. Listen now, to learn how to master your mind, and reap the rewards. More Dr. Daniel Amen
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Feb 25, 2022 |
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How to Build Sexual Tension
32:20
Let’s talk sexual tension and seduction, people. Maybe you’re single, and trying to brush up on your flirting skills. Or perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship, and frustrated that you don’t entice each other like you used to. Either way, I’m going to teach you how to build (or rebuild) sexual tension. At its core, seduction itself is about creating sexual tension, and to pull that off, we need a few things at our disposal, like confidence and radical presence. It’s a sexy sort of restraint, where your behavior is suggestive (not explicit), and your vibe is patient (not desperate). So today’s episode is all about sharpening our skills in the sexy and suggestive department. Plus, I take your questions, like how to make the first move, how to turn sexual banter into actual sex, and much, much more. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 23, 2022 |
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Fire Up Your Fantasies w/ Elle Chase
48:43
Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits. Plus, we take your questions! How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it), what to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross, how to talk about your kink to a new partner and much more. For More Elle Chase: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Elle’s Naughty Coloring Book | Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase | Elle’s Fantasy Course Show Notes:
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Feb 18, 2022 |
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Unf*ck Your Relationship w/ Gary Bishop
48:19
When you keep running into the same relationship (or sex) problems over and over again, what’s the one common denominator? Brace yourself…because it’s you. You’re the thing that carries over from partnership to partnership, which is why Gary Bishop, author of the crazy bestseller “Unfu*k Yourself” decided to write a new book – a tough love spin on self-help. It’s called “Love Unfu*ked: Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together,” and I invited him to chat with me about it. In this interview, Gary and I talk about how to become aware of our destructive relationship habits, and concrete ways to manage them. He tells me the one simple change he made with his current partner that transformed their relationship, and we go deep on feeling threatened: the fight or flight response that inhibits emotional intimacy, not to mention our best sex. But we also talk about the hopeful side of radical self-awareness, and the opportunity in front of us, when we step outside of ourselves, look at our patterns, and change them – to create room for the pleasurable connections we all want. For More Information About Gary Bishop: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 15, 2022 |
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The Secrets of Sexual Attraction
32:05
Today’s show is all about exploring sexual attraction; what it means and how does it fit into romantic love. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll better understand how and why YOU may feel sexually attracted to another person and how that can sometimes be distinct from feelings associated with long-term love. Plus, I take your questions! What to do when you’re straight, but kinda wanna hook up in a non-straight way, what to do when you and your partner are both submissive (and both crave dominance), how to bring back the spark, and when you should hang onto a friend with quality benefits – and, when to let them go. Show Notes:
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Feb 11, 2022 |
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Anal Tips & Prostate Play: A Beginner’s Guide
48:30
Let’s talk anal play! If you’re a booty newbie, where do you begin? What feel-good nerve endings are you looking for? Should you start alone, or with a partner? And how the hell do you go shopping for butt plugs? Listen: if you’ve got backdoor questions, my guests Dr. Charlie Glickman and Dr. Hernando Chaves have answers. Today’s best-of episode is THE anal 101 primer, and if you’re not butt-curious now…you will be, in less than an hour. Listen up for tips to stimulate the prostate (AKA the male G-spot), how to prepare hygienically, finger techniques for prostate massage, and how anal play can add so much crazy pleasure to your sex life, no matter your gender. Show Notes:
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Feb 09, 2022 |
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Adrenaline & Arousal
45:30
How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right? So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so that you can reignate the spark when you’re back inside. Show Notes:
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Feb 04, 2022 |
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Say Goodbye to Awkward Sex
47:22
As much as we’d like sex to be seamlessly hot all the time, sometimes…it gets a little awkward. Too much teeth during a blowjob. An erection that won’t last. Someone farts! It happens - and when it does, it can seriously derail the mood. But does it have to? I’m of the opinion that if we know how to respond during moments like these – with compassion, collaboration, and sometimes a sense of humor – an erotic moment doesn’t have to come to an abrupt halt. So on today’s show, I’m taking the point of view of someone who didn’t “do” the awkward thing, they witnessed it. And by the end, you’ll know how to hold space, how to handle situations like these, and not shame the person on the other side – so you can keep the party going, and continue having fantastic sex. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 02, 2022 |
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Top 10 Most Popular Sex Topics
37:49
Nothing makes me happier than people taking pleasure into their own hands, so my team and I have assembled the 10 MOST popular articles on SexWithEmily.com and we are dedicating this episode to the things our listeners most want to hear. Spoiler alert: you all love porn. And giving pleasure. I see what you’re interested in, I see what you’re curious about – so I consider today’s show scripted by you. It’s a deep dive into our most read articles; whether it’s preparing for a threesome, mastering awkward sex positions, or learning how to squirt. So buckle up, because this is quite the content-filled episode. Alright, let’s dive in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 28, 2022 |
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Hotter (Solo) Sex
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When you hear the phrase “self-care,” what comes to mind? Bubble baths? Booking a massage? Those things are all lovely (I’d argue essential), but I’ve got one more thing to add to your self-care routine, and I’m going to make a case for it: solo sex, AKA masturbation. If you’re a regular listener to this show, you know how much of a solo sex advocate I am. But we’re going to go a little deeper into this topic, because there’s still a lot of shame associated with masturbation: fear of getting caught, embarrassment about our noises and facial expressions, confusion around toys and which ones are best. That’s why today’s show is your Solo Sex 101, where we create a solo sex routine that works for you, get into all the ways solo sex nourishes your mental health, and how to get into the right headspace for it. Plus, I take your questions! When masturbation feels depressing, how do you learn to love it? Or when you’re asked to masturbate in front of your partner, but feel self-conscious about it, what do you do? I tackle these questions and so many more, on our solo sextravaganza. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 26, 2022 |
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Best of: Doggy Style Tricks & Performance Tips
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Let’s cut right to the chase: doggy style is hot-looking, but is it hot-feeling? I can’t tell you how many questions I get about this position, mostly from people who are confused…wondering if they’re doing it wrong. You’re not! You may just need to tweak it a bit, to make it work for your body. So on today’s show, I give you my favorite doggy style hacks, because let’s be honest — no one wants a broken penis. Let’s avoid the ER, and give you the hot doggy style sex you deserve. Plus, I take your questions! Is polyamory more natural than monogamy? What should you do if you catch feelings for your friend-with-benefits? Is it really cheating if you have a no-sex kink session with an old flame? And finally — body dysmorphia of the vulva. Do you have it? Friends: let me help you love it! Don’t buy the hype, by which I mean false standards. I tell you exactly how to make your vulva a MUCH-deserved object of your affection. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 21, 2022 |
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Talk Tantric Sex To Me
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Here in the 21st century, we’re fascinated by something that was invented in the 7th century: tantra, and more specifically, tantric sex. But it’s also one of the most misunderstood practices around, starting with: it’s not just about sex! Tantra is an entire world of spirituality, intimacy, breathwork and presence, which is precisely why I have Barbara Carellas, founder of Urban Tantra, on the show with me today. A pioneer in the world of tantric healing practices, Barbara gives us the real deal on these sacred techniques – and shows us how we can use them in the modern world, for full body pleasure, higher states of consciousness, and a radically deeper connection with your partner. Plus, I take your questions! How do you stay in the present moment during sex, and not disassociate while it’s happening – or, get so nervous that you block all the pleasure? I’ve got some thoughts on that. For More Information on Barbara: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 19, 2022 |
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Take Your Sex Life from Stale to Sexy, Part 2
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When it comes to sex in longterm relationships, why do they start hot, then go lukewarm? Why does our eroticism go dormant, once the newness of a relationship wears off? And what are some specific strategies for bringing back the heat we desperately long for? It’s part 2 in our Best Of special on taking your sex life from stale to sexy, and I can’t wait to let you listen in on my conversations with John Wineland and Esther Perel, and a bit of wisdom from Tom Bilyeu. John is a relationship coach specializing in polarity and embodiment, and for this show, I’ve selected his most potent advice on hot sex. According to John, getting in touch with our masculine and feminine energies – regardless of gender – has the power to transform the way we show up in bed. Next, I talk to Esther Perel, well recognized couples therapist, author and fellow podcaster, who explains how a couple’s sex life loses its passion. Our partners become reliable and safe, which is great for a relationship, but according to Esther…not always great for sex. So how do we revive the mystery, the risk, and a sense of adventure with our partners? Listen for the sensual techniques she uses to help couples get back in touch with their hungry side. Finally, Impact Theory’s Tom Bilyeu dishes on desire – and why attraction for other people is not death for a relationship. Show Notes: John Wineland | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Esther Perel | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Tom Bilyeu | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 14, 2022 |
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Take Your Sex Life from Stale to Sexy, Part 1
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It’s the #1 question I get as a sex educator: “our sex life is stale, how do we make it hot again?” For long-term couples, this issue is so common it’s almost a cliche. “Once you’re married, say goodbye to your sex life! Haha!” Except, it’s not funny, right? It’s actually pretty painful, once the new relationship energy wears off, and we no longer have that magical chemical cocktail running through our veins. That’s why I am so pleased to be doing a two-part, Best Of special on this precise topic, kicking things off with sex educator Ian Kerner, author of the iconic book “She Comes First” and his latest, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex?” I’m also sharing advice from Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, who have led some of the most comprehensive studies on successful couples, and the key ingredients of their success. (Which includes a great sex life, of course.) I’m pulling out the best-of-the-best of their advice and techniques, so you can try them yourself, and create your own “arousal runway” to bring excitement back into your relationship and the bedroom. Show Notes: Ian Kerner | Website | Twitter | Books The Gottman Institute | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 11, 2022 |
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Your Guide to Squirting
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Squirting during sex: how, exactly, does it happen? Which body part controls it? And what the hell is it made out of? For vulva owners, squirting is a thing of mystery - but it doesn’t need to be. In this special Best Of episode, I’m giving you my tips and firsthand experience with squirting as well as highlights of my conversation with sex educator Deborah Sundahl, who teaches us exactly how to squirt -- and I mean, step by step. For example: did you know, vulva owners, that you have a prostate? That’s the g-spot, despite headlines you see every few months questioning its very existence. Also: did you know that clitoral orgasms and g-spot orgasms are two different things? Finally, with time and practice, did you know that EVERY vulva owner can squirt? It’s not magic -- it’s anatomy! Plus, I take your questions on squirting, from how to start, best positions to do it, and how to communicate to your partner what you want them to do. Show Notes:
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Jan 07, 2022 |
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Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags
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We’ve all heard of red flags in relationships, but let’s be honest: sometimes, they can be terribly hard to spot. Especially when you really want a relationship to work, or, if the other person is super hot. (Am I right?) That’s why I’m bringing you a special episode today, focused on all things red flags -- and green flags -- with my two favorite voices on the matter, psychologist and author Dr. Ramani, and YouTube’s (and probably the world’s) favorite dating coach, Matthew Hussey. Dr. Ramani and I take a deep dive on narcissism, and talk through things like love bombing, devaluation, and the different types of narcissists out there -- as well as the personality types who tend to fall for them. And if you’re thinking, “I wouldn’t possibly fall for that nonsense,” think again! These folks are master manipulators, and at their core, deeply insecure. Next, Matthew Hussey walks us through our own less-than-ideal tendencies, such as: why we keep going for aloof and unavailable people, how we repeat painful patterns from our childhood, and how we ignore someone’s inconvenient truth. But Matthew also tells us what to look for when we’re dating someone new, such as curiosity, equal investment, and consistency with words and actions. If you’re dating right now, listen to this episode -- twice. Show Notes: Dr Remani: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 04, 2022 |
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Sexy Self Improvement
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Anything worth having takes time, whether that’s a better sex life, a deeper relationship, or an awesome relationship with your body. But staying consistent is hard: we get bored, we get rebellious, we want to cut corners. We’re human, after all! That’s why, if we want to meet goals - ANY goal - we have to create rituals. And the key to sticking with them? Identifying your “why.” So on today’s Best Of show, I’m talking to Max Lugavere, host of The Genius Life podcast, and Jennifer Cohen, host of Habits and Hustle, to give us the lowdown on sexy self improvement. Max gives me the scoop on food addiction (and its similarities to porn addiction), how daily sunlight improves our health, and how processed food short circuits our satiety signals. Jennifer tells me the three habits successful people all have in common, how to get your partner on-board for working out, and the correlation between exercise and sex drive. Get out your grocery lists and gratitude journals, because after this episode, you’ll be totally inspired to start small habits for big self-growth. Show Notes: Max Lugavere | Website | Instagram | Facebook | Youtube Jen Cohen | Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 31, 2021 |
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The 10 Hottest Moments of 2021
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2021, we hardly knew ya. Just kidding, we totally did, and we’ve got the FaceTime sex to prove it. All year long, we’ve been saving up the very best moments of Sex With Emily, so you can walk into 2022 more sex-wise than ever. From squirting to sex dreams, Nikki Glaser to Esther Perel, we’re doing a hot flashback of YOUR most talked-about episodes. On this show, we’ve banked the top pieces of sex wisdom from hands-down incredible guests. Discover your dating style, locate the g-spot once and for all, and build your sexual confidence with some of the smartest (and funniest) voices out there. Before you create your New Year’s resolution list, be sure to listen to this one – because I guarantee you, their advice will elevate your 2022. Show Notes: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner Female Ejaculation & The G Spot by Deborah Sundahl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 28, 2021 |
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Boys, Sex and Masculinity w/ Peggy Orenstein
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Where do men get their earliest messages about sex and intimacy? Why do they talk about banging / pounding / hitting it (like they’re at a construction site), and how does this conditioning affect your sex life – no matter your gender? Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today’s fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about Boys & Sex: a fascinating account of young men as they navigate hookups, porn and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed. In this episode, you’ll learn how even in the shadow of #MeToo, boys are still confused about having mutually fulfilling sex, while still being a “man.” Listen - when it comes to masculinity, Peggy is an expert. She explains why she doesn’t love the term “toxic masculinity.” She recognizes that men get a confusing message: be dominant, but don’t be too aggressive. Reporting from the front lines of bro culture, Peggy reveals the sex conundrum that men so often find themselves in, and ways we can all evolve to have relationships that are more interesting, more erotic, and more emotionally intelligent. For More Information on Peggy Orenstein: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 24, 2021 |
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Body Confidence, Bisexuality & Better Sex
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To get our needs met, we first have to be able to articulate our needs – and be brave enough to share them out loud. But it’s easier said than done! We get worried about what the other person will say, or we don’t have the words to express what we want, so we bury those longings and wait for a better time. Then before we know it, years have passed, and that better time never arrived. We’re sexually frustrated and resentful, because we never had the sex talk that was crucial to our happiness…until now. On this show, we’re leaning into discomfort, so we can come out on the other side sexually satisfied. In other words: we’re learning how to have a sex talk! Even when it’s just with yourself. How do you cultivate positive self-talk, when everyone around you affirms your hotness - but your brain just doesn’t buy it? Or how about when one of you wants to have sex every day, and the other doesn’t: how do you communicate your way through mismatched desires? Finally, let’s get into improving the quality of your sex life with a partner: when the sex itself has become rote, routine, or just plain boring, how do you revive it? The first step is an open conversation, and on this episode, I’m giving you scripts and tools so you can get over those fears, and get into mutually satisfying pleasure. Show Notes: The Sex with Emily Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 21, 2021 |
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Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity w/ Wednesday Martin
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“Women cheat for emotional connection, men cheat for sex.” “Men are horn dogs, women are frigid.” Heard any of this before? Did you know these are factually untrue? In this fan favorite episode, cultural anthropologist and bestselling author Wednesday Martin joins me to talk about female sexuality research findings, now that more females are entering the field of sex research. Believe me when I say: her revelations will change your life. Wednesday’s book Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free was a major conversation starter. Today, we’re more open to alternative relationship models, and a huge part of that is because of Wednesday. In this conversation, she debunks the lies we’ve been told for decades about female sexuality, including: men just want to spread their seed, while women want to protect their precious eggs. Wrong! Turns out, monogamy is pretty rough on female desire. How about this one: women cheat because they crave emotional care. Nope! Sometimes, women just want sex with someone new. Finally, how did these lies get started in the first place? Wednesday walks us through the faulty science that got us here, and how accurate measures of female desire are radically changing the way we understand sex – for all genders. For More Information About Wednesday Martin: Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust and Infidelity is Wrong Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 17, 2021 |
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So You Wanna Have a Threesome
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Welcome to the wide world of alternative relationship models. Opening up, threesomes, and swinging are increasingly becoming more mainstream, so naturally, we’ve got questions. Some of us do better with monogamy, but some of us thrive with a little variety - and no matter where we land on the spectrum of relationships and sex, we can always gain vocabulary to explore our desires, and act on our pleasure. So on today’s show, I take your questions on open relationships and we get into it. First, we tackle open relationships when we’re already partnered. How do you establish the ground rules? What do you do when your partner has a date but you don’t, and you feel that jealousy coming on? Next, threesomes and swinging: how do you practice safe sex in a group sex situation? Finally: when you’re the third party, what’s the best way to talk to the partner of your partner? In this case, and truly all others, the key is becoming a grade A communicator – because if there’s one thing you can count on in an alternative relationship, it’s lots and lots of talking. Show Notes: Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 15, 2021 |
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The Deal with Divorce w/ Laura Wasser
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You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases. Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show. For More Information on Laura wasser: It’s Over Easy: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 10, 2021 |
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The Secret to Better Sex: Trust
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In order to feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. And that’s the funny thing about trust: once it’s broken, it has a way of quietly shutting us down, so that our relationships aren’t as deep, our curiosity is blocked, and even our self-sex takes a hit. But there IS hope: trust can be healed. Neuroplasticity is a beautiful thing, and if we compassionately work on ourselves (possibly with a partner), we feel worlds better - more secure, and definitely more sexy. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take some of my favorite calls on trust, and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, to the point where sex feels sorta gross now? Or how about if you were the cheater, and your sex life just isn’t the same? (Two words: couples therapy.) How about this one: you’re in a partnership, and things are basically fine - but the spark has completely worn off, and you don’t know how to talk about it? Or, what if you tell a new partner you love them, they don’t reciprocate, and THEN the sex takes a nosedive? In both cases, I’ve got answers. Finally, when you’re “too picky” of a dater, is it really because they’re all duds? Or, are there some underlying trust issues there, that are keeping your sexuality safe, cool, and totally dormant? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s episode, we’re helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 08, 2021 |
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Best Of: The S(ex) Factor w/ Sheila Kelley
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Sheila Kelley is a moment, a mantra, and the founder of S-Factor: a feminine movement practice that offers classes in strip, pole dance, and erotic dance. “We live from the armpits up, and get trapped away from our bodies,” Sheila says. So her passion is to free people through movement, so they can return to their bodies, and have more energy to move towards what they want. This is a gem-filled conversation that you’re going to want to pause several times, so you can take in Sheila’s explosive wisdom...and apply it immediately to your daily life. Plus, I take your questions! We’re all venturing into brave new worlds today, and need advice. What to do when you’re dating as a grown woman, with kids in their 20s - but the men you’re matching with are young adults too? Is that a problem? We discuss. Next: is it possible to get “orgasm addicted” to porn? I talk you through it. And finally, beginnings and endings: how do you begin your anal sex journey? How do you end a marriage as you knew it? As Sheila says, it’s all an incremental journey of self-investment and growth -- and by the end of this episode, you’ll have done a bit of both. Find more about Sheila Kelley here:
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Dec 03, 2021 |
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What’s Your Sexual Fantasy?
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So you’ve got a sex fantasy...and you’re ready for it to become reality. That’s great! But let me be the first to tell you: this process is part art, part science. The art? That’s your erotic self. Closing your eyes, imagining hot -- possibly taboo -- scenarios, and taking the time to discover what turns you on. But the science? That’s where we have to get tactical and think with our heads -- as well as our loins. On today’s Ask Emily show, I take your calls on fantasy and give you practical advice on how to fulfill them. Let’s say your partner has been hinting at a cuckold scenario: how do you go about finding a “third,” and how do you manage expectations for all involved? We get into it. What if you don’t have any fantasies, but you want some? Is there a way to get more creative? Yeahhh there is. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery. Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Dec 01, 2021 |
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Best Of: Sexy & Self-Aware w/ Lewis Howes & Lisa Bilyeu
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I like to think of Lewis Howes and Lisa Bilyeu as leaders in the self-awareness world, especially when it comes to relationships. Both Lewis and Lisa are incredibly successful: she went from housewife to cofounder of a billion-dollar business, he went from picked last for dodgeball to pro athlete, New York Times bestselling author and uber successful podcaster. But here’s the thing: success is empty if you don’t learn to like yourself, and both are intimately familiar with that truth. On today’s Best Of episode, I’m pairing these two voices to bring you the most powerful advice on self-love and fulfilling relationships. We hear from Lisa, who tells the story of radically changing her role in her relationship, and Lewis, who tells the story of radically hustling for respect (and getting it) -- only to realize he needed to learn how to respect himself. In this show, you’ll learn how to ask your partner for exactly what you need, how to break the habit of “testing” partners, how to identify the masks you wear for the world, and why sex transforms after you’ve taken the time to understand who you are - and love yourself, no hustle required. Find Lewis Howes here: Instagram @lewishowes Twitter @lewishowes TikTok @lewishowes Find Lisa Bilyeu here: Instagram @lisabilyeu Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 26, 2021 |
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Ready to Get Naughty?
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It’s frustrating but true: sex isn’t a button that we can automatically turn on and off. In fact, “sex” is a catch-all term for arousal, body exploration, play, and erotic collaboration—not simply penetration. So what do you do when you want to get naughty, but your body isn’t on-board? On today’s Ask Emily show, we’re taking a look at the body’s response to sex, and figuring out what to do when it shuts down. Say you’ve got a gag reflex around oral: does that mean no blowjobs? Nah - I’ve got a trick for that. How about vaginismus, when the vulva clenches so tightly at penetration, that sex is super painful? I’ve got advice! Finally, let’s talk about your partners: is it kosher to use old toys with a new lover? How do you broach the subject? And when you’re newly married, but the sex has serious problems, where do you turn? At the root of good sex is good communication, and on today’s episode, we challenge everyone to articulate their needs, and listen to their partners. Show Notes:
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Nov 24, 2021 |
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Sexual Spark and Relationship Arcs
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Before we’re experts at anything, we’re all humble beginners. And whether we’re learning how to date, learning how to talk about sex, or learning how to pleasure a partner, it can all seem pretty intimidating — enough to make us second-guess ourselves. “Do they just like me as a friend?” “Am I weird for wanting more lovers?” “Will I teach my child the right things about sex?” On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 20, 2021 |
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Maximize Your Orgasm w/ Dolly Josette
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Everyone is talking about breathwork these days. But for PleasureMuse Dolly Josette, breath opens an entire world of erotic sensation -- and it’s a world you (yes, you) already possess. So if full-body orgasms sound like fun, you’ll love this conversation, because guess what? Dolly shows us how to visit that pleasure-filled world, all on our own. Dolly’s been recognized as one of today’s most innovative Sexological Bodyworkers by Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines, but more importantly, she helps women and couples navigate their sexual evolution, wake up from numbness, and live more orgasmic lives. In this episode, we cover a ton of ground, including how to hack your nervous system for better sex, how to become a great masturbator, what exactly *is* somatic sex therapy, and why so many people, especially vulva-owners, are trained to numb from the waist down. (Spoiler alert: her clients definitely aren’t numb anymore.) Find Dolly online: Learn about orgasm vs. climax Get Dolly's 25-minute Vulva Hug Meditation - use code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off Instagram @pleasuremuse Show Notes: Find certified sexological bodyworkers in your area at sexologicalbodyworkers.org Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 17, 2021 |
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Trust vs. Lust
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Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations.
Show Notes: Episode: First Date First Orgasm First Threesome Find out about EMDR therapy at EMDRIA.org Book: For Yourself By Lonnie Barbach
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Nov 13, 2021 |
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Jealousy and Juicy Phone Sex w/ Menace
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You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, Pete Davidson, and self-image. What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. Find Menace here: Show Notes: Try my free Yes, No, Maybe List We-Vibe Moxie, Bond (Cock Ring) and Touch Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 10, 2021 |
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Strengthen Your Sex Muscles
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When you hear the words “pelvic floor,” what comes to mind? A visit to the OB-GYN, maybe? The truth is, the pelvic floor is a hidden superstar of sexual pleasure, for vulva AND penis owners. We all have a pelvic floor, but the problem is, we don’t always know how to take care of it. That changes today because you’re about to hear from the pelvic floor expert herself, Dr. Patricia Wallace. In this episode I talk to Dr. Wallace about “living your best life in your best body,” and how focusing on the pelvic floor can unlock our feel-good potential. We discuss the intricacies of orgasm because guess what? When you strengthen the pelvic floor, your orgasm contractions get more intense, and tiny muscles you didn’t even know you had amplified your pleasure. We can also heal pain and prolapse through pelvic floor rehab, and vulva owners will find a lot of relief hearing Dr. Wallace's thoughts on aging and hormones. Turns out, you can nurture your hormonal health well into menopause, without scary side effects! Leave it to a doctor to put our minds (and our vulvas, and our penises) at ease. Find out more about Dr. Wallace here: Find out more about Emsella treatments here: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 06, 2021 |
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Sex Positions Made Easy
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Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it’s reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward...you don’t exactly know what you’re doing...you’re trying not to throw your back out. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep doing the same, safe positions over and over again! That’s why today’s show is all about helping you experiment, and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy -- no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin Method on a vulva owner, how to 69 without feeling like you’re multitasking, and how to have steamy, sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus: we reveal the most-searched sex positions by U.S. state! Pennsylvanians love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterous, y’all. Show Notes: Episode: The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein Try our free Pleasure Planner Episode: Sex Goals For The Win Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Nov 03, 2021 |
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Top 5 Sex Myths Debunked
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Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts. What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Show Notes: Episode: Lube It Or Leave It Episode: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair B-Vibe: Anal Training Kit & Education Set Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 29, 2021 |
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Relationship Reset
45:00
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who can read your mind, anticipate your needs 24/7, and fulfill them perfectly? Yeah...me neither. The truth is, deep relationships require deep communication skills, and the most important skill is this: being able to articulate what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I give you communication tools to put in your back pocket, so you can improve your relationship one talk at a time. How about when you’re tired of hookups and want a relationship with real depth? Or maybe, you want more than one relationship? I talk you through ways to approach both. What about when your partner is emotionally detached, or you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had? We get into it. Finally, we talk through getting the kind of touch you need in bed because let’s face it - sometimes pain is fun, and sometimes it’s just painful. With the right communication, you can find just the right sweet spot. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 27, 2021 |
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Sex, Love & Gwyneth Paltrow
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You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place. In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear. For more information about Gwyneth Paltrow, click below: For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Good Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And Accessories Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand
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Oct 23, 2021 |
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Connected Sex
45:48
When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma, to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with your partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. What do you do when you’re “spectator-ing” yourself during sex, and battling against mental chatter? Or you’ve got a religious past, that makes sex a bit triggering for you? In both cases, I provide mindfulness techniques that help you quiet the mind, and feel into your pleasure. What about when it’s a block with your partner, when you’re just not on the same page about your desires? I’ve got ideas to normalize sex talks, and help you communicate your needs. How about when you crave a certain type of power dynamic, but aren’t sure how to explore it? I give you ideas for approaching it safely and consensually, with a play partner. This episode is all about self-exploration, and helping you reclaim your full sex potential. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Show Notes Instagram: The Holistic Psychologist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 20, 2021 |
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Foreplay Everyday
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To lots of folks, “foreplay” is shorthand for...hand stuff. But foreplay - or outercourse, as I call it - is actually way more about emotional intelligence, than anything having to do with your fingers. On today’s show, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between a good’ and ‘bad’ sex life, and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. We also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner isn’t so keen on exploring new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay...after you give them all sorts of pre-game love. Plus, I answer your questions! I share what to do if you find yourself fantasizing about a past crush (while in a committed relationship), and give tips for how to have an orgasm… for the first time. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand Show Notes: Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Download my Yes No Maybe List Article: 6 Tips For Being A Better Kisser We-Vibe Bond and Moxie Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 16, 2021 |
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More Pleasure, Please!
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There are wants, and then, there are needs -- sexual needs, to be precise. On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone has that one need that they’re longing to satisfy...they just don’t know how to do it. Good news: the sex expert has arrived, and I’m here to help you take that vital next step. If you’ve never had an orgasm before, but desperately want to, I’ve got some ideas for that. Or if you want a hotter sex life, but your partner shuts down around sex convos, I’ve got communication tips. How about when you want to give your partner a crazy orgasm, but don’t know the right techniques? Yep, we talk about great ones. And finally, if your partner desires sexual experiences like swinging, but you aren’t sure, what in the world do you do? Answer: you listen to this episode! Because I promise, for every sex problem, there is a path forward.
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Show Notes: Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: Curvy Girl Sex Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 13, 2021 |
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Your Top 5 Sex Questions, Answered
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When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top five sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one. How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Show Notes: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Guide: Three Ts of Communication Guide: Edging Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Book: She Comes First Episode: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 09, 2021 |
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Everybody Loves Oral
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It’s the holy grail of sexual connection -- a quality oral sesh. Or...is it? On this best of mashup episode, I’m sharing some top shelf advice on how to up your oral game: both giving, and receiving. Sometimes, hot oral comes down to technique, like the Kivin Method: we talk about why this is so delicious for vulva owners, and how you can execute it. But other times, good oral is more about lip service - no, not that kind, the communication kind. How do you ask for more oral from a partner who’s hesitant? How do you ask for LESS from a partner who’s a little too enthusiastic? And man oh man, what about when you desperately want to give - but your partner has some blocks around it? We get into all of it, alongside my guest Sadie Allison: sexologist, relationship expert and author, who has some A+ hacks to make your next oral sesh super sexy. For more Sadie Allison, click below: Website: www.TickleKitty.com Show Notes: Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 06, 2021 |
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Communication Is A Lubrication
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Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer. Show Notes: Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Oct 01, 2021 |
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The Gottmans on Compatability, Conflict & Conversation
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No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test. We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted. For more information about Drs John and Julie Gottman, visit: gottman.com Show Notes: Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach App: Gottman Card Decks For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 29, 2021 |
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Introducing Sex w/ Emily
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Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/askemily. For more sexy fun, including blogs, photos, videos or to stream this show, visit sexwithemily.com.
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Sep 25, 2021 |
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Sex w/ Comedians
46:28
Comedians are paid to be funny, but on today’s throwback show, four of my four guests are getting real about sex - while, of course, being hilarious. Dean McDermott talks chemistry, porn versus Fleshlights, and how he and wife Tori Spelling keep things sexy with five (five!) kids. Nicky Paris is trying to bring down his walls around intimacy, and avoid having his head pushed down for oral. I applaud both. Margaret Cho deems herself a lifelong submissive, and talks about the contours of sexuality and BDSM, all while being bisexual and radically open to different ages. Finally, Adam Ferrara joins me to discuss negative self-talk, effective tools he uses in his marriage, and helps me answer your calls on everything from sexual compatibility to bedroom communication. Come for the laughs, stay for the sex. For more information about Dean McDermott, visit: Instagram Twitter For more information about Nicky Paris, visit: Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Margaret Cho, visit: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Adam Ferrara, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 25, 2021 |
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Don’t Google This, Ask Emily
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On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges. Show Notes: We-Vibe Rave Je Joue Uma Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: The Body Knows The Score Episode: It’s All In Your Head w/ Dr. Anadel Barbour Womaness For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 22, 2021 |
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Arousal & Erotic Energy w/ Pamela Madsen & Court Vox
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Most of us think of arousal and desire as spontaneous, even a little mysterious. But on today’s show, I’m joined by the incredible Pamela Madsen, founder of Back to the Body, and sex & intimacy coach Court Vox, who myth-bust that assumption entirely. When you’re ready to go from erotically numb to erotically alive, they know exactly how to get the sexual energy going again. In this episode, they talk about low libido (and its likely culprit: high boredom), how to create a new relationship with your body, and how the right touch can unleash both deep desire...and deep healing. Pamela and Court also talk to us about their retreats (two words: pleasure demos), plus: we answer your questions! We talk to you about how to feel more confident in the bedroom, whether it’s ok to pleasure a partner when you yourself never orgasm, and how to have your best curvy girl sex. For more information about Pamela Madsen, MS, CSB, visit: http://backtothebody.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 18, 2021 |
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Where Did My Orgasm Go?
49:43
Attention: the orgasm has left the building. What does it mean when you can orgasm with one partner, but not another? Or when you can squirt, but not climax? How do we create those delicious sensations, without getting too up in our head about it? On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re talking all about orgasm and how to unlock it. I answer your questions on how to orgasm for the first time (at any age), what to do when you’re unable to orgasm with a new partner, how overall health affects your ability to climax, and how to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Episode: Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms. Episode: Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Dame Pom is great for exploration. Eva for a couples toy We-Vibe Nova II for internal and external pleasure
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 15, 2021 |
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Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller
55:13
Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). For more information about Dr. Justin Lehmiller, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 11, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: Micropenis, Deal Breakers & Sexsomnia
41:39
So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. We’re also tackling a case of sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep), and how to make eye contact during sex (when you’re awake). If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes:Episode: First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome Find an EMDR therapist: EMDRIA.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 08, 2021 |
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Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump
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On today’s throwback show, I’m joined by Sal, Adam, and Justin from the Mind Pump health and wellness show. We discuss how your mindset can get you into the best shape, common misconceptions about fitness training and testosterone, ways to naturally boost your libido, and the difference between self-image and body image. Plus, we explore how your physical health impacts your sex life, and the guys dive into the fascinating relationship between libido and physical activity. Trust me when I say the bedroom and the weight room are more connected than you think! I also answer your questions about how to confidently have sex on top, what it means if you feel physically “off” after masturbating and why we should send some love to an often-overlooked erogenous zone. For more Mind Pump, visit: mindpumpfree.com New Book The Resistance Training Revolution: The No-Cardio Way to Burn Fat and Age-Proof Your Body―in Only 60 Minutes a Week YouTube Instagram Facebook Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Promescent: Better In Bed Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 04, 2021 |
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Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel
51:42
Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships. As an author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients (and the general public) understand the complexities of love and desire with provocative questions. How do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security, and on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty? Can you want what you already have? As the author of the iconic “Mating In Captivity” and another bestseller, “The State of Affairs,” Esther is reshaping society’s views of sexuality and eroticism -- and arguably, healing them. In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations of marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat. We also discuss her new game “Where Should We Begin,” answer a listener’s question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex. For more Esther Perel, visit estherperel.com Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Sep 01, 2021 |
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Sex Tips I Wish I Knew In College
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Do you remember the sex you had in college? Or maybe you’re just now embarking on this exciting adventure and have no idea what to expect? While college is an *amazing* time for independence and exploration, it also comes with uncharted territory and first-time sexual dilemmas. Today, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about sex in college. I’m sharing what I wish I knew before my first year and some of YOUR hottest college hookup stories. Plus I answer your questions about how to make one night stands more pleasurable, how to know if it’s time to break up with your long term partner for new sexual experiences, what to do if your asexual identity or virginity makes it harder for you to connect with potential partners and how to find partners who value more than just casual hookups. I also talk to certified health coach Katrina Wright about how she has transcended during her time at college into a healthier relationship with herself and her romantic partners. Show Notes:
For more information about Katrina Wright, visit: thesculptyou.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 28, 2021 |
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Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair
46:02
Are you curious about anal play, but don’t know where to get started? It’s Anal August, so we’ve invited certified sex educator and B-Vibe CEO Alicia Sinclair on the show to break down all things booty. In today’s episode, we talk about how to experiment with beginner butt play, avoiding common anal mistakes, progressing your anal play (from analingus to penetration), and the best products for anal training and butt orgasms—yup, they’re real. Plus, we answer your questions about the best ways to prep and unwind after engaging in any sort of butt stuff, how to actually find your prostate, how to let go of shame and replace it with glorious anal pleasure. Show Notes: Article: Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques Alicia's last appearance on Sex w/ Emily: Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair For more information about Alicia Sinclair, visit: bvibe.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 25, 2021 |
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The Lies of Monogamy w/ Dr. Shefali
41:45
How has culture shaped your sexuality? According to my guest Dr. Shefali Tsabury, culture has conditioned us to suppress, cheat, and lie to ourselves. But radically authentic love and desire IS possible if we’re willing to confront common myths and make the conscious decision to live free. In this fascinating conversation, Dr. Shefali talks about how to rethink marriage as a model for growth, whether monogamy is natural (or not), and how to replace societal conditioning with something more wild, interesting, and frankly pretty sexy: worthiness. For more information about Dr. Shefali, visit: DrShefali.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 21, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: How to Have the Sex You Really Want
48:36
So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating. If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 18, 2021 |
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It’s Okay to Be Kinky w/ Mistress Justine Cross
40:58
Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies. We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics. For more information about Justine Cross, visit: losangelesdominatrix.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 13, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: Breakups, Oral & Honeymoon Sex
48:20
On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children). You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Massage Candles at Good Vibrations Audio Erotica: Quinn For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 11, 2021 |
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Chemistry, Attraction & Connection w/ Matthew Hussey
37:34
It’s part two with one of the world’s most sought-after dating and relationship experts, Matthew Hussey. We continue the conversation and dive into how to build chemistry (and how that differs from connection), signs that someone is actually invested in you, ways to foster attraction without losing a sense of yourself, and the drawbacks of what Matthew calls ‘the one day wager.’ We also discuss the importance of consistency in your actions and words, the difference between healthy romance and love bombing, common red flags (and why they so often get ignored), when you should first sleep with someone, and whether or not Matthew Hussey believes in ‘the one.’ Missed part one of my interview with Matthew? Listen to it here. For more Matthew Hussey visit MHChallenge.com Matthew's 9 Texts YouTube Instagram Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms.
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 07, 2021 |
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How to Be a Master Dater w/ Matthew Hussey
50:25
On this show, I’m joined by relationship and life coach, author, and YouTube personality Matthew Hussey. We discuss whether or not “casual dating” actually exists, why rejection is actually a GOOD thing, how dating apps have changed the dating world (and how to actually meet people IRL), and the root cause of problematic dating patterns. Plus, Matthew shares his exclusive three layers of confidence and tools to build your self-esteem. After all, who doesn’t find confidence in hot AF? We also talk about how we can use relationships to learn about ourselves, why it's important to feel embodied while dating, how much you should invest in a potential partner, why falling in love quickly can be a red flag, and the importance of therapy and mentorship. P.S.Make sure you subscribe to hear Friday’s part two of this interview. Things get even juicier... For more Matthew Hussey visit matthewhussey.com howtogettheguy.com YouTube Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Aug 04, 2021 |
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Erotic Tension & The Power of Yes w/ Dr. Jennifer Freed
47:51
On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy. We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation. Show Notes: Episode: Sex Up Your Love Language EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 31, 2021 |
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Sex w/ My Ex
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Have you ever had sex with an ex? Or tried to be friends with your ex? On today’s show, I am joined by MY real-life ex-boyfriend and opening up about our past, including our favorite (sexual) memories. We discuss the evolution of our relationship from falling in love, to why we broke up (“the ass is always greener”). For the first time, we talk about what we both learned from the relationship and our regrets. We share practical advice for how to become friends with your ex based on our experience. Hint: you have to want the same thing. Plus, I answer your questions! I discuss ways to hook up and date someone new after a breakup, tools to initiate a difficult conversation, and how to heal insecurities and heartache after separating from your partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 29, 2021 |
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Sex Up Your Love Language
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Everyone wants to feel loved. But what if there was a way to give love, that could also lead to hotter, more connected sex? On today’s show, I share how to crack the code on the 5 Love languages to amp up the connection in all of your important relationships. Plus, I answer your questions like: what to do if you have a different love language than your partner (which is more common than you think), how to show love in a long distance relationship and specific ways to express yourself sexually based on you and your partner’s love languages. Then I answer your questions about what to do if you accidentally give your partner feedback on his penis when he didn’t ask and what to do when you are no longer sexually attracted to your girlfriend. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: More Information on The Love Languages Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 24, 2021 |
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Best Of: Multiplying Orgasms & Pleasure
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On today’s show, I’m throwing it back to a question on everyone’s mind: how to have multiple orgasms. Yes, it is possible! I share in-depth tips for how you can prep your body and mind to make this goal a reality. Plus, I discuss how to make initiating sex an equal playing field while in a dom/sub relationship, ways to transition your sexting relationship into real life, what to do after getting caught having sex in public (by your parents!) and how to get your needs met when your partner is sexually selfish. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 21, 2021 |
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Best Of: Sex Drives & Relationship Vibes
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On today’s Best of episode, I’m explaining how to spot red flags when you’re dating someone new, healthy ways to address conflict, and actionable tips to amp up a low sex drive. I also take your calls about getting past jealousy in an open relationship, what to do when you want more sex than your partner, and how squirting can happen even without an orgasm. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Episode Bedroom Goals & Relationship Roles with Lisa Bilyeu For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 17, 2021 |
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Ask Emily: I Can’t Orgasm Without...
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On today’s Ask Emily show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex. Show Notes:
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 14, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: Oral Sex and Your Toxic Ex
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On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 10, 2021 |
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Best Of: Stop, Drop & Cuckold
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On today’s throwback show, I’m discussing the ins and outs of a fantasy that has become a lot more popular: cuckolding or “hot wifery”. I share tips to bring up your fantasy with your partner, why people enjoy it, how you can navigate FFM and MMF threesomes, and what to consider before you dive into your next sexual fantasy. I also take your calls and answer questions like how to get over the jitters when you want to go to the strip club with your husband for the first time, and what to do when your partner has extreme separation anxiety when you leave town and why writing your own erotica can be incredibly hot (and even help with initiating sex). For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 07, 2021 |
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Sexually Confident w/ Serena Kerrigan
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Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what. Find Serena here: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jul 03, 2021 |
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Porn & Pleasure w/ Jacky St James & Ana Foxxx
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Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party, and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn?
Find Jacky St. James here: Find Ana Foxxx here:
Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 29, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: Ghosting, Orgasms & Open Relationships
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In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you!
Show notes: Episode: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Episode: Am I Normal w/ Dr. Maria Uloko For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 26, 2021 |
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Best Of: What to Expect When You’re Expecting a Threesome
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In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both the satisfying one and the one that didn’t go as planned. I describe what steps you can take to try and maximize everyone’s pleasure while indulging in this fantasy. Plus, I answer your questions about the hottest moves to try when penetration is off the table, what to do when you’ve gotten too involved with your neighbor’s 19-year-old son, and how to get the most out of masturbation using CBD, ethical porn, and fantasy. Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 23, 2021 |
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Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl
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Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the best sex position to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm. We answer your top questions about how to squirt and what ejaculate consists of, and the best ways to make sure you and your partner can relax and experience all the pleasure and release of a full-body orgasm. Find Deborah Sundahl here: https://deborahsundahl.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 19, 2021 |
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Hot Summer Sex
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Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties, where to (safely) have sex in public, how to navigate a friends-with-benefits relationship, and what to do with penis anxiety if your partner plays with a toy bigger than you. Show Notes: Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Emily’s Vesper Vibrating Necklace Episode: Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Dr. Ian Kerner For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 15, 2021 |
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Am I Normal? w/ Dr. Maria Uloko
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Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva.
Show Notes: Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Glass Dildos at Good Vibrations For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 12, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: Where Did the Sex Go?
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In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual desires. Inspired to ask for my opinion? Call and leave a voicemail with your question! You can reach me at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 08, 2021 |
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Real Self, Real Sex w/ Jeffrey Marsh
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On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly demanding respect from others frees you up to fully be yourself, and their experience as the first openly non-binary person on television. We share the basics of gender pronouns, the difference between being trans and non-binary, how gender differs from sexual orientation, and how parents can support their children regardless of their identity. We also dive into Jeffrey’s book How to Be You, what happens during meditation and self-care journeys, and why learning to ask for what you need is crucial for healthy relationships. For more information about Jeffrey Marsh (they/them), visit: http://jeffreymarsh.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 04, 2021 |
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Best of: Sex Drive, Love & Attachment w/ Dr. Helen Fisher
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On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love. We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher also shares findings from studies she has done with Match to answer the question: why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? We also explore the best age to marry, why orgasms create connection, the importance of space in a relationship and why casual sex is not really so casual (hint: catching feelings is real). You can take Dr. Fisher’s personality test to learn about how your personality impacts who you love and how you bond. Take Dr. Fisher’s Personality Test here: https://theanatomyoflove.com/relationship-quizzes/helen-fishers-personality-test/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jun 02, 2021 |
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Hotline Calls: More Orgasms for All
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In this episode, I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! Your questions include: what to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com
Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Article: How To Have Sex in a Full House https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-have-sex-when-youre-in-a-full-house/ Logan Ury Episode: https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-not-die-alone-w-logan-ury/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 28, 2021 |
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Is Social Media Blocking Your Sex Life?
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Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.) Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others. A special thanks to our interns, Maria and Erica, who helped produce this episode. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 26, 2021 |
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Meditation Is a Lubrication w/ Light Watkins
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Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice. For more information about Light Watkins, visit: https://www.lightwatkins.com/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 21, 2021 |
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Masturbation w/ Emily
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It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s show, I’m honoring a month of self-love by giving you a brief history of the celebration (no, I didn’t make it up), the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys for bringing you pleasure all year long. Plus, I’m answering your questions like what to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator, why masturbation may be your key to success if you keep orgasm blocking yourself in the bedroom, signs that you’re masturbating too much and how to get rid of religious shame surrounding masturbation.
Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/
The Psychology and Shame of Masturbation: https://sexwithemily.com/psychology-and-shame-of-masturbation/
Je Joue Mimi Clitoral Vibe, G-Spot Vibe, Bullet Vibe, & Mio Penis Ring: http://www.sexwithemily.com/jejoue
Magic Wand: http://bit.ly/2UqVf38
Tenga Egg Masturbators: http://bit.ly/2hNwnDe
Foria Lube: https://bit.ly/3rJFggP
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit https://sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 18, 2021 |
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Bangin’ Orgasms w/ Nikki Glaser
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On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person. Show Notes: For more information about Nikki Glaser, visit: nikkiglaser.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 14, 2021 |
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Play With Yourself w/ Dr. Megan Stubbs
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I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner. We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.” Show Notes: For more information about Dr. Megan Stubbs, visit: sexologistmegan.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 11, 2021 |
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Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman
52:30
I’m joined by board-certified urologist Dr. Edward Karpman to talk about virtually every penis topic there is and explore how overcoming your penis challenges can boost your sex life. He even shares some cautionary tales about penis fractures when your partner is on top. We discuss the most common penis challenges (low testosterone, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction) and ways to work through them, how to get your brain on board when you’re dealing with performance anxiety, and how a penis implant actually works. Dr. Karpman also breaks down the pivotal role testosterone plays in your sex life, how his patients think about their penis size and the benefits and drawbacks of pills that treat erectile dysfunction. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 07, 2021 |
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Oral Tips and (Not) Faking Orgasms w/ The LadyGang
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Today I’m joined by the fabulous and entertaining hosts of The LadyGang; Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek. We set intentions together and give recipes for feeling sexy after the pandemic, ways to give a killer bj (without it feeling like well, a job), and the different kinds of desire. Plus, I share the best ways to clean your sex toys, my most common listener questions, and what happens when TSA pulls your bag full of vibrators. I also answer your questions about alleviating pain during sex, how to let your partner know you have been faking your orgasms, and what’s actually happening when you squirt. Show Notes: For more information about LadyGang, visit: theladygang.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
May 04, 2021 |
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The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein
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Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners.
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 30, 2021 |
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Best Of: An Ode to Oral (Sex)
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On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners. Show notes:
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 27, 2021 |
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Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner
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Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed in his last 20+ years as a practicing sex therapist. Hint: erectile dysfunction in younger men is real. Dr. Kerner (“the man who made oral sex into an art form”) walks us through his latest book and explains how you can decode and rewrite your relationship’s sex script and bring your erotic self into the bedroom to transform your sex life. We discuss the importance of psychological arousal, what happens to your body during the honeymoon phase, when to challenge the monogamy script, what to do when there is a “desire discrepancy” in a relationship and so much more. “When it comes to sex and relationship problems, many of us are leading lives of quiet desperation. Sometimes you can be lying in bed next to someone and feel a million miles apart. Talking about sex and relationships is hard, but self-silencing can be even harder in the long run.” – Dr. Kerner Show Notes:
For more information about Ian Kerner, visit: IanKerner.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 23, 2021 |
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Light Up Your Sex Life w/ Lizzy Jeff
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Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex magick” can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana can improve orgasms, cottonmouth (not fun for oral), and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body. For more information about Lizzy Jeff, visit: lizzyjeff.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 21, 2021 |
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Visualize Your Vulva
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How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Next, we have MaryEllen Reider, from Yarlap, who joins me to talk about the importance of the pelvic floor muscles. Did you know that stronger pelvic floor muscles can make stronger orgasms? It’s true! Finally, the founder of Tabu, Natalie Waltz, and her mother, Ouhoud Dabbas help me demystify menopause and discuss how masturbation can help increase your libido. For more information about Dr. Sherry, visit: drsherry.com For more information about MaryEllen Reider & Yarlap, visit: yarlap.com For more information about Natalie Waltz & Ouhoud Dabbas, visit: heytabu.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 17, 2021 |
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Best Of: Bigger, Sexier Brains w/ Jim Kwik
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The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is always sexy. For more on Jim Kwik visit jimkwik.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 13, 2021 |
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Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park
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Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex. For more information about Dr. Ina Park, visit: inapark.net For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 09, 2021 |
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Fire Up Your Flirting
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After a year of social distancing, many of us have forgotten how to flirt and date IRL. The good news: with a little practice, you’ll be stronger and sexier than ever before. In this episode, I cover the lessons we’ve learned from a year of isolation and digital dating and I also take a look at what might be in store for us in the year ahead. I walk you through how to regain confidence, uplevel your flirting skills, and important questions to ask yourself before jumping back out there. I also answer questions about what to know when considering a “friend with benefits” arrangement, how to prepare for sex after a dry spell, getting back with an ex, and dating post-divorce. Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 07, 2021 |
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Live an Orgasmic Life w/ Afrosexology
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What if the euphoric bliss from an orgasm was captured in other moments of your daily life? Whether you’re eating a meal or spending time outside, prioritizing sensuality helps you start to experience what today’s guests like to call “orgasmic living.” I’m joined by the creators of Afrosexology, Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo who join me to discuss the power of this life-changing concept. Their mission is to empower, educate and explore Black sexuality and self-improvement through sexual liberation. We discuss their journey into creating Afrosexology, the importance of embodiment, the power of centering pleasure and being intentional in the present moment. We also demystify different aspects of kink, polyamory, and compersion, so that you can see if any of these are things you’d want to add to your sex life. Plus, we answer your questions about prioritizing your pleasure as much as your partner’s and feeling more connected during and after sexual experiences. For more information about Dalychia Saah & Rafaella Fiallo , visit: afrosexology.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Apr 02, 2021 |
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Lube It or Leave It
48:28
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times: there should be a bottle of lube (or more) on every nightstand. I mean, seriously just a few drops can transform your sex and amplify the amount of pleasure. But, it can be difficult to know what kind of lube is best suited for you and your needs. On today’s show, I break down the best lubes for masturbation, anal, penetrative, and oral sex. I share the results of our Better Sex Survey sponsored by Pjur Lube. I cover products that are safe for a vagina’s PH and some household items that are better kept in the kitchen than inside of you. I also discuss what your wetness really means, the transformation lube can have with discomfort during sex, how sex increases intimacy between you and your partner, and how penis size can change with an erection. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 30, 2021 |
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How To Keep the Honeymoon Vibes Alive
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Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones. I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 26, 2021 |
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How To Not Die Alone w/ Logan Ury
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Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 23, 2021 |
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Best Of: Winner, Winner, Sex Before Dinner
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Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better. I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 19, 2021 |
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No Shame in Your Fantasy Game
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What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes. Show Notes:
For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 16, 2021 |
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Touch Me, Please
35:57
How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life. I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom. Show Notes: For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 12, 2021 |
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How to Be Happy w/ Dr. Amen
42:25
What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening. We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. I also answer your Rapid Fire questions covering everything from tips for hotter shower sex to bring up your kink to a partner. Show notes: Find out which dragons you have here: KnowYourDragons.com Order Dr. Amen’s latest book Your Brain Is Always Listening here: YourBrainIsAlwaysListening.com For more information about Dr. Daniel Amen, visit: danielamenmd.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 09, 2021 |
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Get Your Masters in Masturbation
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Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss how often you should masturbate in a relationship—it’s probably more than you think! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 05, 2021 |
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Best of: Hotter, Deeper Sex w/John Wineland
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In this Sex With Emily best of, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach John Wineland to discuss the driving force behind attraction, sexual connection, and desire. We discuss the polarity of masculine and feminine energy, what symbolic aspects of anal make it so hot, how to build attraction from the inside out, and give tools to enhance connection. We also get into your questions like why the urge to have an affair can be so strong, how to know if there is enough sexual chemistry to pursue a second date, and what to do to bring sex back into your long-term relationship. For more information about John Wineland, visit: johnwineland.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Mar 03, 2021 |
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Boundaries Are Hot w/ Dr. Jennifer Freed
51:37
Setting boundaries within your relationships is not only necessary—it’s hot AF. In today’s episode, psychological astrologer, therapist, and sex educator Dr. Jennifer Freed joins me to discuss how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. We discuss the definition and different types of boundaries (including sexual and financial), what makes them important, how they affect our sex life, and why they might be difficult for some folks to create. We also dive into your email questions like how to avoid drama when you’re the third in a threesome relationship, how to let someone know you’re not into them without ghosting, if talking to escorts is considered cheating, and what to do if your partner is more interested in meeting their sexual desires than yours. For more information about Dr. Jennifer Freed, visit: jenniferfreed.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 26, 2021 |
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First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome
42:19
Do you remember your first time? It could be your first date, first threesome, first orgasm, or your first time experimenting with a new position. No matter what it is, any “first” experience can feel intimidating, but I’m here to help eliminate any fear that might be holding you back. I answer questions about how to navigate first-time experiences: having sex, getting on a dating app, performing oral sex, trying anal play, and other adventures. Whether it’s your first time or you want to expand your sexual repertoire, this episode will encourage you to try something new and sexy. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 24, 2021 |
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Be Your Sexy Self w/ Black Girls Texting
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Ever want to know what really goes down in your girlfriend’s group chat? Today you’ll find out when I’m joined by Chelsea, Glynn, and Sade, the hosts of the popular much talked about Black Girls Texting. We explore sex dreams, what it’s like to have a threesome with your best friend, and the art of sending nudes. We answer questions and discuss cultural stereotypes, manscaping, pre-gaming sex, and the power of setting sexual intentions. For more information about Black Girls Texting (Chelsea, Glynn, Sade), visit: blackgirlstexting.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 19, 2021 |
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7 Steps To Breakup Recovery
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Breakups! They can be painful. Losing a partner can feel like a mini-death, especially if you’ve spent time planning a future together. In this episode, I give my top tips for how to cope with a breakup and reground yourself. If you are struggling to move on after a breakup, following even one of these steps will help you recover. I also answer your questions with tips for giving better oral sex, sexy gift recommendations for long-distance relationships, and communication tools for expressing your emotional and sexual needs. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 17, 2021 |
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CAUTION: Sexual Roadblocks Ahead
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Ever wonder why you’re not having more sex? Well, wonder no more. This episode identifies the 6 most common roadblocks to sex. Whether you’re too stressed to get too turned on or too self-conscious to get naked, we all have barriers that hold us back from sex and pleasure. In this episode, I’m sharing specific tips so you can overcome the most common sexual barriers. I also answer your questions including what to do if your wetness level is inconsistent during sex, the relationship between OnlyFans and cheating, how to handle a jealous partner, and what to do if your partner has a fetish but lockdown has made it more challenging. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 12, 2021 |
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Success (Stories) w/ Emily
51:35
Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works and looking for sex after a life of not having any, each of these people has taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position, and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 09, 2021 |
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Valentines, Vibrators & Vulvas
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V-Day is right around the corner! Whether you’re living your best single life or you have a special someone, I want to set you up to have a sexy, love-filled day. In this episode, I’m sharing some of my hot tips for creating the ideal date night—regardless of who it’s with. I cover everything from toy recommendations to thoughtful personal gifts you can give yourself or a loved one. I also answer questions about how to prep for anal sex, how to get back into dating in your 40s, and why wetness doesn’t always equal arousal. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 05, 2021 |
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Sex Goals For The Win
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The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our new Pleasure planner with my teammate Amanda, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex and love goals, download our free Pleasure Planner sexwithemily.com/downloads For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Feb 03, 2021 |
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Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel
51:59
I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy. I also answer questions about what to do when you’re ghosted after a first date, how to get more foreplay when your partner just wants to dive right into sex, and lots of Rapid Fire questions. If you’d like to ask me a question about sex or relationships, email me at feedback@sexwithemily.com. For more information about Joanna Angel, visit: joannaangel.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 29, 2021 |
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Best Of: All Aboard The Booty Train
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Today, I’m throwing it back to one of my most favored episodes and giving you a crash course in all things anal, the not-so-surprising sex trend of the decade. I also give my some tips on going deeper into tantric sex, why it’s best not to share your sex number with your partner, and how Kegel exercises affect your penis. Plus, I discuss the age-old debate of love vs. lust, and how to know the difference. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. |
Jan 26, 2021 |
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It’s All In Your Head w/ Dr. Anadel Barbour
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You know how I’m always recommending therapy to callers? Well, today I’m joined by my therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour. She is a licensed EMDR, marriage and family therapist and she has a Ph.D. in human sexuality. We talk about coping with a partner’s anxiety, fantasizing about your ex, and how to deal when your partner leaves you for another woman. I answer your calls about finding a quality friend with benefits and what to do if porn is impacting your sex with a partner. We end with my new Rapid Fire Segment where I answer as many of your questions as possible. Did I answer yours? Tune in to find out. Don’t forget to send in your questions! Email me at feedback@sexwithemily.com and follo |