ADHD reWired

By Eric Tivers

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Jessica
 Sep 1, 2019
As an ADHDer, I'm going to follow Eric's advice about resisting the perfectionism procrastination trap that prevents me from taking any action and just say, this podcast is awesome and a wonderful source for people with ADHD and those who love, live, work with and or provide services to ADHDers.


 Jun 30, 2019

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The podcast for adults with ADHD. Hear stories, learn strategies, and get great productivity tips as we talk about the real-life struggles and what it takes to achieve success. Host, Eric Tivers, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, coach and entrepreneur (with ADHD) in private practice. Eric interviews a variety of guests. Many are people just like yourself, as well professionals, entrepreneurs, and ADHD experts.

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441 | July Live Q&A with the ADHD reWired Podcast Team + ADHD reWired Coaches!
01:10:54
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!   In this episode, you’ll hear from the ADHD reWired podcast team and ADHD reWired coaches talk about coaching, how to set yourself up for success when engaging with a coaching program, and what can help people grow.   Then, you’ll hear the panelists talk about why making friends feels difficult as adults, ways to make connections in different areas, the false narratives we tell ourselves about planning, the importance of scheduling fun things in your calendar, and that it’s ok to not get everything done.   You’ll also hear the panel share tips on building motivation, the barriers to getting started, and how activating a task can help with motivation. The panelists also discuss the benefit of reframing, defining our principles when creating rules for ourselves, and why understanding our values can help us make better decisions.  Finally, you’ll hear some tips on creating a more conducive remote work environment, the importance of communicating with your household when working from home, why a lack of structure can cause us to struggle, and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to coaching.  Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode: What makes one coaching program different from another?  What does it take for coaching to succeed, and how does one have to approach it to ensure or increase chances of success?  What scenario would make coaching not successful?  How does coaching interact with traditional therapy?  Are there grants available to cover potential business expenses when building a business channel?  There doesn’t seem to be any grants listed specifically for ADHD.  Do you have any tips or advice on finding more adult acquaintances after graduating university?  I know scheduling helps, but when I make a daily plan, I feel the structure is too restrictive, and I rarely stick to it.  Any tips?  What can I do to have motivation?  How do I give myself consequences for not following through on the things that I want to do?  How do I create a conducive remote work environment? I live in a small home and need space from my family.  I have recently retired from a CEO position and am now having trouble navigating the day-to-day.  I assume that’s not uncommon?  I was recently diagnosed and I have been struggling with deadlines and multitasking my whole life.  Can you talk about how coaching works and what benefits people get from it?  I’m figuring out how my brain works.  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  
Aug 09, 2022
440 | Bipolar and ADHD: A Personal Narrative with Kimberly McColl
49:43
In this episode, Eric is joined by Kimberly McColl, a recovering academic living in Nashville, which is where she was diagnosed with ADHD in February 2021.  Kimberly was also diagnosed with bipolar II in 2008.  Her recent diagnosis has caused her to rethink the narrative she has told herself her entire life.  Currently, she is learning more about ADHD and trying to give herself more grace and forgiveness.  You’ll hear Eric and Kimberly talk about her journey as a recovering academic, some of the key differences between bipolar I and II, the ways she experiences her ups and downs, and shares her insights about hyperfocus. Then, Kimberly shares the ways she distinguishes her experiences with dopamine-seeking with ADHD and bipolar, racing thoughts and mania, what shows up externally for her, and the positive impact community has had in her life.   Finally, she shares what a person could do if they are considering support or getting diagnosed with bipolar, how stories and narratives may be connected to memory, and the importance of being kind to yourself.  Other Questions & Topics in this Episode:  How did Kimberly get through school without being diagnosed?  What was the experience of getting diagnosed with bipolar II?  What are some of the most frustrating myths about bipolar disorder for Kimberly?  What is an experience that people without bipolar disorder may not understand?  How could a person capture the lost experiences of a period of time?  What is the first step to take if I am considering seeking support about bipolar?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: App:  -  Self-Care Bullet Journal with Goals - Mood Diary & Happiness Tracker Mentioned: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens The Executive Function Online Summit is happening on August 5-7!  Join 75,000+ families and teachers worldwide with one of the best ways to prep for Back 2 School!  Access is free from August 5-7 - Or go to to get registered!   
Aug 02, 2022
439 | How to Meditate with ADHD - with Adam Coutts
51:09
In this episode, Eric is joined by Adam Coutts.  Adam has taught meditation for 20 years through his weekly sitting groups, 25-hour classes, corporate webinars, and one-on-one coaching.  He has been meditating daily for 30 years and has lived in monasteries in America and Asia.  Adam has also been exploring his own ADHD for the past 10 years and has been leading a mindfulness meditation for ADHD course for the last 4 years. You’ll hear Adam and Eric talk about the importance of sleep, exercise, and meditation.  You’ll also hear Adam’s practical meditation techniques to begin a meditation practice, the importance of gentleness and forgiveness when beginning a meditation practice, and how meditation has helped calm his wandering mind. Then, Adam shares his favorite mantras and how using a mantra can be its own form of meditation. Connect with Adam at   Also Answered in this episode: What was the spark that had Adam start his meditation journey?  Can a person with ADHD really meditate?  What are some practical techniques to begin a meditation practice?  How can I begin using a mantra or affirmation to meditate?  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jul 26, 2022
438 | ADHD Money Talk with David DeWitt
53:01
In this episode, Eric is joined by David DeWitt, a registered investment advisor and podcaster who helps adults with ADHD take back control of their money! He’s been a registered investment advisor for six years, but it wasn’t until his ADHD “awakening” early in 2021 that he realized he wanted to work with others with ADHD.  David knows from experience that effective personal finance when you have ADHD is hard, even when you are a trained professional!  After discovering his ADHD, he set out to build a financial planning model that works for ADHD brains - first testing it on himself, and now, he is on a mission to help as many ADHDers as he can!    Eric and David address the shame we can feel around our finances, why people reach out to David about their finances, and where to begin when planning for the future.  Then, Eric and David discuss using our values to help guide our financial planning, how to get past the mental clutter when facing our finances, and ways to stay consistent with financial management.   You’ll also hear some strategies for tackling debt against spending, why “budget” is a “dirty’ word, the importance of filing your taxes on time,  and a glimpse into investing.  Get in Touch with David: Website: Instagram: David DeWitt’s Also Answered in this episode: How does David view financial planning in a way that is ADHD friendly?  What is the importance of finding our values behind our finances?  How does David help people get out of debt?  What does it mean to put your money where your values are?  How do you start saving when you’re in debt?  Where do you begin when you want to address your money situation?  What is the difference between a traditional IRA and a Roth IRA? How do you start investing?  How do we stay on top of our financial matters?  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jul 19, 2022
437 | June Live Q&A with the ADHD reWired Podcast Team + ADHD reWired Coaches!
01:03:36
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!   In this episode, you’ll hear how the members on the ADHD reWired team manage and engage with social media.  You’ll also hear about some tools and systems to create a library of responses, and help a listener hone in on what they are passionate about.  Then, the ADHD reWired team shares tips on pausing before reacting, what the empathy gap is, what happens between pausing and stimulus, and the value of mindfulness meditation.  Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode: How do you manage social media and stay engaged?  I’m trying to develop a library of scripts for responding to common things because I struggle with articulating myself, leading to procrastination.  What tools can I use to create scripts? What advice would you give somebody who’s trying to figure out what to do with their life?  “Between stimulus and response, there is a space.”  Is that really true for persons with ADHD? The emotional reaction happens so fast and full, and then it seems there is no recovery. How do we create a space that might not be there?  How do you get over the Wall of Awful about the Wall of Awful?  I have spent so much time on productivity apps.  I heard one of you uses Notion, do you have any suggestions on how you use it?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Tool: Tool: Article:  Article: Article: Article: Book:  by Rosalie Maggio  Ebook: Video: - HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful) Video: - HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  
Jul 12, 2022
436 | Decoding Doing with Jonathan Hassall and Madeline O'Reilly
01:02:08
In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Jonathan Hassall and Madeline O’Reilly. Jonathan is an ADHD and executive function coach and director of Connect ADHD Coaching, providing services internationally from Brisbane, Australia.  His background includes psychiatric services and is a scientific advisor for ADHD in the pharmaceutical industry.   Jonathan trained as an ADHD coach in the U.S. and offers individual and group programs for people with ADHD.  He’s a regular speaker at national ADHD meetings, in Australia, and in the U.S.  He is a board member of and a published author.  You’ll hear about his new book called , co-written with the 2nd guest on today’s episode, Madeline O’Reilly.  Madeline works with children and adults with ADHD and anxiety.  She spent the last decade working in a multi-disciplinary practice in Sydney, Australia called , where her interest in ADHD was sparked.  Madeline also enjoys working in collaboration with other medical professionals, especially psychiatrists.  Prior to this, she spent three years working in East London for a cognitive behavioral therapy service that specializes in treating trauma in adults.   Before moving to the UK, Madeline worked for Vision Australia which allowed her to develop skills with children, adolescents, and adults in assessment and treatment of behavioral problems and mental health difficulties in the vision-impaired population.   You’ll hear about how Jonathan and Madeline worked together to write their book, Decoding Doing, what Decoding Doing is all about and what they wanted to share with others, and their experiences with accepting success.  You’ll also hear about the process of achieving, imagining and visualizing, and organizing the things we think through.  They also address procrastination and motivation, recognizing emotions, attention, and our emotional responses to different situations.  They also talk about the importance of cues versus waiting for feeling like we “want” to do a task, and using the reality of our futures-selves for motivation, finding a compelling “why” to create motivation. Connect with Jonathan and Madeline: Buy their book at   Website:   Website:    Also Answered in this episode: What is their 5-stage model to decode doing?  Why “imagine” vs. “plan”?  How do we better organize the things we imagine?  What does it mean to connect? What is the importance of our emotional state?  How do we visualize and imagine? What if we find it difficult to visualize?  How do we engage when we aren’t feeling motivated?  How do we generate motivation? How do we overcome the difficulty of overcoming our accomplishments?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: Book: (also at )  TED Talk:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jul 05, 2022
435 | Sculpting Your Own Path with Laura Roehrick
50:18
In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Laura Roehrick.  Currently at age 69, Laura was diagnosed with ADHD at 40, has been a registered nurse for 48 years, and has found her brain wiring to be both a blessing and a curse.   Laura is also a pioneer of preventative diabetic foot care nursing, having created a method of nail sculpture that can be both limb-saving and life-saving. She has been married for 37 years, has two daughters, is a grandma of 5, and is also a crafter, designer, artist, former actress, herbal medicine maker, avid knitter, loves sewing, has traveled the world, and has colorful stories of being raised on a houseboat!  You’ll also hear about Laura’s lessons in business, the consequences of lacking clear and effective communication, what she has experienced as being a nurse herself, and the importance of diabetic foot care.  Then, you’ll also hear how she landed a role in a movie from 1980 that is banned in the UK, what Laura would change if she could go back in time, and  ways she is optimizing her health.    Get in touch with Laura:    Laura’s Also Answered in this episode: What was Laura’s impetus for getting laser-focused on something like diabetic foot care?  How did she pioneer in her field?  How did Laura’s upbringing influence her out-of-the-box thinking? If Laura could go back in time from when she began her work with diabetic foot care, what advice would she give herself so she wouldn’t get so derailed?  How much has acceptance been a part of her journey? What are Laura’s plans at age 69 and beyond?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Book:   Mentioned:    Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  
Jun 28, 2022
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Jun 22, 2022
434 | Belonging in ADHD and LGBTQ+ Communities with Gail Polivy
45:00
In this episode, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaching Group Alumni, Gail Polivy. She was a coaching group member in spring of 2020 and became a peer mentor for the groups for the 2022 spring season.  Gail self-identifies as an “old-gay-guard” and was thrilled to join Eric on the podcast during Pride month.   Gail shares her experiences when she came out in 1977, her difficulties in college and learning about lesbianism, and finding a community where she felt at home.  You’ll also here Eric and Gail discuss how she’s seen the evolution of the LGBTQ+ community throughout the years, how her ADHD affected past relationships, mirroring, the power of self-acceptance, and the positive changes she’s made in her life since joining Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jun 21, 2022
433 | May Live Q&A with the ADHD reWired Podcast Family!
01:06:44
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  In this episode, you’ll hear how the members on the ADHD reWired team thrive with their ADHD, some tools and strategies on how they tackle their most unpleasant tasks, ADHD and gifted programs, and more!  Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode: I’ve read a lot of books that talk about ADHD as a superpower.  For those who thrive and do well with ADHD, what are the key things that make the difference between somebody who thrives and somebody who struggles?  My son has the option to go to honors classes next year.  His teacher says he has no problem understanding the content and he is smart enough to understand it (the content), but “couldn’t possibly handle honors classes” so they won’t put him in them.  This doesn’t sit well with me.  Are there any suggestions on what I might do?  I need help getting unpleasant tasks done, like job searching.  How do we get these unpleasant tasks done?  My daughter has recently developed a skin-picking habit specifically with her nails to the point where she’ll pick at them until they bleed.  What are some strategies to help her not do it as often, knowing I can’t be there with her all the time? How do I get better at not biting off more than I can handle?  When was the last time you hit inbox zero?    Resources & Honorable Mentions: Coming soon!  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jun 14, 2022
432 | Queerness and ADHD with Bex!
51:29
In this episode, Eric is joined by Bex who is a non-binary all-around queer, chemist, and artist!  Bex was diagnosed with ADHD in April of 2021 at the age of 24 and has been on their journey of acceptance and expression of both their queer and ADHD identifies. You’ll hear a great conversation between both Bex and Eric as they reflect on their own personal experiences as they explore  their identities together.  You’ll also hear about Bex’s personal experiences with the intersectionality of being queer, non-binary, and having ADHD, some of the comforts that can be taken with labels and identify, and a glimpse into some perceptions and speculations they've seen and experienced about bisexuality.  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Jun 07, 2022
431 | TBI, ADHD, Homelessness, and Reinventing Self with Jason Boughn
47:37
In this episode, we’re meeting Jason Boughn, a life coach specializing in tools to address ADHD.  He also welcomes neurodiversity of all types and neurotypical people!  Jason has a comfortable way of evoking a person’s story, getting to the heart of the matter most relevant to the storyteller.  The stories we tell ourselves and the ones created to fit in better with others are affirmations which shape our reality.  Jason’s focus is exploring and reframing our personal story to create a beautiful life experience.  In this episode, Jason shares his story about his brain injury and how it has impacted his life, and how the manifestations of ADHD are similar traumatic brain injuries (TBI).  You’ll also hear about how Jason experiences emotion, not fitting in, acting, and his passion for learning. Then, you’ll also hear about his journey through relationships, his compassion throughout those relationships, how he overcame homelessness, and what led to that chapter in his life.  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
May 31, 2022
430 | So You Want to be a Professional Creative? with Lorin Devine
55:14
In this episode, Eric is joined by Lorin Devine, who grew up in the cornfields of rural Illinois and has been driven to create, explore, and forge her own way.  In adulthood, she struggled to find footing in a world where she felt like she never quite fit.  In 2014, Lorin entered the world of tattooing.  Then, after 4 years in a busy walk-in studio, she left Illinois to spend 18 months on the road as a guest in more than 25 tattoo studios throughout the U.S. and Europe.  Halting travel in 2020 led to an ADHD diagnosis, and a framework to understand years of straining to conform to a neurotypical world.   Lorin is now based out in Portland, Oregon, where she is creating illustrative black and gray tattoos in a private studio.  Finding support in the ADHD community and the autonomy to curate her tattoo practice towards supporting a neurodivergent brain has empowered her to create the best possible work for her clients.  In this episode, you’ll hear discussions about being categorized as a gifted child, the impact of creating a working environment that works for us, and the importance of community.  Then, you’ll get to listen in on real-time coaching where you’ll hear about tips & tricks to go from time-blind to time-wise. Discover More from Lorin: Instagram: Website:   Bio Site:   Resources & Honorable Mentions: YouTube:  with Jessica McCabe  Tool:  Tool:  Tool:  Tool:  Another option for a Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  
May 24, 2022
429 | Growth Cycles with Brian Entler
54:26
In this episode, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaching Group Alumni member, Brian Entler!  Brian has been a peer mentor of ADHD reWired’s coaching program and has been working to redesign his life to be ADHD-compatible.   Brian will be riding the , a 545-mile ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles to raise money for LGBTQ health care.  An avid cyclist and firm believer in the power of exercise to be an ADHD management tool, Brian is going to share his experience in the coaching groups, his goal-setting, routine-building, and how cycling and exercise have played an essential part in his life.   ⭐️⭐️ Donate to help Brian reach his fundraising goal of $5,000 for the AIDS Lifecycle ride. Click the link to donate! → ⭐️ ⭐️  “[] is a really fine organization. It’s done to benefit the San Francisco AIDS foundation and the Los Angeles LGBT Center.  [Your donations] are not going to just marketing or executive salaries, this provides first-line health care for people who need it.”  Brian Entler  Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode: What prompted Brian to take the leap and join ?  What role can accountability play when setting goals when you have ADHD?  What role does emotional motivation play to begin making changes in one’s life?  Can the outdoors be beneficial for ADHD brains?  Are bucket list goals really achievable?  What is the importance of emotional vulnerability? How does it affect mindset?  How has being a part of ADHD reWired’s Alumni coaching group been helpful for Brian?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Episode:   Episode:   Support: Support:   Community: — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! Support the show by becoming a Patron at Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
May 17, 2022
428 | April Live Q&A with the ADHD reWired Podcast Family!
01:04:36
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  In this episode, you’ll hear about the importance of community, picking an entrepreneurial path, accountability, parenting, and dealing with shame.  Listen all the way through to meet the newest addition to the ADHD reWired team - Coach Kristin Marts!  Some Questions & Topics in this Episode: I’m interested in going into business for myself. How do I narrow my focus to follow a path? What are the best ways to deal with our tendencies within ourselves?  How can I reduce overwhelm?  What kind of research can I do to move forward in a new career?  At what point is something a personality trait? Our child was diagnosed with ADHD but we haven’t talked about it with them yet.  How do we have this conversation?    Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book:   Book:   Book:   Book:    Article:   Article:   Community: — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! Support the show by becoming a Patron at Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
May 10, 2022
427 | Maybe This Time: A Musical About Living with ADHD and Dyslexia with Jonathan Orenberg
01:14:59
In this episode, Eric is joined by Jonathan Orenberg from the San Francisco Bay area.  As the founder of Care Life Services, Jonathan is no stranger to the healthcare field.  After graduating from Baldwin Wallace University: , he decided to follow in the footsteps of his father - an emergency room physician and medical director - and his mother, a registered nurse.  Jonathan went on to become a CNA and certified senior fitness specialist and is also an accomplished Bay-area bass performer who has been in the industry for over 25 years, proud member of Actors’ Equity since 2008, and owner of a private acting studio.  Johnny has shared the stage with such stars as Sutton Foster, Kathleen Marshall, Michael Rafter, and Kate McGarry, while performing at some of the most prestigious theaters in the United States, including the Barnstormers Theatre, Cleveland Play House, Great Lakes Theater Company, 42nd Street Moon Theatre Company, and The Walt Disney Company.  Johnny has learned how to harness his ADHD and dyslexia-superpowers into fuel for his entrepreneurial spirit and mindfulness in the toll that hyperfocus can take on family life in the battle of business goals and personal values.  Johnny is also an Alum of !  Connect with Johnny:  Instagram:  Website: Discover the ADHD reWired Podcast Family: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
May 03, 2022
426 | Research, College, and Complementary & Alternative Approaches with Patrick LaCount
54:19
In this episode, Eric is joined by , the director of in Fort Collins, Colorado, specializing in the assessment and treatment of ADHD.  He completed his doctorate in clinical psychology at the University of Wyoming, pre-residency at Duke University Medical Center and post-doctoral fellowship at Seattle's Children's Hospital.  In addition to providing psychological services, Dr. LaCount is passionate about disseminating the latest science to the ADHD community and is a research consultant for the !  [ more shownotes coming soon! ] 
Apr 26, 2022
425 | The Neurodiverse Safe Work Initiative with Catherine Lee
47:01
In this episode, Eric is joined by Catherine Lee, the director of Lethbridge Piper & Associates, an Australian occupational health and safety management consultancy.  For 30 years, Catherine has advised employers, CEOs, boards, executives, and leadership teams on strategic health and safety management.  She holds post-graduate degrees in occupational health and safety management and is a certified occupational health and safety professional. Catherine created the Neurodiverse Safe Initiative for making work safe, healthy, and inclusive for neurodiverse workers.  Get her ebook Other Topics & Questions in this Episode: How did Catherine’s work in occupational health and safety lead to her own diagnosis?  Under what circumstances may an employee with ADHD feel like they need to stop taking their medication? What is the potential value of a person with ADHD, or any person who is neurodiverse, as an employee?  How is Catherine getting the information she’s gathered into places of employment for leaders and management to understand what safety and acceptance really means in the workplace? How can employers integrate neurodiverse persons in their companies?  What’s the “selling point” for people/employers who are not empathetic towards different kinds of brains? Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website:   Podcast:   Discover the ADHD reWired Podcast Family: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
Apr 19, 2022
424 | March Live Q&A with the ADHD reWired Podcast Family!
52:11
Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for the monthly Live Q&A, and be sure to listen all the way through to hear a very special guest join us on this episode!  Questions & Topics in this Episode: How do I keep my time-blindness from derailing my teaching of a 90-minute class that has a very tightly-structured curriculum?  What are some of the signs that a job is not the right fit and that it might be time to move on? Do you have any input or tips on how to make strategies that are not working anymore - because of the pandemic - work again?  What are some strategies or tools I can use for accountability?  How can I keep doing the routines that keep my ADHD under control when I am traveling or in a different environment?  My kids want me to play Roblox with them. Do you have a favorite game we can play together? If you’re a kid with ADHD, what if the parent also has ADHD? Any advice for a kid living with an ADHD parent?  I am 41 and recently diagnosed and my spouse is neurotypical. What are some ways we can work on communication so that we don’t end up in unnecessary conflict?  Any tips for improving memory, particularly recall, when being put on the spot?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: App:    Book:   Book:   Book:   Tool: (the rolling alarm clock!) Tool:   Tool:   Article:   Article: (on written by !) Episode: with Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join ADHD reWired's Live Q&A with the reWired team every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Apr 12, 2022
423 | Is Work a Struggle? with Alex Gilbert
47:28
In this episode, Eric is joined by New York’s Alex Gilbert who is a Mets fan, yogi, and brunch enthusiast. Alex also has dyslexia and ADHD, being diagnosed at 8 years old.. After spending a career working in leadership development, she decided to start a consulting and coaching business that helps adults with learning disabilities and ADHD (just like her!) who have been struggling in their careers. Her business is called “Cape-Able Consulting”, creating it to help people navigate their day-to-day workloads so they feel supported so they can reach their highest potential!  You’ll hear how Alex’s experiences in school led to her diagnoses, how she began advocating for herself and finding accommodations that worked for her, and the importance of knowing yourself and what you need before beginning to self-advocate.  Then, you’ll hear differences between best practices and best principles, ways to ask for what you need, and why knowing about her ADHD at a young age wasn’t necessarily an advantage. You’ll even hear Eric use one of his own accommodations in real time!  Connect with Alex:  Website:   Facebook: TikTok:   Instagram:   Other Topics & Questions in this Episode: How did Alex create a program for students to advocate for themselves? How did the self-advocacy skills from school transfer to the workplace?  Why is it important to know yourself and your needs before disclosing ADHD?  Without disclosing their ADHD, are there any suggestions for an employee to test the water before fully disclosing?  How can employers support their employees who are neurodivergent? How can employers draw out their strengths? What does the boss do when they are the ones with ADHD? What was the most valuable accommodation Eric utilized in college? If Alex had a magic wand to turn all workplaces into ADHD-friendly workplaces, what would change? Resources & Honorable Mentions:   Hear Alex as a guest on with Brendan Mahan:   Discover the ADHD reWired Podcast Family: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin
Apr 05, 2022
422 | Tik Tok's Coach with Ryan Mayer
48:06
In this episode, Eric is joined by Ryan Mayer who you might have seen on TikTok! Ryan is a performance and mindset coach on a mission to help others navigate through the storms caused by ADHD. He calls on first-hand experience to help his clients who, like him, are falling short at work and at home. He helps others to believe in themselves again through empathy, enthusiasm, and education. Ryan’s coaching empowers others to live a happier life. You’ll hear Ryan share his experience in corporate-America, his journey to becoming an ADHD coach, and the importance of finding a path that suits your strengths and personality. You will also learn the ways that Ryan and Eric use accountability, how crucial accountability is to getting things done, and how Ryan draws from his personal life to create his content on TikTok.  Other Topics & Questions in this Episode: How do you not get stuck on TikTok?  What are the nuances of accountability that makes it work?  Is it a good idea for your spouse to be your accountability partner? What does Ryan mean by “Walking the razor's edge”? Follow & Connect with Ryan: Website: Instagram: TikTok:   Resources & Honorable Mentions: Community:   Tool:   Book: Book:   Book: Episode:   Episode: Episode:   Episode:
Mar 29, 2022
421 | How We Learn & Coaching for Structured Routines with Aran Rees
01:00:28
Eric is joined by Aran Rees, joining the show from across the pond! Aran has worked in professional development for close to a decade, specializing in self-directed peer-supported experiential learning and believes that learning is a survival skill! You'll hear about the ways that the "why" behind the "what" we want to learn can affect the ways we learn, how our environments affect how we learn, and what is needed for genuine learning.  Topics & Questions in this Episode: How is work changing? How does the move from office-work to at-home work change the way we work?  (As of this recording), what is the average job tenure? Is the shift to learning online geared more towards compliance versus actual learning? Eric to Aran: “Whether we are trying to learn a new skill ourselves or a new job, from what you do professionally, what do we know about what is actually needed for genuine learning rather than regurgitation?”  What does learning begin with?  How does the interest in what we’re learning affect the ways we learn?  Are the goals you are pursuing actually important to you, or is this something someone else is encouraging you to do? Is it only important to you because that person is important to you? Then, is that enough of an ‘interest’ to keep you engaged? Once you’ve made a commitment and you care about something and you’ve carved out the time - what else is essential for learning a new skill or new ability?  What is Aran’s deep ‘why’ behind wanting more structure in his routines?  How can your environment affect learning? How can our environments affect our routines? What is the importance of environmental cues?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: “...I want to learn the piano, but actually I don’t want to learn the piano, I want to have learned it.” - Aran “People can’t be made to learn something they don’t care about.” - Aran Book: Book: Book:
Mar 22, 2022
420 | Leading with ADHD - with Sherri Cannon
01:07:55
In this episode, Eric is joined by Sherri, a CEO/executive coach and facilitator who was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 40. Her mission: Equip ADHD leaders to confidently lead by example making every workplace friendlier for all brains. She has led leadership teams, developed programs for diverse organizations around the world. Before turning entrepreneur, Sherri worked at Procter & Gamble where she climbed from a soap sales-rep (yes, bars of soap!) to Southern California district sales manager. Hear Eric and Sherri talk about self-acceptance, imposter syndrome, and her journey into leadership training. You’ll hear about the executive-functioning drain of meetings, Sherri’s suggestions on running better “meetings”, and the importance of fun and communication. It’s about identifying the needs and challenges are, then coming up with processes to fall to in order to do the things you’re wanting to do.  Connect with Sherri: Topics & Questions in this Episode: How did Sherri go from selling soap to coaching leaders? What is the importance of self-awareness?  How did Sherri’s ADHD diagnosis affect her work work?  After the tech-boom, what drew Sherri back into coaching executives?  What does it look like to be dialed in with self-awareness? When working with leaders with ADHD, what are some of the common challenges that leaders go to Sherri with? Which struggles are most common?  How do we make sure that, when our teams are together, that everybody’s going with, “Yes! That’s what we agreed on!”? How can a leader be constantly increasing self-awareness? What is the importance of feedback? Can there really be 5-minute meetings or conversations?  What is the importance of experimentation in leadership?   Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book:  Book:  Book:    “You cannot overstate the importance of having someone believe in you.” - Eric “...Communication is not what’s said, it’s about what’s received.” - Eric  “There’s so much gold laying around us all the time as neurodiverse folks!” - Sherri
Mar 15, 2022
419 | February Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, ADHD reWired Coaches Moira Maybin & Kat Hoyer, and Lisa!
59:21
Join the ADHD reWired Podcast Family & more of the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for the monthly Live Q&A! In this Q&A episode, you’ll hear Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, and Kat answer your ADHD-related questions!  Questions & Topics in this Episode:(The following questions have been paraphrased.)  What are some ADHD-friendly organizing resources when preparing to relocate?  Emotions can be really big and dysregulated with ADHD. Do you have advice on dealing with surprise disappointments that come up?  My dad loses his temper a lot and it’s very difficult to talk to him. If I didn’t know better, I would have felt that some of the things he does could be borderline abusive. I don’t blame him because a lot of this is involuntary because of the ADHD, but if this continues, it’s not good for the family as a whole. I’m not sure how to deal with this.  How can I improve my sleep hygiene with shift-work? I am currently caring for my mom who has early dementia. I’ll be trying to work on my tasks, but I keep getting off track. How do I manage interruptions?  How do you decide if “This is an ADHD thing” and “it should not be this much of a struggle so I should find a work-around” versus, “This is hard, but everybody struggles to do it, so I will struggle to do it!”?  What suggestions do you have for finding an ADHD-friendly workplace?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Book: Book:   Book: Article: Article:   Article: Mentioned: (The Cycle of Change) Mentioned:   Mentioned: Mentioned: (US) Mentioned: (Canada) Mentioned:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin Get More from ADHD reWired: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Kat, and Lisa for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Mar 08, 2022
418 | Struggling to Structure the Day: A Coaching Conversation with Laura Kane
58:16
In this episode, Eric is joined by Alumni member Laura Kane. Laura is a transplant from Boston living with her rescue dog in Delray Beach, Florida. Just prior to the pandemic, Laura discovered a love of nature photography and is incredibly grateful for this gift. Most days, she can be found taking pictures of birds, alligators, and other assorted wildlife. Her top bucket-list item is to go on a safari. Creating structure and sticking with it is a constant struggle for her, but she refuses to give up!  Listen in as Eric and Laura work together to build her daily structure, the why behind the desire to create the structure, and how uncomfortable it can be to accept praise when sharing our joy. You’ll also hear about the significance and impact of accountability, how Laura’s passion gives her purpose, the anxiety of implementation and commitment, and understanding how the all-or-nothing mindset can actually get in the way.  Laura’s Instagram: Where does the narrative of comparing oneself to others, not feeling good enough, stems from? How can you cue the “why” behind the routine?  How easy is it to create back-up plans ahead of time versus in-the-moment? How is exercise helpful? What about online exercise classes? What barriers can get in the way of building habits/derailing our habits? How do you strengthen accountability?  What’s the story behind “having” to ask for help?  What’s the story behind believing we have to do things by ourselves?  How do we get our goals met? How do we structure our day when we’re the only ones depending on the structure?  How has the pandemic affected building habits and routines? Resources & Honorable Mentions:
Mar 01, 2022
417 | Automation Tools with Brittany Smith
01:05:40
In this episode, Brittany Smith returns to the podcast! Eric and Brittany share some of the digital automation tools they use, such as battery delivery for Tile, automated messages, using smart-lights, setting reminders and routines, and more! You will also hear Eric and Brittany talk about some of the pain-points they attempted to solve using apps and automation. About Brittany: Brittany is a productivity, ADHD, and technology coach and recently published her first course, “From Aggravated to Navigated: Choosing a task-management system with ADHD”. She has a Masters of Science degree in Cognitive Neuroscience lab at the University of Oregon. Brittany uses geeky pop-culture and cognitive science to help her clients and ADHD Guild members get more done with less stress.  Connect with Brittany: Questions Answered In this Episode: How does Brittany use automation?  What is the importance of ‘stability’ when using apps for automation?  What can you do with smart-bulbs? Can automation help routines?  If someone has been thinking about getting into automation but they haven’t purchased anything yet to start (smart switches, smart devices, smart bulbs, etc.), is it a good idea to stick with one platform? Why? What is Tile? What does the premium version of Tile do?  What is the Shortcuts app? (for iOS users only) What are some good uses for an ADHD life?  What is possible with automation?  Can finances be automated?  Before jumping into automation tools, here are some questions to consider before you start: How can I scaffold my executive functions through automation? What exactly do you want from automation?  Where is your pain point where automation can help? What are the fiddly things that you would like to have happen for you? What’s really going to make a dramatic difference in your life?  Honorable Mentions & Resources: (iOS only) (Android™ and Apple® compatible)  (iOS only)     “If This Then That” (Android™ and Apple® compatible)  For our listeners who are PC and Android™ users – What tools do you use, if any, to automate your executive functions in your daily life? Share it with us on our website at  
Feb 22, 2022
416 | When I'm 64 with Lorri Hollingsworth
53:30
In this episode, Eric is joined by Lorri Hollingsworth who was officially diagnosed with combined-type ADHD about two-and-a-half years ago at the age of 64, having reached retirement without suspecting any neurodivergencies.  Yet, she always felt herself to be the “misfit” given the expectations set by friends, family, coworkers, and society at large, and forever assumed the role of “Inadvertent Perpetrator” with all the guilt inherent therein.  Lorri will share her journey shaped by the absence of an ADHD diagnosis in early childhood, which inevitably led to numerous comorbidities over the decades, as well as the never-expected hope that she now experiences for her future.  You’ll hear about the different comorbidities that were discovered before Lorri’s ADHD diagnosis, how her husband of over 35 years aided in Lorri getting diagnosed, her journey of the ways her diagnosis changed the way she viewed her past, and the dynamics of her environment growing up undiagnosed.  You’ll also hear about Lorri’s thrill of a challenge, and her journey through unhealthy eating behaviors, OCD, depression, anxiety, and more.  Lastly, you’ll hear about the importance of learning, self-awareness, and forgiveness to move forward. Questions Answered & Memorable Moments in this Episode: Lorri goes in depth about how important it is to get more stories of seniors getting diagnosed.  What was it that led Lorri to get the diagnosis? “I think the persistent leaving of cabinets and drawers open should be part of the diagnostic criteria!” - Eric “...unless somebody does something drastic to get your attention, they don’t have your attention.” - Lorri Mentioned here: How we show up in relationships:  Is that a product of our environment, or does ADHD sometimes get in the way? “I, .as far back as I can remember, have been a ‘loner’.” - Lorri At 64, you’ve been through a lot of stuff, so why does it matter now (to get diagnosed)? “If you love your life, it’s worth the work.” - Lorri “You have to forgive yourself, and you have to forgive the people that might have contributed inadvertently to you being in that place. Forgiveness is so important.” - Lorri Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:  with Brendan Mahan  with Will Curb  with MJ Siemens  with Moira Maybin Don't Forget These, Too:  — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the sping season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups!  — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space!  — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Kat, and Lisa for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Feb 15, 2022
415 | January Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, ADHD reWired Coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, and Barb!
01:11:33
Join the ADHD reWired Podcast Family every second Tuesday of the month for a Live Q&A! In this Q&A episode, you’ll hear Eric, Barb, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, and Roxie answer your ADHD-related questions! Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the spring season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Kat, and Lisa for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Feb 08, 2022
414 | Hitting the Brain-Brakes: A Coaching Conversation with Danielle!
01:06:27
In this episode, Eric is joined by Danielle, a fresh graduate as of spring 2021. She has a Masters in Mechanical Engineering and was very recently diagnosed with ADHD. She has learned a lot about herself after receiving her diagnosis, especially after listening to ADHD reWired’s podcast. She felt some imposter syndrome after receiving her diagnosis, but has fully embraced it after learning about the symptoms and how it presents for her. In this coaching conversation, you’ll hear about Danielle’s biggest struggle with feelings of rejection while being a high-achiever, the thoughts that went through her head through the feelings of failure, and shares some of the ways she calms her mind in the midst of racing thoughts. Eric and Danielle also touch on topics of emotional regulation, uncertainty, feeling out of control, and you might even relate to some of the inner dialogue she shares throughout today’s show! Then, hear Eric and Danielle come up with a few ideas that might potentially help with some of the feelings of rejection, distorted thought patterns, and ways to pause when the mind begins to spiral.  In this Episode, you’ll hear Danielle answer some of these questions: How did you make it through your Masters degree without knowing you had ADHD? Being diagnosed with ADHD: Was it a surprise or a relief? What were some of your common struggles going through higher education? Was some of the rejection you felt  possibly driven by perfectionism?  With your new ADHD diagnosis, have old stories started to change, or do they still have a bit of emotional sting to them?  What’s the internal dialogue that’s guiding what you say and do?  Do you internalize or experience any types of feedback that leans even a little bit on the negative side? Is there something you might be able to do that you think you might enjoy that you would definitely “not be good” at?  What if you did something you felt wasn’t your best work?  If there were some patterned thoughts around the things that tend to send you in that spiral, if those patterned thoughts were like headlines, what would those headlines be?  Is there anyone you know, whether work or personally, who can give you regular feedback about something where you could also - at the same time - communicate how you’re rating yourself while you’re getting the feedback?  Is there anything else you think would help you in either handling uncertainty in certain situations, or being able to receive feedback that might be difficult to hear while being regulated? 
Feb 01, 2022
413 | From HR to ArC with ADHD reWired Coach, Kat Hoyer
58:05
Returning to the podcast is Kat Hoyer, a recovering HR Specialist who hosts our Career Accelerator Sessions (or CAASH+) in ADHD reWired’s Adult Study Hall Community. Get to know Kat even more in this episode, amd invite you to join us in welcoming Kat Hoyer as ADHD reWired’s newest coach to the coaching team! You’ll hear even more about Kat’s story about how she pivoted from her dream job in human resources to becoming a life and career coach, then the steps leading up to her officially joining the ADHD reWired Coaching Team.  In this Episode: So, who is Kat Hoyer? How did Kat make the transition from HR to Career Coaching to Life-Coaching?  Is Kat still involved with the HR Community? Is the perception of ADHD and Neurodiversity really shifting in the workplace? What compelled Kat to make the change to join the ADHD reWired Coaching Team? What is Kat most excited about when the spring-season of coaching groups arrives?  What values does Kat bring to coaching? What does Kat feel will be her greatest opportunities for growth?  This year, I have a word - it is “enough”. I am really working on understanding that sometimes, it’s okay to be where you are and not be pushing myself… and sometimes “enough” is where I need to live. Kat Hoyer
Jan 25, 2022
412 | Guided Meditation with Alejandro Santiago
41:11
If you enjoyed this episode, and want more from Alejandro, check out his website: Alejandro is a mindfulness life coach and yoga instructor who first experienced the benefits of mindfulness and breathwork when he was a student at Parsons School of Design in New York City. To cope with the stress of ADHD and university, he cultivated a practice of Pranayama, an ancient form of yogic breathwork. Today, he's teaching people how to get out of their heads and into the breath by merging the Western practices of mindfulness based in self-compassion, and yogic Pranayama meditations. He studied compassionate inquiry with Dr. Gabor Maté, a therapeutic approach to uncover and heal trauma in our bodies. When he's not teaching and coaching, he works as a portrait photographer in Toronto, Canada.
Jan 21, 2022
411 | Meditation & Breathwork with Alejandro Santiago
01:02:40
More Shownotes coming soon! In the meantime, get to know today's guest a little more by going to his website at In this episode, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaching Group Alumni, Alejandro Santiago.  Alejandro is a mindfulness life coach and yoga instructor who first experienced the benefits of mindfulness and breathwork when he was a student at Parsons School of Design in New York City. To cope with the stress of ADHD and university, he cultivated a practice of Pranayama, an ancient form of yogic breathwork. Today, he's teaching people how to get out of their heads and into the breath by merging the Western practices of mindfulness based in self-compassion, and yogic Pranayama meditations. He studied compassionate inquiry with Dr. Gabor Maté, a therapeutic approach to uncover and heal trauma in our bodies. When he's not teaching and coaching, he works as a portrait photographer in Toronto, Canada.
Jan 18, 2022
410 | December Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, ADHD reWired Coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, and Barb!
01:08:34
Join the ADHD reWired Podcast Family every second Tuesday of the month for a Live Q&A! In this Q&A episode, you’ll hear Eric, Barb, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, and Roxie answer your ADHD-related questions!  The questions you’ll here answered in this episode: (The following questions asked in the episode have been paraphrased below.)  I can’t be medicated, even for ADHD. I will have exciting things I’m involved in, then I have an episode that makes me feel rejected and I fall into a rumination dive and it takes me a while to get back up. I’m trying to find a way to catch myself sooner, get out of it sooner, so I can continue on the path towards my goal and keep my momentum going. I have started on meds and am having trouble unwinding and slowing my brain down at the end of the day. I wanted to know what your tips are for some of that. How do Time-Timers work?  Bonus: Panelists also share some of the other time-tracking tools they use!  I’m looking for tips on how to help my partner understand what ADHD is and what it isn’t. My partner is neurotypical. My partner seems to not believe ADHD is a real thing, or that it’s a crutch to misplace things. How can I get him to understand?  I was just diagnosed about two months ago. I’m navigating this new identity and trying to find my community. I’m trying to figure out how to navigate who to tell and how to know who to tell. I’ve had some conversations go surprisingly well and others not go so well. How do you handle being true to yourself while also protecting yourself?  Are there any personal assistants that understand ADHD and could help keep me accountable?  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin! Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Jan 11, 2022
409 | How to Choose Your Productivity Apps with Brittany Smith
59:25
Have you tried using all sorts of to-do and task-management apps but haven’t found ‘the one’ yet? In this episode, Eric is joined by Brittany Smith, a productivity, ADHD, and technology coach and recently published her first course, “From Aggravated to Navigated: Choosing a task-management system with ADHD”. She has a Masters of Science degree in Cognitive Neuroscience lab at the University of Oregon. Brittany uses geeky pop-culture and cognitive science to help her clients and ADHD Guild members get more done with less stress.  Connect with Brittany: In this Episode: How do you do things so that you will be successful no matter which tool you choose?  With task-management apps, how do we make these things suck less? How do we choose what task-management app to use?  How do we make task-management apps a “less bad” fit for our brains so we make sure we know what we need to do? Mentioned: (Mac/iOS only)  What’s your personal style?  What should we be looking at if we are stuck in task-management-app “hopping”?  What is a great app for automating? Mentioned:   Mentioned:   Mentioned: (Mac/iOS only) Mentioned: (Mac/iOS only)  Mentioned:   Mentioned:   Mentioned: Mentioned: Honorable Mentions:   Did you know: There are built in tasks if you use Google Assistant. (The same principle applies to the Echo!)        Discover the ADHD reWired Podcast Family: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin! Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com
Jan 04, 2022
408 | The Meaning of ADHD with Dr. Russell Barkley
58:27
Here's another Blast-from-the-Past episode! From the archives, ADHD reWired rebroadcasts Episode 63, where Eric has his first interview with Dr. Russell Barkley. To find more in-depth shownotes, go to   About Dr. Russell Barkley: Renowned professor, educator, and author of numerous ADHD books and clinical manuals, Dr. Russell Barkley talks about the mechanics and ideas behind many core ADHD concepts. Ranging from executive functions, to neuroimaging, to public perception and more, Dr. Barkley shares knowledge from his extensive research and informed perspective on ADHD, breaking down its basic concepts in an understandable and approachable way.    
Dec 28, 2021
407 | Motivation & the Brain: 13 Tips to Increase Motivation
31:52
It's a Blast-from-the-Past episode! From the archives, ADHD reWired rebroadcasts Episode 8 where Eric shares 13 tips to increase motivation!    1. Visualize what the reward is. Then put that picture in it place that you will see it frequently, and ideally in the place where you were likely to need that reminder 2. Use a star chart. Yes the show is primarily geared towards adults, and using a star chart is effective. We like infographics, we like to see the progress we are making on something. 3. Use small short-term rewards 4. Reward progress 5. Surround yourself with affirming people. 6. Exercise 7. Share it with someone 8. Create systems so you are less reliant on executive functioning. 9. Do what you love. 10. Do what you hate first 11. Talk to a doctor about medication. 12. Find a supportive accountability group 13. Learn more about ADHD.
Dec 22, 2021
406 | November Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, ADHD reWired Coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, and Barb!
01:06:21
Join the ADHD reWired Podcast Family every second Tuesday of the month for a Live Q&A! In this Q&A episode, you’ll hear Eric, Barb, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, and Roxie answer your ADHD-related questions!  What you’ll hear in this episode: What are some tips for managing ADHD and exercise post-surgery? Moira talks about her recovery process from falling off a cliff and brain injury.  Find different ways to take care of yourself.  Recovery takes time. As the weeks go by, new shiny habits fall off. Any advice for sticking to making progress on weight loss? What’s your “Why”?  Go slowly. It may be helpful to think more of what you want to add to your diet instead of what you want to take out. Start with the supermarket.  Think about the health of the gut microbiome. Also mentioned here: Make it fun and do things that make you feel good. My partner and I have ADHD and we have a young child with ADHD. While they’re too young for a diagnosis, what resources can we use, where can we start exploring, and what are habits we can start building now so they don’t have to struggle like I did? Be mindful of shame and be compassionate. “My child is not giving me a hard time, they are having a hard time.” Try your best to stay out of wor-st-case scenario thinking.  Mentioned here: Focus on connection, communication, and anxiety management.  Look at the motivation of what your child is doing instead of the outcomes. Model repairing and model owning your mistakes.  Do you have advice about disclosing ADHD in the workplace?  Mentioned here:   Don’t disclose your ADHD, do disclose what you need to be successful. Mentioned here: “Ask JAN” Mentioned here:      What are your best home-hacks?  Cleaning and decluttering are not the same thing. Take a picture of your workspace, then share it. Then, after you’ve finished cleaning, take a picture when you’re done! Mentioned here:   Keep it simple, like one load of laundry, because that is easier to start and get to “done”.  Store cleaning supplies everywhere you need them. For example, if you have more than one bathroom, keep cleaning supplies in both bathrooms. If you can, consider a cleaning service. Baskets are a great way to keep clutter contained. Don’t live alone? Split up your cleaning duties.  Start small and start cleaning for five minutes - you may be surprised how much you can get done! Gamify the cleaning! If you start cleaning and it turns out to be a project, add it to your task list and find a way you can be reminded to finish. If I am not diagnosed yet, what do I need to prepare for my ADHD evaluation to make sure my symptoms get taken seriously, especially if I did fine in school and was a gifted kid?  Have a bullet point of things you want to share with the evaluator.  It’s OK to share that you are concerned that your symptoms may not be taken seriously.  A good evaluator will ask good questions and will help you tell your story to be able to come up with a diagnosis. Mentioned here: Why has it been observed that women are more commonly misdiagnosed than men?  Is the practice of improv helpful for building skills to manage ADHD? What could this target be? Accepting “what is” and seeing what we can actually do about our situations. For example: When something unexpected happens, how do we accept that as it is, and identify what can we do and problem-solve around this?” Improv can open us to more growth-mindset thinking.  Life is not a script. Life is improv! The more we can adapt to what’s thrown at us, the better we’re going to do.  Might the practice of improv be helpful for folks with ADHD who are verbal processors? Mentioned here:   Mentioned here:   I am a single parent. My child is accident prone and has a lot of energy. After being diagnosed at 5-years old, I was forced by my child’s school to start medication. Nothing has happened. How else can I help my now 6-year old?  If you are asking how you can help your kids, you are already on the right track.  In the United States: schools are not allowed to force your kid to take medication.  Find therapists who specialize in ADHD. Keep communication open with teachers and daycares. Mentioned here: You are the best advocate for your child.   As we reflect on 2021, Eric asks:  What can you do, what do you want to do come 2022 to help rewire your ADHD beyond learning about it? What are the actions you want to take that will make the biggest difference in the lives of yourselves, of your family, where you work, and your communities?  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin! Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Dec 14, 2021
405 | The Mess of Personal Growth with MJ from ADHD Diversified
43:44
In this episode, Eric and MJ have an unmedicated dialogue about the messiness of personal growth, the work it took to rewrite the stories she held about her self-worth, and how happy she was to have been proven wrong about the stories she’s told herself since completing a season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups in the summer of 2020. They continue the conversation about the work they’ve put in to achieve their goals, how heartwarming it is to witness others learn to love and accept themselves, and that no one with ADHD ever has to go on their growth journey alone.  The final registration event for the 27th season of Coaching & Accountability Groups is on Thursday, December 9th! There are only a few spots left in Eric’s groups (Sections 3 and 4). Moira and Roxie’s groups are now full. Register for our final event by going to to add your name to our winter interest list! About MJ: MJ is a Canadian-born Asian who was diagnosed with ADHD in 2019, living in Canada with her ADHD partner. Since completing her own season in season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups in Season 21, she created and hosts the ADHD Diversified Podcast and is a returning peer-mentor for the Coaching & Accountability Groups.    What you’ll hear about in this episode: “When you first started with being a member of the coaching groups, do you think you realized how hard you were on yourself?” - Eric What is the importance of better and more accurate language to describe our feelings and our emotions?  “It’s still hard to believe that the good stuff is true even though there’s clear evidence that there’s a difference being made .” - MJ Compassionate ass-kicking & meeting ourselves where we’re at... “Real growth isn’t about fast-tracking.” - MJ Why is joining the Coaching & Accountability groups with an open mind so important?  The stories we’ve told ourselves may have been true in the past, but they don’t have to be true right now.  “I think if I would’ve stayed stuck... thinking that my mentality was right, I would not be where I am right now.” - MJ You don’t have to be an entrepreneur to have an entrepreneurial mindset.  “I do not know it all and I absolutely don’t do it all perfectly.” - Eric  Honorable Mentions: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin! Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Dec 07, 2021
404 | Let Pleasure be the Measure with Pasha Marlowe
52:35
In this episode, Eric is joined by Pasha Marlowe who was diagnosed with ADHD at 49. She is a family therapist, therapeutic comedy coach, ADHD coach, podcast host and author. She artfully blends her unique life experience with her life’s work in healing through psychotherapy, embodied emotions, holistic wellness, life-coaching, ADHD coaching, CBT coaching, theatre, and comedy.  Pasha’s podcast, “Let Pleasure be the Measure” is a playground of conversations about the importance of incorporating pleasure, play, and humor into your personal work, home, and sex life. Pasha also published a book in 2021 called, “My Next Husband Will be a Lesbian.”  What you’ll hear in this episode: What did it feel like to be in a place that felt so helpless and challenging to be able to bring humor into a dark space? What is therapeutic comedy? “...folks with ADHD have the ability to think creatively, potentially think outside the box, gain new perspectives, see things from a different angle - which, in this case is really a beautiful gift… I feel like... creativity is a way to manage our ADHD stress.” - Pasha Marlowe Because there is so much value in using humor, where is the line between when you call someone out for acting like the clown and avoiding versus actually dealing with and recognizing that it is a healthy tool? “Let Pleasure be the Measure” - Where did this podcast idea come from? “Play is the opposite of perfection.” - Pasha Marlowe What is, “My Next Husband Will be a Lesbian” all about? Follow & Connect with Pasha: Instagram: Youtube:   Facebook:   Honorable Mentions:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin! Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Nov 30, 2021
403 | Adult Study Hall Wins: Accelerating Your Job Search
47:34
If you’re on a job-hunt but don’t know where to start, Adult Study Hall by ADHD reWired is the place to be! Listen in as a few members in one of our popular Adult Study Hall Plus (ASH+) sessions share their wins while looking for their next job.  You’ll hear about feedback from mock-interview sessions, identifying your dream-job and your skills, why some members decided to join our ASH+ Career Accelerator facilitated session, and overcoming a job loss and moving forward to the career they could truly thrive in.  Go to to sign up and join our Career Accelerator Session every week! To access this session and all of our Adult Study Hall sessions, including our drop-in room that’s open 24/7, visit adultstudyhall.com. It’s free for the first week and only $19.99 a month after that!  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the winter season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups, starting in January 2022! — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Nov 23, 2021
402 | October Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, ADHD reWired Coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, and Barb!
01:10:25
Join the ADHD reWired Podcast Family every second Tuesday of the month for a Live Q&A! Listen in on today’s episode as the ADHD reWired panelists answer your ADHD-related questions! In this episode, we cover topics like dealing with shame and guilt, feedback from employers, partnerships, pet-care, mind-wandering, and more! (Recorded on October 12th / 2021)   [00:03:06] - How do you deal with feedback from bosses that you don’t want to disclose your ADHD to? [00:17:15] - As the neurotypical partner in the relationship, what is it that I can do best to help my ADHD partner feel productive and useful being a stay-at-home dad? [00:31:22] - Being on antidepressants for over 10 years, and finally finding out about my anxiety and depression being a result of undiagnosed ADHD, being 51 and female, does anyone have the experience of getting off SSRI’s and learning to feel out what “normal” is?  [00:35:09] - Being fairly new to the ADHD journey, I feel that my biggest issue is with mind-wandering. Does the panel have any experience or advice regarding mind-wandering?  [00:43:38] - Do you have any tips on how to care for pets, especially cats, with ADHD? I keep forgetting to do things that they really need me to do.  [00:53:51] - Do you have suggestions for working through shame and disappointment? [01:01:00] - New to the diagnosis, the meds help with energy and focus, but when my ADHD kids meltdown, it sends my anxiety through the ceiling. Any suggestions?  [01:02:19] - How do I get my wife to understand that ADHD is real, and that she must embrace this in order to support me?  [01:03:29] - I am 70 and finally have gotten the ADHD diagnosis. The shame I am filled with is remembering how my parents treated me as a child. My family has now put me to the side [...] but… [01:04:37] - ADHD reWired’s King of Dad-Jokes gives us a Moment of Dad... Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Nov 16, 2021
401 | Eric Tivers in the Hot Seat: What Comes Next?
49:56
The 27th season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups begins in January 2022! Our next registration event is on November 11th 2021. If you’ve been wondering what group coaching can do for you, head over to to find out how you can be a part of our award-winning, online and video-based coaching and accountability groups, so you can get your ADHD rewired and rewrite your ADHD story! In this episode, Eric gets in the Mastermind hot-seat while a few members of the ADHD reWired Coaching Community Alumni pick his brain and ask what could be next for The ADHD reWired Podcast. How does Eric celebrate? What has he learned about consistency? And what could the future hold for The ADHD reWired Podcast?  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Nov 09, 2021
400 | ADHD reWired Celebrates 400 Episodes!
51:50
The 27th season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups begins in January 2022! Our next registration event is on November 11th 2021. If you’ve been wondering what group coaching can do for you, head over to to find out how you can be a part of our award-winning, online and video-based coaching and accountability groups, so you can get your ADHD rewired and rewrite your ADHD story! What happens after 400 episodes? What have the Alumni members of the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups learned? What really happens when connections are made? Listen to today’s episode where some of our members share their experiences within the ADHD reWired community and how it’s made an impact on their lives with ADHD. Mentioned on the Show: Episode 39 - Everything Dr. Russell Barkley: More episodes mentioned coming soon!  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Nov 02, 2021
399 | Workplace Accommodations: Do I Need to Disclose? with Kat Hoyer
58:03
  About Kat Hoyer:  Kat is a "recovering HR (Human Resources) manager" and started as a member of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups back in 2015. She is the creator of the Steer Your Life Coaching Program and has  q9 Steer-Certified coaching across the country. Her business, SYLC Consulting brings holistic workplace development to organizations where she helps organizations talk about stress management, emotional intelligence, and cognitive agility.  [00:02:45] - How do we, as people with ADHD, advocate for ourselves in the workplace for what we need without saying we have ADHD?  [00:06:54] - What types of accommodations can we ask for? [00:08:23] - What does an accommodation look like, or how can we work through it?  [00:09:06] - How can accommodations that we feel we need be beneficial to whatever the mission or the goals of the company are? What happens if we are denied accommodations?  [00:12:16] - If we are searching for a job, what are some of the questions we can ask during the interview process without disclosing our ADHD? [00:20:09] - Eric talks about what he’s learned & about getting accommodations and what he asked for. [00:22:28] - What exactly are reasonable accommodations?  [00:25:01] - Eric & Kat talk about working extra hours, communication, requesting feedback, and advocating for yourself in a way that is solutions-oriented. [00:30:03] - Self-acceptance & self-awareness can make it easier to advocate for ourselves.  [00:37:27] - Neurodiversity in the workplace: Where does it stand?  [00:39:32] - Has the workplace evolved? What about hybrid models? What if we’re struggling with this hybrid model?  [00:42:49] - What can managers and bosses do to be more supportive of neurodivergent brains? [00:44:51] - What’s the perfect job for someone with ADHD?  [00:46:39] - Is it a toxic work environment?  [00:47:39] - Kat speaks to her experiences in ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability groups, the tools that has helped others, and the positive things she has seen from people who have gone through the coaching groups.  Connect with Kat: Website:   Twitter for SYLC Consulting: Facebook: Listen to her on episode Honorable & Noteworthy Mentions: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Oct 26, 2021
398 | Can We, Though? with Greg Hopewell
01:01:59
The 27th season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups begins in January 2022! Our first registration event is on Saturday, October 30th! If you’ve been wondering what group coaching can do for you, head over to to find out how you can be a part of our award-winning, online and video-based coaching and accountability groups, so you can get your ADHD rewired and rewrite your ADHD story! About Greg: Greg was first diagnosed with ADHD at 10 and went untreated until he was re-diagnosed at 33, after procrastination on a big project made him leave the hospital shortly after the birth of his little girl. Greg has a degree in computer engineering and law, and works as a patent attorney in Silicon Valley. During COVID, Greg found his way to ADHD reWired and is a graduate of season 23 of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups, and joined season 25 and 26 as a peer-mentor (or “ADDmin”) supporting other members of the award-winning coaching program.  If you want to hear a story about some mind-blowing growth from one of the most cynical skeptics we’ve ever encountered in the coaching groups, then this is the podcast you need to listen to. Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Oct 19, 2021
397 | September Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, & Barb McDonagh
01:15:14
Want to join the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups? Go now to and get your name added to our winter interest list so you can join our kickoff registration event this month in October!  Shownotes & timestamps coming soon... Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the winter season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups! — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Oct 12, 2021
396 | Finding the Fun and Flow in Fitness with Karen Broda
01:06:33
Do you struggle with staying active? Does the word “fitness” make you shy away from starting? Then this is the episode you need to listen to because getting your body moving and adding physical activity to your daily routine doesn’t have to be boring! About Karen: Karen is a body and mind transformation coach & personal trainer for ADHD women. From Canada, she teaches you how to thrive in your fitness, nutrition and health - not just manage it. She believes you are worthy of your dream body that you feel incredibly confident in, with a mindset to match - even if you have ADHD.  Fun fact about Karen: While she spends her spare time camping, she also spends time training in the circus, and also lives in a tiny home! Mentioned on the show:  Find Karen on Instagram: Grab Karen’s 15-minute Morning & Night Routines and find her Fitness Identity course here: Check out Karen’s YouTube channel: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Oct 05, 2021
395 | Race Car Brain with Nicolas Hunziker
01:08:02
About Nicolas: Nicolas was first originally from Switzerland. He’s a long-time motoring enthusiast, licensed racer, and fourth-generation painter. He now lives and works in the U.S. as a professional automotive fine artist.  He trained at Pasadena ArtCenter College of Design and incorporates many elements of Art Deco advertising posters in his paintings - a style he called, “Period Correct.” He’s worked with the likes of Porsche, 24h Le Mans, McLaren, and Ford, to create one-of-a-kind art pieces and automotive-themed design prints for apparel and products.  [00:03:26] - Nicolas talks about a 20-foot painting he was commissioned to do in 2015 for Porsche and says more about his artwork and his business.  [00:04:30] - Mentioned here:   [00:05:29] - Hear more about Nicolas’ family history of artists, Art Deco, photography, and postmodernism.  [00:07:01] - Nicolas gives an honest answer when people ask him how they can become a painter, his thoughts on corporate culture, the types of clients he’s worked with, and what he did before becoming a full-time painter.  [00:10:07] - A relatable moment of time-blindness is mentioned here. (Implied; the phrase, “time-blindness” is not actually mentioned here.) Then, Eric and Nicolas dive more into ADHD and how it’s “the worst-named disorder in the world”, the difference between hyperfocus and flow, and how Nicolas experiences hyperfocus.  [00:14:19] - Eric talks about the COVID hobby he picked up - painting - and asks Nicolas about changing brushes.  A question for the listener: Is it just Eric? Or do you think painters with ADHD have to buy more brushes because “we” don’t clean them off fast enough?  [00:21:47] - Nicolas answers Eric’s question: “From what you’re learning so far, how do you see ADHD showing up in your work, in a way that challenges your work?” Here, Nicolas opens up about mindfulness and other tools he uses, and how he organizes his environment. He also opens up about impulse control and not being able to say “no”, being an instigator, and how his ADHD affects his business and relationship.  [00:24:05] - Eric and Nicolas talk about starting “22 things at the same time”, deadlines, and perfectionism. Later, they talk about how long it can take Nicolas to finish a painting. [00:27:52] - Hear a helpful reframe on how hyperfocus can potentially be more draining, rather than a superpower. Then, Nicolas talks about the energy differences when he paints versus sketching, how long it takes him to figure out details for historical accuracy, and how perfectionism plays a role.  [00:34:03] - Mentioned here: [00:43:26] - Nicolas shares how his ADHD has affected his relationship, the challenges they’ve had to face together, and how a fantastic referral led him to his ADHD diagnosis.  [00:46:26] - Eric and Nicolas share a moment when it comes to filling out forms and how they change their handwriting.  [00:48:07] - Nicolas talks about the research phase of ADHD, how he’s still learning, how the scope of his ADHD has affected his life and the people around him, losing things, and getting derailed. Unintentional tip from Nicolas: Walk around with paper in your hand, it looks like you’re going somewhere. Or, you can hold a phone to your ear!  [00:51:18] - Eric and Nicolas talk about auditory processing and dyscalculia, recalling conversations, emotional scarring, and the messiness of sequencing events. Then, they talk about taking notes and how Leonardo da Vinci would handwrite. [00:53:59] - Nicolas opens up about communication challenges, his triggers, his tendencies, and his awareness of his reactions.  [00:56:49] - Nicolas shares an analogy about an intention versus the effect of the intention.  [00:58:39] - Eric and Nicolas talk more about being emotionally laden, emotional defense mechanisms, and forgetfulness.  [01:01:56] - Nicolas gives his thanks. He hopes this episode can help someone listening to his story, too. Mentioned on the show:  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Sep 28, 2021
394 | What Music Helps YOU Focus at Will? with Will Henshall
01:05:07
About Will: Will is a Los Angeles-based tech entrepreneur, inventor, and music producer, who is the CEO and founder of Focus@Will. He is the founding member of the 90’s hit UK pop-soul band LONDONBEAT, founded a tech company called Rocket Network based in San Francisco, and sold the company in 2003. Will also founded the company called “DigiDelivery”, which morphed into Avid Cloud Collaboration (part of ProTools) and is used everyday in pro audio production all over the world.  Sources: Check it out: [00:03:47] - Will talks about being diagnosed and shares some of his thoughts about ADHD. [00:07:27] - Eric and Will talk about using music as a tool, what’s helpful for them, and the science of music on the brain. [00:11:17] - Hear a sample from Focus@Will, “The Deep”, and more.  [00:12:36] - Will explains a musician’s brain.  [00:15:37] - Will shares a story from a friend about music and Alzheimers.  [00:22:09] - Eric asks Will about the creation process, the data, and what the data says.  [00:24:28] - Will tells us who gave him his ADHD diagnosis, and the types of jobs where ADHD brains need a lot of stimulation to focus.  [00:26:22] - Hear more samples from Focus@Will, as Will walks us through the purpose of each sample.  [00:29:04] - Will explains how Focus@Will started and what was involved with starting up. [00:32:08] - Hear more about the science, the cognitive testing, and the distinct link between brain types and the kinds of music that helps that type of brain.  Did you know: Statistically, one in three people cannot listen to any sound at all while they’re working! [00:33:43] - Will talks about the bell curve of the studies, the correlation of ADHD, a link to autism, and how the data came out with how having music on while working helps two thirds of people.  [00:36:36] - Hear about a statistic of Focus@Will in a work environment, and how the people using it compare to the organization.   [00:42:51] - Eric wants to know about the musical and creative side of Focus@Will - and then we get serenaded! Will explains making music for the non-conscious mind.  [00:44:35] - Will talks about “Nature Beat”, a channel that is also his own personal artistic endeavor. Then, hear a sample of Nature Beat itself, as Will walks us through how it works and the intentionality behind its creation. (All Nature Beat tracks are 25 minutes long - the same as a Pomodoro!)  [00:48:43] - Will explains what “entrainment” is with a demonstration using his guitar.  Did you know: Strings sympathetically resonate with sounds that make the strings happen. You can do this with a piano by singing into a piano and holding the sustain pedal!  [00:50:07] - Hear “the skinny” about binaural beats, and the brainwaves we need to focus and concentrate. (It’s alpha waves.)  [00:52:56] - Go to focusatwill.com, take the quiz on the website, and discover what kind of music might best help you get focused! Hint: It often recommends music you don’t like. Will explains why.  [00:55:36] - Will shares three tips he’s received:  “Every time I do an email during the day, I ‘click’ a [pitch] counter.” (It just might have been our own Brendan Mahan!)  A tip from a Podiatrist (foot doctor): Make sure your feet are grounded at 90 degrees to your ankles when you’re working. It has a profound impact on your typing accuracy! An eye-doctor talked about eye-strain and working in front of a computer. The tip: Close one eye, look at your screen, and then look away (or outside) at the brightest source (but not the sun!), and then look back at your computer screen. If it is exactly the same [brightness], you’re good to go. But if it’s not, then adjust the brightness of your screen so it matches the ambient light.  Get in touch with Will Henshall & follow Focus@Will:  On Twitter Like Focus@Will on Focus@Will on Other honorable mentions: Learn more about Entrainment (Wikipedia link)  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Sep 21, 2021
393 | August Live Q&A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin, & Barb McDonagh
01:18:04
** There's still room for YOU to join the 26th season of the award-winning ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups, starting in October!  Head over to to find out how you can be a part of these intensive, online and video-based coaching and accountability groups, so you can get your ADHD rewired and rewrite your ADHD story! [00:02:20]  - Eric has the first ADHD moment of the show  [00:04:38] - Question: A listener who was recently diagnosed with ADHD asks about hyperfocus, prioritizing, and how to tell the difference between something that is a “new” passion versus a hyperfocus, versus a new commitment that may lose interest in.  Learn as much as you can about ADHD. It’s a disorder where information makes a difference.  If you can anticipate the things in your environment that you’re more susceptible to falling into hyperfocus and plan for them. Our tendencies can be double-edged swords.  Ask ourselves: Is it a passion or calling, or something we’re just doing a deep dive on?  Have a place to store your ideas, because it doesn’t mean you have to act on them and continue to scroll. It’s okay to be curious about it, and observe if the curiosity will fade tomorrow before acting on it.  The more we are engaged in thinking about it (our ADHD), the more we are going to take our lives off auto pilot.  Is it a time-suck or a time-investment?  Learning about ADHD is really learning more about ourselves.  [00:14:33] - Question: What is the most frustrating thing about your ADHD? This listener’s most frustrating thing is having to wait for stuff. But first, Barb and Eric have a moment! Roxie:  working memory in almost every aspect of her life, and shares a working-memory moment.  Moira: day-to-day is waiting, but the big-impact ADHD frustration is impulsivity with blurting out.  Will: An extreme lack of executive function while recovering from COVID (at the time of this recording) and activating on the task at hand.  MJ: Impulsivity to never (or rarely) say “no”. Then optimism kicks in, then they realize they can’t do all the things, even though their ADHD wants to do all the things.  Brendan: The “waiting-brain” and having trouble initiating prior to something bigger in the future.  Eric: Transitioning or moving on to the next thing, and multi-tracking and maintenance in multiple domains of life at once.  [00:19:37] - Question: A listener is one month away from having a baby and is in serious need of working on their recently diagnosed ADHD, and wonders how to balance these.  Suggestions: Don’t join a coaching group (yet). Focus on your baby and get to know your baby because the years will fly by.  Learn more about ADHD by listening to podcasts, because you can listen to a podcast and feed a baby at the same time. The more passive the learning, the easier it’s going to be to fit in [the learning] around your baby.  When you’re pregnant, your body has a lot of estrogen which helps your ADHD. When you deliver, those hormones decrease. Women with ADHD have a much higher rate of postpartum depression largely due to this drop.  Figure out what works for you even when others want to give advice, ask for help, don’t be afraid to ask for help, and take care of yourself. [00:30:55] - Question: A listener, who is a startup cofounder, asks about navigating and managing rejection in a practical way, and avoiding participation with the anxiety of facing rejection.  It’s not just about competing with someone else, it’s about competing and challenging ourselves.  Is there risk? Yes. The only guarantee if a “no” is to not do the thing that scares us.  Ask ourselves: Can you do everything that you think you can do and at the same time, understand that it might not go your way, or seal your own fate by not doing anything?  Ask ourselves: What’s our mindset when we go into these things? Ask ourselves: Do we love what we’re doing?  One of the things that makes rejection so hard is the story we tell ourselves about why we were rejected. If we change the story and make it one that serves us rather than one that undermines us, it’s easier to take that risk the next time because we’re not ruined by the story we told ourselves.  [00:35:16] - A listener gets burnt out from doing productive things, but when they feel burnt out, they know exactly what they need to do to recharge. But when they feel like they need to do more things, they don’t feel like they have the right to recharge.  (The panelists can relate!) “I need to do all my work first before I can recharge” may be an old story we tell ourselves. We can’t only do the work because that’s what leads to burnout.  Nobody gets everything done on their to-do lists, including neurotypical people.  Ask ourselves: What’s the story we tell ourselves? What are the remnants of our old belief patterns? Are we making up for our ADHD?  Plan the time off first, and protect that time after it’s been planned.   We’re never going to escape the mental trap that says, “Oh, I could do more.” Sure, we could do more, but with diminishing returns.  You deserve to have self-care, whether you’ve gotten the stuff done or not.  Write down a compelling “why” to help remember why it was prioritized.  [00:41:13] - A listener, who is also a new dad, is overwhelmed and finds himself doing anything else except for the things he feels he needs to do. Both him and his partner have ADHD.  Balance the sleep by swapping nights with your partner and experiment with a rhythm that works for you.  Ask for help and be open about what your struggles are, that doesn’t necessarily need to disclose the ADHD.  [00:44:50] - A listener asks what kinds of movies the panelists like to watch! Eric: Death to Smoochie MJ: Oceans 13, Atlantis, The Emperor’s New Groove, otherwise they watch documentaries or true-crime  Will: Mostly watched kids movies recently; really enjoyed The Mitchells vs. The Machines. Will also enjoys comedies and light-hearted things. He even enjoys “terrible” movies (movies that are so bad they’re good.)  Moira: needs movies with a story to stay engaged. Otherwise, she enjoys Pride & Prejudice (both versions), period pieces, and movies with mysteries but aren’t scary. She also enjoys rom-coms. Brendan: All the Marvel movies, Star Wars, fantasy stuff, heist movies, especially Oceans 11.  Roxie: Jojo Rabbit, comedies that take her by surprise and are really quirky. Barb really likes comedies and action movies like the Fast & Furious movies, and series like Umbrella Academy.  Honorable mentions: Sharknado  Tremors 6 Ticket to Hawaii 5-Headed Shark Poseidon Rex [00:55:57] - A listener, who was diagnosed with ADHD over ten years ago as an adult, and is wondering if there is any ADHD medication that can be taken while breastfeeding.  It comes down to risk-reward of the baby and managing ADHD. Some folks have found it safe to take the medication, depending on medical history. Bottom line: Talk to your doctor, and make sure your doctor knows you and understands ADHD. Talk to your pharmacist.  [00:59:08] - Between ADHD, a brain injury, hormones, and anxiety, a listener is feeling like a dysfunctional mess. Coaching, therapy, meds, and techniques haven’t worked for them thus far, and are feeling down more frequently.  Number one: Putting yourself first and being kind to yourself. Questions asked back to the listeners: How many of us did help not work until we had the right help?  What are your protective factors? What does your support look like? What community support networks exist that you can take advantage of?  We have an inner voice or inner critic we’re allowed to ‘tell off’.  [01:04:25] - Eric shares an update about his Phish tickets and shares some lessons learned about travelling.  [01:05:44] - A listener, newly diagnosed with ADHD, asks about dealing with transitions.  Ask someone to help and share that transition-piece with someone else. Use a timer, but make sure it’s a timer it’s not on your phone. Make it something that will have you get up from your chair if the “gravity” of your chair is getting stronger.  Limit context switching whenever possible.  Try doing everything in one space that you need to do in that space before transitioning onto the next. “Break for Eyes” on iOS desktop.  Build in more buffer time between switching.  Have an alarm for the upcoming transition as a “nudge” of what’s coming up, not the transition itself. Every transition is really two transitions: You have to transition out of what you’re doing, then into whatever is coming up next. There are three kinds of transitions Physical transitions Emotional transitions Intellectual transitions [01:11:29] - Enjoy the last minute moment-of-dad from the Dad-Joke King himself, Will Curb.  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at questions@whatwasthequestionpodcast.com  Don't Forget These, Too: — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Sep 14, 2021
392 | Bi Polar, ADHD, and the Road to Recovery with Jim Long
48:43
** There's still room for YOU to join the 26th season of the award-winning ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups, starting in October!  Head over to to find out how you can be a part of these intensive, online and video-based coaching and accountability groups, so you can get your ADHD rewired and rewrite your ADHD story! About Jim: Jim has been battling ADHD since his diagnosis at the age of 10 in the early 1980's, adding bipolar type 2 (Bipolar II), substance abuse, and an anxiety disorder to the mix has made life interesting, to say the least! Having a robust recovery plan and a team in place is helping Jim overcome these obstacles and stay on the path to recovery.  Jim is a father of four, married to his wife for 30 years, an army Veteran, and a fire EMS captain.  (Check back for updated timestamps of this episode!) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at   Don't Forget These, Too! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Sep 07, 2021
391 | Can a Passion For Videogames Help? with Henry Holman
01:05:04
This week, Eric talks with his guest, Henry Holman, about how some of the lessons he's learned through gaming can also apply to real life, the impact of discovering when you're not alone with your ADHD, and dive into a quick coaching session for tips and strategies to managing your to-do's.  About Henry: Henry is going to be a senior at DePaul University, studying computer science and is working towards a career in game programming. Although he was diagnosed at 9 years old, he didn’t start learning about ADHD until he was 19, and remains fascinated with the “why” behind his ADHD-ness. He has loved video games for as long as he can remember, and in recent years, he has learned a lot about himself as he strives to improve at competitive Super Smash Brothers™. His long term career goal is to create a game that makes players feel like they have ADHD, to increase awareness and understanding surrounding the disorder.  This is one of the first episodes in a while where Eric gets to have a guest in-studio!    [00:02:48] - Eric asks how Henry got into video games. It all started with a Game Boy Color™ and a McDonalds toy. Henry and his siblings also split a game console.Then Eric and Henry hash out their virtual tennis accomplishments, and why a lamp-timer is helpful. [00:04:39] - Henry talks about a video game he wants to create that will make people feel like they have ADHD. His brother recommends a game to play, where the underlying theme of the game is a metaphor for overcoming the character’s anxiety, and why it resonated with Henry. He also talks about a game he’s played where the character in the game suffers from psychosis, which also gave him inspiration.    Fun fact: The game Henry mentions in the timestamp above was, indeed, made in collaboration with neuroscientists and mental health professionals. Henry says, “They didn’t want to do [the game] a disservice” and wanted to break a misrepresentation of mental health in games. Read more:   [00:08:31] - Eric asks where Henry is at [with his game]. Henry has already made some prototype levels, designed after , and how the levels represent these deficits.  [00:11:00] - Eric and Henry talk about enthusiasm vs. pursuing a passion professionally. Henry reflects on an episode of ADHD reWired he’s listened to. “We don’t have the luxury [with ADHD] of doing things we don’t like to do for a living” is a phrase that resonates with how he felt about school.  [00:12:44] - Henry really wanted to do game design as a career, but got a “C” in a game-design class, but didn’t quite know what it was he truly wanted to do. Later on, Henry discovers a love for programming, problem-solving, and playing with Lego and K’nex.  [00:15:31] - A moment of ADHD happens right before the break.  [00:22:26] - Henry started educating himself after getting stuck on breaking his skill-ceiling, and talks about the game he dove into to learn how to play competitively. Eric and Henry nerd out about their “mains” in Super Smash Brothers™. Henry explains how picking up a new character in the game was a perfect metaphor for living life with ADHD.  [00:27:13] - “Autopilot” isn’t effective. Henry talks about how his skill-ceiling led to frustration, and coming up with new strategies after losing another set. When he realizes his ADHD may have something to do with his struggles, he talks about diving into ADDitude magazine articles, watching videos on YouTube, and going down the ADHD Reddit rabbit-hole.  [00:30:48] - Henry learns about tournament-nerves, staying calm under pressure, and being able to control impulses, and how in Super Smash Brothers™ was helpful to apply the principles he learned to the real world.  [00:33:20] - Henry recommends taking a drink of water to knock your body out of fight-flight-freeze mode, and how it became his pause-mechanism.  [00:34:33] - Henry’s passion about games “speaks to if we’re going to problem-solve around any area of life, if we can figure out a way to put it through the lens of what we are passionate about, it gives our brain a fighting chance.” - Eric  [00:40:55] - Eric and Henry go through some coaching about a consistent system to keep track of his to-do’s. From a digital-assignment notebook and a whiteboard.  [00:44:46] - Eric and Henry talk about the assignment books they received in school, and dive into some of the tools Henry used to use, and how what has worked before never lasted for him, aside from Google Calendar. Then, Eric asks, “What if we can… shift to the mindset from ‘I want to find a consistent tool’ to being quick to pivot when we realize we are no longer paying attention to this tool?”  [00:47.01] - Eric talks about the different places his to-do’s live, and what Eric found helpful for him. Eric also recommends setting a reminder that asks, “Am I using this tool?” Then, Henry reflects on how this could work for him. Eric also recommends using an erasable pen when using a paper-calendar.  [00:49.07] - Henry shares his issue with communication, how he stores the information he’s been given, and how shorthand isn’t always the best way to store that information. [00:52:14] - Eric goes over keeping track of to-do’s, then checking-in with the to-do’s. Mentioned here: Book - (affiliate link)  [00:54:52] - “The thing that I think is most important to be cognizant of is, ‘What are you doing now, what are you doing next?' ...because knowing what’s next makes transitions easier. Everything else is a distraction.” - Eric [00:56:39] - Henry shares his takeaways and the systems he wants to try, which include implementing the reminders about his systems in his calendar, and keeping an “encyclopedia” or an “owner's manual” of strategies of what he has done in the past. Eric also encourages rotating through the tools we have.    Get to know Henry here from his Linktr.ee  Other Honorable Mentions: Magazine  (reddit)  with Jessica McCabe    Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at   Don't Forget These, Too! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Aug 31, 2021
390 | How to Recover from Years of Failure with Aron Croft
01:07:35
This is an episode you won’t want to miss. Listen in as Eric - and his guest, Aron Croft - talk about the coping mechanisms Aron went through before he was diagnosed, the lessons he learned from his failures, and how he rose like the pheonix from Procrastinator in Chief to developing an ADHD-friendly productivity system you can't not hear about! About Aron: Aron appeared to have it all together when he got into Harvard. But that was the beginning of his demise. He struggled non-stop for 15 years until he was broke, divorced, and earning minimum wage, failing out of his first seven jobs and businesses. But after getting a masters degree in coaching psychology and a diagnosis of inattentive ADHD, his life changed. He built a successful fortune 500 career, got married, and discovered how to get shit done with a neurodivergent brain.  RIght before Eric and Aron hit record, Aron also adds another skill in pillow fort building for reducing slap-back audio in a not-perfectly-acoustic room!  [00:02:26] - Eric and Aron start at the “bottom” of Aron’s story. Aron gets into Harvard and explains how he dropped out twice before graduating, hating school, being outmatched and outclassed. He lost the structure he had around him, moving from south Florida to Boston, and was sick of the pain to get things done by waiting until the last minute until fear motivated him to get things done, studying computer science. Eric affirms that activation energy can be amazing, but comes at a price. [00:05:10] - Aron talks about the ways he got through high school, building relationships with teachers that felt inauthentic, feeling like he needed to be studying subjects that had “right” answers, such as math and science. He goes into how it was easier to bounce back from dropping out of school the first time.  [00:07:11] - Aron shares how he moved his life to an island off the coast of New Zealand, his plan to retire early, and what came out of these decisions he made in his early 20’s, navigating with some minor inconvenient factors he’d overlooked. Even though Aron and his then-fiance quickly discovered boredom, he doesn’t regret his decisions.  [00:10:00] - Eric and Aron agree on the idea of boredom and “retirement”. Then, they discuss the “drug” of self-improvement. Then, Eric asks Aron how they got off the island. [00:11:55] - Aron teaches Eric and the listeners about “The Harvard Curse” and being heavily influenced by his environment.  [00:13:32] - “It’s applying it that’s challenging for me.” - Aron [00:22:16] - Eric asks Aron about the next 15 years. Aron talks about his first job out of school and a decision he wasn’t proud of in that chapter of his life. He then talks about the other jobs he had, but repeated a pattern of letting things pile up until the last minute to get things done. Aron explains how this affected his relationship - navigating without yet being diagnosed with ADHD. After a year and some at his second job, he takes his ambitious 25-year-old-self to start a business in real-estate. Then, queue a slight tangent about their handyman skills! [00:25:41] - Aron shares a realization about being his own boss, moving to Australia, and going into sales. He then discovers a world-renowned program at the University of Sydney in Executive Coaching, seeing a Master’s Program in Coaching Psychology, changing the trajectory of his life for the better. His passion shines here, and tells the story about how a gag-gift from a friend sparked his relationship with personal development.  [00:30:50] - Eric and Aron fast forward to when he moved back from Australia to Chicago and landing a new job. Receiving some feedback and realizing his position is now at risk, Aron shares his story about the measures he took to keep himself employed.  Mentioned here: If you are struggling with addiction, here are some resources available in the United States & Canada: In the United States: In Canada: - The Government of Canada website lists the resources available for each province.  [00:38:14] - Eric has Aron dive into his “holy shit” moment of only having two weeks to redo his work while under probation. Aron talks about his “swiss-cheese” resume and the drastic measure (which is NOT endorsed by ADHD reWired and its team or Aron Croft). He [Aron] then realized what it meant when people told him to “just focus.” Eric also affirms the Oh-moment, while Aron explains how these actions led to scheduling an appointment to getting an ADHD diagnosis. Then, Eric and Aron share the experience when they were asked how they managed to “survive” and “get this far”  before getting diagnosed.  [00:42:55] - Aron not only finishes his work after getting thrown under the bus, his environment changes and starts ADHD medication, and starts crushing it - getting promoted four times in six years. Then, Eric throws Aron a tough question, as he recounts working 9 hour days in a job he didn’t love, leading to some isolation. Aron shares his realization when ADHD medication wasn’t enough and needed to see the bigger picture and using specific strategies.  [00:46:17] - Eric reflects on his past successes and how he would do things differently. [00:47:50] - Aron shares the process of how he went from “Procrastinator in Chief” to developing the SMASH productivity System, his thoughts and feelings as he dug into the process while looking into his future, and what happened after his “fit of freaking out”. He talks about 30-minute productivity blocks, then mastering those principles in a 30-minute block that he could replicate.  [00:50:56] -  “I’m not going to outwork neurotypicals, so I need to outsmart them.” - Aron [00:51:01] - Select High-Leverage Actions [00:52:13] - Minimize Distractions [00:52:42] - Add Accountability [00:55:30] - Schedule it First! [00:56:51] - Hone Your Process [00:58:03] - Aron mentions using the Staircase Method and layering small improvements overtime. [00:58:57] - Aron & Eric share their closing thoughts… and it’s definitely worth a listen.  Connect with Aron:  Honorable Mentions: ? - A must-read and requirement before joining ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups (affiliate link)“If you struggle with prioritization, you must read this book.” - Eric Tivers Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at   Don't Forget These, Too! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Aug 24, 2021
389 | Fear, Joy, and Showing up with ADHD reWired Coach - Roxie Martin
01:09:00
If you’ve wanted to hear more about ADHD reWired Coach, Roxie Martin, then this is the show you need to listen to. In this episode, Eric and Roxie get vulnerable and  dive into tackling fear, facing joy, and what it means for them to show up.  About Roxie: Roxie Martin is a certified life-coach, currently coaching her second season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups. She has 35 years of research experience in what it’s like to be an adult with ADHD, and a lifetime of hard-won wisdom to share. She has a colorful and diverse background that allows her to deeply relate and connect with almost anyone. She has been a ministry leader, a wife, a mom, a hair stylist, and a mentor. She is compassionate, encouraging, and has a finely-tuned bullshit-meter that helps cut quickly through the fluff and get right to the good stuff. [00:02:17] - Eric and Roxie go into the timeline of how she became one of the ADHD reWired Coaches. From ArC member to peer mentor, Eric wanted Roxie to become a coach for the groups.    [00:03:57] - Eric asks Roxie if she’s always innately had [her bullshit-meter] - her answer feels like an honest yes and explains why it feels weird to say it. They talk about intuition, as Eric feels like grad school beat the intuition out of [them] and learned not to trust the intuition, but has learned to listen to and amplify his intuition through coaching.   [00:05:31] - Eric talks about the vision of how things were “supposed” to go, have a laugh about how things went out-of-order, and how Roxie is coaching her second season and starting up a podcast with Will Curb called, “Wait, What was the Question?”   [00:06:40] - Eric and Roxie dive into who Roxie is, and the vulnerabilities Roxie has been exploring in her own life. Roxie goes more into “counterfeit” vulnerability through her own exploration and self-awareness. She talks about things that hadn’t changed over the years, and what she did when she was put into situations she had to be vulnerable in. Roxie goes more into what her actions used to be and verbalizes the feelings that came up for her when faced with a choice to take the easy or vulnerable way through.    [00:09:16] - Roxie answers Eric’s question about what it is she was numbing from. She talks about where she noticed it [the feelings] came up the most, such as events or parties or being in settings where she’s not comfortable - particularly social things, and where she knew she would have to have a hard conversation.     [00:10:27] - Roxie talks about what got her more curious, with Eric’s impression that she looks through a lens of curiosity. Roxie says she wishes she had a bullshit meter for herself but can feel it when she’s justifying, compromising, or playing small. She then talks about why she’s played small. She acknowledges she’s not able to change it, but is not able to ignore it. Hear more here about her beginning when she first joined ArC and talks about being dumb on purpose. She also talks about creating a safe space for the members of her groups.    [00:13:22] - Eric asks what her training has taught her about showing up in group. She says she’s learned a lot more about coaching from being part of the ArC seasons, with her classes still being valuable. She then dives into compassion being great, but you need compassion and strength in order to feel safe and secure. Roxie dives into why the strength-piece is important, talks about the ways we communicate information, and trusting the intuition and gut with the knowledge and strength.   [00:22:41] - Roxie and Eric shine a light on what Roxie has seen in her coaching sessions, what stands out for her, and what she’s learned from the members. She talks about impulse control, the excitement of witnessing growth and self-realized epiphanies, and reframing self-talk, reiterating that it’s a hard place to make progress without curiosity and compassion. Roxie also reveals some of the tips and tricks she’s learned from members.    [00:27:04] - Roxie explains more about picking up tools and how it’s helped her teach what she’s learned. Eric also talks about feeling clueless, being on time for class in grad-school, and explains why it’s important to dig into this stuff [as coaches.] He also talks about giving space as such an important skill, recognizing that Roxie does that really well.    [00:29:35] - Eric dives more into what Roxie mentioned earlier about “impulse control” and allowing members to make their own discoveries. Roxie dives into what she feels when she notices when she’s only giving advice, and how the impulse of giving advice comes from being in some kind of fear. Eric talks about the foggy mirror, as Roxie explains setting up her environment to show up mentally, emotionally, physically.    [00:32:33] - Roxie revisits Eric’s earlier question about her favorite types of people to work with. Roxie loves the diversity of folks she gets to work with, and instead shares the types of people she is most intimidated by. Then, they dive deep into the different types of vulnerability, and how different people will see vulnerability differently based on their own vulnerabilities. Roxie then verbalizes about adapting her approach to the different types of vulnerability that will come up in the coaching groups, and meeting people where they’re at. Roxie truly believes everyone has value and something to offer, and emphasizes why she works to set up the groups to be the safest place it can be.    [00:36:11] - “Vulnerability will look really similar to certain personality types.” - Roxie   [00:37:12] - “What is intuition’s […] thinking mind, and that’s curiosity.” - Eric   [00:42:57] - Roxie gets really vulnerable about how scary it is to acknowledge how much she loves what she’s doing. She dives even more into playing small, and how it was a strategy she adopted early on. She then goes in head first about joy and maintaining control around her own emotions.    [00:45:53] - The biggest obstacle for really taking [the coaching group content in] is all the bullshit in our heads. Roxie explains being curious, trusting the process, and how great things happen when we can trust the process.    [00:46:29] - “You’re not defective, there’s nothing wrong… We will be here. It’s an ongoing thing…” Roxie verbalizes what she wants for the coaching group members, and how this really is a community on the same path. Here, you really hear the joy in her voice of how much love she has for doing what she does with and in these groups.     [00:47:20] - Eric “outs” Roxie (and himself) about how “none of us” have [their] shit together, and how they set the record straight during group, as Eric reflects on his past-self compared to where he is now.    [00:49:16] - Roxie is amazed at how exciting things are on the other side of fear, and talks about the anxiety and fear from her first season when she started coaching. Then, when she was able to do it anyway, she realized the fear didn’t last and went through the whole process to where she is now, all with a growth mindset.    [00:53:07] - Go to to register for Season 26 of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups! Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at   Don't Forget These, Too! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Aug 17, 2021
388 | July Q&A with Brendan Mehan, Will Curb, MJ Siemens, Coach Moira Maybin, Coach Roxie Martin, & Barb
01:13:00
This week, we have the full panel of the ADHD reWired Podcast Family joining in for this month’s Q&A Session, recorded on July 13th 2021. Find all the good stuff below!   [00:03:56] Maria, a mom and former teacher, asks about subtypes of ADHD. She also asks about structure and looks for tools to strategize while jump-starting a teaching career online and plan better.  Eric explains how ADHD “subtypes” shifted to “presentations” because over time, the presentation of ADHD can change. He also goes in depth about the diagnostic criteria, and the differences between children and adults. Most adults are the “combined” type of ADHD, along with Eric himself. When looking for strategies, he goes on to explain how it’s important to look at the functional impairments. Any kind of diagnosis is a starting point, but isn’t prescriptive. Moira explains how as people age, the more we internalize symptoms, so the hyperactivity may be more in thought rather than physically hyperactive. Women are also more likely to be inattentive, in the inattentive type. As Maria put it: “Meta inattentiveness!”   [00:09:24] Malika asks about menopause and how she’s observed that her symptoms have become much worse since it came on full time.  Moira talks about estrogen, and once someone goes through menopause, the body doesn’t make any more. Estrogen reduces ADHD symptoms, which is why when women are pregnant, they present with fewer ADHD symptoms. And, while women are in perimenopause, the estrogen levels are more erratic than in puberty. She talks about how hormone replacement therapy can be used to replace estrogen, and it also depends on someone’s own health profile and family history,  and hormone replacement therapy may not be for everyone. Another suggestion was increasing medication during that time, and a lot of things around lifestyle become important. Resource mentioned here:    [0:14:31] Sandra asks, “How can I help my 14-year-old son become more organized for high school, and writing notes for his classes to study from for tests?” Brendan asks parents of ADHD kids: What’s going on with the IEP and the 504? What are the supports happening at school to help him get to where he needs to be? Brendan says the best option is to have someone take notes or provide them for him so that he has good notes to study from, whether it’s a teacher or a peer, so he can study notes that are useful. He explains that someone giving a model can help Sandra’s son understand how he should be taking notes so he can do a better job with moving forward. Brendan also explains to be patient as he practices his new [note-taking] skill, and to leverage IEPs, 504s, and talking to teachers, guidance counsellors, special education teachers, etc.  Roxie talks about how she’s had to work really hard to take better notes and that models are helpful. She acknowledges that it’s about incremental changes, because the template or the model doesn’t automatically mean we become amazing at it right away.  Resource mentioned here: Eric mentions a course on how to draw your notes. He also explains that sometimes we don’t know what’s important, so we might take notes on everything, then we try to distill what’s important and what’s not.  Brendan also suggests taking notes in two different colors, and to switch colors when a concept changes.  Will reiterates the sketchnote idea and is great to help create that organization. Will also mentions the Cornell-style of taking notes, then Brendan goes in depth with how they work and how he makes that style work for him. It can be good for [taking notes during] business meetings, too! Moira found how-to books, and suggests that note taking is a life-long skill. As a teacher, she actively tried to teach these tips to her students, not realizing it was because of her own struggle with it. She also recommends having conversations with educators who are going to be more helpful with things like this, so that it can be looked at as building a lifelong skill. It’s also okay for students to rely on their peer groups for good notes, share each other's strengths, and can make studying easier, too.  MJ looks at note-taking from the student-perspective and how she would have liked to have been a part of the conversation to explain what works [for her], what doesn’t, and why. She explains that allowing kids to have the voice to explain what does work versus being told how it’s “supposed” to be done could be really helpful.  Roxie brings up how it can be difficult to prioritize what’s important. She finds it helpful if she is really specific and succinct about what is going into the note-taking experience and writes a little road map. Eric emphasizes that, with all things ADHD, they require experimentation until we find out what works.   [00:30:30] Ryan, who is in her mid-20’s, talks about struggling in the workplace with event planning and asks about a good system and starting place for planning, looking for tools on one hand and methods on the other. Eric says she gets to try a bunch of different tools to find the ones that work. Then, once they “stop working”, it’s likely because it got boring to use. He explains that there isn’t one “right” way to manage “all the things.” One rule, Eric explains, is to, “Get things out of your head. Don’t keep things in your head ever, it’s one of the most reliable places where things get lost.” In other words: Externalize as much information as possible using things like a calendar or a to-do list. He goes on to say that the issue may not be the tool, but how often we are interacting with the tools we have. Eric then explains how to “cue” ourselves when things are coming up, and to write in more information we need on our to-do lists and in our calendars than we think we need. Brendan shares the way he used to consistently screw up his own calendar, and shares what he does now so that others don’t make the same mistakes. He emphasizes writing down a “point-person” when a task or calendar event involves reaching out to someone. Brendan also talks about segmenting the to-do list in “today”, “this week”, and “this month/later”, depending on the individual’s ability to hold information and organize, how breaking it down could reduce overwhelm, and to write specific dates so we know when things are coming up and when they are due.  Eric gets really specific: “What you’re doing NOW, what you’re doing NEXT. Everything else is just noise.”  Will says the biggest part about using planners is consistency in getting used to that system and how there’s no perfect planner. Using one that’s “good enough” often really helps, and that it’s “okay it’s not perfect.”  Roxie finds that when she’s having a hard time getting things done on her to-do list, it’s a good idea for her to check her boundaries if she is saying yes to too many things. Eric-ism: “Just because it got put on your to do list doesn’t mean it has squatter rights to stay there.”    [00:39:43] Kim asks about food and diet, and how they went on a whole-food plant-based vegan diet. They’ve found it has helped with their energy and ADHD symptoms, and wonders if that is the experience of others who have gone on a whole-food plan-based vegan diet.   MJ talks about how she experimented with pescatarian, vegan, then raw vegan diets in the past. For her, it depended on her activity levels and continues practicing with what her body feels like when she eats certain foods because it’s not always the same. She goes on to explain how it [a diet] depends on a person’s tolerances, allergies, and that it can take some experimentation, and learning and observing what feels good when we eat certain foods. Will says when we switch to diets like that, we tend to “up” the quality of foods we’re eating vs. eating foods detrimental to our ADHD. He also explains that there aren’t any specific studies [with data to back up] on diets that are good for ADHD. Roxie talks about inflammation, and how certain foods can cause inflammation, which causes brain-fog. For her, highly refined foods cause her to feel foggy.  Eric talks about how corn is in a ton of things, and when there’s inflammation, it causes brain-fog, which affects quality of life. On an individual basis, he also encourages paying attention to the foods that do make us feel good, and the ones that don’t make us feel good. Experiment, and drink lots of water! Brendan circles back to what Will spoke to - we feel good when we replace “the crap” with broccoli and lettuce and apples and stuff. It’s important to recognize what makes us feel better because extreme diets are hard to maintain, and instead look at the fine-tuning.  Moira works with a dietician who gave her an analogy: “When we have a sore throat, we’re not going to eat scratchy foods because it’s going to irritate our throats…. So if we’re eating smooth, cold things, it’s going to feel better. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that we should [always] eat that way.” And if we take something out of our diet like a whole food group but aren’t replacing it with something, we may become nutritionally deficient.    [00:48:34] Gina is in the middle of getting assessed for ADHD and wonders about medication to bridge the gap between her strategies and her brain. She asks what it felt like if any of the panelists began taking ADHD medication as an adult. She wonders if medication may have a placebo effect or if it’s actually working. Eric talks about a WOW-effect when taking ADHD meds/stimulant medication. He vividly remembers taking his ADHD medication and, for the first time, he got through a chapter and actually remembered what he just read. For Eric, when the meds are working, it’s a profoundly noticeable difference and shifts him out of neutral.  For Brendan, taking ADHD medication was subtle - more of a “heh!” than a “wow”. He noticed he would pick things up and put them away instead of just walking by them, thinking “Oh this must be what neurotypical people do.” Then, Eric and Brendan emphasize that their ADHD medication helps them do the things that normal people make look easy.  Moira found that, as she was driving, she wasn’t strategizing while driving. ADHD medication also gave her more peace because she didn’t have as many thoughts. She explains that folks who have ovaries and a cycle, hormones will impact how medication works throughout the cycle. Moira and Eric also explain that a general rule is to increase medication dosage until the side-effects outweigh the benefits.  Will is similar to Brendan with how the medication works for him, and finds it really noticeable when he’s not on medication. He notices it takes a long time to form thoughts, has long pauses, and answers things slowly. For Will, medication makes him feel “back to normal”.  MJ is also in the “heh” camp like Will and Brendan. The “wow” came later when she noticed that she was able to catch up on two weeks of paperwork when she started medication. Her house got really clean, too. Roxie, while talking with her accountability team, explained how she’s had a hard time activating on some things, and lost sight of the medication piece when it came to activation. She wanted to err on the side of caution and spoke with her doctor about her dosage. She was happy to discover she has options.  Eric explains how ADHD medication is a very efficacious medication, which does sometimes require trial and error.    Jaclyn asks for advice or resources for ADHD parents of ADHD toddlers, especially regarding discipline.  Brendan reframes “discipline”, which feels like having to let the kid “know” they’re in trouble. He likes to think more about boundaries, especially with toddlers. If they cross the boundary, they can be redirected and reign them in, instead of yelling at them. Gentle boundaries > Yelling. Brendan explains having a relationship with and being on the same team as our kids to reduce conflict, even in their teenage years. Moira explains how her and a friend wish, for their past selves, that there was more education about ADHD, being able to talk about people who had been there before as parents with ADHD and toddlers with ADHD. Moira also emphasizes taking care of ourselves, supporting ourselves, finding community, and doing everything we can to be a good parent.  Will has a 6-year-old who is diagnosed. As a parent, it calms him down to assume that they are trying their best and don’t know any better.  Eric quotes an adage: “[Your kid is] ...not giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time.” Eric explains how ADHD is a developmental delay, and encourages taking the oxygen mask as much as we need to, especially if - as a parent - we also have ADHD. It’s okay for the adult in the family to take a time-out, too. Brendan and Roxie wrap up the final thoughts about parenting with ADHD.   [01:06:08] Will closes the show with a groan-worthy dad-joke.  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin. Reach out to Will and Roxie at   Don't Forget These, Too! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern) Other Noteworthy Mentions on the Show:  
Aug 10, 2021
387 | Healthy Curiosity and Self Discovery with Barb from ADHD reWired
46:22
Give a warm welcome to the human extraordinaire who helps Eric behind-the-scenes as the executive assistant of ADHD reWired - Barb McDonagh! Not only is Barb the biggest fan of her 13-year-old son (who also has ADHD), she also got her B.A. from Columbia College in Chicago majoring in poetry, and a Masters degree in teaching from National Louis University.  As of this episode, Barb has been with ADHD reWired for two years. Listen to Eric and Barb as they talk about her journey to discovering her ADHD, how curiosity led to setting healthier boundaries, and how trying something different led to a community of people who you too, just might relate to!  What will you find in this episode? [00:01:23] - Eric introduces the one and only Barb McDonagh and talks about how the last two eye-opening years working for ADHD reWired helped her discover her own ADHD and how it’s changed the way she looks at her past. [00:03:17] - Barb talks about the reasons why she was interested in ADHD, and how being encouraged to try something different led to where she is now with ADHD reWired. She realizes that all the stories she’s read in the spheres of ADHD reWired sounded far too relatable.  [00:05:21] - Eric talks about self-examination and growth, while Barb talks about the books she’s read and the process of what some of the growth and being curious meant to her. Barb also talks about what kicked her journey off, the process of gaining self-awareness, and how she was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. [00:08:14] - Barb answers Eric’s question, wondering how some of the personal work she’s done has affected her family life, and how it’s had a positive impact to reduce overwhelm, frustration, and setting healthier boundaries. Barb also mentions how she began asking for help.  [00:09:48] - Eric and Barb talk more about boundaries, self-advocating, and what more healthy boundary setting can look like when you feel like you’re always on the go.  [00:11:07] - If anyone knows what an old transistor radio sounds like when you’re trying to find the channel (…) That’s how I feel and I can’t tune in.” [00:12:05] - Mentioned here: Crucial Conversations ; Barb talks about how didn’t know how to talk about what she needed, and discovers how she can ask for what she needed.  [00:12:53] - Barb and Eric talk about how, in the past, Barb had not really felt seen and how that has evolved. Barb speaks about looking “normal” and getting through a day, and what it was like to be able to talk and share her story and gain new friendships.  [00:21:56] - Eric isn’t used to doing ad-copy in real-time, but get back on track talking about being seen and what kind of impact that’s had on Barb.  [00:22:21] - Eric and Barb talk about the things that helped her recognize the things that were going on for her. Barb also went through the coaching groups and talks about how she wasn’t yet at the point to be open to sharing and open. She discovers the power of sharing our stories and sharing the wins. She jokes about how the boss knows how hard she is on herself.  [00:24:26] - Eric and Barb talk about productivity and prioritization when feeling overwhelmed and getting defensive. They also talk about how their working discussions have evolved, and how it can be hard to pull away from a task. They also discuss ways to make their roles more efficient as the business grows, and how those efficiencies and changes also need to be ADHD friendly since both Barb and Eric have ADHD, too! [00:29:03] - A discussion about executive function (EF) burnout is something that cannot be easily ignored, and how both Eric and Barb can still get distracted with “one more thing”. Barb makes a point that you “can’t set [self-care] aside.”   [00:30.01] - Barb and Eric talk about Pickleball - Eric’s favorite sport! [00:37:00] - After the Time Timer falls again, Eric and Barb jump into a quick round of coaching around having “all this stuff to do”, and different ways to curb distraction and get into deep focus. Quick mentions of dedicated time and setting boundaries come up again, and to remember to write down the things that do work! Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin Don't Forget These, Too! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern)
Aug 03, 2021
386 | Why is it so Hard to Plan a Vacation? with ADHD reWired Coach Moira Maybin
47:46
Planning a vacation is hard. It's even harder when you have ADHD! Listen in as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest - fellow podcaster and ADHD reWired Coach - Moira Maybin of The ADHD Friendly Lifestyle brainstorm some of the ways you can plan an ADHD-Friendly vacation in an ADHD-Friendly way. About Moira: Moira Maybin has spent 25 years as an educator, working in classrooms, in special education and, as a learning assistance teacher with an educational psychology background. She lived through years of overwhelm and failed attempts at trying harder that compromised her self-care, physical, and mental health until finally receiving her ADHD Diagnosis. After experiencing a terrifying fall off a 50-foot cliff in 2018 that left her with serious injuries, she knew she had to commit to creating an ADHD Friendly Lifestyle and give up on trying harder if she really wanted to thrive. She’s since re-shaped her life completely for a better fit, based on current research. Moira has dedicated the last 5 years of her life to diving in deep to learn as much as she can about ADHD and its impact on women. Now she’s opening up about what it’s like being a woman with late-diagnosed ADHD and a mom of two children, sharing the knowledge she’s gained on her own personal journey, and as an educator and advocate for people with ADHD. What will you find in this episode? [00:02:05] - Eric & Moira talk about why this was a second attempt at recording an episode together [00:02:35] - Eric & Moira recognize when it's time to take the "exit ramp" [00:03:00] - Eric talks about struggling planning a vacation; Moira talks about her own experiences of not being able to relax at home, and how going away was the only way to decompress. [00:03:45] - One of the challenges for Eric is figuring out when to take a vacation. He talks about being stuck on a 7-year merry-go-round wondering when the right time will be. [00:04:19] - Moira shares her own experience when she got into teaching but didn't end up actually going anywhere during the summers. [00:04:35] - Moira asks Eric if he's spent some time wondering and dreaming as he talks about a Phish concert he's been waitlisted for. [00:06:05] - Moira acknowledges how Eric describes most of the things she does in advance of a trip, and how having a narrow focus is not so overwhelming. [00:06:30] - Moira says he might need another vacation after Eric's big trip, and why. [00:07:35] - Moira talks about "training" to figure out what to take and what not to take during trips and shows. [00:08:00] - Moira mentions making packing lists for herself and her family and doesn't try to think up anything on her own; using lists as a frame of reference and other resources to help save executive functions are extremely helpful. [00:08:40] - Eric jumps in and mentions and [00:10:00] - Eric has a big question: What happens if a spot (for the Phish concert) doesn't open up? Moira shares her thoughts, what to watch for with airlines and tickets, how travelling on points is easier to change, and having a back-up plan. [00:12:00] - Moira asks Eric what else he likes to do and if going for an event or going for something completely different is part of a vacation for him. [00:12:47] - Eric thinks an all-inclusive resort sounds amazing because you don't have to plan much and likes the idea of going somewhere warm and sunny. [00:13:33] - Eric and Moira talk about how you can find others who have done some of the research and work already because they've already been there. [00:14:10] - One of the things that has helped Moira the most is going somewhere more than once. [00:14:26] - Mentioned here → [00:15:00] - Moira talk about time shares and points to limit the systems she has to navigate when planning a vacation, while Eric asks her about "glamp"-ing [00:16:33] - Eric says he needs to make vacations a part of his life as Moira talks about why she needs to make vacations a part of her life, and how it's evolved with growing kids. [00:18:33] - Eric and Moira say there just isn't really a good time (to vacation), so we need to make time to do it. [00:23:37] - Eric asks about other ways to have a more ADHD-friendly vacation [00:24:38] - Eric and Moira talk about guided tours, cupcakes, bike rentals, and routines [00:25:38] - Moira and Eric share some thoughts about Disney World [00:26:16] - Moira recommends to piggy-back off of folks who have the experiences and get the information from them to help narrow the scope of your research [00:26:52] - Eric and Moira talk about dietary and food sensitivities and ways to work with and around them [00:28:14] - Moira recommends travelling where you can have a kitchen, find places that do breakfast, and to hit-up a Costco! [00:30:20] - Eric asks Moira how far she plans in advance [00:30:34] - Eric and Moira talk about how time-shares actually work [00:31:59] - Eric calls out all the listeners who have planned vacations to share their ADHD-friendly tips! [00:32:29] - Eric and Moira talk about planning recovery days after a vacation, having a vacation within a vacation, and why it's important [00:33:12] - Costco car-rental, anyone? [00:33:55] - Start with these two things: When and What. [00:35:04] - Eric and Moira talk about other all-inclusive resorts and other features of vacationing in different places. [00:37:26] - Eric confirms a theme of narrowing the focus. [00:38:26] - Eric and Moira talk about cruises [00:39:36] - Moira talks about Googling slow-travel [00:40:08] - Canada is pretty cool, too ;) [00:41:06] - Moira just might host a vacation-planning session in the Adult Study Hall Community! [00:42:09] - Eric checks if he's still on the waitlist.... Visit Moira's website at and get a chance to join her section of group coaching in the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups by heading over to ! What Else is Mentioned? Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mehan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens with Moira Maybin coming soon - Wait, What Was the Question? with Will Curb and Coach Roxie Martin Don't Forget These, Too! — Get your name on the waitlist to join the fall season of ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups — Join your ADHD-friendly co-working space! — Support the show by becoming a Patron! — Join Eric, Brendan, Will, MJ, Moira, Roxie, and Barb for an hour of Live Q&A on Zoom, every 2nd Tuesday of the month at 12:30pm Central (10:30am Pacific / 1:30pm Eastern) Random fact: Did you know that citric acid can not only be derived from cane sugar or wheat, but can also be derived from corn? If you have a corn sensitivity, it might be a good idea to avoid citric acid as an ingredient, if you can!
Jul 27, 2021
385 | The Self-Taught Lifestyle with Roland Tanner
55:31
Listen as your host Eric Tivers and his guest Roland Tanner talk about how he procrastinated his way to success on . Roland Tanner has procrastinated his way through careers as a book seller, Medieval historian, author, publisher, software developer, podcaster, and would-be politician. He has sometimes been accused of being an entrepreneur! After a decade of battling depression, he scored top marks on an online ADHD test and was formally diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50. What will you find in this episode? [00:01:29] - Eric introduces Roland as he procrastinated his way through careers as a book seller, Medieval historian, author, publisher, software developer, podcaster, and would-be politician & has been accused of being an entrepreneur. [00:02:00] - Hear Roland's voice! [00:02:13] - Eric brings to light how Roland feels that what he has to share doesn't have much value [00:02:33] - Roland talks about having an unplanned career. He explains his life with ADHD is an "interesting" example and that his career paths have certain been varied. [00:03:00] - Eric and Roland talk about how Roland wanted to be a politician, motivated by wanting an assistant to take care of his calendar & email, before he had any inkling of ADHD [00:03:40] - Roland talks about the executive functions of running his own business [00:04:03] - Roland really enjoys talking about politics & talks about his involvement and saw how others had their "executive function" minds externalized and handed to other people so they could concentrate on the conversations and people in front of them [00:05:10] - Roland says it didn't work out, but it was a fun process [00:05:13] - Eric asks how close the political race was [00:05:30] - Roland talks about the way the local politics work in Canada [00:05:41] - Roland explains the jobs and roles he played in running for local office [00:05:44] - He also talks about being a fairly shy guy and being described as introverted [00:06:01] - Roland observed that people liked talking politics [00:06:15] - Roland talks about being unsure if the job would have been very good for him because of the stress, but the "retail sales" part of it was a blast for him. [00:06:30] - The Dam Busters Story comes up [00:07:16] - Eric asks Roland about "Procrastinating the way to success" [00:07:40] - Eric asks what Roland was behind on when he scheduled this podcast interview [00:07:43] - Roland talks about debugging client websites & talks about his publishing company [00:08:00 - He talks about how he was supposed to be translating Medieval Latin documents but learned how to write code instead, which turned into an added job [00:08:32] - Roland talks about the challenges and being in a constant state of distraction [00:08:50] - Roland touches briefly about being a musician, what he thought about fidget spinners before he knew about his ADHD, and how learning guitar was his own way of fidgeting [00:09:45] - Roland uses playing instruments as his own equivalent of meditation [00:10:10] - Roland talks a bit about his experiences in the UK and taking A-Levels and how he'd play guitar instead of revise his notes [00:10:50] - Roland talks about his podcast for the "905" Telephone Code [00:11:20] - Roland brings up how the area is growing exponentially, how his area was portrayed, and how it's now one of the most ethnically diverse areas in Canada [00:12:08] - Roland brings up some of the issues in Canada surrounding the First Nations and Indigenous community with the discoveries of the graves and bodies being uncovered around residential schools [00:12:30] - Roland talks about working with First Nations involved with the Sixties Scoop [00:12:44] - He feels, even in a limited way, happy to be contributing to more knowledge of where (he) lives sharing the knowledge of First Nations & Indigenous issues in Canada [00:13:07] - He's relieved that there's something of an awakening of what's actually happened and what is still happening [in Canada] [00:13:33 - Eric asks Roland about going in deep into what he becomes interested in, and how that's gotten Roland into a bit of trouble at times [00:13:45] - Roland talks about being an "Accidental" entrepreneur and talks about not being very business-minded or driven like other people [00:13:58] - He also talks about how running your own business is tough [00:14:38] - Roland talks about the "boredom threshold" not being enough [00:20:50] - Before the break, Eric asks Roland about being a part of writing parts of speeches for the Queen (of England) [00:21:28] - Roland talks about his first career after the bookselling was a PhD in in Medieval history and talks about studying the Parliament of Scotland [00:22:44] - Roland brings up the speechwriting and how these experiences look good in a resume [00:23:15] - Eric asks what he's learned from all of these experiences [00:23:25] - Roland talks about the most frustrating part of the rules involved with these particular speechwriting opportunities [00:24:04] - Roland talks about his time at St. Andrews and the rules his friends had to follow [00:24:30] - Eric and Roland talk about age, not knowing about ADHD until later, growing up, and how Roland didn't do so hot in school [00:25:05] - Roland talks about the 1970's and how he was fortunate to have parents that didn't believe the negative things his teaches had commented about him [00:25:33] - Roland talks about being "spectacularly bad" at the teaching methods that didn't suit him but still ended up with a PhD. [00:26:13] - The subjects Roland was interested in were more like procrastination and fun, but other subjects felt like more work [00:26:44] - Roland and Eric bring up dyscalculia [00:27:15] - Eric talks about how people with ADHD don't have the luxury of doing "work that just pays the bills" and how we have to be interested in what we're doing [00:27:28] - Eric speaks to how interest drives dopamine and feeds the executive functions [00:27:51] - Roland also talks about how if he's really interested in a topic, he can't stop working on it, like staying up too late working on a task [00:28:19] - Roland talks about how staying up too late is self-destructive behavior [00:28:28] - Roland acknowledges that ADHD is still new to him, talks about getting formally diagnosed, recalls the first time he spoke with others who also have ADHD, and his moments of discovery [00:29:15] - Roland talks about how he got introduced to someone with ADHD and getting help with homework [00:29:35] - The thing that stood out to Roland was how a group of people talked similarly to how he does [00:30:03] - Roland brings up having an absent-minded professor thing his whole life even though he's not a professor [00:30:16] - Roland talks about some of the incredible things he's done because of a bad memory, and how moments of recognition can be powerful [00:30:56] - Eric acknowledges the reactions fellow ADHD brains get when they tell each other their ADHD stories [00:30:19] - Roland tells a story of one of his absent-minded moments with his at-the-time future wife [00:32:03] - Eric asks Roland if the ADHD diagnosis brings things into perspective as Roland acknowledges but still finds himself, through force-of-habit, having negative self-talk and what helps [00:32:41] - Roland brings up the first-time-wearing-glasses analogy [00:33:15] - Roland talks about tidying a drawer being a wonderful (and relatable) achievement [00:33:39] - Eric and Roland talk about the things that feel like big wins [00:39:05] - Eric asks Roland what he's been doing to address some of the negative self-talk [00:39:15] - Roland acknowledges that it's still a big challenge as a very transitional time in his life [00:39:34] - Roland uses the analogy of wearing "grooves into your mind" by saying something enough times, including using self-deprecation as a defense mechanism [00:40:04] - Roland feels lacking a sense of humor without it [00:40:15] - Roland is learning how to feel good about being confident vs. embarrassed about being confident [00:40:30] - He talks about how habits are difficult to change [00:41:13] - Roland finds it challenging to change even the smallest things [00:41:29] - Eric gives Roland a challenge [00:41:56] - Eric goes in depth about how, no matter someone's age, making positive changes IS possible [00:43:20] - Eric talks about accepting "what is" [00:43:30] - Eric talks about our itty-bitty shitty committee [00:44:38] - Eric acknowledges that with ADHD, "we want progress yesterday." [00:45:35] - Eric brings up how our brains and bodies want homeostasis [00:46:14] - Eric encourages Roland to keep connecting with the ADHD community [00:46:24] - Roland continues to learn and says the experiences are huge. [00:47:32] - Roland explains his next schemes for "world domination" [00:47:47] - Eric and Roland talk about history, repeating history, and making new mistakes after we've learned from history [00:48:46] - Roland shares his final thoughts Also mentioned in this episode:
Jul 20, 2021
384 | June Q&A with Will Curb, MJ Siemens, Coach Moira Maybin, Coach Roxie Martin, & Barb
01:11:17
In this episode, Eric Tivers is joined by Will Curb, MJ Siemens, and ADHD reWired coaches Moira Maybin & Roxie Martin. Barb also joins the panel as the ADHD reWired podcast family takes in and answers the questions from the listeners of the ADHD reWired Podcast. Brendan Mehan, we missed you this month! Every second Tuesday of the month, the ADHD reWired panel takes questions from our listeners live about their ADHD-related topics. Whether it’s personal or professional, the panelists are here every single month to ask questions and offer their knowledge and unique perspectives to help ADHD folks find the solutions they need.  Thank you for listening to the Q & A session this month. We cover a wide variety of topics and provide creative takeaways, no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we all continue working through as we navigate with ADHD. Find the other podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network:   What will you find in this episode? [00:01:43] - Welcomin the ADHD reWired Podcast Family!  [00:02:10] - Roxie and Will confirm rumors about their new podcast [00:03:21] - Jane asks, “What can you do when you just cannot get your brain to engage, even if you want to?  [00:03:34] - Eric explains how trying to force it doesn’t work; he shifts to prioritizing sleep, and his brain doesn’t (typically) work with lack of sleep.  [00:04:27] - Will says going for a walk and getting movement in is helpful. [00:05:05] - Eric talks about how even though taking breaks is difficult, he always feels better after doing so. [00:05:38] - Moira talks about hormones and how expectations can be managed around hormonal cycles, while Eric mentions her podcast [the ADHD Friendly Lifestyle!] [00:06:37] - Roxie talks about riding on someone’s coattails, listens to ADHD-related podcasts & content, and enjoys singing karaoke for a break. [00:07:22] - Eric mentions Adult Study Hall and how a pomodoro dance break was really useful and fun! [00:07:52] - When MJ feels stuck, they talk about reaching out and telling someone, talking with their partner for a break, doing jumping jacks, and taking a pet-parent break.  [00:08:53] - Will encourages ADHD folks to write down things that don’t work and mentions how scrolling social media doesn’t typically work.  [00:09:18] - Eric likes video games but doesn’t usually stop at just 5 minutes of playing.  [00:10:03] - Scott asks about being on Adderall and wonders if his experiences are because of taking medication.  [00:10:27] - Eric encourages folks to talk to their doctors and the documented side-effects of stimulant medication.  [00:15:50] - Terry wants the panelists to talk about medications, particularly when kids are reluctant and contrary to medical advice. [00: 16:15] - Eric talks about how the research shows that when parents push medication during adolescence, the likelihood of the teens going back to medication as adults is drastically decreased. Eric encourages to allow the teen to make the call, which makes it more likely for them to go back to the medication as adults.  [00:17:04] - Eric also encourages parents to read about motivational interviewing. [00:17:56] - Moira encourages parents to include the kids as part of the conversation.  [00:20:10] - Eric encourages a healthy-fat high-protein breakfast before giving them their medication and let kids eat when they’re hungry.  [00:21:07] - Andrew wants to improve his communication skills and wonders if CBT or other methods could be helpful. [00:21:36] - Eric says CBT or DBT could be helpful.  [00:22:06] - Mentioned: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, and Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny and Kerry Patterson  [00:23:15] - Will talks about trying different communication models, such as a phone call or text to give the brain time to catch up. [00:24:13] - Eric says to take a break but 23] commit to coming back.  [00:25:00] - Roxie realizes trying to get into problem solving before we’re ready that we have such a huge breakdown. [00:25:10] - Mentioned: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams [00:25:25] - Kristen asks, “How do I lessen my interrupting in group discussions?” [00:25:36] - Moira talks about hyperarousal and treatments that helped her [00:26:03] - Eric and Moira encourage writing stuff down; Eric talks about some coping mechanisms and sitting in the discomfort of silence.  [00:27:00] - Will talks about cultural conversational styles across the U.S.  [00:27:37] - Suzanne asks about how to respond or having a set of pre-fabricated responses when people make comments about over-planning and other ADHD-related topics, while keeping composed. [00:28:20] - Eric thinks it’s cute when someone says, “You’ll remember that.”  [00:28:42] - MJ admits to being a chronic over-planner and talks about coping mechanisms they’ve developed with having ADHD. [00:30:23] - MJ encourages being okay with what we do and to give ourselves grace, and “Slow motion is better than no motion! [00:31:47] - Suzanne also asks if a lot of this is internal dialogue and talks about everything she writes down after grocery shopping.  [00:32:36] - Eric says, “Do what works for you!” [00:32:48] - Moira talks about being selective with sharing about her ADHD and driving with a GPS is always useful for her. [00:34:20] - Hannah asks about international support for people with ADHD. [00:41:10] - Mentioned: adhd-hub.com / adhdactually.com (not reviewed) [00:41:34] - Elaine asks about “transition dread” [00:42:48] - Roxie asks Elaine some coaching questions  [00:45:08] - Elaine talks about food sensitivities  [00:45:45] - MJ also asks Elaine some coaching questions and talks about doing new tasks. [00:47:06] - Elaine is reminded of fun things & wonders about doing brand new tasks.  [00:47:32] - Eric asks Elaine if there is anything she can let go of and talks about “CRS” [00:48:15] - Eric and Elaine talk about admin work while being self-employed and being seen. [00:48:57] - Eric stresses that it is important that you feel seen and understood by the professionals you are working with and to get people who understand you on your team. [00:49:46] - Eric says he will always need help, and needing help is okay. [00:50:38] - Rob asks if neurotypical folks have the same problems or issues that folks with ADHD have.  [00:52:17] - Eric mentions that we may not be fully aware that we do some things better than other people because those things don’t feel hard. [00:53:17] - Eric talks about the struggle of putting something in the mail. [00:53:58] - Moira acknowledges that neurotypical people have the same struggles, but that ADHD also affects us socially, at home, and affects our working memory.  [00:54:58] - MJ shares their observations about how certain tasks seem much easier for neurotypical folks than ADHD folks.   [00:56:05] - Grace asks if coaching would be useful even with a brand-new diagnosis and still earned a PhD [00:56:30] - Eric talks about coping skills, intelligence, and gives kudos for resilience and tenacity. [00:56:58] - All the panelists vote “Yes” to group-coaching for ADHD, no matter what stage or how recent the diagnosis was.  [00:57:58] - Jason asks how to go about getting a diagnosis in Canada. [00:58:23] - MJ highly encourages folks to find professionals who specialize in ADHD and why that’s important. [00:59:28] - Moira mentions CADDRA and CADDAC who list practitioners in Canada, and the importance of knowing what symptoms to talk about.  [01:00:56] - Eric encourages folks to get on a list to see someone even if it’s a long wait.  [01:02:41] - The panelists circle back to Terry’s question about keeping kids accountable without nagging them. [01:03:15] - Barb talks about dry-erase boards and letting her son check things off instead of nagging. [01:03:45] - Eric repeats motivational interviewing - it’s a great place to start, and says there is no such thing as failing when we’re trying new things.    Also mentioned in this episode: Become a of ADHD reWired
Jul 13, 2021
383 | Neurodivergence Runs in the Family
54:03
If this is the first time you’ve ever listened to this podcast, today’s episode features a different type of interview than Eric usually has on the show. If you have kids, this is a great one to get them to listen to (or listen to with them) as well. For long-time listeners, you’ve heard Eric mention his son on the podcast before. Well, guess what? His son is here today as dad’s very special guest! Listen as your host Eric Tivers and his son discuss his perspective on having ADHD (among other things) and its effect on him during this endearing and humor-filled episode of . Eric’s son is not just his favorite child interviewee on the podcast; he’s also the first child to be interviewed on the show. Eric asks his 9-year-old questions like: What does it feel like afterward when you do something, and you’re not sure why you did it? When is he likely to get distracted? As someone with both autism and ADHD, is he a big picture or small details kind of kid? Have other kids called him names at school? How does he view his giftedness, and how does it feel when something doesn’t come easily to him? What does he want to say to kids like him listening to the show? In this episode, you’ll also hear them talk about a tendency towards impulsiveness, a love for reading and math (including the Fibonacci sequence even at a mere six years old), and the different ADHD traits his son possesses. The 9-year-old even gets to take over the position of podcast host, interview his dad, and humorously offer his own tips towards the end of the show.  Get ready for spontaneous special effects, singing, sidetracking, and then some. ADHD adults and their ADHD kids will get a kick out of sharing this listening experience together! You'll learn: [01:52] Eric’s son says hello! [02:59] Listen to an explanation of neurodiversity from the perspective of a 9-year-old boy. [04:15] How does ADHD affect Eric’s son? [05:48] Eric’s son reveals his favorite thing to do to dad. [08:11] Eric shares an interesting tidbit about his son that’s always fascinated him. [09:35] Eric’s son loves to read! What book series is he reading right now? [11:40] When Eric read fiction as a kid, he had a hard time with this regarding characters. [13:32] Eric’s son shares a “time flies” joke before the break. [21:54] Before resuming the interview, Eric’s son gives a humorous plug for the podcast. [23:55] Eric’s son has been working on improving this social skill at school. How’s it going? [24:43] Despite not having autism himself, Eric still has trouble with this. [25:40] How does Eric’s son think other kids perceive him? He’s been waiting to hear someone call him this. [27:07] Listen as Eric’s son reveals what he thinks about his own giftedness. [29:37] Eric and his son discuss handling things that don’t come easily. [30:44] After a near-slip up transitioning to a new subject, Eric asks his son to define and opine on the word “transgender.” [31:02] The tables turn and Eric is now the one getting asked questions. [32:14] In answer to his son’s question, Eric discusses why he started this podcast. [34:52] We interrupt Eric’s answer for a spooky sound effect request complete with spooky laughter. [36:47] Eric cringes a little when he listens to his first 20 or so episodes. Here’s what that tells him, though. [42:13] Eric’s son tries his hand at saying “ADHD reWired” like dad. [43:52] In this special part of the episode, Eric’s son playfully offers his tips for those with ADHD. [45:48] When getting distracted while readying for school, here’s what Eric and his son say to get back on track. [48:31] Eric’s son signs off with a quick song about coronavirus. [50:10] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at .
Jul 07, 2021
382 | Strategies for College Success with Judy S. Bass
01:00:08
"I know ADHD people who the minute the business is successful they sell it and start another business, because they’re bored; it’s running itself [and] it doesn’t meet any challenge anymore." Listen as your host Eric Tivers and his guest Judy Bass discuss overcoming challenges and finding success in the college classroom for ADHD students on this episode of . Judy is an internationally recognized expert in the field of college planning for students with ADHD and other learning challenges. Over the past 20 years, she has helped many ADHD adults in their late 20s and 30s realize their dream of earning a college degree. By focusing on their strengths and instead of their challenges, she helps ADHD adults develop a positive self-image, giving them the confidence to achieve success in life. Her website, , offers comprehensive college planning where students and their families are guided through the selection and admission process. BES assists with everything from high school course and extracurricular activity suggestions, visiting colleges, conducting interviews, filling out applications, and writing essays to reviewing testing and college accommodations and fostering independence and self-advocacy skill development. Listen as Judy shares some of her surprising revelations of and experiences with neurodiverse students. She talks about the types of college learning environments and workloads that can be better for those with ADHD to find success. She even discusses perfectionists vs. procrastinators, how to request and receive ADHD accommodations from your college, and preparations you should make before the start of the school year to help keep you organized and on track. You’ll also hear about alternative routes to traditional colleges, college graduation myths, changing majors, finding the best field of study for you, advice on talking to parents with certain career aspirations that you don’t want to pursue, and more. Along the way, Eric shares some of his experiences as an ADHD adult college and grad student and offers his own recommendations. Your Resources: You'll learn: [02:18] Welcome to the show, Judy! [03:31] ADHD college students experienced these pleasant surprises during the pandemic. [04:15] How did Judy get into this line of work? [06:15] Judy shares her self-advocacy recommendations for neurodiverse students. [08:05] Not every professor accepts that some students have ADHD. [10:18] When he was in college, Eric did this to minimize distractions in the classroom. [12:06] Finding the right professor that matches your learning style can make all the difference. [13:42] What surprising characteristics does Judy find in people with ADHD when it comes to the pursuit of higher education? [15:45] Two colleges in the country, to Judy’s knowledge, have six-week classes. But it can be both a blessing and a curse. [22:05] Judy discusses some alternatives to the traditional college environment available. [24:33] Judy reveals why it’s a challenge to shake perfectionists out of their perfectionism. [24:58] How did Eric handle his own perfectionist tendencies in college? [27:23] If you decide to go back to college and need accommodations for your ADHD, Judy lays out what you should do step-by-step. [29:35] Meet with someone during the summer before you start college to get your syllabi streamlined into your calendar. [30:33] Several technological aids exist to help ADHD students stay on track, take notes, and get organized. [32:35] What if a college student has been told to get a psych evaluation (despite research saying it’s unnecessary) to receive ADHD accommodations? [39:27] Eric divulges the key to getting the best accommodations for himself in college. [41:53] Smaller classes afford better opportunities to get to know your professors. [42:33] Here’s what Judy tells students who are thinking about attending a large university. [44:15] Sometimes, Judy has recommended that students not go the traditional college route. [45:45] Judy and Eric expose these myths about college graduation in the U.S. [47:12] When a student wants to change majors, how does Judy help them evaluate their decision? [48:14] Students with ADHD really need to go after degrees due to genuine interest in the field, not for the money. [50:19] Judy talks about how she guides students to converse with parents who have set career expectations for them. [52:32] How do you find the best field of study for you if you have ADHD? [53:12] Judy doesn’t recommend fields with these characteristics for those with ADHD. [56:10] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  . Find Judy Bass:
Jun 29, 2021
381 | Resilience and Loss with Christian Morrow
59:28
"When you look at entrepreneurs, some of the most successful people in this world come from broken homes and troubled childhoods and poverty, and it’s because they’ve been able to navigate adversity and they’re so good at it." Listen as your host Eric Tivers and his guest Christian Morrow discuss growing up with ADHD, facing disease and addiction and depression in parents, and how Christian has and continues to work through the events of his life on this episode of . Diagnosed with ADHD as a child, Christian has learned to navigate both a personal and professional life, as well as cope with tragedy in his personal life. More recently, he was also diagnosed with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and his father passed away at age 64. He couldn’t enjoy his early 20s like most other young adults and found himself having to get organized and grow up really quickly just as he was about to finish college. His plans for grad school and his life were even put on hold for a while. From dealing with a parent with an addiction to the loss of a parent to suicide while he was in college, Christian has developed a new perspective about life, resiliency, and self-discovery. Now, he currently works in higher education where he recruits for Miami University and deals directly with respective college students, counselors, and faculty every semester. He’s also just graduated from grad school and has a home and a 4-year-old girl with his fiancée. Listen as Christian shares his experiences as a child with ADHD and the effect of his dad’s leukemia and addiction and his mother’s depression in his life from elementary school through college. He also reveals the difficulty he faced in trying to complete his education during some traumatic events involving his parents, discusses handling the aftermath of his mother’s death, and talks about how he continues to process what has happened in his life. You'll learn: [02:47] Welcome to the show, Christian! [04:50] How did Adderall and Strattera affect Christian? [06:54] A leukemia diagnosis for his dad in 1995 triggered the start of Christian’s hectic life. [09:02] Christian’s dad traded in his family for his addiction. [10:24] Christian discusses the beginning point of his mother’s depression. [12:24] After a period of rehabilitation, Christian’s dad moved back in with his son and ex-wife. [14:40] Why has Christian always preferred writing in cursive over print? [16:07] Miami U delivered a letter to Christian that kicked things into high gear. [24:31] For a few years, Christian was living two lives as a college student and a caretaker. [25:47] Christian discusses his OCD as a trauma response. [27:01] What was it about teaching middle schoolers that turned Christian off? [28:47] On the morning of April 10, 2015, Christian got some bad news from his dad. [31:17] Christian became the executor of his mom’s estate at age 22. [33:05] What kind of strategies helped Christian get organized? [38:23] ADHD is never just on an island by itself. It’s part of the greater picture of life. [39:55] Christian’s already done so much at age 29, and he’s often told he has an old soul. [42:01] How does Christian continue to process the events of his life? [44:32] Christian has felt obligated to take care of others, but how does he take care of himself? [46:05] If you’ve recently found out you have ADHD or are struggling with it, Christian offers this advice. [48:38] Christian has this thing about not starting anything unless he knows he’ll win or be successful beforehand. [50:27] How did his own upbringing shape Christian as a dad now? [53:16] To wrap up the show, Christian shares what he thinks listeners should take away from this conversation. [55:10] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  .
Jun 22, 2021
380 | Resiliency, Self-Talk & the Power of Acceptance with Jennifer G.
01:03:39
"When I was in a high-stress situation, I don’t know if it’s the adrenaline acting like Adderall, but everything slows down for me and it’s by the numbers." Today, listen as your host Eric Tivers and his guest Jennifer G. discuss how her diagnosis affected her law enforcement training and career as well as some of the traumatic events from her childhood involving her family on this episode of . There are some officers out there who shouldn’t be and others who are meant to be in their position. The latter really want to help people; it’s what they do, and it’s a very strong feeling. Jennifer was born and raised on Martha’s Vineyard in the 1960s and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Nancy Drew and The Happy Hollisters mystery book series heavily influenced her as a child. She started her career in law enforcement as a meter maid in her town. Then she became an emergency dispatcher and finally a police officer like her father. The story of arrest is one of struggle and triumph and then struggle again, both with and against ADHD. With her ADHD, Jennifer always came to work hyper prepared for any incident on a call. Her trunk had everything she could need for any possible scenario, something that her co-workers both teased her for and took advantage of when they needed her help. Listen to her stories of struggle with anxiety and depression and embarrassing incidents while training and working as a police officer with ADHD. You’ll also hear about how Jennifer almost got hooked on alcohol and some hair-raising events during her childhood involving her older sister who suffers from drug and alcohol addiction. You’ll even discover her unusual rock collection where prized pieces keep...exposing themselves to her on the beach for her to discover. You'll learn: [02:27] Welcome to the show, Jennifer! [03:39] How did Eric’s podcast save Jennifer’s life? [05:16] Jennifer discusses how she first got into law enforcement. [06:21] Jennifer humorously reveals her biggest claim to fame. [07:09] A mishap during police academy training almost halted Jennifer’s career. [08:32] A squawking radio almost gave Jennifer away during an undercover drug call. [10:42] Hesitating to tell this story, Jennifer reveals a time she gave the wrong directions to her backup. [12:12] Was Jennifer more willing to take risks and enter dangerous situations? [14:30] Jennifer wonders if adrenaline acts like Adderall and slows you down. [29:15] Jennifer experienced a lot of trauma in her family growing up. [31:42] Has Jennifer explored the role PTSD might have played in her life thanks to her traumatic childhood? [32:25] At a young age, Jennifer discovered alcohol and could’ve gotten addicted. [34:52] If Jennifer hadn’t stopped drinking at age 23, she doesn’t think she’d be here right now. [37:00] Jennifer describes what her blue-collar dad and busy mom were like as she grew up. [39:42] The kindest thing Jennifer’s younger sister ever said to her. [41:14] Self-compassion is the way forward, no matter what struggle you’re working on. [49:27] Say what?! Jennifer has an erotic collection of rocks (which is growing every day). [51:31] Jennifer started rock hunting after her mother fell sick. She gets a bit emotional describing how her mom supported her. [53:21] For so many of us, the inner critic we hear comes in the voice of a parent. [55:09] Once you get diagnosed and start working with yourself, some people resist the changes in you. [55:36] Jennifer might be on the verge of a new invention. She’s an idea machine! [59:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  .
Jun 15, 2021
379 | May Q & A with Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens, Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, and Barb
01:12:32
In this episode, Eric Tivers and his guests, , , , , and Barb answer listener questions in our May Q & A session of . We’re taking questions from you about situations you want to discuss. It doesn’t matter if it’s personal or professional. We’re here to offer our knowledge and perspectives to help you find the answers you seek. Susan starts off the show with a question about her two ADHD children. She wants to know what the panel thinks about using functional psychiatry and nutrition to address ADHD symptoms. Winston asks about how to deal with his struggle with text messaging--sending them and responding to them in a timely manner, especially if they’re group texts. Jane is curious to know if any link exists between ADHD and body temperature control.  What are school systems doing regarding social-emotional learning for the fall when kids and staff will be in the same building for the first time in a while? Questioner Rich wants to ensure the best possibility for the upcoming school season to go as smoothly as possible for everyone. Les wants advice about anxiety, decision paralysis, and making the most efficient use of free time. Then the panel answers a question about the importance of healthy habits with sleep, movement, and nutrition. Marks wants to know how to loosely follow a GTD methodology while dealing with overwhelm by closing as many loops as possible. Diana has an action-oriented question for those who feel frantic about their list of priorities. Another listener wants advice for her ADHD-inattentive daughter on going to school for a future career in psychiatry. And the last somewhat related question from Sandra inquires about any professions where ADHD people tend to find success. Thank you for listening to the Q & A session this month. We cover a wide variety of topics and provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we all still have dealing with ADHD. Your Resources: You'll learn: [02:08] Susan asks the first question. [02:57] Eric gives a caveat about natural approaches to health and treatment. [04:32] People respond differently to food, but crappy food leads to crappy feelings while good food makes you feel better. [05:30] Exercise is the best non-medicated tool for ADHD. [06:00] Moira addresses functional health and how it differs from holistic health. [07:50] Susan’s daughter hasn’t responded well to stimulant medications. [09:13] Winston has a question about texting which he struggles with. [12:00] Brendan realizes he forgot to respond to a text recently and shares how he prioritizes his messages. [13:09] If you’re worried about your tone while texting, Brendan shares a funny tip to alleviate your concern. [13:50] On the iPhone, you can pin text messages that you haven’t responded to. Eric shares how and offers another great way to respond. [16:48] MJ quickly talks about how she handles questions asked of her via text. [17:23] Eric realizes he hasn’t yet introduced the panel so does so now. [18:52] Barb reads a question from Jane about any link between ADHD and controlling body temperature. [19:44] MJ can’t seem to get her body into a comfortable temperature zone. [20:48] Moira has struggled with body temperature due to her thyroid disease and perimenopausal hormone changes. [22:17] Body temperature is a huge issue for many people during sleep. [32:14] After a long hiatus thanks to COVID, Rich wants to know what the landscape will look like for the students and staff returning to school. [33:29] Brendan answers part of Rich’s question by sharing what he’s seen and heard. [35:50] Teacher burnout is real. Their pay scale needs to be adjusted upward; otherwise, many will walk. [37:31] Getting on his soapbox for a minute, Eric expresses appreciation for what teachers have had to endure over the last year. [38:51] Barb reads a question from Les about advice on structuring free time. [39:37] Why is scheduling your free time activities not as restrictive as it sounds? [40:10] More than doing fun things,the anticipation of fun things will increase your enjoyment of them. [42:29] Even if you enjoy the work you do, your brain still needs to take breaks from it. [45:29] How important is it to establish healthy habits like cutting down on sugar, developing a good sleep routine, and physical activity? [52:29] Mark has a question about loosely following the GTD method. [53:13] Not all open loops need to be completed but some need to be dismissed. [54:37] When you know what you must do next and have a good list of priorities but feel frantic and overloaded, how do you get yourself to take action? [57:13] Eric believes that once you’ve had your top 3 priorities for the day, you have to earn the right to do anything else. [59:13] A listener has a daughter interested in becoming a psychiatrist but thinks going to med school would take too long and be too stressful. [01:00:50] Can you choose a career close to what you want but without a huge time and money commitment? [01:02:46] Sandra asks in what professions do people with ADHD tend to excel? [01:03:52] If you want to be a creative entrepreneur, just realize that you’re going into a business, not just your craft. [01:04:38] Barb discusses the need to consider the structure you want in your chosen career. [01:05:58] You’ve learned stuff and have a skill stack if you’ve bounced around from job to job. Take advantage of it. [01:07:01] Will quickly tells us his latest dad joke! [57:33] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  . Links and Resources:
Jun 08, 2021
378 | The Labyrinth of Growth Work with Justin Classen
01:01:48
"It’s very easy to get lost in what other people say and think it’s your own thoughts.” Your host, Eric Tivers, welcomes back returning guest Justin Classen who was previously on the show in episodes and . They discuss Justin’s journey after his last appearance on the podcast, navigating issues of trust, attachment theory, and codependency, and his growth work today on . Since Justin’s ADHD diagnosis, he’s made a multitude of critical changes to gain better insight and control over his seemingly chaotic existence that helped transform his life. A series of traumatic psychological events proved to be a catalyst that transformed a desire for truth into diligent hyperfocus and dedication to reprogramming his entire understanding of reality through the labyrinth of human psychology.   The last time he appeared on the show, Justin had made significant progress on his journey to acceptance, positive change, and self-awareness development and discussed his strategies and results from transitioning between his home and work life. In this episode, he expands on what’s happened during the last year and talks about seeking help through a psychologist, spending time alone with himself for greater self-awareness, and his experiences with co-dependency and dealing with manipulative people. He also shares how he handles moments of wanting to quit his growth work, accountability for himself, and speaking truth from trauma. From Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, Justin is a hyper-active whirlwind with many interests and passions. Those who know him call him a “jack of all trades.” While he was diagnosed with ADHD in 2017, his diagnosis was prolonged for two years due to memory lapses that prevented him from attending his evaluation. But even with a profound number of failures, he’s found success too and is currently investing his intense energy into various chosen hobbies and careers. You'll learn: [03:20] Welcome back to the show, Justin! [05:50] Justin reveals his latest hobbies. [07:07] In the last year, Justin has started seeing a psychologist. [09:18] Self-awareness is an important core value that can uncover blind spots and accelerate your growth. [11:44] How has Justin learned to trust himself and deal with others’ feedback? [12:45] Often people with ADHD can be susceptible to narcissistic people. [14:21] Justin talks about why he often didn’t enjoy receiving recognition from others. [15:50] What does Justin go through when he realizes he’s in a manipulative relationship? [23:14] Eric and Justin discuss attachment theory. [24:51] Eric shares one of the most helpful pieces of information he found while reading up on attachment. [27:31] Justin has hit moments of wanting to get off the growth train for a while. [30:28] Organization is a big area Justin has been working on lately, but time management is still his biggest issue. [32:54] To remain accountable to himself, has Justin requested help from anyone to keep him disciplined? [33:45] Justin somehow manages to function on very few hours of sleep. [35:19] Eric finds it difficult to wind down when he’s out of town on business. [36:35] Justin has managed to find ways to integrate his leisurely time into his busy daily life. [42:19] What does the phrase “from trauma speaks truth” mean to Justin? [44:14] Despite his traumatic past, Justin doesn’t give off a feeling of resentment. [45:30] Friends that Justin thought he had a year ago are no longer friends. [47:07] Justin reveals the best thing he’s learned over the past year. [48:58] What would Justin say to anyone who thinks that beating themselves up is the only way to change? [50:14] For some people, negative attention is better than no attention at all. [52:21] Laughter can be some good medicine. Find the funny in the situation. [54:35] Justin is in a vastly different place from when he first appeared on the podcast. [57:33] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  . Find Justin Classen:
Jun 01, 2021
377 | Neurodiversity and the Inflow App with George Sachs
01:02:03
“I think that expectation of neurotypical behavior is hopefully changing in companies so that if somebody acts a little bit different, they are not judged as less than or atypical, it’s just different.” Listen as your host, Eric, Tivers, and his guest Dr. George Sachs discuss his journey before discovering he has ADHD, the start of his practice, the growing neurodiversity in the workspace, developing his Inflow app, plus much more today on . George is the co-founder and clinical director of , the first science-based app built for and by people with ADHD. Inflow is grounded in the principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy, and its mission is to help every person with ADHD reach their full potential by providing sustainable, accessible, and cost-effective support. Alongside their core seven-week program, Inflow offers a safe community space and a range of support tools, from ADHD-specific meditations to live events and personalized journaling. In this episode, Dr. Sachs discusses his experience as a late bloomer with ADHD, how he came to realize he had it himself, opening his practice, the overlap between ADHD and autism, and neurodiversity in the workforce and during the interview process. Then he shares how he came up with the idea for Inflow, what it does, and plans he has the app and its developing community. Dr. Sachs has committed most of his life to helping others with ADHD. He was diagnosed later in life and is a licensed child and adult psychologist. He’s authored four books on ADHD and is the founder of the in New York City. Half the team behind the Inflow app has ADHD, and Dr. Sachs is passionate about promoting neurodiversity in the workplace and wider society. You'll learn: [03:06] Welcome to the show, Dr. Sachs! [03:43] Dr. Sachs discusses the “experiments” he tried in his 20s. [05:21] What type of television work did Dr. Sachs do? [06:34] What was it like riding the dot com boom of the late 1990s? [07:11] Dr. Sachs realized he needed some stability in his life, so he went to Emory to major in psychology. [08:55] Dr. Sachs shares how he thinks he made it to grad school before his diagnosis. [09:55] With passion comes motivation and a decrease of ADHD symptoms. [11:21] What is sluggish cognitive tempo? [13:31] Dr. Sachs describes what came after graduation, including working in Compton and South Central L.A. [24:17] Autism comes with the benefit of directness. Here’s how honesty and directness have helped Dr. Sachs’ practice. [26:38] ADHD and autism have some overlap validated by research. [29:35] In the last few years, a lot of companies are creating space for neurodiversity in their workforce. [30:08] Interviews are conducted as if everyone’s neurotypical, so Dr. Sachs coaches people on the spectrum to do this at the beginning. [32:32] Why does Dr. Sachs not recommend self-disclosure in interviews for those with ADHD? [40:10] Dr. Sachs started developing the Inflow app a year ago. [41:56] What does the Inflow app do? [43:57] Dr. Sachs reveals his favorite challenge on the app. [46:39] Eventually, collaborations with companies like Peloton will create group challenges on Inflow. [48:09] Inflow strikes a balance between compassion and acceptance, as well as encouragement. [50:16] What is Dr. Sachs most excited about with the Inflow app? [50:56] Dr. Sachs and Eric discuss the impact of community and group work for those with ADHD. [52:11] What’s an antidote to perfectionism? [54:39] Dr. Sachs discusses his biggest struggle as an entrepreneur with ADHD [56:56] Dr. Sachs shares a final thought for listeners. [57:45] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  . Find Dr. George Sachs:
May 25, 2021
376 | Crash Landings and Recovery with Leya Russell
01:00:57
"I feel really lucky, and I think I'm just trying to find meaning, helping other people and being good in the world around you and just taking it one day at a time." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Leya Russell discuss the plane crash she survived, her injuries and recovery, her art and photography, plus much more on this episode of . Leya is a proud mother, artist, photographer, and general magpie finder of shiny things and rays of light. Having all the fun letters behind her name, she was diagnosed with ADHD and Dyslexia at the age of 30. Since her initial diagnosis, Leya has established a successful photography business, built a fine art studio, survived a plane crash, and earned even more letters after her name, including PTSD, anxiety, panic disorders, and many more. But nothing has dulled her effervescent curiosity, love for learning, and passion for life.    Listen as Leya shares surviving a plane crash in Bangladesh, being taken to a hospital where no one spoke English, and not being able to communicate with them about her injuries. She discusses coming home in a body cast and going through EMDR and other trauma-based therapies to cope with what happened and about where she is on her journey to recovery. Leya's primary income maker is her photography, but since the plane crash, recovering from her injuries, and Covid, she hasn't been able to work her business. Right now, her primary medium of art is soft pastel paintings, and she finds joy in helping others in her community. Listen as she shares what she is looking forward to once the pandemic has run its course and her work with the Centre for Disabilities in Development. You'll learn: [03:02] Welcome back to the show, Leya! [03:16] Leya shares how she survived a plane crash in Bangladesh. [05:43] When she was taken to the hospital, no one spoke English, which was very scary, especially when she broke her back and had a traumatic brain injury. [09:47] What do you attribute all of your resilience to?  [12:46] When she came home, she had so many injuries she was in a full-body brace. [14:00] Leya discusses going through EMDR and other trauma-based therapies. [25:45] Leya shares some ways she has learned to cope with the memories of what happened. [27:54] Where are you now on the recovery journey? [29:57] Leya defines what a magpie is. [32:38] Leya's primary income maker is her photography, but her primary medium of art is soft pastel. [33:40] Leya speaks about her paintings and the meaning behind them. [41:56] Leya shares some dreams that she has turned into action. [44:33] Leya discusses how she has purpose and compassion by helping others. [46:11] Where do you go from here? [48:11] Leya speaks about what she wants to do once Covid is behind us. [53:10] How are you surviving when you can't do the work that pays your bills? [54:58] Thank you for having me on the show. [55:52] Thank you for being on the show! [56:43] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Find Leya Russell: |
May 18, 2021
375 | April Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens and Barb
01:22:18
Listen as with his guests, , , , , and Barb answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Rob starts off the questions about answering his doctor when he asks him how he is doing with his medicine when he really doesn't know from day-to-day. Sondra wants to know how to tell the difference between her teenager being defiant about chores or if it's his ADHD showing up. How would you talk to your significant other about learning more about ADHD to help them understand what you are dealing with? Angela is talking to professional organizations about eliminating the stigma of neurodivergence in the corporate culture. She wants to find out what the panel believes is the most important key lesson to address, inspiring action with diversity, equity, and inclusion. Ellie has just been diagnosed and just started taking medication and wants ways to help her get back on track because she feels like her life is in shambles. Gayle's question is how to help someone you believe has ADHD and how to help them realize it? Laurie wants to know how to get anywhere on time, and Chase asks what the overlaps are in symptoms in ADHD and child traumatic stress? What do you recommend to people who have multiple diagnoses? Carolina wants to know how to help her friends understand how hard it is to be on time. Another listener asks how screen time affects kids and teens with ADHD, and is it different from how it affects neurotypical kids and teens? Thank you for listening to this month's Q & A session. As usual, we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources:  You'll learn: [02:29] Welcome to the show, everyone! [04:11] Rob wants to know how to answer when his doctor asks him how he is doing with his medicine. [05:50] Moira shares her insights and a tool he could use to track how his meds are doing. [07:27] Will has always struggled with this and shares his experience. [10:23] Brendan says to pay attention to all areas of your life that also matter. [11:01] Sondra wants to know the difference between a teenager being defiant about daily chores or if their ADHD is the issue. [13:01] MJ talks about how she handles her teenager. [14:42] Will gives his insights and what he sees with his children. [15:09] How would you talk to your significant other about learning more about ADHD to help them understand what you are dealing with? [17:50] Moira talks about finding the modality that works. [20:03] Brendan shares the best thing he and his wife did. [22:20] Eric talks about what they do in their coaching groups. [35:00] Angela wants to know what the panel thinks is the most important key to address to inspire action when building out Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion? [36:57] Eric talks about empathy and the strengths that people with divergent brains can bring to an organization. [38:05] Brendan shares what he believes is a terrible idea, but he shares it anyway. [38:49] MJ talks about the things she has done with educators around this issue. [40:58] Ellie feels a little overwhelmed with her diagnosis and wants to find out if they have any tips to help her get back on track. [42:44] Eric gives her some things she can do. [43:50] Will shares another aspect that he finds troubling and says to just getting acclimated to the changes. [45:05] Eric says not to take things so seriously, take it as it comes. [46:20] Gayle wants to know how to help someone you think has ADHD and how to help them realize it? [47:31] Moira speaks about how her partner showed her she had ADHD. [55:58] Brendan shares an email hack that he has. [56:13] Laurie has a question about how the panel makes it to anything on time. [56:50] Eric says that they require everyone to be there five minutes before they begin in their coaching groups. [58:19] Will speaks about how he arrives on time and some ways to think about setting a time to leave. [1:00:35] Moira says that she works backward and what she needs to do to be ready. [1:01:19] Chase asks what the overlaps are in symptoms in ADHD and child traumatic stress? What do you recommend to people who have multiple diagnoses? [1:02:17] Eric believes that as a community, they need to be talking much more about trauma because it's so pervasive. [1:04:11] Carolina wants to know how to help her friends understand how hard it is to be on time. [1:04:22] Eric says you need to plan the conversation with your friends. [1:05:28] Will gives his insights on dealing with people when you are late. [1:07:04] How does screen time affect kids and teens with ADHD, and is it different from how it affects neurotypical kids and teens? [1:08:08] Eric believes video games are digital dopamine for kids and adults with ADHD. [1:10:48] Moira discusses her two children and what she does when limiting screen time. [1:13:22] Eric talks about creating time versus consuming time. [1:13:55] Brendan says you have to give them a compelling alternative to screen time. [1:16:01] Eric shares how hard it is for him to play board games. [1:17:23] Thank you for your questions, and we will catch you next month. 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May 11, 2021
374 | 46 Countries, 14 Jobs, 1 Therapists’ Story - Kate Engel
59:25
"Everyone told me, why can't you just get it together? Why can't you stick to one thing? If you stick to one thing, look where you will be in ten years, you could be an expert." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Kate Engel discuss why it took so long to schedule this interview, when she was diagnosed with ADHD and the countries she has been to while looking for the perfect job and the perfect place to live, plus much more on this episode of . Kate is a Psychotherapist, Coach, Consultant, and Business Trainer. Kate has worked in non-profit, private, and academic sectors in 6 countries. Her ADHD has taken her on global adventures to examine how mental health issues manifest across cultures. She completed her postgraduate studies in Counseling at the University of Pennsylvania and currently has her own private practice in Philadelphia, where she specialized in treating ADH, OCD, Phobias, and social anxiety. She is committed to helping people with ADHD manage their executive functions, perfectionism, and emotions so they can become their best selves. Listen, as Kate discusses how ADHD can manifest in different cultures, and how in her Filipino culture, being late is normal and how confusing it can be when being tested for ADHD. Kate also talks about the first time she was tasked with working with a patient with ADHD and how eye-opening it was for her. Kate now has a waitlist for her practice, and because she still feels some imposter syndrome, it surprises her every time she realizes people will wait to work with her. Kate also speaks about her need to travel and the wonderful things she has discovered in the different places and cultures she has seen. She can’t wait for the pandemic to be over so she can continue going to new places. You'll learn: [03:35] Welcome to the show, Kate! [04:18] Kate shares what she does and why it took so long to schedule this podcast interview. [05:28] When were you first diagnosed? [06:48] Kate shares the countries she has lived in. [07:54] What were you looking for when you were traveling the globe? [11:08] Kate talks about the pattern of moving to find the perfect jobs. [13:04] After reflecting on her job journey, she got into life coaching and psychotherapy. [16:36] Kate discusses her three internships and her first ADHD client. [19:03] What at first made you not want to work with ADHD clients? [21:19] Eric shares how he worked with some clients with OCD and anxiety. [28:49] Kate says that ADHD can manifest differently in different cultures. [30:23] Kate speaks about her culture always being late, and it's normal to be late for everything. [34:14] Is it acceptable to be late for a doctor's appointment in the Philippines? [35:46] Kate discusses the mastermind she had about what she was going to do next. [38:42] Why are you surprised that you have a waitlist for her practice. [41:48] Eric believes that working with a generalist instead of a specialist for ADHD sometimes does more harm than good. [50:49] Kate shares about the need to travel and where it has taken her. [53:56] Thank you so much for sharing your story and experiences. [55:11] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Find Kate:
May 04, 2021
373 | Mindfulness for ADHD with Lidia Zylowska
01:10:54
"Make mindfulness your own, find tools, whether it's apps or books that resonate with you, and be empowered in the process." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Lidia Zylowska discuss the definition of mindfulness and the benefits of daily mindfulness meditation, plus much more on this episode of . Lidia is an Associate Professor at the and a faculty member at the University of Minnesota She is an internationally recognized expert in adult ADHD and mindfulness-based therapies. Her research work pioneered the application of mindfulness in ADHD, developed the for the ADHD program, and helped Listen as Lidia discusses how she integrates playfulness and curiosity into her teaching, some practical strategies on meditating in a mindful way, and explaining how to do short practice meditation. Lidia also talks about the five senses' practice and how easy it is to do a mindful eating practice at lunch. Eric believes that focusing on sensory channels is a helpful framework for mindfulness, so thinking about that first cup of coffee in the morning or how you are eating your lunch can be helpful. Lidia speaks about trauma and the connection between early trauma and the risk of ADHD. The mindful approach to trauma is trying to help the person connect to their feelings safely. She says to remember that feeling feelings will not kill you. Lidia also discusses a couple of things that can help you cope with emotional regulation when feelings come on strongly. Lidia believes that it's all about mindful playing, and there is not just one way to do it. You'll learn: [02:59] Welcome to the show, Lidia! [05:58] Lidia shares her definition of mindfulness, which is paying attention to the present moment non-judgementally. [07:32] Mindfulness is an attention awareness and attitude shift. [09:28] How much of the work that you do teaches playfulness and curiosity? [12:00] Lidia discusses the fascinating things she has learned over the years while doing her research. [15:06] Eric shares the benefits he gets from mindfulness meditation. [16:13] What are more of the day-to-day practical benefits of mindfulness meditation? [23:30] Lidia continues sharing the benefits of mindfulness meditation. [28:17] Lidia says that it's not easy for you if you are not already doing it. [30:48] Can you give us some practical strategies on how to meditate in a mindful way? [32:50] Lidia explains how to do short practice meditation. [34:58] Lidia shares the five senses practice by doing a mindful eating practice at lunch. [37:49] Eric believes that focusing on sensory channels is a helpful framework for mindfulness. [46:56] Listen as Lidia discusses trauma and the connection between early trauma and the risk for ADHD. [48:40] The mindfulness approach to trauma is trying to help the person safely connect to their feelings. [51:42] "Feeling feelings will not kill you." [52:45] What are one or two things someone can do to help them cope with emotional self-regulation? [55:51] Ask yourself what would happen if you just sat with your feelings for a moment? [57:41] Eric shares one of his favorite mindfulness exercises. [1:01:26] Mindful playing is really what it's all about, and there is no one way to do it. [1:04:37] Lidia shares some final thoughts with the listeners. [1:05:27] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:06:40] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Find Lidia:
Apr 27, 2021
372 | Entrepreneurship and Rejection Sensitivity with Diann Wingert
01:04:58
“There is nothing wrong with being sensitive; being sensitive is a gift.” Listen as my guest, Diann Wingert, a former psychotherapist turned mindset and productivity coach for female entrepreneurs with ADHD traits (officially diagnosed or not) discusses her belief that people learn how to deal with ADHD continuously throughout their lives, plus much more on this episode of . Listen as Diann shares that some people get misdiagnosed as Bipolar or as having a borderline personality disorder because of extreme rejection sensitivity. Diann speaks about the two reasons she likes to call it rejection sensitivity and how rejection sensitivity intersects with ADHD and entrepreneurship. Diann discusses how scary it is to start a new business, how being sensitive is a beautiful thing, and that you are no longer open to any constructive feedback when you don't care at all what people think. Diane also talks about extreme ownership and what it took for her to realize that she wasn't taking ownership of her life after her divorce. Eric discusses the book and what he's learned from it. Remember, we can do hard things, but we don't need to do them in the hardest way possible. Anytime you are doing something hard, you need to lean into it and know who you are and what you bring to the experience. You'll learn: [03:18] Welcome back to the show, Diann! [04:19] Diann shares why she focuses on rejection sensitivity. [07:05] Diann believes people are figuring out ADHD continuously throughout their lives. [08:30] Diann shares a story about the first ADHD conference she attended. [10:00] Because of extreme rejection sensitivity, some people get misdiagnosed as Bipolar or borderline personality disorder. [10:18] Listen as Diann discusses the two reasons she likes to call it rejection sensitivity. [12: 38] Diann speaks about entrepreneurship and ADHD, and it intersects with rejection sensitivity. [14:46] Eric shares an interesting situation in his alumni community. [17:55] New level, new devil, we continuously evolve, and every time we hit a new level, we get a new set of issues to solve. [23:39] Diann discusses how scary it is to put yourself out there by starting a new business and asking for a sale. [26:30] Being sensitive is a beautiful thing, but it comes with a vulnerability that we need to recognize and manage. [30:03] Diann says that when you don't care at all what other people think, you are no longer open to anything constructive in the way of feedback. [33:39] What is the difference between being misunderstood versus someone rejecting you for what you think because they don't agree with it? [37:51] Eric shares what his wife at the time said to him when he decided to become self-employed. [41:52] Diann speaks about being divorced and how she was treated after her second divorce. [47:49] What does embracing extreme ownership mean to you? [51:21] Eric talks about the book [52:25] Diann shares where she was when she started to understand extreme ownership. [57:26] Anytime we are doing something hard, we have to lean into it and know who we are and what we are bringing into the experience. [58:25] We can do hard things! But we don't need to do them in the hardest way possible. [59:48] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:00:44] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Find Diann:
Apr 20, 2021
371 | March Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens
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Listen as with his guests, , , , and , answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Maria kicks us off with a question about mindset and how to go from the mindset of I'm broken too I'm different to I'm different and how can I use this to my advantage. Nicks wants to know how to navigate serious relationship troubles with a non-ADHD spouse. Jillian shares she messed up a deadline as a freelancer and now wants to apply for a job with the same company but wants to know how to position herself in the best light. Mark is looking for some tools that will help him interrupt the distractions he has all around him. Rhonda is looking for ways to relate to her eighteen-year-old, who is fighting for independence but hasn't shown good decision-making skills to this point. She is worried that he wants to follow his girlfriend and go to college four hours away from home, but they can't afford to support him while he's gone. Listen as everyone shares their insights and suggestions to ease Rhonda's mind. Thank you for listening to this month's Q & A session. As usual, we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources:   You'll learn: [02:10] Welcome to the show, everyone! [03:21] Maria wants to know how to go from the mindset of I'm broken too I'm different to I'm different and how can I use that to my advantage? [06:17] Moira gives her insight to Maria and how she handled the mindset changes. [08:42] Brendan talks about carrying guilt and shame and how it's not as big as we often make it. [11:07] Eric believes that it's ok to have regret. [12:28] Will speaks about David and Goliath's book and how coming up with different solutions can be better than the obvious solutions. [14:32] Nick wants to know how to navigate serious relationship troubles with a non-ADHD spouse? [16:33] Eric believes you should understand what happens when your attachment system gets activated. [17:53] Will says you should work on things when everything is alright and schedule time for it. [20:05] Another listener asks, I messed up my deadline as a freelancer, and now I want to apply for a job at the same place. How do I position myself? [20:54] Moira talks about owning it and lets them know that multiple things were happening. [21:54] Will says stop guessing, talk to the people that you know at the company. [24:18] Jillian speaks about going to Eric's class because she isn't consistent with deadlines. [30:38] Mark has a question about being distracted even on his medication and is looking for tools that will interrupt those distractions. [32:27] Eric shares you don't want to have to try hard to stay focused from a distraction; you want to circumvent the distraction in the first place. [33:01] Moira speaks about what she does to circumvent distractions. [34:12] MJ talks about what she does to minimize distractions. [36:55] Will talks about nutrient-rich boredom and schedule time for distractions. [43:00] Rhonda wants to know how to relate to an eighteen-year-old fighting for independence but hasn't shown good decision-making skills? [45:48] Brendon shares what he tells the parents he works with about this topic. [47:12] Rhonda gives some background around her questions. [48:21] Eric addresses her questions about nicotine versus medication. [52:04] Rhonda shares her son's plan to go to school for auto mechanics. [54:36] Eric tells Rhonda that he hears a lot of fear in her voice for her son, but we are all going to screw up. [56:00] MJ wants to know if she has sat down with her son and let him tell her what he wants instead of trying to figure it out for him? [59:42] Rhonda says the worst part of it is that he wants to follow the girl. [1:00:52] Eric says that following the girl could be a really positive thing or a negative thing. [1:04:22] Thank you for all the questions. We will answer more next month. [1:05:45] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  
Apr 13, 2021
🚨📢2 spots left, group starts Monday
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2 spots left: Transcript: Hey there, it’s Eric, I hope you’re having a great weekend. If you were thinking about joining our spring coaching groups, we wanted to let you know that we added a 4th section at 9 AM Pacific / 12 PM Eastern lead by Coach Roxie Martin and we still have 2 spots left.  Group starts Monday, and we will need to talk to you before you join. So if you would like to grab one of these last 2 spots for our 9 am pacific group with Coach Roxie Martin, go right now to coachingrewired.com. If we think you’re a good fit, but we don’t get a chance to talk to you before Monday, we will help you get caught up with anything you missed. Go to coachingrewired.com, click the green button, add your name to the form, and follow the instructions. That’s coaching rewired.com. 
Apr 09, 2021
370 | Name It To Tame It with Brandon Tessers from Effective Artistry
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"There is a gap between what people want and what they have in their lives; you know what they want their lives to be and what they are." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Brandon Tessers discuss the different ways he discusses executive function with children and adults, plus much more on this episode of . Brandon is a licensed clinical professional counselor, a professional actor, and a playwright. He's an amateur singer, songwriter, a former school teacher, tutor, a spectacular dungeon master, and an enthusiastic if sometimes not prepared husband and father. Brandon has been helping children and adults with their executive functioning for over a decade and has always been focused on working with people who exist outside the norm in one way or another.  Listen to Brandon as he shares what his definition of executive function is and how they talk differently about it in his practice. Brandon believes that a lot of the work he does is observation and teaching the awareness piece. He also talks about how he uses his model to help people identify the approach to figure out helpful strategies. Brandon discusses knowing the language and how you aren't able to use it if you don't know it. He talks about communication issues in relationships and how the brain prioritizes negative information first. Brandon speaks about the idea of overvaluing or undervaluing things and what happens when we miss the value or cost of doing something. Brandon shares his definition of perfectionism, which is not being clear on when you are done doing something. He says the most important takeaway from this show today is the awareness piece and how you make the best decision you can at the moment. You'll learn: [03:02] Welcome to the show, Brandon! [04:09] Brandon shares what they do in his practice. [06:59] The gap between having an idea of what you want to do or intend to do and then actually doing it is an executive function. [08:09] Brandon says that they talk about executive function differently than most people. [10:40] Brandon speaks about how a lot of the work he does is observation. [12:39] We can't deliberately decide what to be aware of.   [15:42] Attention to Brandon is kind of like a bandwidth, which works into awareness. [18:06] Brandon says the analysis is great when it helps. [24:17] Eric talks about using the live transcript when he has zoom meetings. [26:06] How do you use your model to help people identify the approach to figuring out helpful strategies? [30:09] Brandon discusses having precise language to process and retrieve information. You have to know the language to be able to use it. [32:47] Brandon speaks about the words he's made up. [34:53] Listen as Brandon talks about communication issues in relationships and what we are dealing with, and what he does to communicate with clients. [36:44] Eric speaks about a book he's listening to on non-violent communication. [39:30] Brandon believes that the brain prioritizes negative information. [41:27] Brandon discusses the idea of overvaluing or undervaluing things based on the decisions we make. [48:03] What happens when we miss the value or cost of doing something? [50:12] Brandon defines perfectionism as not being clear on when you are done. [51:52] Eric says he doesn't want to teach people to be better at planning. He wants to help people plan better things. [54:58] Brandon says you have to be able to notice smaller distinctions to build on something. [55:24] Brandon wants the listeners to take away is to understand the awareness piece. [57:20] At the moment, you make the best decision you can make, and later, you make another one. [57:58] Thank you so much for being on the show! [58:44] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Find Brandon:
Apr 06, 2021
369 | PTSD, ASD, ADHD and Women with Juliet
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Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Juliet discuss the intersectionality not just with ADHD but also as a woman and a mom who is on the Autism spectrum and recently diagnosed with PTSD. Juliet is in recovery and participates in various twelve-step programs, and has worked as a drug and alcohol counselor, plus much more on this episode of . Listen as Juliet shares her story and what it was like being a young girl on the Autism spectrum. Juliet speaks about being sexually abused as a child and not getting help, so the untreated trauma affected the rest of her life. Juliet talks about her alcoholism, eating disorder, and what sparked her need to go into recovery. Juliet discusses her experience with twelve-step programs, how addiction is a symptom of circumstance, and how when you deal with stuff, other things can come up, and you have to learn to handle it all. Juliet talks about how she untangles the intersectionality between sensory processing with Autism and the trauma that is being held in her body. Juliet also speaks about her speech inarticulation issues and how when trauma is triggered, the language part of her brain goes offline.  Juliet shares what she is doing professionally now, the thing she thinks is the coolest about having Autism and ADHD, and she gives some advice for anyone looking for help with ADHD, PTSD, or ASD. You'll learn: [02:51] Welcome to the show, Juliet! [03:40] Juliet shares her story and what it was like to be a young girl on the Autism spectrum. [07:03] Juliet talks about not wanting to talk about her sexual abuse and how it is left untreated affected her life. [08:52] She speaks about her son being diagnosed as being on the Autism spectrum. [11:19] Juliet says that going through the checklist with her son and how everything sounded familiar. [12:16] What sparked you to go into recovery for the eating disorder and alcoholism? [15:22] Juliet talks about a twelve-stop program she went into with eating disorders. [21:38] Eric discusses addiction and the growing evidence that addiction is a symptom of circumstance. [24:34] Juliet says the twelve-step program works if you stick around and do it from her experience. [28:27] Eric talks about the efficacy rate for AA and other programs. [30:35] Juliet believes that when you put things down, other things come up, so you have to learn to deal with the things that come up. [38:33] Juliet explains how she sees the world in colors. [41:26] Julie shares how she untangles the intersectionality between sensory processing with Autism and what's being held in the body because of trauma. [42:44] When trauma is triggered, the language part of your brain goes offline. [44:29] How did you figure out that you have these speech inarticulation issues? [46:01] Juliet shares what she is doing professionally. [50:16] What is the coolest thing to you about having Autism and ADHD? [51:39] Juliet gives some advice to anyone looking for help with ADHD, PTSD, or ASD. [53:17] Thank you for being on the show! [54:03] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at
Mar 30, 2021
368 | I’ll Decide What I’m Supposed To Do with Erika Hopkins
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Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Erika Hopkins discuss her background, why she went to college to find a husband, her history of poor health, being tired and depressed and diagnosed with hypoglycemia, plus much more on this episode of . Erika is a professional educator and aspiring author who lives with her husband and three boys in Idaho. She holds a Master of Education degree in secondary science, a Bachelor of Nutrition Science, and a Chemistry minor. Debilitated by chronic fatigue attributed to depression, Erika relinquished her idea that mothers should remain home. She took a job at the local high school, where the process of science and unlikely friendship challenged Erika's views of herself and the world. Ultimately, she discovered she has been living with undiagnosed ADHD.  Listen, as Erika shares her background, her goal to be a wife and mother, becoming a high school science teacher, and having three sons under three. Erika speaks about the mentor she was assigned as a new teacher, the moment that took her breath away, and going to doctor after doctor trying to find out what was wrong with her. Erika discusses resigning from her teaching position and getting the ADHD diagnosis. Erika believes that people with ADHD don't have the executive function to make things happen, and she talks about some tools she has learned that have been helpful for her. Erika is excited about the future and feels free and adventurous, and all it took was talking to someone who put two and two together. You'll Learn: [03:39] Welcome to the show, Erika! [04:18] What experience led you to the transformation of you questioning everything you know? [07:04] Erika shares that her parents helped her come up with an appropriate degree if something happened to her husband and she needed to work. [09:38] Her goal was to become a wife and mother. [12:21] Erika speaks about her body having trouble managing levels. So the episodes of fatigue continued. [14:00] Erika went back to school and became a high school science teacher. [17:34] Having three sons under three and all in diapers is so tiring and noisy. [22:58] “The pressure on women to be organized, self-controlled, the one that is keeping everyone else organized is a societal expectation that is deeply ingrained.” ["5:49] Erika speaks about researching how to write a book. [28:52] Because she wasn't taking care of herself, being home with her children wasn't sustainable. [30:53] Erika shares about the mentor she was assigned to as a new teacher. [33:05] She describes the moment that took her breath away. [36:15] Erika went to dozens of doctors, trying to figure out why she is so tired all the time. [39:43] The doctor told her she was normal, her blood work came back normal. [46:40] Erika speaks about resigning from her teaching position. [50:05] People with ADHD don't have the executive function to make things happen. [53:16] Erika talks about some things that have been helpful for her. [55:47] Erika cautions people not to believe everything someone tells them. [57:05] Erika feels free and more adventurous, and she is excited about the future. [58:02] Thank you for being on the show! [58:50:] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at  
Mar 23, 2021
367 | Embracing Why You Are - Perspectives From An Innovator with Michael Docherty
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Do you take the time to open yourself up to something new? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Michael Docherty discuss why he called his team the island of misfit toys, his entrepreneurship, looking at his strengths from the perspective of an innovator, plus much more on this episode of . Michael is a lifelong innovator who has led a successful thirty-five career as a corporate executive, venture investor, entrepreneur, consultant, author, husband, and happy father of three adult children. His goal as a parent was not to screw his kids up, and he thinks he has succeeded. As someone diagnosed with ADHD only five years ago, Mike says he used to think that he stumbled into the right things, but in looking back now sees it as a journey in learning how to play to one's strengths and find creative ways to compensate for the gaps. Michael shares working at Sunbeam and being a part of a group dubbed the island of misfit toys, how he thrives in a certain amount of chaos and how he keeps a handle on everything he has going on. Michael also talks about his perfectionist tendencies and how he has to remind himself that he is being hired for his brain, not his ability to do reports.  Michael believes that the game has changed about what innovation is, how he likes to work with people who bring something different to the table and that when it comes to innovation and new product development, you need to work within the tolerances of the organization you work for. He also shares some tactical strategies to push in your organization without being pushed out the door. Listen, as Michael shares an interesting college career story, what happened that caused him to seek an ADHD diagnosis and how he used the book he wrote as a way to reinvent himself. Michael says that when he was writing the book, he decided about three-quarters of the way to stop and regroup, which caused him to take it in a different direction. You'll learn: [02:54] Welcome to the show, Michael! [03:14] Michaels talks about his team at Sunbeam, known as the island of misfit toys. [06:20] Michael speaks about being able to thrive in a certain amount of chaos. [09:12] How do you keep a handle on everything you have going on? [11:03] Michael discusses using other people to get him out of his perfectionist tendencies. [15:17] Michael reminds himself that he's being hired for his brain, not for his reports. [18:05] He has learned to get away from self-talk and think differently to make things happen. [24:00] Michael believes the game has changed about what innovation is. [28:06] Michael has always admired and loved working with people who differ from him and bring new things to the table. [29:54] How do I find the island of misfit toys? [31:34] Michael says that you need to work within the tolerance of the organization you work for when it comes to innovation and new product development. [32:38] What are some tactical strategies to push for what you want without getting pushed out the door? [35:36] Michael speaks about how to apply the principle of innovation to ADHD life management. [44:57] Michael shares an interesting college career story. [49:45] What was going on in your life that brought you to an ADHD diagnosis? [51:35] Michael talks about the book he released and how he used it to reinvent himself. [54:06] When he was about three-quarters through the book, he stopped and regrouped. [56:54] Thank you so much for being on the show! [57:45] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Connect with Michael:
Mar 16, 2021
366 | February Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens
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Listen as with his guests, , , Moira Maybin, and , answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Ella kicks off our questions today, asking if anyone else gets anxious when faced with something unpleasant. Judith wants to know if anyone has any thoughts on QB Check and online ADHD diagnostic tool, and Stephanie wonders why she always read in high school, but now she has trouble picking up a book and finishing it. Eileen shares that she was diagnosed with Complex PTSD and asked what the differences are from ADHD. Another question is, what do you think about cannabis use with a patient using stimulants? And the difference between under stimulation with ADHD and depression? Karen wants to know why she is on medication, but she is still losing track of work and life. Caroline wants advice on prioritizing at work when everything seems urgent, and Vicky wants to know how to get her ADHD under control. The group agrees that your ADHD isn't worse; it's just that once you are diagnosed, you are more aware, so everything is brought more into focus. Thank you for listening to this month's Q & A session. As usual, we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: ADHD Friendly Lifestyle with Moira Maybin You'll learn: [02:08] Welcome to the show, everyone! [03:12] Ella wants to know if anyone gets anxious when faced with something unpleasant. [05:48] Eric shares that ADHD is a performance disorder, and in the evening, their executive functions are at the lowest. [06:21] Brendan says the sometimes dithering is a less focused effort or attempt to get some dopamine flowing. [08:43] Judith is asking the group for their thoughts on QB Check. [10:27] Stephanie says that she is terrible now at reading books, and she wants to know if this is an ADHD thing? [11:10] Will says that reading is a muscle, and if you don't use it, you will lose it. [12:03] Moira talks about reading books you like. [15:00] MJ speaks about listening to audible books as a great way to learn. [19:45] Eileen has been diagnosed with complex PTSD and asks for insight into the difference between ADHD and complex PTSD. [20:40] Eric says that trauma is just about what happened to you; it's about how you handled and processed what happened to you. [21:22] Living life with ADHD without being diagnosed with ADHD is traumatic. [22:56] Eric shares that trauma lives in the body, and so most therapies done for PTSD are focused on the body. [32:02] What do you think about cannabis use with a patient that is using stimulants? [32:11] Eric does not believe that marijuana is not a treatment for ADHD. [32:58] The chronic long-term use of marijuana is impairing. [33:39] Brendan shares where he is landing on this question. [35:44] What is the difference between under stimulation with ADHD and depression? [35:57] Eric shares what he believes are the differences. [38:25] Brendan believes that depression is situational. [40:08] Brenda has a question about executive function coaching. [42:24] MJ likes to have a coach that has ADHD. [49:45] Karen says that she is on medication but still losing track of life and work. [50:05] Pills don't teach skills. [50:46] Caroline wants advice on the best strategies for prioritizing at work when everything feels urgent. [50:58] Eric says to read the book .  [52:27] Identify that thing that is most important to you, and everything else is a distraction. [53:18] Brendan says to be strategic about who you share with. [55:32] MJ believes she should talk to her boss. [57:01] Moira shares that she changes her schedule every week because she prioritizes what is most important. [1:00:05] Do you have a to-done list?  [1:02:56] Vicky wants to know how to get her ADHD under control. [1:03:23] Identify what you want to work on and work on those things and learn as much as you can. [1:04:25] Don't take yourself so seriously. [1:05:25] It's not that your ADHD is worse, it's that you are more aware after your diagnosis. [1:06:39] Thank you for listening! [1:08:06] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at
Mar 09, 2021
365 | Novel Advice for Perfectionism and Writing with Jay Bushman
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"Pills don't teach skills," Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Jay Bushman discuss his ADHD and diagnosis, the craziness that last two years have brought, the death of his father from COVID, his new book, plus much more on this episode of . Jay is a writer working at the intersection of traditional and emerging formats. He won an Emmy for his work as a writer and trans-media producer on the ground-breaking series , an interactive adaptation of Pride and Prejudice. His first book, , a collection of advice column letters written by famous characters from literature, is now available.  Jay shares his research on APD, and when he realized he might have ADHD, his therapists said he was a perfectionist and what perfectionism feels like on the inside above and beyond the actual definition. Jay had a rough year and spoke about how he could finish his book after his father passed away from the coronavirus.  Listen as Jay discusses his next project and the trouble he is having getting it started. Jay believes that once the world calms down, he will be able to start, but Eric asks if there is some way for him to forget about what is going on in the world and proceed. To finish up, Jay shares his journey with perfectionism and some things that might help you push through and come out on the other side. You'll learn: [03:04] Welcome to the show, Jay! [05:46] Jay shares how he handled working on his book while his father passed away from COVID. [07:41] Jay believes that having a good therapist has helped him get through. [08:31] Jay discusses the process of being diagnosed with ADHD and APD. [11:04] Jay speaks about having [13:40] Listen as Jay talks about having chronic pain. [16:39] Jay shares his research on APD and realizing he probably had ADHD as well. [26:23] Jay's therapist talked to him about perfectionism. [27:09] Jay speaks about what perfectionism feels like on the inside. [29:54] Jay describes his book and how it's written. [33:01] Jay shares how he got his book done and his thoughts about what he wanted to do next. [34:00] There is a PowerPoint presentation available to help people write a TV show pilot. [43:41] Jay speaks about what his next book is about. [46:51] Eric shares his divorce and his work on himself to heal. [48:52] Should you maybe put your project on hold for a few months and see where you are on it then? [50:52] Jay discusses the pandemic and not leaving his apartment until things get better. [53:23] What can you do that doesn't depend on the world settling down to proceed with your project? [56:09] Jay shares some advice for anyone struggling with perfectionism. [59:20] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:01:01] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Connect with Jay: | |
Mar 02, 2021
364 | Not Like The Other Brains with William Curb from Hacking Your ADHD
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It’s been a year since William Curb started the Hacking Your ADHD podcast and we’re celebrating. Correction: In true ADHD style, it has been a year + 3 months or so. Either way, having reached this milestone is huge and we are celebrating.  Creating and sustaining a podcast is a lesson in discipline for ANY podcaster but even more so for someone who has also been diagnosed with ADHD. Having set systems definitely helps but there are so many new facets of the disorder that you’ll face as you try to keep a steady schedule that it’s almost like learning a whole new tool. William takes the time to script his podcast so he keeps them fairly short and on task, but doing this means that he occasionally misses production dates. This is perfectly fine because he has kept on going regardless.  Listen as we chat about when automation helps (and when it doesn’t), what the future looks like for Hacking Your ADHD, and how having the podcast has helped him to address various ADHD symptoms. He’s also sharing a bit about how he hacks his ADHD and how he’s altering those hacks for his 5-year old daughter. In true Hacking Your ADHD fashion, we end this one with an amazing dad joke courtesy of William’s very large “dad joke library.” Listen in to hear it all. You'll learn: [02:08] Welcome to ADHD reWired, William Curb.  [04:17] William shares the learning process he has gone through as he works on his Podcast. [06:26] How ADHD makes podcast production challenging.  [09:16] Quick thoughts on automation and creating systems.  [12:31] Why using what we have is sometimes harder than just buying more. [16:27] Has William considered writing a book?  [22:49] What does the future look like for Hacking Your ADHD?  [26:29] How has he been doing with letting go of perfectionistic tendencies?  [29:02] Has listening to himself helped with his speech?  [31:18] Learn more about how his scripts have evolved over time.  [35:51] What kinds of things would he like to try out with the podcast?  [43:56] William shares ways he hacks his ADHD.  [48:11] How timers have helped him manage his time and productivity. [53:01] It doesn’t matter if someone else is teaching the same thing. Learn why?  [57:22] Why his ADHD network is partially responsible for the success of the podcast. [59:04] A quick dad joke to make your day. [1:00:22] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Will's site is here:
Feb 23, 2021
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Feb 18, 2021
363 | ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens
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Do you feel you are a failure because you can't meet expectations? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest MJ Siemens have a fun episode where they share a bit of MJ's story and give you a chance to get to know MJ a little more. MJ is about to launch a new podcast called ADHD Diversified so stayed tuned for more information about her launch, plus much more on this episode of . MJ shares about her new podcast ADHD Diversified, what it will be about, and how she plans to have humor while discussing serious topics that haven't been talked about. MJ also talks about how being stereotyped because she is of Asian descent and how she professionally handles people. MJ speaks about having Trichotillomania, and because of it, she wears a hat so that she doesn't pull her hair out. She also discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, the intake assessment, the first visit with a psychiatrist, and being diagnosed with multi-levels of ADHD. MJ shares her family's response to her diagnosis and how it was the total opposite of how she thought they would react. MJ shares what she hopes to learn from the guests she brings on her show, and she wants to let people know they are not alone. There are many resources available if you know where to look, and she wants to help people find those resources. MJ says that it took years for her to figure out that she wasn't stupid and that it was ok to be different. She hopes she can show others to be themselves, so they don't have to feel the way she did. You'll learn: [02:44] Welcome to the show, MJ! [05:08] MJ wants her show to be funny and laid back while discussing serious topics that haven't been talked about. [07:31] MJ shares how she reacts to people stereotyping her because she is of Asian descent. [10:15] Listen as they play MJ's trailer for the new podcast. [14:12] MJ says that she is medicated and professional during the day, but in the evening and during this podcast, she is more relaxed. [17:05] MJ wears a hat so that she doesn't pull out her hair because she has a serious case of Trichotillomania. [20:00] humorously talking about diversity is a different way to approach it that isn't so thorny. [22:55] Eric believes it's important to be curious and has an open dialogue around racism. [25:30] MJ speaks about not fitting in anywhere because she isn't Asian enough and isn't western enough. [28:30] MJ was told by teachers that she was twice-exceptional, but she didn't know what that meant. [36:30] They share how much they love Brendan Mahan. [39:01] MJ speaks about some things she always did that were examples of her ADHD. [43:57] Women with undiagnosed ADHD are sometimes misdiagnosed with other things. [46:14] MJ was surprised when her psychiatrist invited her partner into her first visit. [54:32] MJ talks about how her family reacted when she told them about her diagnosis. [57:46] MJ shares posting a small call out to see if any other Asian's in the group had ADHD. [1:00:10] Eric speaks about MJ's Lego room and how cool it is. [1:02:41] MJ discusses the stereotype that she should have been very smart academically because she is Asian. [1:04:30] Eric says that it is fun to watch MJ connect things because she does it quickly. [1:06:41] MJ believes that one of the beautiful things about having an ADHD brain is they have a unique way of problem-solving. [1:07:38] What do you hope to learn with the guests you bring on your podcast? [1:10:01] MJ wants people to know they are not alone as long as the resources are being used. [1:12:02] It has taken MJ years to know that she isn't stupid and being different is ok. [1:13:52] Thank you for being on the show! [1:14:38] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Feb 16, 2021
362 | January 2021 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens
01:17:16
Listen as with his guests, , , Moira Maybin, and MJ Siemens, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Maria starts this session by asking Eric what he means by the comment that he is proudly unemployable. Bri wants to know how to structure her downtime to make her feel like she is working toward a goal. Another listener wants to know how to get over the anger and feelings of being wronged. Listen as the panel answers the question, how do I deal with imposter syndrome during the diagnosis process? How do I deal with imposter syndrome during the diagnosis process? Do neuro-diverse conditions run deeply in families? How do I handle high emotional responses that flatten my priority list? Is there a niche for an alcoholic, addicted artist podcast? How much time should I devote to a new hobby? According to research, to what degree are executive functions trainable in adults with ADHD? Do you feel like your medication doesn't work during your menstrual cycle? These are more of the questions that our panel shares insights, strategies, suggestions, and personal experiences on to help the listeners gain an understanding of what they can do to mitigate the issues they have questions about. Welcome to the first live Q&A of 2021, where we cover a wide range of topics and provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: ADHD Friendly Lifestyle with Moira Maybin ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens You'll learn: [01:48] Welcome to the show, everyone! [02:20] Maria has a question about why Eric says he is proudly unemployable. [05:00] Maria discusses the work she wants to do. [08:25] Bri asks about how to structure her time so that she doesn't feel stuck. [10:24] Brendan shares his insights into her question. [12:17] Moira talks about how Bri feels like she is starting from zero again. [15:03] MJ speaks about taking what's worked for her in the past and tweaking it for what works now. [16:13] Eric wants to know what future Bri wants. [17:07] How do I get over the anger and feelings of being wronged? [18:19] MJ shares that this is something we all can relate to and that forgiveness can give us peace of mind. [21:10] Eric believes that one thing that can be helpful at the moment is what can I actually learn from this? [23:36] Eric talks about being fired from his first job out of grad school. [24:58] Will adds his insights into this issue. [25:36] "Never attribute to malice what can be explained with stupidity." [32:46] How do I deal with imposter syndrome during the diagnosis process? [34:37] Eric discusses when he felt he had imposter syndrome. [35:16] Will shares what helped him when he felt like he was an imposter. [35:52] Brendan talks about the awareness around imposter syndrome. [36:55] Moira says that's why she is doing the ADHD Friendly Lifestyle podcast. [40:27] Jennie asks a question about neurodiverse conditions running deeply in the family. [41:28] Eric discusses how inherent ADHD is in families. [42:38] MJ says that different family members cope with ADHD in different ways. [47:59] Rob's question is about flattening his priority list because of high emotional responses. [50:58] Rob shares what has worked for him to get things out of his head. [51:54] Eric talks about what he hears Rob say. [53:01] Eric shares what he does that is helpful when he has a day where he is bouncing all over the place. [57:58] Brendan discusses some things he thinks might help Rob. [59:51] Moira shares some strategies that she uses that might help. [01:01:26] Is there a niche for alcoholic, addict, artist podcast? [01:02:00] Cody wants to know how much time he should spend learning a new hobby. [01:03:09] Will believes you should make hobbies something you do with other people. [01:03:45] Daniel wants an idea of where he should be when he grows up, when he doesn't have any skills or talents. [1:05:09] Maggie wants to do everything; she doesn't know what to do because she wants to do it all. [1:06:45] Brendan says to take the list of all the things you want to do and reorganize it thematically. [1:07:35] According to research, to what extent are executive functions trainable skills in adults with ADHD? [01:09:33] Do you feel like your medication doesn't work during your premenstrual cycle? [1:11:04] Will closes the episode with a dad joke. [1:12:21] Thank you for listening! [1:13:03] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Links and Resources: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Feb 09, 2021
361 | Living with Bipolar and ADHD Malaika Tolford
01:14:03
Do you think you might have a Bi-Polar disorder? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Malaika Tolford discuss her diagnosis of Bi-Polar disorder and ADHD, how common it is to have both, and the difference between Bi-Polar one and two, plus much more on this episode of . Malaika is a ceramic artist and owner of ; she also teaches at a nonprofit craft organization. They diagnosed Malaika with Bi-Polar two disorder in 2013 and added an ADHD diagnosis in January 2020, which provided some pieces of her mental health puzzle. She is a mom of two boys trying to navigate COVID while working from home and keeping out of the way of her husband's zoom meetings. Listen as Malaika shares why she got in touch with Eric, the difference between Bi-Polar one and two, and what led her to seek evaluation and diagnosis for Bi-Polar disorder. Because of suicidal thoughts, Malaika sought medication for Bi-Polar depression and was lucky enough that the first thing they tried worked for her. Malaika discusses what happened in her life that led her to believe that she might also have ADHD, the struggle to figure out who she really was and how the pandemic made that journey even more difficult. Eric believes that if you can tolerate it, medication is one of the best treatments for ADHD. Malaika speaks about her pottery business, how she has pivoted to online sales since the pandemic, and how pottery is relatable to both of her diagnoses. She describes her pottery and shares that she puts maps on all of her pieces because she likes geography, so please check out her work at You'll learn: [03:28] Welcome to the show, Malaika! [04:22] Malaika discusses why she got in touch with Eric. [07:19] Malaika shares what she understands about Bi-Polar and the difference between 1 and 2. [09:44] What led you to seek evaluation and diagnosis of Bi-Polar? [11:16] Malaika speaks about why she sought medicine for her disorder. [13:02] Eric says that having suicidal thoughts is the language of an illness. [16:05] Malaika discusses how ADHD may have led to the cycle of depression. [22:36] They talk about the medication Malaika was prescribed for her Bi-Polar disorder. [25:08] Malaika shares what happened that led to the ADHD diagnosis. [28:28] ADHD Alien led her to her ADHD diagnosis. [31:15] Malaika discusses the struggle to try to figure out who she was. [33:51] They speak about the pandemic and what they were doing when they were shut down. [37:43] Malaika shares the meds they have put her on for her ADHD. [39:57] ADHD is not a skill deficit. [40:54] Medication, if you can tolerate it is one of the best treatment plans for ADHD. [47:07] Malaika discusses her pottery business and how it is relatable to her diagnosis. [50:54] Most of Malaika's work has to do with geography. [52:37] What has been the hardest thing about pivoting with Bi-Polar, ADHD, and COVID? [54:50] Malaika speaks about moving during all of this craziness. [57:00] Malaika shares the interesting things that have come out of her diagnosis. [1:01:19] Eric talks about how great the Bose noise-canceling headphones are. [1:02:09] Is talking to people with masks on hard for you? [1:03:16] Malaika shares some final thoughts for people who might think they have Bi-Polar disorder along with their ADHD. [1:08:37] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:09:50] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Links and Resources Find Malaika: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Feb 02, 2021
360 | Entrepreneur Thinking To Solve Education with Adrien Harrison
01:12:57
Have they labeled you or your child a misbehaving kid? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Adrien Harrison discuss why he was labeled a misbehaving kid, changing schools, quitting university, and a podcast that changed his life, plus much more on this episode of . Adrien is a serial entrepreneur specializing in education technology, digital healthcare, and he has had his own rocky road with education. As the Founder and CEO of , he's focused on solving all of education's failures, especially for kids with special needs, by bringing together the world's leading experts and the most effective treatments and strategies. Smart Course is making sure all kids get access to equal opportunity, a solid education, and a chance to thrive.  Adrien shares his academic background, the differences in education he found in France, United States, and England, and what he did during the year he took off from university. He also talks about a startup he did as a college project that made him realize being an entrepreneur was for him. Listen, as Adrien discusses starting a small website building business with his parents' friends, how he wanted to grow his business and why revolutionizing the education system for special needs kids became so important. Adrien believes that career readiness is much more important than good grades, which is how is structured. Adrien's path for his company is to be ready so that when the internet is available worldwide, they will be ready and available to help low-income and impoverished children get a good solid education that will help them build careers.  Go to to register for the ADHD Smart Summit. They bring together the best ADHD experts in the world to teach you everything they know about dealing with ADHD. You'll learn: [02:55] Welcome to the show, Adrien! [05:16] Adrien shares his story.  [08:07] He speaks about what he saw as a child with education and his conversations with the Dean. [09:21] Adrien discusses going to an American boarding school and the difference in the support he got versus the French school system. [12:25] Going to college does not guarantee you will get a job. [14:24] Adrien shares what kind of startup he helped build in university. [16:34] Adrien talks about what he did when he took a gap year from college. [18:50] Adrien speaks about a podcast he listened to that changed his life. [21:53] Adrien discusses realizing that he had value to offer to people of his parents' generation that hadn't grown up with computers and social media. [29:26] While building very inexpensive websites, he started thinking about digital marketing as a way to expand his business. [31:38] Adrien shares what was important about a course that he took. [35:15] He decided he wanted to revolutionize the education system. [38:57] How will you bridge the gap that will allow lower-income people to know about and participate in what you want to accomplish? [40:48] Adrien what his definition of the entrepreneurial mindset is. [41:53] Eric believes the educational system was designed for. [44:18] The best way to help families is to help their kids do well. [48:21] Adrien believes that career readiness is more important than grades. [54:31] Adrien suspects he has ADHD but has never been diagnosed. [55:32] Adrien shares how everything came full circle when he called his middle school dean and found out he had ADHD. [57:27] He wanted to create a course on ADHD in the middle school years. [1:00:40] Adrien speaks about how to get to the root cause. [1:01:15] Adrien discusses Smart Course and what it covers. [1:04:54] He shares a blog he thinks people should read. [107:58] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:08:44] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Links and Resources: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 26, 2021
359 | Accidental Ahole with Angela Pieper
01:02:11
"ADHD is never an excuse; it's an explanation." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Angela Pieper discuss how companies can have more empathy around neurodiverse people while still holding them to the same standards as neurotypical employees, plus much more on this episode of .  Angela has worked in the alcoholic beverage industry for over fifteen years in roles ranging from waiting tables to managing multi-million dollar portfolios. She hopes to affect change in diversity and inclusion initiatives for people with neurodiverse conditions. Angela is a mom to a brilliant seventeen-year-old daughter and loves to travel with her husband. Listen as Angela discusses the company she works for and how the culture is important for her, what she would like her company to do to educate the leadership team around the struggles of neurodiverse employees, and how these same people can add value to the organization. Angela shares some strategies and tools she uses in the workplace that have helped her and helped some of her neurotypical colleagues. Angela speaks about what her ideal workplace would look like and how she would change the world if she could to help neurodiverse people in the workplace. Angela believes that if companies and leadership teams educated themselves about these issues, they could retain employees, which would help their bottom line. You'll learn: [02:36] Welcome to the show, Angela! [03:27] Angela explains why she wanted to come on the podcast. [05:26] Angela speaks about having the MTHFR gene mutation and how it affects people. [08:23] Angela shares how she felt when she realized she appeared combative or defensive when being curious. [10:07] Did you change the way you asked questions or change your tone? [12:18] Angela talks about being on a performance improvement plan and how her 90-day review went. [15:04] Angela speaks about where she wants to be in the next year. [18:51] Angela discusses the company culture she works in and how important it is for her to work for a company that talks the talk and walks the walk. [27:31] Angela shares what she wants to see companies do around neurodiversity and her company specifically. [29:52] How does this understanding of neurodiverse people add value to an organization? [31:08] Angela describes some tools and strategies she uses. [34:16] Eric believes that we should be curious about how people do and think differently. [36:55] By the age of 12, children with ADHD have five times a day more corrections than children without ADHD do. [39:26] Angela's ultimate goal is to say let's work together to figure out how we can fix this instead of being shoved into the neurotypical box. [44:58] What would your ideal workplace look like? [48:57] Angela speaks about what her ideal role would be. [52:34] Angela discusses how she would change the world for neurodiverse people in the workplace. [55:23] Angela shares some final thoughts about the awareness around ADHD. [57:03] Thank you for being on the show! [57:59] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jan 19, 2021
358 | December 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens
01:20:23
Listen as with his guests, , , Moira Maybin, and MJ Siemens, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Kathy starts by asking for suggestions about going to bed at a decent time so she can get up early to write her book. Melissa wants some suggestions on incorporating weekly planning in her life. Lauren is looking for help to find resources for getting a correct diagnosis for ADHD instead of depression, as she's always been told. Brendan wants suggestions on what project management tool to use as his business grows, and he is being overwhelmed with inquiries. Jacob wants some help and resources to quit smoking. He has quit multiple times over the years but always started back up. The panel shares their tips and suggestions on talking to his doctor about the ADHD meds he is on and asking if they can be changed to make quitting easier. This is the last live Q&A recorded in 2020, and as usual, we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD, and get ready for more in 2021. *Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. Your Resources: ADHD Friendly Lifestyle with Moira Maybin ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens You'll learn: [02:15] Welcome to the show, everyone! [04:49] Kathy speaks about her issue of going to bed late. [07:13] Eric wants to know if she has to get up early. [09:45] Brendan shares his insights into Kathy's issue. [13:02] If you can find a book that is fiction and part of a series, it might allow you to go to bed sooner. [15:58] Kathy talks to her future self every morning. [18:13] MJ talks about the meds she takes for her ADHD. [21:02] Melissa wants to know how to incorporate weekly planning in her life. [23:46] Eric says that planning makes everything else you are doing easier. [25:47] Telling people no is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. [26:22] Brendan shares his suggestions for Melissa. [32:47] Lauren believes she has been misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety disorder; she believes she has ADHD but doesn't have the money to pursue a diagnosis. [35:02] Women are the largest demographic for being diagnosed with ADHD because they are the largest group being misdiagnosed. [36:50] Moira shares some resources for Lauren. [39:04] Will asks if a diagnosis is a road to getting medication to help with her ADHD. [42:16] Brendan has a question about a project management tool to manage his inquiries. [44:20] Eric shares his ideas on what Brendan can do. [47:17] Eric discusses some automated tools he can use. [48:47] MJ speaks about how she manages contacts and her schedule. [53:11] Do you have a form on your website for people to fill out? [53:32] Moira has three questions to ask Brendan. [55:41] Eric shares with Brendan when it's time to hire your first assistant. [59:04] Eric discusses his post-covid plans and what he hopes to accomplish during 2021. [1:04:52] Jacob wants some tips on how to quit smoking. [1:05:36] MJ asks what kind of medicine he is on. [1:06:22] MJ shares that she couldn't reduce her nicotine level until she was on the correct dosage of meds for her ADHD. [1:08:00] Eric discusses how he quit smoking and his triggers for restarting. [1:11:00] Eric shares some programs that are available to help people quit smoking. [1:12:48] Jacob talks about the contraindications that quit smoking medications have, so he can't take them. [1:15:12] Thank you all for being on the show! [1:16:11] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 12, 2021
357 | Accept The Brain You Have with Terry Huff
01:01:43
"If you don't want your ADHD to disrupt your life, then don't say you can't do something." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Terry Huff discuss the important idea of accepting the brain you have, plus much more on this episode of . Terry is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in adults with ADHD; he is a blogger and the author of , which came out in 2016. He has practiced in the Nashville area for 31 years and is the founder of ADD Nashville, a support group he founded in 2005. Terry leads workshops and has presented at international conferences on ADHD, and has had a personal meditation practice for over 25 years. Listen, as Terry discusses practicing meditation and how meditation can help you notice your mind. If you practice compassion meditation, you can strengthen the brain areas that are involved with empathy. Terry also shares a story about his wife and how it has been possible for her to stay by his side for the forty-plus years they have been married. Do you get frustrated with your ADHD? Terry shares some resets, tips, and techniques you can use to access more of your brain and learn to accept your brain with ADHD. Terry believes that if you wake up every morning and tell yourself you have ADHD, and you will possibly screw up today, you probably won't. You'll learn: [03:17] Welcome to the show, Terry! [03:55] Terry shares his background and his journey to where he is today. [06:32] Terry speaks about losing open awareness when he was on medicine. [08:47] Terry discusses practicing meditation and the type that helped him. [11:47] Listen, as Terry tells a story about a situation with a client that changed how he helped his clients. [15:02] The goal of meditation isn't to quiet the mind; the goal is to notice the mind. [18:46] "The moment that we accept ourselves exactly as we are in the moment we can begin to change," [21:02] People who practice compassion meditation seem to strengthen the brain areas that are involved in empathy. [28:03] Do you teach and guide people in meditation? [28:49] Terry defines cognitive therapy. [32:12] Be gentle with yourself; you didn't ask for this. [33:40] Terry tells people you have ADHD, act as if you know it. [35:41] Terry speaks about his wife and how she has always stayed right by his side during his ADHD journey. [37:21] Are there times that you get frustrated with your ADHD? You are not alone. [39:17] Terry shares an embarrassing story about himself. [41:45] Terry discusses why rewards and punishments don't work on people with ADHD. [42:49] Preventing the problems in your life that ADHD can cause you are the way. [47:59] Terry says to wake up every morning and tell yourself you have ADHD and why. [50:12] Accept that your memory isn't reliable, and it won't be a problem for you. [51:49] What are some concrete things that someone can do that is having trouble accepting their brain with ADHD? [54:32] Terry shares some resets you can do to access more of your brain. [56:48] Thank you for listening to the show! [57:30] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Connect with Terry: | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 05, 2021
356 | Mastermind Session with Natalie - PMDD and ADHD
01:05:26
*If you missed registration for our winter coaching groups that start on January 6th, go to the website, . We still have two spots that just opened up in section one and one spot in section two.* "What women should do, particularly women with ADHD, instead of planning your months at the end of the month, plan your month with your cycles." Listen to this mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Moira with Natalie in the hot seat. Natalie is looking for strategies to deal with hormonal changes around her cycle, plus much more on this episode of . Listen as the mastermind shares strategies, insights, and ideas for Natalie to handle the fluctuations around her menstrual cycle. They discuss talking to her doctor about changing up the dosage of her medicine for two weeks out of the month, setting up her monthly planner to coincide with her cycle, and why it is so important to make sure that self-care is a priority.  Some things they talked about that you might not be aware of are: The best time to go to the gym is while you are on your period Planning is the bridge between productivity and self-care The more you sync your self-care with your cycle, the more energy you will have. The mastermind is sharing things that have worked for them and the research they have each personally done, but remember they are not doctors.  *Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. You'll learn: [03:02] Natalie shares what she wants to mastermind today. [04:49] Eric asks Natalie about any medication she is taking. [07:46] Natalie discusses amping up the dosages on her ADHD meds around her cycle. [10:58] Eric opens up the floor for the others to ask some questions. [11:27] Natalie shares that on her worst days, she will stand and stare at a wall or stay in the show much longer, more irritable, etc. [13:31] Moira talks about having two different doses of her medications during the month to regulate her cycle. [14:53] Jessica has a couple of questions, and then some strategies that might help. [17:39] The best time to hit the gym is when you are on your period, which is when your hormones are most similar to males. [20:36] Do you try to structure your life around your cycle? [26:08] Jessica shares that another piece of the puzzle is that with hormonal changes comes a different type of strength in your business. [29:02] Natalie believes that she worked better in high school when she was on her period, but it doesn't feel that way now. [32:07] Natalie talks about estrogen and progesterone and wants to know if there is a substitute for them instead of birth control. [34:22] What are the things that feel hard to do when you are on your cycle? [37:41] Natalie shares her planner and is trying to figure out how to get all the strategies in her planner. [40:25] The ladies share what their planners look like. [45:00] Planning is the bridge between productivity and self-care. [46:00] Natalie speaks about where her self-care is lacking and what she needs to do to make it better. [49:19] The more you sync your self-care and cycle, the more energy you have. [51:55] Natalie talks about when she numbs more with things like video games. [53:39] Eric speaks about some relationship between her skin issue and Wellbutrin. [55:10] Eric shares how important it is to have windows where you work. [55:39] Natalie, what commitments do you want to make right now? [57:12] They all discuss using sticky notes to organize Natalie's planner. [1:00:29] Thank you for being on the show! [1:01:13] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Links and Resources:   - Stasha Washburn Find Natalie: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 29, 2020
355 | Pole-Vaulting Over Mouse Turds with Seth Perler
01:04:27
"We have narratives and stories that keep us resistant." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Seth Perler discuss why he started helping kids, his bout with SARS, mindfulness and the nervous system, resistance and risk tolerance, plus much more on this episode of . Seth is an Executive Function Coach, educator, vlogger, and guy who cares about seeing outside the box kids succeed. He has ADHD and has used his experience to build a successful business helping students who struggle with homework, grades, procrastination, overwhelm, underachievement, time-management, and motivation, which are all related to "Executive Function."  Listen as Seth shares his background, becoming a teacher, and the struggles he faced as a teacher with ADHD. Seth discusses having SARS in 2000 and how that experience gave him insights into how the brain works that helps him today when he works with kids. Seth also talks about meditation and how it can open up things in your mind that you didn't know were holding you back. Seth talks about becoming an entrepreneur, not having a plan, just leaping, and figuring it out as he went along. He says that he was scared, but he didn't let it stop him because it wasn't about him; it was about helping other people. Seth says that if you are stuck, don't let it derail what you want to do because if he could do it, so can you. You'll learn: [02:22] Welcome to the show, Seth! [03:02] Seth shares his background and how it all started. [06:00] Seth discusses failing in college and how it made him feel. [07:44] Seth speaks about the struggles he had as a teacher. [10:40] Eric chats about a common trait he sees in the ADHD community. [12:13] Seth talks about how he felt as a kid that was misunderstood and not getting any help from his teachers. [14:55] Seth discusses having to do an ADHD scale for one of his students and noticing that the questions explained a lot about himself. [19:47] Seth speaks about having SARS in 2000 and how it helps him today when working with kids. [21:18] Seth explains the trauma that he endured and how it affected him. [24:17] He shares how his brain would create narratives that were blown out of proportion when he was in situations when he couldn't breathe. [26:52] Seth believes we have to look at the story, the narrative, and the nervous system and work with those things to learn how not to be ruled by either of them. [28:35] Eric says that the picture for many people with ADHD is stronger emotions and the importance of identifying them. [30:39] Seth discusses a ten-day silent meditation retreat he did and what it entailed. [32:50] One of the biggest excuses people with ADHD use for not meditating is that I can't stop thinking, how can I meditate? [34:43] Seth talks about what comes to mind when he is meditating, and instead of being judgemental, you just let it play itself out. [37:02] Seth discusses being suicidal from the age of 12 to about 22. [38:34] Seth believes that the wounded healers are teaching what they needed to learn. [44:16] Listen as Seth discusses working with resistant children. [46:08] If you have ADHD and are an entrepreneur or want to be, you can do it. [47:59] Risk tolerance means you are not afraid to fail. [49:35] Seth tells people if you want to do something, leap and then figure it out. [50:34] Eric shares that he laid down the tracks in every part of his business as the train was coming. I planned nothing. [52:57] Eric talks about the first webinar he gave on technology. [55:00] If you are stuck, don't let that rule you. [57:01] Seth says the first thing he did was take a journal and made a vision journal. [59:04] Seth says there is nothing wrong with helping people and charging for it. [59:31] Thank you for being on the show! [1:00:13] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Connect with Seth: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 22, 2020
354 | How To Ask For What You Need with Jessica McLaren
01:00:45
"The hardest word to hear is practice." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers and his guest Jessica McLaren discuss being diagnosed with ADHD along with learning disabilities, the embarrassment she experienced, and the man in the wheelchair that changed her mindset about learning disabilities, plus much more on this episode of . Jessica is a twenty-seven-year-old with learning disabilities, ADHD and has earned her Master's degree from Columbia University in social work. She is an active advocate for individuals with ADHD and learning disabilities. Jessica actively takes her own experiences as an individual with learning disabilities and ADHD to others; she wants others with the same issues to learn from her experiences to understand themselves better and be better advocates. Listen as Jessica discusses how her diagnosis turned her world upside down and how she self-advocated in college to make getting her degree more attainable. Jessica shares some stories on how self-advocacy worked and some stories about how it backfired. Jessica talks about the questions she asks during interviews to determine whether working there is a good fit for her, she shares how she gets her paperwork done and the reward system she created for herself. Jessica also discusses what people in the workforce need to keep in mind when self-advocating and remembering that part of self-advocacy is self-awareness. You'll learn: [02:34] Welcome to the show, Jessica! [03:04] Jessica shares what caused her to be diagnosed and turn her world upside down. [04:37] Jessica speaks about having trouble accepting the diagnosis and why she was embarrassed. [06:14] Jessica discusses who she calls the man in the wheelchair and how he changed her mindset. [09:05] How was college for you? [10:38] Eric and Jessica talk about reading with their ears. [12:45] Jessica shares what self-advocacy looked like for her in college. [20:02] Jessica shares some stories on how self-advocacy helped her help others. [22:58] Have you had any experiences where you tried self-advocacy that backfired on you? [26:20] Jessica has noticed that people who are overachievers are usually trying to hide something. [28:00] Jessica speaks about what she has done to find a boss that really works for her. [30:44] Jessica shares some questions she asks in interviews to determine if the job is a good fit for her. [33:38] Jessica discusses how she gets her paperwork done and the reward system she has come up with for herself. [36:53] Jessica talks about educating people on taking notes, and how they should be done, how they work best for you. [41:45] Jessica shares how long she has been a co-leader for . [42:04] What was it like speaking at the ? [45:04] Jessica speaks about what self-advocacy isn't. [47:52] What do people in the workforce need to keep in mind when self-advocating? [51:23] Part of self-advocacy really begins with self-awareness. [53:17] What are you practicing right now for yourself? [54:15] Jessica shares something she is really proud that she has done lately. [55:48] Thank you so much for being on the show! [56:32] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Connect with Jessica McLaren Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 15, 2020
353 | November 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb, Moira Maybin and MJ Siemens
01:15:24
Does daylight changing time affect your motivation? Listen as with his guests, , , Moira Maybin, and MJ Siemens, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our first question is from a listener who is wondering why he is having trouble with motivation and if it could be from his medication. Noel asks the panel how effective they feel medications are along with anxiety when functioning day-to-day, and Lauren wants to know how to avoid feeling overwhelmed when buying or researching large purchases. Alison asks for tips on how to avoid getting stuck in long waiting periods. Autumn is creating a support group for children and trying to get parents involved. Erin would like to know where to go for resources for spouses and family members that are neurotypical. Margaret hasn't been diagnosed with ADHD but has struggled with the symptoms her entire life and is looking for some direction, while Brandon is looking for a place to start on his journey for a diagnosis. The last question comes from a listener who wants to know how to get organized and maintain it.  In this final Q&A of 2020, as always, we always cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD, and get ready for more in 2021. *Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. Your Resources: You'll learn: [04:05] Our first guest asks if his lack of motivation is from having a bad week or that his meds need to be adjusted. [06:52] Eric asks if it could be from daylight changing time because that affects him every time. [10:01] Moira shares her insight into different stimulant medications. [12:45] Remember, medication's goal is to get the benefits to outweigh the side effects. [13:24] Noel wants to know how effective you feel medications are along with anxiety to be able to function day-to-day. [14:17] MJ speaks about her experience with medications. [15:54] Brendan believes that when he takes medication, it makes everything easier. [18:29] Water and sleep will make your medication work better. [24:33] Lauren wants to know how to avoid overwhelm when shopping and researching big purchases. [24:58] Eric says, spreadsheets! [25:31] Moira shares what she does to avoid overwhelm. [30:12] MJ says that repeat purchases are the easiest for her. [33:12] Alison needs ways to manage or avoid getting stuck in waiting periods. [33:38] Brendan discusses having the same issues and not doing anything except what he was waiting to do. [35:20] MJ shares what she does when she has a long waiting period. [41:06] Autumn would like some tips on encouraging parents to get involved with a support group for their kids. [42:23] Eric discusses some places she can go for information on support groups. [42:55] Brendan talks about some other places she can network with. [44:11] Erin would like to find some resources for spouses and family members that are neurotypical. [45:35] Will recommends some kids' books because they are good primers. [46:37] Margaret has a question about her struggles in life even without an ADHD diagnosis. [48:22] Eric says to always talk to someone specializing in ADHD for the most accurate diagnosis. [48:31] Moira shares some stuff she has come across around women and how they are diagnosed. [49:52] Brandon is looking for a place to get a diagnosis because his friends think he has it. [50:32] Will says that when you have ADHD, there is a mirroring effect, and you can see ADHD in others. [52:26] Tess wants recommendations on how to manage RSD. [53:55] MJ adds some interesting things she has heard at CHAD. [55:06] Eric shares that RSD can look a lot like PTSD. [56:29] Brendan shares some practical tips that help him. [59:18] Eric says just because we feel it doesn't mean it's true. [59:55] A listener wants to know to organize everything to have a place and then maintain it. [1:00:34] Eric shares that it's a constant process. [1:01:24] Brendan says to buy duplicates intentionally. [1:02:26] Will believes we are not organized because we have too much stuff. [1:04:28] Everyone shares how they will wrap up in 2020 and get ready for 2021. [1:07:00] Brendan says that to come up with adventures to get you and your kids outside before it gets too cold to get out. [1:10:30] Thank you for listening! [1:11:12] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Links and Resources Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 08, 2020
352 | The Beginning of An ADHD Journey with Natasha Hickling
01:00:11
"Have you ever needed someone to talk and discuss some strategies for handling things around your ADHD? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Natasha Hickling discuss the beginning of her ADHD journey and the small online support group she has started, plus much more on this episode of . Natasha is a twenty-eight-year-old primary school teacher from the U.K. For the last four years, she has traveled around the world working in Australia, China, and is now in Malaysia. Besides being a trained primary school teacher, she is also a SENCO; a Special Education Needs Coordinator at a school in Kuala Lumpur.   Listen as Natasha discusses the challenges she faced in school and how she felt like she was two different people, the person she was at home vs. the person she became at school. Natasha also shares her experience running a marathon in her apartment during the pandemic quarantine and why she felt she needed to do it. Additionally, Natasha shares what led to her getting the formal diagnosis of ADHD eight months ago and the strategies she found that helped her through her post-grad years. Natasha speaks about the online community she created and why she felt it was so important to be able to talk about ADHD with people like herself. Natasha is a unique individual, and what she has gone through in her life will probably resonate with many of you, so definitely listen to the conversation. You'll learn: [03:12] Welcome to the show, Natasha! [03:23] Natasha was diagnosed with ADHD about eight months ago. [04:27] Natasha shares her life growing up and how academics got harder the older she got. [06:37] She discusses being two people, the person she was at home and the person she became at school under peer pressure. [09:00] Natasha speaks about running a marathon while she was in quarantine in Malaysia for charity. [12:13] Natasha discusses the book her sister would read to her when she was fourteen about children that were different called . [15:08] Realizing that there were children like her was very powerful to her. [23:19] After being diagnosed with OCD and Anxiety and getting a deeper understanding of yourself, what did you do next? [26:25] Natasha shares what CBT was like for her. [27:09] Eric describes what exposure and response prevention, CBT based therapy is. [29:20] Natasha discusses what led to getting the formal ADHD diagnosis. [32:15] She shares how hard school was, how getting into the vocational core helped her. [38:15] Once you found out you had dyslexia, what did you do? [39:10] Natasha shares how dyslexia shows up for her. [40:15] Natasha speaks about what dyspraxia is. [42:46] She discusses some strategies she found helpful to get her through post-grad. [45:58] What do you do now for self-soothing? [47:12] Eric shares what can help if you are an inconsistent mediator. [48:55] Natasha speaks about the online community she started. [50:33] What has surprised you about organizing something like this? [54:42] Natasha shares some final words with the listeners. [55:06] Natasha, thank you so much for sharing your story. [55:58] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 01, 2020
351 | Mastermind Session: Moira in The Hot Seat Part 2
43:40
We are back with part 2 of the first mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Natalie with Moira in the hot seat, continuing the discussion around rethinking her professional world and much more on this episode of . Eric and the mastermind continue the conversation around the podcast Moira would want to put out and whether she wants to do it independently or be under the ADHD reWired umbrella. They talk about what she feels her biggest weakness would be and how close she is to gather the information around her vision. Listen as Eric discusses the equipment and software she needs for the podcast and the best location to record with the best acoustics. They talk about where to research, how to podcast, who to listen to, and where to learn about editing and podcasting. The team finishes up with some words of encouragement and tells her to set a goal for when she wants to go live with her first episode and work towards that goal. We hope you found something you can take away from this mastermind session. Whatever the idea you have, we know that as people with ADHD; we have a lot of really big ideas, and we tend to be the ones who are crazy enough to think that we can do it. It always starts by figuring out what that first step is. You don't need to know all the steps; just start with the first thing and follow your passion. You'll learn: [02:16] Eric shares the things Moira would need if she wanted to podcast. [03:44] Would you want to do your own thing or do your own thing under the ADHD reWired umbrella? [04:35] Moira speaks about the time it would take to quit her job and start her new career. [06:08] What do you think your bandwidth would be? How much time could you spend? [09:07] Moira discusses being in Canada and what that would like with people in the U.S. when it comes to rates. [11:13] Eric shares what he is looking for when bringing in coaches. [12:51] People with mental health challenges and knowing how to handle them are where Moira feels her weakness. [15:10] There are many books and research out there around coaching and mental health issues. [18:34] Moira is a very visual person and has gathered a lot of information about making the change and getting a vision. [20:01] Jessica will send a form to Moira to help her get everything she needs to get her brand ready. [22:01] When would you like your first episode of the podcast air? [25:50] Moira says she might be able to air her first episode by the end of the year. [28:00] If you were to launch your podcast in the first week of January, what would you need to do this week? [30:40] Eric talks about doing a podcast on the cheap to start and what equipment she needs. [33:16] Eric lets her know she will need to learn how to edit and some suggestions on who to listen to. [35:45] Jessica and Natalie give her some words of encouragement. [37:31] Thank you for listening to part 2 of this mastermind session. [39:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Nov 25, 2020
350 | Mastermind Session: Moira in The Hot Seat Part 1
01:04:07
"I have always gravitated to children with ADHD, and I couldn't understand why other adults couldn't understand them. I thought I was an Empath; turns out I was just one of them." Listen to this first mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Natalie with Moira in the hot seat with questions about rethinking her professional world and much more on this episode of . Moira discusses changing how she works and focusing more on helping women with ADHD as opposed to working with children. Moira talks about coaching, heading groups, speaking, and possibly doing a podcast focusing on women with ADHD, but her narrow focus would be on moms with ADHD. Natalie and Jessica share their insights into what they are hearing and ask some thought-provoking questions. Eric discusses wanting to grow ADHD reWired to more than just himself and centered around community and asked Moira what platform she would pick to get her message across and about the logistics of making it work financially. There is much more to this conversation, so part 2 will be in your feed tomorrow.   You'll learn: [03:21] Eric has the mastermind voices share who they are and when they started as Addmin. [05:10] Moira shares an overview of what it is she wants to mastermind. [07:13] Roxie, Natalie, and Jessica ask Moira more questions for clarification. [08:40] Moira describes what she means by a dimmer switch. [11:13] If you change the context of work, how is everything else going to change? [13:57] Eric describes how he sees hyper-focus. [15:40] Moira wants to reconcile her direction. [18:05] Roxie wants to know what she wants to focus on. [25:32] Moira says that if she could do what she wants to do, it would be to coach and have a bigger voice. [27:38] If you could work on ADHD reWired, what would you want to do? [30:34] Moira would want her narrow focus to be moms with ADHD. [32:29] Natalie shares her thoughts. [35:13] Eric discusses niche's and your avatar. [38:13] Moira speaks about putting herself out there to help people and the value it brings. [40:43] Jessica shares her insights on what Moira is looking for. [41:26] Jessica asks what fears and roadblocks are holding Moira back. [44:03] If you were doing something you wanted to do, would you be able to keep yourself to part-time hours? [48:22] Listen as they discuss the logistics Moira needs to figure out to quit her teaching job. [51:23] She needs to have something that grows and changes, so she doesn't get bored. [53:40] Eric wants to grow ADHD reWired to be more than just him centered around a community. [55:23] If you were to pick a platform to get your voice out there, what would it be? [58:50] Tomorrow, on your podcast feed, you will see part 2 of this conversation. [59:55] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Nov 24, 2020
349 | The Fidgety Entrepreneur with Jason Burns From Fidgetland
01:01:21
"Have you been told that your ADHD is so severe that it limits your education and career choices? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Jason Burns discuss giving up his career in the entertainment industry to start his own company plus much more on this episode of . Jason is an entrepreneur, public speaker, and former entertainment executive. He's the President and CEO of the company , a company he started to help fellow ADHDers and others to benefit from fidgeting. You may also have seen Jason, also known as the fidget man, on ABC's The , where he scored a deal with Barbara Corcoran.  Jason discusses how he came up with the fidget idea, his online sales, getting a deal on Shark Tank in 2015, and the challenges of marketing something designed to be discreet. If you listen all the way through, you will receive a code to get 20% off your purchase at Fidgetland.com. Listen, as Jason speaks about being told that his ADHD was so severe that he'd never be able to have a career where education was needed, how medication changed his life, and how ADHD awareness has changed since he was diagnosed over thirty years ago. He now speaks at schools to educate students on how fidgets helped him focus and his journey with ADHD. Jason shares some stories of working with people like Adam Sandler, Kevin Hart, and Stan Lee. He also tells us he went to high school with Joel McHale, and they have worked together on a couple of projects. Jason says that he doesn't miss working with the stars and the agent side, but he enjoyed making things and the business's content side. You'll learn: [02:54] Welcome to the show, Jason! [04:29] Jason shares how his fidget business got started. [06:43] Jason describes his fidget design for the listeners. [08:39] Listen, as Jason speaks about dropping his prototype and a co-worker picking it up and loving it immediately. [11:14] Jason talks about the online sales and then in 2015 going on Shark Tank. [13:30] They discuss the challenges of marketing his fidget. [21:45] Jason speaks about his educational journey and the challenges he faced. [24:54] Jason shares his struggles with ADHD in his business and life. [28:44] Listen, as Jason talks about having your own company and dealing with business and ADHD things. [30:05] Jason discusses what he did in the entertainment industry. [31:45] He believes that being an entrepreneur is lonely. [35:35] Eric says as an entrepreneur, it's important to do everything you can to have the maximum time in your area of strength. [35:57] Jason shares that his brain is always telling him he can do something better, and it can be paralyzing. [42:34] Jason discusses talking to schools about fidgeting and ADHD. [44:10] they diagnosed him with ADHD thirty years ago, and he used to think it was just about medical management. [46:26] Jason shares working with Adam Sandler, Kevin Hart, Stan Lee, and Joel McHale. [49:10] He speaks about Adam Sandler being laser-focused and very detail-oriented. [50:40] Do you miss working and being around the stars? [52:22] Jason discusses a subscription model he wanted to implement, but the response wasn't favorable. [54:05] Jason gives a discount code for the listeners to purchase a fidget. [56:16] Thank you for being on the show! [57:08] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at ** coupon code ADHD reWired for 20% off your purchase** Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Nov 17, 2020
348 | October 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb and Moira Maybin
01:08:10
"Anything you can move to the night before, move to the night before and make it part of your wind-down ritual." Listen as with his guests, , , and Moira Maybin, answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  John starts the questions about how to know if he is in the right career for him, and Susan wants suggestions for adjusting her mental model of herself since being diagnosed with ADHD and taking meds. Katherine wants to know what Moira's new podcast is about, so Moira shares her background, her ideas for the podcast, and why she created it. Christina wants suggestions on dealing with significant stress and keeping her emotions out of it. Ella needs ideas on keeping her on track with her daily routines and how to keep from getting sidetracked. Another listener has a 10-year-old with ADHD and oppositional defiance. She needs some guidance on what to do since she hasn't been able to get anyone to see her child because of the pandemic. The last question today is from Rock. He wants guidance on how an ADHD parent can emotionally navigate the very pronounced ADHD symptoms presenting itself in his youngest child? Do any of these questions resonate with you? Were they helpful? We do this every month, so join us here next month for another episode of ADHD reWired Q & A. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll learn: [01:36] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and Moira Maybin. [02:22] John starts by asking a question about not fitting in and wondering if he is in the right career for him. [03:54] Eric wants to know what challenges he has faced so far in his work experiences. [05:47] John shares that he could play all day in the google playground if he didn't have any restrictions. [09:11] Brendan gives his insights into John's questions. [11:31] Moira asks John if changing teams is a bad thing in the software engineering industry. [13:28] Eric suggests that there are a lot of assumptions in John's perspective. [15:03] Susan wants to get suggestions for adjusting the mental model of herself since taking medicine for her ADHD. [15:41] Eric believes the first step is acceptance. [16:23] Will adds that it takes a long time for your brain to accept a new reality. [17:20] Moira shares a couple of things she noticed when she started taking meds. [19:45] Eric encourages her to leave breadcrumbs to lead her back to the project she is working on. [20:37] Brendan believes that stopping when doing a project is a skill you have to train yourself in. [23:08] Eric says that one strategy is to drink water, which is the brain's oil. [25:12] Kathrine asks Moira what her podcast is about. [25:48] It will be about trying differently instead of harder in creating an ADHD lifestyle. [26:32] Moira shares her background and what she does now. [27:55] Christina asks how to deal with a significant amount of stress while keeping her emotions intact. [28:30] Eric has some questions about the dosage of medicine she is on. [29:44] Eric believes that if he doesn't exercise every morning, he feels stress and can't keep his emotions checked. [30:06] Brendan discusses asthma and how that can make him anxious. [31:00] Moira agrees with Brendan and adds that coffee can add to anxiety too. [32:08] Will says to stop doom scrolling because it raises your anxiety. [40:11] Ella knows what she needs to do, but it never seems to happen. [41:00] ADHD is the disorder of good intentions, and it's not odd to have trouble starting something that needs to be done. [42:06] Eric wants to know what other stuff is going on in her mind when she doesn't do what she needs to do. [42:48] Moira addresses her puttering and losing focus. [45:11] Eric asks her what the first thing she sees when she gets out of bed each morning. [47:11] Will shares his insight into cleaning up the night before. [50:03] Brendan shares how dopamine is part of the problem. [51:26] Eric talks about doing a dopamenu. [52:49] Brendan shares where to get a 10-year-old treated for ADHD and oppositional defiance. [55:13] Eric says to focus on the relationship with your child. [57:59] Moira believes it's important to take care of the parent who also has ADHD. [59:23] Rock wants to know how to guide an ADHD parent to emotionally navigate the very pronounced ADHD symptoms presenting itself in his youngest child? [1:00:07] Brendan says to hang out with your kids more; some of the issues is your kid needing connection. [1:03:12] Thank you for listening! [1:03:59] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Links and Resources Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Nov 10, 2020
347 | Abi Dube´ - Fighting To Focus
01:02:17
"All of those people trying to work hard to take these behaviors away when it's already a part of you makes you internalize it and feel more shame than necessary." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Abigail Dube talk about her waiting for a diagnosis because of COVID, the pain of hiding the challenges she's had, and not living up to her parents' expectations, plus much more on this episode of . Abi is the owner of a small corporation and is also training for her first amateur fight. She has been boxing for almost two years and shares that she got into boxing because it called to her, and enjoys the challenge. Because of COVID, her event business has slowed to nothing, and she is hoping to branch out into content creation soon on a new podcast she and a friend are launching. Listen, as Abi shares how it felt when she realized she probably had ADHD, how it explained so much about her childhood, and the challenges she had in school. Abi discusses the job she held after college and why she felt like she was going to be fired. Abi speaks about her event business, boxing, and why she wants to launch a podcast. Once Abi started researching ADHD and recognized herself in everything she read, she wanted to cry and ask why no one took the time to figure this out when she was younger. School, college, and life would have made more sense if she knew why she was so different from everyone else. Does Abi's story resonate with you? Listen to find out more about Abi Dube' You'll learn: [02:01] Welcome to the show, Abi! [04:04] Abi shares how long she has been boxing and why she got into it. [06:20] Abi tells a story of when she was in first grade and was sent to the principal's office. [09:20] She has fidgeted and had issues in school since elementary school. [12:07] Abi shares some ways her father talked to her and reprimanded her about everything. [13:45] "Masquerading as normal is exhausting." [16:04] Abi discusses going to college in Canada, which is like a trade school in the U.S., and knew she needed something hands-on, so she chose Film/TV. [22:46] Abi speaks about the job she got out of college, and feeling like her life wasn't where it needed to be. [25:37] She constantly felt guilty because she didn't always function the way she should, so she quit her job and did contract work in event planning. [27:23] Abi shares that she started feeling like she had ADHD during COVID while searching on google. [29:20] How did you feel once you figured out that you probably had undiagnosed ADHD your entire life? [30:59] Abi discusses how her mom reacted to the news. [33:48] Abi asks, why wasn't I worthwhile enough or important enough for someone to recognize ADHD in her? [35:01] Eric shares some things that can be helpful when you hear the itty bitty shitty committee tell you you suck. [45:51] What does your brain feel like when you are in the boxing ring? [48:47] Abi speaks about her fear of driving, and long it took to get her license. [51:20] Abi discusses the podcast she is launching and what they will showcase on the show. [54:40] Eric and Abi share that paperwork and laundry are things they are allergic to. [57:05] "Don't feel ashamed and don't feel you have to fit into other people's expectations" are words that Abigail wants to leave the listeners with. [58:06] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Nov 03, 2020
346 | Mastermind Session - Routines with Jessica
01:10:49
Does your brain make things more difficult than they need to be? Listen to this mastermind episode with Eric, Natalie, Blake, Erika with Jessica in the hot seat. Jessica has difficulties juggling the important things in her life. She needs help with making a routine around exercise and meditation without being overly detailed about it, and much more on this episode of . Jessica discusses her OCD and that she would like to be able to implement a routine without going overboard with details. She shares that she is using project management software, and it's helping as long as she has everything synced and can see what needs to get done, but she hasn’t been putting exercise and meditation on her calendar. Eric shares ways that Jessica can exercise with her injured foot and have everything ready to take outside, so no distractions are pulling her away from exercising. Blake, Natalie, and Erika give their insights into ways to transition from the house to the pool and back to the house easier so that Jessica isn't pulled away to another task. Routines are difficult to build, and they take time, but if you slowly begin doing the same thing every day, you will gradually build a routine one brick at a time. They also discuss Jessica's hypervigilance, how she notices when she is being sucked into it, and how to get out of it once she is in it. If you can relate to what Jessica is going through, you don't want to miss this discussion. You'll learn: [02:31] Jessica shares what she needs the mastermind's support for today. [04:28] She wants some way to implement a routine without being overly detailed about it. [05:41] When you are getting into the OCD mode, do you see yourself getting sucked in? [07:26] Jessica used project management software that allows her to see what needs to be done. [09:07] She has an injury that doesn't allow her to exercise the way she wants to. [12:00] Eric and Jessica discuss ways that she can exercise in her pool. [14:54] Eric speaks to Jessica about making things easier by having everything ready, so there are no distractions when going to exercise. [22:08] Put swimming on the calendar and making things as easy as possible is the first domino Jessica is trying to put into place. [22:25] Taking a shower is the second domino. [24:44] What are your hardest transitions? [26:47] Natalie gives some suggestions about making the pool transition easier. [29:07] Natalie speaks about making sure what she is carrying isn't too heavy. [31:41] Blake gives his insights into Jessica writing down her routines. [34:05] Erika discusses changing routines and how difficult they are for Jessica. [36:48] Jessica gives the energy pull that keeps her from her routines a name. [37:58] Routines are built like the bricks of a building, one brick at a time. [41:55] How sensitive are you to your environment? [42:50] Erika discusses how perfect Jessica is for her business. [45:03] Jessica talks about her meditation room being upstairs now, instead of being downstairs like it usually is and why. [48:00] Blake asks Jessica a question about putting down a sword. [50:49] Erika shares her insights into what Jessica is talking about. [53:58] Are you stuck in a state of hypervigilance? [56:22] Eric wants to know how to make Jessica aware of her hypervigilance. [59:14] Jessica talks about the feeling she gets before she gets into her zone of brilliance. [1:02:01] How do you complicate simplicity? [1:03:11] Jessica speaks about what she is taking away from this discussion. [1:05:50] Thank you all for being on the show! [1:06:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .      
Oct 27, 2020
345 | Mastermind Session: Sticking To The Plan with Erika
01:08:16
What role does your schedule play in your effort to get things done? Listen to this mastermind episode with Eric, Jessica, Natalie, Blake, and Erika in the hot seat. Erika needs help with actually looking at and following the schedule she makes for herself on this episode of .   Erika discusses taking the time to put everything on her schedule, but her resistance is to look at it. They talk about how the pandemic has eroded everyone's schedule and the difficulty they have had trying to get back on it. Blake speaks about how to balance event reminders on google calendars, and Jessica digs deeper into Erika's resistance to her schedule.   Eric shares how difficult it is to stop one task to move onto another task, Blake talks about chaotic situations, and Natalie speaks about Erika's goal for the year of becoming a functional adult. Doing multiple tasks is difficult, but doing one thing really well is something that people with ADHD excel at.   Eric believes that Erika should schedule her number one priority first because the later in the day you get, the less stuff on the calendar will get completed. Erika shares that she feels like her schedule is a punisher, not a partner and Jessica asks if she could look at her calendar as more of an assistant than a dictator.   Between Eric, Natalie, Jessica, and Blake, Erika feels like they have given her some great insights and will try to implement the things they have suggested. She doesn't know if she will ever be friends with her schedule, but she will try to let it assist her in her daily tasks.    You'll learn: [03:07] Erika shares what she needs the mastermind's support for today. [04:27] Eric asks Erika to describe her relationship with schedules. [05:38] When you schedule your day, how much stuff do you put on it? [06:30] Eric shares his thoughts on what Erika is putting on her schedule. [08:41] Jessica gives Erika her insights. [11:50] Erika discusses how the pandemic eroded her routine. [13:42] Eric wants to know what kinds of technology Erika has available where she is working. [15:58] What are your default settings on your calendar for reminders? [17:02] Blake speaks about how to balance event reminders on google calendar. [24:50] Jessica talks about Erika's resistance to looking at her schedule. [26:52] Eric discusses wrapping up the current task before starting a new one. [29:59] Blake shares how hard it is to handle a chaotic situation. [31:29] Natalie speaks about resentment. [33:24] Natalie talks about Erika's goal for the year of becoming a functional adult. [35:46] Eric believes we can do one thing really well, but when you add things, it all goes to hell. [36:58] Schedule your number one priority first for the day. [43:22] Erika feels like her schedule is a punisher, not a partner. [45:00] Jessica wants to know if Erika can look at her schedule like an assistant instead of a dictator. [49:32] Blake shares his insights into Erika's questions. [52:38] Eric discusses what he does when he feels resistance to following his calendar. [53:29] Jessica speaks about how she handles her calendar. [55:11] Natalie shares how she punished and bullied herself around getting things done. [58:27] Let your calendar be the reflection of the life you want. [1:00:14] Erika shares her takeaway from today's mastermind. [1:03:27] Thank you for listening! [104:03] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 20, 2020
344 | September 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan
01:12:54
"Rather than looking at a job as just a paycheck, look at it in terms of the skills it's teaching you." Listen as with his guest, , answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Ben starts off the questions with one about strategies to keep the novelty of a new job from wearing off. Another question is about how to keep from losing motivation and productivity at work, and Ella has a question for Brendan about the wall of awful; she wants to know how to find the door. Another listener wants to know where to look for a career counselor for someone with ADHD, and Richard wants to know how to become good at being a morning person. Listen as Eric and Brendan coach Bri on how to keep her new job when she has been fired from so many, Shalene has a question about knowing she has ADHD but not having been diagnosed, and the best way to find a provider. Zora would like to know how to motivate herself to exercise at home. To finish this episode, a listener asks some questions around her ADHD meds, raising her blood pressure, and what she can do about it. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll learn: [01:57] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Brendan Mahan. [02:49] Eric shares a crazy dream he had last night. [03:48] Brendan interprets Eric's dream. [05:22] Ben has a question about strategy when the novelty wears off of his new job. [06:36] Eric addresses this question with some strategies he can use. [08:16] Brendan says to connect with people who are doing what he is doing to have someone to talk to for motivation. [11:18] The next question is about losing motivation and productivity at work. [11:18] Brendan speaks about some things that have worked for him. [12:47] Eric discusses how he deals with this issue. [15:40] Brendan talks about how he plans his week. [16:47] Ella has a question around the wall of awful; she wants to find the door out. [17:27] Brendan describes the wall of awful and how to get past it. [20:27] Ella walks through a scenario so that the guys can help her find the door. [27:13] Are there many career counselors for people with ADHD? [27:23] Eric refers them to his friend that is a career counselor and gives a shout out. [28:25] Richards asks what good ways to want to become a morning person are. [28:34] Brendan says to get a dog because then you are forced to get up. [29:02] Eric gives his thoughts to Richard. [31:24] Bri has a question about a new job and how to stop her fear of losing the job. [33:06] Eric speaks about having 21 jobs before he was 21 and shares his insights. [34:38] Bri shares that she was recently diagnosed with ADHD and had a visual disability. [36:14] Brendan jumps in to help Bri like her job. [37:59] "Rather than looking at a job as just a paycheck, look at it in terms of the skills it's teaching you." [41:36] Eric shares about a book he has read recently. [46:01] Eric tells Bri to have an open discussion with her boss about her inability to be on time. [48:03] In ADHD and life, keep trying things. [51:30] Shalene wants suggestions for people who know they have ADHD but have never been officially diagnosed. [52:12] Brendan breaks the question down for Shalene. [53:21] Eric speaks about how to find a provider to diagnose her ADHD. [55:25] If ADHD is one of like ten specialties, they don't specialize in ADHD. [55:34] Zora asks how to motivate herself, to work out at home and how boring it is to be stuck at home. [55:51] Brendan says to buy a sandbag and explains why. [56:44] Eric talks about joining the Peloton movement. [58:30] Hunter asks for recent bio hacks/exercise routines/that you have been experimenting with? [59:18] Brendan shares his Monkii Ball and what he uses it for. [1:01:57] A listener is having issues with their ADHD meds that are increasing their blood pressure. [1:02:44] Eric discusses some things the listener can do number one is talking to your doctor. [1:03:22] What is a positive and healthy way to include our significant others in our short- and long-term planning when they have an aversion to planning? [1:03:31] Brendan says to talk to them in advance and ask them what they want to be included in. [1:04:45] Matthew has a habit of buying things off Amazon and has issues returning the items. [1:05:10] Eric gives his tips for returning items. [1:06:26] Brendan shares that he has trained himself to stop and wait until the next day and see if he still wants it. [1:07:23] Thank you, Brendon, for being on the show! [1:08:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 13, 2020
343 | The ADHD Artist - Sarah Gise
01:01:22
"Being in the Arts as an ADHD person, I need something that engages me; it is what makes me feel alive." Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Sarah Gise discuss being an artist with ADHD, how she stays focused, and the stigma around ADHD in the creative profession plus much more on this episode of . Sarah is an actor, teacher, artist, director, and audiobook narrator who grew up in San Antonio, TX, but moved in 2013 to Chicago. She holds a BFA in acting from the University of Southern California and, in 2013, received the LA Weekly Best Actress Award for her performance in the . Sarah also has a podcast called . Sarah discusses the inspiration behind starting the podcast, the focus she finds when performing, but how distracted she can get during rehearsals and auditions. Sarah believes that Mindfulness meditation saved her life and career, and she shares the time she went blank on stage during a performance. Listen, as Sarah speaks about the theatre company she is a part of, the raw, relevant, and rare productions they do and the most memorable performance she had done with the company. Sarah also talks about how she keeps performances interesting and exciting when doing the same show repeatedly. Sarah says that she is in mourning because of the theatres being shut down and what she has been doing to keep her creative juices flowing and her mental health healthy. Are you an artistic person? Listen and see if you can relate to the things that Sarah has gone through. You'll learn: [03:19] Welcome to the show, Sarah! [04:17] Sarah shares what she remembers about growing up with ADHD. [07:04] How did your family react when you were diagnosed with ADHD? [07:55] Listen, as Sarah discusses performing in a performance group since she was about eight and her love of dancing and singing and art. [09:57] Eric shares that the idea of going to school for music was something he didn't get to do. [12:20] How hard is it to be in the arts as an ADHD person? [15:15] Sarah speaks about the culture shock she had when she moved to Chicago and went to college. [17:01] Sarah discusses how Adderall messed her up when she first started college. [24:41] Listen as Sarah speaks about the stigma around ADHD in the creative profession. [27:46] Sarah shares the inspiration behind starting the podcast. [29:28] When Sarah is performing, she rarely loses focus because she is so immersed, but she gets distracted in auditions and rehearsals. [31:19] Mindfulness meditation saved her life and career. [33:37] Have you ever been performing on stage and blanked? [38:04] Sarah describes the that she is a part of. [40:45] Sarah talks about the projects that Interrobang produces, which are always raw, relevant, and rare. [42:04] What is the most moving or memorable performance that you have done with this company? [43:45] Sarah shares how they keep it interesting and exciting when you do the same show over and over, sometimes twice a day. [45:30] What are you and the theatre community doing during the pandemic closures? [47:18] Eric and Sarah discuss what major key points that she would want in a show about The ADHD Artist. [50:18] Sarah speaks about what she is doing during the shutdown to keep her creative juices flowing and her mental health healthy. [52:49] Eric talks about recently discovering that he can draw; he didn't know he could do it. [54:48] Sarah shares some final thoughts with the listeners. [55:58] Thank you so much for being on the show! [57:09] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Sarah: @theadhdartistpod |   Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 06, 2020
342 | Transitions, Balancing Work and Relationships with Adison Smith
01:05:16
Do you have trouble transitioning from work to being at home? Listen as your host, Eric Tivers, and his guest Adison Smith discuss how ADHD has impacted her life. Eric shares some coaching around balance, burnout, transitions, and accountability, plus much more on this episode of . Adison has recently realized that she might be the living embodiment of the phrase 'jack of all trades, master of none' since she has had five jobs in the last five years, not including the job she has now as a greenhouse gardener for a nonprofit garden in Dallas, TX. She loves to garden, paint, ride horses, be outside, and spend time with her husband and three dogs. Adison shares why she got bored with her previous jobs and why being a gardener keeps her engaged. Adison recognizes that she can't do life like everyone else, but after learning more about ADHD, she understands that she can live life her way. Adison discusses her issues with transitioning with Eric, and he shares some ideas on ways that helped him. Listen, as Adison speaks about how her relationships with friends have suffered because she is so focused on her job; she doesn't want to stop to meet up with them as they planned and is always canceling on them. Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work. The issues that Adison is having around these topics are issues that Eric says most people with ADHD face. If you ask yourself the same questions as Adison, this is an episode that you can't miss. You'll learn: [02:25] Welcome to the show, Adison! [03:21] Adison shares her background and her ADHD diagnosis. [06:02] Adison speaks about her roommates in college being upset with her because she wouldn't share her medication. [08:00] She discusses some of her jobs she left because they bore her. [11:14] Adison shares about a gardening program she really liked and why it holds her attention. [12:55] Adison says that she can't do life like everyone else. [14:50] She speaks about learning so much from the podcasts she has been listening to. [21:21] Adison discusses where she has the most difficulties with transitioning and how it shows up. [23:15] Eric shares how he handles transitioning from vacation to going back to work. [26:39] If you were to reflect on what you've already done today, what would that look like? [28:46] How much time do you think it would take you to do it? [29:44] Adison explains why she doesn't take breaks when she is at work. [32:32] Eric discusses time tracking, so Adison would know what time she needs to get started. [34:02] Adison shares what she could do during her break times that she would enjoy. [37:09] Eric believes that you need focus at work, but not hyper-focus. [41:37] Adison talks about how her relationships have been affected by this new job. [44:05] There is nobody on their deathbed that wished they would have worked more. [46:24] Eric suggests flipping the script and prioritizing friends and just making room for work. [48:22] Adison discusses her friends and talking to them about her ADHD. [51:33] Eric speaks about having her friends make her accountable when she has plans with them. [54:00] Adison shares about her relationship with her husband and her impulse buys. [56:51] Eric suggests ways she could stop her impulse buys. [59:24] How many reminders do you need? As many as it takes. [1:00:17] Thank you for being on the show! [1:01:03] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Sep 29, 2020
341 | It’s Never Too Late with Sharon Ruchman
59:56
"When I took the medication, I couldn't stop the momentum." On this episode of , Eric welcomes Sharon Ruchman. Sharon is a composer, musician, and author; her music can be heard on classical radio stations worldwide. Today she is composing original music for Sonoro, a contemporary music performance. Sharon speaks about her late in life ADHD diagnosis, the medicine they put her on, and the side effects that led her to stop taking it. Once she stopped taking the prescription, she says that her brain recalibrated, and she didn't need the medicine anymore. Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over 55, so they don't know how older adult brains work. Listen as Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died at a young age and who was also a musician, The journey she took to find out everything she could about him and how that journey led to her understanding her life a little better and letting go of the past so she could be very happy with her future. Sharon is in her seventies, but she isn't stopping. She is learning a new instrument, writing new music and says that knowing why she couldn't concentrate and get the music in her head out when she was younger has made her ADHD diagnosis a godsend. This is an extraordinary conversation that you don't want to miss. You'll learn: [02:30] Welcome to the show, Sharon! [02:52] Sharon shared when she was diagnosed with ADHD. [04:35] She speaks about getting off her medicine because of side effects and how she believes her brain recalibrated. [05:34] What were some symptoms you were experiencing? [08:24] Eric shares that ADHD meds aren't studied in people over the age of 55. [09:18] Sharon discusses how, as a child, she couldn't sit still very long to practice her music. [12:36] Sharon describes the OCD tendencies she has had her entire life. [13:58] Eric speaks about some work he's done around the role of complex PTSD in ADHD. [19:05] Sharon shares a story about her great uncle Rudy, who died on a sightseeing plane at the Chicago World's Fair. [21:29] She speaks about an unknown woman who sent her pictures of her uncles Viola that she later bought. [23:44] Sharon speaks about getting a recording of her uncle performing. [26:09] Eric talks about Sharon's clarity when it comes to what she wants to accomplish with her music. [27:56] Eric shares that in college, he used to write a lot of music. [29:49] Sharon discusses her piano teacher and visiting her years later and how nothing had changed. [30:57] Why were you so driven to find out about your past and Rudy? [32:46] Sharon shares how happy she is with her life right now. [37:27] Sharon talks about some challenges she still has with ADHD and how she handles them. [39:46] Listen as Sharon discusses the training she is taking to learn the Viola and how regimented she is during her practice time. [42:06] Sharon describes how comfortable she is playing the Viola. [43:22] How do you handle doing daily household chores and paying bills? [44:12] Sharon talks about some other challenges she had when she was young, before her ADHD diagnosis. [46:21] What is it like to be in your seventies? [47:57] Eric believes that life is too short not to do what you want to do. [49:07] It's never too late, pause, and each decision you make can change the direction your life is heading. [50:32] Sharon's last words for the audience are follow your dreams! [50:40] Thank you for being on the show! [51:27] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Sharon: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Sep 22, 2020
340 | Coping With 2020 - Panel Discussion
01:24:18
Has your world stopped amid the pandemic and social unrest?" Listen as your host, Eric, and the admin from season 19 of ADHD reWired coaching and accountability groups. They are discussing how they are getting through this year dealing with COVID and Black Lives Matter. Eric is here with his guests Tina, Carl, Marisol, and Kat. Marisol starts the panel discussion off with how she has dealt with the pandemic as a teacher and not knowing when she will go back. Kat shares how her life has been the last few months, Tina says that she hasn't been watching the news, and that's made it easier to deal with, and Carl discusses trying to home school his son. They each speak about how they have been doing emotionally and keeping themselves and their families safe from COVID. The panel also discusses how it has affected their parenting and how hard it has been to stay on a schedule. Tina shares how much her business has grown on eBay during the pandemic. Listen as they all give their insights into Black Lives Matter; they share their stories and how their lives have been impacted by being different or being married to someone who has darker skin. Marisol believes that the key is to start a conversation because once you hear someone else's story, they stop being black, Hispanic, Asian, etc., and just become people.  Eric finished the episode by saying register to vote and set up absentee voting because you don't want to be exposed to the virus if the cases start rising before election day. You can't make changes if you don't vote, and you don't have the right to complain about who is in the office if you don't vote, the choice is yours. You'll learn: [01:57] Welcome to the show, everyone! [03:52] Marisol shares how her life has been these last few months with job uncertainty as a teacher. [06:45] Kat speaks about how she is dealing with the pandemic. [08:56] Kat discusses the group she created called accountabilibuddies. [11:18] Tina shares that she has coped with 2020 by not watching the news. [14:43] Carl says that he is doing well even with the crazy days trying to home school his son. [17:18] He has learned to manage his expectations. [24:42] Marisol discusses how she is doing emotionally. [26:47] Marisol speaks about how bad it was to do homeschooling. [28:48] She believes that COVID-19 will have to run its course like everything else. [32:15] Kat shares that her kid plays soccer and helps her around the house. [33:01] Kat speaks about the guilt she feels because she isn't having trouble with her son and how grateful she is that he is such a great kid. [35:29] Carl discusses how he is coping with parenting during the pandemic. [38:03] Carl says that the baby's schedule has kept him on track. [42:45] Tina talks about her adult children and that she is doing good emotionally. [44:16] Tina discusses how great her business is doing on eBay. [45:23] What are the weirdest things that people are buying? [46:50] Eric shares how he has been dealing with COVID itself. [50:32] Carl speaks about how his family is safe during COVID. [53:50] Marisol believes that nothing will get solved until everyone realizes people are individuals and have their own stories. [56:19] She believes what it comes down to is people talking to each other, and you hear their story because then they are not black, Hispanic, Asian; they are people. [58:13] Marisol speaks about being taught that we should all be color blind, but that isn't how it is today. [1:00:01] Eric shares his guilt around not adding his voice to the BLM conversation because he didn't know how to address it. [1:00:43] Carl discusses, his husband being Puerto Rican/Jamaican and his son asking about his dad being different. [1:04:05] Tina speaks about places she wasn't allowed to go because she was white. [1:05:09] Eric discusses where he grew up and being an upper-middle-class in an affluent neighborhood. [1:06:20] He speaks about the topic of a paper he had to write during a semester of school. [1:08:02] A common trait with ADHD is that you feel outraged by social injustice. [1:09:18] Kat discusses her take on diversity. [1:12:15] Kat speaks about people leaning into defensiveness, ambivalence, embarrassment, and discomfort. [1:15:02] Marisol starts a conversation about vaccinations and what happens when we don't get them. [1:17:59] Eric believes that we have to take care of ourselves and support each other. [1:20:28] Eric says to register to vote and set up for absentee voting. [1:21:34] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Sep 15, 2020
339 | August 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:15:58
Did you know that the ADHD brain doesn't have enough Dopamine to get the intrinsic reward from doing small things like washing dishes? Listen as with his guests, and , answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Melissa starts us off with a question about keeping her house clean because, with nothing else to do during COVID, they cleaned things that haven't been cleaned in years. Another question is about resources to examine before she has her first ADHD testing. Daniel asks a question about how to build habits for things that have future payoffs. Autumn wants to know how to limit or correct her eight-year-old daughter's action with scissors. Bri is struggling with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions. Deborah has a problem getting her twenty-year-old to take their medicine, and she is worried because he will be leaving home again soon. Ari is asking for some of their favorite autobiographies or memoirs written by people with ADHD. Erica is looking for ways to set a schedule now that she is unemployed and has trouble getting anything accomplished.  Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are various options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss your questions and the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll learn: [01:50] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [02:12] Melissa has a question about how to keep her house clean. [02:58] Eric shares some things that help him keep things up. [05:04] Brendan shares his thoughts on decluttering. [08:00] Eric says that any task we do requires three things. [12:20] A listener wants to know if there are any resources she can look at before her first test for ADHD next week. [15:01] Brendan and Will give their insights into what she will experience during her testing. [16:52] Will shares what he wishes he would have none when he was diagnosed. [19:44] Daniel would like some support around getting through things that are future-directed. [21:15] Brendan shares how ADHD works on the brain with Dopamine. [24:25] Daniel says that using the payoff as a reward doesn't work for him. [31:54] Autumn asks about how to take scissors away from her eight-year-old daughter. [33:34] When a kid says I don't know why I did, it is a valid answer. [35:40] Eric shares his thoughts on this. [37:19] Could this be a sensory issue? [39:48] Bri struggles with impulsiveness and regulating her emotions. [42:50] Eric wants to find out more about her fear around medication. [45:27] If your medication is correct, you will feel you are thinking clearly. [48:15] Eric shares how long he has been on stimulant medicine. [49:13] Brendan shares his ideas around this question. [52:58] Deborah would like help with her child that refuses to take medicine and has depression. [54:35] Eric says that she needs to take his side effects seriously and to quit pushing the meds on him. [55:45] Brendan speaks about how he felt when he was twenty, and his mom was trying to decide for him. [57:52] Will says that if you are going to force him to do one thing, make it either meds or coaching. [59:48] Ari wants to know some of the best autobiographies or memoirs by individuals with ADHD? [1:00:08] Eric, Brendan, and Will share some of their favorites. [1:02:22] Erica was just released from a job and wants to know if they have any suggestions for setting up a daily routine. [1:05:04] Eric suggests planning out what she wants to do for that day and being accountable to a friend to complete it. [1:08:04] Brendan shares some ideas with Erica for setting goals. [1:09:49] Will speaks about getting an alarm clock that makes you get out of bed to turn it off. [1:11:46] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 08, 2020
338: Money Management with Rick Webster from Rena-Fi
01:04:02
Financial management is really emotional management. Welcome to this episode of with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Rick Webster. Rick is the CEO and Founder of Rena-Fi and has spent the last two decades deeply involved in the ADHD community, helping people with ADHD find solutions for their own challenges. Rick is on a mission to help people find their path to financial freedom. Rick shares his ADHD journey, what prompted his diagnosis, his background in financing, and where the interest in financial matters came from. Rick believes that you need to stay in touch with your creditors when you can't pay, don't put your head in the sand and hope it will go away. Listen, as Rick gives some tips and tricks to help you get control of your budget, don't be afraid of your accounts, check them every day, and some simple ways to track your spending, which is the first step in figuring out a budget. Rick also talks about some tools that can help you with tracking your expenses. Rick speaks about paying back IRS taxes, putting money back for retirement, and how to know if you can afford a new car. He shares some insights on mortgages, the end-of-life conversation, and to hire a bookkeeper or someone else if you are struggling with keeping your accounts up to date. Listen as Rick shares what his company is about and what they do to help people who are overwhelmed with their financials and need someone to dig them out of the abyss they have fallen into. This is a conversation you don't want to miss if any of this resonates with you. You'll learn: [02:17] Welcome to the show, Rick! [02:49] Rick shares his journey with ADHD and how his life fell apart before his diagnosis. [03:32] What is your background in financing? [05:03] Rick shares where his interest in financing matters came from. [07:20] Financial management is really emotional management. [08:34] Rick discusses the need to stay in touch with your creditors and pull your head out of the sand. [11:40] What do you recommend for people to get over the overwhelm of taking control of your budget. [14:43] Eric says to touch the financial stuff every day. [15:09] Rick speaks about people with ADHD being afraid of checking their accounts. [16:50] What are some simple ways people can track their spending? [19:14] Eric speaks about not knowing how much he has been paying his accountant because he wasn't paying attention. [20:01] Rick shares some automated tools he recommends for helping keep track of stuff. [22:36] Take half of your discretionary money and put it in your savings, year after year, and fifty percent of your raises. [27:32] What do you recommend for people who haven't paid taxes for a few years? [31:02] Reaching out to the IRS is less painful than emptying your checking account if you keep ignoring them. [32:44] Rick speaks about how to know when you can afford a new car. [38:21] How do you help people who have put nothing back for retirement? [40:27] Don't save your extra money in your twenties, but in your thirties, save 50% of your raise, and you will do great at retirement. [41:53] Rick discusses mortgages and whether you should pay more each month. [44:59] Rick speaks about other ways to manage your debt. [46:47] They talk about end-of-life care. [48:22] You are your own best payer; paying your debts is better than investing elsewhere. [50:53] If you struggle with math, hire a bookkeeper to help you. [52:13] Rick talks about other professionals that can help keep you on track. [55:04] How can you not pay someone to help you get your financial life straightened out? [57:37] Rick speaks about his company and what they are about. [59:01] Rick, thank you so much for being on the show! [59:49] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Rick: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 01, 2020
337 | Mastermind Session Part 2 - Launching My Business with Natalie
44:44
Thank you for listening to this continuation of yesterday's episode with your host Eric, and his guests Jessica, Erica, and Blake, with Natalie in the hot seat, continuing the discussion on how to build a business. Natalie is an Occupational Therapist and is looking to start her own practice but needs help from the mastermind on this episode of . Listen as the mastermind continues to give Natalie suggestions and feedback on her idea of starting a virtual and in-home Occupational Therapy Practice. Blake speaks about a book on marketing that he recommends, and Jessica thinks that Natalie should write out her vision statement and put it on her wall for encouragement. Eric suggests that she get a website, and Jessica offers to set it up for her while Erica adds her insights into building a website. Eric suggests doing some SEO research to determine better her domain name and Blake discusses the niche group that Natalie wants to work with. Natalie wants to have a cash-only business, but Eric suggests looking into a membership type business model. He says that when working with your core values, the energy for what you do will never falter. To close out, Natalie shares what she will commit to after she gets off this call and her goal for the next seven days.  You'll learn: [02:28] Blake speaks about marketing and a book that Blake and Eric recommend. [03:08] Jessica speaks about Natalie writing her vision statement out and putting it on the wall. [04:57] Eric shares what he did to stay excited about starting his business. [06:52] Eric tells her she has to have a website. [07:39] Jessica says that she could do a website for Natalie. [09:25] Erica shares her views on a website. [11:42] Eric suggests doing SEO research and seeing what people are searching for when they look for an OT. [13:24] Blake discusses the niche group that Natalie wants to work with and her idea of mixing in-home and virtual therapies. [14:52] Jessica shares an idea she thought of around her YouTube channel. [16:55] Start looking for conferences that you can speak at. [17:56] Blake tells her to listen to a group he recommends. [20:23] Eric talks about being a student of social media when he first started his business. [26:46] Eric speaks about reading the book by Mike Michalowicz. [29:12] Blake shares something else for her garage. [31:24] Eric suggests building a membership community. [33:28] When you are working in your core values, you have unstoppable energy. [35:18] Listen as Natalie shares what she will commit to. [37:56] Natalie speaks about her goals for the next seven days. [39:38] Thank you for listening! [40:30] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .      
Aug 26, 2020
336 | Mastermind Session Part 1 - Launching My Business with Natalie
50:53
Could you use a mastermind group to help you start your business?" Listen as your host, Eric, and his guests Jessica, Erica, and Blake, with Natalie in the hot seat, discuss how to build a business. Natalie is an Occupational Therapist and is looking to start her own practice but needs help from the mastermind on this episode of . Natalie shares that she wants to open a cash practice that centers around invisible illnesses and work with the LGBT community as well as the Trans community. Her job is to fix people's environments, not people, and she feels that with the insurance regulations that she isn't allowed to help people the ways she wants to. The mastermind discusses what part of control is important to Natalie, is she good at saying no if a client calls her on her day off, and Eric suggests she makes her company an LLC. They talk about having an accountant and an attorney to ensure she is financially safe and an attorney to be on her legal council.  We have broken this episode into two parts, so if you notice an awkward ending, that's the reason. Because the content is so good, we didn't want to lose your attention by playing the entire hour and twenty-minute show. So stay tuned for Part 2, dropping into your feed tomorrow.  You'll learn: [02:35] Welcome to the show, everyone! [03:18] Natalie kicks it off with her reason for being on the hot seat. [05:33] Natalie is speaking about having a cash practice with no insurance billing. [06:59] Her job is to fix people's environments, not people. [08:43] Natalie shares how big an LGBT community that they have in Indianapolis. [10:05] Blake speaks about how concise and put together Natalie's plans are. [11:20] Blake wants to know what control is important to Natalie. [13:21] Eric asks how good she is at saying no. [15:29] Erica wants to know if anyone else is doing this business model that Natalie wants to do, and if she knows what she needs to make monthly. [16:51] Jessica speaks about being let down by the healthcare system and proud of Natalie for wanting to build her practice. [24:10] Eric discusses the first steps that Natalie needs to think about. [26:03] Eric suggests that Natalie makes her company an LLC. [27:30] Blake shares some thoughts he has on this. [29:01] Natalie speaks about finding an accountant to handle the financial side of the business. [34:33] Erica wants to know if Natalie has a place where she has been putting all her ideas. [35:56] How developed is your audience on your YouTube channel? [38:34] Natalie discusses what certificates that she can get that will allow her to charge more. [41:13] Eric says that there are people who move things forward in healthcare, and there are people who don't want to change. [43:30] Eric suggests that Natalie get an attorney as she starts this business. [45:37] Thank you for listening to part 1. We will drop part 2 tomorrow. [46:13] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Aug 25, 2020
335 | Mastermind Session - Overcoming Morning Impotence With Blake
01:04:23
"Is stress a big factor in your life? Listen as your host, Eric, and his guests Jessica, Natalie, Erica with Blake in the hot seat, discuss Blake's issue of getting himself going to start his day. He shares that it takes hours for him to function enough to start work, and he is looking for solutions so he can get more out of his day on this episode of . Blake summarizes the issues he is having with getting started in the mornings. Eric believes that Blake needs a sleep study, and Jessica shares some ideas that might help. Blake shares that he sometimes gets anxiety when he sleeps, and Erica shares some facts about adenosine and sleep pressure. Natalie talks about how Blake's situation sounds like what she went through, and Eric shares that once he started eating protein shakes for breakfast and cut back the carbohydrates, he stopped having the same issues. Jessica speaks about a book that turned her life around called They also discuss the fact that Blake plays video games for an hour to an hour and a half every morning. Eric shares that when you consume instead of generating output you don't get your brain activated, and he suggests walking first thing in the morning instead of the video games Does any of this resonate with you? If it does, this is a mastermind episode that you don't want to miss. Eric, Jessica, Erica, and Natalie give Blake some expert advice, tips, and tricks to get his morning started so that the rest of the day can be as productive as he needs it to be. You'll learn: [01:17] Welcome to the show, everyone! [03:14] Blake summarizes the issue he is bringing to the group. [06:10] Blake shares what his average morning looks like. [07:15] Eric asks some questions for clarification. [10:01] Eric says the first thing Blake needs is a sleep study. [10:40] Jessica asks Blake to expand on his bedtime routine. [12:25] Jessica shares a few ideas she has that might help him. [14:39] She discusses having hypoglycemia but thought it was a panic attack. [16:23] Erica asks Blake some additional questions around anxiety. [19:33] Erica speaks about adenosine and sleep pressure. [26:15] Eric talks about sweating, exercising, and if Blake is getting his heart rate up to 150 or 160. [28:26] Natalie discusses how Blake's situation sounds like the situation she was in a few years ago. [31:49] Eric speaks about having the same issue as Blake, and as he stopped eating carbs, it stopped. [34:49] Jessica shares a book called and how it helped her. [36:55] Erica asks some additional questions about Blake. [38:01] How long do you play video games in the morning? [38:48] Eric says that Blake is consuming instead of generating output. [41:31] Blake shares why he was late to the smartphone party. [47:13] Eric believes that Blake needs to have exercise be his morning routine and do it before his brain can talk him out of it. [48:43] Jessica suggests that Blake move his video game system away from his couch and put his walking shoes on the couch to change the loop. [51:40] They discuss Blake's fitness program for the Wei. [54:19] Eric speaks about what he did during COVID to get his heart rate up. [55:49] Blake, has this conversation helped you? [59:21] Thank all of you for being on the show! [1:00.10] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tap at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Aug 18, 2020
334 | July 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:15:34
"Do you have a problem prioritizing" Listen as with his guests, , and answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Daniel starts the questions with one around lack of motivation and follow through and how to tell if it's from ADHD or depression. Christina wants to know how to set a routine and follow through for over two weeks because that's when she stops, and Tony is struggling with behavior around emotional flooding. Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn the TV and computer off at night, and the consensus is to set the time on both to shut off at a given time, therefore taking the decision out of your hands. Victor wants to know what the chances are of being misdiagnosed with ADHD when it is actually complex PTSD. Eric shares that they are both disorders, and their symptoms are similar. Pat wants to discuss being a new dad with ADHD and his need to stay busy. Stephanie is writing a book and is asking for ways to hold herself accountable so she can get more done each day, and Kendra is always distracted and overbooked and is looking for help to keep from saying yes to everyone who wants her help. Will shares that every time you say yes, you are saying no to something else, and Brendon tells her to have a not-to-do list. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:41] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:04] Daniel has a question about motivation and follow through and when to know if it's from depression or ADHD. [05:03] Will gives his insight into this question. [07:19] Christina asks a question about making new routines and being consistent with them. [09:51] Eric speaks about ways to self regulate. [13:18] Why do you recommend an external timer instead of an app timer? [13:32] Will explains why this is recommended. [15:21] Tony wants to know about tools to handle certain behaviors he has been struggling with. [21:14] Brendon addresses this question with examples of how he handles it. [22:53] Eric speaks about his issues with having hard conversations. [25:20] If it's easier to write things down than talk to someone, write things down in advance. [28:30] Eric speaks about talking to his therapist and sharing what's in his head. [30:40] Sheila asks for suggestions on how to turn off the tv and computer at night. [31:09] Eric discusses what has worked for him. [34:40] Victor wants to know the chances of a person being misdiagnosed with ADHD when they have complex PTSD. [36:17] Eric believes there is a very high correlation between the two. [37:43] Brendan gives his insights into this issue. [39:46] Pat has a question about tactics, inspirations, or war stories related to being a new dad that doesn't sit very well. [44:55] Will explains what he thinks is going on with Pat. [46:56] Brendan believes that it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks; you are doing it right. [49:30] Eric believes that as parents, we judge ourselves too harshly. [52:07] Stephanie asks how she can hold herself accountable when writing a book. [52:44] Eric shares that when you have ADHD, you must ask someone else to hold you accountable. [54:08] Will suggests that she set herself goals. [57:30] Brendan says that accountability buddies do not work for him. [59:25] Kendra's question is about being distracted all the time, and how to combat her lack of focus. [1:01:06] Eric discusses Kendra's self-regulation and having too much on her plate. [1:03:11] Brendan speaks about a not-to-do list. [1:05:42] Will adds a few suggestions to the conversation. [1:07:31] Every time you say yes, you are saying no to everything else. [1:10:05] Thank you for all of your questions. [1:11:22] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Aug 11, 2020
333 | Race-Based Trauma, RSD and ADHD with Romanza McAllister, LCSW
01:01:37
"You develop a codependent relationship with work or with the world as a person of color because you end up playing to how people see you." Welcome to this episode of with your host Eric Tivers and his guest, Romanza McAllister, LCSW. Romanza is a psychotherapist, and in 2008 she graduated from Hunter College School of Social Work, where she majored in case management and group work. Over the last ten years, Romanza has provided focused solution group and family counseling with inpatient and outpatient settings. Romanza shares her experience of being black and diagnosed with ADHD at ten years old, and she speaks about how it affected her school years and career. Romanza discusses working for herself and the relief she feels, knowing she doesn't have to wonder why she was hired. Eric asks some questions he is uncomfortable with, trying to learn how to approach certain subjects. Romanza states that there is no such thing as color blindness and how it's our responsibility to create a safe space through empathic and reflective listening. Romanza shares how validated she feels when people ask her questions about being a woman of color. She says that it makes her feel like people are listening and trying to understand how her life is different. Eric and Romanza also speak about RSD and what can trigger the reaction. Is sensitivity training enough? No, and Romanza feels like everyone, regardless of color, can benefit from anti-racism training. She also speaks about what they can do from a policy standpoint around ADHD, children of color, and schools so that people of color don't have to be either black or ADHD; they can be who they are. This is a compelling conversation that everyone should hear. You'll learn: [03:18] Welcome to the show, Romanza! [03:42] Romanza shares her experience of being diagnosed at 10 with ADHD and as a child of color. [06:38] How did the family deal with your ADHD diagnosis? [07:57] Romanza speaks about dealing with ADHD throughout her school years. [11:37] Romanza discusses being a woman of color with ADHD and how that has affected her work history. [14:17] Have you ever sat at your desk and wondered why you were hired? [16:12] Romanza speaks about working for herself and how it makes her feel. [19:38] Listen as Eric shares that Issues around social justice fire people up with ADHD. [25:03] Eric talks about asking Romanza some hard questions.  [26:16] Romanza shares that talking to progressive people can be difficult because they are sometimes fragile. [26:52] There is no such thing as color blindness. [28:00] Creating a safe space through empathic and reflective listening. [29:51] Romanza shares a story about micro-invalidation. [33:28] When you get asked a question like what does it feel like to be a black person, is there validation in that someone is asking the question? [35:56] Romanza says to ask but ask permission to the client first. [40:16] Eric defines RSD because it is becoming more talked about in the community. [41:46] Romanza discusses RSD and how it can be triggered when trying to have white/black conversations. [44:01] Romanza speaks about the things she has to consider before she reacts to a situation. [47:21] Romanza says she likes the idea of this racial RSD feedback loop. [48:02] Romanza speaks about the story of a young girl that didn't turn in her homework. [48:50] Romanza believes that everyone can benefit from anti-racist training no matter what the color. [50:34] Is sensitivity training enough? [52:40] Romanza speaks about what needs to be done from a policy standpoint in the ADHD space to create more equity. [54:10] Say the words, address the thing! [55:10] Romanza believes that everyone should check their bias with the bias meter. [56:38] Thank you for being on the show! [57:24] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Romanza: | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! 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Aug 04, 2020
332 | ADHD and College Skills In Uncertain Times with Melissa Barlett
59:46
Did people notice that you had ADHD before you did? Eric and his guest, , better known by her students as Dr. B, is an e in Utica, NY. Listen as they discuss helping students come back to college and adjusting to change dealing with online learning, plus much more on this episode of Listen, as Dr. Barlett shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and what caused her to seek a diagnosis. She also discusses some challenges she sees with online learning because of COVID-19 and how she has adapted her teaching style to help her students.  Dr. Barlett speaks about what she believes fellow professors are struggling with when being thrown into this alternative method of teaching. She shares what she thinks will happen with fall classes and how she believes schools can keep students safe. Students with ADHD, in particular, have a different set of struggles with virtual learning, and Dr. Barlett shares some suggestions she has to help them cope. Because the situation is fluid and information changes daily, Dr. Barlett speaks about how to prepare if you have to pivot mid-semester. She shares that community colleges are already set up for students with challenging schedules, so if you don't think you can go to school because you have to work, a community college might be the best bet for you. Dr. Barlett shares some great tips and tricks for learning with ADHD, especially with the pandemic's distractions. She is willing to answer any questions you might have, so please find her information in the links at the bottom and be positive about the upcoming school year.  You'll learn: [03:18] Welcome to the show, Melissa! [04:16] Melissa shares when she was diagnosed with ADHD and how her intelligence allowed her to fly under the radar. [05:32] What caused you to seek a diagnosis for ADHD? [07:30] Melissa speaks about knowing something was wrong once she changed direction in her career and got more administrative tasks. [10:03] Listen, as Melissa shares some challenges she sees with online learning since COVID-19. [12:10] Melissa speaks about how she adapted. [13:05] What would you suggest to fellow professors struggling with learning a whole new way of teaching? [15:24] Melissa believes that nailing learning objectives to the life skills that they need instead of detailed skills takes learning in the right direction. [21:14] Listen as Melissa describes what she thinks school will look like in the fall. [22:46] Melissa discusses how she believes we can keep students safe. [25:36] Melissa suggests what students with ADHD especially can do to be prepared for online learning. [28:40] When taking notes, make sure you write them in your words. Read a paragraph or two and write a summary in your words. [29:50] Eric shares some strategies he used when he was in college. [31:57] Your brain wants it to be easy. Practice the actual process of recall. [35:04] It takes an intelligent person to understand this concept, but it takes a genius to explain it to a kindergartner. [36:54] What are some other challenges a student with ADHD might face when taking virtual classes? [37:44] They speak about going on rate my professor and check out their teaching style. [44:14] Melissa talks about handling going back to class and then if COVID-19 spikes again having to go back to social distancing. [46:51] Melissa discusses students not having regular hours because of jobs or children in her community college. [48:22] Melissa says that community college is already set up for people with challenging schedules. [49:53] What are some reasonable steps students might be able to take to prepare students if they have to go back to virtual classes. [52:16] Melissa shares some final tips for students. [54:42] Thank you for being on the show! [55:35] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at  Find Melissa @docbarlett | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jul 28, 2020
331 | Leaning Into Your Weird with Andy J. Pizza
01:02:18
Have you tried to be normal and repress your ADHD instead of leaning into your weird? Listen as Eric and his guest, , discuss leaning into neurodiversity, a creative approach to your career path, win because of your weird not in spite of it, and much more on this episode of Andy is an American illustrator, podcaster, and public speaker; his explosive color-drenched illustrations have brought hope and smiles to clients like YouTube, and . He is the founder of the , which does what it says on the tin and the author of the book Andy shares his ADHD story, the start of his illustrating career, and the recession that almost took it all away. He talks about sending some work to , the response he got, and the work it took to hone his craft and the jobs that built his freelance career. Andy also speaks about Color Me Blank; collaborative art shows that he took part in with giant markers that allowed everyone to color on blank paper. If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain. Listen as Andy shares about knowing he could be a successful illustrator because he saw people just like himself doing it. Andy also speaks about how he finishes projects by making everything he has to do, something he wants to do. Andy is a very colorful character with an engaging tone that you won't want to miss. You'll learn: [02:04] Welcome to the show, Andy! [04:57] Andy shares his ADHD story. [06:13] Andy speaks about his mom and the fact that she was never around. [09:48] He discovered illustration in high school and realized the path he wanted to take. [12:22] Eric speaks about trying to refinance his house, and the challenge it is when you are self-employed. [19:34] Andy shares his secret sauce and why he has a puppet sitting behind him. [21:10] He speaks about going to college to find his style. [22:30] Andy talks about his indie rock coloring book that kicked off his career. [23:17] He shares the trials he had during the recession and getting a job. [26:10] Andy discusses an opportunity to work with Nickelodeon. [27:53] Andy says that his wife stood with him during the bad times and made it through. [29:04] What ended up happening with the Nickelodeon gig? [31:08] Andy speaks about a collaborative art show called Color Me Blank. [34:32] Andy discusses doing more personal projects and being asked to take the Color Me Blank project on the road. [35:15] He was asked to do more illustrations for Nickelodeon, which built his freelance career. [36:53] If you see people like you doing things you didn't know you could do, it will unlock something in your brain. [39:08] Relationships, in general, are not about the other person; they are about how the other person reflects you. [43:30] Andy speaks about aliens and what he thinks about neurodiverse people. [46:08] The industrial revolution system was about maximizing the average so we can become interchangeable parts. [49:32] Listen as Andy shares how he finishes his projects. [51:10] Andy says that he went into his podcast, knowing that he needed to do it long enough to get good at it and long enough for people to hear it. [53:08] Andy has encouragement for anyone starting a podcast. [55:25] Andy shares his take-home message for the listeners. [57:06] Thank you for being on the show! [58:05] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Andy: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jul 21, 2020
330 | June 2020 Q&A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:09:44
Do you have trouble transitioning from work to home? Listen as with his guests, , and answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Ella starts off this Q&A episode with a question about how to avoid doing things that pop up when things have to be done. Listen as Karen has a question that we are all dealing with now, working from home versus being in the office and the pluses and minuses of both. Matt has a question about relationships and his inability to be patient when trying to make friends. Audrey has two questions for the panel: writing more concise email responses and tips on ways to stop losing things. Blake asks a question for his wife. When they have children, how hard will the load be on her? The panel says that you can only speculate on the challenges that they will face until you have kids. Nathan was recently diagnosed with ADHD and wants to know the first five things he should learn about ADHD, and the last question is on Zoom fatigue and what causes it. If you had a question that wasn't answered, please ask it in our Facebook community, and someone will share their insights, and we will catch you next month on our next Q&A episode. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:01] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:28] Ella has a question about avoiding things that pop-up instead of what I should do? [05:55] Will speaks about discipline and how that is hard with ADHD. [07:11] Brendan gives his insights on this issue. [09:31] Karen has a question about the pluses and minuses about working from home or the office. [10:55] Eric says that everyone's experience will be different and for Karen to ask her team which they prefer. [12:09] Will speaks about how different it is to work from home when you have kids and how going to the office gives him a stop time. [14:22] Brendan discusses the transition from the office to home. [16:27] Even if you have phenomenal communication skills, you might not notice how stressed your team members are if you don't see them. [17:31] Eric shares his experience when working with an assistant. [19:31] Matt has a question about relationships. [20:38] Eric says that relationships are one of the hardest domains in life. [21:22] Brendan gives his insights on relationships and how he made his friend group an adult. [24:30] Eric comments on how Brendan shares intimacy with his friends. [26:47] Eric believes that making friends as an adult is a topic more people need to talk about. [32:44] Audrey asks how I can write emails to be more concise. [33:50] Eric speaks about some tools that can help you respond to emails. [35:21] Brendan shares his thoughts on this question. [37:20] Will discusses what has helped him answer emails. [38:31] Audrey wants tips on how she can keep from losing things. [40:28] Brendan shares what he has done since high school to keep from losing things. [41:46] Will says he loses things a lot because he sets things down in weird places. [44:09] Do you look for something even though you are convinced you will not find where it is? [47:40] Blake wants to know what kind of load his wife will bear if they have kids. [48:35] Once you have kids it is much easier to navigate the challenges [50:11] Nothing can prepare you for having children is an accurate statement. [52:07] Will suggests balancing the load of work between both of you. [53:28] Brendan shares his insights. [54:46] Eric says that deciding to have children is the hardest decision anyone has to make. [56:32] They give Nathan recommendations on the five things he should learn first after his recent ADHD diagnosis. [58:38] Will says that getting sleep is the most important thing you can do. [58:52] Brendan says that forgiveness is critical to self-care and ADHD management. [59:22] How do we complete things? Is the next question they share. [1:00:19] Brendan says to define done and set a boundary around what done means. [1:01:11] The panel discusses Zoom fatigue and what the cause could be. [1:03:49] If you want deeper dives into your questions, join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for the Patreon coaching call. [1:04:29] If you are not a Patreon, share your questions in our Facebook community. [1:04:37] We appreciate you for listening to the show! [1:05:32] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron by clicking on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jul 14, 2020
329 | ADHD, Narcissism, and Emotions in Relationships with Jared DeFife PhD
01:00:28
Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Listen as Eric and his guest, ., discuss one of the messier complexes, twist yourself in knots aspects of ADHD, which are emotions in relationships, narcissism, and more on this episode of Jared is a clinical psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. He has a private practice that specializes in men's mental health and therapy for adults with ADHD. Dr. Jared is a former clinical fellow of Harvard Medical School and has been a media expert for , , , , and many more. Dr. Jared speaks about his learning disabilities and the social relationship issues he had in school. He talks about how his emotional life transformed once he was medicated. Dr. Jared also shares how hard it can be to live with a person with ADHD and narcissism.  Dr. Jared discusses the common complaints he hears from partners in his practice, and the difference between ADHD self coping or management and narcissism. He speaks about what you can do to regulate emotions, and Eric talks about ways to run interference with them. Dr. Jared shares how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. When your spouse talks to you, do you hear what they are saying? Dr. Jared talks about what a partner can say to be helpful, and maybe you can say, 'I heard you, and I am working to do better.' Dr. Jared shares some very enlightening information around dealing with relationships and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you and your partner, this episode could be a tool to keep you together. You'll learn: [02:08] Welcome to the show, Jared! [03:18] Jared shares his ADHD story. [05:04] When did you first realize you had ADHD? [06:45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school. [07:31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities. [09:00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school. [11:44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field. [13:14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically. [16:13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist. [21:06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD. [23:40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices? [25:40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice. [28:25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism. [31:34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism? [34:43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them? [39:09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions. [41:02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship? [43:43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion. [46:04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions. [47:20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. [49:04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful. [52:46] Can you say, I hear you, and I am working to do better! [54:13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show! [56:14] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at Find Jared: | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jul 07, 2020
328 | No Matter Where You Go, There You Are
01:11:51
Eric's guest Jeremy is a forty-six-year-old freshman at Marshall University. His path back to school and most of his life has been anything but typical. He got into a lot of trouble but was lucky enough to have people in his life that helped him from one extreme to another along the way. Listen, as Jeremy tells his story on this episode of Jeremy shares the behavioral issues he had as a child but was still the kid that everyone liked in high school. He discusses getting married right out of high school to his pregnant girlfriend and quitting college to do the right thing. The relationship didn't last, and after trying to go back to school, he quit, and the challenges kept coming. Listen, as Jeremy shares the poor choices he made along the way with relationships. He speaks about choosing homelessness, about losing his dad, and going to jail. Jeremy met a woman that wanted to help and got the process started in jail, and once he was released. He speaks about getting diagnosed with ADHD and medicated finally a few months ago, and he finally feels like he is on his intended journey. Jeremy is on the path of improvement and is getting an engineering degree. His journey back to school was a long one, but now he has the tools to help him succeed. Do you resonate with Jeremy's story? If you do, this is an episode that you need to hear and share. You'll learn: [02:37] Welcome to the show, Jeremy! [03:36] Jeremy shares what life was like when he was a kid. [05:08] He speaks about his mom and the medication she was on while pregnant with him. [05:56] What were you like in high school? [08:26] Jeremy shares his life after high school and what happened in his life. [11:18] He speaks about not going to school because he wanted to do the right thing for his child. [15:33] Do you feel you tried to do the right thing, but when you tried to do that, everything got blown up? [16:31] Jeremy discusses the incidents in his life once he dropped out of college. [19:11] In 1996, he started drinking and getting into trouble while grieving for his mother. [21:08] Jeremy speaks about his extended family's strength and knowing he was loved and felt safe. [30:14] Jeremy discusses his hitchhiking days and the poor choices he made during that time. [33:46] He shares about his spirituality and what led to where he is now. [37:21] Jeremy speaks about a town that wanted him to get out. [41:22] What led you to get diagnosed? [44:05] Jeremy discusses his issues with the legal system, and people were telling him he was too smart to be where he was. [47:00] He shares about being homeless as a choice and finding a person who took an interest in him. [49:51] Jeremy speaks about having warrants but knowing his dad was dying and in hospice care. [51:34] He did two years in jail, but he found help to get him on the right track. [54:00] Jeremy shares about finally getting on medication for his ADHD, even though he had never been officially diagnosed. [58:22] Jeremy talks about what gave him the initiative to go back to school at 48 years old. [01:00:42] He speaks about asking for help and getting what he needed. [01:02:08] Jeremy says that you have to face the man in the mirror at some point in time. [01:04:14] Jeremy expresses how logical and practical he feels ADHD reWired is and how much he likes the show. [01:05:11] Eric says that Jeremy shows that it's never too late to get on the path to improvement. [01:06:46] Thank you for being on the show! [01:07:38] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jun 30, 2020
327 | Eating Well With ADHD - Luz Jaramillo
01:02:30
Do you celebrate all of life's moments, good or bad, with food? Eric and his guest, Luz Jaramillo, discuss why this can lead to eating disorders, how you can break this habit, and achieve a healthy lifestyle and wellbeing plus much more on this episode of Luz is the owner of , has a Master's in Social Work, is a certified life coach, Masters in Neuro-Linguistic programming, a certified brain health coach, and many more. Luz is also a best-selling author, motivational speaker, and has ADHD, dyslexia, and learning difficulties. She has suffered from an eating disorder most of her life, but after studies and research, she could heal and lose over 50lbs, improving her focus and health. Listen, as Luz and Eric discuss how to switch your emotional thoughts, change thought patterns, and the importance of eating healthy food. Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not process carbs well, so most times, it is better to limit them and substitute protein for more energy. Consistency is the Key! Luz speaks about food, not being your friend; it is fuel and needs to be treated that way. Eat to live; don't live to eat! Luz and Eric share some ways that you can get healthy snacks prepared and portioned out so you can grab a bag and go quickly and conveniently. Know that if you slip, it's ok to get back up and try to be better tomorrow. Luz has been there, done that, she knows about eating disorders and ADHD. If any of this resonates with you, this is an episode that you can't miss. Listen to what she has to say. It may be the difference between life and death. You'll learn: [01:56] Welcome to the show, Luz! [03:24] Luz shares when she learned she had ADHD. [03:58] How did your eating disorder lead you to learn you had ADHD? [05:12] Luz speaks about what form her eating disorder took. [07:28] When did you decide you needed help with this disorder? [10:10] Luz used neuro linguistic programming to switch her emotional thoughts from food to thoughts of pleasure. [12: 23] When you change your thought patterns, your internal critic screams louder and calls you a fraud. This is normal, and it takes time. [14:35] Luz was ready to have weight loss surgery before her sister got her to change her mind. [16:29] Looking back, how do you feel about how desperate you were? [21:11] Eric speaks about some regular issues around food and how he deals with the cravings. [23:06] Set up your environment to be conducive to what you need. [23:57] Luz shares how important it is to have nutritious food for at least three meals a day. [26:01] Eric shares that the ADHD brain does not do a good job of breaking down carbs. [28:08] Consistency is the key! [31:04] Luz suggests to people that food is not your friend, food is fuel. [32:03] How do you suggest that people stop when they know they are in the middle of a binge? [34:04] Replace the food with something else. [35:20] Eric shares that many people he knows are doing a sugar detox. [37:00] How sensitive to sugar are you? Have you been tested? [38:03] Luz says you should tell yourself it's just for today, focus on one day at a time. [41:10] Meditation and mindfulness are the keys to success. [46:42] Luz shares some tips on how to have healthy food ready to eat for snacks. [49:55] Have you found any services or different resources to help people systemize eating nutritious foods? [52:01] You have to have the correct mindset, it might be harder if you have ADHD, but it is still doable. [52:46] Know that you will slip, and that's ok get yourself right back up. [55:00] Willpower starts strong in the morning, and it's a slippery slope later in the day if you don't recharge your system with the right food. [57:17] Thank you so much for being on the show! [58:17] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Luz: @brainbodycoach | | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jun 23, 2020
326 | Holey ADHD with Marissa Marangoni
01:01:40
Has taking medication for your ADHD changed your life? Eric and his guest, Marissa Marangoni, discuss what led her to look for a diagnosis for , her difficulties in college and grad school, and the challenges of working for herself on this episode of   Marissa is a mom, a writer, and a former teacher. She runs , where she works as an instructional designer and technical writer. Marissa writes creatively and podcasts when she's not working or spending time with her son. She loves lists, popcorn, and baking, animals, sweating, and deep human connection. Listen as Marissa shares her struggles through high school, college, and grad school without knowing she had ADHD. Her challenges with sensory processing, she shares that she cannot sleep with any noises that aren't even and steady. Marissa also has a powerful sense of smell, and her sense of touch keeps her from liking the feel of fleece on her skin. Marissa discusses some things that have been very helpful in dealing with her ADHD, like medication and Eric's coaching groups. She shares that the medication she is on has a lot, and if they had diagnosed her earlier, she wouldn't have had to work so hard in school. Marissa talks about the podcast she started with a friend with ADHD called ''  Eric and Marissa have a great conversation about some of their struggles with ADHD. Listen to see if you can pick up any tips or tricks that will help you as you travel the same journey they have. You'll learn: [02:27] Welcome to the show, Marissa! [02:45] Marissa shares what brought her to get her diagnosis with ADHD. [04:06] When you watched videos on ADHD, were there things that you recognized in yourself? [09:55] Marissa speaks about not being able to absorb what she was reading, which is crazy since she is a writer. [10:25] Marissa shares how she got through literature classes. [11:00] Do you love cliff notes? Did they help you understand what you were reading? [14:02] She discusses how she memorized everything to get through high school, but it didn't work so well in college. [16:41] Once she got her second master's degree, she became a literature teacher. [24:48] Marissa discusses the challenges she has around sensory processing. [25:15] She speaks about her issues with sleeping and why she needs a white noise machine.  [28:33] Marissa says that distinct smells will wake her up. [30:30] She describes the feel of fleece on her skin, but she loves a weighted blanket. [33:19] Do you have any senses that aren't as intense? [34:20] Eric and Marissa discuss their difficulties with their vision and wonder if their other senses are so keen to make up for their vision issues. [37:20] Marissa chats about having eye surgeries when she was a kid. [41:05] Marissa discusses her podcast called '.' [43:08] What are some things that have been the most helpful in managing your ADHD? [45:11] Eric and Marissa talk about the medication she is on. [46:56] Do generic drugs affect you differently than brand names? [49:07] Marissa shares how joining one of Eric's coaching groups has helped. [50:11] Marissa speaks about some things she took away from the coaching groups. [53:08] The group helped Marissa with anxiousness. [55:40] Thank you so much for coming on the show! [57:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Marissa: Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jun 16, 2020
325 | May 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan, Will Curb, and MJ
01:22:16
Have a question for the brain trust?  Listen as with his guests , and MJ answer questions from the listeners in our monthly Q & A session of . We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  We start the episode out with Erica asking what self-care means and when it is numbing instead of self-care. Eric shares that anything that restores health and wellbeing is self-care. Another listener asks about when something takes you off a task, what mental strategies he can use to resume the not so fun duties. Susan wants to know how to quell the agitation of waiting. Eric says to focus on the things you can control and influence, and boredom is the birthplace of creativity. Tyler discusses a late in life ADHD diagnosis, and Cheryl wants to know some alternatives to medication for focus, attention, and alertness. Melissa would like to know how to make herself get out of her chair in the evening to take her pills and brush her teeth. Ella wants to know how to stop losing things like her keys and glasses all the time. Steve makes the best chocolate, per Eric, and was in the middle of a significant expansion of his company when the coronavirus hit. He is having trouble dealing with the chaos of not knowing when he can resume, and it's hard on his mental health. The guys suggested that he make chocolate gift bags and take them to first responders and other people in his community to keep him busy and brighten their days. Brendan shares that we are in the middle of a pandemic. It is ok to feel frustrated, lost, and tired. Everyone is feeling the same way and waiting to get back to our daily lives is increasing frustration. Practice your self-care, exercise, get plenty of rest, and try to stop stressing. We all need to remember that this too shall pass and try to learn something from it. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:00] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb, Brendan Mahan, and MJ. [03:43] Erica asks, what does self-care mean? [04:38] Eric says that things that restore health and wellbeing are self-care. [05:33] Brendan shares his thoughts on self-care and what SHRED means. [07:28] Are massages a luxury or self-care? [09:17] Will speaks about self-care and the difference between numbing and self-care. [12:03] Trang has a question about when something takes us off task what mental strategies can we use to disengage to resume not such fun duties. [13:15] Eric says the first thing is to realize that you are off track and pause. [14:25] Will shares some helpful tips to use to get back on track. [15:55] Brendan speaks about what he does to stay on task. [18:58] Susan asks how do you quell the agitation of waiting. [19:47] Will says the anticipation of being bored is worse than waiting. [20:59] Brendan speaks about how he plans for waiting. [23:11] Focus on the things you can control and influence. [24:16] Boredom is the birthplace of creativity. [25:23] Tyler wants to know how people who received a diagnosis late in life pivot and move forward. [32:08] Tyler speaks about the pain points he is having. [34:45] What are the things that are getting in your way right now? [36:38] Brendan shares what he did to figure out if he wanted to do ADHD Essentials. [39:01] Eric discusses therapy and coaching for Tyler. [40:44] Brendan shares a new, better sleep assessment tool. [43:21] Cheryl asks what other treatments besides medication are suitable for focus, attention, alertness, and energy. [43:58] Why are you looking for alternatives?  [44:28] Eric says he is 100% pro trying medication. [46:38] Exercise is one of the top things that you can do with ADHD. [47:43] Brendan's SHRED model encompasses everything that you need. [48:43] Melissa wants advice on self-activating in the evening instead of lounging. [50:47] Eric says to have realistic expectations of what you can accomplish in the evenings. [52:13] What can you prep, so it's easy for you to get things done? [54:14] As an alternative, Brendan suggests having something far away from you go off, so you have to get up to stop it from happening. [1:00:35] Steve shares that he is having trouble getting a new routine in this chaos and feeling tired all the time. [1:02:50] Steve speaks about trying to manage during the pandemic and waiting for funds from the government. [1:04:17] Are you able to produce your product? [1:05:06] Eric is trying to come up with ideas on how Steve can move forward with everything in New Jersey being shut down from COVID-19. [1:07:11] Brendan shares the trauma of this pandemic is bringing people down and making them tired and restless. [1:09:30] Do you have something that you can do to help people? [1:10:21] Steve is feeling recharged, thinking of how he can help first responders with his chocolate. [1:12:42] Ella wants suggestions on how to stop misplacing objects like glasses. [1:12:58] Brendan says he loses items because he doesn't realize he has put them down. Be mindful of where you put things. [1:13:48] Eric says that is the best invention for when you misplace something. [1:17:15] Thank you, everyone, for listening! [1:18:05] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at  Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jun 09, 2020
323 | Feedback and Leadership with Peter Montoya
59:48
"Feedback is the oxygen of growth." Listen, as Eric and his guest Peter Montoya discuss what he means by this and why feedback should always be done confidentially. Peter talks about leadership development, conquering challenges, and the real-life experiences that drive his insights and ideas.  Peter Montoya is the  of “The Brand Called You” and his latest books, “Meetings Without Walls” & “Leadership Power”. He’s also a sought-after and highly motivational keynote speaker and leadership development strategist, specializing in developing high-performance teams. To find Peter, visit or call (949) 334-7070. Peter discusses what led to his ADHD diagnosis, how he tames his beast of a mind, and the barriers people have with self-reflection. Peter shares his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings and the three key steps to take to make them successful. Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today. Do you have trouble staying on task? Listen as Peter shares how he keeps focused on what he needs to do. He speaks about how leaders need to steer meetings and pull them back when they go off task, how to ask people for feedback, and accepting feedback without feeling defensive. Defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us. Peter is a triple threat, a gifted speaker, best-selling author, and successful entrepreneur. He has done so much in his life, and you won't want to miss him telling us some key things he has picked up along the way. You'll learn: [02:06] Welcome to the show, Peter! [02:26] Peter shares what he means by feedback is the oxygen of growth. [03:53] Peter says you should make sure your feedback is kind, honest, and specific. [05:12] Eric shares that sometimes feedback is delivered in two ways. [07:22] Peter speaks about how he was shamed in eighth grade. [09:58] When did you find out you had ADHD? [11:08] Peter discusses what it's like being an attendee at workshops. [14:30] Does it make you mad to not be understood? [15:52] Peter shares what he had to do to tame his beast of a mind. [17:04] Peter speaks about the barriers people have with self-reflection. [23:38] Peter shared his secret sauce for helping people have better meetings. [25:26] What are the critical steps to having a successful meeting? [27:23] Leadership development is the number one job of leaders today. [29:16] Peter speaks about how he stays on task and follows through with what needs to be done. [33:18] Peter shares suggestions on grabbing the key takeaway of a meeting in a more efficient way. [34:37] What do you do to bring a meeting back on task? [35:24] Peter speaks about how long and what he does to prepare for a meeting. [36:53] How long do you think a meeting should last? Should meetings be fun? [42:09] Peter shares how to ask people for feedback. [43:57] Peter speaks about what you should do if you get defensive while getting feedback. [46:17] Eric says that defensiveness is neurobiologically natural and healthy, we are wired to protect the image we want people to have of us. [48:48] What is the most influential piece of feedback you have ever received? [51:11] Peter speaks about how he keeps himself mindful when he tends to do something that isn't helpful in meetings. [53:54] Peter shares how people can learn more about him and his company. [54:36] Peter, thank you so much for sharing this time with us. [55:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Peter: Phone - (949) 334-7070 Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
May 26, 2020
322 | A World Without ADHD With Kirsten Milliken
56:35
Boredom is the mother of creativity. Listen, as your host and his guest Dr.Kirsten Milliken discuss the ways you can keep yourself and your kids busy during social distancing, having fun at the grocery store, and more on this episode of . Dr. Milliken is a licensed clinical psychologist, an ADHD Coach, and the author of She works and plays in Portland, Maine, with her two kids and partner Perry. She has ADHD and often says three quarters kidding and half-serious if it's not fun, I'm probably not doing it. As a psychologist and Coach, Kirsten has focused on educating her clients on the value of play in all of its forums. Listen as Eric and Kirsten discuss the new project she is doing called the , why this project interested her, and the book she is writing with the same name. Kirsten speaks about feeling guilty about working and making money during this crisis when others are struggling and that she and her partner are rehabbing a classic RV to stay busy during the pandemic. Eric and Kirsten share their favorite board game and arcade games, and Kristen speaks about wearing an inflatable pink unicorn costume when she goes to the grocery store as PPE and the response she gets. If you want to participate in the World Without ADHD project, please submit artwork, written word, or stories to , and if they like it, we will showcase it in the book and online. Kirsten says to use your boredom to get creative and submit your entries before the July 1, 2020 deadline. You'll learn: [01:37] Welcome back to the show, Kirsten [04:10] Kirsten shares a new project she launched called World Without ADHD. [05:49] Would you like to imagine a world without ADHD? [08:23] Do you think ADHD holds you back? [11:33] Eric speaks about the virtual open mics on Zoom that he has been doing. [13:42] Kirsten shares the reason they started this project. [16:24] Kirsten chats about needing people to submit a piece of art or written words to compete to publish their work in the book they are writing. [26:15] Kirsten shares that if you want to participate in the project, go to the website [29:21] What kind of writing do you do besides writing books? [30:14] Kirsten speaks about rehabbing a classic RV. [31:59] Kirsten shares how she has fun at the grocery store in her pink rainbow unicorn costume. [34:51] She talks about her baby head garden that comes out in the spring. [40:50] Kirsten chats about being in the pink uniform costume and the response she gets at the grocery store. [42:31] The due date for submission for World Without ADHD book is July 1, 2020, but get it in as soon as possible. [44:06] Kirsten, do you have a story you can share that you wrote? [47:05] Kirsten says that she believes play is one of the real natural anecdotes to ADHD challenges. [49:03] Eric discusses the board game Catch Phrase. [ 49:55] Kirsten speaks about her favorite arcade game when she was young. [51:00] Use your boredom to be creative! [51:25] Thank you so much for being on the show! [52:21] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
May 19, 2020
321 | April 2020 Q&A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:15:05
Are you almost always uncertain of the expectations and on shifting sand? This is just one topic we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Andrea starts off the questions, wanting to know what the guys do to get started when there are things to get done. Kelvin has some questions about hair loss while taking Ritalin, and a listener wants to know if they should make a doctor's appointment for their child if they think they have symptoms of ADHD. Listen, as Eric speaks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, Sara wants to know how to take a break when she is hyper-focused, and a listener wants to know how to take a course while struggling with structure. There is also a question about the perfect app for ADHD life management, and MJ wants to know how the guys are handling food and nutrition for their children since they don't have to pack lunches. A listener asks about how to build consistency, how to address the stress of not having enough work to do, and Cheryl has a question about people talking so fast that she is having issues understanding them. Remember, during this time, your children are not expected to progress in school, they are expected to maintain what they have already learned so make learning fun. As usual, the answers are varied and entertaining, but with what is going in our world, being entertained is what we need. So listen to this episode of ADHD, it will put a smile on your face. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [01:42] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:22] Brendan shares his positive perspective on Covid-19 and ADHD. [05:48] What is it you can do to thrive during this pandemic? [07:31] Will shares that he has less time now with the pandemic. [10:04] Andrea wants to know if any of the guys have a mantra or saying that kicks them into action. [11:03] Will shares what he says to find his first steps. [12:08] Brendan gives us what makes him start in the morning. [14:26] We can do hard things, but we don't have to do them in the hardest way possible. [16:50] Kelvin wants to know if Ritalin has hair loss side effects and can a cardiologist tell if my heart is fit for Ritalin? [17:48] They will do an EKG, and the cardiologist can discuss it with you from there. [18:54] Should I make a Dr appointment for my child because I think he has ADHD? [20:36] What are your thoughts on Sluggish Cognitive Tempo? [21:55] Eric addresses this disorder and shares what they looked at during a study. [24:14] Sara asks, how do you stop and take a break when hyper-focus takes hold? [29:36] Will speaks about taking planned breaks, drinking lots of water so that it forces you to take breaks. [30:15] Brendan says there is no rule that says you have to take a break. [33:35] Eric says with all strategies experiment with what works for you. [36:34] I want to use this time to take a course but I am struggling with structure, any thoughts? [36:54] Brendan says to ask and see if anyone wants to take it with you, which will add structure. [38:09] Do you have a favorite recommended fully integrated ADHD life management app? [38:23] There is no perfect app, look for function over form. [39:29] How do you determine what is the most important thing you need to do that day instead of bouncing around from task to task? [39:39] Eric says he rolls a die sometimes, something is better than nothing. [40:34] Think about what one thing you can do that will have the domino effect to make all the other tasks more manageable. [42:04] MJ's question is, how is everyone navigating nutrition at home, with not needing to pack lunches. [42:51] Eric talks about ordering food online and how frustrating that you can't always have what you want. [43:42] Will talks about what his children asked him to give them for breakfast. [45:00] Brendan goes to the store and is making more of an effort to make healthy lunches. [54:24] How do I build consistency?  [54:48] Erics speaks about consistency is a byproduct, not a goal! [55:45] If you write things down, you won't have a blank page every day. [56:28] Have a schedule posted to remain consistent. [57:57] Please address the stress of not having enough work to do. [58:26] Check in's work, and it's okay not to work 8 hours a day. [59:03] Do what you can do if your boss is not being transparent about what they want you to do. [1:00:31] Cheryl's issue is when people speak too fast and get upset with me when I ask them to repeat it. [1:01:05] Eric addresses this and shares how difficult it can be. [1:02:32] MJ, what are your thoughts on this? [1:03:39] Do you have any advice for parents who are trying to come to terms with teaching children from home during this uncertainty? [1:04:14] Your kids are not expected to progress during this time, maintain what they have already learned. Have fun! [1:06:34] Brendan and Will do you have a goal about how you want to feel this time next month? [1:08:25] Brendan's goal is to lead and to help as many people as he can while prioritizing his family over everyone else. [1:09:18] Eric wants to be doing just a little much better than he is right now. [1:09:42] Thank you, Brendan, Will, and MJ for being on this show! [1:10:03] Always do your best and know that your best will be different every day. [1:10:54] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
May 12, 2020
320 | 6 Years of Podcasting Listeners Share Stories
01:35:52
Have you ever done anything consistently for six years? Listen, as your host, , and all 20+ guests share stories about their connection to ADHD reWired and how the show has helped them on their ADHD journey. Join us as we celebrate six years of podcasting on this special episode of    Jessica shares what she has learned from Eric and how the show and being part of the ADHD community has helped her understand how her brain works. Adeola speaks about how he gained insight into his ADHD through the show and what he has accomplished in his life since he started listening to the podcast. Natalie talks about signing up for coaching with Eric after she heard her first episode, and Dr. Millican discusses what she is doing now. Listen, as Sharon speaks about how she found Eric and the podcast, another Jessica tells her story, and Eric shares what ADHD reWired is all about. Jessica Stilwell speaks about the scholarship she helped create for coaching groups, and Andrea talks about being diagnosed when she was nine but not understanding it until she started listening to the podcast. Jessica McCabe plays a song on her Ukulele and sings the beautiful words that mean so much to her. Gail discusses her diagnosis at age 58, and how she didn't have any information on it until she started listening to the show. MJ speaks about how she ended up in the community, and Daniel says he has no idea how he found Eric, but he is glad he did. These are just some of the stories from listeners who have been impacted by the ADHD reWired podcast, and they are all very grateful to Eric for shedding light on ADHD. You'll learn: [03:00] Hello, everyone! [03:51] Jessica McCabe shares where she heard of the show and how much she has learned from Eric. [06:19] Jessica thanks Eric for him helping her understand her brain. [08:11] How has being a part of an ADHD community helped you on your journey? [10:52] Adeola says he gained more insight into his ADHD and what he has accomplished since listening to the show. [12:35] Did many people reach out to you after you were on the show? [14:31] Natalie speaks about when she first started listening to the podcast and how she signed up for coaching right after she listened to the first episode. [17:01] She shares when she heard Eric say thank you to her on episode 300. [18:55] Adre chats about listening to the podcast for many years and how she met a bunch of people in Eric'sEric's mastermind. [21:34] The mastermind group let her know that she was good enough. [23:38] Hello Dr. Millican, how are you? [24:30] Eric shares who Dr. Millican is and what she is excited about doing now. [25:22] She is writing a book and is gathering words and artwork from people with ADHD. The website is [28:31] Sharon shares her story and how she found Eric and the podcast. [30:14] Sharon is now advising a group of coaches to notice the difference between ADHD and willpower. [39:00] Jessica says congratulations for six years and shares her story and diagnosis. [40:37] She speaks about starting at episode 1 and working her way through to the most current one. [42:46] Jessica joined a coaching group to be able to show up in her life. [44:31] Getting together, having a growth mindset, and working on stuff together is what ADHD reWired is all about. [46:04] Jessica Stilwell helped create a scholarship for the coaching group and has been listening to the podcast since the beginning and joined the accountability group. [49:22] How is your inbox? Is it still a struggle? [51:04] Andrea shares that she is very new to the group and was diagnosed with ADHD when she was nine. [53:09] She feels like in the last couple of weeks listening to the podcast she has learned more about herself than ever before. [54:52] Pat speaks about being in the most recent batch of the accountability group. [56:56] Thank you, Eric, for all the work you have done. [59:11] Jessica McCabe plays a song for us on her Ukelele that has a lot of meaning for her. [1:07:26] Gail discusses being diagnosed at age 58, but she still felt like there was no information for her, it wasn't until she met an adult ADHD coach. [1:10:31] She speaks about the fantastic support she has found in the community during this pandemic. [1:13:10] MJ shares how she ended up in the community and how she stumbled upon the podcast. [1:15:32] She loves being a part of such a like-minded group and she is a top-level Patreon. [1:16:17] Daniel says he has no idea how he found the podcast.  [1:17:30] He signed up for the coaching groups and noted that it helped so much and knowing that he wasn't alone. [1:19:56] Emily wants to express her gratitude and share her story. [1:20:39] She always considered herself chronically disorganized because she couldn't handle her email. [1:21:49] ADHD reWired is the first podcast she ever listened to and then signed up for an accountability group. [1:24:14] Mimota shares her story and what it felt like to connect with people. [1:27:00] Barbara shares what it has been like for her to get to know this community. [1:28:36] Thank you all for being here. [1:29:22] ADHD is the best community to connect to online. [1:30:00] We will do this again around year ten. [1:31:41] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
May 05, 2020
319 | Breaking the Silence as an African American Woman with ADHD
01:04:38
Have you ever asked yourself, 'what's wrong with me?' Listen, as your host and his guest Stacey Machelle discuss the challenges she faced in her career and personal life. Stacey talks about her diagnosis with ADD many years ago, and how her prayers and Ted Bundy led her to help. Stacey is a journalist by training and profession turned actor and stand up comedian. She works as a warm-up comic on , the late-night talk show on NBC, and she has about a dozen other side hustles. Stacey wanted to come on the show to talk about educating black women who are undiagnosed and untreated. Listen as Stacey shares her story and how she was diagnosed with ADD over twenty years ago and prescribed Ritalin. Still, since she saw no difference, and decided she didn't have it and forgot about it. Years later, when she was watching a Ted Bundy documentary, she heard what people said about him and thought hmmm.  Stacey discusses what happened when she disclosed her ADHD to her family and how it has gone a long way to healing the relationship she has with her mother. With her diagnosis, her mother and brother are looking at the possibility of also having , being very supportive, and learning all they can learn about ADHD. Listen as Stacy shares, wanting to get the message of ADHD out to the African American community because they will usually suffer in silence, put their head down and not tell anyone. Her message is you don't have to be silent any longer, talk about your mental health, and get help. She is using her platform as a comedian to raise awareness and put a face to ADHD. You'll learn: [03:02] Stacey, glad you are here! [03:12] Stacey shares her background and when she found that she was having challenges that others were not. [05:59] Stacey speaks about a therapist asking her if she thought she may have ADD. [08:55] Stacey shares that when she was working at the news stations she was fired and almost fired from many jobs. [10:48] What did you tell yourself when you had so many challenges in your careers? [12:58] Stacey talks about her therapist not knowing anything about ADHD. [16:43] Stacey shares a story of how she prayed for tools and the way her prayer was answered. [19:27] Stacey discusses Ted Bundy and how she googled her symptoms because she thought she might be a psychopath. [26:30] What was the response when you shared your ADHD with your family? [27:51] Stacey shares what happened when she disclosed her condition to a friend of many years. [30:47] Eric shares one of his favorite quotes from . [32:33] Stacey shares that her grandparents raised her. [33:49] Stacey discusses what happened when she told her mother. [37:23] Has your family been supportive of you and your diagnosis? [41:30] Stacey speaks about getting information to African American women and showing them the face of ADHD. [43:42] Stacey feels like nobody in the African American community will discuss mental health issues. [46:02] Stacey shares that her grandparents' generation didn't talk about their problems, but she is sure her grandfather had ADHD. [47:58] Stacey discusses going through a divorce and how her mother reacted when she set up a go fund me page. [51:30] She chats about being unmedicated for the last few days because she ran out of her medication. [53:04] Would you consider reaching out to your church to see if you could talk to the congregation about ADHD? [53:18] Stacey speaks about starting a YouTube channel and using sketch comedy to address symptoms. [54:55] What advice do you want to leave the listeners?  [57:42] When you are doing something that is purpose-driven and for others and changing people's lives, you get taken care of.  [59:10] Stacey, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your story! [1:00:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Apr 28, 2020
318 | Working From Home with Thanh Pham
01:10:15
Are you finding it hard to be productive while working from home? Listen, as and his guest Thanh discuss easy ideas and tips for working more productively from home. Thanh is the founder of , where he helps people become more productive at work and in life. He's also the co-host of the top productivity podcast on which Eric enjoyed being a guest not too long ago. Listen as Thanh shares why he decided to, and his struggle to be productive in a different atmosphere. Having a home office is the number one thing he believes you need. It can be anywhere, but it needs to be a dedicated place for you to work. Thanh also tells us what three things he feels are most important to have for that office. Do you set yourself a schedule while working from home? Listen, as Thanh discusses how important having a schedule is for productivity. He says to make your schedule is based on the time of day that you are most focused, whether that be the morning or afternoon. Eric and Thanh discuss the different calendar and to-do apps they like and what they recommend. Listen as Thanh speaks about finding the triggers you used at the office to make you productive and implement them at home. Block websites that distract you and put your phone in a different room or drawer so you can stay focused on the job at hand. Thanh says to set one goal a day and follow through on that but also get yourself into a routine. With so many people working from home, these tips and tricks that Thanh is sharing will keep us all productive even when we don't have the office structure to fall back on. If you are struggling with your work from home routine, this is an episode that you need to hear. You'll learn: [02:00] Thanh, welcome to the podcast! [03:25] Thanh shares a little about his background and how hard his commute to work was. [06:00] Thanh talks about why he needed to work from home and how his boss responded to his request. [08:45] Thanh discusses the three things people need to work productively from home. [11:09] How do you guide people to get their homes set up? [12:26] Thanh says you need a lovely backdrop behind you when working from home. [14:26] Don't use a wrinkled bed sheet; it looks very unprofessional. [15:19] A desk lamp is another thing that Thanh thinks is very essential. [17:26] Thanh says that a standing desk is also a great addition to your home office. [22:02] Eric believes that having the things you want and need easily accessible is beneficial. [28:05] Thanh discusses how important it is to have a schedule when working from home. [29:59] Create your plan for when you are the most focused. [31:51] Using a calendar when you have ADHD it is almost like learning a foreign language. Experiment and find what works for you. [33:54] Do you have trouble sticking to what you put on your calendar? [35:47] Thanh believes that having a schedule allows you to coordinate some time with other people. [37:07] Thanh shares what he believes are the best calendar apps. [40:01] Eric speaks about the apps he likes and uses. [44:01] Eric shares what he teaches in his coaching groups around to-do lists. [49:04] Thanh discusses how to be productive and execute now that you have your office and schedule set up. [50:12] You need to be aware of the differences between working from home and going to the office like the dress code and the extra time you have because you don't have to drive. [51:51] He says to think about the triggers you have at the office that make you productive and recreate that at home. [53:01] Eric says to experiment with what works for you. He feels that he is more productive when he dresses casually. [55:12] Thanh believes that blocking websites that distract you is essential. [56:16] The number one distraction is your phone, so try putting it away in another room or a drawer. [58:24] Thanh speaks about setting one goal for yourself a day so you can get work done. [59:34] Eric says to make your one goal ridiculously simple if you have ADHD. [1:00:12] The last thing that Thanh suggests is to get yourself into a routine. [1:02:27] Thanh, do you have any final thoughts for the listeners? [1:04:51] Thank you so much for being on the show! [1:06:02] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Thanh:
Apr 21, 2020
317 | March 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:09:05
Do you have an issue getting out of the house early that you are not late? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Mary has the first question today about how to get out of the house early enough to be on time because she is always late, Karen needs some advice on how to get her fourteen-year-old daughter to speed things up, and Gail wants to know if she has ADHD or if her challenges could stem from being OCD. Listen as Eric, Brenan, and Will give their insight and advice to each of these listeners. Ella would like to know how to close loops and finish projects, Alison is always late and is looking for ways to leave the house without having to finish something and Blake asks about how he can figure out if he is getting close to burnout at his job. Listen to what the panel tells these listeners and see if there is something that you can learn from the answers they give. The monthly Q&A is for you the listeners; it's an easy way to get answers to questions you don't want to ask anyone else. Eric, Brendan, and Will usually have had experience or have heard any question you can ask, so you can be sure that they will always give you their perspective and insight.  Your Resources: You'll Learn: [01:20] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [02:07] Mary is asking what she can do to keep from being late to everything. [03:58] Will shares how he was able to get into the habit of being on time. [04:52] Eric speaks about the impulse to do just one more thing. [07:24] Do you pay attention to how long you take to get out of the house? [10:16] Eric believes you should make predictions and then track time. [11:09] Karen's question is about her daughter with ADHD, who is slow in all aspects of life and is asking for advice. [12:52] Brendan says to make things easier as much as possible, using music to set the pace. [14:29] They all believe that it's ok not to give your all in all things, sometimes it's ok to be good enough. [17:18] Redefine your best because it can change daily. [19:01] Gail asks how do I know if my challenges are ADHD or could I be OCD? [20:56] Executive functioning is any goal-oriented behavior that is sent out to the world with a feedback loop that comes back to ourselves. [23:09] Eric speaks about rewiring the brain by increasing anxiety and then alleviating it, and your mind will be happy that it has helped you out. [24:46] Brendan chats about one area that ADHD and OCD can hang out together. [27:11] How much is your OCD affecting other people? [27:50] Gail shares some specific things she wants advice about. [30:33] Eric believes that Gail should practice leaving her house the way she should so that her brain knows what that means. [33:27] Is it possible to layout your day and put the value you place on each item? [39:11] Ella has a question about closing loops and unfinished projects. [41:07] Eric shares his ideas to help Ella get things done. [43:47] Shrink the scope; you can organize a shelf by taking out just one object; you don't need to clear the whole rack. [45:44] They share the difference between a maximizer versus a satisfier. [48:03] Brendan says that you are allowed to have things in more than one place. [49:33] Alison shares that she is always late and would like to know what she should do. [53:35] Blake wants to know what he can do during his workday to find out the pace he is working at. [53:51] Will gives his insight into this question with examples. [55:18] What have you done to prevent burnout before it's too late? [58:12] Eric says to take your vacations, and figure out if there is a time of year you feel burned out. [59:16] Brendan speaks about planning a break when you want to take one, so he doesn't just go on Facebook. [1:03:02] Check out Brendan and Will's podcasts and coaching groups. [1:04:04] Thank you, everyone, for listening. [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Apr 14, 2020
BONUS COVID-19 Questions answered by Diana Hagar
56:02
Hey there, ADHD reWired listeners, this is not a typical episode. This is a bonus episode that I am dropping in your feed. It is audio from a webinar with that we recorded on April 1, 2020. Diana is a medical doctor and a member of the ADHD reWired community, and I am just really grateful that she could spend an hour with us answering questions from a lot of you. Diana answered questions from the ADHD community on a variety of things like, how to keep yourself safe if you have asthma if you have kept yourself at home for two weeks can you be reasonably sure you don't have the virus and her thoughts on working from home. She also addressed how to keep people six feet away from you when they don't understand the meaning of social distancing and where to find your states updated information on the number of infected people and deaths from the coronavirus. They discuss throwing away the bags you bring your groceries home in, taking off your shoes when you walk in the door, and washing down your fruits and vegetables. Diana believes that you can use soap instead of disinfectants and that if you rinse with hot salty water, you can reduce your risk by forty to fifty percent.  Diana also debunks some myths around the virus and believes that it will not go away; we are all going to become immune to it. The virus doesn't seem to mutate as fast as the flu virus, so she believes that it will take about two years for a new strain to hit, and by then we should have a decent vaccination.  Diana shares that dealing with this virus while also having ADHD has enhanced all of her symptoms and made everything more intense. Have you noticed the same thing? Do you have any questions? This is the episode you need to listen to, so sit back and hit play. You'll learn: [03:14] Enjoy this special bonus episode with Dr. Diana Hager. [03:20] Diana starts out by giving us a little of her background and qualifications. [03:55] How has COVID19 impacted your work? [04:40] Diana answers Tara's question about how to keep safe when you have asthma. [07:11] Can we be reasonably confident that we don't have the virus if we have been quarantined for over two weeks? [09:22] Diana believes that if you work from home, you don't have to worry about touching your face at your desk. [10:58] How do you suggest we keep people six feet away from us when they don't seem to understand why. [13:31] Diana shares the world map that is updated with total infected and total deaths. [16:00] Check your state's health department for the most accurate totals. [18:00] Eric speaks about how he handled the sack he got his prescriptions in. [19:07] How can my partner, who is installing air conditioning units, protect himself when he goes to people's homes? [21:40] Diana doesn't think regular cloth masks are effective when working in the medical field. [24:35] Diana believes that sleep is very important, sleep when you can get your full amount of sleep will help your immune system the most. [26:01] Covering your hair and rinsing off your groceries are things that you should do when bringing your groceries home. [28:03] How can we keep ourselves from being bored to death? [30:05] Diana says that when our percent per day comes down below ten percent, the curve is flattening. [33:59] Can I use soap instead of disinfectants? [34:49] Diana shares that gargling with hot salty water can help forty to fifty percent. [36:51] How can you tell looking at a death rate of say 10% whether that is due to insufficient testing or the overwhelmed medical system? [38:18] Diana speaks that it could be another month before they do widespread testing. [41:06] What should someone do if they have an urgent medical need and they live in a hot spot? [44:16] Diana addresses a question about being exposed from walking on our dog's paws or the road. [45:37] Diana says that the virus is nothing more than a strand of genes inside of a protein capsule. [47:18] How do we handle mail and Amazon deliveries? [48:10] As a doctor with ADHD, how is ADHD showing up for you with all of this? Has it become more intense? [49:49] Diana debunks some myths around the virus. [51:12] Are we going to have to deal with this in the fall? [52:56] Are babies safe? Are children? Expectant mothers? [55:05] Is there anything else you want to share with the listeners? [55:29] Thank you so much for coming on the show and answering questions.
Apr 10, 2020
316 | Autism, ADHD, Gender and Conscientiousness
01:06:49
Do you know anyone who has been diagnosed with both Autism and ADHD? Listen, as and his guest Becca discuss her diagnosis, how ADHD shows up differently in women, why she is interested in studying conscientiousness in this realm and much more on this episode of ADHD . Becca is earning her master's degree in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and hopes to use her knowledge in individual differences, such as ADHD in personality and training in Industrial-Organizational Psychology, to help organizations create inclusive work environments for employees.  Becca challenges the statement that people with Autism and ADHD are not high in conscientiousness. She shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her, and how she has been told that she can't be on the spectrum because she is so smart. Eric discusses the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the arguments around both. Listen, as Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD, withdrawing from people because of her daily struggles and what led her to seek a diagnosis for ADHD. She shares her sensory challenges, and the never-ending battle to be on time. Did you know that social communication is an executive social function? Eric and Becca discuss the fact that women are socially wired to mirror their environment and how she works through social interaction. Eric asks a hypothetical question about a red pill and a blue pill if one of them would cure ADHD. Would you take it? Becca shares her struggles with Autism and ADHD; some of them are embarrassing, while others are frustrating. Her goal is to help others by telling her story and let people who have the same issues know they are not alone. This is one of those conversations that will make you look at yourself and say, hmmm. You'll learn: [02:32] Becca, welcome to the podcast! [03:01] Becca shares her diagnoses of Autism and ADHD. [06:46] She challenges the statement that people with Autism are not high in conscientiousness. [09:03] Eric shares the definition of conscientiousness. [10:03] Becca questions whether people with ADHD are low in conscientiousness. [12:00] Have you been told you can't be on the spectrum because you are so smart? [13:14] Eric says that it is essential to understand that we are all different in the way we show up. [13:37] What got you interested in studying consciousness in this realm? [15:34] Becca shares her understanding of Autism and how it shows up for her. [18:02] Becca speaks about having a case manager come to talk to her and her mom and ask if she could use a spoon and fork. [19:45] Eric chats about the difference between Autism and Aspergers and the argument around both. [26:02] Becca speaks about how gender and conscientiousness change the manifestation of ADHD. [28:44] Have you felt shame or guilt because you forgot to go to the store or didn't have dinner? [30:18] Becca speaks about withdrawing from others because she struggles to manage her everyday life. [32:00] Becca shares a story about what led to her diagnosis of ADHD. [33:03] Becca chats about the struggle to be on time when she goes somewhere. [34:37] What is the hardest part for you of having ADHD? [36:34] Becca speaks about having sensory challenges and what it is like for her. [38:38] Did you know that social communication is an executive social function? [40:20] Eric speaks about some studies that show women are more socially wired to mirror their environment. [47:32] Becca shares how she works through social interaction in her brain. [49:30] Do you show empathy differently from people around you? [51:18] Becca speaks about smiling and laughing at funerals when everyone else is crying. Not because she is happy, but because she can't control it. [53:32] Eric chats about teaching micro-expressions and training. [56:02] Are you different but not less? Do you know your strengths and challenges? [58:16] Eric speaks about the hypothetical question about if you could take a pill to make your ADHD go away would you take it? [1:00:52] Is there anything you want to say to the listeners? [1:01:03] Becca, thank you so much for sharing your story! [1:01:18] If you are wondering if you have Autism or ADHD, find a specialist. [1:02:36] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Apr 07, 2020
315 | Finding Happy with Lindsay Weisner
01:03:30
What is it about the word suicide that makes you want to whisper? Is it a feeling of shame, guilt, or isolation? Listen, as your host and his guest Dr. Lindsay Weisner discuss the stigma around the word suicide and how important it is for people to have the conversation. They also share that talking to someone about your feelings lets you know that you are not alone, and it might help you find happiness in your life, and much more on this episode of .   Lindsay is a clinical psychologist in Long Island, NY, and graduated from . She was awarded fellowships in child development at the and the . Lindsay also received her doctorate at and pursued postdoctoral training at the . Dr. Weisner is the current host of the and the Co-Author of the book Listen, as Lindsay describes being diagnosed with ADHD at forty-two, her son being diagnosed, and the impact that the prescribed medicines have had on them both. Lindsay also speaks about the book she co-authored and her mom's substance abuse and mental health issues. She shares about her mom's multiple suicide attempts, what that did to her family, and why she believes that helping individuals who are thinking about suicide is her calling. Talking about mental health issues and suicide isn't easy, but if you push the trepidation aside and open up the conversation, you might be surprised at what you can accomplish. Dr. Lindsay Weisner's passion is to help bring light to people who only see darkness. If you resonate with any of this, please listen to this episode and start the conversation. You'll learn: [02:38] Lindsay, welcome to the show! [05:10] Lindsay shares about being diagnosed with ADHD eight months ago after she was told she wasn't living up to her full potential as a child. [07:16] She speaks about her son being diagnosed with ADHD and depression.  [10:11] Lindsay shares how getting him on meds changed him completely. [11:11] She chats about being diagnosed with ADHD and what that meant for her. [14:00] They discuss her being a psychologist, not a psychiatrist. [18:44] Lindsay discusses her book and why she wrote it. [19:49] Eric warns that they will be talking about suicide. [21:16] Lindsay talks about winning the first-ever Cosmopolitan Fiction in 2014 and meeting the author she wrote the book with. [25:24] Lindsay speaks about a slew of teenagers in her small town killing themselves.  [28:04] She talks about growing up knowing her mom had some substance abuse issues and finding out her mom had attempted suicide. [30:03] Lindsay chats about being in graduate school and her mom's other suicide attempts. [36:50] Lindsay shares what made her want to work with the suicidal population. [38:48] She discusses the , which allows someone to be put on a 72 hours hold against their will. [43:15] Lindsay chats about setting up an event to raise awareness of suicide. [45:33] Lindsay speaks about all the celebrities she got to back the event. [47:54] How are you coping with this and taking care of yourself? [50:26] Lindsay gives her insight into why people are afraid to bring up suicide. [54:25] Lindsay shares her favorite one of the ten steps, which is 'find your passion, find your purpose.' [57:41] Thank you so much for sharing with us on the podcast today. [59:17] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Lindsay:  @psychshrinkmom |
Mar 31, 2020
314 | Toiletpaperpocalypse With Jessica McCabe
01:29:42
Does humor help you get through insane moments in your life? Eric and Jessica wanted to do this special episode to give you the listeners some ideas on what you can do to stay sane during this uncertain time in the world, and humor is at the top of the list along with exercise and staying in touch with the ADHD community. They share the alternatives they found for exercise when the gym is too risky, why going to the store can bring on anxiety, and what they plan to do if they run out of toilet paper. Jessica speaks about what the media is reporting and how, at times like this, reporters need to be very careful about what they share. Eric and Jessica chat about the paper product shortage, the hope that mindsets will change once this is over, and the good that can come from all of this uncertainty. They discuss why social distancing is so essential and how this would be a good time for a futuristic technology like doors that don't have a doorknob. Since laughter is always the best medicine, they share jokes, Facebook posts, comments, and other nonsensical things to lighten the mood because you can only take so much of this new reality. Eric and Jessica also chat about being kind to your significant other if you are both stuck working from home. Try not to fight. Have you heard that meditation exercises are a great way to cope with stress and anxiety? Listen as Eric and Jessica give some tips and ideas on ways to use this technique. They also share how grateful they are for their ADHD communities and the hope that this episode will ease some issues that can come from the craziness in this beautiful world we live in. You'll learn: [02:38] We wanted to do this episode to share ideas on how to stay sane during this crazy time. [03:16] Jessica is here to discuss the importance of humor in this unique situation. [05:22] They speak about how things are weird now, especially for those with ADHD. [07:12] Have you found an alternative to exercise? What is it? [09:50] Eric shares how exercise helps him cope with life, but it isn't worth the risk of going to the gym. [12:01] Eric chats about what he found to replace going to the gym. [14:34] Jessica speaks about how overwhelming things are right now and how it is affecting her mental health. [16:40] Does going to Costco or Sam's right now cause you to have a panic attack? [18:51] When watching the news, think about what information you need in your life. [21:01] They discuss the shortage of toilet paper and paper towels and alternatives if they run out. [22:43] Jessica believes that some good stuff will come from all of this uncertainty. [23:42] Eric hopes the mindset changes around the culture of selfishness. [25:04] Jessica says that is very important for the media to be careful with what they share. [27:37] Eric shares why social distancing is so essential to keep the virus at manageable levels. [29:25] They discuss some funny things they have read on Facebook. [32:30] Are you working from home with your significant other? Are you fighting? [34:15] Eric speaks about posting on his Facebook page asking everyone how they were doing. [36:21] Jessica chats about posting on Twitter and the responses she is getting. [38:35] Eric and Jessica share jokes that were published in their groups. [42:01] Eric shares the audio of a government official forgetting to take their mic off when they went to the bathroom. [45:01] Do you think there will be futuristic technology put in place because of the coronavirus? [47:16] Jessica shares that Forbes agrees with her that laughing is the best medicine to deal with COVID-19. [49:00] Without a routine, do you feel like you don't know what you are doing or get anything done? [51:07] If you are new to ADHD and don't have any coping strategies and are quicker to frustration, try meditation practices. [53:49] Eric describes how you can use food as a form of meditation. [56:10] What do you have to have to keep you sane for the next few weeks? Food? Exercise? [59:00] Eric shares how his seasonal affective disorder makes him feel. [1:01:23] They feel like this situation is stripping everyone back to the basics. [1:03:58] Do gratitude practices make you feel worse?  [1:05:21] You can't chase happiness because a lot of things we do to pursue happiness make us unhappy. [1:07:26] Eric speaks about being grateful for the community that they have. [1:09:36] Jessica, what are you doing this weekend for self-care? [1:13:10] Drink water, hold on to an ice cube, or dunking your head in water are ways to ground you during an anxiety attack. [1:15:21] Eric discusses family planning during this time of self-quarantine. [1:16:45] While we may be dealing with some severe stuff, let's try not to take ourselves so seriously. [1:18:42] Stay connected to the community if you need to talk. 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Mar 24, 2020
313 | ADHD Inks in Creative Work & Relationships
58:01
Has your ADHD meds made a difference in your life? Listen as and his guest, , discuss this and much more in this episode of . Jordan is a semi self-employed professional tattoo artist and single parent. He was diagnosed with ADHD about two years ago and is just now learning how profoundly his ADHD has affected his life and relationships and is possibly the reason he started doing tattoos as opposed to a more conventional career. Jordan shares the reason he started doing tattoos, why he enjoys giving and getting them, and the connection for him between pain and expression. He gives his opinion on what people don't understand about tattoos and the challenges he faces with being a single dad and his work schedule. Jordan chats about raising a child who has ADHD, how he reels himself in when his son is disrespectful, and how his meds have helped him in both work and his life at home with his son. Have you ever wanted to get a tattoo? Jordan talks about some tattoos he wishes he didn't have and why he got them. Take notes as he explains some ways to remove them and why colors sometimes don't look the same when you use them to cover up specific colors of tattoos. Listen as Jordan discusses how ADHD affected his past relationships, what he has learned about himself and relationships, and what he will look for in his next relationship. Jordan also describes his seasonal depression and the final thoughts he wants to share with the listeners. You won't want to miss Eric's conversation with this fascinating man with a highly misunderstood career. You'll learn: [02:31] Jordan, welcome to the show! [03:41] Jordan shares why he started in the tattoo field. [05:20] Why do you think tattoos are your passion? [07:32] Jordan explains the connection for him between pain and expression. [08:56] What do you think people don't understand about tattoos? [10:45] Jordan speaks about the tattoo on his face, why he got it there. [13:36] Jordan discusses being a single father and the challenges with his schedule. [15:08] Jordan shares what it's like being ADHD and raising an ADHD child. [16:24] What do you think helps you reel yourself back in when he's disrespectful? [23:32] Jordan explains why he said that his job is the most terrible, perfect job. [26:44] Jordan shares how being diagnosed with ADHD and taking the meds have affected his work. [28:50] Have you ever made a mistake when doing a tattoo? Can you tell us about it? [32:45] Jordan chats about constantly diagnosing his clients mentally with ADHD. [33:41] Do you have any tattoos you regret getting? Can you tell us why? [38:59] Jordan discusses how in hindsight he can see how ADHD affected his past relationships. [41:56] They talk about his son's mother and the relationship he had with her before being diagnosed with ADHD. [43:17] Jordan shares what pushed him to seek a diagnosis. [44:02] Jordan speaks about his last relationship and how it was affected by his ADHD. [45:42] What have you learned about yourself as a result of going through relationships now that you have ADHD? [47:55] Jordan chats about not wanting to disappoint people and feeling like he was never enough. [49:36] Jordan shares what he will watch for and look for in his next relationship and the whiteboard on which he writes everything he needs to remember. [51:52] Do you have any final thoughts for your listeners? [52:54] Jordan, thank you so much for sharing your story! [53:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Jordan: |
Mar 17, 2020
312: February 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:09:37
Forgiveness and acceptance are critical when learning to manage your ADHD while remembering it is a rollercoaster, and the goal is to make the ups and downs a little less extreme. This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our first question today is how to revive yourself after a hard task when your tank is empty, and Lauren asks for tips when prioritizing projects. Debra has two topics she wants to discuss: one is about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression, and the second is advice on coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old. Another listener is requesting tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff, Emma wants some ways to manage her hyperfocus at work, and Princess wants to know what the first thing she should tackle when trying to control her ADHD. A listener asks if it's okay to take her medication only during the week and take the weekends off, and Eric shares that it is recommended to maintain your dosage each day seven days a week. Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we discuss not only your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your and your experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:21] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [03:23] Erica asks the first question about how to revive after a hard task when your tank is empty. [06:01] Erica and Eric speak about coping mechanisms. [08:20] Brendan shares his thoughts on Erica's question. [09:47] Will suggests scheduling a five to ten-minute walk to give the brain a break. [12:01] Lauren wants to know their best tips for prioritizing. [14:18] Eric shares a book that he requires his members to read called "."  [16:00] They speak about prioritizing self-care and planning goals in advance. [19:26] "You can do anything, but you can't do everything." [25:45] Debra has a question about comorbidities like attentive type anxiety and depression. [27:10] Eric shares his thoughts on how common anxiety and depression are with late-diagnosed ADHD. [28:43] What are some coping strategies for a nineteen-year-old in college? [30:11] Eric shares his college experience at nineteen and how hard it was for him to go to morning classes. [32:31] is a book that Eric recommends to any college student. [34:02] A listener wants some tips for scheduling life stuff rather than work stuff. [36:18] Brendan shares his ideas on this subject and how he handled it. [39:51] Will gives his insight on working so much you don't have time for life stuff. [43:30] Emma has a question about managing her hyperfocus at work. [46:09] Eric speaks about going into hyperfocus in a planned way. [49:12] Brendan, do you have anything you want to add? [51:22] Will shares his thoughts on hyperfocus and what she could try. [52:37] Princess wants to know the first thing they suggest to tackle when trying to manage her ADHD. [55:01] They all speak about knowing when ADHD wins and don't beat yourself up; forgiveness and acceptance are so important. [57:19] Do you recommend continuing your medication on weekends? [58:35] Eric chats about what can happen when you don't take your medicine as prescribed. [1:00:52] Will shares his experience with taking his meds. [1:03:14] As always, talk to your doctor and make sure they know ADHD. [1:04:10] Thank you, Brendan, and Will for being on the show. [1:05:24] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Mar 10, 2020
311 | Migraines, Fibromyalgia, Grit, Is It ADHD?
01:23:39
Do suspect you have , but you don't know for sure because you have to wait months for your diagnosis? That is precisely what Eric's guest Angela is waiting on. Listen as Eric and Angela discuss the challenges she is facing trying to cope with this while balancing school, work, and family life while also dealing with and Angela shares how watching the way her son acted gave her flashbacks to herself at that age and was the catalyst that made her look into ADHD as a cause. She also speaks about having migraines most of her life and how her parents' mistrust of doctors made it challenging to find a medicine that would help. Angela describes what she goes through when she wakes up with a migraine and what steps she has to take to make sure she can function with her busy schedule. When you went to college, did you know what you wanted to do, or did you change majors multiple times? Listen as Angela shares her journey through college to finally determining that psychology is where her heart is. She also discusses her diagnosis, her pregnancies, going back to school to get her graduate degree, and why she won't stop until she achieves it. Angela speaks about how important it is to her to learn all she can about ADHD, so if the diagnosis is definite, she will know what to do and how to help her son. Angela is a very strong, determined woman and even though she has faced adversity her whole academic career she has never let go of the to finish what she started. Her strength and determination are to be celebrated, and maybe listening to her will push you forward to finishing something you didn't think you could do.  You'll Learn: [02:44] Angela, welcome to the show! [03:40] Angela shares that she has been waiting since October for the evaluation to diagnose ADHD. [04:27] What triggered the thought that you might have ADHD? [07:02] Angels speak about her family not really believing in doctors and dealing with migraines without proper treatment. [09:04] Angela chats about her sensor sensitivity and how it can sometimes be overwhelming. [11:20] Angela describes how it feels when she wakes up with a migraine. [13:09] How do you get up every day knowing that one of these episodes can knock your whole day off-kilter? [15:58] Angela shares why she has her drive and grit to succeed and doesn't let anything stop her. [18:00] Angela chats about being able to sing opera and what caused her to lose the joy of singing. [20:30] She speaks about how hard the decision was to quit singing. [22:50] Angela says that singing didn't fulfill her, and she felt like she was preparing to make other people happy when she didn't care about it at all. [26:43] Angela describes all the different majors she chose at the University of Oregon. [29:15] Angela shares what made her get into psychology. [32:44] How long has it taken you to get through the undergrad years in college? [35:00] Angela speaks about her grades and having incompletes which kept her from graduating in 2010. [36:54] She started taking pre-reqs for nursing in 2014 while pregnant. [37:41] How was your pregnancy with all of your sensory sensitivities? [40:34] Angela shares that two years after her son was born she went back to the for psychology and has almost finished her degree. [43:01] Being a stay at home mom left her feeling unfulfilled because she had things she wanted to do. [44:43] Angela shares when she was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. [46:31] Angela describes what having Fibromyalgia feels like. [53:00] What was the tipping point that made you want to seek out an ADHD diagnosis? [55:14] Angela says that her life has a bunch of pieces like a messy puzzle. [57:55] Angela shares her job as a project coordinator for a neuroscience experience, and how much time it takes. [59:13] Angela started reading about ADHD and it resonated with her. [1:00:19] How has the experience been for you as you learn more about ADHD? [1:03:03] Angela speaks about the struggle she faces going back to school for her graduate degree. [1:04:52] Angela shares that she let her professor know the issues she was having and her waiting on the ADHD diagnosis and his lack of response. [1:07:10] They discuss how nervous she was to come on the podcast and talk about her possible ADHD diagnosis. [1:10:10] Eric acknowledges Angela's grit and tenacity to keep going to school even though it has taken many years. [1:12:36] Are you someone who appreciates harmony and beauty? Someone who resolves issues? [1:13:09] Angela, thank you for sharing so much with us! [1:15:20] Eric believes that everyone should make their mess their message. [1:16:46] Angela, do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners? [1:19:27 ] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Mar 03, 2020
310 | Decision Making and Uncertainty with Merage Ghane
01:18:35
Have you ever just wanted to sit in a closet for some quiet time to study and eliminate distractions? Listen in as Eric and his guest Merage Ghane discuss why she did this, and many other topics on this episode of . Merage is a Clinical Psychology Ph.D. student in the eighth year of her PH.D. She shares her journey through being turned down many times to Ph.D. programs to finally being accepted and then getting her diagnosis. Merage shares the struggles she had in college with concentration, how her parents reacted to her ADHD diagnosis, and why she chose to research the topic of uncertainty for her dissertation. Merage also discusses her research, what she is looking for within the study, the details of the scenarios she puts her test subjects through and how this research plays out in real-world situations with the variables that can affect the analysis. Listen as Merage shares why she initially started her research on individuals with autism and attention networks, what she is looking for with her research, and the hardest thing about managing her ADHD while going through the P.h.D program. Merage used her real name in this episode because even though there could be repercussions, the fact is that she has ADHD, and she doesn't want to hide it. Merage and Eric discuss how magical the ADHD community is, and what takeaways from the alumni coaching group she finds helpful. Merage is showing everyone that people with ADHD can accomplish anything they set their minds too. She isn't letting her diagnosis slow her down, and neither should you. If any of this resonates with you, plug in and listen to this amazing woman. You'll Learn: [01:46] Merage, welcome to the show! [02:37] Merage shares where she went to school and where she is now. [03:27] She shares her story from almost being diagnosed with ADHD in high school to her college career. [05:04] Merage speaks about grad school and taking time off to get married. [07:33] Have you always had a resilient spirit? [08:10] Merage shares when she was actually diagnosed with ADHD. [10:00] Merage speaks about studying in a closet with a silence please on the door. [13:08] When you were diagnosed were you struggling with classes? [14:20] Merage chats about being a girl with ADHD and how many women are diagnosed. [16:09] She shares how telling her parents about the diagnosis and their acceptance. [17:56] Merage tells us her parents were immigrants and how that affected who she trusted as she grew up. [20:47] Merage shares what her research is about and how she decided to research this topic. [26:00] She speaks about the issues she is studying for her dissertation. [26:58] What are you looking for with this research? [28:33] Merage describes the scenarios she puts before her subjects. [31:41] How does your research play out in real-world situations? [33:03] Merage shares the variables she is looking at that can affect the outcome of her research. [34:27] Merage says she takes a very dimensional approach to psychopathology. [37:34] Are you looking at the day to day decision making? [40:32] Merage shares why she started looking at individuals with autism and attention networks. [42:45] They speak about social executive function and how emotions change often and move quickly. [44:23] Merage chats about a 3-minute talk competition she took part in and why. [45:28] What's the hardest thing for you while managing your ADHD through a P.h.D program? [46:13] Merage shares why she decided to use her real name even though there could be repercussions. [54:23] Merage speaks about being in some coaching groups and the relatable experiences people shared. [56:18] Why did you want to join the coaching groups? [58:21] She discusses the challenges she had finding room in her schedule for the groups and how flexible the supervisors were. [1:00:56] What did you take away from the coaching groups? [1:02:51] Merage shares how she has been sleeping and the fact that she isn't getting any natural light. [1:05:02] What are some things from the alumni sessions that have been helpful? [1:08:02] Eric speaks about the ADHD conference and how magical the ADHD community is. [1:09:10] Do you have anything else you want to share with the listeners? [1:11:24] Merage thank you so much for being on the show today! [1:15:05 ] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Feb 25, 2020
309 | Rethinking Adult ADHD with Dr. Russell Ramsay
01:04:52
Breaking down the increments of time to organize behavior for people with ADHD is like driving in fog at slow speed. Listen to Eric and his guest as they discuss this, and many other topics on this episode of . Dr. Ramsay is the co-founder and co-director of the and an . He is also the author of five books, including the recently released , along with many articles with issues relating to ADHD.  How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable? Listen as Eric, and Dr. Ramsay discuss Cognitive Behavior Therapy, the difference between agency and efficacy, automatic negative thoughts, and core beliefs. Dr. Ramsay also shares that there are no trade secrets with coping strategies; the issue is with implementation and follow-through. Eric wonders if clients can be taught to change the questions they ask themselves and instead of being discouraged because all of something does not work, look and see if a part of it will work, look at the smaller picture.  Listen in as Dr. Ramsay shares the difference between procrastination and front end perfectionism, along with general cognitive disorders in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD. Dr. Ramsay says that it is ok to start toward something with the end in mind, but remember to implement the next incremental step to reach the goal.  Eric and Dr. Ramsay both share some extraordinary information about ADHD. Even though Cognitive Behavior Therapy sounds hard, these two break it down into layman terms so that we can all understand it. Small steps with realistic expectations can help you reach whatever goal you want to achieve. You'll Learn: [02:47] Dr. Russell Ramsay, welcome back to the show! [03:09] Dr. Ramsay why are we rethinking adult ADHD? [05:40] He speaks about the main cognitive theme in CBT [Cognitive Behavior Therapy]. [08:04] Dr. Ramsay discusses a scale that measures distorted positive thoughts. [09:57] Do you know the difference between agency and efficacy? [12:30] Dr. Ramsay speaks about automatic negative thoughts and core beliefs. [15:45] There are no trade secrets for coping strategies we know they work, the problem is implementation. [18:06] How do we break down tasks to make them more actionable? [28:56] Dr. Ramsay addresses the overgeneralization of distortions in positive and negative ways. [31:46] Eric wonders if maybe clients should be taught to change the questions they ask themselves. [33:17] Dr. Ramsay says that writing is hard for everyone, so if you can sequence your thoughts conversationally, it can help you express things in a more precise way. [34:20] Are there differences in general cognitive distortions in the general population versus overgeneralization with ADHD? [37:02] Dr. Ramsay speaks about procrastination and front end perfectionism. [38:03] Dr. Ramsay shares some areas of perfectionism that many people do not recognize and productive procrastination. [41:04] What something you can do behaviourally even though it is not actionable? [47:44] Dr. Ramsay discusses the unrealistic expectations of reality, lowering the bar of sufficiency. [50:30] Organizing behavior across time towards an outcome that we want to achieve. [51:33] Dr. Ramsay says to start with the end in mind but implement the next incremental step toward your goal. [53:51] How long does it take for replacement thoughts to become automatic? [56:39] Dr. Ramsay gives examples from a study of framing bias and remarks that framing a task so that it is actionable makes it seem more natural to accomplish. [57:43] Dr. Ramsay, do you have any final thoughts for our listeners? [59:28] Thank you so much for being on the show today. [1:00:41] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Dr. Ramsay: by J. Russell Ramsay
Feb 18, 2020
308 | January 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:19:22
Have you ever heard anyone say, "lazy is learned helplessness brought about by a lack of skills"? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  We start with a question about doing tasks when you don't feel well and how to hit a pause button around these tasks instead of a stop button. Getting accountability groups set up when you want to make sure you are accomplishing what you set out to do, how to ask a friend to be your accountability partner, and how to set up ground rules about what accountability is and isn't. It is always easier to have an accountability partner that is doing something similar or at least in the same ballpark as what you are doing. A mom of a 7th grader asked the team how she should respond to his failing grades and his resistance to taking the prescribed medicines. Laura asks for tips on how to not beat yourself up over a failure to complete calendar tasks, and Jennifer from the U.K. wants to know if they have ever had someone on the podcast from an area where the resources are limited. Jennifer is also curious about the team's response to podcasts that are selling products to manage ADHD like essential oils as an alternative to medicines. Listen in as we cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:19] Welcome our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brenden Mahan. [03:00] Madeline starts off with a question about getting tasks done when she is not feeling well. [04:40] Will and Brenden give their feedback on what is a priority when they are not feeling well. [07:01] Eric speaks about having the flu and the response he got when he couldn't get an episode out. [08:50] Beware of the guilt, shame and anxiety feelings that can surface. [12:08] Blake has an issue with his accountability and is asking for help. [14:35] Eric asks if there are certain things he has found helpful in the past. [15:45] What is the purpose of your need for accountability? [18:05] They discuss setting up a daily task list and sharing it with someone. [20:21] The follow up is a crucial thing with accountability. You need to report back to someone. [23:21] Alexis is asking how do you choose a non-therapist to be your accountability partner? [23:41] Eric speaks about needing to know what accountability is and what it isn't. [24:29] Will says that setting up ground rules, in the beginning, is very helpful. [26:20] Do you need an accountability partner to be doing something similar to what you are doing? [32:02] Andrew feels either everything is great or everything is terrible and wants to know if they have any tips to help to level this out. [33:57] Eric wants to know what time he is going to bed versus what time he is falling asleep and when he is waking up. [36:34] Do you regularly? Do you eat correctly? [39:08] When you have ADHD you have to think about your brain, do things that self-monitoring. [40:20] A mom shares that her son is struggling with school and resistant to meds, she is asking for ideas. [41:35] Brenden says that she needs to find out where the breakdown is at school and activate his school team to help figure this out. [44:09] Do you know where the skill deficit is? What is going on right now? [46:51] Brenden gives an example of how it feels to kids when they are trying hard, but the outcome doesn't show it. [48:46] Laura wants to know how to manage the tendency to ignore your calendar to-do list? [50:03] When you realize you haven't looked at your calendar, look at it, don't beat yourself up. Be more resilient, get up when you fall down. [52:03] If you can only get one thing done today, what would that be? [52:44] Will shares his tricks for getting back on track when he falls down. [54:18] Don't beat yourself up because you missed a few days on your calendar starting with today. [58:48] Jennifer wonders if they have ever had anyone on their podcasts from different areas like the U.K. about the limited resource. [1:03:08] Do you have any tips for people looking for evidence-based resources on ADHD? [1:05:05] Drug-free advertising for all-natural approaches for ADHD keeps people from trying the medication that could get their lives together. [1:07:11] Brenden gives his insight into alternative ways to manage ADHD. [1:10:30] Will believes that the more things claim to cure, the less it probably cures. [1:11:26] Eric says that they support science and are curious about magic is what he believes is the consensus. [1:12:03] Jennifer, thank you for your questions! [1:13:16] Will and Brenden thank you as always. [1:13:31] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at
Feb 11, 2020
307 | Suicide and ADHD with Roberto Olivardia
01:00:00
Were you aware that suicidal tendencies are more common in people with untreated ADHD? Listen to guest, , as he explains his findings and gives his insight into the research that supports these statistics. Roberto is a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Department of Psychiatry at the . He also has a private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, where he specializes in the treatment of ADHD and many other disorders.  Roberto shares how he got involved with the study of ADHD and suicidality, and the research showing that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide. explains the Roberto believes that people with ADHD sometimes feel like they don't fit in, which is why finding their tribe is so important.  Feeling like you don't belong, and are a burden to the people you love, can be a catalyst to suicide. If this resonates with you, please don't hesitate to call the for help. Do you have any thoughts of hurting or harming yourself? If you are worried about someone, don't be scared to ask them this question. Roberto informs us that asking the question can erase the stigma and let them know that others are having these kinds of thoughts, and it's ok to talk about it. Listening without overreacting is the first thing you should do and never simplify what they are feeling. But if you believe that they are in imminent danger, it's time to get help by whatever means necessary. Listen to this in-depth conversation on the statistics of suicide and ADHD. Eric and Roberto give a roadmap on what to do and say if you know someone who might be following a path of darkness without any hope of finding the light. Suicide is a subject that should be talked about, so spread the word you never know who you might be able to help. You'll Learn: [02:57] Roberto, welcome back to the show! [03:07] Roberto please fill us in on how you got involved with ADHD and suicidality. [04:12] He gives us statistics on the number of people who die by suicide every year. [05:52] Roberto shares how ADHD can impact the treatment when dealing with both issues. [07:04] There is research that shows that individuals with ADHD have a higher risk of self-harm and suicide. [07:24] Does that include people with ADHD but have never had depression? [09:31] Roberto shares a study following kids with ADHD ages 4 to 6 for fourteen years showing how many of them had a plan for suicide during that time. [10:32] Roberto describes the difference between self-harm versus suicide. [13:02] He speaks about author a leading suicide specialist and his book [15:57] Because people with ADHD are prone to impulsiveness, could there be a non-attempt attempt at suicide? [18:34] Roberto tells us that many people who attempt suicide feel like they are burdens to their families and leaving will make it easier on them. [21:06] If you feel like you are a burden or that you don't want to be here, please call the at 800-273-8255 to talk to someone about what you are feeling. [27:01] Roberto shares a story where a client had rehearsed his suicide so often in his mind that he used it to self-soothing. [29:40] Coping mechanisms can take many different forms, but you shouldn't be ashamed to tell someone about them. [31:00] Roberto speaks about how he struggled in high school to find out where he fit in the world. [34:41] How should someone respond if a loved one comes to them with thoughts of suicide? He says the first thing is to listen without overreacting. [36:06] Praise them for being open and trusting you with these thoughts. [37:31] Give them the and don't simplify it. [39:57] If there is an imminent risk that they will follow through, it's time for them to get help as quickly as possible. [41:39] Roberto shares that 50% of suicides are by firearms, 66% of gun deaths are suicides.  [43:28] What are some lessons you have learned from people who have attempted suicide? [45:00] If you have ADHD and major executive dysfunction it can be very difficult but there are ways and strategies to get through the challenges. [47:56] Roberto chats about how important finding your tribe or community is because you are not alone. [50:41] Roberto shares that non-suicide contracts do not work and are not effective. [52:32] He speaks about occasions when churches wouldn't do funerals of people who died from suicide because of the stigma that lingers even today. [54:22] Roberto wants listeners to know that there is help out there for anyone that has feelings of suicide. [55:01] Thank you, Roberto, for being on the show, please come back again. [55:47] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Roberto:
Feb 04, 2020
306 | Creativity Heals with Roxanne Jarrett
01:11:01
There is healing power in being creative as Eric's guest, Roxanne Jarrett, can testify. Roxanne is a singer and coach who performs in five languages and provides one on one intensive services to help creatives with ADHD finish their dream projects. As an arts educator, she facilitates workshops on various subjects, including acting, videography, writing, Shakespearean language, and authentic relating. Roxanne is living proof of the healing power of creativity. She practiced multiple art disciplines to heal from PTSD and no longer meets the criteria for that diagnosis.   Roxanne shares her journey of being a gifted child and the loneliness of being different. Being in high school at age twelve, college at sixteen and feeling overwhelmed and unequipped to handle the day to day struggles. Getting creative with how she studied got her through the next three years, and she graduated in four years on the Dean's list. Listen as she speaks about grad school, her stress level and finally breaking down and being hospitalized.   Roxanne speaks about being homeless because she fell into severe depression, how blessed she feels to have been exposed to art therapies and creativity, and why she decided to make creativity her primary recovery practice. She believes that creativity doesn't just build your self-esteem; it helps you maintain it. Roxanne shares that taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your hand is tangible proof of your value. Even though Roxanne has faced many challenges, she has learned to see the beauty of those experiences. Can getting creative help you on your journey with ADHD? This conversation will show you the possibilities so relax and listen and hear. You'll Learn: [02:41] Roxanne, welcome to the show! [03:32] Roxanne shares her journey from being a gifted child feeling lost to the success she has now. [07:10] She chats about getting noticed by a teacher for her singing voice and how life-changing that was. [09:43] Roxanne started high school at age 12 and by 16 she was leaving home to go away to college. [11:55] She speaks about almost failing out of college her first year but the desire to stay caused her to get resourceful and creative to bring her grades up and graduate.  [12:53] Did you go to any parties or where you totally focused on academics? [13:34] Roxanne shares how she organized her second year of college so that she didn't have the same challenges as the first year. [16:15] Roxanne and Eric discuss the similarities in their college experiences. [23:58] Roxanne continued to improve in college and graduated in 4 years on the Dean's list and went to grad school. [25:57] She got a master's in educational theater at NYU, directed a children's theater, worked as a researcher for the university, and started making. [27:10] How was your stress level during this time? Did you have a breakdown? [28:35] Roxanne shares falling into a deep depression after grad school and her self esteem bottoming out. [30:41] She chats about the fear she buried after being kidnapped by a teacher when she was in high school. [35:35] Roxanne speaks about being hospitalized at 25 and how that finally helped her start the healing process. She finally felt like she had hope. [40:30] She talks about being in and out of recovery therapy for many years, once she found drama therapy she learned how to speak up for herself. [43:27] Do you have a small voice telling you that you are not good enough? [45:11] Roxanne wants anyone who is feeling unfulfilled or depressed to get creative by any means necessary, find what brings you joy. [46:15] Taking an idea from your mind and bringing it into the world by your own hand is tangible proof of your value. [48:44] What do you say to someone who says I am not a creative person? [53:04] You can write and create from happiness, it might look different but it can be done. [54:55] How do you help people with ADHD finish projects?  [57:10] Roxanne says that a lot of people with ADHD need ongoing support and accountability. [1:02:06] Roxanne sings a part of "Simple Gifts" for us. [1:02:46] Thank you so much, Roxanne, for being on the show!  [1:06:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Find Roxanne | | Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. 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Jan 28, 2020
305 | Aggie Mastermind - Phone and Text Communications
01:07:04
Welcome to episode 305 of ADHD reWired a mastermind session with your host Eric and a panel featuring Roxy, Tina, and Will. Aggie is in the hot seat, talking about expectations around communication and establishing boundaries around her need for it. She also wants to set boundaries when it comes to her phone and other areas daily so that she feels more productive and less stressed.   The group discuss Aggies issues with replying to texts with an affirmative to meet up with friends later but then not making it or being late. She chats about how people's expectations of her make her feel like a failure because she can't live up to them even though she tries.   Have you ever wanted to turn your phone off and be unreachable? Listen in as they talk about the habits they all have around their phones and how in the moment you can be when your phone is off. Aggie speaks about not paying attention when texting someone back and giving them the wrong information, not remembering events that are texted to her, and maybe trying to add the events to her calendar consistently.    Do you have trouble with communication? Are you on time for commitments? Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. These mastermind sessions are a great way to get thoughts and insights from your peers on issues that you might think only affect you. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode.     You'll Learn: [02:08] The mastermind today will be with Aggie. [03:03] Aggie tells us what she wants help with. [04:25] What other should be we know about? [06:04] Do you feel like there have been changes with communication since your mastermind a year ago? [08:13] They discuss her scheduled social interaction and what happens with it. [09:10] What questions do you all have, Roxy, Tina or Will? [09:50] Aggie says when the request is immediately she is more successful with going. [11:13] Roxy wants Aggie to expand on the expectations of others and the challenges. [13:40] Do you feel shame when you don't return calls or texts? [15:00] Aggie discusses being late and her friends being upset because it always happens. [16:48] Can you have people in your life that you feel comfortable having a conversation about your struggles? [18:11] Will speaks about the issues that Aggie has been having. [20:38] Do you like the feeling of being off the and no one can get a hold of you? [21:57] They discuss having automatic messages saying when you will return calls. [26:41] The group chats about their phone habits and when they turn them off. [29:17] Do you sleep at night? Do you get texts when you are asleep? Yes, you can make it so that people can't contact you at certain times. [31:23] Aggie discusses what time would be a great time to not have her phone on. [32:44] Where do you find your cellphone helpful as a tool? [34:04] Roxy talks about the wallpaper on her phone that says, "Why are you here?" [36:10] Will speaks about how he uses his phone and the roadblocks he uses. [37:43] Aggie in what way are you being distracted by your phone? [40:01] Have you ever messed up a reply when texting someone because you weren't paying attention? [44:20] You can add events on your text directly to your calendar, do you do that consistently? [48:04] Roxy adds her insight to texting and it not being casual anymore. She also speaks to a failproof way of communication for Aggie. [50:58] Aggie chats about taking a pause before replying to text messages. [52:44] Roxy tells Aggie what she used to do to cover the face of her phone so she couldn't see messages. [53:28] Will talks about his Apple watch and how that has helped him when viewing and replying to text messages. [55:05] How often do you get long texts from people? Do you send long texts? [59:01] Finding Aggie a spot to text from, so she has to go there to text. [1:00:51] Maybe only using your computer when replying so that you can schedule for more than just a day. [1:01:46] Any other commitments you want to share right now? [1:02:08] I hope this was helpful to you, Aggie, and I hope it was helpful to you, the listeners. [1:02:54] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 21, 2020
304 | December Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:10:50
This is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our first question is from a listener who has been struggling to get a professional diagnose of what she believes is ADHD. She keeps getting the runaround and is asking for advice on where to go from here. Vanessa wants tips for dealing with avoidance issues when it comes to her work and financial habits, and another listener is asking what they should be looking for in an ADHD coach and what they should expect once they find one.  Daniel wants to find out what he can do when he lacks the motivation to get things done, why sleep is so important, and getting tested for sleep apnea. Emily's question is what can she do with her history of unfinished projects, and Ben has a question about how marijuana and alcohol affect people with ADHD. Another listener asks the panel how to stay focused on a project once the new wears off. We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:04] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [02:33] Listener talks about trying to get diagnosed and having issues with professionals that don't have any knowledge of ADHD. [03:45] They suggest she get a second opinion and still do the management techniques. [06:03] What is causing you to down an ADHD diagnosis? What are your challenges? [07:01] How long have you suspected you have ADHD? [07:17] The challenges of just starting college is something they give some feedback on. [09:42] Vanessa's question is around tips for dealing with avoidance issues with her work habits, she explains. [12:21] Eric is asking the panel, who of you have ever felt this way? [13:33] They talking about and discussing some core issues. [14:15] In regards to your finances, what have you put into place to help you? [15:49] The next question is what should I look for in an ADHD coach and what should I expect once I have one? [16:13] Will says it depends on how old you are and where you are in your life because that makes a difference. They talk about the credentials you should look for. [18:06] They talk about the ways to find a coach that works for you and the personality that you might work best with. [24:24] We are back with Vanessa once she finished what Eric asked her to do. [27:24] Daniel wants help with a lack of motivation to do things he needs to do and wants to do. [27:45] Eric gives a rundown on ADHD and motivation. [29:50] What is your need for stimulation? Are you low energy or high energy? [31:28] They discuss his lack of sleep and how important it is for people with ADHD to get rest. [37:32] How would you feel if you looked back on your life 30 years from now and know that you wanted to make changes but didn't. [39:46] Emily says that her life is a series of unfinished projects, what can she do? [41:01] Eric addresses this with her. [45:46] How long have you had boxes in your home? How long has it been since you moved? [51:40] Ben has a question about how alcohol and pot affect ADHD. [52:13] Eric says that the current research doesn't now encourage the use of marijuana to manage ADHD symptoms; he gives details. [55:48] A listener has a question around the hyperfocus of starting something new and then getting tired of it as the new wears off. [58:19] Can you set yourself up so that you are doing more than one thing at a time? [1:01:47] They discuss planning breaks, do a project, and then give yourself a time frame for time off. [1:05:08] We do this every 2nd week of the month with Will and Brendan. [1:06:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 14, 2020
303 | Kyle Taking The Next Step
01:17:01
Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Kyle. Kyle is a nineteen, born and raised near Vancouver British Columbia and was diagnosed with ADHD, an attentive type in June of 2019. Since his diagnosis, he has learned a lot about himself, how ADHD affects him and many great and not so great things that life has to offer. He is on the show for some coaching and assistance from Eric about the choices he needs to make and how ADHD can affect his future. Kyle discusses his childhood, pivotal moments growing up, and how school was always easy for him. He speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD as a senior, then realizing he could see himself in the way his dad did things and how he talked to him about getting tested for ADHD. He also tells us about partying in 10th grade, how it affected his classes, and how marijuana helped and hindered his ADHD. He also talks about his friend dying right in front of him and how it was his wake up call that something needed to change. What is your action plan to make college happen? This is a question Eric asks because Kyle wants to go to college, but right now, he is not financially able. They discuss asking his parents for money, getting student loans, and the pros and cons of both. Kyle doesn't like to ask for help, but to make this dream come true, he is going to have to do something. Eric talks to him about making the plan and following through, whatever that might look like. Listen to this fantastic conversation, and see if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. Once you have an action plan and the process, it doesn't seem so overwhelming. If you are not happy with your job prospects straight out of high school, ask for help, and take the next step in your education like Eric is encouraging Kyle to do. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode. You'll Learn: [01:39] Kyle, welcome to the show! [02:40] He is looking for some coaching and advice about what he wants to do with his life. [04:31] Kyle talks about his childhood and some of the pivotal things that have occurred in his life. [07:05] How was a school for you growing up? [08:26] Kyle speaks about what he did when school got too hard and how he handled it. [09:43] He tells us that in grade 10 he started partying and when he stopped doing homework. [11:16] Did your parents provide structure for you growing up? [12:42] Kyle discusses telling his parents and siblings they need to get tested for ADHD. [15:39] In 10th grade did your grades decline? [16:43] He chats about how marijuana affected his ADHD both the good and the bad. [18:37] Kyle talks about a traumatic event that happened to him this last year. [19:48] Did the realization of your mortality wake you up? [25:56] Kyle says that he wants to go back to school, but the cost of living is so high that he can't work part-time and survive financially. [27:06] Have you started saving money while you are working? [27:35] Are your parents not able to help you with college? Have you thought about student loans? [28:50] Kyle speaks about not wanting to ask his parents for money to help him. [30:01] How are you with asking for help in general? [31:15] Did your parents go to college? Would you be the first one in your family to get a degree? [32:21] He chats about his extended family. [34:30] He talks to Eric about the homework Eric assigned him to do before the podcast. [36:38] What are your earning prospects at your current job? What is the highest earning potential? [39:34] Kyle tells what his go-to response is too tricky situations? [42:34] He wants to work with people and help them through situations he has been through. They discuss his whycue. [47:00] Eric talks to Kyle about college and how to save money, time, and career choices. [48:45] Kyle tells us he is always trying to find ways to save money. [51:34] What actions do you need to do to make visiting colleges possible? [52:17] They discuss his action plan to make college possible in his future. [57:05] You have been talking about one school, what are the other options? [58:22] What about online courses? Have you ever taken one? [59:35] What are all the helping professions in the area you live in? [1:01:00] Kyle says he has a cousin that has a degree in social work, so Eric says to message her. [1:02:27] Now that you messaged her, how does it feel? Do you feel empowered? [1:04:34] They review the action steps and go through each one to see the objective. [1:07:01] Eric encourages Kyle to take the next step and move forward. [1:09:23] Can you make school your full-time job? [1:10:44] When will you take the following action step and call to set up an appointment with the college? [01:11:34] Eric asks Kyle to contact him later today and let him know what he found out. [01:12:49] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Jan 07, 2020
302 | Mastermind Session with Will Curb: Deciding What To Offer
01:09:48
Welcome to the second mastermind session of ADHD reWired. Will Curb is in the hot seat this episode discussing his podcast with Roxy, Tina, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we have one person bring a topic that they want some help with, and everyone in the group will give their insight to help them with that particular topic. The group today will discuss Will's question of where he should be, how he can figure out his trajectory for 2020. He is thinking that just having the podcast isn't enough. He feels like he could do more to monetize the podcast, but he doesn't want it to appear like he is in this only for the money. Do people appreciate a service more if they spend money on it? This is Will's conundrum. What can I do to grow the podcast in 2020? Eric and the mastermind group talk about how great the podcast is and share their ideas on how Will can do this and let him know that the podcast is doing great. They discuss the reviews on the podcast and relay how much people are relying on what he says about ADHD to help them with their diagnosis. They also chat about doing a content calendar for all the topics that Will wants to use for his podcasts in the new year. This mastermind episode is all about helping Will to see ways to grow his listeners and grow the content of his podcast. Listen in as the group gives him valuable advice, fantastic ideas, and offers to help him in any way they can. If you have never listened to Will's podcast the link is below, if you are a fan, please let him know what you would like to hear about in the coming year. Links: You'll Learn: [02:19] Welcome to the second mastermind episode. [03:35] Will describes what he is wanting help with. [06:15] Eric chats about head junk around money. [07:41] How would you figure out if people would pay for your service? [08:32] They open the floor to the mastermind for their response. [09:28] How do you self assess what you have done so far? [12:20] Eric says he should get a group to listen to his podcast and let him know how good it is. [13:34] Are you getting reviews on your podcast? [16:51] Eric pulled up Will's podcast to read the to help Will. [19:10] Will are you enjoying creating the podcast? [20:23] Will speaks about the numbers related to his podcast and how many downloads he gets per week. [22:42] Aggie gives her input to Will about what he is doing. [25:01] Will wants to know how he can grow the podcast in 2020. [25:08] Eric gives his ideas on how to improve Will's podcast. [27:02] They discuss the tools that some people need to manage their ADHD. [29:23] Do you have a way for people to call in or questions they may have? [31:34] They speak about Will's dry sense of humor and how great that is. [33:13] What would it look like to have a tutorial about the tools and would you want to collaborate? [34:37] a content calendar, it will help you coordinate your topics for the year. [36:44] Will talks about a calendar tool and how to effectively put things into it. [38:38] Do you think people are looking for how to use the tool? Maybe do an episode on the tool you use then have other people talk about the one they use. [41:34] What tools are you going to use to create the content for this? [44:15] One of Will's goals this past year was to finish all of the courses he signed up for. [47:37] Are there questions you are afraid to ask around technology? [51:30] Managing your systems is a topic Will wants to explore. [53:00] Eric thinks the should get into neuroscience like talking about dopamine and ADHD. [54:15] If you keep your focus very narrow, you will have the most credibility. [58:07] They discuss the next action steps for Will to take. [1:01:18] Eric gives him audio hacks. [1:02:13] Planning a project is the first step. [1:02:47] Tina thinks that Patreon is the best voting system Will can use. [1:03:41] What things do you the listeners want to hear? What do you yell at the speakers? [1:05:38] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Dec 31, 2019
301| Mastermind: Tena Getting Emotionally Derailed
01:03:05
This episode of ADHD reWired is one of two mastermind sessions that will be released this month. Tena is in the hot seat this episode talking about emotional dysregulation with Roxy, Will, Aggie, and of course, Eric. A mastermind session is where we take a topic or issue that someone is having a problem with and do a deep dive into it to help the person find clarity.   Tena discusses how emotional dysregulation has affected her life. The group speaks about what triggers to look for and how being dehydrated can affect your behavior. Tena and Eric both talk about when they were diagnosed with ADHD, how it changed their lives, what they are doing today to manage it, and how self-compassion is critical when you have ADHD.   They all give their thoughts to Tena around what she can do to help herself at work, what software programs can be beneficial, and her need for a team to see what she misses. Tena goes on to discuss where her issues show up other than when she is at work and what they think would help her cope with it better.   Listen in as they have an informative discussion about triggers that create emotional dysregulation, issues surrounding self-care, self-management, drinking more water, and adding exercise. The mastermind panel gives Tena ideas and tools to manage the problems she is having, that you can't control ADHD with logic, and she needs to ask for help sometimes to manage it.   If you have issues with emotional dysregulation or want to know what it means, this is the episode for you. This mastermind team brings a lot of knowledge, ideas, and insight into this issue, and it's all to help you. If any of this resonates with you, don't miss this episode. You'll Learn: [03:52] Welcome to this mastermind episode. [04:18] Tena discusses what her emotional dysregulation issue is. [06:18] She tells us that she isn't processing tasks out far enough, and when she isn't prepared, she gets furious. [08:00] Eric tries to get to the bottom of why her emotional dysregulation takes over at times. [08:43] Will asks her if she drinks enough water. [11:29] What does ADHD acceptance look like for you? [12:34] You have been managing your ADHD for how long? What does that look like? [14:38] Eric talks about his ADHD diagnosis and how he's trying to manage it. [16:26] Tena speaks about being able to have self-compassion around parenting. [17:06] Aggie gives her perspective on the issues Tena is having. [18:45] Roxie chats with her insights also and examples of what Tena can do. [20:09] When you were in real estate did you have a team that helped you? Maybe you need a team now in this business you have. [21:37] What is the background around when your emotional dysregulation?  [23:18] Will talks about being upset when he isn't prepared for something that is happening and gets mad. [26:37] Tena says she needs an inventory system because she doesn't have one, and maybe that would help her down the road. [29:01] They all give Tena some idea of software tools she can use to help her in her company. [32:50] Tena where else does this show up beside at work? [33:21] They discuss her organizational skills and expectations of others. [34:52] She says she doesn't know where to start most of the time. [36:52] How often do you have a specific repeated mistake? [38:35] Is there a particular time of day that you usually lose your cool? [40:36] Tena speaks about her retirement project that has turned into a successful business. [42:21] Where are you compared to most eBay sellers? Do you get ranked? [44:38] Tena says she does not currently exercise because it is such a struggle. [45:28] Excercise is part of emotional self-management. [48:18] Eric thinks that Tena should have a YouTube channel to offset the costs of hiring people to help her. [50:31] Fascination attracts people. [54:25] Will speaks about a dirty pan and cookie sheet that ruined his day. You can't control the ADHD beast with logic. [56:51] Tena, what do you see yourself doing to try to manage this? [57:33] When you feel the emotions rising, do something physical, it can help. [59:06] If you can financially support this podcast, it would be much appreciated. [1:00:15] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Dec 24, 2019
300 | Cameron Gott Interviews Eric Tivers
01:14:53
ADHD reWired is doing something different today, Cameron Gott is interviewing Eric. Cameron is an ADHD coach, that typically works with entrepreneurs, professionals, and small business owners to make better decisions and leading teams. He also trains coaches with two organizations and has started his own podcast. Cameron likes to use the curious accountability model for interviewing and will interview Eric with this same process. He likes to use it because it is a useful model for people with ADHD; we tend not to look back and reflect. Cameron wants us to imagine a rope bridge, the near side is resources, and the far side is the successful outcome. The middle of the rope bridge is the actual engagement, the anchor that leads from the resources to the successful results. He starts by asking Eric questions about where he is at right now and how he feels about this being his 300th episode. Eric says that over time, he has become a perfectionist, and the challenge this can be when editing a podcast. He talks about his son's diagnosis of ADHD and autism and how that was the impetus for him starting the podcast. Listen in as Cameron pulls some interesting new information out of Eric. With Eric on the other end of the microphone, you never know what he might say. You won't be disappointed, and you will learn a little about what makes Eric tick. Don't miss episode 300. You'll Learn: [02:05] Welcome to the show, Cameron. [04:08] The topic today will be curious accountability. [07:13] Eric where are you as you stand in this place, what is it to be here at this outcome? [12:38] They discuss Eric's accomplishments and how much he has done with this podcast, the spinoffs, and his coaching. [18:37] What was the impetus for starting this podcast? [22:38] His son was born and he realized his son was ADHD on the autism spectrum. [29:12] Eric talks about the first episodes and how they unfolded, there was no grand plan. [32:29] Was there any time commitment on your part when you started this podcast? [35:19] Eric discusses his coaching groups and the promise he made to it. [40:29] He tells us he struggled with work-life balance when he had his practice. He worked hard for his son but he never saw his son. [45:34] He speaks about releasing episode 47 @ 55 mph and the feedback he received from his listeners. [48:34] Consistency with wiggle room [51:56] Is there a surprise that came out of the left-field from this journey you've been on? [57:35] Looking forward what do you see happening in the future? Opportunities for growth? Spinoffs? [1:02:46] Thank you, Eric, for 300 episodes, and we can't wait for more. [1:03:28] Cameron's podcast is translating ADHD @ . [1:04:44] Cameron, thank you for doing this episode. [1:05:00] Thank you, everyone, and if I forget someone, know that I appreciate you. Links and Resources | 
Dec 10, 2019
299 | November Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:11:38
Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our questions today are about walking the line between self-care and coddling, how to manage the anger of your ADHD diagnosis, breastfeeding and ADHD medicines, and the guilt when you chose to stop breastfeeding to get back on track. They discuss a question about self-regulating with a focus on how to handle active real emotions management instead of losing your mind and some tricks they use to alleviate the stress. The last question today is about letting people know you've been diagnosed with ADHD and how to handle the feelings of coming out. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug. You should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:03] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [02:30] They discuss their thoughts on a viewer's question about self-care vs. coddling. [08:12] Ways to know the difference between the two. [12:05] A view wants to know how to handle the anger of diagnosed with ADHD. [13:20] The team speaks about how they are managing and tips that might help. [18:08] The external thoughts that go through your mind when getting the actual diagnosis of ADHD. [29:41] A mom's question about breastfeeding and the meds to control ADHD. [31:35] They ask questions about her doctor and the meds that are safe to take. [34:16] The guilt when you decide to stop breastfeeding in favor of the meds. [37:01] You can bond with your baby even if you don't breastfeed. [42:22] The second child is not more relaxed than the first one. [44:48] A question about how to self regulate and how to handle strong physical reactions without losing your shit. [44:49] Eric gives us ways he handles his responses. [47:30] Can you remove yourself from the situation? [49:45] Will talks about what works for him when he needs to manage his emotions. [56:29] How did you tell people about your diagnosis? Did it feel like a coming out? [01:00:25] Brendon gives ideas on how to say to people that you have ADHD. [01:04:13] Do you have a community that will support you? Friends, neighbors, or coworkers? [01:06:26] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:06:33] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Dec 03, 2019
298 | Getting Used to Success with Dusty Exner
01:08:24
ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Dusty Exner to the show. Dusty is an ADHD coach, mother, and musician from Vancouver B.C. She was formerly the front person for the punk rock band Kill Matilda. Dusty is one of the founders of girls rock camp La Paz in Baha, California. She lives in a suburb of Vancouver with her husband, daughter Melanie Sue, bird Professor, and dog Hemingway. Dusty discusses being diagnosed with ADHD, touring with her band and living in a van, and the fact that she is trying to get used to being successful with her coaching business. She tells us she is still interested in music, and they have talked about getting the band back together, but she doesn't know what that will look like at this time. She talks about being a mom, and all the struggles that you have to fight through with ADHD. Dusty chats about strategies to use when you feel that you are not present with your kids and how to practice self-compassion. Remember, it's the little moments you get each day with your children that matter, take advantage of those times.  If you are struggling with ADHD, your career, and your family, this is the episode for you. Listen in as Dusty lays it all out, how she handles it, and some tips and tricks to make it easier for you. You won't want to miss this discussion so plugin, sit back, and get ready to be wowed. You'll Learn: [03:16] Welcome to the show, Dusty. [04:41] Dusty talks about when she was diagnosed with ADHD. [05:09] What did he see that made him think you had ADHD? [05:51] She talks about living in a van and touring with her band and dog. [09:17] Dusty says she is trying to get used to the idea of being successful and talks about building her coaching business. [13:16] She plays the banjo now but is still involved in music. She and her husband are talking about getting the band back together. [15:49] Dusty discusses her husband and his background in music and her ability to raise money. [17:46] She believes that her ADHD caused her to fail at music the first time because it was so hard to settle down to practice. [20:43] Dusty talks about missing being in a band and how ADHD affected it. [30:04] They speak about instruments and which one Eric plays. [32:11] Eric tells Dusty about the song he wrote for the conference. [34:52] Eric talks about a blog post that he read about having children and how difficult it is to make time for them. [37:21] What strategies do you use to take the time to play with your kids? [40:24] She discusses how she worked around being a new mom with starting her new business and everything else she does with ADHD. [42:51] When you find yourself not being present with your daughter, how do you practice self-compassion? [49:04] When do you feel successful with ADHD?  [50:13] They talk about the book The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. [51:28] Dusty chats about her degree in Anthropology. [56:15] Is imposter syndrome real? Have you ever felt it? [59:03] Dusty talks about how she coaches people and their relationship to money. [01:01:57] Thank you so much for being on the show, Dusty! Links and Resources @dustyexner | @vancouverADHDcoaching
Nov 26, 2019
297 | Create Don't Suffocate with Natalie Walker
01:19:15
ADHD reWired is excited to welcome Natalie Walker to the show. Natalie is a professional musician and just released her new EP in September, which was her first since 2015. This Colorado-based singer has seen many changes in the last four years, from parting with her longtime label to being diagnosed with ADHD. Natalie has learned to embrace her different brain and has opened up about the challenges that have come from being a young, awkward kid with ADHD, learning how to navigate a thriving creative path to adulthood. Eric and Natalie discuss music, albums, and writing songs. Natalie tells us what she's been up to since her last album dropped in 2015 and her new EP in September, why she likes Instagram but dislikes Facebook, and how to make Instagram do the marketing for this podcast. Natalie speaks about starting her label and her inability to do the bookkeeping herself. Have you ever looked at your financials and been ashamed? Natalie discusses seeing her and feeling like a failure, how her scarcity mindset tells her she will never be rich, and all the problems she feels come with having large amounts of money. They talk about getting a financial planner and a bookkeeper, don't stress yourself out over something you aren't good at instead concentrate on what your strengths are and let someone else handle the rest. Listen as Eric and Natalie talk about issues surrounding money, how financial advisors can help, and where to get referrals. Have you listened to Natalie's music? Her new song Starry Eyed Kids closes out this episode, it's the latest single off of her recently released EP Evenfall. You won't want to miss this behind the scenes look at a successful musician with ADHD and her struggles with money. You'll Learn: [02:21] Welcome to the show, Natalie. [03:27] Eric talks about writing an original song for the ADHD conference and the hardest parts of writing and singing the song. [06:38] Natalie tells us she doesn't play an instrument and sing because it is to difficult. She starts with a feeling when she writes. [07:48] She speaks about what happened between her 2015 album and the one she just released. [10:43] She chats about starting a patreon last year. [12:21] Natalie talks about her opposition to Facebook and the chaos that it contains. [15:05] Do you understand Instagram? Do you like to engage in that way? [23:34] She tells us she started her label and chats about why she did it and her anxiety around doing the books. [26:09] Should she hire an accountant or learn to do it herself? [29:57] Natalie discusses her inability to manage her finances and how it makes her feel ashamed. [34:04] Her mindset is that she will never be rich, she feels afraid of money and the financial mistakes she could potentially make. [35:05] Do you have a financial advisor? Do you have a scarcity mindset? [38:30] Natalie says that she had no models for managing money when she was growing up. She wasn't good at math in school, so she stays away from it. [42:56] Ask a friend or coworker if they have a financial advisor and if they would recommend them. [45:05] Natalie says there is so much noise around money, and she can't shut her mind off. [48:24] She wants to know when Eric got a financial advisor and how he went about it. [54:42] What makes a bookkeeper that handles the music industry different than a regular bookkeeper? [59:45] Eric is talking about making Natalie accountable for reaching out to her network to ask for help finding a bookkeeper and financial advisor. [01:03:15] Making money making music is the dream for Natalie. [01:04:07] Thank you to all of our patreons that support this podcast you have no idea how much it is appreciated. [01:07:31] Starry Eyed Kids off her new EP take us out. Links and Resources: @nataliewalkeris @nataliewalkermusic |  
Nov 19, 2019
296 | October Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb
01:06:37
Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  We are discussing time blindness and why people don't allow themselves enough time to get where they are going without being late. Ways to remind ourselves what we need to take with us before we are in the car and strategies to help teenagers understand time restrictions.  Eric, Brendan, and Will talk about the different types of behavior therapy and compare DBT for ADHD and CBT. The unknowns with CBD because it isn't regulated, the connection between ADHD and sleeplessness plus some strategies that might help you get some rest. Reducing screen time before bed is essential so we can shut down our brains and let them take a break from information gathering. Our monthly Q & A sessions are a great way for us to talk to listeners and hash out things they are wondering about. If you have a question, please feel free to email us at ADHDRewired.com, and we will try to give suggestions on ways to handle whatever it is. Listen in to this episode and see if the questions asked and answered are possibly things you have been wondering about. These entertaining friends can solve the pressing issues with an optimism that will leave you asking for more. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:24] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [03:45] Our listener asks a question about time blindness. [04:20] Have you been able to make any improvements? What strategies have you put in place, so you are on time? [06:10] Do you tell yourself something will take you ten minutes, but it takes much longer? [09:13] Have a plan for what to do when you get there if you are early. [11:30] Why do we only remember things when we are getting in the car to leave? [13:02] How do we remind ourselves much earlier? What can I use to jog my mind before? [23:29] What are some strategies to use when teens with ADHD that have time blindness? [28:12] Making things much worse than they are, magnifying things. A listener wants approaches to stop doing this. [37:95] Ryan asks, how well does DBT work with ADHD compared to CBT? [42:26] They discuss CBD oil for sleep and to relax muscles. [45:41] ADHD and lack of sleep seem to go hand in hand and strategies that can help. Eric gives examples of what he had to do at his house. [54:27] A listener asks about reducing screen time and what counts as screen time. [01:01:04] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups (ArC) Fall Sessions for ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups are coming. ArC 18, run October 4 – Dec. 20. Registration is by invitation only. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more. Click the yellow button at coachingrewired.com to get added to the invite list. Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.
Nov 13, 2019
295 | Strategies to Identify, Manage, and Overcome Hoarding with Elaine Birchall
58:45
Eric's guest on this episode of ADHD reWired is Elaine Birchall. Elaine is a social worker and a hoarding behavior and intervention specialist. She is the director of Birchall Consulting and is dedicated to helping those with hoarding behaviors to learn to manage their possessions and vulnerabilities. She founded the Canadian National Hoarding Coalition and hosted the weekly Voice America radio show Take Back Your Life When Things are Taking Over and many other things. Elaine describes hoarding as a disorder that leads to excessive accumulations of stuff, some or all of your living spaces are not useable because of things and stress or impairment of functioning because there are piles of stuff. You might say to people I am a bit of a hoarder, but unless the symptoms repeatedly occur, consistently and extend over some time, it's probably not hoarding. The younger a person is when diagnosed with the disorder, the better the chance of recovery is. For some people decluttering a room is very difficult. Elaine gives us tips and tricks to keep it from taking so long. The key to a list is keeping it close by, you don't want to look for it, or you might get sidetracked, and the whole hampster on a wheel things starts over. Elaine tells us to set three goals every day to get your decluttering done and still have time to do what you want. She talks about her scaling system so you can decide how to categorize the items you need to get rid of. Can you rip your house apart and get it all done in one day? Elaine says to find out how much energy you have and do a task that matches it. Don't have the power to do a 15 min job, but try to handle an hour's situation. It won't work.  Listen to this fantastic conversation, and if any of this sounds like you or someone you know. You never know when you may have an ah-ha moment. Take notes, phone a friend, or just sit back and plugin but you won't want to miss this episode. You'll Learn: [03:04] Elaine, welcome to the show! [03:47] They chat about hoarding confoundedness and vulnerabilities. [04:21] Elaine, how did you get into specializing in hoarding? [07:52] There are three criteria of hoarding. Elaine defines and explains them. [12:21] Hoarding and ADHD can have very similar rules. [14:35] It needs to be repeated, consistent, and extend over some time before you can call it hoarding. [15:53] When diagnosed early, it is easier to recover than if you wait, and the groove gets more profound, then you can only manage it. [22:32] What triggers the hoarding disorder? What is the Path? [27:33] Being in control of a part of your life gives you peace like a clean. [29:51] Don't put it down, put it away! [30:19] Catch yourself when you say I'll pick it up later. Tell yourself, do it now. [31:58] The trick is to take a second, hold the thing in your hand, and ask yourself if I was looking for you where you would be? [32:44] Two ways to remediate the clutter is the swiss cheese method or pick a spot and start in a corner and work your way around. [35:27] Externalize the message so that it occupies time and space. A chalkboard list or a list on your phone. [38:01] Set three goals every day (1) Have joy, fun, and play (2) remind yourself that you are a developing human being (3) Legitimate work. [41:48] Elaine explains her rule of three. [42:27] Elaine talks about her scaling system around clutter. [44:02] Can you rip your house apart and do the whole thing in one day? [44:48] Gage how much fuel you have and find a job that matches that. [49:24] Elaine runs two support groups for hoarding, but she is preparing to do an online group also. [51:32] Elaine gives us some tools to use on how to approach someone with this disorder. [52:06] Get Elaine’s book, it is designed to fill the gap if you aren’t getting help. [54:31] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Links and Resources Elaine on | | |
Nov 05, 2019
294 | Mastermind Session: Emily in the Hotseat
01:00:43
In this Mastermind Session, we have Emily in the hot seat on the subject of emotional regulation. She tells us that she is not capable of regulating anything when her switch gets flipped. When that happens, she does and says things that could get her injured or put in jail, and that while she is in the moment, she feels very positive she is in the right.  Are conflict and the feelings it causes a way to self-medicate? They discuss why she levels up to crazy mad so fast and the euphoria she feels afterward. She tells us that she does not repress her emotions. If someone makes her angry, she will let them know in no uncertain terms. Emily gives examples of what she means when she says she is ready to change her perceptions up to a point. Eric talks to Emily about coming to conflict from a place of love instead of anger. Finding out why the person acted that way instead of assuming they have character has flaws. Try doing something to reset the mind instead of giving in to the anger. Did you know that the natural fluctuations of hormones both monthly and through different phases of life can increase ADHD? If this gives you pause, and you think, could it be that easy? Please talk to your doctor. If any of this resonates with you, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. Listen to this mastermind and see if they can help you come up with the answers you are seeking. If not, answers maybe ideas of where to search next. Sit back, relax, and push play. You'll Learn: 01:33] Welcome to the show Emily, Roxy, Aggie, and Will. [02:03] Emily tells us a little about why she is here. [07:14] She tells us that she is ready to change her perceptions of situations up to a point. [08:09] They discuss whether a conflict is a way for her to self-medicate. [11:51] Have you had any negative fallout from your actions? [12:52] She is being controlled by the anger that consumes her. [14:07] Emily tells us she does not repress her emotions. If she gets mad at something someone does, she lets them know. [16:35] She tells us what she means by changing her perceptions up to a point. [18:01] They talk about her being impulsive and that it is a part of ADHD. [19:41] When your switch gets flipped, where do you feel it? Temples? Chest? [21:49] Eric encourages her to reenact and do role play so she can learn to handle her feelings. [26:10] They discuss her personality and how great it would be if she could react in a loving matter instead of anger. [33:27] She is encouraged to leave when she feels like she is going to explode, go to an empty room or her car. [36:04] Eric talks about her brain being hijacked. [38:58] Are you open to discussing new medications? Please speak to your prescribing physician. [44:11] Have you ever taken an anger management class? Would you? [44:59] Anger can be a secondary emotion, and fear could be the primary emotion. [45:23] Progesterone levels can affect your ADHD medication. [48:10] Hormone levels change monthly and can affect the effectiveness of your meds. [50:29] Eric talks about the vagus nerve that can be used to reset your reactions. [52:39] Emily speaks about the commitments she wants to make from what's been discussed today. [54:33] Thank you, Emily, for sharing today and keep working on it. [56:32] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at [57:34] If you would like a pack of podcast postcards to hand out, please request them at . [58:04] If you liked what you heard, please leave an honest review and to the podcast. [58:45] Not sure where to start Eric, give us some titles of books that can help. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 29, 2019
293 | Revel in Better Sex, Intimacy and Relationships With Tanya Brakeman
01:09:01
Welcome back to ADHD reWired. In this episode, we welcome Tanya Brakeman. Tanya is an Interior Designer, writer, teacher, and relationship mentor. She has spent over ten years engaged in the field of transformation leadership. She has developed a curriculum in the study of the erotic discipline called 'Revel, the Audacity of Ecstacy.' Revel is a daringly vulnerable investigation into how we relate to ourselves, influence our relationships, and express our uniqueness in our community and world. Do you treat others better than you treat yourself? Are you wrestling with your self worth? Tanya believes that the acronym for self is a single evident life force, that we are individually unique in this universe. She also discusses restoring our connection to the intelligent erotic life force in such a way that dignity naturally arises, self respect returns, and how empowering it is to trust your own sense of wisdom. Tanya describes the four spheres of influence, why she uses the word erotic, and what she means by it. She asks us if we use our bodies as a source of intuition and listen to it when it is telling us something. They speak about how emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD and how, when we express ourselves to the world, we are experiencing ourselves. Listen in as Tanya tells us how she dealt with her abusive childhood, how she overcame it and decided not to be a victim. She chats about sexual expression and not being afraid to discuss what you want or what you need even when that includes BDSM.  This is a conversation about finding one’s self in, eroticism, intimacy, and relationships and how ADHD can affect it. If any of this resonates with you, grab a snack, plugin and learn how to express yourself. Your Resources: Tanya on | | | You'll Learn: [03:20] Welcome to the show, Tanya! [03:51] Tanya discusses why she got into the study of sex, love, and intimacy and how it changed her life. [05:49] Have you heard of the sex-positive community? [07:30] They speak about 50 Shades of Grey and how that opens up conversations that might have thought were tabu until then. [10:09] Tanya discusses how and why people misuse sex, love, and intimacy and how that affected her as a young child. [13:28] Just because your body can be aroused doesn't mean that you like what is happening. [23:22] Tanya talks about the four spheres of influence and what they mean. [26:10] She explains erotic the way she uses it, not the plasticized way the world uses it. [28:51] Do you listen to your body as your sense of intuition? Do you trust your gut? [31:30] She discusses restoring the connection to the intelligent erotic life force. [34:25] Emotional self-regulation is a core component of ADHD; it's essential to recognize it. [36:15] As we express ourselves in the world, we experience ourselves. [37:15] Tanya chats about her wedding in 30 days, and she hasn't started planning it yet. [39:42] They speak of her love story and how her finance pointed out that she had ADHD. [42:03] There is a difference between bodily urges and knowing. [45:15] The body and the mind coming together is the core point, no matter how you get there. [46:08] Tanya tells us what nurture is all about. [51:00] Do you have real self-respect? Do you have a deeply embodied sense of dignity? [54:54] Do you ever have conversations with your children about sex, love, intimacy, and power? [57:40] Tanya talks to us about the subject of sexual intelligence, sexual expression. [59:10] "Everything in the world is about sex, except sex and sex is about power." [1:00:33] How do we find you, Tanya? [1:02:00] Tanya tells us her adult children are her wedding planners. [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Oct 22, 2019
292 | Diagnosis Recontextualized Everything with Brian Behm
01:08:05
ADHD reWired welcomes to the show. Brian is a freelance creative director and motion artist based in Austin, Texas. His works to empower and amuse people through secret messages. He is excited about how Augmented Reality plays into the future of Art.   Brian was diagnosed with last year at age 41. He started researching ADHD, and what he found was eyeopening. He could now explain some of the quirks he had instead of wondering why he had them. Why, when he got in an emotional situation, he would shut down and not be able to talk, and why his brain didn't kick in on command so that he could finish tasks that needed to be done.    He left a lucrative job to open his own business doing freelance work. He has done work on many things like the Grammy's and a backdrop for a Diana Ross concert. His lack of time management sometimes causes him to say yes to projects when he shouldn't, but he is still a work in progress and doing very well.   Listen in to this conversation about discovery, trials, and reinventing oneself. Brian tells us about being in an Ironman Triathalon, working on Indie films and a new project called Augmented Reality Streetwear that he is excited about. He isn't letting ADHD stop him; he is learning how to stop ADHD and living his life around it. This is an episode you won't want to miss.    Your Resources: T   You'll Learn: [02:47] Welcome to the show, Brian! [03:00] Eric and Brian chat about giant cold beverages to combat the heat in Austin, TX [03:34] Brian speaks about being diagnosed with ADHD at age 41. [04:51] He talks to us about his last job with Rooster Teeth and what led to him leaving that job. [07:42] Brian didn't know that there was an emotional to ADHD until he started learning about it. [09:26] They talk about doing everything except what they need to do and the reasons for that. [10:50] Brian says when he gets into an emotional situation, he can't talk and shuts down. [15:58] Brian tells a story about a co-worker that was a brilliant animator. [21:14] His schedule is horrible, and his time management is atrocious. [21:53] What did it feel like when you took your medicine for ADHD for the first time? [24:52] He talks about an assault in his 20's and how the fear changed how he handled his life. [27:08] Brian speaks about the trauma he was going through when he left his job. The shame of not being able to deliver the project. [28:28] He had a friend send him a clip of Robin Williams telling Matt Damon in Goodwill Hunting, 'It's not your fault' it helped him so much. [30:11] Have you ever felt the need to do a type of 12 step program with your ADHD diagnosis? [39:45] He has done work for the Grammy's, and he has done drape background for Diana Ross. [41:45] Have you ever turned a project down that you didn't have time for, but you were scared that they wouldn't ask you to work with them again? [46:39] Brian discusses feeling so good for a few weeks that you almost forget you have ADHD and then bam it rears its head again. [47:56] He talks about doing a mastermind with . [50.34] Brian speaks about an Ironman Triathalon that he competed in and how stressed his system was. [57:23] Brian says how helpful this podcast has been for him while trying to figure out ADHD. [58:01] He talks about books that have helped him and chasing down what other people are reading. [1:00:45] Brian tells us how to find him on social media. [1:02:01] Would you wear a shirt that says I hate my boss if he couldn't see that it said that? [01:03:44] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:03:53] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 15, 2019
291 | September Q & A with Jessica McCabe and Brendan Mahan
01:07:51
Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Jessica McCabe and Brendan Mahan. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers.  Our questions today are about being overly sensitive to rejection, how to know the difference between essential tasks versus important ones, and everything in between. We also talked about the different types of medicine and how your dose might need to be tweaked to find what works best for you. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We covered a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: You'll Learn: [02:13] Welcome to the show Jessica and Brendan for our monthly Q & A. [03:13] Listen to find out if people with ADHD are more sensitive to rejection. [08:20] They chat about why you feel like having ADHD is the reason for everything.  [12:31] Is age 12 too late to ADHD medicine? [13:19] They discuss why looking for a and not having a schedule can really mess with how you deal with your ADHD. [23:18] Learning about and acceptance of ADHD are two of the best strategies you can have. [32:11] Is being on time hard for you? Do you like having to beat the clock? [40:05] How do you identify the things that are a priority to complete? [49:24] They talk about how ADHD can sometimes make you feel like a failure as a parent. [55:01] When your child is unloading and frustrated might not be the time to discuss them embracing their ADHD. [57:08] What is the best way to limit adults with ADHD usage on devices? [01:02:30] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:03:43] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Oct 08, 2019
Hacking Your ADHD - Building Your Toolbox (Simulcast) Ep1
12:50
This is the premiere episode of Hacking Your ADHD, a brand new ADHD reWired Network Podcast.  Subscribe to this podcast on: ADHD can make it hard for us to work on our intentions. This is even harder when we forget the things that we want to do. When you are learning about new ADHD strategies while reading books or listening to podcasts (like this one!) it is really easy to forget your intention of implementing those strategies. In these instances when we learn about a new tool, what we can do is write down our intended strategy and put it into our ADHD Toolbox. Our toolbox is simply a way for us to record the strategies and ideas we have for working with our ADHD - a place we can go and look at our intentions when we are off track. While new strategies are fun to add to our toolbox, we should also focus on adding things that are already working in our life to our toolbox. If you've found a great bedtime routine? Stick it in your toolbox. Figured out a great way to plan your upcoming week? Stick it in your toolbox. Found a great tool for keeping you focused? Stick it in your toolbox. Just creating a toolbox for yourself isn't enough. We all know that we forget things. That we get off track. And sometimes when we are off track it takes us a while to realize what we are doing wrong. Use your toolbox to speed up the process of getting back in the groove of things. To do this you've got to set up regular times to check your toolbox. But we also know that sometimes even when we set aside time to check something we aren't always going to get to it, which means we've got to set up redundant reminders for ourselves to make sure we don't miss out on our most important intentions. If this sounds like something that you need to do check out the full episode.
Oct 07, 2019
290 | Surviving Childhood with "Sarah Edgewood"
58:46
Sarah grew up in urban poverty with domestic violence, alcohol, drugs, and all before she turned 14. She had a hard time in school and with making friends, but her tenacity got her through, she ended up graduating from college with an MBA in finance. For the last 11 years, she has had a career in higher education.  She discusses her childhood, the abuse, and being diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and depression. She tells us why her son hasn’t seen his grandparents in 4 years, and why she hasn’t told her family about the way her father treated her. Stories like Sarah’s need to be told so that maybe her words can help someone heal. She is a strong, resilient woman because of and in spite of her upbringing. Listen in as she explains how she feels and why she feels like it was her fault. I am sure there are people we know who this will resonate with maybe suggest that they listen to this episode with you. Your Resources: You’ll Learn: 02:49] Welcome to the show, Sarah! [03:25] Eric and Sarah discuss her childhood and growing up a victim of domestic violence by her father. [05:41] Mental Health in her family is never discussed. [06:32] How is your relationship with your dad now? Do you have one? [07:43] She tells us about an incident when she was caught holding hands with a boy walking down the street, and her father reacted violently against her. [09:55] Her dad's brother was the only one that knew what happened and he was an alcoholic. [10:40] She thinks that people would think it's strange that she has a good relationship with her dad. [11:27] Sarah speaks to us about her father threatening her son; he no longers sees his grandparents. [13:23] Have you ever felt that if you tell someone about the abuse, it will blow up everything you have tried to build?  [17:20] You can't numb the hard stuff if you want to feel the good stuff. [18:39] Have you ever sat in the muck? How long did it take you to get out? [19:20] Sarah speaks about her and trying to deal with her suicidal feelings. [21:20] If you could go back and talk to your 10-year-old self, what would you say? [25:41] No one will ever know how awful and painful this was for Sarah, but it is ok to have strong feelings and to see that it wasn't her fault. [27:33] Once she was diagnosed, everything started making more sense. Why wasn't this diagnosed years sooner? [29:48] Sarah reminisces about staying up all night with her mom watching tv and cooking 3-course meals at midnight. [33:30] Shame grows with silence, secrecy, and judgment. [38:10] It took Sarah 10 years to get her undergrad degree, and she got her MBA after she had her son. [40:40] She tells us about a guy she dated in high school that was controlling that she stayed with for four years. She failed classes because he followed her to college and stalked her. [45:46] Even the most resilient people need to stop and take a minute to say, this is hard! [47:00] How has the adversity you have faced shaped your ability to show up for life's challenges now? [49:52] Sarah says sometimes you have to be ok with not always being ok. [50:40] Eric's hope for Sarah is that she will continue working with her therapist and continue to tell her story and keep healing. [51:58] Eric will put some more resources on his website.  [53:03] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Oct 01, 2019
289 | Sex, Intimacy and ADHD with Ari Tuckman
01:02:38
Ari Tuckman is back on the show to discuss his new book and new findings regarding how ADHD affects sex and intimacy. Ari is a psychologist in Pennsylvania working to help others live their best lives. Many times, living your best life requires understanding your sexual needs and wants and how they affect your partner or spouse. Ari has spent a great deal of time researching how people with and without ADHD relate to and process sexual activities and intimacy. In his new book , he shares the results of a survey taken of those with and without ADHD to reveal their levels of sexual eagerness. He then dispenses this down to share how varying levels of sexual eagerness affect intimate relationships and how to find ways to connect in the gaps. This conversation is full of great information about the true core issue of any sexually deficient relationship… communication. Ari shares some amazing statistics, I share some really terrible dad jokes, and together we hope to inspire you to use better communication skills to create a more unified sex life. Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [01:59] Welcome back to the show Ari Tuckman! [02:51] Ari is back to discuss sex and intimacy for those with ADHD. [03:24] Ari shares some of the recent shows he’s gone to. [03:56] Why does Ari study ADHD and sex?  [05:58] Romantic and sexual satisfaction overlap and affect one another. [07:24] Ari has been studying the difference between willingness and eagerness. [09:03] How do you address the core issue of communication to improve sexual interaction?  [10:22] What is emotion regulation and how can you employ it?  [13:03] Ari reveals several of the differences between the sexual interactions of those with ADHD and those without. [17:25] Which categories did people with ADHD rate themselves higher in on a survey of sexual eagerness. [20:36] What considerations should a person who is beginning a relationship think about?  [23:35] Learn about the differences between ADHD and non-ADHD regarding masturbation, kinkiness, and monogamy. [27:25] How does masturbation affect your life and sex life?  [28:50] Where does kink fit into this spectrum?  [31:31] What is consensual non-monogamy? [40:46] Does Ari’s research touch on cheating and sex addiction? What does it reveal? [46:33] Is porn use for those with ADHD really about porn? [47:50] The problem with labeling things an addiction… [50:06] Did Ari open up the survey to same-sex couples?  [51:10] Ari shares 5 tips that men and women with and without ADHD could use to better their sex lives. [56:37] Learn more about the for this year. [57:47] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 24, 2019
288 | Mastermind: Gaining Financial Literacy
59:23
What do you do when your entire experience with money has been negative? Mastermind ways to overcome the negativity and get in tune with your finances! Agnes has had a tough time getting the people in her life to realize that she is ready to take control of her finances and learn what it means to be financially savvy. When she should have been learning the ins and outs of money management, Agnes was instead dealing with the death of her father. Since then she and her mother have had conflicting ideas on how to approach money management. Listen in as Agnes shares how she has dealt with money in the past and how she’s looking to manage it in the future. Overcoming the emotional aspect is a big one for her. The mastermind group gives amazing advice for ways to approach money and insights on why she’s been clashing with family members over the management of their trusts. The group also provides an amazing number of resources when getting started with money management. If money management is an issue for you as well, take heart, the reason money is a problem for most people is that we don’t talk about it often enough! Stay! Listen! Learn! This group gives some amazing advice.  Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [02:34] Agnes shares a bit about where her issues with money started.  [04:20] What needs to happen for Agnes to start working on her finances? [08:39] Will steps in with some great information about how to get started and who to look for. [10:56] Agnes works through the mental block she has surrounding the various aspects of her inheritance and the familial burdens that come along with it. [14:06] Emily steps up to ask clarifying questions about Agnes’s issues with paying people and continuing to feel like a burden. [15:28] What is the thing that she’s gone through with her mother over and over again? [16:39] Perhaps the issue is that the people around Agnes also don’t know anything about money… [19:51] Who has Agnes given permission to know about her finances? Why? [24:23] We are back from the break and diving into educating yourself on finances. [31:06] Agnes commits to reaching out to a financial planner/fiduciary to help her. [38:03] Emily recommends checking with the bank for financial classes and encourages Agnes to only share her financial woes with people directly related to her money. [41:05] Maybe having someone address finances in a positive light is all that Agnes needs. [44:42] You won’t take care of it later. Start putting money away now. [50:43] What is Patreon? [53:17] Finances are like dieting… learn why! [54:31] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 17, 2019
287 | Aug Q & A
01:06:02
August’s Q&A was a great one for everyone needing tips and tricks for helping their children and themselves get and stay “organized.” Brendan and I help talk through various strategies we’ve used to help our kids with schoolwork and assignments as well as ways we stay on top of our homes, cars, and calendars. We start the session off with a question about the progress that’s being made with making ADHD a nationally recognized health issue and our recommendations for bringing awareness to your state politicians. The only way to really raise this issue up is being persistent and helping others to recognize the effects ADHD has on so many other health issues. Have you ever wondered if stimulants have an impact on your creativity? We had an awesome question from a creator in the group asking about the long-term effects of taking stimulants and staying creative. This question led to our discussion of the distinction between being a creative person and being a creator.  Do you have questions that you need to be answered or a solution to a problem you experience every day? Sign up for next month’s Q&A at !  Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [02:38] Welcome to the August Q&A session with Eric and Brendan. [03:50] Any progress or thoughts on the goal of raising ADHD to the federal level? [04:50] Learn what you can do to help the push for awareness! [09:38] How to stop keeping so many tabs open on our internet browsers. [15:16] Tips for sticking with calendar reminders for notifications. [22:18] Do stimulants affect creativity over the longterm? [30:47] Could stimulants increase study speed? Other exercises or practices?  [33:36] How to help children with ADHD remember school work and assignments to curb procrastinating. [39:47] Learn helpful strategies for keeping your home, car, etc clean when you are ADHD inattentive?  [51:02] Does Eric feel like he’s changed since he started his podcast?  [54:44] Has Brendan changed since starting his podcast?  [1:00:25] If you want to join in next month’s Q&A, check out .  [1:01:11] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 10, 2019
286 | Strengths, Expectations, Frustration, and Sensory Processing with Ann Marie Silverberg
58:27
Ann Marie Silverberg is a wife, mother, dog trainer and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen in as we chat about her road to diagnosis, how ADHD affects her life and business, and why, in many ways, she views the condition as a strength.  Ann Marie’s road to diagnosis was a fairly long one. Like many others trying to find a reason for their behavior, she had an Aha! moment, but an actual diagnosis was long in coming. It was almost as if no one WANTED to diagnose her. She shares the struggle that she went through and what led to her finally receiving the help she needed. Do you have sensory processing issues? So does Ann Marie! She uses that sensory overload to her advantage in her work. Listen as she shares why she’s very similar to the animals she trains and how that similarity makes her an expert at her craft. This was an awesome conversation full of positivity and advice for keeping on track with your goals. We dig into how Ann Marie cues herself for behavioral change and the importance of positivity in everyday life. Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [01:35] Welcome to the show Ann Marie Silverberg, a certified dog trainer and behavioral consultant! [03:44] Learn why Ann Marie decided to work with aggressive dogs. [05:24] What has Ann Marie learned from working with anxious and aggressive dogs about her own behavior?  [06:06] Why trying to parent keyed her into a possible underlying issue in her own behavior. [09:58] How long did it take for Ann Marie to be diagnosed with ADHD after she had her “Aha!” moment. [18:02] Why setting realistic expectations is very important to maintaining your sanity. [21:54] How does ADHD show up in Ann Marie’s business?  [24:39] Do cues work to remind Ann Marie to use the spreadsheets she creates?  [31:24] Ann Marie shares some of her sensory processing issues and how they affect her business for the good and bad. [37:08] What cues does Ann Marie use to reinforce behavioral changes?  [39:13] How does she leverage her strengths in her business?  [47:50] Does Ann Marie struggle with low frustration tolerance?  [53:02] Connect with Ann Marie! [53:32] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Sep 03, 2019
285 | I'm not Broken, I'm Different (part 2) with Geneviève Sévigny
01:10:05
Genevieve’s coaching session was so good we had to break it into 2 parts. Last week we discussed a variety of topics, but this week we dig deeper. Genevieve has a variety of passions but finding the time and energy to not only start them but complete them has been a struggle. Genevieve discusses several business ventures she has considered and started and we dig into how those ventures can support her. We also discuss ways she can stay on track and create success. She has a lot of passions and philanthropic goals, so helping her complete those goals is important. Genevieve really did have some amazing ideas and questions. Listen in if you’ve had any issues staying on track in your business and life. If you didn’t listen to part I, go back now and hear how we tackled some of the issues leading into Genevieve’s business creation. Your Resources: by Roy Vaden by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan You’ll Learn: [02:07] Listen as Eric introduces Part 2 of Genevieve’s interview with a listener comment. [03:14] How do you figure out your priorities when you have multiple passions?  [07:27] Genevieve shares the passions she wants to pursue. [10:41] We unpack how YouTube can be monetized. [14:53] Are there any connections between Genevieve’s various passions and goals?  [20:02] Can Genevieve connect her Etsy work and her YouTube work?  [21:37] What will pay the bills? What strategy has Genevieve employed? [28:04] Why is procrastinating on purpose important?  [31:53] What can you do that makes everything else easier?  [40:39] Back from the break and how do you remember the one thing that needs to be done?  [41:42] What could get in the way of doing the ONE thing?  [45:50] Determining the timing of task is very important. [50:24] Are Genevieve’s next steps clear?  [55:33] The more we say no to, the more we get done. [1:00:58] What could Genevieve do to systematize her time? [1:04:23] Connect with Genevieve. [1:05:14] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .  
Aug 27, 2019
284 | I'm not Broken, I'm Different (part 1) with Geneviève Sévigny
56:15
There is a fine line between feeling broken and feeling different. Today’s guest is Geneviève Sévigny, who was recently re-diagnosed with ADHD. She has been struggling with how to connect to her friends and ways that she can discuss her symptoms with them.  This is a 2-part episode chock full of ways that you can approach well-meaning friends and acquaintances when they say things that set you on edge. Geneviève is open and honest about her struggles and beliefs and the conversation was so seamless that we went way over the normal span of an episode. Get ready to dig into the beliefs you have about your diagnosis and how it affects your life. We also discuss some of the internal conversations we have with ourselves and how our self-talk affects our relationships and worldview. Geneviève shares her struggles in the hope that others feel less alone and can learn from her experience. You won’t want to miss this 2-part episode. Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [01:53] Welcome back to the show as we discuss the feeling of brokenness. [04:27] How do you stop feeling like you’re broken and lazy? [10:25] What are some ways to discuss the symptoms with friends without frustration? [16:26] Ways to respond when friends say, “I do that too!” [28:25] Back from the break and working to understand ourselves and our gifts. [33:59] We discuss the implications of, “It’s not me, it’s my ADHD.”  [42:12] Geneviève shares why the French think of ADHD as lunacy. [48:30] What sucks more than ADHD? Brain injuries! [50:53] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 18th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are coming soon.  ArC 18 Summer Sessions run Oct 4 – Dec 20.  Please visit to learn more. You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Aug 20, 2019
283 | July Q&A
01:08:12
Brendan and I are back for July’s Q&A session! The goal of these Q&A sessions is to allow you, the listener, a chance to submit questions and situations for us to help talk you through and mastermind. It doesn’t matter if the issue is personal or professional, sometimes you just need to talk it through and look at it from a different perspective. Our questions this month range from how to get “unfrozen” when making decisions to medications to questions on coaching styles. The questions were in-depth this month and Brendan and I really dig in to help answer your questions. As usual, if you’ve been dealing with problematic ADHD symptoms, then you need to listen to this episode. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you are prescribed a medication, you should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are effective for all people. There are a variety of options and you’ll need individual help to determine which medications are right for you. This Q&A covered a wide range of topics and we provide some fantastic takeaways no matter what stage you’re in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also struggle with our own flare ups! Lack of sleep and competing priorities is problematic for everyone, but when you have ADHD it’s worse! (just ask Brendon!) Your Resources: You’ll Learn: [02:34] Welcome back! This is the July Q&A session. [05:48] Julie needs to learn how to break out of the frozen zone and make decisions. [15:10] Daniel needs some help figuring out his medication times. [23:39] Back from the break and responding to a question about managing dual diagnoses. [27:36] How can you focus on the positives in the midst of failure?  [33:50] Is group coaching comparable to 1:1 coaching?  [42:43] How do you motivate yourself to get up and go when you have several responsibilities? [46:42] Welcome Diane to the show! She asked a live question about overcoming sleep procrastination. [56:22] How do you break big projects down into smaller steps so that you get them done?  [1:03:21] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Aug 13, 2019
282 | Mastermind Session: Doing Stuff You Don't Feel Like Doing - Madeline
01:16:41
Welcome back to another mastermind episode. Today we have Madeline in the hot seat as we work through the issues she has been facing with getting more done and having productive free time. We discuss ways that she can get more done while still playing video games but also doing things in her free time that restore and rejuvenate not just kill time. This mastermind begins with a discussion on how to break through and do the I don’t wanna’s, ways to help Madeline do her chores, study and how “I’ll do it later” is just a lie we tell ourselves. They talked about what they feel like when they think I don’t wanna, is it resentment because you have to do it?  Is there guilt because you feel the resentment? Madeline is given some great advice in this mastermind! Listen in and learn some fantastic tips to manage your I don’t wannas, learn to rewrite the script in your head and make the I don't wannas into a positive outcome.. You’ll Learn: [02:04] Welcome back! Madeline is in the hot seat on this episode. [02:16] Everyone is introduced by Eric. [03:04] Madeline tells us what she wants to Mastermind today. [03:58] Has Madeline done research on whether play is part of productivity?  [05:26] Does anyone feel rejuvenated after using technology?  [12:27] Madeline talks about how she likes to do non productive things first thing in the morning. [25:49] We are back from the break and dive into working through the transitions of I don’t wanna’s. [27:51] What video game has Madeline played that does make her feel good? [32:52] We now shift to how to be more productive and how to beat the I don’t wannas. [32:58] What are Madeleines key I don’t wannas that she is struggling with? [35:17] What chore does she do that when it is done she it makes her feel really good? [42:02] How can we help Madeline do her chores like drying dishes, scooping kitty litter and decluttering her desk? [46.38] Stopping the I’ll do it later syndrome. [54:19] Is there a degree of opposition when someone asks you to do something? [55:58] Madleine needs to learn new scripts in her mind and use scripts to do it. [58:24] What's the equivalent of wiggling the pinkie finger for the tasks you don't wanna do? [1:03:12] How is accountability brought into the situation? [1:09:29] After listening to what has been discussed, what things does Madeleine think she can commit to? [1:11:17] Final thoughts? [1:12:27] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Aug 06, 2019
281 | Mastermind Session - Communication and Relationships
01:17:39
Welcome back to another mastermind episode. Today’s hot seat member is Derek and we work through the issues he has been facing with communication and relationships. We discuss a variety of topics ranging from moving your internal conversation to an external one, and establishing strong and appropriate communication boundaries.  This mastermind starts off with a discussion on appropriate conversation lengths and topics. Derek shares an issue he has with his unwillingness to limit his conversations to an appropriate amount of time. A lot of times he relies on his wife to pull him out of conversations that have gone over the acceptable social timeframe. Learn the groups’ tips and tricks on how to limit your conversation. This led into a conversation about boundaries and appropriate tactics for addressing conflict in relationships. Learn how to keep hard conversations from becoming catastrophic events by regularly expressing grievances in a controlled manner. Keeping things in only leads to having harder conversations later. Derek is given some amazing advice in this mastermind! You wont want to miss the references to Brene Brown’s book as the tips are very actionable. Listen in and learn some fantastic tips to manage your boundaries and communication in a variety of relationships. Your Resources You’ll Learn: [01:16] Welcome back! Derek is in the hot seat on this episode. [02:18] Derek shares the topics he needs to mastermind. [03:06] What does Derek mean by wanting his “true” feelings to be known? [08:19] Does Derek have relationships where he can interact unfiltered?  [10:54] What is guiding his interactions? What is his internal monologue?  [14:37] Learn tips on how to exit a conversation. [22:48] We are back from the break and dive into boundaries, bad conversations, and medication. [27:02] When do the hard conversations happen and how often does Derek let things roll off of him?  [33:23] How about creating weekly check-ins to establish a space to discuss conflict? And other great tips. [42:57] Learn how to get more time together with your spouse by using your resources when you have kids on the spectrum. [49:21] Use your body as a cue to protect your boundaries.  [55:20] How Brene Brown approaches trust both for ourselves and others. [1:01:40] Always be aware of how you’re coming off to other people. [1:05:10] Roxie and Derek discuss work boundaries and their perceptions of a specific situation and how avoiding conflict creates a bigger story. [1:09:49] Derek speaks out his commitments for this mastermind and how he’ll stick to them. [1:12:48] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jul 30, 2019
280 | Mastermind Session - Routines, Budgeting, and coffee runs
01:12:23
This episode is another Mastermind episode designed to help a member work through something that has been holding them back from success. Our Mastermind hotseat participant is Roxie and she’s looking for help creating systems for remembering her priorities. We discuss various reward systems, memory enhancement tactics, and dig into the root of the problem. To frame the issue, Roxie uses her need for coffee as the catalyst for her memory concerns. She and her husband sit down every month and create a budget for their spending. Within a few minutes, hours, or days, she’ll forget everything they are working toward and make bad spending decisions. Today we dig into how to reset her memory and break the habit of rewarding herself with coffee breaks. From doing chores for coffee, to using the Starbucks rewards system, the Mastermind group gives Roxie tons of great advice. Her biggest issue we find is triggering her memory on the plans and future wants that she and her husband are saving up for. Learn how to create effective memory triggers that work in this episode. You wont want to miss the creative journaling ideas, QR code triggers, and tattoos! Your Resources You’ll Learn: [01:21] Welcome back to the show and another Mastermind Session! [02:49] Roxie wants to mastermind maintaining systems on this episode of the show. [06:11] Learn how coffee represents a reward system and also a budget buster. [08:55] Additional questions about how purchasing coffee is affecting Roxie’s life and ways to approach the issue. [16:19] One strategy for curbing spending is to create barriers to spending. [23:24] How to disrupt our routine when we’re on auto-pilot. [25:10] It’s more helpful to remind yourself what you do want to do versus what you don’t want to do. [28:59] Would a point system help in the reward system? [32:28] When the issue isn’t what you do or don’t want to do but instead it’s a cycle of behavior. [34:45] Learn how order is the number one thing Roxie wants her day to revolve around, and that can be used to curb the forgetfulness. [38:09] Could journaling help? Learn more after the break. [44:46] Do you beat yourself up when you fall off whatever horse you’ve created? [47:16] How can you reinforce your priorities when you make decisions in the moment? [49:55] What two phrases can help keep you on track when you have competing wants? [53:15] Can living with an enabler be overcome? What about having an external accountability partner? [56:57] Mastermind members share their tips and tricks for creating memorable reminders and Roxie responds. [1:01:51] Creating QR codes that link to videos could help with reminders! [1:04:40] The members help with additional reward tips for Roxie’s coffee habits. [1:07:35] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit  to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to  and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to  Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
Jul 23, 2019
279 | The Right Job for you with Dr. Miriam Reiss
01:09:22
On this episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Miriam Reiss, a career and life strategist who is living with ADHD and working to help those with ADHD crush finding the right job for them. She shares information about her programs and the 5 stage process she puts all of her clients through for building their best career. You wont want to miss a minute of this great conversation. Learn all about the 5 stages of Miriam’s job searching process. Each stage is designed to help you identify your core goals, the way your brain works, and how the two come together to influence your perfect job. She focuses heavily on figuring out the right environment for your brain and how there is no one job that is “best” for someone with ADHD. Eric and Miriam also dig deep into the importance of preparing for your interviews. Just because you think you know exactly what to say in an interview and how you come off, does not mean that your interviewer’s perspective is the same. Learn some tips and tricks on how to crush the interview not only by impressing your potential company but by interviewing them as well. Miriam leaves you with so many great tips and tricks for managing the job search. Listen in and listen close to glean all of the amazing nuggets she gives. What was your favorite takeaway? Let us know on your favorite podcast app by leaving a review and rating. Your Resources You’ll Learn: [01:44] - Welcome back to the show! Today’s guest is Dr. Miriam Reiss. [02:38] - Learn how Dr. Reiss got into the business of focusing on career coaching. [06:23] - Where does Dr. Reiss start when she begins working with her clients?  [10:02] - What are the 5 stages of Dr. Reiss’s program? [21:22] - Miriam continues to discuss the 5 stages and the job search strategy. [25:34] - How does Miriam help her clients overcome the barrier of the fear of networking? [28:51] - What is her response to the person who asks her what the best job is for someone with ADHD? [34:33] - What does it mean to create an ADHD friendly environment?  [38:50] - How entering an interview from a place of self-respect alters the energy of the interaction. [46:43] - Learn how Dr. Reiss helps her clients evaluate their work environment. [49:05] - What is the process for taking stock of the things they hate in their jobs?  [55:09] - Asking the right questions in the interview is key to loving your job! [57:02] - How should a person with a spotty work history address that in their interview? [1:02:10] - How to reach Miriam! [1:03:37] - Hear Miriam’s final thoughts for you! [1:04:31] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at
Jul 16, 2019
278 | June Q & A
01:16:18
It’s June’s Q&A epiosode on the podcast and I’m joined by Brendan to answer your questions. We chat about topics ranging from the effects and need for medication to how to manage and cope with various aspects of having ADHD. There were a ton of great questions this month and you won’t want to miss the responses. What do sticky notes, note pads, and index cards have in common? Several of our questions had to do with accountability. Write things down! Put away the computer and put pen to paper, not only does this help keep you focused, you are also more likely to absorb the information. Learn more throughout the show.  Need to dive deep into how manage family responsibilities and schedules when members are on different systems? Change your verbiage and you may be able to alter their response. We spend a good bit of time on this topic because keeping an ADHD family on track is very important. There were so many fantastic questions this month that we didn’t get to them all. If you’re not already, consider becoming a Patron to access the full episode. Also, let us know what your questions are for next month’s episode. Your Resources You’ll Learn: [01:40] Welcome back to the podcast for June’s Q&A episode with Eric and Brendan. [02:45] Our first question is from Shawn, asking about life hacks for feeling more functional. [07:05] How to stay focused in meetings and not get flustered by questions. [12:17] Learn how permission relates to accountability?  [16:57] Eric asks Brendan what he tells clients who have issues taking responsibility for issues in their lives. [24:15] Eric and Brendan take the first live question on how to engage family members in an ADHD household in awareness and proactivity. [44:37] Learn about medications, long-term use of medications, and side effects. [50:34] How to get written meeting notes into Evernote! [52:30] Tips, tools, and insights for managing distractions to move forward in life. [57:47] Why breaking chores down and writing them on index cards reduces overwhelm. [1:00:39] How to cope with being gifted and ADHD. [1:04:21] Any tips on becoming less sensitive about family member’s remarks on ADHD? [1:09:59] Time ran out for the podcast episode. If you’re a Patron check out the unedited video for the full set of questions. [1:11:27] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group Early registration for ADHD reWired’s Spring season of our online, video-based coaching and accountability group has ended, and the groups are full. Our next registration signups begin May 10th.  To sign up on the email list, which allows you to register on May 7th, visit . ADHD Women’s Palooza Encore packages of this amazing conference are available for only $97!  That includes audio and video downloads, as well as abridged transcripts. Learn more at  Support the podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me.  With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at  ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to  and fill out an application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live!  These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm.  Go to . Want to be a guest? Hey, What about you?  Do you have a story? Are you a Coach?  Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call .
Jul 15, 2019
277 | Leadership and ADHD with Sharon Weinberg
01:16:22
Today on the podcast I’m joined by Sharon Weinberg to discuss how ADHD affects the leadership role. We chat about how ADHD changes the dynamic between leaders and their team members and how best to approach different kinds of conversations to create strong bonds and positive environments. As a leader with ADHD, it is important to understand and acknowledge how the condition affects your interactions with your team. It is also important for employees with ADHD to be open in conversation to elicit the most pertinent and usable feedback. Altering and realigning messaging helps create a positive environment for all. Sharon also shares in-depth about how evaluating processes and altering them to better match the capabilities of those with ADHD leads to more efficient and effective teams. One of my goals for this year is to re-evaluate my leadership style and the ways that I lead. This conversation with Sharon was unbelievably enlightening and provided me with amazing insights into how I can change my own processes. If you are a leader with ADHD or you have ADHD and want to develop a better relationship with your leaders, this episode is for you. Your Resources You’ll Learn: [01:14] - Welcome back to the show! Today I chat with Sharon Weinberg about ADHD and how it affects leadership roles. [04:08] - Sharon has been developing leaders in the corporate world for many years and across two different careers. [08:00] - Leadership is about communication, strategy, and implementation and Sharon reveals what that means and understanding leadership legacy. [14:50] - Context is key when providing feedback to your colleagues and co-workers. [16:13] - Proficiency and consistency are required for building behaviors both with ADHD and in leadership. [18:05] - Sharon and I discuss the connection between ADHD and rejection-sensitive dysphoria and ways to address them in a team setting. [34:25] - We return from the break and dig into collaborative decision making and how it helps people with ADHD to finalize decisions. [41:54] - Before a final decision can be made, you have to move from divergence, through convergence, to a decision. [44:01] - Being clear about expectations and how the final decision will be made. [46:45] - Sharon gives pro-tips on how to create an agenda for a meeting. [53:52] - Sharon provides some insights leaders listening to their intuition and developing their blind spots. [1:06:41] - We discuss the difference between getting by and excelling or thriving. [1:08:33] - There is an art and a science to leadership and you need to put both intention and attention together to be a successful leader. [1:10:34] - Connect with Sharon:  Call her: (510) 858-9196 [1:11:32] If you’re a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and click on our Patreon button at
Jul 02, 2019
276 | HSP, Empaths, Sleep, and ADHD with Susie Gutierrez
01:10:05
Today on the podcast I’m joined by Susie Gutierrez a singer, songwriter, actor, and all-around creative soul. We talk about her journey to being diagnosed with ADHD, how being empathic has impacted her relationships, and how important sleep schedules are. We talk about topics ranging from her short-lived career as a mascot to her songwriting journey. We also discuss the reasons she stopped seeing a therapist and instead started working with an ADHD coach. She also shares how important giving yourself permission to practice self-love is.  Susie was a blast to have on the show! She has an amazing upbeat personality and sheds light on different facets of living with and managing ADHD. Check out our conversation to gain some insights on how ADHD may be affecting your life. Your Resources | Dr. Elaine Aron | Tanner Gers You’ll Learn: [01:21] Welcome back! Susie Gutierrez and I chat all about HSP and related topics. [05:18] Working as a mascot was a way of hiding for Susie, is she still hiding?  [08:28] Susie describes what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP). [11:50] HSP is not a DSM but it is something that we need to be careful about. [16:08] Susie chats about her weird sensory triggers like whispering and baby talk. [22:35] Back from the break and we move into stimulation seeking behaviors we have. [26:07] Susie chats about how her high level of empathy and her ADHD diagnos