The Adult Chair

By Michelle Chalfant

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Subscribers: 341
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Pat
 Aug 31, 2019
Mrs.Chalfant targets specific issues through each podcast that can help listeners improve themselves. I have found her podcast to be very inspiring in my own life.

MEM
 Dec 6, 2018
Feels like she's trying to rush people through the healing process. Probably not good for those trying to heal from complex/relational trauma. Comes across like a New Age quack.

Description

In The Adult Chair, Michelle Chalfant applies her holistic approach to healing and transformation as a foundation for better understanding our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with stress, anxiety, depression, physical health, self-love, peace, emotional balance, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

Episode Date
261: How to Receive a Boundary from Your Adult Chair
21:54

We talk a lot about how to set boundaries in The Adult Chair®, but sometimes we forget that we are human and sometimes we cross others’ boundaries. The other side of mastering boundaries is learning how to humbly and gracefully receive a boundary when the tables are turned and we’re the ones being asked to shift our behavior or approach.

 

It’s very easy to perceive boundaries as criticism and go on the defensive, but receiving a boundary is an opportunity to understand someone better and deepen our relationships. When we show up with presence, pay attention to our triggers and respond with grace, we grow as a person and show up in a more intentional and loving way with the people around us.

 

In this episode, we’re looking at the other side of boundaries, and I’m walking you through simple steps for how to receive a boundary well and what not to do when approached with a boundary (plus, how to recover the conversation if you do find yourself getting defensive...it happens to all of us!).

 

Listen to discover:

  • Practical steps for receiving a boundary with grace
  • Tips for recentering when triggered
  • How to respond kindly and respectfully
  • What not to do when someone sets a boundary with you
  • How to spot (and get out of) an Adolescent reaction

If someone comes to you with a boundary, try to think of it as them sharing with you instead of drawing a line in the sand or putting up a wall. Sharing comes from a place of vulnerability and wanting connection, and it’s an honor when someone feels safe enough to share with us...even if it feels a little hard to hear sometimes.

 

It takes practice to receive a boundary with grace, but when you own your stuff, you will find you have healthier relationships all around.

“Give them that space to share whatever it is they need to share.” - Michelle Chalfant

“Get in your Adult and remind yourself, ‘It’s not about me.’” - Michelle Chalfant

“You want to make sure the person that’s sharing their boundary with you feels seen and heard.”  - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

 

The Adult Chair® Membership (May Theme: “I Own.”)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

TAC Circles®

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair® Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair® Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles®

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

May 06, 2021
260: Childhood Emotional Neglect with Dr. Jonice Webb
45:08

Do you find yourself feeling unfulfilled and empty, despite seemingly having everything you need to be happy? Do you crave closer relationships but feel like you can’t connect at the deep level you want?

 

These feelings can often be subtle signs of childhood emotional neglect, which is when our parents or caregivers didn’t tend to or validate our emotions as children. This sets us up for an adult life where we don’t know how to feel our own emotions — which is essential to experiencing joy, passion and connection!

 

In this show, I’m chatting with Dr. Jonice Webb, a psychologist and author and a highly requested guest in The Adult Chair® community, about how to spot childhood emotional neglect and how to begin the process of accessing your emotions as an adult. This show is filled with incredible insights into an issue that unknowingly affects so many of us and how to heal from it.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What childhood emotional neglect is
  • Why invalidating our feelings leads to shame
  • How childhood emotional neglect affects adult relationships
  • What emotional intimacy is
  • Rebuilding from childhood emotional neglect
  • Steps to start your healing journey

Childhood emotional neglect isn’t necessarily abuse; in fact, it can happen in very loving, well meaning homes. But anything that disconnects us from our emotions — our inner navigation system and a key to living in The Adult Chair — is going to keep us from living the happy, fulfilled life we all dream of. I hope this episode encourages you to look inward and connect with the deepest parts of who you are. That is how you will experience the fullness of life and connection with others!

 

“We need our feelings to survive and thrive in our adult life.” - Dr. Jonice Webb

 

“Eventually the child brain just erects a wall so that you don’t have to feel anything, and that wall stays there until you take it down.” - Dr. Jonice Webb

 

“Men have the equal capacity or ability to feel all emotions because they’re human.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“What you have inside is a constellation of how your parents treated your feelings.” - Dr. Jonice Webb

 

“Emotions are the expression of your deepest self.” - Dr. Jonice Webb

 

“Emotions are our built-in navigation system, and they guide us.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Dr. Jonice Webb Website

https://emotionalneglect.com

 

“Running on Empty” (Dr. Jonice Webb book)

https://drjonicewebb.com/the-book/

 

Adult Chair® Coaches

https://theadultchair.com/coaches/

 

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair® Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair® Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles®

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Apr 29, 2021
259: Your Healthy Adult in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
53:54

I know you guys love all things Enneagram (and I do too!), so I’m thrilled to bring back our resident Enneagram expert and dear friend of mine, Ramona Reid. Ramona, who is also an Adult Chair® Certified Coach, has always done a beautiful job weaving together The Adult Chair® with the Enneagram, helping us understand how our inner child and childhood wounding shapes our personality type and how our Adolescent fear manifests depending on our Enneagram type.

 

But the point of the Enneagram is not to put you in a box of personality...it’s to help you see the ways you’re already stuck so you can transform and become a more whole, authentic self! Each type also has the healthiest, highest version of their type (aka The Adult Chair) where the beautiful gifts and virtues of each type bring healing to the world...for example, Type 1’s integrity, Type 2’s love, Type 8’s power and Type 9’s peace.

 

So, in this episode, we’re focusing on what healthy looks like for each Enneagram type, so you can better understand what life looks like for you when you are in your Adult Chair!

 

Listen to discover:

  • A breakdown of all nine types and their highest versions
  • What The Adult Chair looks like for each Enneagram type
  • How to tell when you’re becoming healthier
  • Why we all access healing differently

I hope this episode gives you a guide to see when you’re living in your Adult Chair and reminds you of the beautiful gifts you uniquely bring to the world!

“When we’re in our Adolescent...our way of being is coming from the illusion that there’s something missing....When we start to realize that we are in fact the source of this thing that we think is missing...that’s when we start being in our Adult Chair.” - Ramona Reid

“The only way we can really get there is to identify the feeling behind the doing.” - Ramona Reid

 

“I don't think time heals. I think really getting in there and being curious and working with our emotions is what heals wounds.” - Ramona Reid

 

"This is what The Adult Chair is all about. That's why we've got all the aspects of what a healthy Adult looks like, so we can reach and point our energy towards that." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"You're not going to lose those parts of yourself. You're going to lose the part of yourself that acts out by not wanting to be scared." - Ramona Reid

 

"The next thought is the conscious thought from the Adult perspective." - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Ramona Reid Website

http://www.mynashvillecenter.com/

 

Episode #51: Find Your Authentic Self at the Heart of the Enneagram with Ramona Reid

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/51/

 

Episode #114: Deepening The Adult Chair® Using The Wisdom of the Enneagram with Ramona Reid

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/114-deepening-the-adult-chair-using-the-wisdom-of-the-enneagram-with-ramona-reid/

 

Episode #176: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/176/

 

Episode #205: Stress and Your Enneagram Type with Ramona Reid

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/205/

 

Adult Chair® Coaches

https://theadultchair.com/coaches/

 

TAC Circles®

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair® Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair® Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles®

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Apr 22, 2021
258: Healing the Brain after Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Rhonda Freeman
01:02:06

We’ve talked a lot about narcissistic abuse and the emotional effects of it on this podcast, but we haven’t dug into how this experience affects the brain and how neuroscience and healing from narcissistic abuse go hand in hand…until today! In this episode, we’re diving deep into this very important topic with Dr. Rhonda Freeman, who is an expert on the brain, neuroplasticity and trauma and who brings a message of hope to anyone wondering how to heal.

 

Dr. Freeman is a neuropsychologist who works with patients with neurological conditions and brain trauma, and after her own experience in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, she began using her knowledge of the brain to help survivors of abuse and trauma heal. This is an absolutely fascinating episode that gives an inside look into what is actually going on in the brain during and after an abusive relationship, how the healing process works and the hopeful science that shows why anyone can change their brain after trauma.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How a romantic relationship with an unhealthy person changes the brain
  • The effects of narcissism on children
  • Why anyone can heal and how the healing process works
  • The prefrontal cortex and trauma
  • How to get back into a balanced brain state
  • The importance of bodywork in changing the brain

One of the most interesting things Dr. Freeman talks about is how abusive situations activate parts of the brain that wouldn’t be activated otherwise...for example, the bonding system and threat system being triggered at the same time. When we can see what’s going on at a brain-chemistry level, it helps us understand why these situations are truly so unique and damaging...and why none of it is your fault!

But the hopeful side is that the brain is constantly changing and being shaped by new experiences, so with the right tools, you can heal and transform your brain and get back to a healthy, balanced state...and this episode will show you how!

“In general, experiences change our brains.” - Dr. Rhonda Freeman

 

“The brain will do whatever it takes to protect you.” - Dr. Rhonda Freeman

 

“We’re bonded...and even though we’re in threat, we can’t let go.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You have to have others to heal.” - Dr. Rhonda Freeman

 

“Pay attention to your intuition. If it feels off, don’t sweep it under the carpet.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Bonds don’t necessarily mean love.” - Dr. Rhonda Freeman

 

Resources

 

Dr. Rhonda Freeman Website

https://neuroinstincts.com/

 

Dr. Rhonda Freeman Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/neuroinstincts/

 

BrainHQ (Brain Training)

https://www.brainhq.com/

 

Diner Dash (Video Game with Cognitive Benefits)

https://www.crazygames.com/game/diner-dash

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Apr 15, 2021
257: Unlearning Codependency with Darlene Lancer
57:42

As you know, codependency is one of my “things.” Fortunately, it’s less of a thing these days, but I understand firsthand what it’s like to spend years so focused on others that we lose our sense of self. That’s part of why we talk about this so much on the podcast — so many people suffer for years not knowing about codependency, and I’m passionate about helping you get free...quickly and simply!

 

My guest today, Darlene Lancer, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author and expert on codependency and relationships. She has worked with couples and individuals for 30 years, and she shares SO much valuable information in today’s show about what codependency looks like, how to begin recovery, the connection between shame and codependency and practical steps to becoming a healthy, whole you.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The three stages to codependency recovery
  • The shame and codependency connection
  • Shame attacks and how to get out of them
  • The importance of mindfulness in recovery
  • How to start feeling your anger as a codependent
  • The connection between codependency and attachment styles
  • 10 ways to love yourself

Darlene closes the show with her 10 tips for loving yourself, and let me tell you, they are so beautiful! I remember when I was beginning my healing journey and being told I needed to learn self-love but having no idea where to begin...and these tips are exactly where to start! I hope this is an enlightening and empowering episode for anyone ready to unlearn codependency and learn to love themselves.

"We become alienated from who we really are because of faulty parenting, and we keep trying to fill up that emptiness or feel more alive by trying to connect to something outside ourselves." - Darlene Lancer

 

"Self-esteem in action is being self-empowered." - Darlene Lancer

 

"A parent's most important job is to reflect their child." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Codependency is based on faulty beliefs." - Darlene Lancer

 

"The unconscious doesn't distinguish between messages it hears from the outside and messages you tell yourself." - Darlene Lancer

 

"When we realize what's going on, it's like Act 2. And it's a very exciting time." - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Darlene Lancer Website

https://www.whatiscodependency.com/

 

Episode #249: The Power of Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/249/

 

Episode #253: Codependency and Anger with Michelle Farris

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/253/

 

The Adult Chair Membership - April “I Believe” Month

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Apr 08, 2021
256: Understanding Enmeshment with Dr. Ken Adams
54:04

Everyone wants a caring, loving family, right? But is it possible for close to become too close?

 

“Enmeshment” is a term that’s been gaining more traction recently, and it describes family systems that are intertwined in unhealthy ways. These families appear very loving from the outside, but that love is often based on guilt and obligation...and usually the family doesn’t even know this about themselves!

 

My brilliant guest today, Dr. Ken Adams, is pulling back the veil on enmeshment and helping us understand what it is and when and how it forms. One of the leading researchers and teachers on this topic, Dr. Adams helps us understand when closeness crosses a line, how to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy family structures and how to break free and develop secure attachments to your partner, friends or other relationships you’ve created.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What enmeshment means
  • How it forms in childhood
  • The effects enmeshment has on a spouse or partner
  • How to change the family system
  • Why getting free is something you have to do for yourself

Often, enmeshment is rooted in a lonely parent who substitutes their child for their partner. This leads to adult children who feel a sense of obligation to the parent’s well-being, even at the expense of their own needs or the life they’ve created.

 

The good news is that this doesn't have to be an either/or scenario. It’s possible to love your family without feeling tangled up with them, and you CAN redefine the relationship and become free to be who you’re meant to be — including a great son or daughter.

 

“The love contract is defined by obligatory guilt and loyalty, not about freedom to love.” - Dr. Ken Adams

 

“The empathetic, sensitive soul in the family gets globbed onto by the lonely parent.” - Dr. Ken Adams

 

“Enmeshment has a direct impact on romantic availability.” - Dr. Ken Adams

 

“Emancipation is not a negotiation.” - Dr. Ken Adams

 

“The idea of cracking [the false self] open and becoming the true self is terrifying because we don’t know who we are without that mask.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“It feels like your spouse is having an affair, but it’s with their mother or their father.” - Michelle

 

Resources

 

Dr. Ken Adams Website

https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/

 

Dr. Ken Adams YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzFj2abP0cx8tEO1eLyjbDA

 

“When He’s Married to Mom” (Dr. Ken Adams book)

https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/books/when-hes-married-to-mom/

 

“Silently Seduced” (Dr. Ken Adams book)

https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/books/silently-seduced/

 

The Adult Chair Membership - April “I Believe” Month

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Apr 01, 2021
Bonus: 5 Minute Self Love Meditation
06:06

This 5-minute meditation promotes relaxation, healing, and self-love.

 

It’s a wonderful meditation for emotional healing and/or physical healing or for anyone seeking greater peace in their lives.

Mar 25, 2021
255: 5 Steps to Getting Unstuck and Moving Forward with Your Life
33:53

Feeling stuck in life is one of the worst feelings. It can feel helpless, hopeless and confining — like no matter what we do, nothing is going to change and we have no options.

 

But this is a story from the ego! From our Adult, we know we ALWAYS have choices. That doesn’t always mean we love every option or we get the exact outcome we want, but we are never stuck. We can always make the next best choice.

 

Many of our listeners have written in asking about how to get unstuck, move forward or get their joy back, so today I’m sharing five simple steps to start getting change from the inside. These steps are easy but PACKED with power. If you try these and don’t see a change, I want to hear about it — I’m that sure they will help you!

 

Listen to discover:

  • Five simple (but powerful) steps to getting unstuck
  • What keeps us from making the changes we want
  • How to reconnect back to ourselves
  • The power of nature and a gratitude practice in getting unstuck
  • How to stop talking and start doing

Everything in your life begins with a dream. It starts with your imagination, daydreaming and really feeling how the life you want could feel (this is how we begin to shift energy). Then it becomes reality as your intention and action align.

 

The answer never comes from the outside. We have to patiently take one step forward at a time, knowing change takes time (but that it can be faster than we think). The life you deserve and are waiting for is right at your fingertips, and you can get there with these simple steps.

 

“If you don’t know yourself, how in the world are you going to change?” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Oftentimes when we’re stuck it’s because we’re not creating.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“What you talk about comes about.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The only thing that’s stuck is your thinking.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“From our Adult Chair, we know we have choices.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

14 Days to Peace and Balance Journaling Prompts

https://theadultchair.com/14days

 

5-Minute Self-Love Meditation

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/

 

Episode #254: Change Your Life With Breath With Nevsah Karamehmet

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/254/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Mar 25, 2021
254: Change Your Life with Breath with Nevsah Karamehmet
01:03:57

Would you believe me if I told you that 90% of unexplained illnesses could be traced to one simple thing...something you do every day? Believe it or not, they can, and that thing is breathing.

 

Studies have shown that hundreds of different ailments that can’t be traced back to a known cause can often be connected to dysfunctional breathing. The good news is that breathing is SO simple and easy to work with (all it takes is about five minutes a day), and in this episode, I’m interviewing the perfect person to help you get started.

 

Nevsah Karamehmet is a breathing expert and a wealth of knowledge on the science behind the breath and how it impacts every system in our bodies. In this episode, she shares how breathing affects our thinking and ability to process emotions, what healthy breathing really looks like and how to change your life through your breath.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The connection between breath and psychology
  • The science behind healthy breathing
  • How balancing the inhale and exhale balances the nervous system
  • Why breathwork is a great introduction to meditation
  • The connection between different types of breathing and different health issues
  • Simple exercises to help you start breathing better

I know what Nevsah is saying is true, because I’ve had this experience working with a personal trainer on my lower back. He connected my pain back to my breathing and has me doing breathwork to heal a physical issue. How much more is our breathing also affecting our thoughts, feelings and emotions every day?

Breath is the essence of life, so it’s absolutely something we need to learn how to do. Nevsah gives us a few really basic exercises to begin with that are SO easy and can make such a huge difference in our overall well-being. Every human needs to hear this episode!

“Breathing affects our psychology. The way we breathe affects how we think.” - Nevsah Karamehmet

“There is no correct way to breathe on the mechanical level...We all have different breathing habits. Some of those habits are helpful and some of those are harmful.” - Nevsah Karamehmet

“If your breathing is flexible, then you are healthy.” - Nevsah Karamehmet

“When we don’t stop the emotions, they pass through us.” - Michelle Chalfant

“In my breath journey, I became an Adult.” - Nevsah Karamehmet

Resources

 

Nevsah Karamehmet Website

https://www.nevsah.com/

 

Breath Coaching Federation

https://www.breathcoachingfederation.org/

 

Breath Hub App

https://breathhub.app/

 

Nadi Shadan Breathing Technique

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1jb7l2Uf7c

 

Belly Breath Technique

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9q9WTzqQTns&t=2s

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Mar 18, 2021
253: Codependency and Anger with Michelle Farris
46:17

Those who struggle with codependency often struggle with anger as well...but not in the way you might think. Unlike ragers or those with explosive anger, codependents tend to stuff and suppress anger to please others and avoid conflict...often not even knowing what they’re feeling themselves. This is just as unhealthy!

 

We need anger to guide us towards our needs and connect us to our experience. Anger, when expressed in a healthy way, can also lead to healthier relationships as we begin telling others how we feel and resolving problems before they turn into resentment.

 

Today, I’m talking with Michelle Farris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist, who is sharing her experience of learning to own and communicate her anger. She talks about how codependency forms, why feeling our anger is important and how to begin overcoming the fear of conflict and expressing yourself in relationships.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Concrete examples of what people pleasing looks like
  • The importance of validating emotions
  • Beginning recovery from codependency
  • How to catch the first thought and regulate anger (while still owning it)
  • How to communicate your anger in a healthy way

 

Anger is such an important human emotion...I think of it as rocket fuel to propel us towards what we want. When we’re codependent and don’t know ourselves, anger can be a key way to tap into our core needs and desires. It’s not selfish to look inward...and what you tap into inside of yourself might surprise you.

 

"Whenever we hit a road bump, I always remember there's going to be a huge gift on the other side of that." - Michelle Farris

 

"Healthy anger is us owning how we feel in the moment." - Michelle Farris

 

"When we stuff our anger, we're denying our own experience." - Michelle Farris

 

"I think of anger as rocket fuel. It really helps to push us forward in life." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"We don't cross the finish and feel 100% healthy. We are all a work in progress. But the thing you want to be doing is making sure you're walking forward on your journey."  - Michelle Chalfant

 

“As you get healthier, you will attract healthier people into your circle.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Michelle Farris Website

https://www.counselingrecovery.com/

 

Michelle Farris Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/CounselingRecovery/

 

Michelle Farris Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/counseling_recovery/

 

Episode #11: Codependency: I’m Ok If You’re Ok

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/11-codependency-im-ok-if-youre-ok/

 

Episode #127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to Help Others

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/127-codependency-ending-the-addiction-to-help-others/

 

Episode #172: The Joy of Codependency

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/172-the-joy-of-codependency/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Mar 11, 2021
252: Find Your Adult and Change Your Relationships
57:24

Wow — I was blown away by the response to last week’s episode (#251) with my one and only, Graham Chalfant. It seems like so many could relate to our relationship dynamics and the learning and work we’ve done over the years...and so many of you also asked how we started doing the work and making changes in our relationship.

 

In this week’s episode, I’m focusing the conversation back on the self and how we can each choose to show up differently in our relationships from our Adult Chair. We can’t make anyone change, but if we think of relationships as a dance, we can change the way we’re dancing, which gives our partners the opportunity to shift and fall into step with us. This is true for all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones.

 

Listen to discover:

  • My story of changing the dance in my own marriage
  • How to change the tone of your relationship by doing your own work
  • Finding your self-worth and setting boundaries in relationships
  • How to be more open and relational

 

We all bring our wounds, expectations and “stuff” to a relationship. When we do our work, we not only transform our own lives but we change the tone of our relationships, inviting friends and partners who are a true match for us into a new way of relating to each other. Everything — including strong, connected relationships — starts within!

 

“If you want to change your relationship with anybody, you’ve gotta change the dance.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“We are always attracting in other people based on our unconscious programming.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You’ve gotta see yourself as a very beautiful, precious diamond, and when you can see yourself like that, boundaries become more natural.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you own your stuff, it sets you free.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Episode #251: How Feeling Your Emotions Can Change Your Relationship with Graham Chalfant

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/251/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

 

Mar 04, 2021
251: How Feeling Your Emotions Can Change Your Relationship with Graham Chalfant
56:47

Everyone wants connection — we’re hardwired for it as humans! But we can only connect as deeply with others as we’ve connected with ourselves. Strong relationships start by going within, feeling our emotions and being willing to open up and share with our partners.

 

On this week’s podcast, I have a very, very special guest...my husband! We’re talking with you today together and sharing some very personal details about our marriage and how feeling emotions has changed our relationship for the better.

 

Graham comes from a background where emotions weren’t expressed, and I come from an Italian family that was very expressive. For so many years, we both saw the other as not emotional enough or too emotional. Learning to feel, honor and share our emotions has deepened our connection so much and been so transformational for us.

 

In this episode, Graham shares what helped him learn to process his emotions, how that’s changed his response to different situations and the changes we’ve both seen in our relationship.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How relationships can help us overcome childhood issues when we approach them with consciousness
  • The importance of raw, open communication in a relationship
  • Somatic processing and the power of feeling emotions in the body
  • Navigating anger and stress in a relationship
  • How feeling emotions deepens intimacy (both emotional and physical)

 

By the way, Graham did all of this work on his own (no bonus points for having a spouse who is a therapist and coach!). Which means YOU can do this too! We’re all born with the ability to feel our emotions, but we have to tune in with intention instead of running away from them. When we do, we’ll find they stop coming out sideways and are instead an invitation into deeper connection with others.

 

“When we engage in a relationship with another human being, our childhood issues are going to rear up. That person is here to help us work through those childhood issues.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Once our youngest child left the house, then it all slowed down and it became more apparent to me that I needed to figure out this ‘feeling’ thing.” - Graham Chalfant

 

“I learned I could just sit with it and in 30 seconds, that heaviness would literally melt away.” - Graham Chalfant

 

“Everybody has the ability to feel emotions. At some point along our life journey, we turn them off and turn them down.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you feel an emotion without building a story around it, the emotion goes through you in 90 seconds.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

 

Resources

 

Episode #42: Inviting Your Relationship into The Adult Chair with Michelle and Graham Chalfant

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/42-inviting-your-relationship-into-the-adult-chair-with-michelle-and-graham-chalfant/

 

Episode #49: Am I Fraud? Imposter Syndrome & You!

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/49-am-i-a-fraud-imposter-syndrome-you/

 

P&G Hair Food

https://hairfood.com/

Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart

 

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

New Dates: September 16-18, 2021

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

 

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Feb 25, 2021
250: How to Build Empathy and Improve Relationships
29:51

One of the biggest complaints I hear from clients is, “I wish my partner/parent/friend/whoever would be more empathetic!” We often look down on or get frustrated with those we don’t feel are empathetic enough, but empathy isn’t a trait you either have or you don’t...or a trait that makes someone good or bad. Like any healthy habit, it’s a skill we learn...and anyone can learn it if they want to!

 

Everyone wants to be heard and understood, and this is why empathy is such a beautiful skill in life: it’s a tool that helps us connect more deeply with others and show them we care. In this episode, I’m giving you four simple steps that you can use to begin practicing and building empathy with any relationship in your life!

 

Listen to discover:

  • The definition of empathy
  • Four simple steps to build empathy
  • How to get started with feeling emotions
  • Things you can ask the other person to show you care
  • Why showing empathy is different than prying

When you practice empathy, you open your own heart and emotional body. You deepen connection with others but also yourself!

Being able to show empathy is deeply connected to our ability to feel our own emotions. And since feeling emotions and being present are core parts of The Adult Chair, as you do your own work and live in your Adult Chair more often, don’t be surprised when you find that empathy begins to come more naturally. It’s all part of being healthy!

 

 “If you don’t listen well to others and automatically go into “fix it” mode, you may need to brush up on your empathy.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Offering empathy to another human being will get you much further than fixing them.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Deep listening with empathy can change someone.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Empathy is a skill that can be learned.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Feb 18, 2021
249: The Power of Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
53:59

Compassion is something we have when we live in our healthiest Adult self, but how easy is it for you to turn around and offer that compassion to yourself? Most of us speak very differently to ourselves than we would to a friend, especially when we make a mistake or are going through a hard time.

 

But self-compassion is an essential part of healing! In fact, studies show that truly effective therapy is improved by increasing our self-compassion so we can live with more love and less anxiety and stress.

My guest today, Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of the world’s leading self-compassion experts and one of the first to conduct scientific research on the benefits of self-compassion and how it can change your life. I LOVED our conversation, which covers everything from what self-compassion is and how to cultivate it to the inner critic, anger, gender roles and the way society often makes it difficult to cultivate self-compassion.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What self compassion really is
  • The three core components of self-compassion
  • Emotional and behavioral self-compassion practices
  • Why self-compassion is not selfish
  • When anger is constructive and loving
  • Why self-compassion is essential for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress

Self-compassion is not selfish. In fact, studies show that when we show ourselves compassion, it actually increases our compassion for others! Life is messy and none of us is perfect, which is why approaching the journey — both ours and others’ — with gentleness and kindness is so important to being healthy!

“The biggest problem with self-esteem is it’s contingent on success.” - Dr. Kristin Neff

 

“The word ‘compassion’ by definition is a connected stance.” - Dr. Kristin Neff

 

“I know from practicing The Adult Chair, where we’re mindful, we practice self-compassion, we’re living in the moment, we’re tuning into the moment...it gets easier.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“What reminds you to practice self-compassion is your suffering.” - Dr. Kristin Neff

 

“I really changed myself through self-compassion.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Dr. Kristin Neff Website

https://self-compassion.org/

 

“Fierce Self-Compassion” (Kristin Neff Book - Pre-Order)

https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106X

 

The Adult Chair Membership: $1 offer

Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1

February Theme = “I Love.”

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

 

Feb 11, 2021
248: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic and Sexual Abuse with Meredith Miller
53:25

Narcissistic abuse is, I believe, one of the most toxic experiences out there. While NO kind of abuse is ok, narcissists can be extremely subtle, sneaky and manipulative, making them difficult to spot. Anyone who has been in a relationship with one knows how confusing and damaging it can be.

 

My guest today, Meredith Miller, is a holistic coach who helps people heal themselves from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. After experiencing abuse from a narcissistic parent for nearly 38 years, she has a deep understanding of a narcissist’s traits, how to rebuild a sense of self and how to turn the experience into an opportunity for healing and growth.

 

Meredith shares her own story of abuse and healing, and we talk about SO many important topics, from what narcissistic abuse is to the myths around abuse and how to start healing.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How to identify abuse (and steps to take to get out)
  • Navigating toxic families and people
  • Tools for healing trauma
  • Setting boundaries and reprogramming the subconscious mind
  • How to navigate narcissistic partners as a parent
  • How to go “no contact” (if that’s right for you)

There is SO much incredible information packed into this hour! Meredith truly gets it, and I’m so grateful for the gift of her time and expertise in helping the world recognize and transform the effects of abuse.

 

“You can’t share your hopes and dreams with toxic people.” - Meredith Miller

 

“It’s so important that we stop, pause, work on our own healing and transform those programs.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The trauma awakens you to this whole new potential...we start to discover the parts of ourselves that weren’t hurt.” - Meredith Miller

 

“When you give explanations for boundaries, toxic people just see that as points to keep negotiating with you on.” - Meredith Miller

 

Resources

 

Meredith Miller Website

https://www.innerintegration.com/

 

Meredith Miller Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-integration-podcast/id1418633395

 

Meredith Miller YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/innerintegration

 

Meredith Miller Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/inner_integration/

 

Meredith Miller Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/InnerIntegration/

 

The Adult Chair Membership: $1 offer

Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1

February Theme = “I Love.”

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Episode #179: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/179/

 

Episode #196: Spotting Covert Narcissism

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/196/

 

Episode #207: The Narcissism and Codependency Connection with Ross Rosenberg

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/207-the-narcissism-and-codependency-connection-with-ross-rosenberg/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Circles

https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/

(Previously “TAC Gatherings”)

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Feb 04, 2021
247: Decision Making Made Easy
31:03

Decisions, decisions. We are all faced with dozens of choices every day — some that we make without a second thought and others that can leave us wrestling with all our options or get us completely stuck.

 

When we are in the Adolescent Chair (the seat of the ego), decisions can feel intimidating or impossible, not only because we’re worried about making the “right” choice, but also because it comes with the other traps of the ego: ruminating thoughts, negative self-talk and stuck parts. Getting into the Adult Chair and bringing in consciousness completely transforms the way we approach and make decisions!

 

In this episode, I walk you through the reasons you might get stuck making a decision, hands-on tools for easier decision making (I love a good pros and cons list) and tools you can use to find blocked parts and get more confident in whatever decision you choose.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Reasons why you might struggle with decision making
  • The downward spiral of self-judgment that can keep us from making decisions
  • Practical steps to get unstuck and make conscious decisions
  • A parts work process to work with blocked parts

Choice is a gift, and with these steps, you will find that you can enjoy easy decision making and make the most of the many beautiful opportunities you are offered in life!

“This is why we have such a difficult time making decisions: the ego is unconsciously whispering to us ‘Don’t do that. That’s not safe.’” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The ego can run wild if we’re unconscious.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“If you can feel at least 80% [ready to make a decision], it’s ok to have a little bit of fear.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you bring consciousness into your reality when it comes to decision making, your life will change and you will find that decision making becomes easier than you imagined.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

The Adult Chair Membership

Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

TAC Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Jan 28, 2021
246: Transform Your Life Experience Using The Adult Chair with Anita
41:54

Each week on this show, I aim to bring you ideas, expertise and tools to make psychology simple and to introduce you to new healing possibilities. But my goal has never been just to share knowledge. My goal is transformation...to make it easy for you to do your work and become who you were meant to be using this model!

 

I love bringing you stories of others who have been able to take what they’ve learned here and put it into practice to see REAL change in their lives. As others model the model for us, we see how easy it is to use, get ideas for how to apply it and are motivated to keep doing the work because we see how it truly can transform!

 

When I heard Anita share her story in The Adult Chair Membership group, I knew this was one I had to share with you. Anita grew up in a dysfunctional family and has been working to heal her internal programming using The Adult Chair over the last year. The holidays in particular are difficult for Anita because her family didn’t celebrate Christmas, even though she always wanted to as a child. She felt a lot of loss, shame and disappointment around the end of the year.

 

But this year, she completely transformed her holiday experience by working with her inner child and creating a magical Christmas for her and her husband. In doing so, she was also able to work through some triggers and view her relationship with her parents in a healthier way. I’m truly blown away by the work she has done, and I know you will be so inspired by her story.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Exactly how Anita used The Adult Chair to transform a negative experience
  • How to work with the inner child to reclaim joy
  • How to stayed grounded and in fact and truth in conversations with family
  • Anita’s “gratitude, guidance and grace” daily practice

“We get programmed with what our ‘norm’ is, and until we bring consciousness and awareness, we can’t change it.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Because I’ve been working so intently with The Adult Chair model this year, that’s why I think this holiday experience was totally different.” - Anita

 

“When you can bust your stories, or the stories that happen in the Adolescent Chair from our ego, we stay in the present moment, it takes you out of the trigger and it’s over.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Gratitude brings you to presence.” - Anita

 

 

 

Resources

 

The Adult Chair Membership

Use promo code ‘Anita’ to try your first month for $1

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Jan 21, 2021
245: Finding Balance Through Chinese Medicine with Brodie Welch
39:22

To start 2021, we are talking all about simple, hands-on tools and practices that you can incorporate into your life to help you get into your Adult Chair — now and all year long. Today, we’re talking about one of my favorites: Chinese medicine.

 

Chinese medicine is a beautiful, holistic view of healthcare that helps us find balance on the emotional, physical and spiritual level. It incorporates acupuncture, herbology, bodywork, movement and diet along with meditation and other grounding practices to bring health to your entire self.

 

At the root of all Chinese medicine practices is the idea that we are interconnected beings and true wellness comes from treating the whole person and not just symptoms. I love this approach!

 

In this episode, I talk with Brodie Welch, an acupuncturist and expert in Chinese medicine. We talk about presence, consciousness and processing emotions along with physical tools such as Qi gong and herbs. You might be surprised by the way these overlap with many of the ideas in The Adult Chair!

 

Listen to discover:

  • How Chinese medicine helps the body create health by finding balance
  • How to find patterns and treat them holistically
  • Why it’s important to look for connections between how you’re feeling and where those feelings manifest in the body
  • What Qi gong is and its benefits
  • Simple self-care actions that you can take each day to live more in balance

Brodie also walks us through a simple Qi gong exercise on the podcast that will help you get into balance in the moment (and maybe try a new practice you haven’t tried before!).

“It’s a way of looking at the world and the body as an ecosystem...Chinese medicine sees the body as this interconnected system of different kinds of energy.” - Brodie Welch

 

“No state of our physicality doesn’t have an emotion that goes with it.” - Brodie Welch

 

“It’s not about treating a condition. It’s about treating a person.” - Brodie Welch

 

“You don’t have to make this giant leap into someone that you’re not...If we can shift a tiny bit today and then the next day, we’re going to find a great change.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

 

Resources

 

Brodie Welch Website

https://brodiewelch.com/

 

Free Qi Gong Resource

https://brodiewelch.com/calm/

 

Brodie Welch Podcast

https://brodiewelch.com/podcast/

 

TAC Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Jan 14, 2021
244: Music as a Healing Art with Cheryl B. Engelhardt
42:37

Every day, our minds are taking in thousands of sights and sounds that can either bring us stress or calm….sometimes without us even knowing it! But what if we could intentionally use tools like sound and music to bring relaxation, presence and calm into our lives?

 

In this episode, I’m chatting with the fascinating Cheryl B. Engelhardt, a New York-based composer who creates beautiful music designed to boost our brain state and promote healing in our lives. After battling panic attacks and transforming her own anxiety using tools like meditation and a gratitude practice, Cheryl combined her science and music backgrounds to compose arrangements that help us process our emotions, get into the flow state and find more balance in our lives.

 

Cheryl uses her awareness of biological factors like resting heart rate and different types of brain waves along with her own success with affirmations and mindfulness to create intricately designed tracks that affect the listener at the emotional level.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Cheryl's amazing story of overcoming anxiety and pouring what she learned into her musical career
  • How music can help you get in the flow and reduce distraction
  • The science behind how music affects your brain state, mood and more
  • The connection between music and emotions

 

I love the way Cheryl has crafted each song on her new album “Luminary” to focus on releasing or attracting different things like confidence, abundance and love. And I’m telling you...this music puts you in such a focused and present state that you can feel right away!

Music, like energy, is frequency and vibration, so it only makes sense that music has the power to impact us at a deep level. What a gift to have a tool that all of us can access and that allows us to balance our brains and heal anxiety just by listening!

"Two months into starting a daily meditation practice, I had my last panic attack." - Cheryl B. Engelhardt

"Gratitude flips that and gratitude starts to have you say ‘What’s good here?’" - Michelle Chalfant

 

"The music is matching the energy of the emotion and then it's pulling you up." - Michelle Chalfant

 

 

Resources 

“Luminary” Album

https://www.iamaluminary.com/

 

Cheryl B. Engelhardt Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/cbemusic/

 

Cheryl Engelhardt Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/cbemusic/

 

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

TAC Gatherings 

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/

 

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Jan 07, 2021
243: Holiday Series: Healing and Repairing Relationships
34:20

We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships.

 

When a relationship is suffering, there’s nothing we want more than to heal and restore it, but many of us don’t know where to begin. We might have our own feelings of guilt and shame to overcome or believe the other person never wants to see or talk to us again.

 

But as long as we are alive, there is hope of change! Relationships can and do heal all the time, and you have the power to repair the damage done and move forward in an even stronger relationship than before.

 

In this episode, I’m giving you eight simple steps for healing and transforming the relationships in your life. In it, I give the example of one of my clients who was working to repair her relationship with her kids, but the advice here applies to EVERY relationship...spouse, friend, family, coworker, you name it!

 

Listen to discover:

  • Eight steps to healing a broken relationship
  • How to start the process of repairing the relationship if there’s been a disconnect
  • What a true apology looks like
  • How to change the relationship through actions instead of words
  • How to forgive yourself — the most important step no matter what happens in the relationship

If you’re living on this planet, chances are you’ve hurt someone and want to know how to make it right. Tune in to discover a practical step-by-step guide to begin the process of healing...for yourself and others!

“If someone is willing to repair a relationship and put the time and effort into repairing the relationship, I always have hope.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Forgiveness allows us to get unstuck and to move on for ourselves. It’s freedom!” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“There is great power in accepting what is...if you are not accepting where things are, you are in resistance of truth.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you stay with just today in the present, this is where all things can change...including, and most importantly, your perception of yourself.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

The Adult Chair Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

 

The Self Series 

theadultchair.com/self

 



More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Dec 31, 2020
242: Holiday Series: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair
48:46

“Help! I think I’ve ruined my kids’ lives!”

 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from clients, listeners and even my own inner critic. No one gets a trial run at parenting, which leads to a lot of self-doubt among parents. We’re all learning as we go, and it’s easy to wonder if we’re doing it right or if we should just go ahead and start a therapy fund for our kids to work through the issues we created.

 

Well, this episode is here to help you put your fears to rest and help you become the healthiest (NOT perfect) parent you can be. I’m breaking down my seven tips for healthy parenting from your Adult Chair (hint: they’re more about you than your kids) and hopefully providing a little reassurance that you’re normal and no, you haven’t ruined your kids lives (wait until you hear the not-so-proud parenting moments I share!).

 

Listen to discover:

  • What a parent’s job actually is
  • Seven steps to become a healthy parent
  • Why there’s no such thing as perfect
  • Finding compassion for yourself and your kids
  • How to handle it when your kids trigger you
  • Setting boundaries and how to respond when your child makes a mistake

Whether you feel like you’ve screwed up or you’re just starting out and trying to get it right, I promise that it’s never too late. When YOU become healthy and live in your Adult Chair, your kids will see it modeled and become healthy too. Check out this episode to get simple, practical tips you can put into action to change the way you parent today.

 

“Humans learn from experience far more than they learn from words.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Our job as parents or caregivers of these beautiful little beings is to be guard rails for them...kids are supposed to make mistakes while in the loving protection of your home.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You can’t change something without owning where you are and accepting it.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Boundaries help our kids feel safe.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Don’t keep your kid on a one-way expressway. Let them be who they came here to become.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

 

Resources 

The Adult Chair Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

 

The Adult Chair Membership (December = “I Forgive” Month)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

Dr. Shefali (Conscious Parenting)

https://drshefali.com/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

 

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

 

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Dec 24, 2020
241: Ending Anxiety and Becoming Empowered
23:04

Who is ready to get rid of the anxiety of 2020 and move into a more empowered 2021? I know I am! Anxiety is something all of us have felt during this crazy and difficult year. Maybe for you it’s a familiar feeling that has been turned up to full blast or maybe you’re finding yourself battling with anxiety for the first time in your life. It can feel consuming and hard to break out of.

 

But you have more power than you realize...power to transform your anxiety and move forward into a more healthy, peaceful and balanced life no matter what is going on around you. In The Adult Chair, we define anxiety as “the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions.” Thoughts create emotions, emotions get pent up inside the body and then these (often unconscious) emotions rattle the nervous system. We have to get to the root of this for anxiety to change!

 

In this episode, I’m giving you two simple steps and five tools to do just that. These will show you how to work through your emotions, calm anxiety and walk into a more empowered future.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What really causes anxiety
  • The two quick and easy steps you can take to begin calming your anxiety now
  • Five free tools you can use at home to eliminate anxiety
  • How to feel empowered during and after anxiety

 

During the episode, I walk you through a mindfulness exercise so you can actually begin calming your nervous system and lowering your anxiety WHILE you listen! That resource is at minute mark 10:28-13:34 so you can go back and find it anytime you need it.

 

I hope this episode gives you straightforward action steps that you can take to get rid of anxiety and live with more freedom and a sense of power in your life!

 

“Becoming really, truly aware of what anxiety is is step #1 to really getting into your power.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The ego says, ‘Do more and you’ll feel better.’ But it doesn’t work. It’s an illusion.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When we sit and just think and think and think about what’s going with us, it’s a treadmill. It doesn’t solve anything.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Taking action is what brings our power in.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

14 Days of FREE Journaling Prompts

https://theadultchair.com/14days

 

The Adult Chair Membership (December = “I Forgive” Month)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Dec 13, 2020
240: Expanding Consciousness with Dr. Dain Heer
01:03:01

What if you had far more say over your life than you realized? What if you could create the reality you want...just by changing your perspective?

 

As we learn more about energy and consciousness, one thing is becoming clear: our biggest limitations are the ones we put on ourselves, and with awareness, so many possibilities open up to us!

 

In this episode, I interview the fascinating Dr. Dain Heer about expanding consciousness and creating our reality. A practitioner of a method called Access Consciousness, Dr. Dain shares his incredible story of going from feeling unhappy and wanting to die to experiencing unbelievable peace in his life using the tools and techniques of the Access Consciousness model.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How to change the default mode network of the brain
  • How to shift the electromagnetic signals of negativity and judgment (and how this changes everything!)
  • How to clear emotions and beliefs you picked up from others
  • Simple tools and techniques to remove limitations
  • How to view this season in the world as a chance to become better

 

This episode ends with Dr. Dain leading us through an Access Consciousness process and let me tell you, it was powerful! I hope this episode helps open your mind and shift your perspective to see the possibilities all around — and most importantly, within — you.

 

“Not only do I have a level of peace that’s growing in my life, but when it wants to go away, I’ve got a way of changing it.” - Dr. Dain Heer

 

“98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions are things you’re picking up from other people.” - Dr. Dain Heer

 

“Your point of view creates your reality.” - Dr. Dain Heer

 

“Everything is energy. We’ve got to pay attention to our thoughts and our feelings and our emotions and our beliefs.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

Dr. Dain Heer Website

https://drdainheer.com/

 

Access Consciousness Website

https://www.accessconsciousness.com/

 

The Clearing Statement Website

http://theclearingstatement.com/

 

The Adult Chair Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

 

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Dec 10, 2020
239: Guilt from The Adult Chair
22:18

It can be really tough to talk about guilt. No one wants to focus on a mistake they’ve made, and it can be especially hard to own and admit when we’ve done something wrong if we’re wracked with shame and beating up on ourselves.

 

But guilt can be a very healthy emotion when it comes from The Adult Chair — when it’s a path to healing rather than self-shaming. In this episode, I walk through the ways guilt serves us and how it can be a tool to let us know when we need to repair relationships. I’m also breaking down how you can tell when guilt is irrational or unnecessary and how to release guilt once you’ve made amends.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The difference between shame and guilt
  • When guilt is healthy and when it is unhealthy
  • Steps for working through guilt
  • How to (truly) apologize and repair a relationship
  • How to stop ruminating on guilt and move forward
  • Recognizing false guilt

 

I see so many people who struggle with unhealthy guilt, whether they feel guilty for something they didn’t do or can’t forgive themselves when they’ve done something wrong...especially during the holidays and this pandemic. Guilt should never be all-consuming like this...and it doesn’t have to be when you:

 

  1. Own it
  2. Apologize
  3. Take action and
  4. Let it go from your healthy Adult Chair

 

"There's a big difference between guilt and shame. People often fall into shame and label it as guilt." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"It's a choice to continue to beat up on self." - Michelle Chalfant

 

"It's ok if other people are upset and disappointed if you're making a choice to protect yourself and your family." - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

StoryWorth

Storyworth.com/adult

$10 off your first purchase

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Dec 03, 2020
238: Holiday Series: 5 Steps to Peace
17:30

I believe you can find peace no matter where you are in life, and I believe that because I have lived it! I spent the first part of my life living with anxiety and depression every day, and now I wake up most days in a state of peace...one that I would have never thought possible during my days of anxiety.

 

And while there isn’t a magic pill to find peace, the good news is that we have a choice and can take small steps every day to live in greater peace. Today, I want to share my step-by-step guide to cultivating peace with you — the exact practices I use to stay in peace in my life. These steps are practical, quick and easy to practice, but they make ALL the difference.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How the ego responds to emotions (and why that creates problems for us!)
  • How our stories and assumptions get us out of balance
  • How to honor and truly feel your emotions
  • Why you are the only one who can take care of you
  • The five steps you can do today to find greater peace

 

Here are the five steps I share in the episode. Listen to find out exactly how to practice these, starting today!

 

  1. Slow down.
  2. Put your feet on the floor and ground.
  3. Breathe (slowly).
  4. Check in with yourself (body and emotions).
  5. Journal to process what you are feeling.

 

Happiness is fleeting, but peace is a state of being that we can choose and sustain. I hope these five steps give you the tools you need to stay in peace and balance in any season of life.

 

“One of the things that we do when we have an emotion that’s rising up inside of us is we speed up. Because what’s happening is the ego is trying to solve the “problem,” which is the emotion that we’re having.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When we sit in our healthy Adult Chair, we know emotions are not a bad thing. They are a beautiful gift.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Care/Of

Takecareof.com

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Nov 26, 2020
237: Healthy & Balanced Eating During the Holidays with Jessi Jean
37:30

Food is such a beautiful part of life. It’s a way of connecting with others and bringing enjoyment to your life. Unfortunately, we live in a world that makes it difficult to have a healthy relationship with food. We are met with the pressure to look a certain way, a lack of education about how to truly nourish our bodies and mixed messages that encourage both excess and deprivation — neither of which are healthy!

 

The holidays take this struggle with food and body image to the next level. We might miss out on a celebration or connection with our family because we’re filled with guilt and fear around food or we might lose control and later regret the way we lost sight of our goals for ourselves. It’s a frustrating cycle that takes all the fun out of this beautiful season!

 

So, in preparation for this season of feasting and celebration, I’m bringing back the lovely Jessi Jean, who is an eating psychology coach and such a grounding voice on how to have a healthy relationship with food. In this episode, Jessi talks about what a healthy relationship with food looks like, how to check in to make sure you have a balanced relationship with food and strategies for keeping that balance throughout the holidays (good news: pie is still on the menu!).

 

Listen to discover:

  • The importance of your mindset going into a holiday food scene and how to prep your mind
  • Tangible strategies for feeling in control of your eating (while still celebrating!)
  • Her “future pacing” hack for eating intentionally at the holidays
  • How to respond to a "food pusher" and how to pull yourself out of a binge
  • Questions to ask to check in on your relationship with food

 

As Jessi says in this episode, it’s not what you do with food that’s the problem; it’s how you feel about it. The important thing is to stay in touch with what’s important to you, tune into all your senses and truly enjoy the experience of the holidays!

"We can't control what our loved ones are going to say. We can't control what they are going to do. But we can control our reaction and our response." - Jessi Jean

"Practice being unapologetic in your decisions with food." - Jessi Jean

"You teach people how to respect you by the way that you respect yourself." - Jessi Jean

"When you take something away, there's the thinking that there's a lack and that triggers something inside us." - Michelle Chalfant

"Anything we do that is guilt and shame and fear-based...we take a good thing and make it toxic." - Jessi Jean

 

Resources

 

Episode #153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/153-binge-eating-with-jessi-jean/

 

Jessi Jean Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn

 

Jessi Jean The Dear Body Podcast

https://risewithmeco.com/podcast/

 

Jessi Jean Food Freedom Program

https://risewithmeco.com/

 

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

 

More Adult Chair

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Nov 19, 2020
236: How to Stay in Your Adult Chair During the Holidays
28:24

The holidays are almost upon us...and if holidays didn’t already come with stressful situations, now we get to navigate the holidays in 2020! A contentious election with families split across political lines, delicately balancing celebrations with COVID-19 concerns and the general stress of this year have the potential to add chaos to an already busy time of year.

But with The Adult Chair, you have the tools you need to stay calm, centered and balanced even in the middle of the holidays. No one can steal your joy or your power unless you let them, so in this episode, I’m giving you three essential steps to staying in your Adult Chair...all the way from the time the Thanksgiving turkey is carved until the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s.

 

Listen to discover:

  • 3 steps to staying healthy during the holiday season
  • How to refuel and recharge even on busy days
  • The power of acceptance in dealing with difficult people or situations
  • The difference between acceptance and agreement
  • The importance of boundaries

 

The key to having a healthy holiday season is to not lose yourself among the demands of others. This is why most of us struggle at the holidays — there is so much competing for our attention (plus, old, unhealthy patterns that we get pulled back into) that we lose connection with ourselves and we feel stressed, frazzled and lost.

So, this year, if you only remember one thing, focus on staying connected to yourself. Remember who you are, and you can have a really lovely holiday season.

"The moment that we lose our emotional balance and slip into story and assumption, we have lost our joy and our power and our happiness." - Michelle Chalfant

"Have hope that [someone] might change some day, but drop your expectation of them to change."  - Michelle Chalfant

"The moment we can accept someone fully, the triggering becomes far less." - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

The Adult Chair Membership (November Theme: Boundaries)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Nov 12, 2020
235: Holistic Healing with Dr. Nicole LePera
54:29

While our go-to image of mental health might be a couch in a therapist’s office, the world is slowly changing (and I’m SO glad it is!). Don’t get me wrong...I’m not anti-therapy (I’m a therapist myself), but I think it’s only part of the equation. I believe we need more.

I believe true healing must be holistic, looking at our experiences from every angle and using methods that heal body, mind and spirit. 

Dr. Nicole LePera is a kindred spirit when it comes to holistic healing, the creator behind one of my favorite Instagram accounts @the.holistic.psychologist and a self-healing guru that I am thrilled to finally bring on the show! Drawing from psychology, spirituality, the mind/body connection and more, Dr. LePera believes mental wellness is for everyone and we all have the power to heal ourselves with the right tools (can I get an amen?).

In this episode, Dr. LePera shares her own story of transformation, her philosophy of self-healing and tools you can use to regulate your nervous system, figure out who you are and what you need and change limiting patterns in your life by turning in and tuning in.

Listen to discover:

  • The power of consciousness and being in the present moment
  • The nervous system’s role in healing
  • The importance of breathwork
  • The power of journaling to create consciousness and set intentions
  • How to update and rewire programming
  • Interdependence and how to be healthy in relationships

Dr. LePera believes healing begins by going inside and connecting to self, and I couldn’t agree more (it’s ALL about awareness)! If you’re on a journey of transformation, I hope this episode encourages you to look at your healing through a holistic lens and reminds you that you have the power (and tools) you need right where you are.

"We need to understand the whole being in an integrative way, and I believe we need to expand the tools we're practicing outside of therapy as well." - Nicole LePera

"You can be awake but still not be fully in the body and conscious about what you're doing." - Michelle Chalfant

"There isn't one universal way to heal." - Nicole LePera

"My goal is to empower within so we can cope with the ever-changing without." - Nicole LePera

 

"With conscious effort, every single day, a little bit of something...we do find that people can change. We REALLY can change." - Michelle Chalfant


Resources

Dr. Nicole LePera Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ 

Dr. Nicole LePera Website

https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/ 

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com  

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Nov 05, 2020
234: Anger and Healthy Relationships with Dr. Christian Conte
01:07:54

Emotions are my love language, and I’m all about learning to really feel our emotions...every single one of them. But some emotions are easier for us to feel than others, and there’s one that I find most people struggle with: anger. 

Anger often scares us because it’s intense, and when it’s unmanaged, it can lead people to do some pretty hurtful things. But anger isn’t a bad thing (in fact we need it), and I think it’s time we start talking about it a whole lot more. 

Our guest today, Dr. Christian Conte, is one of the world’s leading experts on anger and emotional management. Dr. Conte has worked with top athletes, MMA fighters, people in maximum security prisons and some of the toughest people on the planet to help them integrate anger and other uncomfortable emotions in their lives, and he is full of wisdom to help us do the same thing. 

Not only do we explore how to manage our emotions in this episode, but we also talk about Dr. Conte’s “Yield Theory,” a powerful tool to cultivate more empathy for others, and ways we can use this empathy to create healthier relationships with anyone in our life.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How to see emotions as a signal of what we need in life and how to process them in healthy ways
  • The two emotional systems we all have 
  • The power of extreme empathy and learning to see the world through other people’s minds
  • How to give each other presence vs. going into “fix it” mode
  • The importance of non-attachment in shifting our perspectives and understanding our emotions
  • Letting go of past hurt and anger and healing relationships 

Anger is like fire. It can be destructive if not contained, but it can also be the fuel that powers us to recognize what we need and move forward in life. I hope this episode will help you get more comfortable with anger and other intense emotions, learn how to integrate them in a healthy way and become a more whole person as a result! 

“Emotions come and go. Actions cannot be undone.” - Dr. Christian Conte

 

“Your brain is being impacted by everything you encounter.” - Dr. Christian Conte

 

“The reason people get stuck in emotion is we get stuck in the story about the emotion.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“We need anger to fuel us and to make us move forward in life.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

Resources

Dr. Christian Conte YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC47w9g7lESxzqefb5vWkN1Q

Dr. Christian Conte Website

http://www.drchristianconte.com/ 

Dr. Christian Conte Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/Dr-Christian-Conte-905015942910441/timeline/

Dr. Christian Conte Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/drchristianconte 

Dr. Christian Conte Twitter

https://twitter.com/Dr_Conte 

Walking Through Anger - Dr. Christian Conte book

https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Through-Anger-Confronting-Emotionally/dp/1683642589 

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/ 

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/ 

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com  

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Oct 29, 2020
233: I’m Codependent. Now What?
36:35

“Codependency.” You finally have a word to describe why you’ve been feeling so overwhelmed and drained your whole life. And while I’m not the biggest fan of labels, sometimes having a term to describe your experience can be the thing that makes all the pieces fall into place and the light bulb go off.

But having a “label” is only the first step. That’s why one of the biggest questions I get asked, especially around codependency, is “So, what do I do about it?”

Codependency is something I understand extremely well, because it was a constant companion for the first half of my life. I know how painful it can be and the feelings of regret that can arise when you discover you’re codependent. But I also know codependency doesn’t have to be the end of the story. You CAN change this pattern in your life, and in this episode, I’m telling you exactly how to do that.

Listen to discover:

  • What codependency is 
  • Signs of codependency 
  • What do next to start getting healthy 
  • 5 practical steps to transform codependency

You didn’t choose codependency, but starting today, you can choose to end it! Instead of feeling regret for time lost, look at today as the first day of the rest of your life. I’m here to help you take that next step into health and freedom! 

“If you’re human, you have things to work on. Healthy people work on their stuff.” - Michelle Chalfant

“Nobody throws us in the victim chair. We choose it.” - Michelle Chalfant

“You have to take care of you and your life. It’s no one else’s job.” - Michelle Chalfant

“There’s a fine line between being really caring and codependent, and when you’re codependent, you can't see that line.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

The Adult Chair Private Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

Green Chef

www.greenchef.com/adult80

$80 off your first box + free shipping

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com  

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

 

Oct 22, 2020
232: Overcoming Relationship PTSD
44:51

We all know a bad relationship can wreak havoc on our lives, from our self-esteem to our goals and dreams. But most of us don’t know that the effects of a bad relationship can linger long after the breakup. Yes, relationship PTSD is a real thing!

PTSD (or post-traumatic stress disorder) is not just reserved for the traumas of war or the “big” obvious traumas. Anyone can suffer from PTSD, and if you have lived in a toxic or abusive relationship for any amount of time, you might find yourself suffering from fear, stress or hypervigilance in relationships even after you’ve “moved on.”

 

On today’s show, I’m bringing back my friend, Tracy, who has shared in past episodes about her marriage with a narcissist, the process of leaving that relationship and beginning to date again. As she began exploring new relationships, she caught herself unconsciously bracing for the worst or expecting new partners to act like her ex. She had no idea she had PTSD until she and I talked about what was going on and today, she is bravely and vulnerably sharing her experience to help shed light on this important topic.

Listen to discover:

  • The difference between “little t” trauma and “big T” trauma and why both can create PTSD
  • What PTSD is
  • The signs of relationship PTSD
  • The role of the body in healing PTSD
  • Practical tools and tips to overcome PTSD

Not only does Tracy help us understand what relationship PTSD is and how it can show up in our lives, but she also shares her journey of healing and what she has used to make AMAZING and fast progress in overcoming PTSD. This episode is packed with tools from The Adult Chair that will help you heal stored trauma and move forward into a brighter and happier relationship future.

 

“When you have fear about a past event that has already happened, that’s the biggest sign to me.” - Tracy

“With trauma we’re stuck in the past, and the body doesn’t understand that we’ve moved forward in time.” - Michelle Chalfant

“Instead of being who we really are, we become that person who walks on eggshells to not upset them and we lose ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“I had to be ok with myself outside of that relationship.” - Tracy

“The right person will wait for you.” - Michelle

 

Resources

Episode #179: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/179/

Episode #199: Dating from The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/199/

I’m Ok Course

https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/CnJRzrVL/checkout

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Oct 15, 2020
231: Practical Ways to Slay Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek
39:16

It’s hard to find words for the times we are living in today. Interesting, scary, stressful, angry, strange...it feels like one minute we can have it together and the next be hijacked by anxiety. There is so much coming at us, so much to navigate and so much to sort through as we try to figure out what is true and what is not. It’s A LOT for any body and brain.

Though our minds are easily distracted and swayed, the good news is that we CAN live in peace and balance even in uncertain times...and we all have a choice in the matter.

In this episode, I chat with Shann Vander Leek, host of the Anxiety Slayer podcast and an expert on how to calm anxiety no matter what is going on. She explains why we’re all feeling so anxious right now and gives us hands-on steps to stop anxiety in its tracks...everything from music to getting outside to a simple gratitude practice.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Practical ways to combat anxiety even in times of uncertainty
  • How to get grounded quickly
  • How to move energy in the body
  • The power of “Joy Spotting”
  • Powerful tools like high vibe music, supplements and small daily practices that lead to big changes

Whether you’re feeling anxious from the collective events of the world or walking through a tough situation in your personal life, these practices are quick, easy and free and here to help you get back to peace...from within.

“It’s really best to take things day by day and hour by hour to stay as calm as you can during these uncertain times.” - Shann Vander Leek

 

“The faster the mind goes, the more out our body we are and the more anxious we are.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You cannot be joyful if you’re in judgment.” - Shann Vander Leek

 

"Every single thing to help us with anxiety is an internal job. It's about a choice that we have to make." - Michelle Chalfant

 

 

Resources

Anxiety Slayer

https://www.anxietyslayer.com/

EFT Resource

https://www.anxietyslayer.com/eft

Joy Spotting Gift

https://transformationgoddess.com/joy-spotting-gift/

Episode #142: All Things Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/142-all-things-anxiety-with-shann-vander-leek/

Coffee Jazz YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bNQ9q1dUxUU

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer (book)

https://www.amazon.com/Braiding-Sweetgrass-Indigenous-Scientific-Knowledge/dp/1571313567

The Magnesium Miracle by Carolyn Dean (book)

https://www.amazon.com/Magnesium-Miracle-Revised-Updated/dp/034549458X

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ 

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Oct 08, 2020
230: Cutting Through Depression
46:43

From the outside — and to herself — Tonya looked like she had it all together...until one day, all the “spinning plates” fell and she collapsed. That moment led Tonya to a therapist’s office where she was diagnosed with depression and anxiety that had been simmering under the surface unnoticed for years. She found herself battling suicidal thoughts with stress manifesting in her body in many different ways.

Determined to not let it be the end of her story, Tonya began searching for a quick way to transform her depression on her own. She prayed for a “knife” that could quickly cut through her depression and was led to The Adult Chair podcast, which allowed her to completely transform in a matter of months. In this episode, Tonya shares her inspirational story of how she used the tools in The Adult Chair to completely shift her outlook on life and get healthy FAST (and for free!).

 

Listen to discover:

  • How Tonya cut through depression in less than a year
  • The tools that were most effective in working through depression
  • The importance of self-talk and shifting skewed thought patterns
  • Her journey of knowing who she is and learning to love herself

Today, Tonya is happy, healthy and on her way to becoming an Adult Chair Certified Coach. I’m so excited to see the way she helps others transform through her own experience of walking through and transforming depression and anxiety.

 

“The Adult Chair was my knife to cut through layers and layers of trauma.” - Tonya

 

“One of the biggest things is to be a story buster. Something happens and we interpret it negatively, and that leads to anxiety.” - Michelle Chalfant

“Accepting it doesn’t mean you like it or you’re never wanting change. Acceptance releases us from pushing against.” - Michelle Chalfant 

“The same walls we use to protect our image are the same ones that imprison us in our pain.” - Tonya

 

Resources

 

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ 

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Oct 01, 2020
229: End Self Sabatoge
32:49

Do you ever catch yourself setting a goal…and then doing the exact opposite?

Maybe it’s deciding to get in shape…and then reaching for the chocolate cake.

Maybe it’s getting into a healthy relationship…and then cheating on your partner.

We can be our own worst enemy sometimes, sabotaging ourselves and our goals. But like anything else, self-sabotage is just a part of us… and it’s actually an easy one to transform! 

 

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to get into your Adult Chair and find your self-sabotaging parts. I share a client example from one of my sessions and walk you through a process to help you find your own self-sabotaging parts so you can end it for good!!

 

Listen to discover:

  • What self-sabotage is
  • Why we might self-sabotage
  • How to look at self-sabotage through the lens of each Chair
  • How to use parts work to stop self-sabotage (using a client example)

I really believe you can live the life you dream of when you find and shift the subconscious parts that keep you from feeling whole and complete. That’s the power of this work...for self-sabotage or any other part! 

“The Adult decisions are solid, grounded, they are coming from this present place and they are clear.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“What we want to do, regardless of what is going on in your life, is we want to get in touch with the part that is disturbing or disrupting our goal.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The goal is to bring your Adult Chair more present in your life. You’re grounding more of those parts when you can merge them back into your Adult self.”  - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You really can live the life you want instead of a life run by the old subconscious programs in your Adolescent Chair. Reach for the connection to these parts, and you can transform self-sabotage and anything else that’s in the way of you feeling whole and complete.”  - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ 

 

The Adult Chair Closed Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

Care/Of

http://www.takecareof.com

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order 



More Adult Chair 

 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com  

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

***

EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Sep 24, 2020
228: Breakthrough Treatments for Anxiety, Depression and Stress with Dr. David Rabin
01:08:56

Buckle your seat belts, because our guest today is today is about to take you on a trip deep into the human mind and help you understand how to naturally treat everything from depression to ADHD.

I first heard about Dr. David Rabin when my husband gave me an Apollo Neuro, a wearable sensory device that Dr. Rabin invented to naturally calm the nervous system. After digging more into his work, I knew I had to invite Dr. Rabin on the show and wow, he might be the most genius person I’ve ever talked to!

Dr. David Rabin is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist who specializes in treating anxiety, depression, stress, PTSD and trauma using traditional and alternative methods like the Apollo Neuro and therapeutic psychedelics, which are showing breakthrough results in clinical trials around the country. 

With a deep understanding of how the mind works, Dr. Rabin breaks down ideas like consciousness, the subconscious mind, trauma and the stress response in an easy-to-understand way. He helps us understand WHY our minds function like they do and gives us simple techniques for change — both medicinal and non-medicinal. 

 

Listen to discover:

  • Breakthrough medicines for depression, anxiety and more that are currently going through clinical trials 
  • Common misconceptions around psychedelic medicines
  • What “default mode” is and how to change your neural pathways (even without psychedelics)
  • The fastest non-psychedelic way to rewire the brain
  • The impact of chronic stress on the body (and how stress recovery works)
  • The revolutionary Apollo Neuro sensory device changing the game for stress, ADHD and more

 

Science today is SO exciting to me. These breakthrough, natural treatments are rooted in a deep understanding of neuroscience and human consciousness and have so much potential for healing. Dr. Rabin is a WEALTH of knowledge, and I hope you enjoy learning from him as much as I did!

 

“The real meaning of the term [psychedelic] is ‘mind manifesting.’” - Dr. David Rabin

 

“It makes all of that content that’s stored beneath our awareness all of the sudden accessible. We can start to look at that content in an unbiased, non-judgmental way and recognize that this is all part of us that we’re ignoring or leaving behind in the background.” - Dr. David Rabin

 

“The process of self-healing is to accept and love and be grateful for all the parts of ourselves, even and especially the parts that we’ve been told are not acceptable or not welcome.” - Dr. David Rabin

 

“We have the ability to make ourselves sick by changing the way we describe ourselves and the way we think about ourselves and the way we think about our lives. Similarly, we have an equal ability to make ourselves or help ourselves heal by changing the way we think about ourselves as agents of healing.” - Dr. David Rabin

 

Resources

Apollo Neuro (15% for Adult Chair fans!)

https://apolloneuro.com/adultchair

Dr. David Rabin Website

https://www.drdave.io/

Dr. David Rabin Twitter

https://twitter.com/daverabin

Dr. David Rabin Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/drdavidrabin/

Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS)

https://maps.org/

ProjectCBD

https://www.projectcbd.org/

Ketamine Psychotherapy Associates

https://ketaminepsychotherapyassociates.com/

The Third Wave

https://thethirdwave.co/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ 

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com  

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Sep 17, 2020
227: The Benefits of a Meditation Practice with Sharon Salzberg
01:00:33

In 1974 when Sharon Salzberg discovered meditation, there were no meditation apps, mainstream teachers, corporate retreats or scientific studies backing the practice like we have today. Largely considered a Buddhist practice, meditation was relegated to Eastern thought and spiritual gurus. But for Sharon, who grew up in the hustle and bustle of New York City and went through a number of traumatic experiences as a child, it was a lifesaver a tool that showed her she could take ownership of her life and transform her own suffering.

After studying in India for several years, Sharon became a meditation teacher and one of the first people to bring meditation into the mainstream, demystifying the practice with her secular and modern approach. I have followed her for years, and I am THRILLED to feature her in this episode one that is so packed full of wisdom from this master teacher.

In this episode, Sharon shares what meditation is and what it isn’t and the many wonderful things meditation can cultivate in our lives, including self-compassion, healthy ways to process pain, the ability to fall and get back up again and a profound connection with ourselves and others. She also helps to break down how to get started meditating and why everyone should be doing it.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The heart of the practice, which might surprise you
  • How meditation is a life exercise and skills training
  • Why there is no failing in meditation
  • The difference between a mindfulness practice and a loving kindness meditation
  • What causes suffering
  • Navigating uncertainty, fear and anger during these challenging times
  • And SOO much more!

 

Whether you’ve meditated for years or are considering starting, I know you will love the countless nuggets of wisdom in this episode. And if you’re on the fence, I encourage you to take Sharon’s advice and just try it! Don’t give up after 10 minutes or look just at the practice time itself, but instead look at your life and how differently you respond to yourself, your relationships and life’s challenges. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!

 

“We’re not trying to blank out or drop parts of our experience. We’re cultivating the ability to be with our experience differently. We don’t have to take every thought to heart. We don’t have to follow every thought into action. We don’t have to hold onto an emotion as if it’s the only thing we will ever feel.” - Sharon Salzberg

 

“It’s the practice of letting go and being able to begin again.” - Sharon Salzberg

 

“We don’t all share the same degree of pain. But we all share vulnerability.” - Sharon Salzberg

 

“You’re not supposed to stop your thoughts; you’re supposed to witness.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Sharon Salzberg Website

https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/

Sharon Salzberg Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/SharonSalzberg/

Sharon Salzberg Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/sharonsalzberg/

Real Change (New Book)

https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/realchange/

Real Happiness (Sharon Salzberg Book)

https://www.amazon.com/Real-Happiness-Meditation-28-Day-Program/dp/0761159258

Faith (Sharon Salzberg Book)

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00AG0BRCE/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i3

Inner Child Resource (contains 2 free meditations)

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild

Free Meditations

https://theadultchair.com/meditations/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

 

Sep 10, 2020
226: Healing and Repairing Relationships
33:19

We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships.

When a relationship is suffering, there’s nothing we want more than to heal and restore it, but many of us don’t know where to begin. We might have our own feelings of guilt and shame to overcome or believe the other person never wants to see or talk to us again.

But as long as we are alive, there is hope of change! Relationships can and do heal all the time, and you have the power to repair the damage done and move forward in an even stronger relationship than before.

In this episode, I’m giving you eight simple steps for healing and transforming the relationships in your life. In it, I give the example of one of my clients who was working to repair her relationship with her kids, but the advice here applies to EVERY relationship...spouse, friend, family, coworker, you name it!

 

Listen to discover:

  • Eight steps to healing a broken relationship
  • How to start the process of repairing the relationship if there’s been a disconnect
  • What a true apology looks like
  • How to change the relationship through actions instead of words
  • How to forgive yourself the most important step no matter what happens in the relationship

 

If you’re living on this planet, chances are you’ve hurt someone and want to know how to make it right. Tune in to discover a practical step-by-step guide to begin the process of healing...for yourself and others!

 

“If someone is willing to repair a relationship and put the time and effort into repairing the relationship, I always have hope.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Forgiveness allows us to get unstuck and to move on for ourselves. It’s freedom!” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“There is great power in accepting what is...if you are not accepting where things are, you are in resistance of truth.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you stay with just today in the present, this is where all things can change...including, and most importantly, your perception of yourself.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

The Self Series

https://theadultchair.com/self

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Sep 03, 2020
225: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair
46:36

“Help! I think I’ve ruined my kids’ lives!”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from clients, listeners and even my own inner critic. No one gets a trial run at parenting, which leads to a lot of self-doubt among parents. We’re all learning as we go, and it’s easy to wonder if we’re doing it right or if we should just go ahead and start a therapy fund for our kids to work through the issues we created.

Well, this episode is here to help you put your fears to rest and help you become the healthiest (NOT perfect) parent you can be. I’m breaking down my seven tips for healthy parenting from your Adult Chair (hint: they’re more about you than your kids) and hopefully providing a little reassurance that you’re normal and no, you haven’t ruined your kids lives (wait until you hear the not-so-proud parenting moments I share!).

 

Listen to discover:

  • What a parent’s job actually is
  • Seven steps to become a healthy parent
  • Why there’s no such thing as perfect
  • Finding compassion for yourself and your kids
  • How to handle it when your kids trigger you
  • Setting boundaries and how to respond when your child makes a mistake

Whether you feel like you’ve screwed up or you’re just starting out and trying to get it right, I promise that it’s never too late. When YOU become healthy and live in your Adult Chair, your kids will see it modeled and become healthy too. Check out this episode to get simple, practical tips you can put into action to change the way you parent today.

 

“Humans learn from experience far more than they learn from words.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Our job as parents or caregivers of these beautiful little beings is to be guard rails for them...kids are supposed to make mistakes while in the loving protection of your home.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You can’t change something without owning where you are and accepting it.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Boundaries help our kids feel safe.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Don’t keep your kid on a one-way expressway. Let them be who they came here to become.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Membership (August Theme: Acceptance)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Dr. Shefali (Conscious Parenting)

https://drshefali.com/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Aug 27, 2020
224: The Law of Attraction with Christy Whitman
36:30

Before studying the Law of Attraction, Christy “had it all” but still felt really unhappy and unfulfilled. As she began seeking, she discovered meditation and eventually the Law of Attraction, both of which led her to recognize how her inner dialog was creating unhappiness in her life. As she worked to shift her own life, she began to realize the power of her thoughts in creating her reality and that she felt called to share this gift with others. Since then, Christy has become a life coach, teacher and Law of Attraction guru, and I’m thrilled to share her wisdom with you on today’s podcast.

In this episode, Christy not only shares the principles behind the Law of Attraction but also how and why it works at an energetic level. She explains the way that common thought patterns or words we use with ourselves are keeping us from getting what we want and how to change those patterns to attract what we are seeking. If you are feeling stuck and not manifesting the life you dream of or if you’re interested in learning more about creation and how to transform your life, this is the episode for you!

 

Listen to discover:

  • What the law of attraction is and why it works
  • How we work as receivers, containers and senders of energy
  • The ways we send out energy through what we say, think, expect, feel and act
  • Why you might be experiencing blocks in manifestation
  • The role of guilt in our lives and the power of forgiveness
  • Three questions we need to ask to pivot our lives

 

“I could actually choose my thoughts to be different even though ‘what it is’ is the way it is.” - Christy Whitman

 

“If you feel resistance of any kind, that’s energy.” - Christy Whitman

 

“When you say words that are based in lack, anything that starts in lack is going to end in lack. When you’re starting with words that are words of abundance...then that whole creation starts from there.” - Christy Whitman

 

“Most of us walk around in this very unconscious state with these automatic thoughts just going, going, going. We're not even aware. So, slowing down and becoming aware is so key.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Christy Whitman Website

https://www.christywhitman.com/

Christy Whitman Free Resource

https://www.watchyourwords.com/

Christy Whitman Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/christywhitmaninternational/

Christy Whitman Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/christywhitman1

14 Days to Peace and Balance

https://theadultchair.com/14days

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Aug 20, 2020
223: Tragedy and Marriage Transformed - April's Story
51:21

The Adult Chair is a powerful model for healing our wounds and becoming more empowered in our lives...but it has the power to change more than just ourselves. When we have the tools to navigate life’s challenges and respond differently to life, it can change everything around us!

In today’s episode, I’m interviewing my friend April, who is sharing how The Adult Chair model helped her walk through one of the most difficult seasons of her life, first transforming her marriage that was in trouble and then almost losing her son in a terrible car accident. Through these uncertain and tragic situations, April found she was able to shift her perspective and not just change her response to life’s challenges but also transform her marriage and family. She shares how the model was easy to understand and applicable enough for her and her husband to use together and the surprising peace and clarity she had when she got the call no parent wants to get.

April’s practice of busting stories, clinging to truth and being present through life’s challenges is hope and inspiration for all of us and a real-life example of how The Adult Chair can be used to help us transform whatever life throws our way.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How The Adult Chair helped April and her husband get the breakthrough they were looking for in their marriage
  • How busting stories and assumptions and connecting with their needs has helped April and her husband cultivate a new connection they didn’t think possible
  • How April stayed grounded and in the moment even in the middle of shock and tragedy
  • Avoiding the “what ifs” and worst-case scenario thoughts of the Adolescent
  • How we can teach our children to live in their Adult Chair by modeling it as parents
  • The power of owning our needs and learning to receive

 

“It’s not uncommon for us both to make up stories and assumptions in our marriage. It’s very easy to make up stories about each other (like) ‘Oh, he’s too busy; he doesn’t care.’ Or on the other hand, he’s thinking ‘I’m not worthy; she’s not attracted to me.’ When really the truth is, I’m exhausted or he’s exhausted.” - April

“Having a true need and being able to share that with another is such a beautiful, deep way to connect.”  - Michelle Chalfant

“It’s important that we remember it doesn’t come naturally right away...but I have found that tools over time do develop.” - April

“Your brain wasn’t able to go back to the old you, which might have gotten freaked out and panicky, because the neural pathways are very much more now ‘Let me go back to fact and truth.’” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Episode #210: Improving and Deepening the Connection with Your Partner

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/210/

Episode #146: Healthy Relationships https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/146-healthy-relationships/

Episode #148: Healthy Relationships Part 2

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/148-healthy-relationships-part-2/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Aug 13, 2020
222: Summer Series: Ending Procrastination, Perfectionism and People Pleasing
43:45

Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? I can’t imagine anyone that doesn’t have their hand up!

In today’s show, we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our “parts.” Though this episode focuses on some of these common parts that I hear many of my clients talk about, it really is a crash course in what parts work is and how to start working with your parts on your own, even without therapy!

Things like procrastination, people pleasing and perfectionism are inner unconscious parts that can run the show until we bring them into awareness to transform. Today I am going to show you how to use The Adult Chair model to find and transform your inner parts that are driving you to do things or act in ways that are limiting you.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What parts work is
  • How to identify the dominant parts you want to shift
  • A step-by-step process for finding these parts, dialoguing with them and transforming them
  • A real-life example from a client so you can see this process in action

 

This is full of practical tools and examples that will empower you to work with any part that is causing problems and transform it using the power of your Adult. As always, I have included easy-to-use steps for you to work with this concept today and begin your transformation right away. Get ready for shifts with today’s episode!

 

“If you want to make changes in your outer world, you have to make changes in your inner world.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When people say, “I am overwhelmed,” “I am a perfectionist,” or “I am a procrastinator,” that’s not true...it’s not who you are.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Awareness is key to our transformation. If we don't know that we’re doing something or showing up in a certain way, how the heck are we supposed to change it?” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Do not guess and think you know why or what these parts are going to say or why they’re feeling what they’re feeling. Go inside of you and ask that part these very pointed questions.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Aug 06, 2020
221: Summer Series: Setting Healthy Boundaries
31:23

Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, “I don’t like confrontation” when I suggest a boundary.

Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling.

In today’s show, I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four keys to setting healthy boundaries.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The difference between a boundary and a confrontation
  • Examples of healthy and unhealthy boundaries
  • Four steps to setting boundaries
  • What to do when boundaries backfire
  • What boundaries are not and what to do if you are in a toxic relationship

 

Boundaries are rooted in our sense of self and come from our internal guidance system. They are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships and learning how to speak up for what we want. This show is filled with tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself, learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you.

 

“When I hear people say ‘It’s not important that I speak up for myself,’ or ‘I don’t need to set a boundary,’ I hear ‘I’m not that important.’” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“A boundary is letting another person know what is ok with you and what is not ok with you.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“If you don’t know who you are, what in the world are you defending or setting a boundary against?” - Michelle Chalfant

“Get crystal clear with your wants, your needs and your desires and speak them.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Episode #212: Boundaries Crash Course

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/212/

Episode #193: Boundaries in Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/193/

Episode #184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/184/

Episode #174: Building Self-Esteem

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/

Episode #173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/

Episode #160: Boundaries and Defenses

https://theadultchair.com/podcast/160

Episode #80: How Do I Feel My Emotions?

https://theadultchair.com/podcast/80

Episode #26: Boundaries vs. Confrontation

https://theadultchair.com/podcast/26 

Self Series

theadultchair.com/self

Care/Of

https://takecareof.com/

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jul 30, 2020
220: Summer Series: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
47:07

By nature, all of us have the Child, Adolescent and Adult parts of ourselves...but these parts can look very different depending on our personality and life experience. Through the lens of the Enneagram, we can understand more about our personality and the ways we show up in stress and in health, and in this episode, Enneagram coach Ramona Reid breaks down how the wounds we received as a child affect our personality later in life.

Our Enneagram type is often influenced by the message we did not hear as a child, and we form a personality or mask to make up for that wound. This might look like trying to be good and perfect, getting big and strong or trying to keep the peace with everyone around us, but it’s always an ego response. Ramona does a beautiful job tying the Enneagram into The Adult Chair model and helping each of us understand what our Child, Adolescent and Adult might look like based on our type.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The three Enneagram centers and the nine types
  • The message each type didn’t receive as a child and the wounding each type carries
  • The mask each type creates to cover that wounding
  • What the core essence (healthy Adult) looks like for each type
  • How to recognize our triggers and move towards presence

 

This show was as cool as it was informative! Even if you have never heard of the Enneagram, you will benefit from listening as it will deepen your understanding of your wounding and how you are showing up in the world.

If you want to listen to the other shows that Ramona has been on to deepen your understanding of the Enneagram, see the show notes below. They are all brilliant shows!

 

“The point is not to never be triggered again. It’s to understand that triggers are human and they’re mine...I want to learn how to encounter them with more accountability and integrity and love for myself and my inner child.” - Ramona Reid

 

“Everyone’s just sort of doing the best they can, and then we internalize that. When we’re little, we think, ‘This is about me,’ and we create separation from our essence.” - Ramona Reid

 

“As children, we are sponges and absorb everything around us...and it becomes ours. It’s why you’ve got to observe everything and pay attention to what’s going on inside of you.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“The work from my perspective is getting in touch with what’s actually going on. Notice where our minds are going, where our hearts are going, out of presence...when we’re able to be present, that’s when our core essential qualities will show up.” - Ramona Reid

 

Resources

Ramona Reid Website

http://www.mynashvillecenter.com

Ramona Reid Radio Show

http://www.holisticrevolution.com

Episode #51: Find Your Authentic Self in the Heart of Your Enneagram

https://theadultchair.com/podcast/51

Episode #114: Deepening The Adult Chair Using the Wisdom of the Enneagram

https://theadultchair.com/podcast/114

Episode #205: Stress and Your Enneagram Type

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/205/

Book: Sacred Enneagram - Christopher L. Heuertz

https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Enneagram-Finding-Unique-Spiritual/dp/0310348277/

The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July!

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Use code FREEMEMBER

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/

Self Series

theadultchair.com/self

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jul 23, 2020
219: Summer Series: Building Self-Esteem
27:42

We can never have enough self-esteem. So many of us didn’t have healthy self-esteem role models growing up, so we are embarking on this journey now. The good news is that it’s never too late to learn to love yourself...and it’s a life-long journey, so you will have plenty of people along the path with you!

Using The Adult Chair, building healthy self-esteem is not only possible, but it can also happen quickly. In this episode, I’m giving you practical steps for changing how you view and speak to yourself and easy practices you can use to build self-esteem every day.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Self-discovery questions you can ask yourself to see how healthy your self-esteem is
  • Why creating a practice of building self-esteem is so important
  • The four steps to building self-esteem
  • How to control your thoughts and shift your self-talk
  • How to work with your parts and bust the stories that keep you from loving yourself

 

I will always be working on my self-esteem because I believe it’s something we can always have more of! With the help of The Adult Chair model, we can live our lives to the fullest and create happiness we never thought possible. Enjoy your journey of building up your new sense of self and empowerment in your Adult Chair!

 

“Our thoughts drive our emotions up or down. We need to raise our awareness to our thoughts and watch what’s coming in and out of our mouths or in and out of our brains.”- Michelle Chalfant

 

“These parts are not blocking our progress. They simply want and need our attention.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“If the story you’re telling yourself makes you miserable...you have the power to change it.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

5 -Minute Self-Love Meditation

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/

Episode #84: Raising Self-Esteem

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July!

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Use code FREEMEMBER

Self Series

theadultchair.com/self

Green Chef

https://www.greenchef.com/adult80

$80 off your first month + free shipping

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jul 16, 2020
218: Summer Series: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist
45:25

Relationships with narcissists are insidious. They begin one way, and over time, very slowly and covertly, they change and become poisonous.

We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others.

In today’s very vulnerable show, Tracy shares her story of being married to a narcissist, how his toxic behaviors subtly increased over time and how it affected her sense of self. After marrying who she thought was a wonderful man, her life drastically changed and she began doubting herself. She fell into a depression, lived with anxiety and lost her sense of who she was.

Tracy walks us through her story of waking up to the abuse and getting out of the relationship. We offer advice for others who are in these types of relationships, including what you can do and how to begin to build yourself back up and find your true self again.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How quickly relationships with a narcissist can shift and how confusing they can be
  • Why subtle abuse is so easy to miss
  • How narcissists whittle down self-esteem and create self-doubt
  • Steps you can take to protect yourself or leave if needed
  • How refinding yourself after a difficult relationship can be fun and exciting
  • The importance of community and friends who can give you a reality check when you’re feeling self-doubt

 

“You think, ‘I don’t have negative feelings about myself,’ but something in my body was telling me I wasn’t good.” - Tracy

 

“I saw what his father was doing to him, but I didn’t see what he was doing to me.” - Tracy

 

“He chopped away your belief in yourself, the self-love you had, your self-worth.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“You deserve to be happy. You are a good person. If you feel good about what you’re doing and you’re confident in who you are, be aware of that and remind yourself of that and step out of the picture for a while.” - Tracy

 

Resources

5 -Minute Self-Love Meditation

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/

Episode #84: Raising Self-Esteem

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/

Episode #173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/

Episode #174: Building Self-Esteem

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July!

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Use code FREEMEMBER

The Self Series

theadultchair.com/self 

BOMBAS

https://bombas.com/adult

20% off your first order

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jul 09, 2020
217: Summer Series: Attachment and Relationships with Silvy Khoucasian
43:33

We all have different ways that we connect and bond with others, and in psychology, we call this “attachment style.” For example, some of us are anxious in our bonds, always making sure the relationship is ok. Others of us pull away when we feel we are getting too close with someone else. Our attachment style is HIGHLY influenced by our childhood and how we bonded with our caregivers growing up, and it’s so important to understanding how we interact in our adult relationships!

In this episode, I interview the incredible Silvy Khoucasian, a relationship coach and attachment style expert, about the different attachment styles and how we bond in relationships. Understanding your attachment style can be one of the most helpful tools for understanding how you show up in relationships and seeing the patterns that you might otherwise be tempted to blame on your partner.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What attachment theory is and why it matters
  • The four attachment styles
  • How the different attachment styles interact with each other
  • How your attachment style creates patterns in your relationships today
  • How to set boundaries for each attachment style
  • Repairing shame and moving forward in relationships

 

It was such a joy having Silvy on the show as she breaks down attachment theory in a simple, easy-to-understand way. As Silvy reminds us, our attachment style is not our fault, and it’s important to be gentle with ourselves as we learn and heal these patterns. Everyone is deserving of love and capable of having secure, healthy relationships no matter their attachment style but it’s up to us to do the work! I hope this episode helps you on your journey towards healthier relationships.

 

“Along that journey, it’s important to start reflecting on, ‘What are some ways I can start to bring healthier behaviors into the picture?’ or at least, ‘How can I communicate the tendencies that push people away or block connection?’” - Silvy Khoucasian

 

“It doesn’t matter who we pair with as long as both people are willing to see their unhealthy behaviors...it takes both people being really honest about those things.” - Silvy Khoucasian

 

“Starting to pay attention to whether our boundaries are serving us or if they’re actually getting in the way of the kinds of relationships we want can be really helpful and can be paired with certain attachment styles really well.” - Silvy Khoucasian

 

“As you do the thing that’s going to help you heal it, it’s going to be uncomfortable.” - Silvy Khoucasian

 

“You have to know yourself, then you have to be able to tell your partner who you are and what you need. We react instead of expressing, ‘Hey, this is what I need.’” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Silvy Khoucasian on Instagram

@SilvyKhoucasian

Boundaries Offering

https://bryanreves.com/boundaries-silvy/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

The Adult Chair Membership - Free Month of July!

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Use code FREEMEMBER

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jul 02, 2020
216: Navigating 2020 from your Adult
38:36

As we reach the last week of June and find ourselves halfway through 2020, I’m having a hard time finding words for this year. It has felt like a year of nonstop chaos, with so many challenges at the global and personal level. We are all feeling triggered everywhere we turn and overwhelmed by a range of emotions.

You might be wondering if it’s even possible to live from your healthy Adult Chair during times like these, and I’m here to tell you that it IS possible. These are the times when we need The Adult Chair the most. It is when our healthiest selves are challenged that we truly develop the skills and practices that keep us in peace and balance regardless of outside circumstances.

In this episode, I give you tons of practical tips to help you navigate times of chaos from your Adult Chair. This includes how to tell when you’ve slipped into the Adolescent, how to get back into your Adult and how I’m using The Adult Chair model to get through 2020.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The key signs that you’re in the Adolescent Chair
  • How to get into your Adult Chair
  • What anxiety is and how to clear the mind when it’s running constantly
  • How to feel emotions, clear your energy and stay grounded
  • What triggers are and how they can be helpful
  • Practical tips to get through hard times from a healthy place

 

When I say The Adult Chair model is here to help you live a life of balance no matter what is going on in the world (or your life), I mean it! It’s not just a zen state that you can find when all is good. It’s a practical model to help you get through even the most chaotic of times. I know it is helping me!

I really believe that we are in a season of transformation right now. Our world is changing, and it’s bringing us along with it. And while transformation is always painful, we are uncovering truths that have been hidden for far too long and making progress that is long overdue. Through The Adult Chair model, not only can you stay balanced during stressful times, but you can also step into your own journey of transformation and join the world as it changes for the better.

 

“When we’re faced with fear, we have a tendency to slide out of the Adult Chair, the seat of the authentic part of who we are, and we get pulled by our ego into our Adolescent Chair. This is the seat of unconsciousness.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“We want to make sure we’re living in this place [of presence] before we step out into the world or make a statement.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

"Anxiety is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions." - Michelle Chalfant

 

“I can’t expect the world to change to make me feel better. [I have] to change and make [myself] feel better, and I say the same thing to you.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/new-york/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

Insight Timer

https://insighttimer.com/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jun 25, 2020
215: From Hopelessness to Healing with Ruthie Lindsey
55:20

As humans, we all want to avoid pain and suffering...but what if pain can be a gateway to our healing? What if experiencing sadness actually increases our ability to feel joy?

In this episode, I’m chatting with the incredible Ruthie Lindsey as she shares her journey through tragedy and chronic pain to hope and healing. After being nearly killed in a car accident in high school, Ruthie experienced chronic physical pain as a result of a spinal cord injury while also walking through the death of her father and other personal tragedies. It would have been easy to simply numb out to survive, but Ruthie made the conscious choice to seek goodness and beauty despite the pain, and in doing so, opened up a world of hope and healing. 

 

Listen to discover:

  • Ruthie’s journey from numbing her pain to learning to live fully in spite of pain
  • Why the mind/body connection is so important
  • The connection between physical healing and emotional healing
  • The importance of inner child work in unlearning destructive stories and beliefs
  • Ruthie’s journey of coming home to Self and waking up to consciousness and how you can go on this journey for yourself 

 

We all have a choice to either numb our pain or to live fully and lean into healing. As Ruthie shares her story, I know you will be inspired and enlightened on what it truly means to heal, and I hope she will be a mirror of love and hope to all who are on their own journeys of healing.

 

"When you numb the hard and painful things, you numb everything. You can't pick and choose." - Ruthie Lindsey

 

"I feel like for me, so much of my healing work has been this unlearning, has been this remembering, has been this unwinding of the stories that we learn from the culture and patriarchy and church and family telling us these things about ourselves and that who we are is what we do." - Ruthie Lindsey

 

"You can't [heal] for someone else. Only you can do that for you. But when we do that, we can go out and be mirrors of love, hope and healing and divinity that's within everyone." - Ruthie Lindsey

 

"We're handed down these beliefs about who we are without discernment." - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Ruthie Lindsey Website

http://www.ruthielindsey.com/

Ruthie Lindsey Book

https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/198210791X

Ruthie Lindsey Instagram

http://instagram.com/ruthielindsey

Ruthie Lindsey Facebook 

https://www.facebook.com/ruthielindseyspeaker

Ruthie Lindsey Twitter

https://twitter.com/lindseyruthie

Onsite

https://www.onsiteworkshops.com/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/nashville/

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York and Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jun 18, 2020
214: Change Your Mind with Marisa Peer
01:04:29

Why do you do what you do?

That question is probably more difficult to answer than most of us think...not only because we often don’t know ourselves well, but also because the majority of our behaviors and actions come from programming in the unconscious mind. Sometimes, this programming happened when we were so young that we can’t even recall it; in fact, most of our beliefs form before the age of five!

But the good news is that no matter our programming, we CAN change our minds, rewire our thoughts and beliefs, and as a result, transform the way we act and live.

In this episode, I interview the brilliant Marisa Peer, a therapist, behavioral specialist, author and speaker who helps people completely transform their lives by changing their minds. The founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy, an innovative method rooted in hypnotism, Marisa helps clients uncover their unconscious beliefs and transform them at the source.

Marisa is an expert on the inner workings of the mind, and she walks us through the process for coding in new healthy beliefs and breaking unhealthy patterns. She also shares really practical and simple ways we can begin to change our mind, even without therapy or hypnotism.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How the mind works and how limiting beliefs are formed, even without us knowing it’s happening
  • Why and how we can literally change our minds
  • The four-step process of shifting beliefs: investigating, interpreting, interrupting and installing new ones
  • The three root causes of depression and how to transform it
  • The power of our words and how to use language that transforms the mind (it needs to be practical, present and repeatable)
  • Why the phrase “I am enough” is the KEY to transforming just about anything in your life

 

This episode is so RICH with content that I can’t even begin to summarize it here...you just have to listen! Marisa also leaves us with some beautiful information about her international “I am enough” movement, so you can take what you learn and put it into action right away.

 

“If you unconsciously created it, you can consciously let go of it.” - Marisa Peer

 

“The mind doesn’t have a choice to act on the words you say, but you have a choice to say better words.” - Marisa Peer

 

“How you feel about anything comes down to the picture you make in your head and the words that you construct.” - Marisa Peer

 

“When you hurt a child or don’t meet their needs, they don’t stop loving you they stop loving themselves.”  - Marisa Peer

 

“The common denominator of all our issues stems from ‘I’m not enough.” - Marisa Peer

 

Resources

Marisa Peer Website (free resources)

https://marisapeer.com/

Rapid Transformational Therapy (for therapists)

https://rtt.com/

I Am Enough (course)

https://iamenough.com/

Marisa Peer Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/

Marisa Peer YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg

Marisa Peer Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/

Marisa Peer Twitter

https://twitter.com/marisapeer

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/nashville/

The Adult Chair Membership (June Theme: Self-Worth)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York and Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jun 11, 2020
213: Walking Through Fear with Michelle Poler
46:24

With everything going on the world the last few months, fear has been on all of our minds recently. Though this fear is very real, it’s also related to events happening outside of ourselves...events we can’t fully control.

But we also all have deeper emotional fears that aren’t related to what is going on in the world and are more constant: fear of vulnerability, fear of rejection, fear of being trapped, etc. They come from inside us, and they hold us back from living the life we really want to live.

What if you could train yourself to face your fears and become more than you ever thought possible in life? 

Today’s guest, Michelle Poler, asked herself that same question and embarked on a life-changing experiment where she faced a new fear every day for 100 days. Her project went viral, and she now travels the world speaking and writing about how to walk through fear and tap into your fullest potential. 

In this episode, she shares her incredible journey, what she learned through her experiment and her tips for overcoming fear in everyday life.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Why our fears limit us and keep us from becoming who we’re meant to be
  • How to practice courage and build confidence
  • How to face the unknown and embrace change
  • Reframing failure and choosing to see opportunity instead
  • Finding the best, even in the worst-case scenario

 

When we feel fear in our bodies, most of us take that as a sign to stop what we’re doing or run in the other direction. But when we push through that fear, we discover a world of potential, dreams and opportunities. 

Michelle’s story and perspective on life is SO inspiring, and I know you will walk away from this episode with fresh energy to say “no” to fear and “yes” to life!

 

“When you radically accept what’s happening, you open new doors.” - Michelle Poler

“Don’t ask yourself, ‘What’s the worst thing that could happen?’ Ask yourself ‘What’s the best thing that could happen?’” - Michelle Poler

“The real enemy of success is not failure; it’s comfort.” - Michelle Poler

 

Resources

Michelle Poler Website

https://www.michellepoler.com/

Michelle Poler Instagram

http://instagram.com/hellofears

Michelle Poler Book

https://www.amazon.com/Hello-Fears-Crush-Comfort-Become/dp/1492688894

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/nashville/

The Adult Chair Membership (June Theme: Self-Worth)

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

Care/Of

https://takecareof.com/

50% off with code ADULT50

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jun 04, 2020
212: Boundaries Crash Course
25:37

Boundaries are one of those things that I think we can never talk too much about! Though this is a simple topic, boundaries are difficult for most of us — but they’re completely life-changing when we learn to practice them well.

So, it’s time to talk about boundaries again, and in this episode, I’m giving you a boundaries crash course! If you’ve been listening for a while, this will be a great refresher on the topic of boundaries…and if you’re brand new to the show, this is the perfect place to start in learning this critical skill.

A boundary is simply teaching others how to treat us. Setting them can feel scary at first, but it’s our job to care for ourselves by honoring our boundaries. Otherwise, we are betraying ourselves and putting the beliefs and values of others before ours…and that never leads to peace and happiness in life.

 

Listen to discover:

  • The first step to knowing your boundaries
  • How to communicate “bullet point” boundaries
  • How to get more comfortable with boundaries as a codependent and how to distinguish weak boundaries from loving action
  • When to speak up and when to remove yourself (both a version of boundaries)
  • Why we can’t expect others to know our boundaries

 

Remember, a boundary can be as simple as “I feel _____ when you do _____.” This is a great formula for getting started with boundaries!

Most of us didn't have health boundaries modeled growing up, and most of us struggle with setting them. Give yourself some grace! This is not about beating yourself up but about practicing boundaries until they get easier with time — and you get healthier as a result.

 

“Before setting a boundary, you have to know who you are and what your beliefs, values, morals and needs are.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“A boundary may have no words. It may be removing yourself.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

A Guided Meditation for Setting Boundaries

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-setting-boundaries/

Episode #184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/184/

Episode #175: Setting Healthy Boundaries

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/175-setting-healthy-boundaries/

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

May 28, 2020
211: Empaths and Highly Sensitive Persons with Dr. Judith Orloff
33:49

“Empath” is one of those words that has become a buzzword over the last few years, and it has us empaths who have felt different our whole lives yelling, “Finally!”

At last, the world is beginning to understand that certain people are wired in a way that makes them highly in tune with their environment and the emotions around them. Where empaths might have been called too sensitive in the past, we’re now acknowledging the unique gifts that empaths bring to the table — from having huge amounts of empathy to deeply caring for others.

But being an empath also comes with its own unique set of challenges. Because we’re so affected by what is going on around us, we can often find ourselves overwhelmed, exhausted or just feeling “off.” Self-care is SO critical for empaths to stay healthy and centered.

In this episode, I’m interviewing the incredible Dr. Judith Orloff, a brilliant psychiatrist and healer, who has written a number of books on how to survive and thrive as an empath. She shares a wealth of wisdom on how to know if you’re an empath, common traps empaths fall into and practical tips to live empowered as an empath.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Why empaths often have a hard time blocking out the world around them
  • Why empaths are often drawn to relationships with narcissists
  • Avoiding the addiction and anger trap (often a side effect of overwhelm)
  • The side effects of chronic sensory overload and how to recognize them
  • Practical tips for self-care and getting back into balance as an empath

If you’ve felt different, sensitive or intuitive your whole life, I think this episode will really resonate with you. Empaths are kind, loving, beautiful individuals who can truly thrive when we learn to be just as kind and loving to ourselves.

 

“Empaths don’t have the same kind of filters that other people have in terms of emotional or physical filters, so when something intense is going on in the world or your life, you may have a tendency to be overwhelmed by this.” - Dr. Judith Orloff

 

“Many empaths are having problems during this time because they’re not embodied anymore. They’re in their minds and they’re in panic, fear and suffering is in the mind. So if you bring it back to the body and heart, which is healing energy, you can recalibrate yourself.” - Dr. Judith Orloff

 

“An empowered empath is someone who can stay centered and loving without absorbing all the energy.” - Dr. Judith Orloff

 

Resources

 Judith Orloff Website

https://drjudithorloff.com/

 Judith Orloff Book: “The Empath’s Survival Guide”

https://www.amazon.com/Empaths-Survival-Guide-Strategies-Sensitive

Judith Orloff Book: “Thriving As An Empath”

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1683642910

Judith Orloff Empath Support Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/929510143757438/

 

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ 

Empath Meditation for Cleansing and Clearing Your Energy

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/empath-meditation-for-cleansing-and-clearing-your-energy/

 

More Adult Chair 

The Adult Chair Website

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville, New York and Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

May 21, 2020
210: Improving and Deepening the Connection with Your Partner
28:33

Most of us long for deeply connected relationships it’s a core part of our wiring as humans! But even when we’re in a relationship, many of us don’t know how to create the connection we crave. We might spend time with those we love, talk frequently and even get along with each other easily, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we know how to really let ourselves be known and how to really see and hear each other.

In today’s episode, I want to give you some practices and tips you can use to more deeply connect with your partner or really any significant person in your life. Real intimacy happens when we learn to share our reality and inner world, ask for what we need and stop trying to fix ourselves or our partners. I’m sharing some of the habits my husband and I use to stay connected in our marriage, some of the road blocks all couples run up against and how healing your own wounding can help you become stronger in relationships.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How sharing your inner world changes your relationship (and how to make this a habit)
  • The art of active listening and mirroring
  • Cultivating safety and making each other feel seen and heard
  • How your childhood wounding affects your relationships as an adult
  • Why triggers in a relationship can be a gift
  • Effective communication and the importance of weekly check-ins

 

There is magic when we learn to really communicate with our partners and let ourselves be fully known and fully loved. I hope the practical tools in this episode help you start building rituals of connection into your life today and every day!

 

“Your childhood wounding and your partner’s childhood wounding are magnetic...They are here to help you to see it, feel it, know it and heal it.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Don’t go into stories about what you think your partner is doing and why they’re doing it. You really want to spend time asking questions and sharing your reality.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When you’re sharing and being witnessed, you’re having the experience of being seen and heard.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

Episode #146: Healthy Relationships https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/146-healthy-relationships/

14 Days To Peace & Balance Journaling Prompts

https://theadultchair.com/14days

Cultivating Inner Peace Meditation

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PKAxhVgOu0

 

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

May 14, 2020
209: Domestic Abuse - A Child’s Experience
58:34

As we discuss the rise of domestic abuse during the COVID-19 crisis and the pervasiveness of this issue around the world, I wanted to shed some light on another group of survivors: the children of domestic abuse.

Whether a child is directly abused or witnesses the abuse of their father or mother, abuse during childhood can have lasting traumatic effects and shape our view of relationships and the self in unhealthy ways.

On today’s episode, we have another brave and beautiful woman, MaryBeth, who has agreed to share her story of growing up in an abusive household. She regularly witnessed her father verbally, physically, emotionally and spiritually abusing her mother while also verbally and spiritually abusing her and her siblings. She shares the way that growing up in that environment impacted her life, even as an adult, as well as her hopeful journey of healing and transformation.

Many adults in abusive relationships cite the children as the reason they stay together. I hope hearing MaryBeth’s experience as a child witnessing domestic abuse will offer a new perspective and bring awareness to the way abuse affects families for generations.

 

In this episode, MaryBeth shares:

  • Her powerful story of witnessing and experiencing abuse for most of her childhood, adolescence and young adulthood
  • The impacts of abuse on her life and her journey of healing
  • The way children take abuse on and can personally feel at fault
  • How childhood abuse can skew a child's sense of what’s normal in relationships
  • Spiritual abuse and the role religion can play in abuse
  • How to break the lineage of abuse
  • The importance of grace and forgiveness for yourself and others

 

I know you will be so encouraged by MaryBeth's courageous journey of healing, how Adult Chair work has played an instrumental role in her transformation and her arrival at a place of hope and forgiveness. Her story is such an inspirational reminder that we CAN heal, one step at a time, and that there is power in telling our stories, seeing and speaking the truth and offering grace to ourselves and even those who hurt us.

If you are in an abusive situation right now, remember that your children are soaking in everything they are seeing. This becomes their model of relationship; we're teaching them what's normal. For those staying for the kids, please consider getting out for the kids.

If you are recovering from an abusive childhood, know that healing is possible. There are dozens of resources on The Adult Chair website, including podcasts, meditations, courses and more that can help you in your journey of healing.

If you are in danger, please tell someone. 

The Adult Chair community (closed Facebook group linked below) is always here for emotional support.

 

If you need help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

https://www.thehotline.org/

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Deaf or hard of hearing, use TTY 1-800-787-3224

If unable to speak, text LOVEIS to 22522

 

If you are in an emergency situation, please call 911.

 

"It's like you're in a warzone, and you're always looking at your back. We were always trying to prevent, anticipate what he might be upset about. But it didn't matter. It was never good enough." - MaryBeth, childhood domestic abuse survivor

 

"I didn't even know I was a child of abuse. Why would anything be wrong, because I was the one who was wrong. I was the one that was the mistake. I was the one causing his frustration."  - MaryBeth, childhood domestic abuse survivor

 

"You break that lineage of abuse when you speak up and say, 'No, I'm done!'" - Michelle Chalfant

 

"If you're in a domestic abuse situation, your children are growing up thinking, 'This is normal.'" - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline

https://www.thehotline.org/help/ 

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ 

The Adult Chair Private Facebook Group (safe place to connect, get emotional support and share your story) 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com 

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

May 07, 2020
208: Triumph Over Abuse - An Interview With Survivors
01:19:12

Studies show that since the start of the COVID-19 quarantine, domestic abuse is up by 30 to 40 percent worldwide. Abusers are using the global crisis to increase their sense of power and control, and women are trapped at home with abusive partners, making them more vulnerable to frequent abuse. This is something that enrages me and that I’m so passionate about shedding light on.

Domestic abuse isn’t just a quarantine issue. Far too many women (and men) suffer abuse from their partners daily, and I felt compelled to do something to bring awareness to this topic. I reached out to our Adult Chair community and asked if any survivors would be willing to share their stories of abuse and triumph and in this episode, I am interviewing two incredibly brave and strong women who are sharing how they escaped and rebuilt their lives after abuse.

 

In this episode, the women share:

  • Their stories of abuse and the insidious pattern of how their abusers slowly whittled down their self-esteem
  • How verbal abuse can turn into physical abuse
  • Their turning point, when they realized it was time to leave
  • How they left, even without a place to go (it IS possible, and there is help for you!)
  • The triumph and increased sense of self after they escaped
  • Advice for others currently trapped in abusive relationships

 

This episode is powerful, raw and real, and I’m incredibly grateful to these women for sharing their very important stories.

The thing about abuse is that it puts you in a fog where all your energy is going towards survival. Each woman I interviewed shared about her “turning point” moment where she moved from being on the defense into a place of being on the offense, shifting from just trying to survive to consciously figuring out how to get out. 

I can’t imagine being quarantined with an abuser, but I pray this will be a turning point for many. I hope this episode shows you you’re not alone and gives you the hope and encouragement you need to know that you CAN leave and you can find a beautiful, empowered, triumphant life after abuse.

If you are in danger, please tell someone. 

The Adult Chair community (closed Facebook group linked below) is always here for emotional support.

 

If you need help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

https://www.thehotline.org/

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Deaf or hard of hearing, use TTY 1-800-787-3224

If unable to speak, text LOVEIS to 22522

 

If you are in an emergency situation, please call 911.

 

“I stopped at a payphone at a convenience store a block away from the police station. I called the police, it’s almost midnight, and I told them ‘I can’t go home.’” - Kathleen, domestic abuse survivor

 

“I didn’t have anything, but I had the determination to get out of it.” - Lea, domestic abuse survivor

 

“I would look in the mirror, and being a faith-based person, I would say to myself ‘God did not have you be born for this.’” - Kathleen

 

“There are others out there not only that have walked in those shoes, but are willing to help you reach those resources.” - Lea

 

“Pay attention to how your partner makes you feel. If it feels bad, pay attention...if someone’s making you feel less than or talking down to you, it’s not ok.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline

https://www.thehotline.org/help/ 

A Guided Meditation on Worthiness

https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-on-worthiness/

Episode #139 Cultivate Self-Worth

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/139-cultivate-self-worth/

 

The Adult Chair Private Facebook Group (safe place to connect, get emotional support and share your story) 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com 

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Apr 30, 2020
207: The Narcissism and Codependency Connection with Ross Rosenberg
01:04:47

Today, we’re talking about two of our listeners’ favorite topics narcissism and codependency. I’ve discussed these topics individually on the show before, but in reality, they are deeply connected with each other. And I’m honored to welcome back to the show Ross Rosenberg, a psychotherapist and leading expert on codependency, narcissism, trauma and addiction, on the show to help us understand the connection between these two traits and how to break the cycle.

Ross explains the “dance” of codependency and narcissism, exploring how codependency often forms from narcissistic abuse in childhood and why codependents and narcissists are like magnets for each other. We tend to be attracted to what feels familiar to us, which is why codependents often experience intense chemistry with a narcissistic partner until the “soulmate” becomes the “cellmate.” It’s not until we learn to fill our own self-love deficit that we can break the cycle of abuse and start forming relationships with partners who love and respect our whole selves.

 

Listen to discover:

  • Why narcissism and codependency go hand in hand
  • Attachment wounds and the origins of codependency
  • Why codependency is really a self-love deficit
  • The different types of narcissism
  • Gaslighting and the distortion of our reality (the greatest tool of the narcissist)
  • Setting boundaries with a narcissist (and why it often doesn’t work)
  • Narcissists and codependents in quarantine: the three most important tools we have to make it through

 

This was SUCH a great episode that will help you understand the “why” behind narcissism and codependency while also giving you practical tips for taking care of yourself in a relationship with a narcissist and rebuilding the self once the relationship ends.

 

“The child intuitively knows that the world’s not safe, and they somehow have to adapt to it or mold themselves to it so they are the type of child that engenders being cared for.” - Ross Rosenberg

 

“How you mold yourself [as a child] ends up being how you’re going to be as an adult in relationships.” - Ross Rosenberg

 

Other Episodes with Ross

#54: Narcissism, Codependence and the Self-Love Deficit:

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/54-narcissism-codependence-and-the-self-love-deficit-with-ross-rosenberg/

 

Resources

Ross Rosenberg Website

http://selfloverecovery.com/

Ross Rosenberg YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/rossrosenberg

Ross Rosenberg Book: The Human Magnet Syndrome”

https://www.amazon.com/Human-Magnet-Syndrome-Love-People/dp/1936128314

Video: When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3an9crV9feM

Video: Boundaries Don’t Work with Narcissists!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iF9hDRhx_hU

Ross Rosenberg Event at The Art of Living September 2020

https://www.artofliving.org/

14 Days To Peace & Balance Journaling Prompts

https://theadultchair.com/14days

 

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Apr 23, 2020
206: 5 Steps to Peace
21:33

For the first time in history, the entire world is sharing the same fears and the same hopes. With so much chaos all around us and with everyone’s life impacted by this virus and the quarantine, is it really possible to find peace?

I believe you can find peace no matter where you are in life, and I believe that because I have lived it! I spent the first part of my life living with anxiety and depression every day, and now I wake up most days in a state of peace...one that I would have never thought possible during my days of anxiety.

And while there isn’t a magic pill to find peace, the good news is that we have a choice and can take small steps every day to live in greater peace. Today, I want to share my step-by-step guide to cultivating peace with you the exact practices I use to stay in peace in my life. These steps are practical, quick and easy to practice, but they make ALL the difference.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How the ego responds to emotions (and why that creates problems for us!)
  • How our stories and assumptions get us out of balance
  • How to honor and truly feel your emotions
  • Why you are the only one who can take care of you
  • The five steps you can do today to find greater peace

 

Here are the five steps I share in the episode. Listen to find out exactly how to practice these, starting today!

  1. Slow down
  2. Put your feet on the floor and ground
  3. Breathe (slowly)
  4. Check in with yourself (body and emotions)
  5. Journal to process what you are feeling

 

Happiness is fleeting, but peace is a state of being that we can choose and sustain. This quarantine is an opportunity for healing and transformation, but we have to take care of ourselves. I hope these five steps give you the tools you need to stay in peace and balance in any season of life.

 

“One of the things that we do when we have an emotion that’s rising up inside of us is we speed up. Because what’s happening is the ego is trying to solve the “problem,” which is the emotion that we’re having.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When we sit in our healthy Adult Chair, we know emotions are not a bad thing. They are a beautiful gift.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

Resources

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Apr 16, 2020
205: Stress and your Enneagram Type with Ramona Reid
42:24

The world is experiencing a time of high stress and universal confusion like most of us have never experienced in our lifetimes. We are all walking through a collective trauma together. But just because an experience is common, it does not mean we all respond to it in the same way.

Each of us is wired uniquely, and every personality type experiences stress and anxiety differently. The Enneagram is such a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and our personalities, and it gives us incredible insights into how we are each processing the stress of COVID-19.

In today’s episode, I talk with my friend and holistic Enneagram coach, Ramona Reid, to discover the various ways each Enneagram type might be processing stress. From wanting to fix the situation or help others to feelings of isolation and fear, it’s so important to understand how you respond to stress so you can recognize it and get back into balance.

 

Listen to discover:

  • What stress looks like for each Enneagram type
  • How to cope and find balance based on your unique stress response
  • How to find your “peace point”
  • Tools for your type to help you manage stress and fear

 

The Enneagram is not a box but rather a tool for self-discovery that reveals our strengths, weaknesses, fears and desires so that we can grow beyond our type. Understanding how you are responding to stress right now will give you more compassion for yourself and others as we all walk through a very different, yet shared global experience.

 

“This is the opportunity to see ourselves either show up and use our tools and be present and healthy or show up and manage fear in the ways we’ve learned through our coping mechanisms.” - Ramona Reid

 

“Now is not a time to take [the Enneagram] and try to fix ourselves...it’s more an opportunity to see what’s happening from fear.” - Ramona Reid

 

Other Episodes With Ramona

#51: Find Your Authentic Self at the Heart of Your Enneagram: https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/51-find-your-authentic-self-at-the-heart-of-your-enneagram/

#114: Deepening the Adult Chair Using the Wisdom of the Enneagram: https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/114-deepening-the-adult-chair-using-the-wisdom-of-the-enneagram-with-ramona-reid/

#176: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram: https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/176-childhood-wounding-in-the-enneagram/

 

Resources

Ramona Reid Website

http://www.mynashvillecenter.com/

Ramona Reid Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/nashvillecenter/

Ramona Reid Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/nashvillecenterforalternativetherapy

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Workshop - New York

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Apr 09, 2020
204: Natural Remedies for Anxiety and Overwhelm with Annie Boerner
32:31

There is no doubt that it’s not an easy time for the nervous system. With the amount of collective and personal fear and stress in our world right now, our minds and bodies have to work extra hard to maintain a state of calm and balance. Fortunately, we’re not on our own! There are SO MANY amazing, simple tools that you can use to make a huge difference in how you feel on a physical, emotional and spiritual level.

In today’s episode, I’m chatting with my friend Annie Boerner, an integrative health practitioner who specializes in calming and balancing the whole person through the nervous system. With a background in neurological therapy, bodywork and other powerful techniques, Annie helps people overcome pain, chronic health problems, PTSD and other stress-related challenges naturally and holistically.

I’m so grateful to have Annie on the show today as she shares some of her favorite tools for natural relief of anxiety, overwhelm and stress. From essential oils to hands-on tools for keeping yourself relaxed and in balance, this is a super practical episode with ideas that you can begin using to feel better TODAY!

 

You will discover:

  • How essential oils interact with the brain to provide nervous system and emotional support
  • The best oils for immune support, anxiety, depression and more
  • Body-based tools for calming the nervous system
  • Stress-relieving practices and sensory resources such as brushing, weighted blankets, nature, music and meditation
  • Grounding techniques for getting in the present moment and calming your energy
  • The importance of fun and movement

 

Though we created this episode in the middle of a global pandemic, the reality is that life is often stressful and challenging, even when the world is not in crisis. The simple, practical and affordable tools Annie offers us really work and can be integrated into our daily routines for greater peace every day. And THAT is some good news worth celebrating!

 

“A dysregulated nervous system is at the root of all disease and dysfunction in the body.” - Annie Boerner

 

Resources

Annie Boerner Website

https://annieboerner.com/

 

Annie Boerner Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/annieboerner/

 

Annie Boerner Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/anniewaugh13/

 

Oils That Annie Recommends

  • OnGuard
  • Lemongrass
  • Adaptiv
  • Wild Orange
  • Frankincense

 

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Apr 02, 2020
203: Resilience in Turbulent Times with Linda Graham
56:59

As much as we hate to admit it, difficult times are part of life. Sometimes, they come in the form of trying seasons in our personal lives; other times, the whole world goes through challenges together, facing disasters like famine, tornadoes and disease.

But just like difficulty is part of human history, so is resilience. Each of us has the ability to not only cope with what life throws our way, but to become stronger and thrive as a result. 

It was such a gift to interview Linda Graham, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping people cope with life’s challenges and develop a healthy sense of self through them. As I write these notes in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic sweeping the world, I feel it is so important to explore this topic, and I know Linda’s perspective will be so encouraging to many.

In this episode, we’re talking all about resilience, including how it relates to our nervous systems, how we can find peace and balance in the middle of pain, how we can bounce back from trauma and how we can reverse the impact of stress in our lives. We are all called to cultivate this skill through various life experiences, and while it might not be the most fun lesson to learn, the beautiful thing is that practicing resilience cultivates a mindset that empowers us to cope with anything.

 

Listen to this episode to discover:

  • How resilience develops and how to get unstuck from trauma
  • The source of anxiety and depression and how they are connected to the nervous system
  • How to live with realistic optimism, which means facing what’s happening and making wise decisions about what to do next
  • The art of skillful distraction and how to cope with pain in healthy ways
  • Teaching resilience to our kids
  • Navigating grief and practicing gratitude and compassion to build resilience
  • And SO much more!!

 

Linda also shares a number of practical body-based tools that can help us adjust our nervous systems, keep a clear mind and an open heart and face what life throws our way.

I know you will be encouraged by Linda’s reminder that you always have a choice, and you will find hope in the fact that nothing is permanent and we can bounce back stronger than ever.

 

“We go through disappointments and difficulties in our life. We’re called upon to face disaster. A resilience practice gives us tools and a mindset where we can cope with anything at all.” - Linda Graham

 

“The most important thing is to shift from focusing on the stressor to focusing on our own internal response because that is what we can do something about.” - Linda Graham

 

Resources

Linda Graham Website

https://lindagraham-mft.net/

Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience by Linda Graham

https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Back-Rewiring-Resilience-Well-Being/dp/1608681297

Resilience: Powerful Practices to Bounce Back from Disappointment, Difficulty and Even Disaster by Linda Graham

https://lindagraham-mft.net/resilience/ 

The New Adolescence by Christine Carter

https://www.amazon.com/New-Adolescence-Raising-Successful-Distraction/dp/1948836548

The Coddling of the American Mind by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff

https://www.amazon.com/Coddling-American-Mind-Intentions-Generation/dp/0735224897

 

Care/Of  - 50% off your first order

https://takecareof.com/

Promo code: adult50

 

The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Mar 26, 2020
202: Turning Tragedy into Triumph with Amberly Lago
52:22

I am so excited about today’s episode both because I’m interviewing someone I deeply admire, the inspiring Amberly Lago, and because this show couldn’t have come at a more divine time with all that’s going on in the world today.

Amberly is someone I would call a “resiliency expert,” and she has a lot to teach us about finding inner strength during challenging times. Amberly has been through so much in her life, but instead of letting it overcome her, she worked through fear and pain and shows us how we can find light even in dark times. She now helps millions of others discover how to persevere and live life to the fullest regardless of circumstances through her writing, speaking, podcasts and workshops.

In this episode, Amberly shares her powerful story of healing from a motorcycle accident and her journey through chronic pain, depression and learning to reclaim power over her life and live with true grit and grace. You can’t help but be inspired by her ability to turn tragedy into triumph and pain into purpose and to realize you have the same choice every day.

 

Listen to discover:

  • How to find strength and hope in times of struggle
  • The power of choosing our thoughts and how positive thinking and gratitude really changes your life
  • The importance of community and why getting vulnerable is a strength and not a weakness
  • Her unique “PACER” process for strengthening resiliency and getting through challenges we face in life

 

Amberly’s book changed my life and has become a touchstone for me when I find myself reaching for hope. I hope that this week’s show inspires you and reminds you that no matter what is going on in your life (or the world), with a little bit of hope and a lot of determination, you can overcome anything!

 

“Once you realize you have a choice, you take your power back.” - Amberly Lago

 

“Getting grateful turns what we can’t do into what we can do, and it turns what we don’t have into what we do have.” - Amberly Lago

 

Resources

Amberly Lago

https://amberlylago.com/

True Grit and Grace (Amberly Lago)

https://amberlylago.com/product/true-grit-and-grace/

Amberly Lago Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/amberlylagomotivation/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Mar 19, 2020
BONUS: Finding Peace and Love Amidst the Chaos
09:27

As we are in the middle of a global pandemic that is causing so much fear and confusion, I wanted to offer you a bonus episode with a free meditation to help you promote relaxation and peace. 

It's such a confusing time right now, and the events of the last few weeks don’t make sense to anyone. Some people are scared, angry, anxious or unsure how to feel. And I understand why. Nothing can prepare us for a global crisis like this.

Even though I don’t understand why all of this is happening, I firmly believe that we are connected to something so much bigger than us, and I cling to the fact that something good is coming from this, even if we can't see it right now. Fear makes us feel disconnected from ourselves and separated from this Love, but it’s always there for us when we slow down and tune in.

This free, five-minute self-love meditation will help you connect to that bigger source of Love and reconnect to yourself so you can find a state of peace and balance (mentally, emotionally and physically) despite what is going on.

Whether you’re listening to this during this time of collective uncertainty or you’re listening at a later date to help you navigate a personal time of fear, I hope this will be a gift to you to help bring hope and healing, even in the middle of hard times.

 

Resources

More Free Meditations

https://theadultchair.com/meditations/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

Mar 18, 2020
201: Using the Polyvagal Theory to Balance Your Nervous System with Deb Dana
01:00:18

You know the feeling when your nervous system kicks into overdrive. Maybe you freeze in place or your heart starts racing, your body pumping with adrenaline. This automatic response often feels like it overtakes us. But what if you could control and balance your nervous system instead of it controlling you? 

In today’s show, I’m interviewing the incredible Deb Dana, one of the leading experts on the nervous system and the Polyvagal Theory. The Polyvagal Theory offers us cutting-edge insight into the third nervous system response that Porges calls the social engagement system, based on the Vagus Nerve. In this episode, we talk about how we can both understand and balance our nervous system from the different ways we respond to fear or danger (including fight, flight, freeze and a new one you might not be aware of) to how we can change our response to stressors over time. We explore how we can stop moralizing our nervous response, how to listen and pay attention to our nervous system and how others’ nervous systems can help us regulate. It is FASCINATING!

 

Listen to discover:

  • What the Polyvagal Theory is and why it’s important for you to know about it
  • Understanding the Polyvagal Theory to learn how to better balance the nervous system 
  • How the Polyvagal Theory could be linked with depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue and other ailments  
  • How we can reshape our nervous system
  • Specific ways to self-regulate when you are stressed, based on YOUR unique nervous system 

 

This blends attachment theory, stress response, self-regulation, co-regulation and SO much more. The big takeaway is that you have a choice! Even though you don’t get to choose how your nervous system is wired, you can eventually shift how you respond to situations and regulate your own system which is so empowering! 

 

“We don’t get to choose our survival response.” - Deb Dana

 

“We want to stretch our nervous system but not stress our nervous system.” - Deb Dana

 

Resources

Deb Dana

https://https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb Dana

https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Therapy-Interpersonal-Neurobiology/dp/0393712370/ref=nodl_ 

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Mar 12, 2020
200: Celebrating 200 Episodes!
37:57

I truly can’t believe we’re here ⁠— the 200th episode of The Adult Chair podcast and over 2 million downloads! This started out as an experiment to help my clients, and I’m BLOWN AWAY by what it has become. I couldn’t be more thankful to you for listening and inviting me into your life each week. I’m thrilled and humbled to have helped in a small way on your journey toward your most authentic self.

For our 200th episode, I wanted to share a bit more about The Adult Chair ⁠— the backstory behind how it came about, what it is and how you can use it every day in your life. I realize many of you might not know where this model comes from or the dozens of methods it includes, so today, you’ll discover a little bit more about all of the simple psychology and grounded spirituality that is part of The Adult Chair.

I’m also sharing a brand new six-step process from The Adult Chair that will help you transform ANY situation life throws your way. Here is each step I talk about in the episode for reference:

  1. What happened?
  2. The story I made up is:
  3. What Chair am I in?   
  4. This makes me feel:
  5. From my Adult Chair, here is what’s true:
  6. What I’m going to do next is:

 

This episode will also give you a crash course in what the model is and how it works, so if you’re brand new or want to share this podcast with a friend, this is a great place to start!

Again, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for being part of this community. The Adult Chair is so much more than a podcast. It’s a movement of healing and transformation that now includes workshops and events, a membership community, our brand new coaching certification and training program and tons of free resources for your journey. There are so many more exciting things coming, and I can’t wait for 200 more episodes with you!

 

Resources

Inner Child Resource

https://courses.theadultchair.com/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Mar 05, 2020
199: Dating from the Adult Chair
31:49

Everybody wants to be happy, and most of us want a partner to share our happiness and lives with. But finding that partner? Easier said than done.

Dating can be exhilarating, confusing, fun, exhausting and all the things. Experiencing connection with another person is deeply meaningful and also incredibly complex especially when we bring our own pasts, traumas and expectations into the early stages of a relationship. How do we know if a relationship is meant to be forever or for a season in our lives or not at all? How do we date in a healthy way?

Most of us date (and live) from our Adolescent Chair with all its fears, desires and past hurts. Add in emotions and physical attraction, and our adolescent self is running the show! But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can experience fulfilling dating relationships (even with someone who isn’t ultimately “the one”) when you date from your Adult Chair. And if you’re looking for a long-term partner, you absolutely need to be choosing from your most authentic, healthiest self!

 

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about how to date from your Adult Chair, including:

  • How to know if you are picking the right partner
  • Control issues in dating
  • Divorce and dating
  • Love addiction and love avoidance
  • How to know if it’s love or lust
  • How to let go and go with it (from a centered place)
  • Staying connected to yourself while falling for someone else

 

I had such a great conversation with my friend, Jackie, as part of today’s episode, and I know you will love hearing her questions and learning from her experiences. Whether you’re looking for the one, just getting into the dating game, trying to guide your actual adolescent children through their first relationship or just curious about relationships from an Adult Chair perspective, you will love this episode!

 

“If you’re in doubt, you’ve got to slow down and get clear on where you are. We need to enter into any relationship from a place of balance.”

 

“When you feel yourself disconnect from you and you’re not picking up on the red flags, that’s a problem.”

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Feb 27, 2020
198: Transforming Fear
20:10

Fear creeps in and out of our lives all the time. It's just a human emotion, but it's a sneaky one. It starts small, then all of the sudden, we're overtaken by it until it becomes paralyzing. A little bit of fear can quickly turn into a lot of fear.

A few weeks ago, I shared a story with you about some anxiety I was experiencing and a six-step process to move from panic to peace quickly (check out episode #195 to discover this process). While this process is incredibly effective, I found that I still had some fear creeping up, despite being able to calm my feelings of anxiety. I began to get curious about this fear and figure out why it was coming into my life.

Fear is often a future-focused emotion. It is based on unknowns, which trigger the Adolescent and throw us into stories and assumptions. When we find ourselves afraid, many people advise us to step back and "trust the process" which is true, but much easier said than done! Before we can trust, we must find the part that is able to trust and connect with that part.

In this show, I am sharing the secret I discovered to identify the source of fear and transform it before it triggers the ego. There is a part of us where both fear and trust live, and when we tap into it, it transforms fear almost instantly!

 

You'll discover:

  • Where your fear originates
  • How to stop stories and assumptions before they start (before we even slide into the Adolescent)
  • How to discover the source of your emotions
  • How to stop fear in its tracks and find deeper peace
  • Practical tips for doing inner child work (one of the most powerful processes for healing)

By the way, if you liked the six-step process in episode #195, the tips I share in today’s episode make for a great “Step 7” that can be added on to that process in just one minute or less!

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

The Adult Chair Workshop - Nashville

https://theadultchair.com/events/

Inner Child Resource

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/

https://courses.theadultchair.com/

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

From Anxiety & Panic to Peace Podcast

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/195

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Feb 20, 2020
197: Know and Grow Self Love
33:53

The other day I heard from someone who was having a bad day. She asked if this meant she had lost her self-love and how she could know she had enough self-love. That conversation made me realize how little we know about self-love, and it inspired me to do this show. 

Like any relationship, our relationship with ourselves has its ups and downs and its good and bad days. Just because we don’t “feel the love” in every moment doesn’t mean it's not there! All great love grows over time and goes so much deeper than our feelings. Those bad days can be temporary, but once it builds, our self-love stays with us.

So, in today’s episode, I’m telling you all about how you can know and grow self-love. I go down memory lane a bit and share my story of going from self-loathing, negative self-talk, low self-esteem and even suicidal thoughts to learning to love myself. Then I share how you can do the same!

 

Listen to discover:

  • How I found self-love (and how The Adult Chair model can help you find it too!)
  • How to change negative self-image into self-compassion
  • Signs that you love yourself
  • 5 practical ways to know and grow self-love

 

We must become the director of our lives and not rely on others to boost us up. It’s always nice to receive a compliment or a kind word, but when we learn to be our own cheerleaders, we can build our self-esteem and self-love no matter what our outside relationships look like. It's a total game changer! 

 

Resources

Bombas

https://bombas.com/ADULT

20% off your first purchase

 

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Feb 13, 2020
196: Spotting Covert Narcissism
41:37

We all know the word “narcissism.” We can usually spot a narcissist a mile away. They are loud, want all the attention and can be obnoxious. This is known as overt narcissism.

But can you spot a covert narcissist? They can be tricky, with a more "subtle" form of narcissism. It can sting just as badly, but you have no idea it's happening (at least not initially) because it's so subtle. 

A covert narcissist still craves attention, but they are sneaky or subtle with how they get it. They look amazing on the outside, but behind closed doors, everything becomes your fault. You are made to feel crazy. They will blame and shame you to get their way. They look like they are socially connected, but in reality, they are inept at building deep relationships and letting anyone in emotionally. In the end, you wonder if you are the bad person in the relationship. It’s no wonder that relationships with this type of narcissist can be so confusing and damaging! 

 

In today’s episode, I help you break down the disguises that covert narcissists wear. You’ll learn:

 

  • How narcissism develops
  • Signs that you might be in a relationship with a narcissist
  • Sneaky traits of a covert narcissist (and how to spot them!)
  • What to do if you are in a relationship with someone who has these traits

 

Narcissism can wreak havoc in our lives sometimes before we even realize it. That’s why it’s so important to know what to look for, spot covert narcissism and take care of yourself if you suspect you have a narcissist in your life.

 

“They want the world to be according to them. It’s their map of the world. The way they see the world is the only way. And if you don’t agree with the way they see the world, blaming and shaming happens.”

“If it feels bad, it’s not love.”

 

Resources

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

The Adult Chair Podcasts 

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Feb 06, 2020
195: From Anxiety & Panic to Peace
29:00

What do you do when anxiety creeps up out of nowhere and sends you into a state of panic? Maybe it’s a stressful call or email, an overflowing to-do list or all of your worries being flung in your face at once, until it feels like fear is taking over your body. 

You know the feeling: irrational thoughts, a racing heart, a mind that’s racing even faster and even symptoms like a headache or upset stomach.

This happened to me the other day, and it felt like every part of my life was spinning out of control. The unknowns were sending me into a panic that just kept spiraling deeper. But this is why we have The Adult Chair! I was able to take this opportunity to lean in, get curious and use the tools in the “TAC toolbox” to return to a state of calm. 

And in today’s episode, I’m going to give you the six tools I used to go from panic to peace in just 20 minutes. Listen to discover: 

 

  • How to stop the ego in its tracks and return to flow state
  • How to slow down and stop the panic cycle
  • Mindful tools that ground us when our thoughts are spinning
  • Hands-on exercises to bring the nervous system back in balance
  • Tips for busting stories and getting back to calm

 

Once we get into an anxious state, it will feed itself until we step in and stop it. You have everything you need in your healthy Adult and this episode will show you exactly what to do to break out of panic and return to balance.

 

Resources

Care/of

http://takecareof.com/

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jan 30, 2020
194: Purge, Connect & Reach: 3 Simple Steps to Change Your Mood
25:44

There is nothing worse than when we find ourselves caught in a bad mood. Whether we wake up on the wrong side of the bed or something triggers us and sends us into a funk, we all experience moments or even days where we feel a bit "down."

Often, it can be difficult to identify where our mood has come from or why we feel this way. We might just know we feel bad, sad, lonely, anxious, depressed or emotionally "off." It can be hard to get back on track when we don't even know what's causing it! 

Today, I'm offering you a simple, easy-to-use, three step process to help you discover what's going on inside and shake you out of your mood: a technique I call "Purge, Connect and Reach." You know I love methods that give you quick transformation, and this technique has been SO powerful for me and many of my clients. 

 

This episode will show you how to:

  • Get clear on and release your emotions
  • Connect to true emotions and needs underneath your mood
  • Find your fact and truth and shift your focus to the present


Moods are part of being human, but you are in control of them! Purge, Connect and Reach will help you navigate that emotionally "off" feeling the next time it strikes.


Resources
Inner Child Free Guide

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/ 

 

The Adult Chair Workshop Charlotte  January 30-Feb1
 
https://theadultchair.com/events/ 

 

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/membership/ 

 

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ 
The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ 

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jan 23, 2020
193: Boundaries in Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab
43:02

We can never talk enough about boundaries! They are so important for loving ourselves, living empowered and creating healthy relationships, but most of us never saw healthy boundaries modeled and struggle with setting them. That's why I'm SO excited to have the amazing boundary and relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab, on this week's show!

In this episode, we have a great conversation about boundaries in all kinds of relationships, whether it be your mother, father, sibling, your teen, your spouse (or ex-spouse), boss or friend. Nedra and I discuss what we need to learn and do to set clear boundaries, and she explains how necessary it is for our mental health to express and communicate our needs. Our conversation covers SO much ground, including:

  • What a boundary is and what it looks and sounds like
  • How to honor your own boundaries and not give in when you get pushback
  • What to do when the person you set a boundary with gets mad
  • Navigating guilt when setting boundaries
  • How boundaries can reduce anxiety and boost your overall mental health
  • Answers to your top questions about boundaries

It's so important to take care of ourselves and have "self" boundaries, which may not involve anyone but us. These can be the most important of all!

I think you are really going to enjoy this show. It's filled with great tips on how to get started with setting your boundaries today. 

 

Resources
The Adult Chair Workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events  

The Adult Chair Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership 

 

Stay Connected

Nedra
Instagram: @nedratawwab

Website: https://NedraTawwab.com  


Michelle
Instagram: @michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantfanPage/ 

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair 

Jan 16, 2020
192: Sex Addiction with Abbe Barclay
44:46

I have heard from so many of you that wanted more information on Sex Addiction so I decided to have my friend and sex addiction specialist Abbe Barclay on. Abbe is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Sex Addiction Therapist.

Abbe is a wealth of information and didn't hold back on today's show. We discussed how sex addiction develops, porn addiction, masturbation, if recovery is possible for sex addicts and if so, what the recovery is as well as how you can best support a sex addict and so much more.

This show is filled with valuable information all about sex addiction and one not to be missed if you or someone you love suffers with this addiction.

 

https://www.abbebarclaycounseling.com/ 

https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair Charlotte  Jan 30-Feb 1

 

Connect with Michelle:

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2buoRyaYIjuBugJqwKzDw

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/michellechalfanttheadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Jan 09, 2020
191: Finding True Freedom
24:24

Happy New Year! I thought long and hard about this kick off show and know how so many of us strive for big change in the New Year but in my experience, small changes lead to big impact.

In December I fell upon a book (it actually felt like it jumped off the shelf to me), :) that I have read several times. It's a classic book that you might have read as it came out in 1997. The book is: The 4 Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz.

I leafed through the book again and a light bulb moment happened. These agreements are key concepts in The Adult Chair AND provide HUGE shifts when applied consistently. So I thought to myself..."THIS is what people need to apply for transformation". The 4 agreements are essential for anyone's transformation so today I am reviewing what they are and how you can start applying them TODAY and experience immediate change in your own life.

 

https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair Charlotte-January 30 -Feb 1

https://theadultchair.com/membership 
The Adult Chair Membership

https://audibletrial.com/Theadultchair 
The 4 Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom
Don Miguel Ruiz

 

Connect with Michelle:

https://theadultchair.com/membership/

https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2buoRyaYIjuBugJqwKzDw

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/michellechalfanttheadultchair/

 

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

 

Jan 02, 2020
190: Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords
17:24

We made it through the holidays! How are you feeling...Drained, relieved, elated?

Now is the best time to "clean yourself off" and today and get yourself ready for the New Year.

In today's show I explain a bit about how we can be dysfunctionally connected to others and don't even know it. I let you know how you can tell and exactly how you can "cut those cords".

Even if we don't have a dysfunctional relationship, it's still important to keep yourself "clean" energetically and to cut the cords with people we know and love so each time we show up with them, they see us as who we are TODAY and not as they knew us from the past.

Today at the end of the show, I offer you a guided meditation that walks you through exactly how to keep yourself "cleaned off" and to cut the cords if necessary.

This is a wonderful end of year ceremony but can certainly be done year round.

 

The Adult Chair Event-Charlotte
https://theadultchair.com/events 

The Adult Chair-website
https://theadultchair.com 

Dec 26, 2019
189: Breaking Free from Victim
35:59

In a word, victim energy is just plain yucky. We fall into victim when we least expect it and "think" it feels good. We feel like we deserve to feel this way, we have been wronged for goodness sake...and then we wake up.

In today's show I share with you a personal experience I had, where I feel into that victim energy, not once but twice! It felt deserving and great until I woke up to truth, to what was real. It was a wonderful experience as it taught me a lot about victim energy and how sneaky it can be.

I give you a few ideas on how to get out of the seat of the victim (located squarely in the Adolescent Chair), and most importantly, that we need to choose to be conscious and make choices that empower us and not disempower us.

I hope you enjoy my story (aka-drama) that I fell into and get a good laugh. I now can laugh at myself as well and see the whole experience as a gift. This is an energy I feel very familiar with now and plan not to visit there anytime soon. :)

The Adult Chair -Charlotte
January 30-Feb 1st
https://theadultchair.com/events 

The Adult Chair Membership
TAC Tribe
https://theadultchair.com/membership

Dec 19, 2019
188: The Wisdom of the Body in Healing with Patti Elledge
55:28

Today on the show we have Patti Elledge back again to talk about how we can heal our early developmental wounds, attachment wounds, trauma, abuse and more by working with the wisdom of the body. This is not a show about "body work," but instead a show about how we learn to feel our emotions, our felt sense and use our body as a navigation system for healing old wounding. 

If we don't pay attention to our body, our old wounding lays stuck or dormant in the body. With increased awareness to the body you would be amazed at the healing that can happen. 

Patti also speaks to us about the Polyvagel system of the body and how nervous system regulation (and getting out of fight/flight) is necessary for true healing. 

Get ready for this show, it's packed with information for your own healing journey. 


The Adult Chair workshop
https://theadultchair.com/events 


Somatic Mentoring Course
https://Somanticmentoring.com 


Patti Elledge podcast on Attachment theory
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/111-patti-elledge-teaches-us-how-to-heal-our-attachment-wounds/ 

 

Dec 12, 2019
187: Codependency at the Holidays
33:51

Ah the holidays, what a wonderful time of year. The rushing around the shopping the preparing of food the obligations to attend all the parties. It's a codependents nightmare!

By the time the first week of January hits we are wiped out and in bed with fatigue from all the caretaking and controlling we did during the holidays. It can be exhausting for us codependents!

In today's show, I give you tools and tips for staying "in your own lane" during the holidays and all year long. It's a mini codependents reference guide in today's show.

I share with you all about the fatigue, anger, resentment, anxiety and even depression we can get if we are not "careful codependents".

There is a way to make it through the holidays in a healthy way and today I give you numerous tips to do just that. From boundaries (and how to set them), dealing with narcissism, in laws, how to self soothe when we are triggered and how to stay connected to your Self (intentional capital S here). You see there is a big difference between our Self and self. Our "self" (small s) is the self that wears a mask to please everyone else. Our "Self" is the Self that knows who we are and strives to live authentically.

Lots of information in today's show for you. Remember, life is a journey, an adventure. Don't cling to anything, to any labels (even codependency). See parts like codependency instead as indicators of what we need to give our attention to (temporarily), to keep ourselves healthy and to aid in our transformation. That's it!

https://theadultchair.com/events   
Charlotte, NC event   January 30-Feb 1

Dec 05, 2019
186: Staying Present During the Holidays
12:20

Happy Thanksgiving all! Today is the day that marks the official "mad dashing" around to get to the parties on time, buying the perfect gifts, lots of rushing here and there with lots of traffic and the common denominator...stress (and of course it's not all bad...we have some fun too).   

What I hear so much about from people is yes a lot about this stressful time of year but even more about how they lose themselves and don't have time for themselves. 

In today's episode I give you a few ideas on how to stay connected to yourself and stay grounded despite the holiday craziness. I also give you a wonderful 5 minute meditation that you could (I am having a hard time not saying should here), :) do daily to help you get through the next month. If you are even thinking to yourself, "I don't have 5 minutes"! Then you need to do a 10 minute meditation! We all can build in 5 minutes a day for ourselves and our sanity. This meditation helps with just that. 

I wish you all a beautiful and safe Thanksgiving! 

Much love,
Michelle


https://youtu.be/cFeCUfw657g 

This is the You Tube link for the 5 minute self love meditation. 


https://theadultchair.com/events 
Charlotte, NC event   January 30-Feb 1

Nov 28, 2019
185: Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse with Dr. Gregory Williams
01:11:20

Childhood sexual abuse creeps into the lives of innocent children on a daily basis. As children, we are defenseless to our abusers. Dr. Gregory Williams was one of those children. 

On today's show, we have Dr. Gregory Williams on sharing his story of childhood sexual abuse, how to heal from abuse, what the signs are of childhood sexual abuse and lastly forgiveness. 

We also spoke about the importance of getting ourselves healthy after abuse and how physical illness can stem from unhealed emotional wounds, trauma and abuse. 

This is an incredible show and it's an honor to have Dr. Gregory on the show being so honest and open about his experience, and now sharing with the world how others can heal from a childhood filled with abuse. 

 

https://theadultchair.com/membership   Promo code: BIRTHDAY
The Adult Chair Membership  (Free for month of November)!


https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair Charlotte Event   Jan 30-Feb 1


Dr. Gregory Book: Shattered by the Darkness: Putting the pieces back together after child abuse. 


Website: https://Shatteredbythedarkenss.com 


Dr. Gregory email: gawilli1@texaschildrens.org


Dr. Gregory phone: 832-396-6525


ACE's https://acesconnection.com 

Nov 21, 2019
184: Boundaries, Empowerment and Finding Truth - Client Session
55:53

I am so excited about this show. On today's show I interviewed a client and she was able to find her truth, step into her power and learn how to set boundaries-all in one show! 

This is a client from our membership group that wes interested in learning how to be free from the stress of pleasing her parents and standing up for herself. Our monthly theme in the membership is "I'm Free" and she wanted further help on how to apply it to her situation. 

It was an amazing session and she had such breakthroughs. You will be able to hear it in her voice! She even said at one point, "I feel so powerful-I can feel it!"  Such a great show and I was thrilled that by the end, she was able to grow herself a very nice Adult Chair and speak from this place. :) 

https://theadultchair.com/membership   

Promo Code: BIRTHDAY
Free month of membership


https://theadultchair.com/30days     
30 Day Journaling Challenge


https://Takecareof.com   

Promo Code: ADULT50
50% off your first Care/Of order

Nov 14, 2019
183: Understanding and Healing our Defenses with Karen Gelstein
51:40

On today's show we have one of my favorite people and therapists, on the show-Karen Gelstein. Karen helped us to understand our defenses and how to heal them and change how we react with others. 

She shares with us how humor, ruminating thoughts, missing red flags, codependency and even addictions are all ways that we defend ourselves to stay safe. 

We delved into the inner child and how the inner child becomes wounded and the defenses are created. 

Lastly, she helps us to identify our defenses and gives us the tools we need to heal, so that we can regain emotional balance and reconnect with ourselves and others in a healthy way. 

As always, Karen delivers a wealth of information for us to help with our own inner transformation. 

 


One Free month to the membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership

Promo code: Birthday


Karen Gelstein contact info:
karengelstein@gmail.com


Karen Gelstein previous podcast:
Love Addiction-Love Avoidant
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/102-love-addiction-love-avoidant-with-karen-gelstein/ 

Nov 07, 2019
182: Where is My Adult Chair?
30:31

Happy Halloween! After so many questions coming in about The Adult Chair, I felt like it was time to do a show on this. 

In today's episode I answer where the Adult Chair is and how to get it back if you've lost access to it. How to find your Adult if you never witnessed a healthy one growing up. 

Lastly, I answer what the Adult Chair even is. It's a fun episode with examples and the key to gaining your own Adult's wisdom and living with it daily for your own transformation. 

30 Day Journaling Challenge
https://theadultchair.com/30Days 

Oct 31, 2019
181: Attachment and Relationships with Silvy Khoucasian
42:22

Today on the show, relationship and attachment expert, Silvy Khoucasian and I have a conversation about attachment in relationships. We talk through all of the attachment styles and how to heal and find secure attachment regardless of your style. 

We also talk about the importance of boundaries and how to set them as well as shame and trust in relationships and how to build this. 

Regardless of your attachment style, you are going to find value in today's show and walk away with tools you can begin to use right away! 

30 Day Journaling Challenge
https://theadultchair.com/30days 

New website!
https://theadultchair.com 

Silvy Khoucasian on Instagram
@SilvyKhoucasian

Boundaries offering:
https://bryanreves.com/boundaries-silvy/ 

 

Oct 24, 2019
180: Reprogram your Subconscious Mind with Jim Fortin
56:05

Wow and what a show this was - Jim Fortin is a genius! On today's show, Jim Fortin, Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was on with me and we discussed how to reprogram the subconscious mind. 

He teaches us how to break habits, addictions anxiety and depression and why having a healthy self identity and image is vital to success. 

If you are ready for transformation, buckle up and listen to this show. It's a show not to be missed. 

Website and Podcast
http://jimfortin.com 

New Website!
http://theadultchair.com 

30 Day Journaling Challenge
http://theadultchair.com/30days 

Joseph Murphy - How to Change the Subconscious Mind

Oct 17, 2019
179: I'm in a relationship with a Narcissist
47:20

Relationships with narcissist are insidious. They begin one way and over time, very slowly and covertly, change and become poison. 

We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others. 

In today's very vulnerable show. Tracy shares her story of narcissism. She married a wonderful man and within a 2 year period, her life had drastically changed and she couldn't understand what was happening and began doubting herself. She fell into a depression and lived with anxiety and had lost her self, in 2 short years. 

Tracy walks us through her story and in the end we offer advice for those that are also in these types of relationships and what you can do about it to begin to build yourself up and find your (true) self again. 

Website
https://theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-podcast 


30 Day Journaling Challenge
https://theadultchair.com/30days 


Membership site
https://theadultchair.com/membership 


5 Minute Self Love Meditation
https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/ 


Podcasts:
84-Raising Self Esteem
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/ 


173 Am I in a Toxic Relationship
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/


174 Building Self Esteem
https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/ 

Oct 10, 2019
178: Ending Procrastination, Perfectionism and People Pleasing
44:16

Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? (I can't imagine anyone that doesn't have their hand up). 

Well today's show we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our "parts".  Our inner unconscious parts are running the show until we bring them into awareness to transform. 

Today I am going to show you how to use this model and transform your inner parts that are driving you to do things or act in ways that are limiting you. 

As always, I have included easy to use steps for you to work with this concept today and begin your transformation right away.  Get ready for shifts with today's episode!

The Adult Chair website:
http://theadultchair.com 


The Adult Chair events:
http://theadultchair.com/events 


Care/Of - For 25% off your first Care/Of order go to:
https://TakeCareOf.com 

Promo code: ADULT

Oct 03, 2019
177: Empowered Parenting with Meghan Crough
57:21

What a show! Today's show with special guest - Marriage and Family therapist, Meghan Crough was as empowering as it was inspirational. 

Meg answered so many important questions about raising kids. We talked about so many things including temper tantrums or angry kids, how to discipline effectively, boundaries versus control, what to do if you have a spouse or co-parent with different values and ideas about parenting and most importantly how to raise empowered, successful kids. 

It is a show not to be missed if you are wanting to learn more about parenting successfully. Meg clearly knows her stuff and explained clearly how to raise authentic and healthy kids. 

http://TakeCareOf.com     

promo code ADULT


http://MeghanCrough.com 

Sep 26, 2019
176: Childhood Wounding in the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
47:29

This show was incredible! Ramona Reid, Enneagram coach and I had a fascinating conversation about how our childhood wounding affects us later on in life and creates the masks that we wear to cover up our wounding.

Ramona does a beautiful job of blending the Enneagram into The Adult Chair and teaches us how to live from our essence (otherwise known as our Adult Chair), regardless of our wounding. 

She goes over each enneagram type with us and explains how each type has a specific wounding and mask that we wear. 

This show as as cool as it was informative! Even if you have never heard of the Enneagram, you will benefit from listening as it will deepen your understandings of your wounding and how you are showing up in the world. 

If you want to listen to the previous two shows that Ramona has been on to deepen your understanding of the Enneagram, see the show notes below. They are all brilliant shows!


Resources:

http://www.mynashvillecenter.com 

http://www.holisticrevolution.com 

 

Previous podcasts with Ramona:

Podcast #51: Find your authentic self in the heart of your Enneagram
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/51 

Podcast #114: Deepening The Adult Chair using the Wisdom of the Enneagram
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/114 


Recommended Book:
Sacred Enneagram by Chris Heuertz

Sep 19, 2019
175: Setting Boundaries
30:32

Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, "I don't like confrontation", when I suggest a boundary.


Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling. 


In today's show I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four key steps and "how to's",  to setting healthy boundaries. 


I also discuss what to do when boundaries "backfire" and we are met with upsetness or anger from another at our simple request. 


I end with a few take aways of what boundaries are and are not and what to do if you are in a toxic or even abusive relationship. 


Boundaries are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships. This show is filled with great tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself and learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you. 


The Adult Chair San Antonio
https://theadultchair.com/san-antonio 


The Adult Chair Membership (September Theme-I Matter)
https://theadultchair.com/membership 


Boundaries and Defenses
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/160 


Boundaries versus Confrontation
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/26 


How do I feel my Emotions
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/80 

Sep 12, 2019
174: Building Self Esteem
25:19

We can never have enough self esteem! So many of us didn't have healthy self esteem role models growing up so we are embarking on this journey now. Here's the good news, it's never too late!


With the help of The Adult Chair model we can live our lives to the fullest and create happiness when we thought it wasn't possible. Healthy self esteem from The Adult Chair is not only possible, it's happens quickly with these easy to apply 4 steps. 


Enjoy your journey building up your new sense of self and empowerment in your Adult Chair. 


https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair 3 day event in San Antonio, Texas
October 24-26


https://theadultchair.com/membership 
The Adult Chair Membership


https://GreenChef.com/ADULT75     
Enjoy $75 off your first 3 boxes with $25 off each box


Podcast on Parts Work:
Transform your Parts and Find Self Love
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/150 

Sep 05, 2019
173: Am I in a Toxic Relationship?
36:27

Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels "normal" is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic relationships. 

In today's show I go over 6 signs of toxic relationships. I explain what to look for in toxic relationships and how to know if you are in one. 

I also offer next steps to heal and transform yourself out of the toxic relationship. 

https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair San Antonio
October 24-26

Aug 29, 2019
172: The Joy of Codependency
33:18

 

What would you think if I told you that joy could be part of codependency? Well it can!

Codependency and I have been friends for too many years to count (most of my life). However, in my discovery of this, I have found joy in learning who I am as an Adult and taking my childhood back. I might even say that I find it now as a gift as I now get to discover who I am and it's an exciting journey to take as an Adult.

I feel my inner child come through me with excitement and wonder with all of the new thoughts, ideas and plans "we" have for my future.

The journey can be an exciting one when we shift our idea about codependency and step out of victim mode. Just because we grew up codependent or are experiencing it now doesn't mean our lives are over! It means our lives can begin and the time is now to experience the joy that comes with this self-discovery process.


Free Inner Child download: https://theadultchair.com/innerchild 

The Adult Chair event-San Antonio: https://theadultchair.com/events   
October 24-26

Previous podcasts on Codependency:

Codependency-I'm ok if you are ok. - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/11 
Ending Codependency in Relationships - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/70 
Codependency: Ending the Addiction to "Help" others - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/127 

Aug 22, 2019
171: Myofascial Release with Diana Schneider
56:07

I'm back from my summer break! Welcome to the first show of our new podcast year. I am so excited about our guest today. 
 
I have spoken for months about Myofascial Release Technique and am finally having our in house expert on the show! Diana Schneider, Advanced Myofacial Release Therapist is on today talking all about what the technique is and how it can help you. 
 
This technique has been a beautiful complement for my own clients as well as part of my bi-weekly self care. It's a wonderful way to release emotions, take the body out of fight or flight, help the body to "calm down" from anxiety and relax and so much more. 
 
It's also wonderful for people with locked muscles, physical pain, fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. 
 
Myofascial Release is a technique that releases emotions out of the fascia, the film that resides over the muscles, which creates a relaxed state in the body and mind.
 
Diana and I talk all about how it works and who it can help (all of us). :)  I can't wait for you to hear this show!
 
To schedule with Diana Schneider: 
Diana.LMT@yahoo.com  (Nashville)
 
Garth Withcomb: ‭(615) 403-9771‬  (Nashville)
 
https://www.myofascialrelease.com/ 

(Main website to find a therapist near you). 
 
Healing Ancient Wounds by John Barnes
 
https://theadultchair.com/events
The Adult Chair San Antonio  October 24-26
$100 off 

Aug 15, 2019
Podcast 1
Aug 15, 2019
Podcasts
Aug 13, 2019
170: Breaking negative patterns and programs
36:02

This is the last show replay for the summer. It's a wonderful show where I work with a client on breaking her negative patterns. There is a lot to be learned from this show.

The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.” She’s graciously offered her story for this week’s show as a demonstration of owning your own stuff, and making great strides in breaking the damaging patterns and programs that play over and over in our lives. Thanks to her work with the Chairs, she’s found grounding and hope in moving forward through relationship addiction and more.

https://TakeCareOf.com 

Promo code: Adult
For 25% off your first Care/Of order.

 

Aug 08, 2019
169: Top 5 - #1 Healing Shame
32:25

Yuck...Shame! Who wants to look at or feel their shame?

I realize that so many of us avoid our shame because we don't know what to do with it! What if I told you, I could give you tools to help heal and transform your shame? 

Well today is your lucky day as I am giving you steps to work with, get to know and transform your shame. I also recorded a guided meditation to go with this podcast in order to help you work with and release shame specifically whenever it comes up. 

So get ready to shift and regain your power today!  Your shame is transforming and you won't be the same after working with it in this way. 


https://theadultchair.com 


https://theadultchair.com/meditations   
A guided meditation and exercise for releasing shame. 


Green Chef  
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Aug 01, 2019
168: Top 5 - #2 Transform your parts and find self love
29:18

We are made up of many parts that create our whole.
We can't help but have parts like the doubter, blamer, the "I am a fraud" part etc. We all have parts that we don't like (or even hate) but we don't know what to do with them....until today.

Today, I share with you what we do with these parts that you don't like. I offer you a 7 step process on how you can transform these inner parts and find freedom and yes, grow to love yourself.

Care of: https://Takecareof.com 

Promo code: adult
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https://theadultchair.com 

https://theadultchair.com/events 

For upcoming events with The Adult Chair

@michelle.chalfant (Instagram)

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Jul 25, 2019
167: Top 5 - #3 Healthy Relationships Part 2
01:01:52

Today's show is a follow up to Healthy Relationships Part 1. This show has even more examples on how to create healthy relationships as well as how we can transform our current relationship, especially if the other person is being difficult. 
 
I give you new tools and ideas for transformation of any relationship. Another show with lots of information and ideas that you can begin to implement today! 
 
 
Links & Notes:
 
The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events 
The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership 
The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com/ 
 
Calling In The One with Katherine Woodward Thomas
10 Minute Meditation for Creating your Hearts Desire - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oiUB3VX7z2Q 

Jul 18, 2019
166: Top 5 - #4 Healthy Relationships
01:07:40

Today I share with you how we create Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair. Unfortunately, so many of us aren’t taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us enter into relationships with a lot of baggage which can activate our triggers, and leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do to help or improve our relationship.

In today’s show I offer tools and tips on how we can create and/or improve our relationships. A big part of healthy relationships is being able to communicate effectively, which again so many of us are unsure how to do. Today’s tools can be applied to any relationship, not only romantic ones. I hope you find hope, clarity and empowerment after listening to today’s show as now you too can begin to create new stronger connections in your own life and with others.

https://theadultchair.com/events    
The Adult Chair events: San Antonio, TX
October 25-28

Jul 11, 2019
165: Top 5 - The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss
01:12:22

Feeling drained or fatigued? Maybe you pick up on other people’s emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This “phenomena” is not random, these are qualities of an empath. 


 
Many of us are walking around with anxiety, depression, aches and pains and are not aware that these too are common "issues" empaths can have. This was how I spent the first half of my life, until I learned about empaths and how to set better boundaries for myself. 


 
When we understand the qualities of being an empath, we can get healthy and live in the world with greater peace and better health. In today’s show, Sarah Weiss shares incredible information about being an empath as well as the blessings and difficulties that come along with it. It was an awesome conversation, jam-packed with invaluable information.


 
https://theadultchair.com/events    
The Adult Chair events: San Antonio, TX
October 25-28


 
Sarah Weiss website
https://spirithealonline.com  


 
Episode 21: Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss
https://theadultchair.com/podcast/21 

 

Jul 04, 2019
164: Taming your Control Freak
37:10

Ouch! Did someone call you a control freak?! I get it...been there with that label. We think that we are getting so much done, life feels like it's in order and things are just, "better" because of how we see and operate in the world. It's just "who we are."

I had to sit with that one when someone told me years ago that I was a control freak. I contemplated..."It isn't who I am?" "Who would I be without my control?" Well it scared the crap out of me frankly.

After examining my own control and working with clients for years on this "issue" I can thankfully say that I am on the other side of it but still very aware of it and recognize when it tries to sneak into my life under the radar. I realize that without it, I felt stripped away of my very identity. So I had to learn who I was without it. It was a painful ego transformation as it was such a part of who I was!

In today's show, I give you 6 "control busting truths" to help you too to loosen the grip of your inner control freak. As scary as it was for me to face this inner part, I can honestly say my life is much easier without this part running my life. I know that when you begin to loosen the grip of yours and experience another way, life changes for the better and you will find much more peace in your life and something new may emerge...trust!


Podcast: Harness your Powerful Flow State #120

Song: Janet Jackson Control

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Jun 27, 2019
163: Feel your anger and find your truth
49:36

How do you feel about anger? What do you do with your anger? Do you shove it down and override it with being "nice" so you "don't rock the boat"? 

Many of us grew up with unhealthy anger modeling. Maybe you had a narcissistic and angry parent in the home. Perhaps when you had anger in your home, you were told it was unacceptable or even bad. 

Whatever the case may be, anger is a healthy and much needed emotion. Anger fuels our power and can help us to make decisions and take steps forward in our lives. It's a powerful emotion, when expressed from our Adult Chair. 

In today's show, I give you two client examples of how their lives were able to change and transform when they allowed themselves to feel anger. 

Get excited, you are about to hear about all the benefits of anger and how to unlock and express yours. 


The Adult Chair Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership 


michelle@michellechalfant.com
Please send an email here and ask to have your name added to The Adult Chair certification email list. 


Podcasts:

The Magic of Being  #155

What do I do with my Anger? #91


Sponsor:

Ned
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Promo code: Adult
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Jun 20, 2019
162: A Conversation with Suzy
48:12

Today I had the pleasure of having a conversation with Suzy, someone that has had a life of enmeshment, codependency, abusive, attempted murder by her husband and more. She now lives with greater peace and balance than ever before and she says a large part of her transformation is due to The Adult Chair.

Her story is as unbelievable as it is inspirational. Grab your Kleenex when listening to this one and be prepared to view your own life through a different lens by the end of the show.

So grateful for her vulnerability and honesty and her willingness to share her story with all of us.

Sponsor:
Ned
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Jun 13, 2019
161: Jealousy
43:35

After so many requests to talk about jealousy, here it is! A podcast that covers all things jealousy. What it is, what it isn't and 8 ideas to help you to find balance around jealousy.

In today's show I cover how important it is to raise our awareness around jealousy, how to stay out of story and assumptions and change your state if you are stuck. I also share client examples of jealousy and how to move beyond it when you feel stuck in jealousy.

Lastly, I discuss control versus jealousy, trust with jealousy and how to know when a relationship may be over.

It's a packed show all about jealousy!


https://theadultchair.com/membership 

https://TakeCareof.com promo code Adult for 25% off

 

Episodes I mentioned:

  • Podcast #27 Who are you? Self Validation and Promotion
  • Podcast #154 Shatter Limiting Beliefs and Filters to Change your Life
  • Podcast #111 Patti Elledge teaches us how to heal our Attachment Wounds
  • Podcast #98 Transforming Triggers
  • Podcast #133 Ending Triggers
Jun 06, 2019
160: Boundaries and Defenses
54:11

When setting a boundary, often times the person we are talking to gets triggered and falls into a defense then everything goes south. What do we do when this happens?

In today's show, I talk with you about how we can "dismantle others defenses" and "diffuse triggers from others."

It's an empowering show with lots of tips on setting healthy boundaries and what to do when the other gets triggers by our boundaries.

https://takecareof.com

Adult30
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The Adult Chair Membership
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The Adult Chair podcast episodes:

146-Healthy Relationships

148-Healthy Relationships Part 2

134-Repairing Relationships with Kids or Anyone

121-When Relationships End

 

May 30, 2019
159: How to Recognize and Heal Abuse with Christine Gutierrez
39:05

Abuse can be tricky, it can be subtle and ease into our lives. We can be living with it and might not even be aware of it.

Abuse comes in many forms and not just the obvious physical abuse.

Codependency, narcissism, control, trauma, enmeshment, addictions etc. can all play into this dance of abuse.

On today's show, Christine Gutierrez and I have a vulnerable and open discussion about abuse. Christine offers some incredible examples and tools on how to recognize if you are being abused, what you can do about it and the changes that can be made to empower yourself right now.

https://christineg.tv/
@Cosmicchristine (Instagram)
https://fiercelovenow.com (Website)

Ned: https://helloned.com/adult

Promo: Adult


https://theadultchair.com/membership

May 23, 2019
158: Ideas for PTSD from The Adult Chair
42:52
When most of us here the word PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), we think of someone that has come out of the military. While this can be very true for our military personnel, PTSD affects many others and they may not even know. 
 
So many suffer from chronic anxiety, depression, insomnia and more and are unaware that the root issue could be PTSD. This is exactly what happened with me. 
 
In today's show I go through symptoms of PTSD and offer stories and examples of how this may be showing up in your life. Lastly, I offer techniques and strategies for change. 
 
Ned: https://Helloned.com/Adult   Promo code: Adult
 
 
EMDR and/or Brainspotting
Hakomi
Bioenergetics
NST-Neurostructural Integration   Annie Waugh Boerner   annieboerner.com
Myofacial-with a John Barnes trained practitioner
May 16, 2019
157: Better Breakups with Natalia Juarez
41:17

On today’s show I have Natalia Juarez discussing how to have better breakups.

Listen to this episode to learn the role attachment issues, love addiction and love avoidance play into our breakups. Learn when it is time to end a relationship AND MOVE ON. Discover how we are the point of our attraction and WHAT TO LOOK FOR within ourselves when we keep attracting “bad” relationships.

So many great topics to discuss with an expert on all things dating, breaking up and recovery. Thank you Natalia Juarez.

 
The Breakup Coach (Instagram)
Untangled (Book)
 
 
Patti Elledge podcast #111
Attachment podcast
 
May 09, 2019
156: What do I work on next?
28:54
I get asked this question all the time, "What do I work on next?" "I realize I have so many things to work on and don't know where to begin!" 
 
In today's show I offer ideas on what to work on next, what direction to take while on your path of healing, and how to stay in the flow while doing it. 
 
Whether it be codependency, anxiety, relationship problems, working with self-esteem or any healing goal you have,  there is a way to do this from your Adult Chair and today I share with you just how to do that. 
 
 
May 02, 2019
155: The Magic of Being
22:12

So many of us live life from The Adolescent Chair. We rush and busy ourselves to the point of exhaustion. We stress ourselves out and wind up living with anxiety, depression and other ailments. We lack presence and feel like if we keep doing we will find our answers and that maybe when we get enough done, our problems will go away, our pain will be erased, and our stress will be gone.

What if finding relief was easier than you imagined?

There is magic in being that can change your life.

When we are able to just "be," we can find our true Self - the self with a capital S. When we can connect into this part, our truest essence, our problems can transform, we gain clarity that we could't find before, our "to-do" list shortens, and magic happens.

In today's show, I share with you the difference between meditation and being, tools to enter and live in this state, and the power we find with being. It is truly magical, and you can transform your life when you learn how. For this is where we find our Adult Chair, which is the truest version of ourselves.

https://theadultchair.com/workshop 
https://theadultchair.com/membership 

Sponsor: Ned
https://helloned.com/Adult 

Apr 25, 2019
154: Shatter Limiting Beliefs and Filters and Change your Life.
29:17

Do you ever feel stuck in life? Like you can't catch a break with some people and you keep getting the short end of the stick? Have you ever thought that you are missing something and that you actually have limiting beliefs or filters that are causing you to keep attracting in bad jobs, unsuccessful relationships, unhealthy friendships, not enough money etc.?

Limiting beliefs and filters can keep us stuck, disempowered and make us feel small, like a victim and even send us down the path of anxiety and depression.

In today's show I give you a couple good examples what limiting beliefs are and how they block us from happiness and success. Most of us are unconscious of our limiting beliefs and filters yet they are ruling our lives! It's time to make them conscious.

Today I offer you ways to find your own limiting beliefs and filters that keep you stuck and how to shatter them, and create a feeling of empowerment and freedom in your life.

https://theadultchair.com/workshop 
https://theadultchair.com/membership 

Apr 18, 2019
153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean
41:50

On today's show I spoke with Certified Eating Psychology Coach, Jessi Jean all about binge eating, emotional eating and more. Jessi shared with us her own journey and offered some tips on what you can do right now if you feel out of control with food. So many of us struggle with food and Jessi's teachings and masterclass have helped thousands around the globe with eating/food issues and food addiction.

Instagram: @Jessijeannn
Facebook: JessiJeannn
https://www.conquerbingeeating.com/FFM (Food Freedom Masterclass).

https://theadultchair.com/workshop 

https://theadultchair.com/membership 

https://Greenchef.us/adult 

Apr 11, 2019
152: Getting the love you want with Imago Therapy creators, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt
59:49

I am thrilled to have on the show today, relationship experts and the creators of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D and Helen Hunt Ph.D! We covered a range of topics from why we fall in love, to how childhood wounding affects our current relationships to what we do if our partner isn't interested in improving the relationship and so much more. It was a delight to have them on the show and know you won't want to miss this one. It's full of life changing and usable information that you can begin to apply right away. Enjoy!

https://www.harvilleandhelen.com  
Newest Book: Getting the Love You Want

Sponsor: https://Takecareof.com 

Promo code: ADULT50

Upcoming workshop: The Adult Chair Nashville May 4 and 5, 2019 https://theadultchair.com/workshop 

Apr 04, 2019
151: Quick Trigger Relief
20:44
When we are triggered, we lose ourselves so quickly and fall into a defense. Oftentimes we regret our reaction later on. In today's show, Michelle gives some tips to help us stay in our Adult Chair when we are triggered and remain present with whatever is coming up. 
 
Triggers can be such a gift when we understand that they are windows into our unconscious beliefs. It's a way to gain a deeper understanding about ourself! 
 
 
Podcast #98: Transforming Triggers: https://theadultchair.com/podcast/98
 
Podcast #133 Ending Triggers: https://theadultchair.com/podcast/133
 
Takecareof.com: http://takecareof.com/
Promo code: ADULT
Mar 28, 2019
150: Transform your parts and find Self Love
28:32

It can be hard to live with self-love when we have loud inner negative parts. In today's show, Michelle discusses steps to transform these inner parts from the Adolescent Chair. Once these parts are transformed, we are able to live with greater self-love and compassion.

https://theadultchair.com 

https://Molekule.com 
promo code: adult

Mar 21, 2019
149: Transforming the Inner Critic
29:22

We all have many inner voices but there is one in particular, that can be overly critical and hard on us, it's called the "inner critic." In today's show, I share with you what the inner critic is and how to transform that voice using some simple and easy to use tools. You will also receive some "homework" that will help build up your inner supportive voice to help you stay in your healthy adult even when the inner critic has something to say.


The Adult Chair workshop
May 4th and 5th in Nashville, TN
https://theadultchair.com/workshop 

The Adult Chair Membership
https://theadultchair.com/membership 

Mar 15, 2019
148: Healthy Relationships Part 2
01:01:47
After getting so many comments from the Healthy Relationships podcast #146 a couple weeks ago, I felt like I needed to do a follow up show and answer some of the questions and comments that came in. So today's show is a continuation of ideas and tools to help you to cultivate healthy relationships in your life. 
 
 
 
Healthy Relationships podcast Part 1
 
Katherine Woodward Thomas
Calling in The One podcast
 
10 Minute Meditation for Creating your Hearts Desire
Mar 07, 2019
147: Hardwiring Happiness with Dr. Rick Hanson
01:03:02
What if I told you that you can change your brain and become happier? How about going from a pessimist to an optimist? Well you can and it doesn't take long! On today's show, Dr. Rick Hanson shares with us how to "Hardwire Happiness" into our brains and teaches us with some very simple steps how to sustain that happiness. This was an incredible and powerful conversation with one of the worlds foremost authorities on the brain and happiness. You are going to love this show!
 
Rickhanson.net
 
Feb 28, 2019
146: Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair
01:07:47

Today I share with you how we create Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair. Unfortunately, so many of us aren't taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us enter into relationships with a lot of baggage which can activate our triggers, and leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do to help or improve our relationship. 

In today's show I offer tools and tips on how we can create and/or improve our relationships. A big part of healthy relationships is being able to communicate effectively, which again so many of us are unsure how to do. Today's tools can be applied to any relationship, not only romantic ones. I hope you find hope, clarity and empowerment after listening to today's show as  now you too can begin to create new stronger connections in your own life with others. 

xo
Michelle
 
The Adult Chair Membership - https://theadultchair.com/membership 
 
 
Instagram: @michelle.chalfant
Feb 21, 2019
145: Calling In The One with Katherine Woodward Thomas
46:51
Happy Valentines Day! 
 
Today's show is all about love and finding "the one" and/or improving your current relationship.  So whether you are in a relationship or not, you will benefit from this show! Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in the One and Conscious Uncoupling shares with us today some beautiful ideas on how we get ourselves healthy to then create the relationship we have been longing for. 
 
Katherine Woodward Thomas
Calling in The One free starter kit
Conscious Uncoupling
Love out Loud Daily
 
Conscious Uncoupling podcast #124
 
The Adult Chair Membership 
Feb 14, 2019
144: Transforming Betrayal with Debi Silber
50:23
Dr. Debi Silber from the PBT institute (Post Betrayal Institute) and I had a great conversation on the transformation of betrayal. She has done studies on betrayal and has a proven method for transformation. We discussed how betrayal can affect us physically and emotionally and we may not even know it! Debi shared with us the stages of transformation and how you too can heal and repair the damage from a betrayal. 
 
 
Book:
The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis
 
The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book)
 
@Debisilber Instagram
 
@michelle.chalfant  Instagram
Feb 07, 2019
TAC Child Chair Podcast
40:20
Feb 01, 2019
143: Reversing autoimmune and other diseases with Dr. Keesha
01:05:56
Wow, wow, wow what a conversation I had with Dr. Keesha Ewers!
If you or someone you know struggle with an autoimmune disease or any illness, this is a show you will not want to miss. Dr. Keesha shared how she reversed her own autoimmune disease naturally and how any disease can be reversed. We touched on the microbiome and how it relates to health, the root of autoimmune and other diseases and how to get your body healthy again naturally by examining Dr. Keesha's "4 corners of the puzzle" to health. She is a wealth of information and has some beautiful offerings for anyone ready to get healthy. 
 
Instagram @drkeesha
 
Jan 31, 2019
142: All Things Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek
43:53
Shann Vander Leek from the Anxiety Slayer podcast joins me today for a wonderful conversation about anxiety. Shann offers us some fabulous tools and ideas on how to "slay" anxiety and live with greater peace and tranquility in your life. It was a great conversation on all things anxiety. 
 
Anxiety Slayer Podcast: www.Anxietyslayer.com
 
TakeCareOf.com  Enter promo code Adult for 25% off your first order.
Jan 24, 2019
141: Changing your life with ONE thing. An interview with Jay Papasan
56:51

What if you could change your life doing just one thing? On today's show, Jay Papasan teaches us how to do just that. It sounds crazy but picking one thing and doing just that one thing until it becomes a habit is how we create change. This is a fabulous interview and Jay has come up with a simple yet brilliant idea on how to change lives.

Resources:

Book: The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results
Jaypapasan.com
@jaypapasan

Jan 17, 2019
140: Love and Boundaries with Terri Cole
54:13
In our 2019 kick off show I have special guest Terri Cole on and we explore the topic of love and boundaries. It was an awesome show and she gave us some incredible ideas about love, self love and setting boundaries. Definitely a show you won't want to miss!
 
Resources:   
 
Terricole.com/TAC   Promo code: Real love live  
10 day more love meditation experience
Terricole.com
@terricole Instagram
Real Love Revolution  FB
 
Sponsor: TakeCareOf.com  Promo Code: ADULT
 
Audible Book:
Deepak Chopra
Creating Affluence the A to Z steps to a richer life
 
Jan 10, 2019
139: Cultivating Self Worth
11:56

As we think about how we can show up differently and make positive changes in our lives for 2019, we must also think about self worth. In today's show, I offer you a meditation to do just that, cultivate self worth. Without a feeling of worthiness it's difficult to make our lives happen. Enjoy the meditation!

Download the meditation: http://traffic.libsyn.com/theadultchair/mc_meditation23.mp3

Jan 03, 2019
138: Pathway to Self Love
17:56

We look and look for ways to love ourselves but nothing seems to create lasting change. In today's show we look a little deeper at The Adult Chair model, and how it helps us to love ourselves. I also share a few other tools that we can use to take us on an inward transformational journey that results in self-love.

Self Love Meditation to download

Dec 27, 2018
137: End the Drama
32:18

Ahh the holidays. Such a busy time of year and boy can they throw us in our Adolescent Chair. In today's show, I chat with you a bit about how the holidays can throw us into "story and assumption" which creates drama in our lives. How do we end drama? You guessed it...The Adult Chair! Enjoy the show and Happy Holidays all!

Dec 20, 2018
136: The Adult Chair Changed my Life. A conversation with Giovanna.
51:25
Giovanna was struggling with anxiety and depression and stumbled upon The Adult Chair podcast. Giovanna shares with us how her life changed in 6 short weeks by listening to the show and applying a few simple tools that she gained. She has reduced her anxiety, improved her relationship with her husband and kids and learned how to love herself. 
 
Book: The Adult Chair: A Guide to Loving Yourself   https://tinyurl.com/y7mdg2uy
 
Podcasts: 
 
How to become Conscious Parents  #34 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/34?rq=%20parenting
 
Helping your Kids Cope with Anxiety  #123
 
Own your Reality  #128
 
Dec 13, 2018
135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss
01:08:34
Feeling drained or fatigued?  Maybe you pick up on other people's emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This "phenomena" is not random, these are qualities of an empath. When we understand the qualities of being an empath, we can get healthy and live in the world with greater peace and better health. In today's show, Sarah Weiss shares incredible information about being an empath as well as the blessings and difficulties that come along with it. It was an awesome conversation, jam packed with invaluable information. 
 
Episode #21 Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss 
 
Sarah Weiss website: www.SpiritHealOnline.com
 
 
The Empath's Survival Guide  Dr. Judith Orloff  
 
Dec 06, 2018
134: Repairing Relationships with our Kids (or Anyone)
40:40

In life, we sometimes hurt or damage relationships. The one's that we often regret the most are the one's that are with our kids or other loved ones. The question is, is it possible to repair these relationships and if so how? In today's show, I discuss with you how to live from your Adult Chair and mend broken relationships with people that we deeply care about. 
 
Audible book: https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair  
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships

Healing the Wound of the Heart

By: John Welwood

 
Podcasts suggested in show:
 
Own your Reality #128  https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/128?rq=own%20your%20reality 
 
The Power of acceptance  #131   https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/131?rq=acceptance 
 
 
Charlotte workshops January 26 and 27, 2019   $100 off. https://www.theadultchair.com/workshop 

Nov 29, 2018
133: Ending Triggers
56:48

I have great news for you. Yes we can end our triggers! In this show I share with you what a trigger is and what to do with them to end being triggered. Hallelujah! I even go into one of my triggers and how I walked my way out of it and transformed it. I share with you lots of examples that will help you too to be able to transform and end triggers for good.

Audible book: Debbie Ford The light side of the dark chasers

https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair 

Nov 22, 2018
132: Healing Trauma with Courtney Armstrong
01:22:09

Trauma is such a heavy word and when we think about overcoming it, many of us feel defeated or that it could take a lifetime. In today's show we learn otherwise. Courtney Armstrong joins me in a discussion of trauma and offers tools that we can begin using today that can change our trauma, heal and transform it for good. This is not a show to be missed!

Show notes: Courtneyarmstrong.net theadultchair.com/workshop

Audible book The Body Keeps Score Bessel van der Kolk https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Nov 15, 2018
131: The Power of Acceptance
51:12

Many people think acceptance is weak or it's something we do when we are defeated. It's actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It's a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done and gone. In today's show I speak with you about accepting things we are not happy about, things we cannot change and how our lives can transform with acceptance.

Audible: Tara Brach Radical Acceptance

Show notes: - Transforming Triggers podcast #98 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/98?rq=triggers - theadultchair.com/journal 30 day Journaling Challenge - theadultchair.com/workshop Charlotte, NC workshop Jan 26 & 27 - theadultchair.com go to podcast page and click the blue button to leave a 5 star review

Nov 08, 2018
130: A Deeper Understanding of The Adult Chair
45:03

After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of the Adult Chair. For new listeners this will help you to build a foundation for this model. Either way, it's filled with great information about the three chairs!

The Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal 

Nov 01, 2018
129: Healing Abandonment
25:28

Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound.

Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal

Inner Child link: https://kh519.infusionsoft.app/app/form/inner-child-form?cookieUUID=b1f9ab62-0aff-4de4-94d4-3aff2b1fd68e

Narcissism podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/104?rq=narcissism

Grief podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/93?rq=grief

Parts podcast/Who is sitting in my Adolescent chair: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/38?rq=Adolescent%20chair

Healing from Betrayal podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/125?rq=Betrayal

Audible link: https://www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Book of the week: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson

Oct 25, 2018
128: Own Your Reality
34:32

There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don't know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, I speak about the power in owning your reality and the benefits of doing so.

On the show I mentioned: 1. Podcast #103 It's all About You 2. The 30 day Journaling Challenge-www.theadultchair.com/journal

Audible book: Reinventing Yourself How to become the person you always wanted to be By Steve Chandler https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Oct 18, 2018
127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to "Help" Others.
47:41

We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren't "helping", we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today's show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it looks like in adulthood, and how you can heal and transform your life.

Additional Show notes:

Journaling Challenge: Go to www.theadultchair.com/journal to sign up.

Podcast: #11 Codependency: I"m OK if you are OK

Podcast: #70 I am not your lifejacket! Ending Codependency in Relationships

Podcast: #27 Who are You? Self-Validation and Projection

Podcast: #84 Raising Self Esteem

There is no shame in being codependent blog: Oct 25, 2016 Melody Beattie

Audible download: www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair Codependent No More: Melody Beattie

Oct 11, 2018
126: Integrating the Self
55:42

When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy. My client Sarah graciously agreed to share her session today which demonstrates the integration of her 10 year old part. It was a beautiful session and I am so grateful to Sarah for sharing her experience.

Oct 04, 2018
125: Healing from Betrayal
28:56

Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step process that walks us out of our pain and helps us to find trust again.

Photo credit: @aleksdahlberg

Resources mentioned:

Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Sep 27, 2018
124: Conscious Uncoupling - How to end relationships well. with Katherine Woodward Thomas
36:48

We don't end relationships well, unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck!

Katherine Woodward Thomas offers us a fresh perspective on breaking up and ending well. On today's show we discuss her book and process called Conscious Uncoupling, which Gweneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made famous. She shares with us the 5 key elements in the book that teach us how to live happily even after.

Resources mentioned...

Katherine Woodward Thomas-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/

Conscious Uncoupling-5 Steps to Living Happily Even After - book

FREE offer: Conscious Uncoupling starter kit-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/starterkit/

Audible book recommendation - Conscious Uncoupling-5 steps to living happily even after.

Sep 20, 2018
A Guided Meditation for Finding Inner Strength, Your Voice and Empowerment
15:39

Life can be overwhelming at times and it can cause us to lose ourselves. This may look like difficulty in making decisions, setting boundaries and or standing in your truth. This meditation will help change that, as it helps you to tap into your inner strength and regain empowerment.

Sep 19, 2018
123: Helping your Kids Cope with Anxiety with Sharon Selby
43:49

It seems like a growing number of kids today are suffering from anxiety. As parents and caregivers of these kids, witnessing their anxiety can leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do. Often times, what we do doesn't help and even makes things worse.

Today Sharon Selby, Registered Clinical Counselor and expert in the field of anxiety with children, teens and families joins me on the show. Sharon offers some incredible advice for those of us needing help with our children and teens struggling with anxiety, and gives us tips on how to bring more peace and empowerment back into the family.

Resources mentioned:

Sharon Selby - www.sharonselby.com

FREE Offer: happy to offer your audience my free ebook: 8 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Your Child Is Anxious. Download the book here: www.sharonselby.com

Audible book recommendation - Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children By: Lynn Lyons, Reid Wilson PhD.

Sep 13, 2018
122: How to Stop Imploding, Stress, Anxiety and Ruminating Thoughts.
29:22

Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today's show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop yourself before you collapse with 10 easy tips. The great news is that it only takes minutes to change your emotional state with these, and you don't even have to do all of them to feel better!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry by Jennifer Shannon LMFT

Sep 06, 2018
Meditation 28: Connect to your Higher Self
11:02

We are born with a divine connection and guidance system. This part of us is the spiritual aspect of who we are, the part of us that is wise, all-knowing and always connected with us, that is always guiding us and illuminating our life path. We have the ability to connect with this part and deepen the connection. Let us now awaken and connect to this divine part: the higher self. Enjoy the journey.

Sep 06, 2018
121: When Relationships End
27:19

People change and relationships end. This can be such a painful time but also a time of great change, perhaps positive change. In the episode today, I talk with you about how we can go through the ending of relationships in a new way, a conscious way, from our Adult Chair. Sitting here can change how you navigate the end. In today's show, I offer 6 "Truths" for relationships and how and why they may be ending. It may offer some new insights about relationships and change how you feel about things being over.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud.

Aug 30, 2018
120: Harness Your Powerful Flow State
28:06

We use statements like, "I'm so in the flow today, everything fell perfectly into place." We also hear, "I was so out of the flow today, it was the worst day." Does this "flow state" randomly happen to us or can we choose it? I believe we can access this state and ride it like a wave! In today's show, I explain how we do this, with a 4-step process to access and harness your own flow state.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Flow: Living at the Peak of Your Abilities by Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi.

Aug 23, 2018
119: The Way Out Is In
35:47

“How do I find my way out?”

What are you in? That doesn’t matter! If you’re in a situation that is painful, scaring you, causing you discomfort, no matter of external advice is going to help you get yourself out of it. To dig out, you have to go inside, to find the parts of you that that you don’t understand that keep you locked into a cycle of pain, that prevent you from finding clarity, from freeing yourself from the ego of your Adolescent Chair!

I've had so many people come to me stuck in struggle and pain lately so on today's show I have four tools to offer that will help you on the road back to peace and into your Adult Chair!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer!

Aug 16, 2018
118: Becoming "Aware" with Dr. Dan Siegel
48:28

I could not be more excited about today’s show! Dr. Dan Siegel joins me to talk about his new book Aware, and the work he’s been doing that can radically accelerate our journey toward learning to live in the present moment. This is an amazing partner to all the work each and every one of you are doing to learn to live in your Adult Chair — I know you’re simply going to love this!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Aware by Dan Siegel!

About Dr. Dan Siegel

Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of mindsight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His four New York Times bestsellers are: Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D: The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and the upcoming The Yes Brain (2018). His other books include: The Developing Mind (2nd Ed.), Mindsight, The Mindful Brain, and The Mindful Therapist. Dr. Siegel also serves as the Founding Editor for the Norton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology which contains over fifty textbooks.

Aug 09, 2018
117: The Power of Letting Go with Karen Campion
32:13

We’re back! I’m thrilled to be back to the podcast after our summer break, a break that’s been filled with much emotion for me personally. I share that experience with my friend Karen Campion on the show this week as we talk about the true power of letting go to move forward. Karen is wonderful and I’m sure her insights will resonate with you, just as they do with me!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön!

Links & Notes

Aug 02, 2018
Meditation 27: A guided-meditation and exercise for releasing shame
19:00

Unfortunately, we all experience shame at some point in our lives, some of us more than others. In this guided meditation exercise, you will be guided through a process from the Adult Chair model that releases and transforms shame.

Jul 05, 2018
116: Learn to Live Authentically with guest Sandra Rojo
59:09

How do I live authentically?

If you find yourself asking that question, you’re not alone. I hear this from clients practically daily, each feeling a connection with the concept, knowing they’re disconnected from their true, authentic selves, but at the same time struggling to move into that place of living their own lives authentically. To help us answer this question and better understand the practice of living authentically, Sandra Rojo is with us to share her expertise. Sandra is founder of Journey to Authentic living and her practice is dedicated to helping others find their authenticity through her practice in the healing and therapeutic arts.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Essentialism by Greg McKeown or Soul Shifts by Barbara De Angelis!

About Sandra Rojo

Sandra Rojo is the Founder and President of Journey to Authentic living (JTAL). JTAL is a Coaching, Training and Consulting Company.

Sandra has more than 15 years of hands-on experience working with clients to achieve positive lifestyle and behavioral changes. Sandra lived in Northern Italy for many years where she served as a teacher, interpreter, and coach for young women.

Links & Notes

Jun 28, 2018
115: Finding Peace within Pain with Rea Wright
46:30

Pain can feel heavy, like a dark cloud that won't go away. We often times don't realize that we are carrying our pain with us from the past, in hopes that something or someone will make it magically go away. Today, Rea Wright and I offer 5 ideas for relieving the darkness of pain and living a lighter more peaceful life.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at audibletrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Molecules of Emotion: Why You Feel the Way You Feel by Candace B. Pert!

Jun 14, 2018
114: Deepening the Adult Chair using the wisdom of the Enneagram with Ramona Reid
36:12

The Enneagram is a personality typing system that helps us to identify more clearly who we are, and is an exciting tool that is gaining in popularity all over the world. Today on the show Ramona Reid blends the wisdom of the Enneagram into the Adult Chair. Ramona shared with us how she experiences the Child, Adolescent and Adult through the lens of the Enneagram and the commonalities of the two models and how they enrich each other. This was an enlightening episode that will surely take you deeper into self awareness.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher Heuertz!

Jun 07, 2018
113: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder
54:58

This week on the show I have a guest to talk to us about one of the most misunderstood and over-used labels I’ve run across: borderline personality disorder. Dr. Robin Arthur is a fantastic and knowledgeable expert who has been working with BPD individuals for years and has managed to offer us the tools we need not only to understand it, but to differentiate it from other personality disorders that are often confused. She’s got tips to share, examples to demonstrate her points and a terrific set of recommendations for supporting those in your life living with borderline personality disorder, too!

Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Randi Kreger and Paul T. Mason!

Links & Notes

May 31, 2018
112: Healing Shame
26:49

It’s a little bit of a heavy subject today, but it’s one we have to talk about: Healing our Shame. It’s a subject that crosses my office practically daily in insidious and subversive ways. Shame contaminates our work and our relationships and creates a cycle of binary, either/or thinking. But we can take back our power in our relationship with shame if we work to understand it, relate to it, and use the tools we have that are built in to The Adult Chair! Get ready everybody… we’re going to move through some shame today!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw!

May 24, 2018
111: Patti Elledge teaches us how to heal our attachment wounds
01:00:58

I adore our guest today! Patti Elledge joins us to talk about adult attachment wounds. She’s a brilliant therapist and practitioner and gives us so much depth through our conversation on the role of attachment in our lives and how we can heal ourselves — plus, her work fits _perfectly_with what I teach in The Adult Chair. So grab some coffee or tea and settle in for a wonderful conversation that can change your life!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller!

Links & Notes

May 10, 2018
110: Stopping Stress, Anxiety & Overwhelm from The Adult Chair
26:29

What do we do when we feel like we just can’t put one more thing on our plates? When the people we love and care about are expecting so much from us, it feels like we’re suffocating? When our career obligations increasing anxiety beyond our ability to cope? I know the feeling, and I know you know the feeling, and today on the show, I’m going to share a recent experience that had me turning to MY Adult Chair. I hope you find taking a seat in your own Adult Chair can help you soften the blows of stress and anxiety, too!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Nhat Hanh!

May 03, 2018
Meditation 26: A guided meditation to relieve anxiety and overwhelm
13:31

The rush of anxiety and overwhelm can quickly take over our experience of the world. Being equipped with the tools to ease that experience is central to living in the Adult Chair.

Let us journey.

May 02, 2018
109: Breaking Negative Patterns & Programs
35:26

The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.” She’s graciously offered her story for this week’s show as a demonstration of owning your own stuff, and making great strides in breaking the damaging patterns and programs that play over and over in our lives. Thanks to her work with the Chairs, she’s found grounding and hope in moving forward through relationship addiction and more!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Personal Development Simplified: An Easy to Follow Guide to Personal Development for Beginners, Identify and Break Negative Patterns, Become a Better Version of Yourself, Guaranteed by Coach KP!

 

Apr 26, 2018
108: Stories & Assumptions
27:28

We do everything we can to keep ourselves safe and loved in the world. To do this, we look to the past and gather up stories and then based on those stories we project into the future based on assumptions. Living like this creates stress and keeps us out of the present moment and stuck in the Adolescent Chair!

When we learn to become "story busters" and live from a place of fact and truth, we find ourselves seated squarely in the moment and in the Adult Chair.

In this episode, I share with you how easily and quickly we fall into stories and assumptions, and how quickly we can change our lives when we step into the moment and find our new truth from the Adult Chair.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero!

Apr 19, 2018
Meditation to remove inherited dysfunctional or unhealthy beliefs
18:25

As children, we unknowingly inherit dysfunctional or unhealthy beliefs. This meditation takes you on a journey to find your true self and along the way, remove the inherited unhealthy and dysfunctional beliefs. Find yourself at the end feeling more worthy, strong, empowered, confident, brave and lovable with a beautiful boundary keeping others dysfunctional opinions or beliefs out. Enjoy the journey.

 

Apr 17, 2018
107: Men & Emotions with Ted Klontz
50:03

Ted is back! This time we're kicking it off with a big question about men and emotions, but I guarantee you there are some surprises in store from there! Ted shares his personal journey to understanding, learning to feel and experience his emotions. Along the way, he teaches us some important lessons on men and women and how we experience our emotions in different — but powerful — ways!

Join us!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, Ph.D.!

Links & Notes

Apr 12, 2018
106: How to help others to move into their Adult Chair
34:14

I get this question all the time: “how to do I get (fill in the blank loved-one here) to get into their Adult Chair?!” I get it. You’re doing all this fantastic work on yourself, you’re sitting in your emotions and learning to move with them, not in spite of them. You’re doing all the great things that you need to do to live authentically yourself … now why won’t other people get on this train with you?

Great question. And I’m going to take on exactly that this week on the show — I hope you join me!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Conversations with God (Book 1) by by Neale Donald Walsh of Enlightened Relationships by Eckhard Tolle!

Links & Notes

Apr 05, 2018
105: Essential Oils with Annie Waugh
49:51

Annie Waugh is an integrative therapist and dear friend and she’s joining me on the show today to talk about an area of particular expertise: Essential Oils! I love oils and cherish everything Annie has taught me — and I can’t wait for her to share some of these great lessons with you all today. We tackle depression and grief and hormone balance and so much more! So grab your diffuser and settle in for some terrific and practical instruction on integrating essential oils into your healing journey!

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Healing Power of Essential Oils: Soothe Inflammation, Boost Mood, Prevent Autoimmunity, and Feel Great in Every Way by Eric Zielinski, D.C.!

Links & Notes

Mar 29, 2018
104: Shannon Thomas talks Narcissism, Gaslighting, and Healing from Hidden Abuse
44:41

Shannon Thomas sits down in the adult chair with me today to talk about narcissism, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse and emotional trauma that can plague our relationships. This is a wide-ranging interview thanks to YOU! So many of the questions Shannon takes on this week come from your responses in our Facebook private group — far more than we could cover in one sitting! So, consider this a start, and know that I’ll have Shannon back soon to keep this conversation moving.

Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: _Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse_by our very own Shannon Thomas!

About Shannon Thomas, LCSW Shannon Thomas, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social work supervisor, the owner and lead therapist of an award-winning private practice counseling agency in North Texas and best-selling author of ‘Healing From Hidden Abuse’. In ‘Healing From Hidden Abuse’, Shannon bridges the gap between pop culture and clinical advice and also outlines her ‘Six Stages of Healing’ model. Her passion is helping people overcome life challenges and seeing abuse survivors living to their fullest potential. Shannon approaches her work from the lens of a therapist and as a fellow survivor of psychological abuse.

Links & Notes

Mar 22, 2018
103: It's All About YOU!
29:14

Go ahead and say it out loud right now: “It’s all about me!” My clients have a lot of trouble saying it, as if it gets stuck in their throats. But being able to say that it’s all about you isn’t selfish, it’s ownership! It’s your charge that you are taking responsibility for your own emotions, feelings, desires. You’re going to look after yourself first, and thus open the door to being able to be an even better, whole support for those closest to you! All that and more on this week’s show!

This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Edgar Cayce on Mastering Your Spiritual Growth by Kevin J. Todeschi!

Plus, listen all the way through to the end this week. Remember Pete Wright? Producer of this very show? Well, he has a new podcast and he’s released a trailer that I’ve included at the end of the show this week. It’s called “What’s that Smell: A sometimes-funny podcast about humans and their anxieties.” I know so many people that feel such shame about their own anxieties and Pete and his partner are doing a wonderful job sharing the things that cause them anxiety and modeling how we can all be better about laughing together as we own our own stuff! I’ve listened to the first few episodes and they range from off-the-wall to downright sensitive. Give it a shot! Find it in iTunes here, or their website at RashPixel.FM.

Mar 15, 2018
102: Love Addiction-Love Avoidant with Karen Gelstein
47:45

Karen Gelstein is another of my favorite people. She’s a therapist based out of New York City and when you hear what she has to say on love addiction, love avoidance, narcissism in the show this week you’re definitely going to want to learn more about her work. We’re of the same mind, and I think you’ll find in this show that her perspectives absolutely cement the critical importance of inner child work in healing from this emotional space. It’s terrific!

Links & Notes

This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Healing Your Attachment Wounds by Dianne Poole Heller!

Mar 08, 2018
101: Soothing Cannot be Outsourced
46:46

This week on the show I'm thrilled to welcome one of my precious clients and author of one of my very favorite quotes on healing, “soothing cannot be outsourced.” Susan introduces us to her journey of discovery in the Adult Chair which encompasses so many of the elements of struggle that so many face: loss of family, grief, reconciliation, all milestones on a path to discovery and love of self. Thank you so much to Susan for her willingness to join me for this conversation and sharing her own journey!

Links & Notes

This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: The Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in Life by Baptist de Pape.

Mar 01, 2018
100: Self-Love!
31:24

What an amazing milestone! Never in a million years would I have imagined the love and grace I've discovered in the audience of this podcast. Thank you so much for everything you've done to make the journey to episode 100 so special. And now, let's get started on our journey to episode 200 with a conversation on self-love!

I have ten tools you can use to drive your own journey to self-love, each part of a practice I use with my clients to help recenter and find joy inside themselves. I love each step on this journey and I believe you will, too. Remember: it's a practice! Be patient, and let's journey!

This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay!

Feb 22, 2018
Meditation 23: You Are Worthy
09:00

One of the most cherished, empowering, and attractive experiences in a relationship comes when both partners are strong in the belief of their own worthiness in the world. This meditation serves as a reminder of that strength and beauty: You Are Worthy.

Let us journey.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 22: Forgiveness
13:31

Carrying around feelings of blame, shame, anger, sadness, or apathy from un-forgiveness can be incredibly heavy on us. This forgiveness meditation will help you to gain a new perspective with the person or event that has made you feel stuck and unable to move on. During this meditation, we cut cords, relieving us of the heavy burden we have been carrying and let go of the energy of the pain. In the end, we find ourselves transformed, lighter, and ready to move on.

Let us journey.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 21: Setting Boundaries
17:07

Many of us grow up learning to please others, to give up our personal space to ensure others are ok before ourselves. We violate our personal space and drop our boundaries in order to not offend others, maybe we walk on eggshells, attempting to keep the peace, forgetting we are betraying ourselves in the process. This meditation is to teach others how we want to be treated. It’s a meditation that re-programs our misbeliefs about ourselves and helps us to learn how to improve our sense of self and how to set boundaries.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 20: Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords
08:09

Throughout our lives we experience relationship challenges, changes or even relationships that end. This is life. Often times we have a difficult time moving on or letting go when a relationship is in flux or ending. This meditation helps us to release the cords that bind us to the old dysfunctional ways and patterns in a relationship. This meditation helps you to cut and release the old dysfunctional cords that are tethering the two of you in the relationship, in order to allow the relationship to become what it needs to-perhaps a new stronger connection or a clean ending. Cutting cords does not end the relationship, it releases the dysfunctional cords that are binding you with someone so new healthy cords can form and connect you from a healthy place. 

 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 19: Setting Goals and Achieving Success
22:52

Reset your mind and body to the new frequency of you: a person of vision, accomplishment, success, and light. 

Let us journey.

This meditation helps to reprogram the mind with empowered thoughts that enable you to set goals and achieve success in life.

We often times feel stuck or may have negative self-talk around goal setting and success. Many of us lack the confidence or beliefs within ourselves that we can become successful. This meditation plants seeds of empowerment, confidence, worthiness, and self-love into the mind that will enable you to make true life changes and begin to see yourself in a new way.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 18: Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs
09:40

This meditation will reprogram the thoughts and beliefs we hold of ourselves that constrain us, those that prevent us from being who we are truly meant to be in the world. 

Let us journey.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 17: A guided meditation for clearing anxiety, stress and worry — for adults and teens
18:24

This is a meditation to release anxiety, stress and worry. Find a comfortable position, close your eyes, and allow yourself to relax and become fully present. 

Let us begin.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 16: Healing Codependency: A Guided Meditation
20:01

A healing inner child meditation for codependency, negative programming, and lack of self-love.

Let us journey.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 14: A Guided Meditation for Finding Your True Self
18:25

We spend a lot of time searching for who we are on the outside of us when the direction we need to go instead is on the inside. 

Let us travel.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 13: Cleansing the Overwhelm
14:41

This meditation is excellent for anyone feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stressed. In this meditation, we ground and cleanse to regain peace back in the present moment.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 12: A Cleansing Meditation for the Empath
11:59

To live as an empath means taking on the emotional and energetic burdens of the world around us. In this month's mediation, I offer you a cleansing and grounding journey, a meditation to center you and help you find peace in noise. It is also a meditation for cleansing chakras, and we'll walk through each in meditation today.  

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 11: A 5-Minute Self-Love Meditation with Michelle
06:07

This 5-minute meditation promotes relaxation, healing, and self- love. It’s a wonderful meditation for emotional healing and/or physical healing or for anyone seeking greater peace in their lives. 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 10: A 1-Minute Relaxation Meditation with Michelle
01:46

No time for meditation? No more excuses! This one minute meditation promotes relaxation, brings you back to balance and create a sense of peace. It’s a wonderful way to start your day and do during the day whenever you need to re-center and de-stress. 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 9: A 10-Minute Meditation for Creating Your Heart's Desire
10:38

This 10-minute guided meditation will take you through a seven-step process to increase your manifestation success. It is an easy to follow creation process that includes the key steps in creation, using energy centers of the body to bring the creation down through you and into your reality.   Many other manifestation strategies don’t work well, as they are missing key elements to bring forth your desired creation. This process has been tried and proven and works!  Let me know how you like it, would love to hear from you.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 8: A 10-Minute Meditation to relieve Stress, Overwhelm, and Anxiety
10:00

This 10-minute meditation will help you relieve stress and anxiety all year round. With a daily practice, you'll begin to find great inner strength from meditation — I hope you'll use this to begin to discover the emotional freedom that is possible!

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 7: Summer of Love
10:26
Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 6: Severing Old Patterns
08:32

Do you feel stuck? Do you continue to fall into the same dysfunctional patterns? This guided meditation helps to clear those patterns and make way for new empowering experiences. 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 5: Accessing our Inner Child
19:10

We use this meditation to find and access our Inner Child. This is the part of us that is the container for our true feelings, true needs and innocence. 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 4: Opening to Love
08:30

This is a guided heart opening meditation. It helps with opening our hearts to love from others and in loving ourselves.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 3: Inviting In Truth
09:28

Clears away old stories and limiting beliefs that are keeping us stuck and are in the way of living our most authentic lives. 

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 2: Purification Meditation
13:26

A guided meditation for purifying our selves and releasing old, disempowered thoughts, wounds and emotions (both unconscious and conscious) and uncovering our true selves.

Feb 16, 2018
Meditation 1: Grounding Meditation
11:41

A guided meditation for when we feel scattered, spacey, “not all here.” Grounding helps with focus, feeling present and awareness. It is beneficial to do this meditation daily. When we ground we are anchoring ourselves into the earth, which can be a very healing ritual on all levels.

Feb 16, 2018
099: Vulnerability
15:36

Most of us grew up thinking that vulnerability equals weakness. Let's get this straight right off the top: that is absolutely not true. This week on the podcast we’re going to pull that misconception apart and share some examples of vulnerability that you can use to frame how you approach becoming vulnerable as an act of courage, an act of embracing risk, and most importantly, and act of love!

Feb 13, 2018
098: Transforming Triggers!
29:46

Trouble staying in your Adult Chair when you're triggered? Me too! This week, I have a story all about my own triggering experience and I want to use it to demonstrate how to move through the chairs and release the power and energy that binds you in the trigger!

Feb 08, 2018
097: DriveTime Download: Healing Trauma
34:47

Trauma comes in many shapes and sizes. From single events to long-running experiences that take away our sense of safety and security. Even if it doesn’t involve physical harm, it can lead toward isolation, depression, severe anxiety, and overwhelm. This week on the show, Michelle is back with a DriveTime Download inspired by the conversation on The Adult Chair private Facebook group to reflect on the nature of trauma and steps we can take to move forward in our Adult Chair!

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Feb 01, 2018
096: DriveTime Download: Clearing Anxiety
23:56

Leaving work and feeling inspired — I have a new Drivetime Download for you! This week, I want to talk all about clearing anxiety. It’s a massive trigger for so many of us this time of year, coming through my clients and group members all struggling to numb out, to escape the experience of anxiety. This week I want to help you navigate the rough waters of anxiety leading to significant, long-term change in your life. It’s time to get off the treadmill of temporary soothing of pain, so hop in the car with me and let’s go!

Jan 25, 2018
095: Creating Personal Change from The Adult Chair
22:00

We’re in the middle of January right now and if you’re like most of us, you’re probably already giving up on some of your well-intentioned resolutions that you set on New Year’s Eve. That’s completely normal, even though it’s likely disappointing. This week on the show, I’m going to give you a whole new way to think about accomplishing your goals: Making Change from the Adult Chair. Through visualization, meditation, journaling and so much more, you’re going to find the intrinsic motivation that will drive you to set realistic goals and then meet them with clear mind, heart, and spirit!

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Jan 18, 2018
094: An Astrologer's View of New Year Transitions with Rachel Lang
34:47

Were you feeling unnaturally thankful that 2017 ended, that you were embarking on a new journey for 2018? You’re not alone, and today’s guest is going to tell us all why! Rachel Lang is an intuitive astrologer and healer, and a consultant for businesses, and she’s here to provide much needed perspective on a crazy year gone by, and guidance for the year to come!

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Jan 11, 2018
093: Drivetime Download: Grief
15:35

Michelle is in the car again, this time answering some community questions on how to handle grief, particularly during the holidays. What do you from the Adult Chair when you need someone to show up for you, and support you in your time of grief? What about from the other perspective? How do you show up for someone else experiencing grief or loss this holiday season? All that and more in our last episode before the new year!

Dec 21, 2017
092: Managing Holiday Gatherings from The Adult Chair
36:47

The holidays are upon is, and as a result more and more people are writing us to ask how you handle difficult family gatherings from the Adult Chair. So, we’re on it! This week we’re talking all about how you maintain your center, keep your calm, and don’t let strife dominate your holiday. You’ll be better equipped to define your own boundaries of what is and is not appropriate behavior. You’ll be able to assess the codependency that can so quickly invade your relationships. And we’ve got one sure-fire way to keep yourself at peace thanks to EFT!

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Dec 14, 2017
091: What do I do with my anger?
40:46

So many of us are afraid of our anger. We use language like, “don’t go there” or “stay calm”. We to push it down and shove it away and teach ourselves to hide from it, and hide it from others. In fact, this is the programming we get from others when we have anger. People close to us tell us to “chill out”, “calm down” or even “get over it”. The most insidious: sometimes we even hear “you are scaring me”. Of course, we don’t want to scare others, so we shove down this powerful emotion, and there it sits, simmering.

But anger is an emotion of change. If we learn to sit with our anger just as we sit with our other emotions, we can come to understand it, to learn from it, and maybe even to love it in time. This week on the show, we’re talking all about the anger that lives inside of all of us, and how we can live in harmony with it instead of fear!

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Dec 07, 2017
090: Stay Connected to Yourself and End Overwhelm at the Holidays
25:22

Simple proximity to the holidays on the calendar can be a trigger for many of us. We watch as the days tick by, feeling the pressure of the holidays creep up on us, and with them, social and family anxiety that can disconnect us from our true selves.

This week on the show, I want to share with you some of the tools and techniques that can help you stay strong and present during the turbulent holiday weeks. You deserve a restful and energizing break full of love and warmth — with the right tools, you can bring the same to those around you!

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Nov 30, 2017
089: Feeling Our Feelings with Ramona Reid
54:41

I’m back with my dear friend Ramona Reid on her radio show, Holistic Revolution Radio this week! Actually, this show was recorded last month, but we talked about all the things that are incredibly important for us to keep in mind over the Thanksgiving Holiday (here in the U.S.). So, in the whirlwind of craziness that comes with family and friends, this is a reminder to stay present, to free yourself from limiting beliefs, and to feel the feelings that are constraining you. Ramona asks some wonderful probing questions, and I’m confident this conversation is going to resonate with you!

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Nov 23, 2017
088: How to End Suffering
29:32

Suffering comes from the Adolescent Chair. That’s the part of us that creates stories to fill in the holes in our daily narrative, and that’s where we unintentionally find ourselves getting stuck with intrusive thoughts and spirals that lead us right to Suffering Island! This week, we’re talking all about how to get off the boat, and take control of our own stories by living in our Adult Chair’s fact and truth!

Nov 15, 2017
087: Take Responsibility and End the Victim Mentality
26:48

The victim is powerless. They feel sorry for themselves. They see the world as one of fault and innocence, black and white. They believe others are against them. We run into these people all the time, and may not see it at first, but these trigger phrases become clear. If you’re saying these things, you may be in the pattern yourself: it’s time to take responsibility, and end your journey into the victim mentality! This week on the show we talk about what you might be doing if you’re in the role of the victim and I’ve got some great strategies to help you lift yourself RIGHT OUT of it!

Nov 09, 2017
086: The Power of Gratitude
19:06

Over 30 years ago, we started hearing about positive psychology as a field of study in psychology. Gratitude, optimism, forgiveness, happiness, and compassion were studied in comparison to attention traditionally paid to so-called negative psychology including mental illness, stress, trauma, addiction, and so on. What they found was that positive psychology had powerful effects on our health and not only mental and emotional health. The research found positive connections to physical, emotional, and even spiritual health. Over the years, we’ve learned that gratitude is one of the most powerful traits of those living an emotionally healthy life. Today on the show we’re talking about the power of gratitude in your life and how you can build a daily practice of grace yourself!

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Nov 02, 2017
085: The Power and the Promise of Journaling
33:47

Never considered yourself much of a journaler? I get it. I’ve heard all the reasons, too. Not enough time. Not sure what to write. Can’t keep up with it. I did it once a while ago and didn’t see any results. The list goes on and on and on!

But for those who have managed to get over the hump, who have conquered the perils of the blank page, they know that the benefits of introspection through journaling are as deep as they are broad. You can heal yourself, build a relationship with your inner child through rich dialog, connect with your past and better understand your place in the world, all through a daily practice of conscientious meditation.

That’s why, in addition to our conversation about journaling on the podcast today, I’m thrilled to be hosting a month of conversations on journaling in The Adult Chair private Facebook group in our 30-Day Journaling Challenge! Join the group and sign up for the mailing list and I’ll send you daily prompts throughout November to keep your journaling practice inspired!

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Oct 26, 2017
084: Raising Self-Esteem
33:17

Many of us have a fragile relationship with our self-esteem. Even those who wear a brave face may be struggling inside, fighting negative self-talk and our history of lack of validation. Today, we’re talking about reprogramming, new language that can help you see yourself in a new light. This is a doorway you’ll open to connect to something bigger, deeper than yourself, and realign your relationship to your experiences as just that: experiences, and nothing more.

Since meditation is such a key component to this work, make sure to check out my guided meditation, Accessing Your Inner Child over on YouTube. Even better, download the Insight Timer on iOS or Android and follow me as I build out my library of meditations there. It’s become one of my very favorite apps and I’m thrilled that people are getting such great use out of my meditations — and those of all the other great teachers in their directory!

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Oct 19, 2017
083: Building True Connections from The Adult Chair
23:07

Ready for better relationships in your life? Perhaps you crave deeper connections, healthier relationships with better communication? In today’s show, I talk about how to do just that. Most of us weren’t taught how to have healthy relationships, but today we discuss how to change all of that and create healthy relationships from the Adult Chair.

Oct 12, 2017
082: DriveTime Download: Turbulent Times Equals Change is Coming
14:34

Does your life ever feel just plain turbulent? Your relationships are off center, you're questioning your most important decisions, you're full of anxiety and stress ... I know I do! That's why I have to talk to you today! I'm reflecting on two areas of turbulence in my own life — in my marriage, and my family — and I'm so excited about it because it gives me the chance to share how I count on The Adult Chair to bring calm skies, presence in my emotions, and the open door of change in the air ahead of me!

Oct 05, 2017
081: Katie Hendricks Brings Plain Talk on Relationships and Intimacy in The Adult Chair
38:15

We’re nearing the end of our series on relationships and for our next-to-last episode, we have one of our favorite people on the hook to answer some of your best and most personal questions about your long-term relationships, marriages, and the intimacy you are seeking within them! Katie Hendricks has been a pioneer in body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit and has traveled over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed together.

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Sep 28, 2017
080: DriveTime Download: How do I Feel My Emotions? A special for Facebook Members!
14:29

So many of us have no idea how to feel our emotions. For a variety of reasons, we are simply just not in touch with them, or even cut ourselves off from feeling them, (unless they are happy emotions.) There is great power in feeling our emotions and in this special DriveTime Download, I give you three easy tips on how to begin to feel your emotions and open up to a whole new world as a special response to our Facebook Private Group members and the rich discussion they’re having right now!

Of course, I hope this is useful to everyone! But, if you’d like a little more context, make sure to send us a request to join the group and get ready to dig in on your own Adult Chair journey!

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Sep 21, 2017
079: Raising Teens from Your Adult Chair with James Wellborn
37:42

We all want that one manual for parenting teens but where is it? What do we do when we find out our teen has been drinking, using drugs, or vaping? For parents, this can be triggering and scary! Our goal is to learn to parent from a healthy place, and that’s when we learn to parent from our Adult Chair. This means we stay present, we respond vs react, we set healthy boundaries and have honest (and sometimes tough) conversations with our kids to keep them safe through their teen years. In this conversation with Dr. James Wellborn, we gain some new and valuable tools on how to parent from a healthy place while our teens test, push boundaries, and experiment, from high school and into a healthy adulthood.

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Sep 14, 2017
078: Meditation, Mindfulness, and Peace with Buddhist Noah Levine
32:26

What does it mean to find happiness? Noah Levine tried to find it — with motorcycles and leather jackets and drugs and more — only to discover that the true path to happiness is on the inside. Since then, he’s become one of the foremost instructors of mindfulness and meditation from the Buddhist perspective thanks to his own journey of peace, and he’s with us today to share more.

This week’s episode kicks off a series of conversations on relationships with a focus on our inner relationship, the one we have with ourselves. It’s the most important relationship when we think about our work in the Adult Chair and Noah’s perspective is so powerful and informative for our own journey.

About Noah Levine

Noah Levine is a Buddhist teacher, author, counselor and recognized keynote speaker. He has studied with a variety of prominent Therevadan and Mahayanan Buddhist teachers and holds a masters degree in Integrative Counseling Psychology from CIIS. With over 25 years of experience in the addiction and recovery field, Noah has created a process of addiction recovery based on the teachings of the Buddha called Refuge Recovery. He is also the founder of Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society–with active centers in Los Angeles and San Francisco and more than 20 affiliated groups across North America. He is the author of “Dharma Punx”, “Against the Stream”, “Heart of the Revolution” and “Refuge Recovery.”

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Sep 07, 2017
077: DriveTime Download: What do you do with pain?
25:23

Once again, the car has shown itself to be a terrific vessel for inspiration! So many clients have been facing this central question that I found it a great time step back and share some guiding thoughts. When we experience a negative emotion, our instinct is to jump out of it, to move back to happiness and peace as quickly as possible. But we're not taught to do that authentically so we look for an escape. Today I have some thoughts on how to approach pain from the Adult Chair that I think will help!

Aug 31, 2017
077: Mindful Eating from The Adult Chair
30:11

We’re continuing our series on mindfulness and food this week with a conversation on Mindful Eating. What does it mean to eat mindfully? Which chair are we usually in when we eat? What happens to your body when you approach food from a place of mindfulness and gratitude? We’ve got some answers for you, and five key messages you can tell yourself to figure out how to get in better touch with your body, to listen to it, and begin making decisions that serve your overall physical and emotional health!

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Aug 24, 2017
075: Is Fasting in Your Future? IDM's Megan Ramos Answers your Ketosis and Fasting Questions!
55:43

When we live in our Adult Chair, we live in the healthiest version of ourselves. This is not just about living an emotionally healthy lifestyle, but also living in a strong physical body, too. In fact, our emotional health is directly affected by our physical health.

Megan Ramos serves as director for the Intensive Dietary Management program based in Scarborough, Ontario, Canada. She’s a clinical researcher herself with a focus on preventative medicine. After her own diabetes diagnosis, she became the program’s first guinea pig and is here to talk to us about her own experience, IDM’s work, and introduce some of these dietary strategies that can help your emotional regulation too.

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Aug 17, 2017
074: Start your Feng Shui Journey with Tisha Morris
36:45

Our guest today is Tisha Morris, founder of Earth Home and bestselling author on Feng Shui and the energy of our spaces. We wanted to have Tisha on the show to help us better understand the role of Feng Shui in